Hi everyone! I just wanted to thank you for watching. Just a reminder that I will only be able to respond to a few comments here and there as I am on my trip. I'm currently in Dubrovnik, Croatia at the moment and enjoying this much needed vacation. Thanks for your support! It means the world. ❤❤❤
This is perfect. It appears you and Mack will both learn that we don’t mind watching you clean and organize your own lives. Enjoy your much deserved vacation 😊
Bonnie I am so happy you and hubby decided to go on vacation. I think he may need it as much as you. I will be here, no matter what. Peace and love girl. ❤❤❤️❤️❤️
Yes. But no. Yes, it's truth in a lot of ways. And it's a good reminder for a lot of us, so thank you for sharing! But when you are a child, you're not in the position to give permission or not. Also in other situations. I think it depends on what we define as 'taking advantage of'.
I don't really like that way of framing things. You can't give your consent to something which is just sprung on you. There is a limit to what people can identify in themselves and others, and to the resources they have access to to address those instances. For this to be true, you have to assume that people have all of the means in the world available to them at all times. To me, it seems pretty cruel to think that way. Kind of victim-blamey. Sure, you can always learn from your circumstances and try to take back control on what's happening to you, and if it encourages you to think that way, great I guess. But I also think it's a pretty black-and-white statement, which is not really how you build a balanced outlook on life.
@@ApDiEr I realize that this is a simplistic way of looking at scenarios is one’s life. The purpose of the saying is to highlight the importance of setting limits to those around us.
Self care to me is anything that makes me feel better on that day. It can be me hoovering and cleaning the car. Cleaning windows. Fresh bedding. I never think of self care as necessarily being beauty treatments or luxuries. I guess we all have different ideas of what we need to keep our mind strong.❤
For video content, I would be happy to watch you clean your own house, no worries. I've watched Remi Clog and Mac clean their own houses many times. They usually don't talk about what they're cleaning, so you don't have to either. Just talk about whatever is on your mind. (But avoid American politics!) And you win the Dirty Water Dump 2024 award. Good job on that carpet clean! 😂 Hang in there kiddo, we're all rooting for you. Happy anniversary, hope you have a lovely time on your trip. ❤❤❤
I don’t know if anyone is familiar with The Minimal Mom’s channel but I love to watch her in her own home doing normal things like this. I would love more videos like this from you too!
This video came at the perfect time for me. I've been suffering from autistic burnout for quite some time and then yesterday my 8 year old cat suddenly went into cardiac arrest out of nowhere and died in my arms. My daughter and I cried all night and now I'm about to go on a long walk with the wagon to the animal clinic that has a cremation service. I was listening to your video as I got ready. Seeing how it's normal for a house to get dusty and untidy and hearing you talk about your dog and seeing how the paw print came out helped me a lot. Thank you.
I love how this was such a perfect example of us humans getting in our heads about our check lists and “shoulds” and how that is broken up by a pet just wondering in, being in the moment and helping us to do the same ❤
Everything you've acquired, beautiful home, swim spa, truck, etc., were all accumulated over time. Some of those times were more financially abundant than now. I get it! My husband has 17 shiny motorcycles. People think we must be rich - he's bought them 2nd hand & busted. He's taken the last 20 years to buy a part here & there at bargain prices, and refurbish them with his own 2 hands. People don't see that part. They just see the shiny bikes and think he bought them off the showroom floor. You have earned everything, and I hope you have a wonderful cruise with your husband! ❤
Great point! My husband runs his own tree business. We are by no means wealthy. His envious employees don't see the weekends doing quotes and fixing equipment instead of spending time with his family, or weren't around during the days he was still climbing, they don't know about the falls and the cuts and the busted knees he hobbles around on. One day he took one of them with him in the car for some reason, and this guy finally saw the other side of it, chasing the phone hubby calls it, the urgent demands. He even had a customer harassing him during his father's funeral. He never does anything nice for himself. They don't see any of that.
Great video, Bonnie! When you were showing the reality of your home in the beginning of this video, I was anticipating all the future videos you could record tackling each area. There's a several content creators i think we all watch who's primary focus is on their own home... remiclog, living with Cambria, feral tradwife, etc. Personally, I watch your content for YOU, the work you're doing is just a bonus. The icing on the cake. You sharing your reality is what I identify with. I often wish I'd had people like you in my life when I was younger and struggling through similar issues. I had far less self awareness and far more self pity parties thinking I was alone in my struggles. I think the best we can do is take one day at a time, fill our own cup, and don't sweat the small stuff. Because in the end, most of it is just that. Small stuff. Thanks for what you share with us. I'll always be grateful for it. ❤❤
Thanks for just being real with us, Bonnie! I was a caregiver (24/7) for 3-1/2 years and I learned that you can't take care of others if you don't take care of YOU first. P.S. I saw Quiddler. Fun game! Playing that is actually one of my favorite ways to relax.
Lovely video Bonnie for lots of reasons, not least of which is that it is very heartening to see that you have a normal home, not one that is always pristine! What fills my cup is crafting, but ironically it also causes me some stress as with crafting comes a lot of equipment and materials and lots and lots of little things! So I would love any organisation tips for keeping my craft space tidy and organised as my space also doubles as my home office on the days I work from home. I also love gardening but I have slowly changed the way I garden and gradually replaced the plants that needed a lot of water and tending with those that are more drought and weed tolerant like grasses and lavender, and after all, weeds are plants too and they flower and feed the insects! Enjoy your much needed and deserved cruise! ❤😘
Thank you for all of your feedback and suggestions. I was very hesitant to remove our perennials and plant annuals instead in our front yard when my husband suggested it, but he hasn't been wanting to change things up for a little while and, now that we have done that for one year, I feel like we were much better off doing the perennials so we don't have to tend to them so much and replant them every year. I think we just needed to pick a few different ones with more color. But, I agree, there are also some weeds that are actually very beautiful. Although I don't craft a lot anymore and don't have a lot of craft supplies, I always get requests from people to help them with their craft rooms, so I'm sure there will be lots of videos like that coming up. I would also love to finish helping Mira get hers more organized. The bulk of my time there was spent decluttering and getting things into categories, but we never really got to the actual organization and labeling and fun things like that.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Thank you Bonnie, yes I’ve been following Mira’s journey and love what you have done with her craft room. Look forward to seeing more craft room videos but only when you’re ready!! Rest, relax and enjoy Europe 😘❤️.
I have started asking myself this question: "Can I live without it", if the answer is "Yes", it gets thrown out or donated. I am done with too much stuff. Love your channel! Looking forward to journey through all of this.
Me too. Consumerism convinces is we need all these things. If times get tough, what are the first things to go? The stuff we didn't really need. Unpiling years of collector mindset takes so much work! We got this!!❤
It was so nice to see you again! I do miss your channel no matter what you are doing. Your own home, a pd cleaning, a free cleaning...it really doesn't matter as long as you show us. Have a wonderful cruise and hope you and your husband enjoy the relaxation!
I find that a lot of people mistake "prioritizing where you spend your money" for being rich. Folks also forget that an object - once acquired - is retained until disposed of, so having money to buy something nice once doesn't mean that you have the money to obtain/replace it now. You don't owe anyone a full explanation of your finances, but thank you for sharing and explaining things enough to help folks develop that sense of "more going on than you can see".
I'm still watching, but I wanted to share this idea before I forget it. I read a UK famous chef on twitter yesterday, she had spoken to a charity shop manager who said she wished families would declutter their kids toys before Christmas, rather than afterwards to accommodate new gift toys. Donate in advance because then people with not enough money can find nice toys for their kids Christmas presents. That struck me as such a good suggestion. So if you do plan to get rid of some of the toys and games you still have, ask your kids to pull out things they don't want and get them bought into the idea of donating them in November. But get them to do it! Not you Bonnie!!
Happy to watch ur vids for others or yourself Bonnie❤. Pls take whatever time u need for yourself & ur fam🥰. Love love love decluttering/reorganizing of all kinds!!
Life wears us done, so does masking autism. I will be sixty in 2 weeks . My life changing promise to myself is. “ I don’t care what people think of me and I don’t care about their expectations and judgements, I am done !” My 40’s was the toughest time in my life , so many life changing events . Burn out is a real thing . Always take care of yourself first . 🐨💗
I love the memorial stone you did for your beautiful dog. I think the personal touch like that is so much more perfect than a stone someone else has done. ❤
Thank you. I really needed to see this today. My house is filled with dead projects and my yard is a complete eyesore despite all the money and sweat I’ve thrown at it for years. It’s pretty overwhelming
I hear you! The struggle is real. Hopefully, as I tackle some of my dead projects and dead yard and make decisions on what is actually reasonable to finish or reasonable to maintain, we can learn some things together.😉
Love you Bonnie, you are so real and I absolutely love all your content. No need to respond, you and hubby enjoy your very well deserved vacation and refill that tank!
Yes, Heaven knows Colt has no boundaries! 😅😅😅 I hope you are hanging in there. I was so busy the two or three weeks before I left that I haven't even had time to catch up on everyone's channels that I follow, including your latest and it probably won't happen until I get back from my trip, so I hope you are doing well and I will check in with you when I get back. I think it's about time for another Mira video.😊💜💜💜
Just know you are human. A person can only do so much - you do so much for others. Just be yourself and that is all that matters. Enjoy your vacation. Audra
I'm 49 yrs old. My kids are 17 and 18. I've been simplifying my life for the past couple of years. I'm trying not to take on anything that needs to be "cared for"- inside/outside plants, pets, needy people, things that need to be dusted. I know that sounds harsh, but I've spent the first half of my life as a bedside nurse, animal rescuer, loving mom, and "I'll be there for you" friend. It's ok for me to have time to learn and do the things i want to do before i can't anymore ❤ I'm finally getting some quality time for myself. Boundaries!!
Omg, so many things to say! Please take care of yourself. And yes, being kind to yourself falls into that. I'm so glad you're resetting and taking time out to fill your cup 🧡 You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, and I hope you have a marvelous time on your anniversary cruise! And yes, like the others said, I am here for you organizing and cleaning your own home. Also, as a fellow empath, I would highly recommend the books "set boundaries, find peace" and "an empath's survival guide" Much love!
I recently had a really frustrating setback with my job search. There's an overgrown and half dead privet by my front steps that I've meaning to trim since I bought the house. So I directed my frustration into action and that shrub...uh, went away. 😅
I will watch whatever you do. Even when you are overwhelmed it shows us how you cope. I am particularly interested in how to overcome procrastination. Happy Aniversary. Enjoy your vacation! 🎉 ALL THE BEST TO YOU.
Thank you so much! I have added overcoming procrastination to my list of things to make videos about. I have a few things that work for me in that regard. Thank you for the suggestion!
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! ♥I am a mom who puts everyone before herself. I have to stop sometimes and force myself to do something for me. Then there is that guilt I feel. It's hard. It takes practice. Lately to fill my cup I have been taking a few minutes to give myself a mani/pedi. I also have been making "blessing bags" for people in my town who are struggling to feed their families. I just started a few weeks ago and every week I take a few "meals in a bag" with an uplifting note into our town where we have a little cabinet for anyone to take what they need. It's been great and it definitely fills my cup.❤
I love the "blessing bag" idea! It's so rewarding to help someone through a rough spot. It seems that kindness from complete strangers can mean the most sometimes because it gives people a little faith in humanity. Love it!
Bonnie I'm 65yrs old & u will learn this when u get old like me, but it's a word I finally learned to say, "NO"! I've learned to prioritize myself first. And, no it isn't selfish to take care of u. Sorry! When my psychy & home r at peace the rest of my life is at peace. I function with purpose. I'm sure ur much younger than I am, but it will come in time. I'm an Aquariun & we r acts of service/ save the world people. I realized I had to put my mask on first & everyone else's second. It upsets me that u have to explain ur situation of how ur able to travel etc it's nobody's business. Even if u explain the HATERS will still hate. Ur true followers don't need an explanation & the HATERS don't deserve ur explanation & time. Hope u have the most amazing Anniversary & recharge ur own battery...🙏
Everything you say is thoughtful & comes from a learning experience. We all go through this. What you say is quite helpful & thus you are still helping ppl. We all go through such times, and often more than once. I think it’s normal. But the way forward is to stop, look around, & be proactive. Well done!! Stay well & enjoy that cruise!
Being the primary carer of my elderly parents I need to remind to myself costantly that it isn't selfish of me to safeguard that one hour and a half I Need for my self in the day to go out for my power-walks. I'm there for them for almost the rest of the day and the night if it occurs. Walking keeps my head above water. I don't accept to feel selfish, occasionaly the good daughter voice tries to tell me otherwise but I do my absolute best to maintain those boundaries. As I learn to raise them, they will learn respect them and accept that I'm a different person with different needs and different wants. I love them and care for them willingly of course, but that doesn't need to mean it is my life or that I can't have one other than that. Had we been able to afford a carer it would have been a different story but the way the cost of living rose over the past year it's impossible. So any little extra money we can spare I alote it to my self-care. Because if I cramble we will all fall. Self-care Needs to come first.
You are very blessed to have this insight! I feel.likenI lost ME caring and doing for all others. Now I am.older, lost and alone 😢 in my mess. My life that I neglected. I need HELP!
@@NofoolinMercy if I learned one thing is that it's never too late to learn to care for ourselves. Whatever form that may have for you. For me it was walking. You will find that thing that feeds your soul too. When you do please hold on to it and safeguard it, even from the other voices in your head. I have faith, you deserve to find yourself. 🌹♥️
Great video, Bonnie! Love the commentary and tips on self preservation! I laughed when you said noone died when you didn’t decorate the front door, 🤣. I’m 69 and have a bit of a mobility issue so I have been slowly trying ways to give up things I used to love to do, but still find I’m disappointed in myself for not doing them. But you are right, no one will actually die if I stop doing them. Thanks for that! ❤️
Congratulations on your Anniversary it's wonderful 25 yrs. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate your open honesty. Hang in there friend, and do what you have to do.
Bonnie, you are fantastic. I was raised to believe that putting oneself first was a mortal sin. It took me a while to figure out that, that is a crock of shite. I'm happy you're getting it straight at a much younger age than I did. Love the dog, by the way.
Just remember that you and your family come first! Having a RUclips channel can be all consuming and drive you to distraction-lol! Enjoyed seeing you tackle some things at home! Incorporate that into your content and make life less stressful honey! You deserve it😘😘😘
Happy anniversary! Not an easy thing....🎉 I find picking one task per day, and accomplishing that one small task, keeps my home presentable, and also gives me a small win.
So many things. Love, don't feel guilty for having nice things. Even if the story was a rough road, you recognize the privilege. No guilt. We all put too much pressure on ourselves that our life should look like movies or magazines. Enjoy life, having a perfect house means nothing at the end of life. Enjoy your 25th celebration. That truly is worthy of a grand trip. It sounds amazing. Stay in the moment and make those memories. Tomorrow isn't promised. Lastly, the kind of housing you live in, those weren't made for craftsmanship like in the old days. Those were built purely for profit and they are thrown together so fast, they end up with all kinds of defects. When you are able I would have the electric checked. Better to be safe than sorry when it comes to electricity. Don't forget to breathe! Deep breaths, 3 things you're grateful for. Grounding. ❤
Just when I thought your videos couldn’t get any better, then you give us this very intimate look at your home life. This is great stuff Bonnie! Hope you can decompress with your hubby on your fun trip. Well deserved.
I think doing a home cleaning is great and could be part of your monthly videos. I have learned from experience that when you become more emotionally involved with clients that it can be emotionally draining on you. Setting limits and amount of time spent with each client is not always easy but sometimes better for mental health.
I thoroughly enjoyed this, Bonnie ❤. At first I thought it was a gardening video -- been subscribed since the beginning for the cleaning. You are so engaging that I decided to watch anyway and boy, am I glad I did!!! I'm taking a step back myself -- way too many people have been dependent on me. I gave myself away. Learning to be gracious with myself. Praying very hard and looking to God's Word to combat the anxieties
I can so relate to your life. My house is messy. 😂I also am juggling working on the yard which makes me feel good physically. Then our basement flooded. It will take a while to clean all that up. As I sorted, items got moved upstairs so it’s a mess. I tried to do some in each area each day. I laughed at your water the weed. My yard wouldn’t be green at all not for weeds. Then for some unknown reason, I decided to take a three month cooking course. I did not realize that I would be spending 2 to 3 hours a day on the assignments. Boy O boy was that insane! I have faith that we both will get there for with the vision we have for our home and yard. I love your yard and your home.❤
Oh so you are REAL, I love it! Paperwork! It's such a hassle to deal with. Hope you are enjoying your cruise, it sounds like a trip of a lifetime! Happy Anniversary!
Have fun on your trip. Don't forget the take pictures and video of the wonderful memories. Put those on a Electronic Photo Frame that can scroll through the photos so you don't need to photo album to clutter up the house. Cloud space to have for backup lol. Love ya Bonnie and be safe.
This video was so enjoyable and motivating for me! It got me out of my bed and cleaning up the laundry. Thank you! You a a blessing! I am also in therapy trying to learn self love!
It’s sad that in this economy we as women have to worry about how to help out with finances. One person working should be totally affordable. That way you could keep up with your house as well as take a little time a couple times a month and help someone else ❤
When I got my CDL and begin driving truck over-the-road in 1995, I experienced the very same thing; a new career making a great wage but little time for home projects. (Sometimes we just can’t have both).
Best wishes to you and your family. Enjoy your well earned rest and be as kind to yourself as you are to others. Bless you for your beautiful heart that tries so hard to help others .
So this was my first year attempting a garden! I didn’t buy the plants and bury them instead I bought seeds and put them in starters and transferred when they sprouted and they done ok. I don’t have an actual garden in my yard that’s in the ground I used big barrell like planters, raised garden bed with 6 sections, and then the rectangle planters. I planted cherry tomatoes, steak tomatoes, yellow small tomatoes, cucumber, green pepper, jalapeño pepper, and a bunch of herbs cilantro, dill, chives, basil, oregano and I think that’s it. Everything done ok giving a few items which I will say the little tomatoes was the easiest and was resilient to heat and care they received thank goodness and are still producing. I got the most from them and I would recommend anyone just starting out to definitely give these a try!! Anywho while I didn’t do great this summer trying to either have the time or to just remember to get out and water, feed, poke the soil to help it “breathe” and get air, lol check the plants condition like for plant sickness or little nuisances we don’t want and so on. I decided after feeling like a failure at first cause I was like ok well let’s hope having food never rely on me being able to grow a garden for food cause we would starve plain and simple lol however I said this is my first year and first attempt and it wasn’t that bad cause we got plenty of little tomatoes and a little of other and the tomatoes and herbs I grew myself saved more then it took me in cost of starting the garden so that’s good but I will try again next year and I will take what I learned and apply it next year. I didn’t know what would and wouldn’t work cause I hadn’t ever done it so I can’t be mad at myself about that. Each year I will take what worked and what didn’t and use the next year and with each year I’m learning and getting better so it may take me a few years but if I actually want it and like it I will put in the time and work to make it better and I will finally have a good sized garden producing enough produce for us to eat at least!! I actually had never been into anything gardening whether house plants or garden to grow produce but I found this year I enjoy it and it helps make me feel less depressed, less stressful, happy to begin and grow a plant into something that can produce food to feed my family which also can help in making anyone feel useful and needed!! Good luck on future garden endeavors!!! 😂😂
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Hi everyone! I just wanted to thank you for watching. Just a reminder that I will only be able to respond to a few comments here and there as I am on my trip. I'm currently in Dubrovnik, Croatia at the moment and enjoying this much needed vacation. Thanks for your support! It means the world. ❤❤❤
Wow, enjoy. I’m going to Quebec City next week, can’t wait.
My brother and his wife went to Croatia earlier this year for a big sailing trip. Hope you are having a great trip.
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Happy anniversary ❤
Sounds lovely, relax and enjoy yourself sweetheart.😊❤
I would love a series where you tackle each room of your house! This is real life ❤
Deal! I have added it to my list of videos to do. 😊
Happy Anniversary!❤❤❤
Ya, this is real reality TV.
I Love that idea too🥰
This is perfect. It appears you and Mack will both learn that we don’t mind watching you clean and organize your own lives. Enjoy your much deserved vacation 😊
I am so glad that your experiences on RUclips has not chased you away from here. I love seeing you be kind to yourself. You deserve joy and peace.
I burned out trying to be the perfect wife, mom, worker and sibling. I have learned that only me can put me first,
Self care is so important. Glad you are doing things for you.
Bonnie I am so happy you and hubby decided to go on vacation. I think he may need it as much as you. I will be here, no matter what. Peace and love girl. ❤❤❤️❤️❤️
Thank you, Rebecca. ❤️
Someone once told me… “Nobody can take advantage of you without your permission.’” It resonated deeply with me.
Wow that's so true 🙂
Yes. But no. Yes, it's truth in a lot of ways. And it's a good reminder for a lot of us, so thank you for sharing! But when you are a child, you're not in the position to give permission or not. Also in other situations. I think it depends on what we define as 'taking advantage of'.
I don't really like that way of framing things. You can't give your consent to something which is just sprung on you. There is a limit to what people can identify in themselves and others, and to the resources they have access to to address those instances.
For this to be true, you have to assume that people have all of the means in the world available to them at all times. To me, it seems pretty cruel to think that way. Kind of victim-blamey.
Sure, you can always learn from your circumstances and try to take back control on what's happening to you, and if it encourages you to think that way, great I guess. But I also think it's a pretty black-and-white statement, which is not really how you build a balanced outlook on life.
When Empathy is involved there's no warning to permit or not
@@ApDiEr I realize that this is a simplistic way of looking at scenarios is one’s life. The purpose of the saying is to highlight the importance of setting limits to those around us.
Take your time. I'll be here. ❤
Happy 25th Anniversary to you! I'd say, just film it all! I love decluttering videos, cleaning and organizing!
Thank you! ❤️
Happy 25 th! Enjoy your trip!!🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤ I fill my cup by watching you, Mack, Barbie and peeling away da clutter!😊😊😊
Aw, thank you, Kimberly. ❤️
Hope you have a fantastic cruise and happy anniversary to you both 🥂💖🎉
Self care to me is anything that makes me feel better on that day. It can be me hoovering and cleaning the car. Cleaning windows. Fresh bedding. I never think of self care as necessarily being beauty treatments or luxuries. I guess we all have different ideas of what we need to keep our mind strong.❤
For video content, I would be happy to watch you clean your own house, no worries. I've watched Remi Clog and Mac clean their own houses many times. They usually don't talk about what they're cleaning, so you don't have to either. Just talk about whatever is on your mind. (But avoid American politics!) And you win the Dirty Water Dump 2024 award. Good job on that carpet clean! 😂 Hang in there kiddo, we're all rooting for you. Happy anniversary, hope you have a lovely time on your trip. ❤❤❤
Seconding avoiding politics 😂 - I am so tired of politics!
Congratulations on yer Silver 25th Wedding Anniversary. Have a fantastic trip because ye certainly deserve it. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍💐🙏🦮
Thank you very much!
Enjoy your much deserved vacation and Happy 25th Anniversary!!
I don’t know if anyone is familiar with The Minimal Mom’s channel but I love to watch her in her own home doing normal things like this. I would love more videos like this from you too!
LOVE the minimal mom! Xx
Gardening is a wonderful way to stay healthy.
This video came at the perfect time for me. I've been suffering from autistic burnout for quite some time and then yesterday my 8 year old cat suddenly went into cardiac arrest out of nowhere and died in my arms. My daughter and I cried all night and now I'm about to go on a long walk with the wagon to the animal clinic that has a cremation service. I was listening to your video as I got ready. Seeing how it's normal for a house to get dusty and untidy and hearing you talk about your dog and seeing how the paw print came out helped me a lot. Thank you.
I'm so sorry 💜🙏🏻😭
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Oh no. I'm so sorry for the loss of your fur, baby. That is not easy. Take care.
So sorry to hear about your cat. 😢
I'm so sorry about your poor kitty. Sending best wishes to you and your family.
I hope you have a lovely vacation and anniversary.
I love how this was such a perfect example of us humans getting in our heads about our check lists and “shoulds” and how that is broken up by a pet just wondering in, being in the moment and helping us to do the same ❤
I'll be here with you, marbles or not 😊. Enjoy your cruise 🚢. You and your husband really deserve it 😘
😅👍 Thank you!
You ARE caring for others when you take care of your own house. Like the chickens and Laurie and your kids and hubby ❤
Everything you've acquired, beautiful home, swim spa, truck, etc., were all accumulated over time. Some of those times were more financially abundant than now. I get it! My husband has 17 shiny motorcycles. People think we must be rich - he's bought them 2nd hand & busted. He's taken the last 20 years to buy a part here & there at bargain prices, and refurbish them with his own 2 hands. People don't see that part. They just see the shiny bikes and think he bought them off the showroom floor. You have earned everything, and I hope you have a wonderful cruise with your husband! ❤
Great point! My husband runs his own tree business. We are by no means wealthy. His envious employees don't see the weekends doing quotes and fixing equipment instead of spending time with his family, or weren't around during the days he was still climbing, they don't know about the falls and the cuts and the busted knees he hobbles around on. One day he took one of them with him in the car for some reason, and this guy finally saw the other side of it, chasing the phone hubby calls it, the urgent demands. He even had a customer harassing him during his father's funeral. He never does anything nice for himself. They don't see any of that.
Exactly! Thank you for your poignant examples.😊
Great video, Bonnie! When you were showing the reality of your home in the beginning of this video, I was anticipating all the future videos you could record tackling each area. There's a several content creators i think we all watch who's primary focus is on their own home... remiclog, living with Cambria, feral tradwife, etc. Personally, I watch your content for YOU, the work you're doing is just a bonus. The icing on the cake. You sharing your reality is what I identify with. I often wish I'd had people like you in my life when I was younger and struggling through similar issues. I had far less self awareness and far more self pity parties thinking I was alone in my struggles. I think the best we can do is take one day at a time, fill our own cup, and don't sweat the small stuff. Because in the end, most of it is just that. Small stuff. Thanks for what you share with us. I'll always be grateful for it. ❤❤
Thanks for just being real with us, Bonnie! I was a caregiver (24/7) for 3-1/2 years and I learned that you can't take care of others if you don't take care of YOU first.
P.S. I saw Quiddler. Fun game! Playing that is actually one of my favorite ways to relax.
Lovely video Bonnie for lots of reasons, not least of which is that it is very heartening to see that you have a normal home, not one that is always pristine! What fills my cup is crafting, but ironically it also causes me some stress as with crafting comes a lot of equipment and materials and lots and lots of little things! So I would love any organisation tips for keeping my craft space tidy and organised as my space also doubles as my home office on the days I work from home. I also love gardening but I have slowly changed the way I garden and gradually replaced the plants that needed a lot of water and tending with those that are more drought and weed tolerant like grasses and lavender, and after all, weeds are plants too and they flower and feed the insects! Enjoy your much needed and deserved cruise! ❤😘
Thank you for all of your feedback and suggestions. I was very hesitant to remove our perennials and plant annuals instead in our front yard when my husband suggested it, but he hasn't been wanting to change things up for a little while and, now that we have done that for one year, I feel like we were much better off doing the perennials so we don't have to tend to them so much and replant them every year. I think we just needed to pick a few different ones with more color. But, I agree, there are also some weeds that are actually very beautiful.
Although I don't craft a lot anymore and don't have a lot of craft supplies, I always get requests from people to help them with their craft rooms, so I'm sure there will be lots of videos like that coming up. I would also love to finish helping Mira get hers more organized. The bulk of my time there was spent decluttering and getting things into categories, but we never really got to the actual organization and labeling and fun things like that.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Thank you Bonnie, yes I’ve been following Mira’s journey and love what you have done with her craft room. Look forward to seeing more craft room videos but only when you’re ready!! Rest, relax and enjoy Europe 😘❤️.
Bonnie you are an amazing woman! You are important. Your videos are great and you're doing an amazing job beeing the person that you am! 😊
Enjoy your holiday and time with your husband, Bonnie. You both deserve it.
Would love to see more of these self care videos from you. ❤ you can’t help others if you’re burned out.
Hi Bonny. Love you being so real!! We al have our struggles and try coping the best we can.
I love you Bonnie hope you are having a great time 😍❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have started asking myself this question: "Can I live without it", if the answer is "Yes", it gets thrown out or donated. I am done with too much stuff. Love your channel! Looking forward to journey through all of this.
Me too. Consumerism convinces is we need all these things. If times get tough, what are the first things to go? The stuff we didn't really need. Unpiling years of collector mindset takes so much work! We got this!!❤
Clean your own place n chat is wonderful, go for it. I'm glad to see you taking good care of yourself. It sets such an important example
You’re AWSOME be kind to yourself and do what makes you happy
It was so nice to see you again! I do miss your channel no matter what you are doing. Your own home, a pd cleaning, a free cleaning...it really doesn't matter as long as you show us. Have a wonderful cruise and hope you and your husband enjoy the relaxation!
I just love watching you clean your home and yard.
I find that a lot of people mistake "prioritizing where you spend your money" for being rich. Folks also forget that an object - once acquired - is retained until disposed of, so having money to buy something nice once doesn't mean that you have the money to obtain/replace it now.
You don't owe anyone a full explanation of your finances, but thank you for sharing and explaining things enough to help folks develop that sense of "more going on than you can see".
I'm still watching, but I wanted to share this idea before I forget it. I read a UK famous chef on twitter yesterday, she had spoken to a charity shop manager who said she wished families would declutter their kids toys before Christmas, rather than afterwards to accommodate new gift toys. Donate in advance because then people with not enough money can find nice toys for their kids Christmas presents. That struck me as such a good suggestion. So if you do plan to get rid of some of the toys and games you still have, ask your kids to pull out things they don't want and get them bought into the idea of donating them in November. But get them to do it! Not you Bonnie!!
Happy to watch ur vids for others or yourself Bonnie❤. Pls take whatever time u need for yourself & ur fam🥰. Love love love decluttering/reorganizing of all kinds!!
Life wears us done, so does masking autism. I will be sixty in 2 weeks . My life changing promise to myself is. “ I don’t care what people think of me and I don’t care about their expectations and judgements, I am done !” My 40’s was the toughest time in my life , so many life changing events . Burn out is a real thing . Always take care of yourself first . 🐨💗
❤❤Awesome as you always are!!!❤❤
I really needed this video today. Thank you. I needed to think about boundaries and taking care of my own home. Enjoy your trip.
You are so welcome! And, thank you. 😊
I love the memorial stone you did for your beautiful dog. I think the personal touch like that is so much more perfect than a stone someone else has done. ❤
Thank you. I really needed to see this today. My house is filled with dead projects and my yard is a complete eyesore despite all the money and sweat I’ve thrown at it for years. It’s pretty overwhelming
I hear you! The struggle is real. Hopefully, as I tackle some of my dead projects and dead yard and make decisions on what is actually reasonable to finish or reasonable to maintain, we can learn some things together.😉
I love that you are showing real life and that we don’t have to be perfect. ❤ I’m also not a good rester
Bonnie, I hope you have a wonderful cruise, you absolutely deserve it ❤
Enjoyed the video. Thank you Bonnie ❤️👍🏼
❤ stumbled on this channel. You have described what I could not share with others my whole life🤗❤️✅️ Thank you!!!!!!
Love you Bonnie, you are so real and I absolutely love all your content. No need to respond, you and hubby enjoy your very well deserved vacation and refill that tank!
Gardening is very meditative but can be overwhelming.
*You've highlighted the potential consequences of always putting others first. Very insightful and convincing!* 💯💯💯👏👏👏
Glad ur getting therapy. Proud of you... your doing great
Colt also has no boundaries. 😂 Enjoyed the video, sending good thoughts your way!
Yes, Heaven knows Colt has no boundaries! 😅😅😅 I hope you are hanging in there. I was so busy the two or three weeks before I left that I haven't even had time to catch up on everyone's channels that I follow, including your latest and it probably won't happen until I get back from my trip, so I hope you are doing well and I will check in with you when I get back. I think it's about time for another Mira video.😊💜💜💜
Take care of you, because you are your home, Bonnie. ❤
Glad to see you doing better Bonnie. Look after yourself and enjoy your holiday.❤
Happy 25th! Enjoy your well deserved time together to relax and rejuvenate. 🥂💞🙏
Just know you are human. A person can only do so much - you do so much for others. Just be yourself and that is all that matters. Enjoy your vacation. Audra
Thank you for keeping it real. ❤❤❤
Hope you relax a lot on your cruise!
I'm 49 yrs old. My kids are 17 and 18. I've been simplifying my life for the past couple of years. I'm trying not to take on anything that needs to be "cared for"- inside/outside plants, pets, needy people, things that need to be dusted. I know that sounds harsh, but I've spent the first half of my life as a bedside nurse, animal rescuer, loving mom, and "I'll be there for you" friend. It's ok for me to have time to learn and do the things i want to do before i can't anymore ❤ I'm finally getting some quality time for myself. Boundaries!!
That doesn't sound harsh at all. I am also looking at the amount of good quality time I have left and figuring out how I want to spend it. 😊👌💜
I totally know how you feel, I was the same but I'm nearly 53 and took on 20 stray cats, so now I'm saying I hope I can be retired at 70.😬
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp that's so smart!! The Golden Years aren't always golden. ♥️
@@teresamoore4126 I wish you the best with the kitties!! I used to do a lot of rescue work. It's extremely rewarding!
Omg, so many things to say! Please take care of yourself. And yes, being kind to yourself falls into that. I'm so glad you're resetting and taking time out to fill your cup 🧡
You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, and I hope you have a marvelous time on your anniversary cruise! And yes, like the others said, I am here for you organizing and cleaning your own home.
Also, as a fellow empath, I would highly recommend the books "set boundaries, find peace" and "an empath's survival guide" Much love!
There’s a difference between chores that stay done vs repetitive tasks. Good job taking care of the chicken coop door!
Some of the things that revive me are reading, organizing, baking, weeding and trimming trees/bushes and jigsaw puzzles.
I recently had a really frustrating setback with my job search. There's an overgrown and half dead privet by my front steps that I've meaning to trim since I bought the house. So I directed my frustration into action and that shrub...uh, went away. 😅
I will watch whatever you do. Even when you are overwhelmed it shows us how you cope. I am particularly interested in how to overcome procrastination. Happy Aniversary. Enjoy your vacation! 🎉 ALL THE BEST TO YOU.
Thank you so much! I have added overcoming procrastination to my list of things to make videos about. I have a few things that work for me in that regard. Thank you for the suggestion!
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! ♥I am a mom who puts everyone before herself. I have to stop sometimes and force myself to do something for me. Then there is that guilt I feel. It's hard. It takes practice. Lately to fill my cup I have been taking a few minutes to give myself a mani/pedi. I also have been making "blessing bags" for people in my town who are struggling to feed their families. I just started a few weeks ago and every week I take a few "meals in a bag" with an uplifting note into our town where we have a little cabinet for anyone to take what they need. It's been great and it definitely fills my cup.❤
I love the "blessing bag" idea! It's so rewarding to help someone through a rough spot. It seems that kindness from complete strangers can mean the most sometimes because it gives people a little faith in humanity. Love it!
Bonnie I'm 65yrs old & u will learn this when u get old like me, but it's a word I finally learned to say, "NO"! I've learned to prioritize myself first. And, no it isn't selfish to take care of u. Sorry! When my psychy & home r at peace the rest of my life is at peace. I function with purpose. I'm sure ur much younger than I am, but it will come in time. I'm an Aquariun & we r acts of service/ save the world people. I realized I had to put my mask on first & everyone else's second.
It upsets me that u have to explain ur situation of how ur able to travel etc it's nobody's business. Even if u explain the HATERS will still hate. Ur true followers don't need an explanation & the HATERS don't deserve ur explanation & time.
Hope u have the most amazing Anniversary & recharge ur own battery...🙏
Perfectly said and oh so very true❤🙏🏼🤗
Everything you say is thoughtful & comes from a learning experience. We all go through this. What you say is quite helpful & thus you are still helping ppl. We all go through such times, and often more than once. I think it’s normal. But the way forward is to stop, look around, & be proactive. Well done!!
Stay well & enjoy that cruise!
Being the primary carer of my elderly parents I need to remind to myself costantly that it isn't selfish of me to safeguard that one hour and a half I Need for my self in the day to go out for my power-walks. I'm there for them for almost the rest of the day and the night if it occurs. Walking keeps my head above water. I don't accept to feel selfish, occasionaly the good daughter voice tries to tell me otherwise but I do my absolute best to maintain those boundaries. As I learn to raise them, they will learn respect them and accept that I'm a different person with different needs and different wants. I love them and care for them willingly of course, but that doesn't need to mean it is my life or that I can't have one other than that. Had we been able to afford a carer it would have been a different story but the way the cost of living rose over the past year it's impossible. So any little extra money we can spare I alote it to my self-care. Because if I cramble we will all fall. Self-care Needs to come first.
Hear hear.
You are very blessed to have this insight! I feel.likenI lost ME caring and doing for all others. Now I am.older, lost and alone 😢 in my mess. My life that I neglected. I need HELP!
@@NofoolinMercy if I learned one thing is that it's never too late to learn to care for ourselves. Whatever form that may have for you. For me it was walking. You will find that thing that feeds your soul too. When you do please hold on to it and safeguard it, even from the other voices in your head. I have faith, you deserve to find yourself. 🌹♥️
@@dimitrakaramanogou9324 Thank you from my heart ❤️
Great video, Bonnie! Love the commentary and tips on self preservation! I laughed when you said noone died when you didn’t decorate the front door, 🤣. I’m 69 and have a bit of a mobility issue so I have been slowly trying ways to give up things I used to love to do, but still find I’m disappointed in myself for not doing them. But you are right, no one will actually die if I stop doing them. Thanks for that! ❤️
I learned a term from work years ago: Visual Noise. Sometimes I have to stop and realize that is what's bugging me. Gotta clean.
❤ the hermit house surrounded by trees - no judging - real life, enjoyed seeing the mac & cheese taste test dinner.
Congratulations on your Anniversary it's wonderful 25 yrs. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate your open honesty. Hang in there friend, and do what you have to do.
Self care is always very important.
Bonnie, you are fantastic. I was raised to believe that putting oneself first was a mortal sin. It took me a while to figure out that, that is a crock of shite. I'm happy you're getting it straight at a much younger age than I did. Love the dog, by the way.
All those ideas sound good. I have a paper mountain. So any decluttering of paper would be great!! ❤
Just remember that you and your family come first! Having a RUclips channel can be all consuming and drive you to distraction-lol! Enjoyed seeing you tackle some things at home! Incorporate that into your content and make life less stressful honey! You deserve it😘😘😘
Happy anniversary! Not an easy thing....🎉 I find picking one task per day, and accomplishing that one small task, keeps my home presentable, and also gives me a small win.
So many things. Love, don't feel guilty for having nice things. Even if the story was a rough road, you recognize the privilege. No guilt.
We all put too much pressure on ourselves that our life should look like movies or magazines. Enjoy life, having a perfect house means nothing at the end of life.
Enjoy your 25th celebration. That truly is worthy of a grand trip. It sounds amazing. Stay in the moment and make those memories. Tomorrow isn't promised.
Lastly, the kind of housing you live in, those weren't made for craftsmanship like in the old days. Those were built purely for profit and they are thrown together so fast, they end up with all kinds of defects. When you are able I would have the electric checked. Better to be safe than sorry when it comes to electricity.
Don't forget to breathe! Deep breaths, 3 things you're grateful for. Grounding. ❤
Just when I thought your videos couldn’t get any better, then you give us this very intimate look at your home life. This is great stuff Bonnie! Hope you can decompress with your hubby on your fun trip. Well deserved.
Aw, thank you so much. 💓
I think doing a home cleaning is great and could be part of your monthly videos. I have learned from experience that when you become more emotionally involved with clients that it can be emotionally draining on you. Setting limits and amount of time spent with each client is not always easy but sometimes better for mental health.
I thoroughly enjoyed this, Bonnie ❤. At first I thought it was a gardening video -- been subscribed since the beginning for the cleaning. You are so engaging that I decided to watch anyway and boy, am I glad I did!!! I'm taking a step back myself -- way too many people have been dependent on me. I gave myself away. Learning to be gracious with myself. Praying very hard and looking to God's Word to combat the anxieties
Thank you for sharing. And best wishes in taking care of yourself. ❤️🙏
I can so relate to your life. My house is messy. 😂I also am juggling working on the yard which makes me feel good physically. Then our basement flooded. It will take a while to clean all that up. As I sorted, items got moved upstairs so it’s a mess. I tried to do some in each area each day. I laughed at your water the weed. My yard wouldn’t be green at all not for weeds. Then for some unknown reason, I decided to take a three month cooking course. I did not realize that I would be spending 2 to 3 hours a day on the assignments. Boy O boy was that insane! I have faith that we both will get there for with the vision we have for our home and yard. I love your yard and your home.❤
You sound great. I love watching you take care of your own home and realizing that it really is self care. Way to go!
I hope you have a wonderful vacation. 🌻🍄
Oh so you are REAL, I love it! Paperwork! It's such a hassle to deal with. Hope you are enjoying your cruise, it sounds like a trip of a lifetime! Happy Anniversary!
Hello from Germany, hi bonnie, love to see you declutter your house!!!!!!!🎉❤
Have a nice vercation!!!!!!!🍀🥳
Oh my goodness! Have so much fun and good times on the cruise! Soak up that vacation! Looking forward to seeing you after!
Have fun on your trip. Don't forget the take pictures and video of the wonderful memories. Put those on a Electronic Photo Frame that can scroll through the photos so you don't need to photo album to clutter up the house. Cloud space to have for backup lol. Love ya Bonnie and be safe.
Respect and honesty fills my cup.
This video was so enjoyable and motivating for me! It got me out of my bed and cleaning up the laundry. Thank you! You a a blessing! I am also in therapy trying to learn self love!
It’s sad that in this economy we as women have to worry about how to help out with finances. One person working should be totally affordable. That way you could keep up with your house as well as take a little time a couple times a month and help someone else ❤
Thanks!
Aw, Michelle. Thank you so much. 💓 I really appreciate it. 🙏
I always struggle with paperwork. I would love a video on how you organize it!
When I got my CDL and begin driving truck over-the-road in 1995, I experienced the very same thing; a new career making a great wage but little time for home projects. (Sometimes we just can’t have both).
I love this. You enjoy that cruise 🚢. THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING !!! 🥰💖🙏♥️🌹🌹♥️♥️
Best wishes to you and your family. Enjoy your well earned rest and be as kind to yourself as you are to others. Bless you for your beautiful heart that tries so hard to help others .
2 points for fixing the chicken coop door!
Thanks for sharing. I lost track of all you accomplished, but give yourself a pat on the back.
Bonnie you are an Angel! And sometimes angels need help too. So glad you are taking care of yourself!! I always look forward to your videos! 💖☺
So this was my first year attempting a garden! I didn’t buy the plants and bury them instead I bought seeds and put them in starters and transferred when they sprouted and they done ok. I don’t have an actual garden in my yard that’s in the ground I used big barrell like planters, raised garden bed with 6 sections, and then the rectangle planters. I planted cherry tomatoes, steak tomatoes, yellow small tomatoes, cucumber, green pepper, jalapeño pepper, and a bunch of herbs cilantro, dill, chives, basil, oregano and I think that’s it. Everything done ok giving a few items which I will say the little tomatoes was the easiest and was resilient to heat and care they received thank goodness and are still producing. I got the most from them and I would recommend anyone just starting out to definitely give these a try!! Anywho while I didn’t do great this summer trying to either have the time or to just remember to get out and water, feed, poke the soil to help it “breathe” and get air, lol check the plants condition like for plant sickness or little nuisances we don’t want and so on. I decided after feeling like a failure at first cause I was like ok well let’s hope having food never rely on me being able to grow a garden for food cause we would starve plain and simple lol however I said this is my first year and first attempt and it wasn’t that bad cause we got plenty of little tomatoes and a little of other and the tomatoes and herbs I grew myself saved more then it took me in cost of starting the garden so that’s good but I will try again next year and I will take what I learned and apply it next year. I didn’t know what would and wouldn’t work cause I hadn’t ever done it so I can’t be mad at myself about that. Each year I will take what worked and what didn’t and use the next year and with each year I’m learning and getting better so it may take me a few years but if I actually want it and like it I will put in the time and work to make it better and I will finally have a good sized garden producing enough produce for us to eat at least!! I actually had never been into anything gardening whether house plants or garden to grow produce but I found this year I enjoy it and it helps make me feel less depressed, less stressful, happy to begin and grow a plant into something that can produce food to feed my family which also can help in making anyone feel useful and needed!! Good luck on future garden endeavors!!! 😂😂