I am 45 years old, Never been MARRIED, no KIDS and no FRIENDS
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- In this video I discuss my personal life story as of today and compare it to what is the typical expectation of the modern day alpha male in our society.
62 here an no drama.learned to accept being alone.
Your parents alive?
48 here and being alone is so peaceful
@@hardcoreplayafromthehimala4888 nope
Im glad can you give me tips for living alone post divorce@@montrealcanada-hf2qc
@@daveschrade4477 in all that life fuzz, I'm missing not having kids somehow 🤔
I'm 40 with no wife, no kids and no problems.
@@robynreeeee Enjoy your box of wine and cats. 😂
@@boostjunkie27 enjoy your porn and marvel comics
@@boostjunkie27he’ll also enjoy his big bank account with traveling and going out without any consequences
good line! same for me at 46. Next time a co-worker/friend/relative ask me about a wife and kid(s), I'll respond the same. I'm ____ no wife, no kids, no problems. LOL
Sounds good to me
There's nothing wrong with you. Society has gone wrong. Hang in there and enjoy your life. You're far ahead of most.
I agree. Toxic society. More complicated, more stressful.
Glad I grew up in the 70s.
So true....
@@markheithorn3905 If I could go back to the 70-80's using a time machine, I would use a sledge hammer to destroy the machine, because I would never come back to today.
You got this. I remember a line from Harold &Maude. " Don't let the world judge you so much ".
56 no wife, no kids, no house.
Also no divorce, no drama, no mortgage, no debt. I have some friends whose lives have been ruined by wives and children and mortgages.
#BIGFACTS
THE pursuit of happiness seems to require that men become a slave to it.
@@user-ex2he1bz1l same here at 46. I would say half of the married men I come across typically tell me they'd rather switch places with me. Half!? Im sorry but that's too big of a risk for me to ever get married
@@djfingersfloresbig cope
How can children ruin anyone’s life? Man or woman?
50 here. No wife no friends. I thought I had a 2-3 friends for decades but I was greatly mistaken.
So true. People you think are true friends are not. It's time to find a few new ones. Difficult but not impossible.
Your only friend is the dollar at the bottom of your pocket.
Being burned by people who you thought were friends really makes one guarded (and lonely) about forming new friendships.
Since it was 2-3 and not one , you must have asked them for money, an unsecured loan to be exact. It’s pretty low to treat your decades-long friendships as a free credit card or something. If you haven’t learned how to deal with your finances you should have asked for someone else to force a budget upon you.
@@ironrye4317 you have zero concept of just how far off the mark you are. In fact I broke out laughing at your comment. It is so inaccurate and ignorant that it's mind blowing. Thanks for the laugh.
The new American dream. Survival and loneliness.
So true!
Spot on reply!
It's not only in America,
That’s the Australian reality too . Nobody gives two hoots of your even here
69yr. I'm there🤷
43 , huge house , an amazing sporty car , no marriage ( missed one 10 years ago , caught her cheating , dismessed instantly ) ,
no kids , no debts , doing a job that i like 5 mins from home and i'm a pro.
Feeling GREAT , so proud of myself and my decisions :)
Except huge home..
51 years old here. No kids, never been married and I refuse to scrape from the bottom of the barrel just to say I have a woman in my life. I don’t live the life of a monk but I don’t have a steady girlfriend either. These days I get a happy ending massage a couple times a month and just pay at the hole as I go. Things could be worse, I think about the guys that I know that come home to a 300lbs land whale that is always threatening him with divorce and child support
@andylyons9986 That`s pretty savage, 300 lb land whale! 300 lbs LESS dragging your ass down!😆
Bro tell your friend that his wife need to be of calories deficit
That's funny. "pay at the hole" You definitely have a way with words
Drain cash for the hole
I’m 64 and you are definitely not alone in your situation.
Thank you for sharing! I am 46 years old going on 47 this coming December. Never been married and no kids as well. Never owned a home and probably never will (at least here in California). Same thing with friends, I dont have very many as most of them have moved on to be with their own families. At times I used to feel embarrassed when people would assume I have a wife and family only to tell them that I have neither. Now these days, it's something I'm actually proud of because as we are seeing in today's world, marriages and families don't often work out. Keep doing you bro!
You’re welcome brother. Thank you for sharing your life story.
Same here, but 47 in September
It's the same for my 42 year old son and we are in Australia. Times have changed which is so sad.
@@therealjv7women only ha e one use look after number 1
Just because many situations don't continue for ever doesn't take away from the memories and experience. :) Enjoy life :)
The “normal” life is overrated. Enjoy your freedom and love yourself.
Love someone else before self. If not you are just selfish.
50 and was married. She surprised divorced me. Treated me like a used tampon. You're doing fine my friend.
were there any clues? was the relationship rocky or did it feel like things were going ok?
Let me guess, she suddenly "wasn't happy?"
Treated like a used tampon 😂😂 never heard of that before
@@Canadian_Eh_I I thought things were fine. I was literally talking about family summertime vacation options before "she sat me down on the sofa" for the talk. Come to find out, she selected a lawyer 5 months before. I was literally the last one to find out. In retrospect, a woman has to have pure burning desire for you. Otherwise you're just a "walking wallet" to fund their lifestyle. There was no sense of loyalty, not even a tear in her eye. Pure evil, wrapped in cute packaging.
@@fablife1093 There is no such thing as a woman that has a burning desire for "you". They have the object constancy of 3 year old no matter how old they get. They love things, not people to their root.
Im 43 same deal. But i feel content and at peace ... Im not worried about the world anymore
I'm 58, never been married no kids no friends. Been alone all my life and content now. All things are Temporal. Nothing for ever no matter who you have or what you got. They are all temporary enjoyment.
43 here and same. Content and peaceful. Got 2 good buddies but no wife or kids.
I'm envious
@@alonzolong5513 I'm 57, never married, no kids. I can deal with being single, but it's not the way I'd rather live.
@@alonzolong5513a few years younger than you. Same boat as far as no kids or spouse.
Wish I had figured out chicks didn’t and don’t dig 20 years before I did. I think I’d be a lot further on than I am now.
I am 45 as well, divorced, no kids, no close friends, family members all dead.
I feel with you Friend.
God bless
I'm in a similar position, just my mum and brother left, both not in the best health. I get quite a bit of anxiety when I think about when they go.
I can only imagine it's tough 😬
You’re not missing out dude. Be happy you’ve not been cursed with a dream killer
If you had a wife and you wouldn't have lost the house, there would have been a 75% chance she would've divorced you and taken the house with her 😂
85% is the real rate 😊
@@tonydiesel3444 true did u have a house
Ain’t that the truth 😂
@@patrickprendergast9589 I am divorce proof I will never get married I have rental properties I don't deal with the 304s
And the Kids...all gone
A solitary life means you're walking a spiritual path, whether you realize it or not. We are in very dark times and it's simply not congruent with the traditional wife/kids lifestyle, which requires peace and abundance. Many of us "real ones" sense this on a deeper intuitive level, and we consciously or subconsciously rejected that lifestyle because it's a distraction from our true purpose. "Know thyself."
Beautifully stated!
great comment
Jesus is the way.
Very glad you said this. Times are changing. We are not an agrarian tribal society where human numbers count, where we needed children to bear the legacy of our land and our short lives. We live long, solitary lives in civilization. Children are not a survival mechanism now
Nice!!
im 48 , never married man , no kids, no real freinds, sometimes i feel like im missing something but mostly i feel good and this is my life , i like exploring small towns on foot , im a fly on the wall
Im female, no husband, no kids, homeowner, no bills, faithful, loving. I dont leave my home much so unless a guy falls on/ in my living room floor this will continue. I can see why you guys feel the ladies will take everything but I never did. Lifes harder but I have my integrity.
Can we date
Are you a cat owner? 😂
You could try going out more. If you are faithful, you could go to church, help the community, practise a dance in a dancing school, practise jiu-jitsu etc
Cat owners dont like male dogs. Back off. @@paulconway384
You sound a bit like me. Got tired of being an ATM and had to quit the family. Integrity is key to being happy.
Comparison is the root of unhappiness. Count your blessings. Keep rolling solo. You'll thank yourself in the long run.
You dodged a bullet. I say that with all sincerity.
These days. Yes 🤣
35 here. No wife or girlfriend, no kids, and only a couple of friends who I don’t see as much as I would like to. Don’t own my own place, and due to having reached this age never having done so, most likely never will.
I didn't own my home until I was 41.
@@SoCal9705 thanks
You can take action now
With that kind of attitude you won’t get your own place. Thoughts and words are powerful. Never forget that.
46 is a very difficult age but it ain’t over till it’s over !
Age 55 my young partner dumped me took my son 7 hours drive away. I lost my house all the money. I ended up living the last 5 years on the side of the road in a van.
The best years of my life !
She still tries every trick to disrespect me !!
Me and my son joined the BMX lads and we have a great time.
I work as a cleaner on the trains it’s the best job I ever had !
Do you clean trains on the 3rd shift only?
a great time because you felt freedom
Don't be so hard on yourself. Your doing pretty good.
That's right! Don't "should" on yourself. 🙂
That's right, a lot of lonely people are together on this.
I’m 20 yrs older. Never married, no friends, and no kids. Makes a lonely existence. Planning to retire next yr, but discovered I have cancer. Been out of work since April do to surgery, complications, and treatments.
Prayed for you, stay strong.
God bless
20?
I am lonely too but just defeated cancer after two years of fighting it and defeating it feels good. You will feel the same after defeating it. Best of wishes to you.
Be strong. God bless you
I'll pray for you. God bless and be strong.
Bro, don’t beat yourself over it. It’s not what it’s cracked up to be. I was married for 24 years but no more. I never thought I would be this happy after divorce. Peace of mind, cleanliness, organization, saving and investing money, peace and quiet, get to do whatever, whenever and whomever I want. I will soon be 49 and am thankful, grateful and content. I do have a 16 yo daughter and 20 yo son. We do have an awesome relationship. Stay strong and focus on yourself. The hardest part is behind you. You’ve learned how to be by yourself. Love yourself and make sure you have inner joy and peace. The rest is easy. One last thing, never, never, never, put another person above you, NEVER!! You should alway come first. The only thing another human being can do is enhance your life. God bless amigo.
God bless you too 🙏
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Glad I have no marriage, no kids, but also a few rare gem close friends.
me 2
@@patrickprendergast9589me 3 lol😅😊
@@SparkyMcGee Marriage and kids brings headache and risk.
You're not the only one in this situation, I'm 50 years old, never been married, no kids, no friends, no dets and alone.
I am 70 years old, never married, no kids, not a homeowner. As anyone aging and not following the so called "traditional" paths (marriage, children, family life, some dedicated career, etc) will discover, everyone has a different life path and sometimes no control over the circumstances that influence our life choices. Everyone does have one important choice, though - how you choose to perceive your life and how adaptable you're willing to be. I think it's so much easier now to be, and live however you want to and be joyful over it. Life does get richer in meaning and acceptance as you age. It's beautiful. Many blessings of love and peace to you.
I’m 55 yo male, no kids, never been married. No friends at this stage. I still hold out hope because I am generally healthy, decent sense of humor. However, am not actively pursuing it, nor am I interested in casual dating . Simply, I believe in miracles. I was radically born again in 2006. My faith in God is my rest, my refuge from the world and its corruption. Most ppl are so worldly and striving for position. Yet I hold out for someone who is sold out to the Lord and operates in the supernatural of God.
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When the time is right, The Lord will present your soulmate
@ 55 no woman would want a NM guy.
Same age and situation as you, but I tried the Christian thing, couldn't maintain belief in such a thing.
@@Piwork69 I reject the 'god' of the old testament, I'd like to think Jesus tried to make amends for such a tyrant of a 'god'.
If I believe in any God, it won't be through any kind of organised religion, or a 'book'.
I do believe in the spirit world, I have ACTUAL experience with that. But as far as Yahweh goes, he was just another local deity, or Elohim (aliens).
Im 64 never married and have no kids and am very happy, have more money than I know what to do with.No nagging wife no annoying bratty kids.
That’s great to hear you have money and freedom on your side.
this is more and more the norm. You're not the only one by a long shot. Feminism , modern women and the current culture have created this situation...
And you'll die alone too so there's positives and negatives to everything.
Who are you trying to convince, yourself?
Weird old bitter bachelors have been prevalent through history.
Stay in your lane and don’t make comparisons to others. Life is what you make of it. Cherish each day you are above ground and stay positive.
Just reading the description, you are winning at life, and I'm not joking!
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. You are not alone. Many people our age are in a similar situation
Heck, I'm 81...never married...no kids...had a few friends...but most just drifted away during the pandemic years...two were longtime buddies...reached out...no call backs...gone, gone, gone! Thanks to my late parents I have a nice home, free and clear. Have savings set aside for emergency purposes. Live on a fixed income...live from day to day. Lower middle class. Seems many of the women I met in the younger years, had a lot of "baggage issues". I saw so many divorces...glad I was not one!
God bless you on your longevity
@@therealjv7 You look a very young 45...my "secrets": keep a young outlook, take care of the "carcass"...in my case, never smoked, don't drink, watch the diet, have a lot of interests, stay clear of drugs...and those "baggage ladies"!! You look like your well on the path to 81! I do, at times feel my age, but don't dwell on it. I see, on youtube, a number of younger people who are like us! I never wanted children either!
@@larryboysen5911did people judge you for not being married and not having kids? Im in my early 30s and people at work are already asking questions
My parents are 84 .... going on 27. I've been living with them for the past year while I look for a new house and it's almost depressing that they have a more active social life than their children do. Mom and her gal-pals are straight out of "80s for Brady" and keep their weekdays busy with "doing lunch", book club meetings, garden club, movie night and shopping trips in Manhattan. Dad and his little gang of altakockers -- "The dickheads" as Mom calls them -- meet up for bowling, golf, beer busts and trips into NY or Philadelphia for ball games. It's like watching octogenerian frat boys. Mom's bum hip keeps her from being more physically active, but Dad's still in amazing shape. He and I are avid walkers and still regularly shoot hoops in the driveway.
My divorced oldest brother and I are going to buy a house together to ride out the sunset. Dad says he's gonna miss having me around every day, but there's one thing he won't miss -- he falls asleep in his chair, and sometimes it doesn't look like he's breathing, like a corpse sitting there, so I poke him to see if he's still alive... and that quick jolt scares the crap out of him.
Mom and Dad met in 1957 and have been married since 1959. They still cuddle on the couch like teenagers and whisper in each other's ears. Dad still sends her flowers and Mom still gives him backrubs. It's not so adorable though when you walk into the house and see something that sends you googling for "Therapist near me." From that position they were in on the table, they could BOTH see my car pull up in the driveway. They could've at least locked the door. And in the years since they pulled the carpet out and put in wood flooring... you hear EVERYTHING. All night long sometimes. "Silent Generation" my ass...
Cheers 🍻
The new American Dream is to leave the country. Like George Carlin said, you have to be asleep to believe it!!
No worries! Many men are divorce, without a wife, paying child support to the woman who's trying to disrupt the relationship between me and my child. Stay single, save your money, look for hobbies and enjoy your life!
It amazes me how much faithful devout men get the shaft by the wife who strays from the marriage, yet is able to get the better end of the divorce settlement. smh
Why risk a divorce, lose your children, house, money, worried about your kids getting involved with drugs. It’s not worth it. Yet the government wants you to have children for the government could have workers. It’s not worth it. Stay single and travel to Thailand, Philippines, South America and enjoy your life. For me it’s too late, I’m married with one child and struggling but I thank God for all his blessings.
I feel you brother , 44 with a 3 year old girl . Last night I made the choice that my kids happiness should be above my own needs . I came back home a different men last night , emotionally separated myself from my wife . I will be in an act for we year till my baby can survive this crazy life with selfish people .
Look im 45 turning 46 on jan 9. I was partnered by 16, a mother by 17, married at 19. Bought first house at 21 and had 4 houses and 3 kids by 27. By 35 was divorced, had chronic illness, multiple kids with special needs, cared for my kids and folks. By 40 id lost my parents, lost all the houses, been in an abusive relationship, got into another abuisve relationship, ended up alone with no partner, grown kids living elsewhere, ptsd, chronic illness, no belongings or savings or home (literally homeless). Totally alone and too unwell to work or build relationships. There is no normal life trajectory.
I am 51 and in the same boat.
I’ll probably be found in my apartment by the maintenance man because I don’t have anyone who calls to check on me….
I share a similar consideration.
Or the postman...SAME here
If it's apartment then it will be most likely your bottom neigbor who will call police to check why there is smelly leak on ceiling. My stepfather cleaned such apartments, they had nobody to check on them and nobody to inherit their stuff so it all went to dump but apartments are taken by company who do maintenance, easy money.
Facts
You guys falling into this category, really should start planning your endgame now. Leave your estate to the state, & a random lawyer, better than becoming some unthankful woman's retirement plan.
Stats are roughly: Marriages end in divorce 54% of the time, initiated by women 78% of the time of which if there are kids she gets custody 90%+ of the time and you get relegated to "visitor" of your own children while any Tom, Dick or Harry she decides to see gets to interact with YOUR children anytime they/she want. But you do get to pay exorbitant child support and, if she was not gainfully employed when you met her she often can take you to the cleaners for alimony. Also you usually lose a vast amount of your property but you get to sleep at the local Motel 6. The unjust court system hates men. So, young fella, you don't have it as bad as you might think. And there are not as many good women out there anymore in this modern era due to feminist ideology. Young men are waking up and listening to their predecessors, fortunately.
If you have a job, roof over your head and maintain your finances soundly like it appears you do, you are doing ok. Dating women is fine but marriage is a bad contract.
nailed it! My college-age daughter lives with the step-dad, who is the one my ex cheated with and ended our marriage. I see my son 50% of the time, but I can feel how brittle the relationship is with my kids, and how my influence as the Dad is slipping away. I'm a church-going faithful believer, but she cheated and I get to pay child support while the other dude now has more influence on my kids, and in a negative way. My daughter and ex rejected their faith, so now my daughter has a much more bleak outlook on life and her beliefs are almost polar opposite of mine. It really sucks to see your family slip away from you due to your ex's infidelity and the biased court system.
@@thundersnow93 - I feel you, brother. The hell I went through 20 years ago was unfathomable and gut wrenching. The courts believe literally anything a woman says. Nature did not intend for men to bring children into this world and have them stolen from them. Parental alienation syndrome is a very real thing. We're living in the most f'd up times in our nation's history in almost all demographics and categories. I don't hate women but they often get drunk on power that the courts give them. Although they get almost everything in a divorce they will still complain about being a "single mother raising my kids alone" - which usually is merely voluntary on their part. God bless you and I'll pray for you, your kids and your situation.
Based 💯
I am 43. Married, kids, paid off my house. Bought off couple of properties as "nest" egg. And believe me, I am also lonely. The kids/family sometimes keep me occupied. But if I get 5 mins to myself, I feel lonely. No friends ofcourse, all them went their ways. But yes, I think everyone is lonely.
That's part of the reason we are lonely, a lot of our friends became 'you', and we could no longer relate our lifestyle with yours. As we age we catagorise ourselves.
Thats also an interesting story. DO you think you're lonely because your family demands 100% of your time and yet you cant relate to them?
you look healthy and come across as lucid, coherent and normal. Hang in there. You will be fine
btw. friendship tends to be over-rated.
I’m 54 years old, married, 4 kids and no friends.
At least you have the wife and kids.
@@yossarian6799 I used to have fiends in HS, many. What happened in 40 years? ? I can’t buy real friends now.
Friends are overated,most are fake unless you serve a purpose...
A great song of mine is called. Friends are evil. Think about it 😂
@@dang75790 Not all friends are friends fer sure!
I'm 50 with no friends,no family (they are all dead.)My ex-wife moved out last year into another man's home she met online while still with me .She took all my savings,my car and any valuables in my house while I was at work. Didn't see it coming or did anything to deserve it Now she's coming after my house .I got let go from my job 6 months ago and it's been impossible to find another.Will most likely lose my house as there are many people that want to take it from me wife,debt collectors ...Im lucky to have a pack of ramen to eat for my one meal for the day. I don't have money to afford a lawyer I'm screwed in a cold dark existence .Welcome to America but I guess this whole world is bad
Ill pray for you
Thank God that the harpy left and do not Let the WH@R3 take the house, and after that just come to México, here I pay 60 dollars for a room and I live with $200 a month on a $500 salary, in 1995 my venomous che@ting WH@R3 of a wife was che@ting on me and took my house,kids,cars and wanted ch supports, all this happened in Texas so I just left to México and never gave one single dollar to the Goddamm WH@R3.
Heard this story multiple times from many guys. Its why you never get involved with these horrible specimens known as modern women.
@@petrosaguilar8916"These horrible spécimens know as modern women".This is bad but i couldn't help bursting out laughing😅
No the world I live in Greece is not like that.
I hear you brother, I am turning 41 this year - same situation. No kids, no wife, friends all moved on by having a family of their own. It does seem like there are a lot of us out there. Stay strong!
I am 64 years old never been married no kids or friends, so you are not the only man in this situation. There are many reasons for this for each man or woman too. For me it was never my number one priority to get married or have kids they are expensive to raise especially today and most women are picky and materialistic greedy and untrustworthy. That is my experience when I dated in my 20s, I now live on only a fixed income social security disability due to health issues. Life is difficult but I live only day by day and do not look forward to or care about any future. I am just glad I woke up this morning to live another day. I am done with the fast-paced stress of American life and I just want to live in peace and be left alone. Nothing wrong with being single you will be ok live your life do what you like with what you have.
Amen!
Regret not getting married. Had a girlfriend in my late 20’s, who I loved. Let her go, no other girl ever came close to my feelings for her.
Dude, it's a very big world out there with plenty of different ladies. If you found one that blew you away, there are thousands more that beat that elation 10-fold.
What happened? If you loved your girlfriend so much, then why did you leave her?
@@randymillhouse791This mentality is why these guys end up older, single, and on the internet making videos about being old and lonely. Thinking that there is always someone better is what keeps these guys single for life.
@@karenmassey8354 Listen to what he said and rewrite your semester paper.
@@karenmassey8354 Not really. You are projecting women behaviour on men. There's sth called FEMALE hypergamy. Most men who end up alone are the rejected, introverted, austistic, players, etc but MOST OF THEM ended up alone mainly due to LACK OF REAL CONNECTION WITH WOMEN. It's no brainer that American women are hard to love.
Im 37 single no kids, and have spent the last 4 years just traveling around the country. I can take off and do travel work if I need more money. I can go do whatever I choose with my own time. This is preferable to a bad relationship. I say take ALL the time you need to find a new partner and date slowly.
54 here,never married,no wife,no kids,no friends,no money,had one heart attack and a cancer...but feel always young,fit and fresh than never,and always ready!
Hey Big handsome IM now 66 when I was 45 I had not much saved...maybe 10k to my name. I've always been a loner no friends, but have had a few relationships. I'm now just retired at 66 get social security and had saved 500k and also paid off my house. I made a ton of money being in sales the last 10 years. I'd truly like to be your friend
Lol Grindr
@@ugiswrong grindr? wtf good luck
What type sales were you in and did you have experience in that industry?
Mid 40s is wild! No one prepared me for it. Thanks for this video. I'm in the same place in my life as well. It's great to know I'm not alone.
Embrace the life that God has chosen for you…
I'm 55 - no kids and barely any friends. I'm a man-child who never grew up and I hate it. I wish I had kids. I have a cousin that is 56 and is about to have his first child with a women in her late 30s (an "accident" that likely was not an accident.) I almost feel jealous - but the woman he is with will likely take him for a ride financially when it suits her.
I'm self-employed and barely make any money because I've pretty much given up trying - but I'm OK because I got a paid-for house when my dad died. I've made a lot of stupid, selfish mistakes in life because I never had to take responsibility for raising a family. Having a family and rising to meet that challenge is what makes you a man. There are so many men similar to me being formed right now it's going to really handicap our society. Don't be like me. Have a family. Make the sacrifice.
That sounds pretty sad. There was nothing wrong with not wanting to have a family. Not everybody is destined to have a family. There are men who are Eunichs. it’s not so much a sacrifice for a man if he is in love with a person he is with because it’s not just him. It’s the two of them working together.
I’m 60, never had a wife kids and renting an apartment I can barely afford!
Less mess and stress in your life! I had a network of friends but since I was single, I found I was only good for doing things for them. I got so tired of being used I cut everyone off and my life has been at peace! I’ve been in and out of Rocky relationships in my young life-now I’m knocking on 50, I’m so thankful for the peace and solitude in my life. As we get older, we don’t need as much as we thought we did at younger ages. Best way to get connected in these days is church, clubs (not bars-clubs as like hiking; biking clubs) that share your interest. If you want to build friendships, look into churches and gatherings that share ur interest. I am taking a break from all that since it wore me down.
when i was 16 both of my parents died... i never met anyone on my dad side family.. i met my mum dad / and step mum once when i was around 6... the rest of her ffamily died before i was 10... i was orphaned at 16... i was a only child.. i raised mself.. ioined the army when i gradated high school 83... i never married.. i dont have kids.. or siblings... i had a relationship the person wanted kids i dont and that ended and was 25 yrs ago and now at 59.. been single...
And how do you feel?
I think you should be proud of yourself.
I am a clinical psychotherapist and this is ok. Same here, 42, never married, no kids its only me and my calico cat.
I’m 51 and will be 52’in December. I have never been married and no children ( as far as I know lol ) I enjoy my singleness and will never give up the freedom that comes with it. Marriage and a family has never been of interest to me. I go where I want to, do what I want with whom or without. Consider yourself lucky. Your life is what you make it don’t feel pressured by society or others of what it should be. I made the decision to be a confirmed Bachelor back in my 20’s and I have never looked back. Good luck to you.
Same here brother!!!
well said! and same here!
Same here dude. 56 years old, divorced, no kids, no siblings, and both of my parents have passed on. I feel like a lone tree out in the middle of a field with nothing tangible around me. Trust me you are not alone. On the other hand, while it may seem like lip service, trust me when I say you are better off than you think because having not been married, you did not run the risk of going through a divorce like myself and so many other men who were financially ruined because the legal system is designed to favor women in Such situations. Losing half of not more of what you worked for and having to start over again in your 40s broke both financially and emotionally is not a place you would want to find yourself in as so many like myself did. Toxic feminism has RUINED modern women and you are much better off being where you are at this point in your life as depressing as that might sound. The alternative is far worse. Trust me…I speak for MILLIONS of other men
@@GenXforever1225 funny you say that. Im 46 and same kind of deal as JV but I never owned a home like he did. When I meet men around my age that are married with families or have been divorced they tell me "you're better off that way man. Do yourself a favor and stay that way because you wont have the freedom you have now if you get involved". It's actually been working out great. And, when I date, it's usually women their mid to late 20s or early 30s without the drama/baggage. It aint all that bad 😁
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So true, check my comment.
Yeah I feel everything you said brother. My divorce sent me into an emotional and financial tailspin. She's the one that committed adultery and I still got screwed because of no fault divorces. Domestic relations could give two shits about moral obligations. Never had kids with her, thank God. I had some upward mobility with my job in terms of pay and that saved me in alot of ways because I did rebound after 2 years of her dragging the divorce out. The divorce and dating scene afterwards left a bad taste in my mouth. I finally got into a good relationship but it took forever to find that woman. Relationships are very complicated and you have to gaurd yourself so much or you'll get screwed so bad. I learned my lesson.
@@DI5868 same here man. Mine screwed some kid almost half her age, got pregnant, and I had to pay her fucking obstetrician visits till our divorce was final bc I’m in a no fault state also that won’t let you drop someone off your insurance till the judge signs the papers. It was an insult every week to see that money deducted from my check for her infidelity. Never again
Keep your chin up brother. Keep working towards your goals
You're not alone. By not marrying or having children you have sidestepped many problems. Do you have any hobbies? You might want to think about joining some clubs where you will meet like-minded friends. Dogs are wonderful companions. They won't argue with you or nag you or divorce you or take half your stuff. You have a much brighter future than you realize. Please do not give up on yourself. 👍🏼💯
No. Having a spouse and a family can be a blessing. No marriage is perfect and without problems. That's to be expected. Life in general is not always peaches and cream, and whenever problems arise, we'll have to work through it.
@@slimdude2011 👍🏼... Different strokes for different folks...
@@slimdude2011 God bless you.
Nothing wrong with not having children
I disgaree.
@@MeadeFatLoss do u have 10 kids good for u
God doesn't bless everyone with kids, some people never get the gift of children no matter how hard they try and want them.@@MeadeFatLoss
@@Dutchman-k5e if u don't want children then don't have sex. However having children is the only true accomplishment that matters.
Not when you get into your 70's 🤣
As an introvert married with kids to an extrovert; The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Oh geeze, you just want peace and quiet.
Lol being married has made me realize how much of a selective introvert I can be 😂😂😂
Welcome to the club.
Luckily, my wife understands my need for solitude and I sometimes pretend to be an extrovert...
Statistically, you likely won't be married much longer.
I will be. Idk about the original poster though. I love my husband he’s been my rock. I just like quiet time occasionally.
I’m 36, so far no married, no kids, no home, no debts. I live renting an apartment in Vancouver. I understand you and sometimes I might feel kind of frustrated but also I think about younger people I’ve seen with terminal calcer, in reality life is too short so lets enjoy everyday. Let’s thank God everyday!
Thanks for sharing and your honesty. Your life "alone" isn't pathetic UNLESS you don't want to be alone. I personally would rather be alone and am perfectly happy being alone. I believe thete are many out there that prefer to be alone. Good luck to you
Dude, your situation is not pathetic. It's quite authentic.
The grass is not greener on the other side. Trust me you’re better off, not being married and not having kids.
Focus on yourself. Make yourself stronger physically and emotionally. You’re happiness will come and you will attract people. You will make friends and you will date women.
At 53, I only have 2 friends and those I've had all the way since high school. I've not made any new true friends since I was about 18. Everyone is busy in their own world it seems and more self-absorbed. Things also changed so that people would rather just associate almost exclusively online, which I don't consider real friendship. Then there's the government and political propaganda constantly encouraging us to see everyone else who doesn't agree 100% with approved ideas as the enemy. Reaching out to a friend seems to have also become a sign of weakness or something. Nobody wants to ask for help or be seen as needing a friend to do an activity they would rather not do solo. I guess it's not just me, and our society doesn't understand the value of friendship anymore
Our country has made it to where having kids and a house is unaffordable and there are hardly any good women left. So I would say that by all measures your'e living your life well and are doing well brother
I'm a 46 single lady, never married and consider myself a good person. There are more of us than you might think.
@@jessc2064 why are you single, is it because men don't approach you?
@@frv6610 partly that and I don't meet many men.
I'm 60 never been married...never been on a date or joined a dating club. The women I meet on my own have so much baggage , and are half crazy. I always have been responsible with my bills and worked several jobs in my life. I just learned to do thing with myself but I do have a few single friends I might hang out with at times. They always say to be yourself .. I 'm myself , just work and help people out etc. i'm kind of shy to approach women and most are married anyway. I don't like drama.
This describes me perfectly ...a little more than half your age. Women do seem to be bring a lot of drama with so many past relationships/marriages & kids.
I wish I had a wife & kids, but the women I meet in life have too many issues. Spending, drinking, partying, lying, complaining about the smallest of things, but they will happily call themselves out for being a you know what....they literally will call themselves bad names. Just crazy to me.
All my goals based on being ready for a family if by some miracle I meet the right one.
Retirement fund
House
Medical fund
affordable lifestyle that I'm working toward < $10,000 to survive a yr but have a mid size home & yard. Presently around 15,000 annual expenses with 4-5x income.
This is nice to find this. just turned 57 and haven’t had a girlfriend in over 25 years. have no desire to marry let alone have children, even though I like kids. I think you just get used to a pattern. I’ve become more reserved the older I’m getting. I thank the Lord Jesus, he has kept me. There are such things as Eunichs and I’m content to be one.
@@patcola7335 The Biblical Jesus is the only way.
45, never married and no kids. But I still have friends and family. I wouldn't change a damn thing!!! I live on family property, which is in a lake community. Me and my brother built a "back up" home, which is over 2,000 square foot, half is garage. The idea was to always have a place if either of us got married, then divorced. But as women got worse, as I came to enjoy being completely debt free. My desire to marry and have kids lessened with each passing year. I could built a home on my own lot, on family property. But since I am the sole benefactor of my parents home, I just didn't want to crowd the property up too much. Being that I'm still very healthy, decent looking and look 10 years younger than my peers.. And 6'3"... If I get lonely, I will just go on dating apps for a while like I did earlier this year.
You are not as alone as you think. It is becoming more and more common for men and women especially the younger generation to be alone as they are aging. It is not bleak as you say , it is much more common than you think. You just need to find some friends both women and men . Maybe especially male friends to hang out with maybe do sports with so you wont be lonely. Also women friends because as you may not be a future father you may want a companion in old age maybe fall in love and get married sometimes men and women friends turn into more than friends. You should definetely have male friends who like you are alone and understand. It will help you build confidence in yourself , you are a bright and kind and handsome man you should not have any trouble finding friends. You do you bro. Good luck !
I am 72, never married, no kids so no expenses and drama and nagging. Own my own home, clear title, never had a mortgage and had a few previous houses to this one. Right now you have the freedom to go and do whatever you want without the responsibility and worry of supporting a family to hold you back. I understand how you feel about missing out on having a family because at your age i had those same feelings but we can not have it all and life is what it is. Keep your gòod health, that is very important. If you want a family , the world offers you that in many countries.
I'm a little older than you, but was a straight Mama's boy. I had GFs, but saw no reason to get married, since I never liked or wanted kids. Mom and I just stashed cash, so I have enough for what life I have remaining. We bought the house for cash. Mom died 10 months ago at 101, so for the first time I'm alone in life. It's not pleasant having nobody to care about or to care about me. But I still don't want to get married, and risk have her take it all from me.
@@elultimo102 i know how you feel. Some of us are more comfortable being alone. For me I have friends and family that I visit and I get involved in activities that involve other people.
Some people here in the comments are so beyond twisted. Jeez, evil is truly everywhere.
This man is so brave uploading this video. Most of us appreciate his honesty.
JV, I'm here routing for you ! 💛💛💛💛
All my friends I used to work with have retired and moved on or passed away.
I haven't replaced them with new ones at my workplace and I have no idea why.
I am in a LTR but no children no grandchildren.
Wifes health issues would lead me to believe I will eventually be a widower and probably alone for a long time in my super-senior years.
Not looking forward to it but I must "endure to the end."
Im 61. Be content with where your at in life. Be grateful, and thankful to God always. Im single, and its great.
Have you got any hobbies that you really enjoy? Anything you wanna do in life? I'm in a similar position as you. 44 y.o. Never married, no kids, live with my Dad & work as a Uber eats delivery driver (not a job anyone would consider a high class or career job) but I love to travel. And even though some people look down on me for my job (and they do) I love the freedom I have to work 3 - 4 months, Save as much money as possible & then take 1 - 2 months off and go travel. I'm not suggesting everyone has to travel. But being in your position gives you so much freedom to pursue things you love in life.
if people ask me what is the easiest thing in live, i tell them its staying alone forever lol
True! That’s why it’s looked down upon as fear and cowardice.
I am a 50 year old man, never married and no children. I have had 4 relationships with women in my life and have left all 4 to be free and alone again. I only feel stress and boredom in a relationship. I only discovered later in life that I am an introvert and I consider that a blessing.🙏
Everyone has their own path and choices. Life is not perfect and just have to embrace the good with the imperfections. If there is something you want, develop a plan and go for it.
I think you’re one of the bravest men I’ve watched on YT, to express yourself in this way. So many can relate to you and you’re not alone. I hope you find peace and happiness, god bless!
Thank you very much. Same to you.
life is great. No need for either. In that position and happy.
I am 55 years old, never married, no kids, no loans, no friends, no job, my family turned back. I have two houses and a motorbike, some savings, no depression. I do not live in the US. 🙂
MAN YOU A STRAIGHT WINNER
He a king but don't know it.😅
JV, I found myself in a similar situation and will share what I know. Any difficult situation in life is made near impossible if you do not like yourself. Alone and holding oneself in contempt is literal hell. When I was in the pit of despair two things happened that allowed me to leave the pit and not stay there permanently. One thing I realized was that I actually like myself. I have always tried and I care about things. It seems you do as well. These qualities are superpowers in a an apathetic world. They also deepen the sting of disappointments. Two...I had to acknowledge that at the worst parts of my depression and sadness...that those experiences I was experiencing may in fact be how I meet my end. I acknowledged the nightmare and it's reality. You have to know where you are if you are going to have any hope of guiding your future. Since you have reached the point of sharing such vulnerable information I believe you need this help. Never do this shit again. Your self esteem and your self worth is too valuable to leave to debate for anyone else. If you are lucky enough to live your imagined happy life and have experienced the pit of despair in my experience I hate to inform you but it becomes a part of you. I know certain types of pain that will always be with me and I try to use it to be a more empathetic person. I was once indisputably a broken man. Loving myself and heeding my opinion over any other person's gave me some power back. Whether other people like you or not is almost irrelevant compared to whether you like yourself. Try not to compare your life to any other person's. I would suggest trying something difficult that you always wanted to do and maybe surround yourself with people who have similar interests and that may lead to acquaintance and perhaps eventual relationship. I wish you well.
I am 29, never had a gf, no friends, no kid
What I really want is just inner growth and career success
I'm 45 also and the same applies to me.
I’m 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. It was the best decision I have ever made which I have zero regrets about. Not only can’t I afford children but I also can’t afford a life partner. It is a huge risk to take and it can turn against you.
As a single 45 year-old man without kids, you're better off not being tethered to a mortgage and all the responsibilities and expenses that come with homeownership. You are freer than the average male homeowner.
Um…you DEFINITELY SHOULD have your mortgage PAID OFF BY age 45!!!!!
Hey JV,
I'm 60 and also - no kids, never married.
I was able to develop a few long term friendships tho, and I'm very happy to have them.
I also like to travel alone, time with a good friend always go together with a hobby (music / motorcycles / cars / kayaking /camping ... you name it).
What I learned is, - life is not coming around, knocking at my door and asking me out for adventures.
As long as you have a job and get payed (I think so), that's just the basic important part, anything beside that is our own job.
This is the first video of your channel I discovered (recommanded on a Facebook channel). You just got a new sub.
Happy travels!
Hang in there. I hope things get better for you. Maybe you could go to the library and start reading books that interest you. I think there are free online books as well. Wishing you happiness.
Yeah I love going to public libraries. I spend a lot of time there scouring for books 📕
Hey brother i can relate. I am 48 i went to college. I was married at 40 but 3 years ago wife left, divorced, no kids, in debt, am a renter, i am alone, only one friend. Have litte to no saving to retire. I am with u travel when u can that is good for life. Do live in moment life is not just about being married or kids. Have experiences that make u happy. Also helping someone in need helps as well
You got married way too late. No wonder it failed.
You are truly blessed my friend. You are better off without a wife to work your ass off for only to leave and leave you penniless. Spend your money on you and enjoy life.
As a 39 year old who was married 2 years and divorced, trust me you're not missing anything. Don't feel bad about yourself. You do you. Be true to yourself and know that you don't need another person to complete yourself.
35 and in the same boat, my friend. Same boat. Sailing somewhere....
to the island of women
@@patrickprendergast9589 LMAO the Siren song is a lie
Not married, no kids or friends. You’re truly blessed my friend. In today’s world a family is not recommended unless you are financially stable . I don’t mean with a job…. Many American’s are suffering. Many seniors who worked all their lives , living in their cars or the streets, o able to pay rents ……. Food unaffordable etc… I feel for the future kids/grandchildren.
recently separated bro, I'm at peace.
40 year old male here. Single. Been in relationships all through my teens, 20's and 30's. Been single now since 38. I was always afraid of being alone and got anxious at the thought of it. Have to say, I have adjusted quite well. I have tons of hobbies, am successful, have two awesome dogs, tons of friends and close relationships with my parents and cousins. I know I will probably get into another relationship eventually but I am enjoying the status que for the time being. 90% of my male friends are constantly complaining about their girlfriends and marriages. There are no guarantees in life no matter which way you go. Married or single.