The Best Way to Confront Your Addicted Loved One About Their Lies and Manipulation!
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- Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2022
- Before you confront an addict (or alcoholic) about their addictive behavior, lies, and manipulation, WATCH THIS VIDEO! Addiction expert Amber Hollingsworth explains how to confront dishonest behavior effectively!
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Thanks! Jan 1st I said I would donate 100 dollars throughout this year. I am happy I could keep my word on this! This channel means a lot to me and my recovery and I am proud to donate this great cause to free the world of addiction! Thank you for helping me develop the skills to stay sober!
You're the best! You help support this channel in so many ways. Thank you Anthony!
@@PutTheShovelDown your welcome! I have learned a lot here! I've learned more about myself and my addiction, watching all of your shows and I am living a more healthy and productive life. Also I have improved my relationships with people in my life. I also am in a new relationship with someone I really care about and because of all the stuff I've learned here, I can be my best self for her! I am very grateful for you and your channel! Thank you!
At the beginning I called him out all the time, but I learned after while you do have to pick and choose. If you do it all the time, they just tune it out. And in my case he came from an abusive household as a child, which had yelling, screaming and physical violence. So when I do call him out I have to do it in a calm, assertive voice rather than a yelling screaming voice. Thanks for another great video!
You're right on target Marylyn! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
@@PutTheShovelDown Thank you.
This is the only way I ever found effective when communicating with my son, even when he was a child. And it's a big reason I watch your videos and go to Alanon meetings. I think he has a problem with alcohol (not sure the extent) but if/when the opportunity arises for me to say something, it has to be exactly the way you described. AND it has to be in a moment that I know he can actually hear what I say. The right thing, at the right time, and it has to be very clear, but also short. I so admire that type of communication, but it does NOT come naturally to me, so I really have prepare for it!
Always a good place to learn effective techniques. Yay!
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Thank you Amber, very helpful
Thanks for watching!
Teenagers are my favorite. They are a special breed that sometimes need blunt, sarcastic love. This was such a great video!! You explain it all so well.
They sure are! I still see several teens in my practice and they're wonderful 😀
Yes, this is one of my favorites ❤
New one is, listening
Hi Gina, Welcome to our little community. So glad you're here!
Your videos are so helpful. My husband sneak drinks and thinks I can’t tell. I feel like if I act angry, he just picks fights and acts mean or a victim. I want to use this confrontation strategy so he knows I know.
I like you're thinking, Anna. Just let him know that you know (in a calm way). Try not to leave room for discussion.
How do you tell them you are tired of hearing about their aches and pains when they are in withdrawal? Sick of it.
I'm so grateful for your channel! 💜
Me too! Glad you're here NotThe Illuminati! 😀
So thankful for my yrs working as a family crisis intervention specialist with DR Alex Soto, LCSW PhD. He taught me all the ropes to save pregnant Mama's with trauma. Thanks for the coaching today.
Thanks!
Thanks, this was awesome! I am always looking for best ways to confront my family on issues we have. I am very thankful for this channel! I've been here over 2 years now and have learned how to stay sober and live my best life! It hasn't been easy but it's definitely been worth it. Thank you Amber, have a nice Thanksgiving!
Happy Thanksgiving, Anthony!
@@PutTheShovelDown you too!
I love you thank you
Could have used this a few years ago. Thanks for the video
You bet!
My boyfriend is 8 months sober from alcohol but relapsed on Adderall or meth. He started playing video games 12 hours a day then crashed and slept for days. He took a pee test last week it was positive. I asked him to take another one today 😢he is refusing now. I let him borrow my car, he saw this one “friend” who is so toxic. I don’t know what to do Amber 😢😢😢😢 I’m 40 and not getting any younger . I’m getting my MFT and interning at a drug and alcohol rehab. now I get the chaos at home too. I wish I could work for you when I graduate and move. I’ve been with my boyfriend 5 years. Once I graduate I’ve some decisions to make.
So how did it go? Did yall figure it out?
Btw I'm very sorry to here this.
I've been trying to help my mother lately, she's an alcoholic and has been for over 20 years.... it's gotten to the point where she's calling into work, being very aggressive once she's drunk... and she's even been to jail for beating me up. She was sober for a few weeks after she got out but just a few days ago she started again. I'm struggling now to either worry about myself or to help her still..... it's very hard
Great video! It's hard for me to call out the BS🙃 but I know it's necessary and I love how you explained it. ps- you look beautiful! That's an excellent color for you!
Awwww, thanks Tayler!
I love your videos. It’s the only thing that keeps me sane dealing with my son and his wife. Both are meth addicts.
Meth is the worst and the crash is so bad. Make sure you set boundaries healthy for you so you are safe.
Meth defintiely brings a unique set of challanges. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers, JuJu!
Ma’am - adore ya.
How should the first phone go between the parent and child (19y/o)after the child has relapsed while in rehab?
I’m so grateful for all of your wisdom and experience ❤
Hi Amy, Dealing with relapse is all about damage control. Here's a video that might help> ruclips.net/video/Vg5JQsnbaKo/видео.html
Your videos are a godsend... and i dont even believe in god or any shit like that.... im going to use the knowledge I've gotten from your videos the past few hours to try to talk to my mother whos a relapsed alcoholic.... she will be home in an hour.... wish me luck. 😢
Hi Amber, how do I confront Steve for saying on fb he found it funny that I couldn’t have children? He knows we tried for ten years but to throw that in my face when he’s on meth. How do I have the conversation with him that it’s disgusting behaviour when he’s 55 years old?
My husband of 42 years is addicted to oxy & benzos. He does have severe chronic pain & agreed to let me control the pills. I couldn’t figure out how they kept disappearing & he’d blame ME. Then he’d demand some of my Norco.
Last month I gave him lots of chances to admit he’d found where I kept them, I finally said “You cheated, you stole them, you let me take the blame for being ‘irresponsible.’ I feel hugely betrayed, almost as if you’d cheated on me. You let me suffer more pain so you could have my Rx.” It seemed to make an impression at the time but we’re back at square 1. My life revolves around his addiction and his health. I’m responsible for dealing with his 95 yr old mom in assisted living. All while dealing w/severe back pain (surgeon said few people w/such an MRI would be walking) and autoimmune disease. One specialist had a program to control the disease & asked me to rate home support in a scale of 1-10. I said 0. My friends said it was more like -10. He does NOTHING around the house, unable to work for over 20 years, watches TV all day then complains he’s stuck in the house. Self-care has diminished alarmingly. I told him he’s crushing what respect for him I still have. I’m hurt & angry & tired of the lies & broken promises. There are no in person NarcAnon meetings around here & I can’t be honest when he’s 15 feet away from a Zoom call. He needs inpatient treatment so I can find a meeting for myself. This is unsustainable.
Yes!!! Like, Im sorry your ego dont like it but I gotta say it cuz you need to here it. Don't like me. That's perfectly OK with me.;
- mm😏 not believing you 😌
Sounds definitely nicer than saying
- 👉 You are lying🤥.
I have to try this.
Let me know how it goes! 😀
How can I get in touch with you?
Zoom Call, email?
Hi Taty, Are you wanted to set up a coaching call? If so, this link will tell you all about the options: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations
Thanks!
Thanks!
Thank you Anthony!
Thanks!
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