@@protorhinocerator142 exactly, girl! once men and women hit the wall at 30, they regret why they used to get mad at people for appreciating their beauty in their 20s. It’ll happen to this RUclips creator soon too.
@@LeonSKennedy7777 Men don't hit the Wall at 30. Your value increases dramatically. 30 is the age where women stop getting serious offers from men older than they are. A 20 yo woman can get a marriage proposal from a 60 yo billionaire. A 30 yo woman cannot. So long as your value increases, there is no effective Wall for a man.
I'm a shelver for the library and I had an old man tickled me on my ribs right by my boobs. His excuse? He was "just having some fun". *Women and girls are not toys* and I include girls in that because I had an older man try and *take my daughter right out of my hand and walk away* because "she was cute"... Pure shock. I'm so glad my husband was there. Edit: This old man comes to the library I work at every single day, and today he chose to come sit directly where I was shelving books. He's always gone directly to the computer but not today. We just opened and the library is *EMPTY* so when I noticed that I moved from the adult section to shelve in the kids section. He waited for me to come back to that spot for 10 minutes, and when I didn't he relented and moved to the computers. I'm not the only one he's creepy with, and he sits in specific spots where he can get a good look at me and my other coworker. I wish they'd just ban him. Edit #2: Y'all... I am getting something new said or done to me each week. I do not dress inappropriately for work, but even if I did it would not warrant anyone to say or do anything to me. I was told today by someone else that I have cute little toes like french fries and he wants to nibble them. This happened before we opened while I was waiting outside to be let in and I can't do anything about it.
What in gods name?!?! I know creeps will creep but straight up just grabbing a kid from their parent and saying "their cute" like their some kind of thrift store find that can be bought or taken?! I would have lost my absolute shit if I even saw that happening, he would not leave the store unless he was in cuffs 😮
@@arsenbrooks438 It happened as we were walking in the store, and all he had done was just compliment my kid, and then all of a sudden he's grabbing her hand and she lets go of my hand and starts to walk away with him. I had no idea how to react! It stunned me, like I was truly dumbfounded by what was happening. My husband was not pleased, to say the least, and threatened the guy. It was all so fast and it was a pretty tame situation compared to what it could have been. There was no yelling, just the "if you touch my daughter again I'll fucking kill you" from my husband and the guy walked right out of the store. Pure shock. So much so that I didn't know what had happened right away but my husband sure as shit knew. Had he not been there I'm sure I would have reacted differently and it would have been a much bigger scene. I feel safe when I go out with him and I guess I let my guard down. Not anymore.
@@MetalSandman999 commenter was not trying to say these situations were necessary comparable, but that this type of behaviour is common and that it can get much worse and much scarier then the example in the video. They were making a point, we aren't inanimate beings or products. You can't just stalk us/grab us/touch us/make inappropriate comments at us, no one is saying the rude older man is on the same level as a child predator.
You're totally right, Just two days ago I went to the market wearing a loose, long, wide and black dress called (Abaya) and over my head a long veil covering my chest and my face covered with a niqab and despite all this there was an old man He follows me all the time and never stops looking at me even though his children/grand children were with him! I think I was the biggest proof that it's not about what a woman wears but what a man thinks
Doesn’t matter if I’m in a turtleneck and pants or a swimsuit…..creeps gonna creep. I was in my medicine residency two years ago, dressed in slacks and a sweater with a long white coat….and an older man literally followed me down the hallway into the hospital cafeteria and proceeded to repeatedly say “lord honey, them legs, mmm hmmm” on repeat as I attempted to ignore him and order lunch. Staff, other doctors, and patients visitor were staring but not one person told him to stop.
@@kaltwies The activity happening in your head must be so muted the doctors could mistake it for being clinically brain-dead. Quite the accomplishment, well done.
@dewchamp5716 Though rare (unfortunately not never,) there are some 13-year-old moms out there. That would equal 17. And I've worked with a woman who was a grandma at 38 (not a stepmom or by adoption with her or her daughter.)
When I catch a man staring I wait for him to look up and stick my chin out, widen my eyes and then raise my eye brows. Their reactions shows me they understand how it feels now to be judging someone for how they look to me. I always hope another man sees so he can learn to check himself. I've also been considering raising a brow and curling my upper lip when they look up at my face, when they realize I'm staring back at them, and say "control yourself"!
You’re kind of inspiring me to start giving them a crazy/scary look. Ive been tempted in the past, i will stare them down but it does not intimidate them
Sadly some guys haven’t learned the difference between looking and ogling. To see a pretty girl and appreciate her beauty is one thing. To drool over a woman openly is ogling and it’s disrespectful at best. I’m not perfect but I try to act in manner that mom would be okay with.
@@bobbiross272so true! It’s sad to see that society cares more about teaching younger girls how to avoid creeps than teaching guys how to NOT BE creeps (not that being a creep is something to be unlearned because it’s not an inherent thing from birth, but just the way the world teaches them to think and act)
@@emilymurphy4995hm I think it’s the opposite way around, if a man was never taught anything he’d be oggling and drooling over a pretty girl, a well mannered and raised right man would know not to be a creep But both have that attraction to women that’s not learned, it’s inherent in men
@@emilymurphy4995 you wanna know the fun thing? society care way more about teaching men how to not be creepy than it cares about teaching women how to not be creepy. Women are constantly creepy everywhere you look at but society is so bias that no one sees it as creepy. even though they are doing the exact same behavior that this old dudes are doing. But no one holds them accountable, and they never will.
My mom used to say "I'm so happy that I'm not responsible for other people's bad manners" It's on them, not you. Don't let it get to you. You will not EVER change it.
Me and all the women in my life started getting stared at by old creeps when we were like 11. It's seriously so gross. They would sit on benches in the mall and just watch us without any shame.
Oh gosh I thought I was alone, but your comment confirms it. What is up with these creepy men? We were kids! Thanks for sharing and not making me alone :)
Last week I had to go get something at cvs and this older mad saw me and stopped dead in his tracks (I was wearing a mini skirt an a random t shirt) this man started staring at me and following me so I told a worker that I felt uncomfortable and they walked me to my car and he was lingering by my door just waiting for me. Girls be safe out there and don’t trust everyone
My mom taught me this trick to pretend to be on a phone call with someone. I’m handicapped, small and used to get stared at a lot in public by older men. Once 2 really big guys were coming my way from opposite directions. I wasn’t sure if I was imagining them targeting me or if they were ACTUALLY targeting me, but I got my phone out and pretended to be talking to my mom and they went another way. On another occasion, I saw a creeper drum on this girls car whooping and whistling, I was so disgusted. She just ignored him. I’m like “thank goodness she was in the safety of her car” but I had never seen such open display of catcalling in my life and it was so gross. Ugh!
@@__Sarah__123 nope. Many women dress provocative to get attention. Don't be surprised if a man will stare. Which some of you will be absolutely fine with it if that man is 6ft+ with a six figure salary and a hanging sausage.
I’m a gay man and I catch straight guys staring at girls booties all the time, they’re never subtle about it and they always have a gross creep face on 😭 I’m so sorry you have to experience that all the time
Bro my UNCLE (that my aunt really gotta divorce soon like she pays for everything anyway) he was literally in a convo with my mom and some other people and his hand was right next to my moms ass cheek and HE KNEW IT. Bro I give him the side eye any chance i get
Pls tell me why they gotta stare even when literally everything is covered. I’m 13 and one day I was in baggy clothes just walking to my moms and this grown ass man started making extremely intense eye contact with me looking me up and down like there was something to look at. Moral of the story is you can dress in whatever you want and creeps will be watching so might as well just dress the way you want. I started a war in the reply section 🤭😍 To all you creepy old men you rlly haven’t changed my mind so might as well give up trying
@@cloudyskiees exactly. tons of guys think we just hate men and hate when they talk to us or look at us but we just hate men that are gross and perverted. we can clearly see which is which. today i was dressed up pretty nicely (maxi skirt and normal top) and this guy in his car told me i looked beautiful. i thanked him and i was so happy. because i could see that it was genuine and there was no special intent as he just said goodbye and went his way. whereas a guy just weirdly staring/following is just weird and creepy.
*She's so funny! And as for the continuing effort on the part of some women here in the comment section attempting to speak on behalf of all women on how men "staring" is always bad has been proven wrong by this girl making the video when at the end she reveals that this video was a prank on all such sexist women because she admits after all that attention she thought it was "So much Fun!" and it made her, as a woman, feel: "GREAT!" HAHAHA!!! Take care.* 😂😂😂
Like a decade ago, I wore a strapless peplum top to a family get together, and I greeted an uncle who showed up. He hooked his finger in the back of my top and pulled it away about an inch and said "are you wearing a bra?" I was absolutely mortified and creeped out. I kept my distance for the rest of the party.
Literally happened to me yesterday. I’m 28, trying to life a healthy life and what not. There was an old man (I think in his 60s) who gave me so many compliments and then called me “very suitable for impregnating”. He also said that he would love to “exchange our genes”. Like, what the fuck? Some old people are crazy af 😮
that must have been so uncomfortable oml I feel so bad😭 ilysm your videos are so great they always bring a smile to my face because of your personality it just brings sm positivity. I hope you’re having a great day love
And this is why if there’s creeps, or if I go to mall, I have a small backpack. In that backpack, there is one of two items: A: a pocketknife or B: pepper spray. If the establishment I’m going into doesn’t allow those things, I also have a metal water bottle on me. Oh- and I’m trained in basic self defense so yeah that’s helpful too.
I’m short 4’11 and I used to hand out the employee checks every Friday. I would hate it bc I would be at my desk and the older men would come by to pick up their checks and stare down my chest to the point I stopped wearing tank tops or anything with a V or Scoop neck outside and at work (I mean tank tops under cardigans or blazers). I have DDs I still get very self conscious and uncomfortable showing my chest (it’s not like I can hide it tho) but I’m working on it. I just wish these men would be more respectful like I’m not looking at you junk bro, move on!
I can tell you for a fact that short women are targets for all sorts of bad behaviour from men. You are also at risk for being trafficked, because you are small and easily subdued. So, do be careful out there!
Ugh, this is happening to my 13 y/o kiddo and I literally feel the most violent rage. My kid was in their School Uniform and the Pedo’s were not being subtle that day. We had stopped to get some take out and 70 year old man was just intensely staring and I yelled across the street: “What the hell are you looking at!?” So many creeps out there and it never matters what you wear, they are just sick people.
I remember these creepy stares and comments started around 12 or 13 for me too. It’s disgusting and made my skin crawl then and still does when it happens now at 28. There’s a lot of closeted pedos out there so far detached from self-awareness that they think it’s normal. And what further angers me is their privileged attitude as they go about objectifying girls and women. Like our purpose is only tied to their desires.. Causes many of us to disassociate and feel unsafe but no one gives a f*ck about that. We’re just supposed to “appreciate” being treated as less than human. I truly hope the younger generations become more aware of this and our society changes as the old creeps die off. It’s gone on way too long
@@ferndeluna7012 there's new generation of males which think that girls are at their prime at 15-20 and "hit the wall" at 25. so no, society won't change for the better if we won't start to actually fight back and protect each other. women support women ❤
What was worse was going to the water park I worked for as a 16 year old and seeing older men all alone and just chilling people watching, more like child and teen watching, if felt so so uncomfortable cause I can feel the sexualization happening and see it, it’s horrible.
It's always a guy in his 40s to 50s tryna get your number asking bout which school you go to or like 60s tryna grab your hand. Like I just wanted to go home man... Now I'm like 20 so I don't get approached anymore, which yay but also jfc why so many pedos fuckin' chill. But also they're old so like maybe they won't be around that much longer?
This was me since i was 11. When i was a child, totally inappropriate. Now that im a full grown woman, (I'm 42). I've learned to embrace my femininity. I as long as they are respectful, thank you for finding me beautiful. It is a blessing. If you are disrespectful, poke your own eyes out.
I understand and relate to your situation sis! Here's a REALLY LONG storytime: When I was 10, I had this beautiful sheen floral-print dress with below the knee length and puff sleeves. It is one of my favourite dresses to this day and back then, I used to wear it for every occasion possible. But ever since a guy, who probably was in his mid-20s, stared at me when I once wore that dress - with the kind of stare that people describe as "undressing with the eyes" - it took me months before I could wear that dress again and more months to feel as comfortable in it as before. It was at a fair, and I and my 4 y/o little brother were waiting in line with tickets to play on the balloon castle. This creep fxcker was the ticket collector and the stanchion controller. When I first caught him staring, I smiled at him like I did to everyone, but when I realised that his eyes never moved from me and his creepy ass face never changed even several minutes later, my smile faded away and I slowly froze. Since the line was big and only kids were allowed in the line, I had to endure that creep's stare for like 15 minutes alone (which felt like an hour). I remember looking at my parents, who were standing outside the line next to me, but not a single word came out of my mouth. They would have noticed my pale face had they not been talking to each other, but I actually wished they didn't notice, because I dreaded telling them how I felt at that time. I also remember counting the number of kids in front of me to ensure that I won't be stopped right in front of him when he has to lock the stanchion before my turn (which didn't happen, luckily). I also remember my hands shivering as I handed him my and my brother's tickets to him. What was worse is that he never stopped staring at me the same way, even while I played on the balloon castle. Because of that, I just pretended to have fun so that my parents' won't catch on and ask me what happened. After getting down from the castle, I dragged my brother and parents as far away from there as possible, making some excuse. STILL, this bxtch ass fxcker kept staring at me while making some hand gestures. Why does this incident still stick with me more than a decade later, and will probably stick with me for ever? Because that was the first time I have felt so scared and dirty at the same time. That incident also made me realise some of the intentions behind the stares of some men that I'd endured before and after that. I stopped smiling at people I pass by, ever since. It made me more conscious about my outfit choices than I already was, until a couple years ago. I'm sorry for everyone here who had bad experiences with some people's creepy behaviour. No matter how much the creep sympathisers try to gaslight you into accepting their behaviour as a "compliment on your beauty", your feelings and experiences are and will remain valid. Like we say here locally, if realisation doesn't hit them sooner, I hope coconuts hit their heads before 😂
@@shroudofclouds it's very effective 😂 when students here dread studying Newton's laws, they say that it would have been better if a coconut fell on Newton's head instead of an apple 😂 Btw thanks for reading till the end.
As a woman who still goes through this at 43.. as long as they don't say anything disrespectful, touch me or try to touch me, I just ignore them now. Unless they start to follow you, won't leave you alone after you've asked them several times... just ignore them.. I know it's awkward and icky feeling at that age, and honestly it still is sometimes, but once you stare back, they THINK you're actually interested in them and it just encourages them..
No that is definitely true because random side note story my old job there was this mega cute guy around same age as me always stared at me I would stare too CUZ DUH anyway one night I’m at customer service waiting for my check he goes to buy something looks at me I’m staring NOTICES ME STARING I LOOK AWAY MY ANXIETY BUILT UP I LOOK BAXK HES STILL STARING HE WAS ACTUALLY INTERESTED IN ME AND MY BIGGEST REGRET I NEVER GOT HIS NUMBER I tried but he quit right before I did anyway so random ik but Ooh he was gorgeous
Lol yep I'm in my 40s & still the guys stare at my body parts. It's so weird. Starts when you're 12, sometimes younger & ends when you're .. idk, I'm guessing 50 but who even knows.
@@pandapuffzee8255 thank you But unfortunately not right now bc I’m still waiting after a breakup with my fathers dad to see if we will get back together or not ofc i will only wait for so long but if it’s meant to be ik it will come true
Ignoring won't stop them either. Creeps don't need "encouragement" to harass you. In reality, there isn't much you can do bc as the victim it doesn't matter what you do, what you say or what you wear. If you want to ignore them, that's fine. If someone doesn't, that's also fine. Nothing makes you responsible for how other people react to you. Only tip I have is material arts. Every woman should learn how to defend herself and other women. Gives you much more options when dealing with the stares, too, bc you don't have to be afraid of violence if you *are* violence. 😎 I always stare down creeps bc when I look like I'm imagining giving them a quick and painless death, I am. 💁✨
A man oogled me at a bus stop and I was SO UNCOMFORTABLE/LIVID, and ANOTHER man had the audacity to tell me to cheer up because he’s just “appreciating my beauty” 🙃🙃🙃
@@buddyboy66 he ain't, no matter how beautiful someone is, u don't appreciate their beauty like a untill they allow u or feel comfortable by them complimenting, and we are pretty aware of who is creep and who is genuine.
To me the insult comes from assuming I don’t have self awareness in fact my mom comments on my appearance every time she sees me and is not even negative but is annoying is annoying when people acknowledge how we look, I have a mirror and you have eyes yes why do you feel the need to tell me as if I don’t have any awareness of these facts? It truly bothers me, but I try to control it bc I know is a very neurotic pet peeve
That's such helpful advice, isn't it? Not at all ignorant of how you feel or objectifying you further. It is just so blatantly disrespectful and dumb and awful. Disgusting. Inhumane actually.
When I first started working with the company I work with (before I transferred into grooming), one of my older male coworkers literally had to tell me to hide in the back room because one of the customers who came in is known for sexualising and demeaning the female workers. Another job, a man was flirting with me and asking for my number while I was making his burrito. I was 16. Another job, a customer came in every day just to chat to me. I thought it was friendly until someone warned me about him. I was 17. I've been yelled at while walking from much older men in cars. I remember this starting to happen when I was THIRTEEN!!! I was touched, boys and men put hands up my skirt while wearing my school uniform. At 10, an older guy grabbed my butt while I was at the pool. Even worse stuff happened that I will not go into but this is why us women are fucking scared. A cat call is not a conpliment. A guy yelling sexual things at us starting from childhood is not a compliment. Telling us to smile more because we're prettier that way is not a fucking compliment. Calling me a good girl at work is not a compliment. It's demeaning. Yeah, I'm scared to be a woman. Yeah I'm scared to go outside at night. Yeah I'm scared to be alone with men I don't fully trust. And that fear is sadly justified.
Fr fr I was at a restaurant for my cousins 17th birthday and this like FIFTY year old man says to me and my 14 year old cousin saying you have a nice body and then told us to come SIT ON HIS LAP being a girl is WONDERFUL
I feel you!!! When I was 21 and worked at an art supply store, I had a very sweet older guy as a frequent customer, who’d come in for framing his art. My work uniform was a blue polo and skinny jeans, and one day, as I was cutting some mat board for him, which required a slight bend at the wall mounted cutter, he commented “you make those jeans look really good” and it was an immediate ick. He went from being my sweet customer to being creepy. The frowny face exactly captures how I felt ☹️
@demon cyborg not op, but it's pretty weird to comment on someone's butt if you were checking them out. it's also kind of disrespectful to do that, and of course, there's also the factor of age. I mean a 20 year old saying that would probably still be icky but an old man? like... there's just this "ickiness" that starts to increase as someone gets older. we percieve things differently coming from different people.
That’s the reason some old guys creep me tf out. Because some of them are CREEPS WHO CANT TAKE THEIR CRUSTY LITTLE HALF BLIND EYES 🙄 off of beautiful girls like you- love you Gabriella💗💗
BRUH. I was at Harbor Freight, trying to choose a new spindle sander. There were at least 5-6 other customers (all guys) there, but four separate employees decided *I* was the one who needed help (the only woman, and the store isn't that big). They didn't even send me to the right section when I *did* ask for help, and I ended up finding it myself anyway. It's just so patronizing trying to be feminine presenting in a male dominated hobby. Why can't I be cute AND operate dangerous power tools with competence?
It’s not even just men who do this. One time I went to a park near my house when I was 13, and there were some girls there. We introduced ourselves since they were my age, and they seemed cool to me. I told them I was asexual, but they still made sexual comments about me (particularly my thighs) and joked about me dating one of the girls in their group. Back then I didn’t care much, but looking back it was sooo creepy, I’m glad I haven’t seen them since.
I hate how frequent moments like these are - like, I literally feel like I have tunnel vision on my inner world when I go out, the moment I am too aware of my surroundings I notice these things happening to me and other women, and it's so disgusting, it gives me the ick and I desperately try to get back to tunnel vision
*As for the continuing effort on the part of some women here in the comment section attempting to speak on behalf of all women on how men "staring" is always bad has been proven wrong by this girl making the video when at the end she reveals that this video was a prank on all such sexist women because she admits after all that attention she thought it was "So much Fun!" and it made her, as a woman, feel: "GREAT!" HAHAHA!!! Take care.* 😂😂😂
Mail lady here. I have a man on my route that comes out to get his mail every day. He never fails to tell me how beautiful I am and that I’m too pretty to be working this hard and that he could take care of me 😅 I just tell him that I’m too expensive for a single income 🤣 Moral of the story, unless you put your hands on me, you can look and dream all you’d like 🤷🏼♀️
This girl is funny, the expressions, the timing! The truth! As a woman, appreciate the sisterhood humour, and think men also would laugh about the truth! Thank you 🙏🏻 xx
Girlll I felt this on a personal level 😂 I had to go to the polish deli on Saturday to buy our traditional Easter dinner essentials. It was a little bit chilly (I am from MA) because of the wind so I am wearing plain black leggings, a t-shirt, and a zip up hoodie. Tell me how I had 4 different guys yell some variation of "Hey Ma..How you doin?" in the 15 minutes it took to walk there from the bus station. I have ended up buying a fake engagement ring to wear when I'm out in public cause it helps cut down on some of that nonsense. 😂
once when i was at school, this old man, i think he was like a supply teacher there, he opened the door for me and i said “thank you” and when i was about to walk away, he says “no problem, beautiful” i am a mino-
I am a young girl (13 years old) and I’ve experienced this too while out with friends and I know many others my age who have had this happen to them as well. It’s disgusting that this is happening. I also only really wear baggy clothes. It made me feel really uncomfortable so we left the place we were eating at. It was pretty gross 🤢🤮
It doesn't matter what you wear but I stopped getting approached as much when I became an adult. Not zero but still less. It really sucks that it starts and is focused when we're so young tho, stay safe out there
I'm around your age and I experienced this too! One night I was walking out with my family, I was wearing a oversized tshirt that night and some creep slapped my butt. An oversized tshirt ladies...AN OVERSIZED TSHIRT BARELY SHOWING THE BLOODY SCULPTURE OF MY BUTT-
@@rue_00 But, as it's solely her description, where they genuinely staring, or is she embellishing, for clout? Also, I can go dissociate, and start staring off into the distance, with no notice, rhyme or reason. I've done this, while "looking" in the general direction of a woman before, and ended up being physically assaulted, by three people once. (The woman, her boyfriend, and some other guy.) The response: The cop who broke it up let them go, and ordered me to "stop going blank around women."
@@CaitiffFTW *As for the continuing effort on the part of some women here in the comment section attempting to speak on behalf of all women on how men "staring" is always bad has been proven wrong by this girl making the video when at the end she reveals that this video was a prank on all such sexist women because she admits after all that attention she thought it was "So much Fun!" and it made her, as a woman, feel: "GREAT!" HAHAHA!!! Take care.* 😂😂😂
I get cat called AT WORK with a baggy T-shirt with my work logo on and and jeans with tennis shoes, literally the only skin that is showing are my arms, so tell me why when I go out in a dress or a tank with mom jeans, let alone a hoodie and sweats men STILL have the audacity to not only stare but cat call and baby talk me. Truly the disgusting world we live in as women minding our own business.
@@w.i.t.c.h.q.u.e.e.n it generally doesn’t, women can’t go out in absolutely anything and still get called out/cat called. We can walk around in trash bags and banana peels and I’ll bet there’s always that one guy that’ll comment on how “hot and sexy” we look🤢🤢
@@Alex-bl8uh no it doesn't- have u seen all story times and comments how women get h@rrashed NO MATTER of the clothes. it is aboslutely never victims fault and clothes do not protect
@@Alex-bl8uh sometimes it does and sometimes it literally dosen't. I was walking out with my family at night with an oversized tshirt, barely showing my butt or its shape, and some creep slapped my butt...So despite wearing baggy clothes showing nothing of my body shape whatsoever some creep can still slap my butt.
A few months ago this old man cat called my thirteen-year-old daughter in the mall I told my daughter to go somewhere else then told security and they made him leave the store
I'm not even that pretty but these things do happen. Not that much now that I'm older and wiser. That's why when I see younger girls being crept on, I turn on my mamabear mode.
I was walking home at 9.30 pm. Literally. And it was maybe 100 metres. Guy on a scooter slows down beside me 4 FEET FROM ME and proceeds to yell stuff at me?? Nobody's around. Dark as hell, no street light even on the MAIN ROAD. I have never been more terrified in my entire life. I wasn't even wearing anything too tight or too revealing. Literally no cleavage and a mid thigh short.
Yesterday it was warm for the first time in months so I was wearing shorts, a man walked up to me, made a V with his fingers, and stuck his tongue between them. I haven’t felt that violent in awhile 😭
They stop for you to cross in front of them for the same reason as holding the door. My hubby used to walk 10-12ft behind me when we’d go out sometimes bc he wanted to count how many men turned to watch me bc they didn’t realize he was with me 😂😂😂😂
I once went out with some of my friends, and this middle aged guy was sitting and craning his neck, like he almost had his back to me, staring at me. Like if you’re gonna stare, do it discreetly. I know I’m pretty, but don’t hurt your neck. Anyways, this resulted in my friend staring back at him, and all of the sudden there was a staring match between me, an old man, and an angry Italian man. So much fun
You are just insanely gorgeous! Not meant in a pervy way, just major female to female appreciation 😊 love the personality too, you're my spirit animal girl!
It literally happens all the time and you know what I'm totally fine with it, it's a boost of confidence honestly as long as it's looking and not touching.
This is my worst fear which is why I dress always with a jacket covering any spots people may look at. Of course I love dresses to! And nothings wrong with showing more skin!
For men everywhere, I am sorry you feel objectified. Our whole culture has gotten so ultra sexualized. When I’m out, I just try to remember I have beautiful adult daughters and I don’t want them to be creeped on.
Hey: it was like this back in the sixties and seventies, too you know. Also the fifties, the forties, the thirties...men are gonna look at women and many of them aren't going to be polite about it. Not saying it's right; I'm saying that's how it is and so young women need to learn how to deal with it until men learn how NOT to be creeps (which is "never", most likely)
@Sabrina-fl9bg This sort of thing has been going on since there have been young men and young women. And if parents aren't teaching their kids manners, then nothing will ever change. Me, I think young women have to "buck up" and stop relying on "men" to defend them, and be more proactive in ensuring their own safety. And maybe get it through their heads that indulging in substances that render them vulnerable i.e. alcohol, and make them aware that there are predators out there who are on the lookout for women who are drunk or stoned in order to 'take advantage. A LOT of sexual assault could be avoided this way; if I had $10 for every sad story of sexual assault I have heard that involved alcohol, I'D BE RICH.
Yes guys like that make it difficult for the rest of us normal guys but please remember most guys are not like that. We're just trying to get through our day.
Im a straight woman and don't mean to stare but sometimes women are just extra fun to look at. I dont think its a huge problem unless someone starts talking to you or being weird. Now that I'm in my 30s, I get less stares than I used to but I didnt care then and I still dont care now. Its all in what you make of it but i think being beautiful has bigger downsides than people looking at you(like everyone assuming youre dumb, shallow or easy or when they see you as just a goal post rather than a human being). Live your life and realize that you wouldnt even know someone was looking at you unless you looked at them. It is what it is, and there are much bigger issues in the world🤷♀️
True, we all just have to learn to live with the fact that people with eyes are going to look either for good or bad reasons... I had really big boobs at 12 so I had to deal with staring, catcalling etc and it all made me dislike my body. As I grew older I've learnt to just ignore it and live my life, in fact at this point I simply can't care anymore, they can look all they want coz it's not like they can touch me or anything so with that I have less worries, get annoyed way less and now I only have to be careful of stalkers or actually creepy people instead of just passerbys that can't mind their business
Also you're totally right about women being really interesting to look at, after entering college I got initiated into the "passerby that can't mind their business" club, whenever I'm taking walks I can't help but observe the people around, of course I won't go as far as commenting but sometimes I do get my dress and hairstyle inspo from these passerbys, and there are also a bunch of beautiful people every where so I get taken aback alot and have to stare sometimes to memorize their beautiful features coz I'm an artist
I used to get so upset over things like that but I realized it doesn’t change anything. So just say “Ew” out loud and try to get away from the uncomfortable situation as fast as I can.
@@disappointmentsanddisgrace1210 I’m saying if these men weren’t old uglier guys, but instead same aged very attractive men, she’d likely be stoked and be all “a super hot guy finds me attractive”
As a fat, ugly woman, I don't experience this. And I would actually like to. Just once. So I know I can be desirable. But I know how gross it must be when it happens to people all the time. Some men only see women as worth noticing/talking to/doing anything for, if they're attractive in some way. If they don't find them attractive, there doesn't seem to be much point in even saying hi. The same kind of man who only befriends girls he wants to sleep with or date, because he'd see it as a waste of time to just befriend a girl he's not attracted to.
This started happening to me when I went from obese to an athletic body fat percentage. I genuinely thought I did something wrong or they were brainwashed.
A few years ago when my younger sister was 11, she went to the local grocery store with her friends dressed in a dinosaur costume. an INFLATABLE DINOSAUR COSTUME. only a small part of her face was showing but this 60+ year old man decided to walk over to their group and ask, “ is that a girl or boy in there?” and told her that she was much prettier than a dinosaur.
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"So I stare back, not that there's much to look at"
DAMN GIRL😹
Fr 😂
Ahaha
That is the appropriate response.
She's not much to look at neither. :/
@@kr4t0sg.28 fr
i swear if guys complimented us like cute old ladies do instead of catcalling they’d pull so much
they dont know how to do it and dont wanna learn, thats the problem😭😭😭
Grandma rizz
The problem is that old ladies view you as people.
Men who want to fu/ck you don't lmao
Eww. How about neither?
@@moonriver7439 I agree, neither is better. Both genders should go their own ways and society will cease to exist. That works out! 👍
“Not that there’s much to look at” 💀
1.1k likes and no replies? Lemme fix that, FIRST! 😁
@@mcr_3ditz I shall not continue this chain- 1.2k LIKES AND ONE REPLY ONLY? 😱🤯LET ME FIX IT 😤😤😤
@@Sayuris_DayDream 1.6K AND ONLY 2 COMMENTS 😤😤😤😤 I’LL FIX THAT
1.9k likes and only 3 comments LEMME FIX THAT!😁
Jesus this turned into a party
“I CAUGHT HIM! I CAUGHT HIM-“ **aggressive staring** “oN mY bOoTy” **meows**
IM DEAD 💀💀
1.3k likes and no comments let me fix that 😂
1.7k likes and 1 comment let me fix that
At 35 yo:
Why don't men stare at me anymore?
@@protorhinocerator142 exactly, girl! once men and women hit the wall at 30, they regret why they used to get mad at people for appreciating their beauty in their 20s. It’ll happen to this RUclips creator soon too.
@@LeonSKennedy7777 Men don't hit the Wall at 30. Your value increases dramatically.
30 is the age where women stop getting serious offers from men older than they are. A 20 yo woman can get a marriage proposal from a 60 yo billionaire. A 30 yo woman cannot.
So long as your value increases, there is no effective Wall for a man.
that frown was just spot on ✨
It was so cute😂😂
Took the words out of my mouth
Yeah fr just a
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Well she could wear something appropriate.
@@srji489 wtf?? So we should cover up so u preverts won't look at us?? So does cover ur eyes
I'm a shelver for the library and I had an old man tickled me on my ribs right by my boobs. His excuse? He was "just having some fun". *Women and girls are not toys* and I include girls in that because I had an older man try and *take my daughter right out of my hand and walk away* because "she was cute"... Pure shock. I'm so glad my husband was there.
Edit: This old man comes to the library I work at every single day, and today he chose to come sit directly where I was shelving books. He's always gone directly to the computer but not today. We just opened and the library is *EMPTY* so when I noticed that I moved from the adult section to shelve in the kids section. He waited for me to come back to that spot for 10 minutes, and when I didn't he relented and moved to the computers. I'm not the only one he's creepy with, and he sits in specific spots where he can get a good look at me and my other coworker. I wish they'd just ban him.
Edit #2: Y'all... I am getting something new said or done to me each week. I do not dress inappropriately for work, but even if I did it would not warrant anyone to say or do anything to me. I was told today by someone else that I have cute little toes like french fries and he wants to nibble them. This happened before we opened while I was waiting outside to be let in and I can't do anything about it.
THAT IS SO FOUL
What in gods name?!?! I know creeps will creep but straight up just grabbing a kid from their parent and saying "their cute" like their some kind of thrift store find that can be bought or taken?! I would have lost my absolute shit if I even saw that happening, he would not leave the store unless he was in cuffs 😮
@@arsenbrooks438 It happened as we were walking in the store, and all he had done was just compliment my kid, and then all of a sudden he's grabbing her hand and she lets go of my hand and starts to walk away with him. I had no idea how to react! It stunned me, like I was truly dumbfounded by what was happening. My husband was not pleased, to say the least, and threatened the guy. It was all so fast and it was a pretty tame situation compared to what it could have been. There was no yelling, just the "if you touch my daughter again I'll fucking kill you" from my husband and the guy walked right out of the store. Pure shock. So much so that I didn't know what had happened right away but my husband sure as shit knew. Had he not been there I'm sure I would have reacted differently and it would have been a much bigger scene. I feel safe when I go out with him and I guess I let my guard down. Not anymore.
That is certainly not appropriate. Though I daresay it is multiple levels beyond what happened here 🤔
@@MetalSandman999 commenter was not trying to say these situations were necessary comparable, but that this type of behaviour is common and that it can get much worse and much scarier then the example in the video. They were making a point, we aren't inanimate beings or products. You can't just stalk us/grab us/touch us/make inappropriate comments at us, no one is saying the rude older man is on the same level as a child predator.
Don't ever let creeps make you feel like you can't feel cute. Dress how you want and carry pepper spray 😊
YEAH.
Or a pen.... ink poisoning can be a b*tch
PLS THE PEPPER SPRAY WITH THAT EMOJI HELP MY SIDES HURT 😭😭
mhm!
You're totally right, Just two days ago I went to the market wearing a loose, long, wide and black dress called (Abaya) and over my head a long veil covering my chest and my face covered with a niqab and despite all this there was an old man He follows me all the time and never stops looking at me even though his children/grand children were with him!
I think I was the biggest proof that it's not about what a woman wears but what a man thinks
Doesn’t matter if I’m in a turtleneck and pants or a swimsuit…..creeps gonna creep. I was in my medicine residency two years ago, dressed in slacks and a sweater with a long white coat….and an older man literally followed me down the hallway into the hospital cafeteria and proceeded to repeatedly say “lord honey, them legs, mmm hmmm” on repeat as I attempted to ignore him and order lunch. Staff, other doctors, and patients visitor were staring but not one person told him to stop.
You should get a husband and become a housewife.
Problems solved.
You’re welcome.
Neither did you?
@@kaltwies how does becoming a housewife solve this 😃
@@o0blubblub0oIn a professional setting, it's more than appropriate to ignore obscene behavior.
@@kaltwies The activity happening in your head must be so muted the doctors could mistake it for being clinically brain-dead.
Quite the accomplishment, well done.
i am 30 now so i get to say both "i am young enough to be your daughter sir..." and "boy i could be your mother" someone put me down
LOL IM 30 and USING THIS!
You get harassed by 10-year-olds?
HAHA I LOVE THIS
@dewchamp5716 Though rare (unfortunately not never,) there are some 13-year-old moms out there. That would equal 17.
And I've worked with a woman who was a grandma at 38 (not a stepmom or by adoption with her or her daughter.)
@@initialcreationdon't work or shop near teens much, do you?
When I catch a man staring I wait for him to look up and stick my chin out, widen my eyes and then raise my eye brows. Their reactions shows me they understand how it feels now to be judging someone for how they look to me. I always hope another man sees so he can learn to check himself. I've also been considering raising a brow and curling my upper lip when they look up at my face, when they realize I'm staring back at them, and say "control yourself"!
Love ahaha I’ve recently started dramatically rolling my eyes and saying “watch your eyes!” If I feel safe to do so that is … lol
@Verena2022 nice! Lol, I'm gonna use the eye roll and sass now too 😂
You’re kind of inspiring me to start giving them a crazy/scary look. Ive been tempted in the past, i will stare them down but it does not intimidate them
@baddieMario77 yeessss! Love that. The more we do, the better. Men need to be called out for their lack of respect and general lack of self control!
yeah because girls never stare at butts, boobs or crotches.
Sadly some guys haven’t learned the difference between looking and ogling. To see a pretty girl and appreciate her beauty is one thing. To drool over a woman openly is ogling and it’s disrespectful at best. I’m not perfect but I try to act in manner that mom would be okay with.
This is what we need to teach the younger boys!
@@bobbiross272so true! It’s sad to see that society cares more about teaching younger girls how to avoid creeps than teaching guys how to NOT BE creeps (not that being a creep is something to be unlearned because it’s not an inherent thing from birth, but just the way the world teaches them to think and act)
@@emilymurphy4995hm I think it’s the opposite way around, if a man was never taught anything he’d be oggling and drooling over a pretty girl, a well mannered and raised right man would know not to be a creep
But both have that attraction to women that’s not learned, it’s inherent in men
@@emilymurphy4995 you wanna know the fun thing? society care way more about teaching men how to not be creepy than it cares about teaching women how to not be creepy. Women are constantly creepy everywhere you look at but society is so bias that no one sees it as creepy. even though they are doing the exact same behavior that this old dudes are doing. But no one holds them accountable, and they never will.
W Man 🔥
My mom used to say "I'm so happy that I'm not responsible for other people's bad manners"
It's on them, not you. Don't let it get to you. You will not EVER change it.
smart mom
i needed to hear this & am using this from now on, thank you 🥹👉🏼👈🏼
I took a screenshot from this and I will put in my notes. This advice is gold.
Me and all the women in my life started getting stared at by old creeps when we were like 11. It's seriously so gross. They would sit on benches in the mall and just watch us without any shame.
Oh gosh I thought I was alone, but your comment confirms it. What is up with these creepy men? We were kids!
Thanks for sharing and not making me alone :)
@@redfirebelle Its so common! No young girl should feel the way they make us feel. I hate hearing it from other women but i do so often ❤
@@kylieshaye6562 yes agreed
god i’m so sorry that happened to both of you x
@@username_________8 appreciate you!
Last week I had to go get something at cvs and this older mad saw me and stopped dead in his tracks (I was wearing a mini skirt an a random t shirt) this man started staring at me and following me so I told a worker that I felt uncomfortable and they walked me to my car and he was lingering by my door just waiting for me. Girls be safe out there and don’t trust everyone
My mom taught me this trick to pretend to be on a phone call with someone. I’m handicapped, small and used to get stared at a lot in public by older men. Once 2 really big guys were coming my way from opposite directions. I wasn’t sure if I was imagining them targeting me or if they were ACTUALLY targeting me, but I got my phone out and pretended to be talking to my mom and they went another way. On another occasion, I saw a creeper drum on this girls car whooping and whistling, I was so disgusted. She just ignored him. I’m like “thank goodness she was in the safety of her car” but I had never seen such open display of catcalling in my life and it was so gross. Ugh!
@@kr4t0sg.28 what- what do u mean?????? that it's her fault??? ohgod no please say ur kidding
@@__Sarah__123 nope. Many women dress provocative to get attention. Don't be surprised if a man will stare. Which some of you will be absolutely fine with it if that man is 6ft+ with a six figure salary and a hanging sausage.
@@kr4t0sg.28 and this is why you'll never touch a woman
@@kr4t0sg.28 wym?
I’m a gay man and I catch straight guys staring at girls booties all the time, they’re never subtle about it and they always have a gross creep face on 😭 I’m so sorry you have to experience that all the time
Thankyou love❤
its almost like they’re pround of staring 😭
Bro my UNCLE (that my aunt really gotta divorce soon like she pays for everything anyway) he was literally in a convo with my mom and some other people and his hand was right next to my moms ass cheek and HE KNEW IT. Bro I give him the side eye any chance i get
@@iiBleuFloraii ew wtf he deserves more than the bombastic side eye. Ew hes frikin disgusting
Yeah like what are they wild animals 😂
“Put on a tube top and a maxi skirt. A MAXI skirt!!” 😂
And “staring. STARING” Or “tell me. TELL ME” 🤣
A tube top. With boobs bouncing and nipples a-poppin', and then act like you "can't understand" why someone would stare at you.
Pls tell me why they gotta stare even when literally everything is covered. I’m 13 and one day I was in baggy clothes just walking to my moms and this grown ass man started making extremely intense eye contact with me looking me up and down like there was something to look at. Moral of the story is you can dress in whatever you want and creeps will be watching so might as well just dress the way you want.
I started a war in the reply section 🤭😍
To all you creepy old men you rlly haven’t changed my mind so might as well give up trying
they probably enjoy the 'position of power' and making u feel uncomfortable
It's the fact that you're so young. Most old creeps are pedophiles
It's a shame you've had to learn this, at such a young age.
@@cloudyskiees exactly. tons of guys think we just hate men and hate when they talk to us or look at us but we just hate men that are gross and perverted. we can clearly see which is which. today i was dressed up pretty nicely (maxi skirt and normal top) and this guy in his car told me i looked beautiful. i thanked him and i was so happy. because i could see that it was genuine and there was no special intent as he just said goodbye and went his way. whereas a guy just weirdly staring/following is just weird and creepy.
@@cloudyskiees fr it’s just so horrible
That was so poetic thank you for your insight ❤️🫶
💀😭
“I caught him-I CAUGHT HIM 👀 on my booty ☹️”
LMAO😭
She did the perfect sad face lpl
*She's so funny! And as for the continuing effort on the part of some women here in the comment section attempting to speak on behalf of all women on how men "staring" is always bad has been proven wrong by this girl making the video when at the end she reveals that this video was a prank on all such sexist women because she admits after all that attention she thought it was "So much Fun!" and it made her, as a woman, feel: "GREAT!" HAHAHA!!! Take care.*
😂😂😂
Like a decade ago, I wore a strapless peplum top to a family get together, and I greeted an uncle who showed up. He hooked his finger in the back of my top and pulled it away about an inch and said "are you wearing a bra?" I was absolutely mortified and creeped out. I kept my distance for the rest of the party.
So sorry you had to deal with such a creep - your own relative! Disgusting.
Men are creeps in every single situations.
Again 'not all men' but always a man
Literally happened to me yesterday. I’m 28, trying to life a healthy life and what not. There was an old man (I think in his 60s) who gave me so many compliments and then called me “very suitable for impregnating”. He also said that he would love to “exchange our genes”. Like, what the fuck? Some old people are crazy af 😮
Slap him he deserves it
… Please tell me this is joke. I beg you.
Ewwwww
@@nezoon6587a slap to a guy’s face isn’t going to affect him much tbh. I mean what’s it gonna do besides make him a little mad?
😵🤢🤮
that must have been so uncomfortable oml I feel so bad😭 ilysm your videos are so great they always bring a smile to my face because of your personality it just brings sm positivity. I hope you’re having a great day love
Ye positivity really radiates off of her, I must say
And this is why if there’s creeps, or if I go to mall, I have a small backpack. In that backpack, there is one of two items: A: a pocketknife or B: pepper spray. If the establishment I’m going into doesn’t allow those things, I also have a metal water bottle on me. Oh- and I’m trained in basic self defense so yeah that’s helpful too.
I love bringing sharp hairpins and practicing a stabbing motion for the eyes. ✌🏻😌💖
I feel like this video is giving the opposite of your sentiment, peeps meow at fellow cats, not the dogs.
Infortunately you can't stab someone for staring or catcalling, so you just have to endure it...
@@PataPtichou are we commenting on the same video? Or do you just disagree with Dadvocate?
@@PataPtichouare you allowed to do anything if they playfully pin you against the wall?
I’m short 4’11 and I used to hand out the employee checks every Friday. I would hate it bc I would be at my desk and the older men would come by to pick up their checks and stare down my chest to the point I stopped wearing tank tops or anything with a V or Scoop neck outside and at work (I mean tank tops under cardigans or blazers). I have DDs
I still get very self conscious and uncomfortable showing my chest (it’s not like I can hide it tho) but I’m working on it. I just wish these men would be more respectful like I’m not looking at you junk bro, move on!
I can tell you for a fact that short women are targets for all sorts of bad behaviour from men. You are also at risk for being trafficked, because you are small and easily subdued. So, do be careful out there!
@@BabalonNuit Omg I didn’t even think of that ty
Ugh, this is happening to my 13 y/o kiddo and I literally feel the most violent rage. My kid was in their School Uniform and the Pedo’s were not being subtle that day. We had stopped to get some take out and 70 year old man was just intensely staring and I yelled across the street: “What the hell are you looking at!?” So many creeps out there and it never matters what you wear, they are just sick people.
I remember these creepy stares and comments started around 12 or 13 for me too. It’s disgusting and made my skin crawl then and still does when it happens now at 28. There’s a lot of closeted pedos out there so far detached from self-awareness that they think it’s normal. And what further angers me is their privileged attitude as they go about objectifying girls and women. Like our purpose is only tied to their desires.. Causes many of us to disassociate and feel unsafe but no one gives a f*ck about that. We’re just supposed to “appreciate” being treated as less than human. I truly hope the younger generations become more aware of this and our society changes as the old creeps die off. It’s gone on way too long
im so glad you yelled at him. i bet your daughter was mortified and secretly very grateful lol. it starts so young, it's awful
"My kid was in their uniform..."
Their...?
You don't know your daughter's pronouns?
@@ferndeluna7012 there's new generation of males which think that girls are at their prime at 15-20 and "hit the wall" at 25. so no, society won't change for the better if we won't start to actually fight back and protect each other. women support women ❤
@@nikolavojnovic6552 you look like a thumb. what is your pronoun?
NOT THE OLD MEN 😭😭😭
Nah bc they are wayyyy out of their days
like grandpa chill
Always always always the old men
What was worse was going to the water park I worked for as a 16 year old and seeing older men all alone and just chilling people watching, more like child and teen watching, if felt so so uncomfortable cause I can feel the sexualization happening and see it, it’s horrible.
It's always a guy in his 40s to 50s tryna get your number asking bout which school you go to or like 60s tryna grab your hand. Like I just wanted to go home man... Now I'm like 20 so I don't get approached anymore, which yay but also jfc why so many pedos fuckin' chill. But also they're old so like maybe they won't be around that much longer?
The highlights are slaying rn ✨✨
I love how she says gentlemen even though they don’t rightfully deserve that title.
There is a difference in appreciating someone’s beauty and just being a pig. You are gorgeous ❤
This was me since i was 11. When i was a child, totally inappropriate. Now that im a full grown woman, (I'm 42). I've learned to embrace my femininity. I as long as they are respectful, thank you for finding me beautiful. It is a blessing. If you are disrespectful, poke your own eyes out.
I love this, you sound like a badass ❤😁
I wouldn’t even call them gentlemen at that point😒
Also her face: ☹️
Ikr FR
I understand and relate to your situation sis! Here's a REALLY LONG storytime:
When I was 10, I had this beautiful sheen floral-print dress with below the knee length and puff sleeves. It is one of my favourite dresses to this day and back then, I used to wear it for every occasion possible. But ever since a guy, who probably was in his mid-20s, stared at me when I once wore that dress - with the kind of stare that people describe as "undressing with the eyes" - it took me months before I could wear that dress again and more months to feel as comfortable in it as before.
It was at a fair, and I and my 4 y/o little brother were waiting in line with tickets to play on the balloon castle. This creep fxcker was the ticket collector and the stanchion controller. When I first caught him staring, I smiled at him like I did to everyone, but when I realised that his eyes never moved from me and his creepy ass face never changed even several minutes later, my smile faded away and I slowly froze. Since the line was big and only kids were allowed in the line, I had to endure that creep's stare for like 15 minutes alone (which felt like an hour). I remember looking at my parents, who were standing outside the line next to me, but not a single word came out of my mouth. They would have noticed my pale face had they not been talking to each other, but I actually wished they didn't notice, because I dreaded telling them how I felt at that time. I also remember counting the number of kids in front of me to ensure that I won't be stopped right in front of him when he has to lock the stanchion before my turn (which didn't happen, luckily). I also remember my hands shivering as I handed him my and my brother's tickets to him.
What was worse is that he never stopped staring at me the same way, even while I played on the balloon castle. Because of that, I just pretended to have fun so that my parents' won't catch on and ask me what happened. After getting down from the castle, I dragged my brother and parents as far away from there as possible, making some excuse. STILL, this bxtch ass fxcker kept staring at me while making some hand gestures.
Why does this incident still stick with me more than a decade later, and will probably stick with me for ever? Because that was the first time I have felt so scared and dirty at the same time. That incident also made me realise some of the intentions behind the stares of some men that I'd endured before and after that. I stopped smiling at people I pass by, ever since. It made me more conscious about my outfit choices than I already was, until a couple years ago.
I'm sorry for everyone here who had bad experiences with some people's creepy behaviour. No matter how much the creep sympathisers try to gaslight you into accepting their behaviour as a "compliment on your beauty", your feelings and experiences are and will remain valid. Like we say here locally, if realisation doesn't hit them sooner, I hope coconuts hit their heads before 😂
I agree with the coconut thing. the coconuts would be doing us all a favor 😂
@@shroudofclouds it's very effective 😂 when students here dread studying Newton's laws, they say that it would have been better if a coconut fell on Newton's head instead of an apple 😂
Btw thanks for reading till the end.
As a woman who still goes through this at 43.. as long as they don't say anything disrespectful, touch me or try to touch me, I just ignore them now. Unless they start to follow you, won't leave you alone after you've asked them several times... just ignore them.. I know it's awkward and icky feeling at that age, and honestly it still is sometimes, but once you stare back, they THINK you're actually interested in them and it just encourages them..
No that is definitely true because random side note story my old job there was this mega cute guy around same age as me always stared at me I would stare too CUZ DUH anyway one night I’m at customer service waiting for my check he goes to buy something looks at me I’m staring NOTICES ME STARING I LOOK AWAY MY ANXIETY BUILT UP I LOOK BAXK HES STILL STARING HE WAS ACTUALLY INTERESTED IN ME AND MY BIGGEST REGRET I NEVER GOT HIS NUMBER I tried but he quit right before I did anyway so random ik but Ooh he was gorgeous
@@beegr8t a tiny off topic but I hope this gives you the courage now to ask anyone who flutters your fancy.
Lol yep I'm in my 40s & still the guys stare at my body parts. It's so weird. Starts when you're 12, sometimes younger & ends when you're .. idk, I'm guessing 50 but who even knows.
@@pandapuffzee8255 thank you
But unfortunately not right now bc I’m still waiting after a breakup with my fathers dad to see if we will get back together or not ofc i will only wait for so long but if it’s meant to be ik it will come true
Ignoring won't stop them either. Creeps don't need "encouragement" to harass you. In reality, there isn't much you can do bc as the victim it doesn't matter what you do, what you say or what you wear.
If you want to ignore them, that's fine. If someone doesn't, that's also fine. Nothing makes you responsible for how other people react to you.
Only tip I have is material arts. Every woman should learn how to defend herself and other women. Gives you much more options when dealing with the stares, too, bc you don't have to be afraid of violence if you *are* violence. 😎 I always stare down creeps bc when I look like I'm imagining giving them a quick and painless death, I am. 💁✨
A man oogled me at a bus stop and I was SO UNCOMFORTABLE/LIVID, and ANOTHER man had the audacity to tell me to cheer up because he’s just “appreciating my beauty” 🙃🙃🙃
@@buddyboy66 he ain't, no matter how beautiful someone is, u don't appreciate their beauty like a untill they allow u or feel comfortable by them complimenting, and we are pretty aware of who is creep and who is genuine.
To me the insult comes from assuming I don’t have self awareness in fact my mom comments on my appearance every time she sees me and is not even negative but is annoying is annoying when people acknowledge how we look, I have a mirror and you have eyes yes why do you feel the need to tell me as if I don’t have any awareness of these facts? It truly bothers me, but I try to control it bc I know is a very neurotic pet peeve
Being an attractive woman is so hard, you’re such a victim bby girl 😢😢
It's maddening how such perverted and vile behavior I encouraged.
That's such helpful advice, isn't it? Not at all ignorant of how you feel or objectifying you further. It is just so blatantly disrespectful and dumb and awful. Disgusting. Inhumane actually.
When I first started working with the company I work with (before I transferred into grooming), one of my older male coworkers literally had to tell me to hide in the back room because one of the customers who came in is known for sexualising and demeaning the female workers.
Another job, a man was flirting with me and asking for my number while I was making his burrito. I was 16.
Another job, a customer came in every day just to chat to me. I thought it was friendly until someone warned me about him. I was 17.
I've been yelled at while walking from much older men in cars. I remember this starting to happen when I was THIRTEEN!!!
I was touched, boys and men put hands up my skirt while wearing my school uniform.
At 10, an older guy grabbed my butt while I was at the pool.
Even worse stuff happened that I will not go into but this is why us women are fucking scared. A cat call is not a conpliment. A guy yelling sexual things at us starting from childhood is not a compliment. Telling us to smile more because we're prettier that way is not a fucking compliment.
Calling me a good girl at work is not a compliment. It's demeaning.
Yeah, I'm scared to be a woman. Yeah I'm scared to go outside at night. Yeah I'm scared to be alone with men I don't fully trust. And that fear is sadly justified.
Fr fr I was at a restaurant for my cousins 17th birthday and this like FIFTY year old man says to me and my 14 year old cousin saying you have a nice body and then told us to come SIT ON HIS LAP being a girl is WONDERFUL
People like that make me want to take a picture of their face and go to the police and tell them what happened.. because that's just gross
I feel you!!! When I was 21 and worked at an art supply store, I had a very sweet older guy as a frequent customer, who’d come in for framing his art. My work uniform was a blue polo and skinny jeans, and one day, as I was cutting some mat board for him, which required a slight bend at the wall mounted cutter, he commented “you make those jeans look really good” and it was an immediate ick. He went from being my sweet customer to being creepy. The frowny face exactly captures how I felt ☹️
I don’t trust men at all, especially the old ones.
omg, ew 🤢 I would actually throw up right in front of this creep
@demon cyborg not to comment on her body. Or just say "those jeans look cute on you"
@demon cyborg not op, but it's pretty weird to comment on someone's butt if you were checking them out. it's also kind of disrespectful to do that, and of course, there's also the factor of age. I mean a 20 year old saying that would probably still be icky but an old man? like... there's just this "ickiness" that starts to increase as someone gets older. we percieve things differently coming from different people.
But if its a 6ft. Chad type of guy y'all are ok getting hit on huh?
Anyone else LOVING Gabs shorts rn❤
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That’s the reason some old guys creep me tf out. Because some of them are CREEPS WHO CANT TAKE THEIR CRUSTY LITTLE HALF BLIND EYES 🙄 off of beautiful girls like you- love you Gabriella💗💗
BRUH. I was at Harbor Freight, trying to choose a new spindle sander. There were at least 5-6 other customers (all guys) there, but four separate employees decided *I* was the one who needed help (the only woman, and the store isn't that big). They didn't even send me to the right section when I *did* ask for help, and I ended up finding it myself anyway.
It's just so patronizing trying to be feminine presenting in a male dominated hobby. Why can't I be cute AND operate dangerous power tools with competence?
It’s not even just men who do this. One time I went to a park near my house when I was 13, and there were some girls there. We introduced ourselves since they were my age, and they seemed cool to me. I told them I was asexual, but they still made sexual comments about me (particularly my thighs) and joked about me dating one of the girls in their group. Back then I didn’t care much, but looking back it was sooo creepy, I’m glad I haven’t seen them since.
Can we just take a moment to appreciate ✨THE HAIR✨
Edit: thx for the likes
So true
Hopefully you’re not an old man… because if so, you may NOT take a moment to appreciate the hair.
@@psyche8187 I know you're joking, but even so, an old man wouldn't use ✨THESE✨ lol.
@@LivyRivy maybe it's a ✨SLAY✨ old man
@@BisexualCatWithPizza This is probably the ✨FUNNIEST✨ comment conversation I've ever stumbled across
We live in a World ✨😫 thank you for sharing this, it is so frustrating to still go through this day by day
I hate how frequent moments like these are - like, I literally feel like I have tunnel vision on my inner world when I go out, the moment I am too aware of my surroundings I notice these things happening to me and other women, and it's so disgusting, it gives me the ick and I desperately try to get back to tunnel vision
Everytime she said "so tell me why"
My mind goes straight to...
🎵 Tell me why,
Aint nothing but a heartache 🎵
HAHHAHAHA I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS
TELL ME WHY? Ain't nothin' but a mistake ~
@@minnie21434tell me why,
I never wanna hear you 🎶SaYyYyY🎶
@@mayy06-t9iI was looking for you saying HAHAHAHAHA I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS
@@michellebright8605 LMAOOO
this got me CACKLING
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the “mm. mMm Mm MmMmM” was TOO REAL
*As for the continuing effort on the part of some women here in the comment section attempting to speak on behalf of all women on how men "staring" is always bad has been proven wrong by this girl making the video when at the end she reveals that this video was a prank on all such sexist women because she admits after all that attention she thought it was "So much Fun!" and it made her, as a woman, feel: "GREAT!" HAHAHA!!! Take care.*
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@@Christian_Prepper chill it was a joke
@@Christian_PrepperDo you lack social skills???? That was obvious sarcasm.
Mail lady here. I have a man on my route that comes out to get his mail every day. He never fails to tell me how beautiful I am and that I’m too pretty to be working this hard and that he could take care of me 😅 I just tell him that I’m too expensive for a single income 🤣
Moral of the story, unless you put your hands on me, you can look and dream all you’d like 🤷🏼♀️
What happens if they do lay hands, knee in the balls? 😰
Very poetic!!! Love you point of view ❤️❤️❤️
This girl is funny, the expressions, the timing! The truth! As a woman, appreciate the sisterhood humour, and think men also would laugh about the truth! Thank you 🙏🏻 xx
Girlll I felt this on a personal level 😂 I had to go to the polish deli on Saturday to buy our traditional Easter dinner essentials. It was a little bit chilly (I am from MA) because of the wind so I am wearing plain black leggings, a t-shirt, and a zip up hoodie. Tell me how I had 4 different guys yell some variation of "Hey Ma..How you doin?" in the 15 minutes it took to walk there from the bus station. I have ended up buying a fake engagement ring to wear when I'm out in public cause it helps cut down on some of that nonsense. 😂
once when i was at school, this old man, i think he was like a supply teacher there, he opened the door for me and i said “thank you” and when i was about to walk away, he says “no problem, beautiful” i am a mino-
Wtf I’m so sorry :((
Literally love her sm 😂❤
I am a young girl (13 years old) and I’ve experienced this too while out with friends and I know many others my age who have had this happen to them as well. It’s disgusting that this is happening. I also only really wear baggy clothes. It made me feel really uncomfortable so we left the place we were eating at. It was pretty gross 🤢🤮
It doesn't matter what you wear but I stopped getting approached as much when I became an adult. Not zero but still less. It really sucks that it starts and is focused when we're so young tho, stay safe out there
I'm around your age and I experienced this too! One night I was walking out with my family, I was wearing a oversized tshirt that night and some creep slapped my butt. An oversized tshirt ladies...AN OVERSIZED TSHIRT BARELY SHOWING THE BLOODY SCULPTURE OF MY BUTT-
Stuff like this happened to me so much and i was just a kid, it's disgusting, sometimes they'd bump you on purpose
We absolutely looove feeing awkward in public and knowing there’s a chance someone could be following us home! GRL PWR🎉
I don’t mind a ✨RESPECTFUL ✨glance a “a quick look” but STARING is where I draw the line💀
She's talking about those intense creepy stares
@@rue_00 But, as it's solely her description, where they genuinely staring, or is she embellishing, for clout?
Also, I can go dissociate, and start staring off into the distance, with no notice, rhyme or reason. I've done this, while "looking" in the general direction of a woman before, and ended up being physically assaulted, by three people once. (The woman, her boyfriend, and some other guy.)
The response: The cop who broke it up let them go, and ordered me to "stop going blank around women."
@@CaitiffFTW *As for the continuing effort on the part of some women here in the comment section attempting to speak on behalf of all women on how men "staring" is always bad has been proven wrong by this girl making the video when at the end she reveals that this video was a prank on all such sexist women because she admits after all that attention she thought it was "So much Fun!" and it made her, as a woman, feel: "GREAT!" HAHAHA!!! Take care.*
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I get cat called AT WORK with a baggy T-shirt with my work logo on and and jeans with tennis shoes, literally the only skin that is showing are my arms, so tell me why when I go out in a dress or a tank with mom jeans, let alone a hoodie and sweats men STILL have the audacity to not only stare but cat call and baby talk me. Truly the disgusting world we live in as women minding our own business.
Because it doesn't matter what you wear.
@@w.i.t.c.h.q.u.e.e.n it generally doesn’t, women can’t go out in absolutely anything and still get called out/cat called. We can walk around in trash bags and banana peels and I’ll bet there’s always that one guy that’ll comment on how “hot and sexy” we look🤢🤢
No it definitely does have an impact what you wear. But there are men who have no manners no matter what
@@Alex-bl8uh no it doesn't- have u seen all story times and comments how women get h@rrashed NO MATTER of the clothes. it is aboslutely never victims fault and clothes do not protect
@@Alex-bl8uh sometimes it does and sometimes it literally dosen't. I was walking out with my family at night with an oversized tshirt, barely showing my butt or its shape, and some creep slapped my butt...So despite wearing baggy clothes showing nothing of my body shape whatsoever some creep can still slap my butt.
The sarcasm with the “so if your wondering being a woman its great it’s so much fun” was it for me👌
Can we just appreciate her beauty. Like looks at her SKIN. her hair is gorgeous. Her eyes are BEAUTIFUL
“A maxi skirt, a MAXI, ✨skirt✨” I’m dying 😂😂😂
The meow at the end just did it for me
that sucks, i’m sorry bc of that. i bet your outfit was so cute tho ❤️❤️
Agreed 👍💯
stop being a creep !!
Bro I don’t understand how people don’t like your eyes-
They’re so pretty!!!! Luv ur vids❤
A few months ago this old man cat called my thirteen-year-old daughter in the mall I told my daughter to go somewhere else then told security and they made him leave the store
Just getting milk one dude stared and when I stared back bc wtf he went “aREnT YoU PRetTy” 😭
"Not that there's much to look at"
GUUUUURL 💀💀
I'm not even that pretty but these things do happen. Not that much now that I'm older and wiser. That's why when I see younger girls being crept on, I turn on my mamabear mode.
This is so funny lmao. Love the emphasise on certain words!!! 😂
I was walking home at 9.30 pm. Literally. And it was maybe 100 metres. Guy on a scooter slows down beside me 4 FEET FROM ME and proceeds to yell stuff at me?? Nobody's around. Dark as hell, no street light even on the MAIN ROAD. I have never been more terrified in my entire life. I wasn't even wearing anything too tight or too revealing. Literally no cleavage and a mid thigh short.
Yesterday it was warm for the first time in months so I was wearing shorts, a man walked up to me, made a V with his fingers, and stuck his tongue between them. I haven’t felt that violent in awhile 😭
Shoulda replied back with an arm fisting motion 😂😂😂
@@anastasiya8314 😂😂💀💀
Wow that's weird ngl. I am a man and I don't understand what they hope for
LMFAOOO
OK.
This one is worthy of complaint. But these other ladies... dumb.
They stop for you to cross in front of them for the same reason as holding the door.
My hubby used to walk 10-12ft behind me when we’d go out sometimes bc he wanted to count how many men turned to watch me bc they didn’t realize he was with me 😂😂😂😂
I once went out with some of my friends, and this middle aged guy was sitting and craning his neck, like he almost had his back to me, staring at me. Like if you’re gonna stare, do it discreetly. I know I’m pretty, but don’t hurt your neck. Anyways, this resulted in my friend staring back at him, and all of the sudden there was a staring match between me, an old man, and an angry Italian man. So much fun
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣That is some really good entertainment right there lol
haha ha
You are just insanely gorgeous! Not meant in a pervy way, just major female to female appreciation 😊 love the personality too, you're my spirit animal girl!
“GoD fOrBiD” made me laugh unnecessarily hard. love you!
It literally happens all the time and you know what I'm totally fine with it, it's a boost of confidence honestly as long as it's looking and not touching.
I have had a few touch and it never goes well for them 😂
@@youmadbro9024What happens when they actually have the balls to touch? Genuinely curious.
@@PlomostriumGrastipulum honestly, I wouldn't touch them but they'd get a nice piece of my bitchy side lol
This is my worst fear which is why I dress always with a jacket covering any spots people may look at. Of course I love dresses to! And nothings wrong with showing more skin!
Same :(
I am very much comfortable wearing loose clothes and I still get catcalled. One of the reasons I don't like going out so much.
I love how you emphasize every word by yelling it a second time, it got me laughing so hard 😂
Staring staaaaaaaaaaaaring 😂😂
The glass doooooooor
A maxi skirt a maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaxi
I’m diying
honestly i would look them dead in the eye and when they notice, look up, then down and then grimace and go about my day.
I’m so glad I saw this comment omg
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I just look at the ladies dead in the eye back for longer, then they get the message, look down and I go about my day😊
For men everywhere, I am sorry you feel objectified. Our whole culture has gotten so ultra sexualized. When I’m out, I just try to remember I have beautiful adult daughters and I don’t want them to be creeped on.
Hey: it was like this back in the sixties and seventies, too you know. Also the fifties, the forties, the thirties...men are gonna look at women and many of them aren't going to be polite about it. Not saying it's right; I'm saying that's how it is and so young women need to learn how to deal with it until men learn how NOT to be creeps (which is "never", most likely)
@Sabrina-fl9bg This sort of thing has been going on since there have been young men and young women. And if parents aren't teaching their kids manners, then nothing will ever change. Me, I think young women have to "buck up" and stop relying on "men" to defend them, and be more proactive in ensuring their own safety. And maybe get it through their heads that indulging in substances that render them vulnerable i.e. alcohol, and make them aware that there are predators out there who are on the lookout for women who are drunk or stoned in order to 'take advantage. A LOT of sexual assault could be avoided this way; if I had $10 for every sad story of sexual assault I have heard that involved alcohol, I'D BE RICH.
the texan really came out with the "on ma booty"
Yes guys like that make it difficult for the rest of us normal guys but please remember most guys are not like that. We're just trying to get through our day.
Your hair looks so gorgeous!!!!
Im a straight woman and don't mean to stare but sometimes women are just extra fun to look at. I dont think its a huge problem unless someone starts talking to you or being weird. Now that I'm in my 30s, I get less stares than I used to but I didnt care then and I still dont care now. Its all in what you make of it but i think being beautiful has bigger downsides than people looking at you(like everyone assuming youre dumb, shallow or easy or when they see you as just a goal post rather than a human being). Live your life and realize that you wouldnt even know someone was looking at you unless you looked at them. It is what it is, and there are much bigger issues in the world🤷♀️
True, we all just have to learn to live with the fact that people with eyes are going to look either for good or bad reasons... I had really big boobs at 12 so I had to deal with staring, catcalling etc and it all made me dislike my body. As I grew older I've learnt to just ignore it and live my life, in fact at this point I simply can't care anymore, they can look all they want coz it's not like they can touch me or anything so with that I have less worries, get annoyed way less and now I only have to be careful of stalkers or actually creepy people instead of just passerbys that can't mind their business
Also you're totally right about women being really interesting to look at, after entering college I got initiated into the "passerby that can't mind their business" club, whenever I'm taking walks I can't help but observe the people around, of course I won't go as far as commenting but sometimes I do get my dress and hairstyle inspo from these passerbys, and there are also a bunch of beautiful people every where so I get taken aback alot and have to stare sometimes to memorize their beautiful features coz I'm an artist
Ok but some people don’t like it and it’s fine to express that dislike. Just don’t be rude. Not that hard.
I used to get so upset over things like that but I realized it doesn’t change anything. So just say “Ew” out loud and try to get away from the uncomfortable situation as fast as I can.
"Ew" is a great reaction! 👍
Or a throw up expression 🤢 or maybe just go ahead and throw up 🤮 on the leach.
The sarcasm is so agressive lol 😂❤
I was like "Eh, that's actually not a big deal-" and then she got to the MMH. Mmmh mmhh mmh. Like SIR, you didn't have to do allat!!
I love your username 😭
Damn you are correct and sexy about it
Girlll your ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS!!! ❤️❤️
She is just stunning ❤️
“The difference between being a creep and flirting is about 2 points in attraction”
yes.. They welcome Chad's attention
The point -> *
You -> .
@@disappointmentsanddisgrace1210 I’m saying if these men weren’t old uglier guys, but instead same aged very attractive men, she’d likely be stoked and be all “a super hot guy finds me attractive”
@ahh thats just grand Solomon was unfathomably based.
She said she got ready so she could garner male attention ,idk why she's mad
“On my Booty. :(“ idk why i laughed at that😂
As a fat, ugly woman, I don't experience this. And I would actually like to. Just once. So I know I can be desirable. But I know how gross it must be when it happens to people all the time. Some men only see women as worth noticing/talking to/doing anything for, if they're attractive in some way. If they don't find them attractive, there doesn't seem to be much point in even saying hi. The same kind of man who only befriends girls he wants to sleep with or date, because he'd see it as a waste of time to just befriend a girl he's not attracted to.
ur not uglyyy girl trust no one is though
*quietly but aggressively stares*
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“On mY BOoTy!!”
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This started happening to me when I went from obese to an athletic body fat percentage. I genuinely thought I did something wrong or they were brainwashed.
The way she's screaming to emphasize the disbelief i- ✋🏽😭😭☠️🤣
“a tube top and a maxi skirt. A MAXI skirt☺️”
IM DYINGGG
Love everything about all the extra inflictions she makes 😂😂😂
Also how do girlies get their hair likes this? She looks amazing 😩🙌❤
A few years ago when my younger sister was 11, she went to the local grocery store with her friends dressed in a dinosaur costume. an INFLATABLE DINOSAUR COSTUME. only a small part of her face was showing but this 60+ year old man decided to walk over to their group and ask, “ is that a girl or boy in there?” and told her that she was much prettier than a dinosaur.
BROO YOU'RE SOOO ANNOYINGLY BEAUTIFUL IT'S A CRIME😭😭😭😭😭