You don't have to apologize for feeling angry? Permission to feel the emotion of anger? Conficted. Is the feeling of hurt that sits like a tight knot inside anger?
The feeling of a knot might be unresolved anger that needs addressing. But no, you don't have to apologize or feel bad about having anger. It's an emotional response to experiencing some kind of loss. You can't help that. But you might have to apologize for the bad actions that come from your anger. If you let your emotions control your behavior, that is a problem. Your anger might also come from misperceiving a loss. For example, you took someone's words about you wrong. You felt slighted when that was not the intent. And so you got mad. Getting mad wasn't wrong. Misperceiving the intent and jumping to a false conclusion was wrong. As a result, it produced anger. I hope that helps. My book STUCK takes a deep look at anger: what it is, why we get angry, and how to let it go. You can find it on Amazon.com.
I left an abusive church after 10-11 years, and when I go to a new church I start to cry.. I feel anlittle embarrassed because people look at me and if they try to talk to me after church I start to cry... can that be ptsd? What can I do about that?
I can relate to that. It's hard to say what's going on with such little info but It sounds like grief to me. Did you just recently leave the other church? If so, the feelings of grief will be very strong. Try this... write down all the losses you experienced in that church AND in leaving the church. My guess is there are many things. And if so, you are probably feeling the grief of losing those things in your life. Grief is a process that takes time. I've written about this on my website at readingremy.com and in my book, "Return From Exile." Let me know if this makes sense.
I have a question needs to be clarified. On the 5:52min mark, do you mean we have to forgive God？ That does not sound right to me. I think we need to be forgiven by God, not the other way around.
Good question. It's really a figure of speech. The point I'm making is that many people hold anger against God for trauma. It's important that they are able to release that anger, which is really what forgiveness is: giving up the right for revenge. But, in truth, God would never be guilty and truly needing our forgiveness. Thanks for asking. I hope that brings some clarity.
@@FRemyD Thank you for the quick response. I really like your video. But, I think you should clarify this in your future video. Because, people will think this is heresy. God bless your family.
@@FRemyD I keep coming back over and over again to these videos - trying to find hope. I've been in church my whole life. I don't have a church anymore. I'm five months in to leaving. And my story never needs to be shared again. I bought the book Broken Trust this week.
@@shannonsundby5725 Again, I'm sorry for whatever it is that hurt you. But you said you keep coming back and you bought the book so that tells me that you haven't given up on God and you still have some hope. That's good to see. I think the book will help. Let me know!
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You don't have to apologize for feeling angry? Permission to feel the emotion of anger? Conficted.
Is the feeling of hurt that sits like a tight knot inside anger?
The feeling of a knot might be unresolved anger that needs addressing. But no, you don't have to apologize or feel bad about having anger. It's an emotional response to experiencing some kind of loss. You can't help that. But you might have to apologize for the bad actions that come from your anger. If you let your emotions control your behavior, that is a problem. Your anger might also come from misperceiving a loss. For example, you took someone's words about you wrong. You felt slighted when that was not the intent. And so you got mad. Getting mad wasn't wrong. Misperceiving the intent and jumping to a false conclusion was wrong. As a result, it produced anger. I hope that helps. My book STUCK takes a deep look at anger: what it is, why we get angry, and how to let it go. You can find it on Amazon.com.
I left an abusive church after 10-11 years, and when I go to a new church I start to cry.. I feel anlittle embarrassed because people look at me and if they try to talk to me after church I start to cry... can that be ptsd? What can I do about that?
I can relate to that. It's hard to say what's going on with such little info but It sounds like grief to me. Did you just recently leave the other church? If so, the feelings of grief will be very strong. Try this... write down all the losses you experienced in that church AND in leaving the church. My guess is there are many things. And if so, you are probably feeling the grief of losing those things in your life. Grief is a process that takes time. I've written about this on my website at readingremy.com and in my book, "Return From Exile." Let me know if this makes sense.
I have a question needs to be clarified. On the 5:52min mark, do you mean we have to forgive God？ That does not sound right to me. I think we need to be forgiven by God, not the other way around.
Good question. It's really a figure of speech. The point I'm making is that many people hold anger against God for trauma. It's important that they are able to release that anger, which is really what forgiveness is: giving up the right for revenge. But, in truth, God would never be guilty and truly needing our forgiveness. Thanks for asking. I hope that brings some clarity.
@@FRemyD Thank you for the quick response. I really like your video. But, I think you should clarify this in your future video. Because, people will think this is heresy. God bless your family.
"safe" and "counselor" can't exist in the same sentence.
Ouch! It sounds like there's a story there. I'm sorry that you had a bad experience. "Safe" and "counselor" should go hand in hand.
@@FRemyD I keep coming back over and over again to these videos - trying to find hope. I've been in church my whole life. I don't have a church anymore. I'm five months in to leaving. And my story never needs to be shared again. I bought the book Broken Trust this week.
@@shannonsundby5725 Again, I'm sorry for whatever it is that hurt you. But you said you keep coming back and you bought the book so that tells me that you haven't given up on God and you still have some hope. That's good to see. I think the book will help. Let me know!
@@FRemyDWhat makes me keep coming back is that you said...it took you five years to go back to church... Five years huh?
@@shannonsundby5725 Yes, five years. Church hurt runs deep. I'm sure it's different for everyone.