Stop Being a Nice Guy
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- In this video, we follow the story of Wojak, Wojak has always been a nice guy, someone who tries to please others and avoid conflict at all costs. However, Wojak has realized that his nice guy behavior is not getting him what he wants in life, and he feels frustrated and unfulfilled. Therefore, Wojak has decided to learn how to stop being a nice guy and assert himself more.
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2:35 "avoiding conflicts will result in lack of boundaries" 😮valuable
You can avoid needless conflict.
Me being a people pleaser stems from being lonely since I was bullied in my school days. Now at 23 I find myself constantly getting into friendships where the other person is manipulative, emotionally abusive, and don’t respect my boundaries. I asked myself “why do I keep attracting these people and getting hurt?” And now I see it’s because I’m too nice and seen as weak. So recently I cut off a few friendships and relationships that was draining to me and wasn’t valuable to me. It’s time for a change and to grow a backbone, otherwise I’ll just keep being used by people taking advantage of me. These people claim I hurt them when I leave, but they constantly hurt me while talking. I should value myself more and be around people that are genuine
Did the right choice.. Hope you get better friends 👍
Hey yow, fellow 23 years old here and yah that was good choice.
Usually it starts with family. Then bullies, then adulthood.
Shit sounds a lot like me. In addition to all the bullying for pretty much my entire school life I was also emotionally/psychologically abused by my mom. I have had a lot of the same issues you mentioned. Having trouble with boundaries, being a people pleaser, ending up with abusive gfs and friends. It a long time to figure myself out and improve my life but I think I'm finally happy.
You made a right thing, bro. I support your decision.
I’m nice, but I usually get treated like shit by other people 😔
same for my since I've treat them back how they treat me im also an asshole to fucked up people and they stop treating you bad. Try it man.
Go to the gym and get bigger focus on your goals and fuck about the hatin people.
same bro
Becose they know they can treat you like that and u will be still nice to them . Change is hard . But when u want new results you need make changes .
so stop beeing nice xD
dude I was a nice dude too but I barely changed myself and made my mind like I will just be nice to people who do me right not those bloody a$$holes that treat me like a doormat! dude I asked an online hommie for this hiccup and how to solve it and he told me "life is too short to worry others!" and he was correct. Why care? Learn the subtle art of not giving a f-ck. stop caring just be nice to those who treat you as you treat them if they don't then unapologetically F-CK them. You're a doormat bro! sorry but this is the truth and you need to bring the change for further good bro. Gud luck
Lord I know this is just a Wojak vid, but this hits me hard. I was the nice guy my entire childhood, which ended up me being bullied all the time. My friends would use me as the scapegoat when they got caught doing things they weren't supposed to do, even if I didn't participate and just witnessed them. My dad never taught me to stand up for myself either, so I stayed like this up until now when I'm 22, bitter and lonely. I try to tell myself it's not too late to change, but it's harder following through with it.
Anyways, good video.
Pick up martial arts. It helped me out a lot. Don’t go to any of the stupid ones that teach aikido or Krav Maga. Just join an mma gym. It will turn you into 🗿
Be a nice guy, there's no problem, but don't ever expect anything in return.
Great advice from Chad that I would do well to learn
Great message in this video!!
It is okay to be nice from time to time, but don't be a pushover, because people will stomp you, if they think they can take advantage of your kindness.
Chad is being nice guy to wojak.
There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy but you need to value yourself and your time
The nicest thing you can do for someone is by not being nice to them
~ashneer grover
Don't be a push over, but be friendly considerate and nice. If people all quit being nice we will have a world full of arseholes. It can easy go back the other way just have boundaries. Sometimes saying yes to someone else is like saying no to yourself
I feel like the problem is more being a nice person in a world full of not so nice people.
Sad. But you cant be nice. Its a weakness.
I see mi old self . Same mindset .
I like how Chad only has 1 eye
Hes a cyclops 😂.
I pretended to be a nice guy so people would think they can say whatever they wanted. Because of this I heard many things about people
There is a difference between a nice guy and being a sucker
@@depression_isnt_real What I mean is you can be nice to people. But have some boundries man.
Apparently no one wants a nice guy but women love to moan about how badly men treat them??? Life skilled fucked
Chad is true Father figure
good, so from a guy, which is beign used by others, you has become a guy beign told by others what to do...progress....
First
nice guy on steroids ahhahahhahah
People Need Friend like CHAD
He even fks our imaginary gf 😅
thats ironic, because Chad cant say no to help wojak
@@Cortesevasive Not really, giving advice is not really putting Chad out .
He’s more of a mentor figure from how I see it
The sad thing is that I and many other people have a friend like Chad, but we ignore his help, because we are blinded by "love" and think she is the one, when she clearly isn't and continue to suffer until the point where not even Chad can help anymore💀
Its been about 2 or 3 years since I stopped being like nice-guy Wojak, life just keeps getting better
Thats what you think until you actually grow up bro
If you think you life is better cuz u r acting tough due to being so weak inside then u gotta ask urself questions
@Just whip up the work "acting tough" lol. Nah, just done with leeches who were abusing my kindness
@@gatergates8813 Thats not being kind, thats being retarded, if u cant even tell whos leeching u in the first place haha u fake azz
@@gatergates8813nice work bro! As soon as I stopped placating to the naysayers and leeches I owned my floating home and 4 boats in 3 years
I think there’s a difference between being nice and allowing everyone to basically step on you. I basically try to be friendly with everyone around me, but I obviously still have a backbone. That’s my take on it.
Agreed, bring cosy anything it's just if you take the "being nice" to a whole nother level then it's things things chang
I'm perceived as a nice guy but it's really only a pleasant demeanor and personality. And, that's because I find it effective during day-to-day activities. I say: "no" alot and I'm only doing favors if you agree to pay or give me something so I think its fair. So, really, how "nice" is that? Heh
I have learned that kindness is a far better trait than niceness.
Don't look for trouble and conflict on purpose, but don't avoid them when they arrive at your doorstep. Keep the frame.
Why can't I have a frnd like chad😢
This is funny and educating at the same time
magic money wojak is a lot better this is just copy paste … zero effort
@@cryptoking6314 eh I'd agree a little bit, he could've just used other pngs of examples but hey he has not much of any ideas.
Treat women like crap and they love you. The more dangerous you are they will love you to death. The door day opening for women is over. The flower Days are over.
you cant be a nice guy in a world full of not so nice people, they will take advantage of you, thats the sad reality
Chad is the one who is being nice or otherwise no one helps a man in distress nowadays
That's true. Even other men will bash other men. But there's some that will help you. It just won't be pretty.
Guys, it's okay to help others than rely on you. Just not at the cost of yourself.
Don't change from one extreme to other. Just pay attention and help the people that value you and would help you in such circumstances. Don't help people who are only trying to take advantage of you.
agree.
Nerdy guys, coming from a fellow, NEVER do a girl’s homework for free just to try to make her like you. Now If someone has a specific question to ask you about a concept, and they’re genuinely interested in your explanation and want to learn the material, that’s fine, but never enable these types of people who don’t give a F and just want you to hand them answers to assignments they have no clue how to do. Have some self respect and take pride in defending your intellectual property. We have too few advantages in life to be throwing them away to other people for nothing in return.
embrace nice guys
disrespect bad boys
If only everyone was nice
Well said
Kind.
Wouldn't that be awesome... My Empath energy would be thrilled.
The world would be so much better if everyone was nice.
Probably God's communism
Never be too nice they will take advantage of you.
Never say never
broooo why this story feels like its about me xD but i remember i was so mad when you doing good thinks and people still talks with you like garbage so this shit just changed me
Chad's really coming in to increase this guy's value in a brutally honest way. It's about time someone took a look at what their doing and realizing being nice isn't how you succeed in this day and age. Even back then, being nice wasn't really how people progressed. Stand your grounds folks, it's all you gotta do.
fawning or people pleasing could be a result of traumatic experience, good luck out there
Im literally wojak rn. My brain has always been the Chad talking to me, but never have i listened. I have become more disagreeable and decided to just stop helping others as much. I still fall into the trap of trying to please people and get closer to people. I now have this pet peev of people with a lack of awareness. I'm slowly becoming one of them
nice pfp
we all need someone like chad in our life. I know a lot of people got a chad figure in their life, but are just not paying heed to him. And there's people who just wanna improve, and constantly trying, but maybe they are just missing a figure like chad in their life.
This channel is a gem for us men short & simple educative and informative videos to achieve self improvement. Thanks Chad.
Work on your emotional intelligence. I find it easy to read other people and act accordingly.. but noone is perfect
I have a "friend " like this, I slept with most girls he had a crush on, he is a people pleaser and has no backbone. Most of his "friends" talk trash about him behind his back , calling him the virgin king, including me. He bought a new car instead of moving out of his parent's house thinking it would get him girls, but now is used as a free taxi driver. He parties and gets drunk every weekend and every time I see him, looks worst. Last time I saw him he was with a fat shaved dyed up feminist, buying drinks and food for her at a party. He supported her with all her opinions about the patriarchy, it was really sad and very pathetic.
People should know the differences between a Nice guy and a Pushover guy
Well, I do ppl's hws if they pay me.
Why does Itachi look different in this video? xD
Standing Chad being a nice guy teaching this to Wojak is an irony I guess.
So the problem is that we all needed Chad in our lives (which is a father figure)
Remember it’s not selfish to put yourself first. People only miss the old you because you made life easier. Do better, and always strive for the greater goal
It's actually necessary to be selfish not too selfish obviously
I would look more on building good principles, less on caring about yourself.
If you see people with bad principles I would speak more against them or giving them less of your energy. If you see people with good principles I would put more energy into those people. They will give it you back. Personally I more think society-wise, which actions could make the overall society better.
Long term everyone would benefit from it. Sure sometimes you have to be selfish, but too many people misunderstand this and overdo their selfishness and act destructive.
@@klerunder7769 An ideal society is one where the vast majority of people are able to easily take care of their own needs. Taking care of the needs of others is essentially charity.
Chad is the only true friend
The title is true though. You cant expect to get awarded for being nice. Being nice is just code for your not gonna make it in life nowadays. If you want to become rich you need to know what your doing and stop being so nice.
Chad is a genuine nice guy who likes to lift others up. His words hold value because he isn’t afraid to speak the truth even if it hurts Wojak’s feelings. Wojak isn’t respected because people can’t trust that he means what he says because all he cares about is wanting people to like him.
That's a nice guy. A person who lifts up others when they are down.
You have to read no more mr nice guy book.
I have this problem too. I don't want to pretend to be a person I'm not, because it's in my nature to help others.
This is also happened to me as well.
I worked at a tech company and a lot of my co-workers from different department who does simple IT tasks. They always asked me to help them out with simple IT stuff, and a few of them got promoted to higher position without doing anything much.
I didn't really care much about it, because I love doing my own jobs while learning theirs.
The same co-workers, who are now supervisors, decided to get rid of me by accusing me of insider-trading with the company stocks. They gave me two options, either get write-up or leave on my own. I left the company, and work for their competitors.
A few years later, the same company that I used to work for reach out to me that they want me back to their company, and they're willing to pay much higher salary than my current job. I was busy at that time and didn't have the chance to reach them back.
I met one of my co-workers (Jim) who used to work as supervisor in the previous company now work at the grocery store. We chat and I offer him to live at one of my estate until things got settled down for him. At the end of the year, Jim finally confessed all of the bad things that him and his co-workers did to me. I told him that I already knew lol.
Till this day, I am still a nice person, doesn't learn anything from my previous experiences.
I didn't speak out, because I have everything documented, and if the previous company or my co-workers decided to mess with my life. Be ready for that big juicy law-suit settlement.
We have nice and being friendly to people and we have letting others use you, Not the same.
Thank you very much, from now on I will improve myself.
I never realized I was like this until someone recommended "No more Mr nice guy." Now, I tell people NO. The people that I did hundreds of favors for are gone and out of my life now that I'm not useful and I dumped my last 2 girlfriends. 😁 Life is 100% better.
I'm quite an intellectual person. People really took advantage of that by using me for knowledge. My ego and confidence are low, but I'm trying to increase both. It isn't easy, but at least I'm trying.
this hits hard. I am a nice guy, I don't know why but im afraid of people. even though I know that im wrong but still I don't have the balls 😢
Acquire a gun.
I remember be nice with co-worker at office government, but people use me after 13 year work as errand girl 2021 me stop be nice people.
I love all the videos..no matter what...but stop switching the voices...Chad and zoomer should keep their voices...beer boomer and his dad can stay the same lololo
It's difficult to have healthy boundaries when you live at home with the parents and they don't model healthy boundaries themselves.
Being a nice guy gets you no where because most nice guy aren’t genuine in what they do for people especially women. You lose respect for yourself in place to please people who most likely don’t even give a shit about you
Chad being chad has its own reason , that's how you learn how to say "NO"
Sometime i do stuff for others, not the boring stuff but something that require skills or that you need a way to figure out how to do it. It's not because i'm a nice guy at all, but it's because i learn more stuff, i became essential and then, when i need it, i can ask for more stuff
Wojak is very lucky he had a friend that is always concern to him...
Dont confuse nice guy and carpet guy, I think the "stop being a nice guy movement" are from jealous people
I don't necessarily agree with that. Helping a bit and being useful can bring you a long way. Ofc you need tu get paid or get something in return.
Except these responses at the end of the video wouldn’t have been accurate. If you start telling people no they start getting pissed and in some cases even yell at you. Rejection is not easy. But that’s what the nice guy fears the most.
cuz of videos like this people are miserable ...telling people to not be kind and good human beings like jesus christ
Bro im like wojack people are talking to me like trash and i tried to stop conflict from happening but i ended getting consumed by the conflict i don't luke to figjt i get good grade im the top of my class yet still im getting treated like trash
Is it just me or does Chad look like Johnny Sins with a yellow party hat?
Never try to be everyone's best friend. It is an ultimate waste of time. I wasted almost my entire college life and early game dev career doing this.
After a nearly life destroying experience from 2017 to 2018, I give two fingers at nearly anyone and everyone and am far better off for it.
I have never been anymore free in my life.
Think you should be nice, but the reality is most people are quite selfish and you can't afford to give them more than they give back.
I like helping people though and I think you should. You do not have to be an asshole just cause others are. Treat the nice people and your friends well and if someone try to abuse you then avoid them etc or find a new job if it is your boss.
I've been the opposite of a nice guy all my life lol and this just makes me wanna be even less kind
Don't be a nice guy
Helping someone for free as a demonstration is fine but doing it for free after the trial period makes you more exploited than photoshop .
We can't ignore the fact nice guys always ends up being used.
I'm your big fan chad
dump it
Be a good man with a backbone
Green Day was right, nice guys finish last
Man the helping with the girls homework so you could potentially get closer to her hits too close to home 😂 proud to say I have completely transformed out of that stage of life.
If only someone explained these ideas to me 10 yeas ago...
Why is chads voice on zoomer ? 🤣
Be fair
Just be nice to people that are nice to you aswell
this vid is important, but you also need to know when to put others before you, especially those who you consider valuable
this is amazing!
Chad’s a great guy
Chad is a hero to many
This deadass adult pbs
Bro glad I found your channel!!
go check magic money wojak is tons better than this fake advice
sorry
Still, you should be nice.
You should smile at people, be nice, help people.
Even if you are taking advantage of some times...
Yes I’m stop being nice at all
Imma be the guy that dosnt say nothing an is never seen
Struggling with the same, hopefully soon I will overcome the always nice guy
Not all planets, countries, heavens, hells, eras/generations, or universes are treated equally. Being in a certain place or time immediately changing attitude.