Limerent Affair Nearly Destroyed This Marriage - Hear Their Story
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Has your spouse had an affair? Do you feel like all hope for saving your marriage is lost?
Jordan also felt like his marriage was over after he found out his wife, Priscilla, was having an affair.
After years of sweeping marriage problems under the rug, Jordan and Priscilla found themselves at a point of crisis.
Listen to this episode to learn how Jordan and Priscilla were able to overcome a limerent affair and achieve a marriage stronger than ever before.
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When you say, "running into marriage trouble," we had trouble, but we thought it was typical trouble. The way that we handled typical trouble was just a sweeping under the rug to deal with it. Whenever we would run into those everyday things we would sometimes try to address it could never come to any kind of resolution. So. We would just sweep it under the rug.
So, things just kind of built up over a while then?
Yes.
Joe, we were a pastor's family. It was one of those things. We're on the stage, we're in front of people. You don't have problems in front of people or at least, you keep that up.
I understand that. I mean, I really, really do. I do understand that. All right. So you were in those kinds of situations then 13 years in what happened?
What happened was Jordan was full-time pastoring and I was a stay at home mom. We had five children at the time.
Five children in 13 years?
Five children in 13 years. I of course had not of course, but I had struggled to kind of find my worth in what I was doing, because Jordan was always gone. I was always at home with the kids and I felt like there was more for me to do, that I'm not really serving in the best way possible, just being at home with these kids. So,we began this college age ministry out of our home and I started working very closely with this young adult that we were trying to encourage to take lead of this group.
We both were.
Yeah.
He was a friend of mine. We were both on board with trying to help him kind of get leadership of this group and get it off the ground.
Yes. So where the big trouble started was he was very busy with ministering in the big church and I was very busy ministering to this young adult group alongside this other person.
Which by the way, when you've got five kids having college aged kids over at your house until two o'clock in the morning, a couple nights a week, that's not really healthy, but we were excited. It was a ministry that was hot, it was going and...
And I found purpose.
Yeah.
And so something didn't go well?
So we ended up getting closer and closer and he would stop by regularly in order to work on things for that group. Jordan was all on board with it. I mean, he would call Jordan and be like, "Hey! I need your wife," and Jordan's like, "sure. I'm busy doing this, but she'll help you do that." Eventually, there was some attraction. Then there was the confession of I don't know if you want to say confession of love or whatever, but at that point it started turning into something more. At that point it was just emotional. There was no physical but it did start turning into something more. Where it started to get physical was he continued to tell me that he could not have a relationship with me outside of marriage with me. So, in order to have a relationship with him, I needed to leave Jordan.
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@MarriageHelper I'm going through a very similar situation. And would love help. I would love someone to talk to regarding our situation.
I am going through a similar situation as we speak. Praying every day for my wife to return to her family
She most probably will... she's just getting that itch scratched....also she's soon find out that grass ain't greener on the other side of the fence...
Same brother I pray she comes back to you and your family I'm praying for mine as well
Hang in there. Watch the videos on this channel. Give her space. Be strong and supportive, but that doesn’t mean you have to agree. Pray like crazy. Every time you’re feeling low, pray. Went through a similar situation in March 2020.
My wife has left me, our 37 year marriage, for another man. I am crushed. Crushed. Destroyed! I am praying God opens her heart and mind. I want her back but only if repentance is shown.
You will never see her the same way. You will never trust her. Infidelity exposes the cheater as who they truly are, not the image you had of them.
So after divorce, no money, she suddenly realizes how good her ex was. How convenient !
I see so many young Christian’s get caught up like this. A pastor once told me your first ministry is your family. That’s why God created Adam and Eve before he created the church. That’s something that’s always stuck with me.
I know WAY too many women whose “ministry” is anything BUT their husband/family. They have in effect, made “church” their IDOL. And you would not believe the amount of hostility I get when I say this.
Praying nonstop for my wife..13 years together and she flipped 180°. I don't know for sure, but I believe she is still involved with LO from her work. Breaks my heart, and just wanting my beautiful bride to come back to our Family and what God has blessed us with
🙏🙏🙏🙏
same here. I am in constant prayer for her to see, feel what she is doing. Repent and come back to God and to our marriage.
They were indeed somewhat too young for marriage. The wife showed some surprisingly bad behavior for a Christian person (no remorse?, no shame?, etc.). She recklessly checked out of the marriage, but was mad that people rejected her for her infidelity behavior (What did she expect)? Her emotional stability seemed a bit off (delusional about what marriage actually was). The husband was really generous to take her back after all this grief. A good testimony, but what a MESS! Sadly, most people do not know how to be married! Likely, most every couple can use the type of info/wisdom that organizations like Marriage Helper (and other dedicated marriage resources) can provide.
I love the way a cheating wife can rationalize, excuse, and make her husband the villain. Then programs like this enable and applaud their cheating. She is a cheater! She stabbed her husband and family in the back. There is no forgiveness for that. She should leave and let her husband and family find a woman with morals, integrity, and loyalty
Praise Jesus you both came to repentance and allowed God to penetrate your hearts to change for the good. Proud of you both for doing the hard work! Lots of love and many blessings to all standing and waiting. MH planted the seed, you allowed it to grow. Love it.
You both are really brave to share your story - especially on such a public forum. Thank you so much - I feel blessed by your testimony.
After just hearing about limerence I’ve finally been able to understand what was going through my exes head, the random abuse towards me, the cheating, all of it.
I definitely wouldn’t be able to do what this husband did though. Even if my ex came back crawling through broken glass and hot coals to apologise to me I still wouldn’t take her back, not even with children involved. Personally I can’t tell if this guy is weak or strong for forgiving her. It’s what God would want and I hope I can get to a place where I can forgive too but who I am now, what the experience has turned me into… I don’t think that will ever happen.
My heart goes out to you brother. I’ve been through it and it’s awful. I’m done with relationships personally-
I can only pray that my marriage and my relationship will end up like these blessed people!
Amen it will!
Same all I can do is pray for my marriage to get healed and put back together
Stay encouraged and positive my friend. I am almsot a year and a half into my healing process and working on my marriage. It. Is. Hard. The best thing I have did for myself was to educate myself on love and relationships, a lot through marriage helper, and love and taking care of me. And never forget...you were always worthy of love and respect... I pray the best for you and your marriage
Me too! God bless you!
No idea how this lifted me up . God is faithful ❤
I am glad that Jordan and Priscilla are doing so well. Jordan is a brave , resilient man who loves his wife and family.
I was looking for a sense of contrition , regret and accountability on Priscilla’s part for devastating her husband . I do not see any indication of remorse or an acknowledgment of the pain Priscilla caused the people who love her . Am I missing something?
Priscilla ran out of money, got bored of her lover, wanted social and financial security back.
Jordan is a pure beta, lacks self respect and so happily accepted his ex wife back who humiliated him.
LAW OF CONVENIENCE !
I think they are in a place where the repentance has happened and they have both moved on. You don’t have to stay devastated forever. She texted him a couple of very long apologies and they had hours long conversations and I’m sure that she was very humble and real in that time. You don’t have to stay devastated and sad and sorrowful forever! If you have repented you move on to joy and it looks like that’s where they are!
@Eremias Ranwolf maybe because she is making money? Idk it’s pretty messed up sadly
@@kleyescobar not sure how a healed family, a reconciled marriage, a couple becoming the best-versions-of-themselves breaking the cycle of divorce (which causes immense pain to children), giving hope and strength to friends, family and thousands of others, and a living example of the forgiveness of Christ... is messed up. It’s a radical testimony of authentic love if you ask me.
Thank you both for sharing your testimony, I am grateful beyond words.
Interesting how she is all smiles when she talks about the ap but it leaves when the husband talks about his. 🧐
Man she is going to do it again. That's a sign of someone not wanting to take responsibility. Man i would let her go. See if the grass is greener and stay there. Next.
Unfortunately the Workshop didn't work for us, but that's not on the Workshop.. the Workshop was very good and helpful
Thank you. My husband is in a limerant affair. He did something unacceptable tonight, normally I would confront. I am letting it go. I understand. No matter how much it hurts me. It is Very difficult. But potential benefits? Outway my temporary pain.
I have learned to basically Ignore him I mean don’t be texting him don’t be calling her for dumb things like do you want this yellow shirt do you still want this chair don’t do any of that just clean up your house get it organized maybe do some painting if you don’t work get your yard to get to spend time with your children spend time with your friends and family that you haven’t been with in a while when I called you trying to get a hold you say yeah well I got a life now he asked you what you been doing just say what do you want what are you doing don’t start telling him what you’re doing get your life together don’t sit there crying and waiting for him
This very inspirational I hope and pray that me and my wife can reconcile and have a better marriage than the first one we have been divorced since October last year. I have been working on my pies and being the best I can be.
How can you find the courage to do this?
I feel like I want to, but i also have the thought that it is degrading to chase after someone who betrayed and doesn’t want me.
Like them, my husband and I rushed into marriage and parenthood (4 months to marry, baby by 8th month). It wasn't until after 21 years and a lot of disconnect (especially from me) that the opportunity arose for my husband to get involved with a way younger girl (18 vs 45). I truly believe that having her live with us for 9 months opened the door for him to behave the way he did. The problem now is that he feels extremely guilty, he says he has a "little monster" that comes on the times he feels best, that tells him he doesn't deserve the forgiveness and the opportunity to be at home with his family. How can I help him?
Wow thank you for your transparency. That sounds like a difficult situation! We admire your strength and willingness to forgive and continue to love him! That's amazing. As far as helping your husband deal with shame and work through that, we have 2 recommendations. The first is a book that Dr. Joe Beam wrote called "Getting Past Guilt". He wrote it while he was also struggling with figuring out how to forgive himself for the things he had done. So consider picking that up online! Another recommendation is is to watch this free video to help you get your spouse to work through their shame in a loving way. You can watch it here: ruclips.net/video/vpdUEuHS7qE/видео.html
Hope this helps!!
What kind of creep makes moves on the pastor's wife? The wife had terrible judgment not to leave the ministry and tell the husband immediately. I know she married young, but she should have sought professional help the moment she found herself tempted by the other guy. And the man involved should have been removed from the ministry and told him either he must go to counseling and have no further contact or he will be banned from the church. Probably this man had made moves on other women in the church and is likely a predator. But I can't believe the wife. She doesn't seem to have any sense of shame or empathy for her husband despite her awful behavior.
A young ! inexperienced man that is also swept away by his emotions.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, you have no idea how much hope and strength it’s giving me while standing for my marriage.
I hope to be able to give my testimony one day.
Lots of love,
I agree with those who think the wife has no remorse. She only wanted her husband back because he was dating others. Clearly this woman doesn’t know herself. I doubt she has the self reflection ti make this relationship last the second time around. Poor man
Amazing testimony. Inspiring! Thanks for sharing!
This is almost as crazy as my story except that they were fortunate enough to do the workshop. My ex husband ( he divorced me) wouldn’t go,…. Still standing
Hey Jennifer S, We offer a couples online and in-person workshop as well as a Solo Spouse workshop in case your spouse is unwilling to attend. You can learn more about our workshops by following this link directly! If anything works to save your marriage, this will. marriagehelper.com/workshops/
Thanks to the contributors! So blessed by their courageous share and bravery here. Thank you!
While watching this I became deeply depressed. It lingered even with the happy ending.
Once a cheat, always a cheat imo. I would have cut bait and RUN
I would love to go through this with my wife. If we don't I'm sure it's over for my wife and i
They gave me hope
My husband left me for his mistress and has married her I still want my family we were together for 24 years why would she want to come in between our marriage and think it's okay
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You couldn't make up a story about a world class SIMP that would be worse than this.
I’m going through a similar situation with my husband! He is in limerence from his LO of 10 months ! It was hidden from me until his mistress told him to tell me about her or she would , however by doing so she actually pushed him towards me more and said he was willing to work on our marriage and family of 20 years! And everything was good for a week and he moved back home but now things have come to a stand still and I can tell he is thinking about her because she keeps texting him aNo begging him to come back to her snd I do t know what to do because I’m worried he will give in snd go back even after this woman threatened me and my children and him as well!
Did she get pregnant with the LO baby after the divorce?
Yes
Ok. Big question. Is it possible to be in limerence12 and 13 years ??
There’s a lot of laughing going on about such a serious topic 😏😵💫👎🏻
Hey Kandice! We apologize if that has offended you. Jordan and Priscilla have simply worked through all of their problems during their affair and are happily married now. This clip was also taken from a longer form video where Dr. Joe Beam was interviewing them and making them laugh because of his clever humor. We are in no way trying to make light of such a heavy topic. Please let us know if we can help you with your marriage as well! And please consider subscribing!
Typo limerance
Some people laugh through embarrassing or awkward topics. I doesn't mean they are light about it just an awkward reaction.
He’s a fool
thank you 🙏
It's great all these couples can laugh about it. I don't I'll ever be able to laugh about the topic. How many women lie about it was just a "Limerance" relationship? How many women stay in the relationship just because of finances and children? Are women that stay with a man she no longer loves ok?
Great testimony..God is amazing..safe and real in a real way!👍🙌
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Why is this so funny to them???
Wife got scot free, husband is a beta sucker.
Exactly! She kept laughing like it was a funny story. Disturbing to see the lack of sensitivity, remorse and repentance when in a case of adultery there is just pain and hurt.
What did you expect? Would you prefer them to be miserable for the rest of their lives?
@@Freedom-hv3vm I would expect that when they talk about the bad they did they wouldn't laugh about it because it is not a laughing matter... and yes they should let it go and be happy.
@@jamiesmith4446 they could look sad when they talk about the bad... but sometimes bad things happen for the right reasons
I want to work on my marriage because I know that’s what God wants but I don’t know how to break my affair partners heart.
Hurry before it’s too late and your wife moves on with someone else. I stop my affair but it was too late I don’t want that for you
Would you rather continue to break your spouse’s heart? You’re gonna have to choose one or the other. you know which one you should let go. Be brave enough to do it.
If u want it to
Work out
Let the her go !!!!
Move on with your amazing wife god have u 🙏
God bless u both
😂 sick
Great way to continue the humiliation and shame you brought on your husband, put it out there on RUclips. Salt in his wounds.
Control!!! So no money! Not workshop
Hey Steve Mines, Just out of curiosity, have you taken advantage of our free mini course? We know times are tough and want to provide as much as we can to you free of charge. That's why we created this free mini course. It will teach you how to get your spouse back and give you a plan moving forward! You can get access to it directly by following this link:
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