something one of ny psychiatrics said to me this year, that absolutely blew my mind - as it has never crossed it whatsoever - is that: where i’ve always felt like all i am is series of mistakes and failure after failure, chaos and not fitting into societys norms the fucking slightest, not being able to make anything out of my life really (norm wise that is!), to the point i have tried to end myself several times. he said all he saw and heard from my stories, was someone who continueously fought back to create a better life for myself. i never even thought of that, that i never stopped trying. i am close to thirtyfour years of age and am now diagnosed with adhd, autism, recurrent depressions, severe anxiety disorders, dermatillomania, body dysmorphia, eating disorders and chronic sleeping disorders. i’m mentally ill and it’s hell at times. but i’m alive. and i’m alright with that. but i was never alright in how i was treated for my ”shortcomings” in the eyes of society. and now i know i was never meant for it.
Not oversharing at all, this is definitely a safe space! I have depression, anxiety, binge eating disorder, OCD and currently waiting for an ADHD diagnosis and actually what you wrote was really helpful. We are doing more than our best ❤️ Sending you love!
Helen, I just want to say you present as a genuine, generous, kind hearted, intelligent, talented, funny, gifted and thoughtful woman. You are creative authentic and fabulous. X you have every right to the space you occupy in the world and no one has the right to shame you for being you. Where would we be without neuro diversity. Still in caves tbh. ADHD is a beautiful thing xx you have every right to call out people who wanted to squash you and make you feel bad for not being the same as them. Xx
i’m also trying to get an assessment for ADHD. i feel like it will make so much sense to me, i just feel like i don’t function like everyone else around me. i’ve just sent off a personal assessment so fingers crossed 🤞🏻
So good to hear all your news. I’m so pleased for you to be feeling so positive! My daughter met you at download last week, she was buzzing! We live in Cromer, just down the road from you but she bumped into you at Download!!! Keep being you! 🤩
Thank god for wholesome taxi dude also you can totally back up your procreate stuff I export all my brush packs and save to iCloud and then there’s also a setting I believe when you scroll all the way down to procreate in setting there’s a option to back all you stuff up to iCloud my biggest fear is losing all my art so I feel your fear my iPad has everything on it
Babes!!! I’m neurospicy too! Diagnosed last year, combined, at 42!! There was a lot of grieving my past; not understanding why people close to me didn’t listen when I knew something wasn’t right. I’ve been allowing my mask to drop a bit, which is pretty awesome (not as scared to reveal the real me). Didn’t realise how much of me I was hiding. I suffer massively with RSD and realised it’s why I’ve stayed in old relationships, why I read too much into stuff and also why I’m very much a people pleaser. There are also some other symptoms that make my docs think I’m also autistic too, so waiting for that assessment. Really looking forward to seeing your journey xxxx
I have found that watching Dr. Russell Barkley's lectures on ADHD (can be searched on RUclips) to be very helpful in understanding the mechanics of my ADHD, and thus helping me navigate it. His lectures tend to be long, but very informative and worth watching.
It's been really interesting to hear about your ADHD journey. I have Dyspraxia and was diagnosed when I was a child, but even now I question behaviours or personality traits of mine and think "is this my Dyspraxia or just me being weird?". Totally understand how you feel resentful to the way people have treated you in the past as well. I get really sensitive when people think I'm not trying with things, when actually, my brain is working really hard and people can't tell I'm overwhelmed by things. I know it's not reasonable to expect people to just get it, but it still hurts sometimes
I have dyspraxia and constantly question myself too!! When I'm overwhelmed i tend to just freeze up and dont say anything, and this can seem like I dont care, or i simply have nothing to say when in actual fact my brain is going haywire. Sometimes i feel like screaming to people that i act the way i do because of my dyspraxia, i wouldn't, but i cant help but be hurt when people are upset at something i cant help. You're not alone!!
I’m so glad you finally got a diagnosis! I was on the waiting list for a consultation when I was taken off as they are super back dated and can’t apply again for another 6 months
@@helenanderz thank you lovely! would you be up for doing a video or Tiktok of how you stay motivated with adhd? I find it super hard to tidy, I procrastinate a lot & am easily distracted! Cleaning one room takes hours! I start loads of tasks at once then get bored 😪 really struggling at the moment! Xx
I hope you don’t mind some unsolicited advice, but there is a great channel: How to adhd. If you didn’t know that one yet :) Also routine and breaking tasks into tiny chunks is key! I used to leave everything till Saturday and be so grumpy and overwhelmed. Now I do one little task almost every day. Even have a little schedule. If you built it into your routine (for example do it right when you get home from work/school before you even sit down), then it becomes a lot less effort mentally. Routine and habits beat motivation 😊
Giving up alcohol helped my ADHD by like 100%. May not work for everyone. But definitely did wonders for me. I was diagnosed at a really young age, and felt like a freak for it (still do sometimes) for all of my adolescence. I accept who I am a lot more these days :)
Hi!! Would you please share where you got the black swimsuit with fringe that you wore when you jumped into the water in?! (Was a quick video snippet that played when talking)
I could feel the happiness and positivity radiating from you whilst watching this video 😁 so glad you’re in a happier place. I felt the same when I got my ADHD diagnosis last year, it definitely helped me to understand myself better. Can’t wait to see what comes next for you xx
I went through all of this when I got diagnosed 2 years ago, there’s definitely a period of grief and sadness. I cried lol thinking about all of the parts of my personality that were always seen as flaws and something that I could help when really I had ADHD and just don’t function in the same way as other people. These feelings and acceptance get so much easier and it won’t be at the forefront of ur mind forever ahaha (the diagnosis defo consumed my life for a bit!)
1000% feel the same when I got dianosed with Autism. All the things people have made me do and all the many ways I have had to be, to be a part of society... I feel like you say resentment in some kind of way... Anyway you are an inspiration as always in so many ways - and what a lovely taxa man! - Also I LOVE your hair it is so awsome! :-)
@@salmetal01 that is so true, and I can relate so much to it!. And I really admire people like you who can use their own life expiriences, struggles and trauma to help other people overcoming their struggles and traumas, Very inspiring and beautiful done!
Fellow autistic here who got diagnosed 2 years ago and can also really relate to what you and Helen are saying. I'm recovering from a burn out and the first few months I had to process a lot of pent up anger towards people who forced me to act neuro typical or made me feel bad when I didn't/ couldn't. Also once again fascinated by how much overlap there is with autism and adhd because so much of what Helen describes is so similar to what I experience/ what I'm like.
How did you survive that jet setting!! I’m not sure that long surrounded people would be possible for me 😬😅❤️ sending love from Edinburgh ❤️❤️❤️❤️🏴
I changed my hair a month ago cause I loved your hair, now I love this look even more! I live vicariously through your videos now that I'm a mom and I resonate with your style.currently🍃 cheers from CA
Fantastic information. You will be helping a lot of people with your openness. You describe adhd/add symptoms so well. It's a shame that NHS waiting lists for assessments are extremely long. Being from salford myself. 16 months I got told of adhd360. So I kicked up a storm. And now I've been referred somewhere else. Unsure of wait time. Am not holding my breath.
Fuck yes! 🙌 Thank you for sharing this and being open about it! I feel I'm kind of going through a similar time in my life as well and I feel I'm more motivated and inspired to stay on track when "I have someone with me" 🙏💖
You just described me 🤣 It's very uncommon for a girl to get diagnosed with ADHD as a child. I was one of the very lucky few. When I was diagnosed there was ADD and ADHD now it's just ADHD. I felt like I was stupid for the longest time. But I know now I'm not. I just learn things a different way. Maybe a little bit slower but I get there. ADHD has shown me that I do have amazing qualities. Being creative is one of them.
In a similar space myself - got my ADHD diagnosis two weeks ago and it was very bittersweet but feels good to know where to turn now for strategies/support for coping through ❤️
Maybe go strattera for a month, non stimulant medication. Virtually no chance of becoming addicted need a full month tho to see the affects. It gives you a good lesson on how you should feel so you know what you need to aim for in the future medication free.
being self employed and running your own business are the best scenarios for ADHDers to be in with work and career because you can do whatever you like and need to get stuff done and accommodating your ADHD so you already naturally went that way! hopefully you can be more compassionate about those moments you talked about. i found that was the biggest game changer after diagnosis was learning to be compassionate with myself and relearning how i view and speak to myself
As a young shy inattentive girl i watched you be the creative cool person i felt was inside me and wished i could be, i wanted to be outgoing and confident like you. Now i’m watching going oh f*** yeah she about to find a whole new level of confidence haha and i’m excited to keep being inspired by you! I reckon the best thing about a late diagnosis is it teaches you to trust and listen to yourself more and strengthens your relationship with yourself!
Yay! You know your type of spice. Getting diagnosed was the most validating. It's made living and functioning so much easier, I can now treat my sweet little brain with compassion. I hope your journey continues to bring joy into your life. I love following it 🖤
We love you Helen x I have anxiety I was diagnosed about 2/3 years ago. And since that it’s made me understanding things and why I get over emotional over things
Missed your chatty videos! Good to see them back… 😍 (Is that an Abigail Ahern lamp I seee…. Bloody love them, have two! The gorilla and the baboon 😍🥰.)
This is how I felt after being diagnosed with autism! Finally feel like myself and it’s definitely a new chapter. Long time viewer of yours and love seeing you grow :)
Bless All beautiful soulz That's keep reading & writing and sharing with one Another 🕊️🖤🤍🖤🕊️ I Hear the Love & realizations and Revelations no matter who & what the experience has & had for us & otherz continuely build Grow 🪴 seeing more to reasons the seasons 😎😆😂✌️🤙🌯🌯🌯Love you guyzz Thanks for being apart of Helens world with me cyberly she's bin way ahead of her time as well as anyone from heart factz.
something one of ny psychiatrics said to me this year, that absolutely blew my mind - as it has never crossed it whatsoever - is that: where i’ve always felt like all i am is series of mistakes and failure after failure, chaos and not fitting into societys norms the fucking slightest, not being able to make anything out of my life really (norm wise that is!), to the point i have tried to end myself several times. he said all he saw and heard from my stories, was someone who continueously fought back to create a better life for myself. i never even thought of that, that i never stopped trying. i am close to thirtyfour years of age and am now diagnosed with adhd, autism, recurrent depressions, severe anxiety disorders, dermatillomania, body dysmorphia, eating disorders and chronic sleeping disorders. i’m mentally ill and it’s hell at times. but i’m alive. and i’m alright with that. but i was never alright in how i was treated for my ”shortcomings” in the eyes of society. and now i know i was never meant for it.
and perhaps that is me oversharing. 🫠🤸🏼♀️🙄
Fellow autistic here, sending you hugs xx
Not oversharing at all, this is definitely a safe space! I have depression, anxiety, binge eating disorder, OCD and currently waiting for an ADHD diagnosis and actually what you wrote was really helpful. We are doing more than our best ❤️ Sending you love!
Not over sharing. On the contrary, you sound like a very courageous person.
@@vivellaz thank you kindly, dear.
Helen, I just want to say you present as a genuine, generous, kind hearted, intelligent, talented, funny, gifted and thoughtful woman. You are creative authentic and fabulous. X you have every right to the space you occupy in the world and no one has the right to shame you for being you. Where would we be without neuro diversity. Still in caves tbh. ADHD is a beautiful thing xx you have every right to call out people who wanted to squash you and make you feel bad for not being the same as them. Xx
i’m also trying to get an assessment for ADHD. i feel like it will make so much sense to me, i just feel like i don’t function like everyone else around me. i’ve just sent off a personal assessment so fingers crossed 🤞🏻
So good to hear all your news. I’m so pleased for you to be feeling so positive! My daughter met you at download last week, she was buzzing! We live in Cromer, just down the road from you but she bumped into you at Download!!!
Keep being you! 🤩
Before I watch I wanna say how much I love your hair! I wanna bleach my underlayer now 😬
Thank god for wholesome taxi dude also you can totally back up your procreate stuff I export all my brush packs and save to iCloud and then there’s also a setting I believe when you scroll all the way down to procreate in setting there’s a option to back all you stuff up to iCloud my biggest fear is losing all my art so I feel your fear my iPad has everything on it
For anyone looking to get an NHS diagnosis look up “right to choose” fill out the forms and get your GP to refer you.
Babes!!! I’m neurospicy too! Diagnosed last year, combined, at 42!! There was a lot of grieving my past; not understanding why people close to me didn’t listen when I knew something wasn’t right. I’ve been allowing my mask to drop a bit, which is pretty awesome (not as scared to reveal the real me). Didn’t realise how much of me I was hiding. I suffer massively with RSD and realised it’s why I’ve stayed in old relationships, why I read too much into stuff and also why I’m very much a people pleaser. There are also some other symptoms that make my docs think I’m also autistic too, so waiting for that assessment. Really looking forward to seeing your journey xxxx
Missed your chatty videos - looking fab! Love how genuine and open you are. Hope you're well ❤️❤️
It was nice to sit and chat! X
omg I am soooo glad you got your bag back ! I was feeling heartbroken for you until the story unfolded. what a legend taxi driver !!! xx
I have found that watching Dr. Russell Barkley's lectures on ADHD (can be searched on RUclips) to be very helpful in understanding the mechanics of my ADHD, and thus helping me navigate it. His lectures tend to be long, but very informative and worth watching.
Do you think the lectures would be good for a spouse of someone with adhd? ( I ask because you said they were long 😅).
Def to long for me which is a shame he's the man
Yes! I’m in a similar situation and am listening to Dr. Russel Barkley on my walks every day. So many ah-ha moments!
That said he does get monies from ADHD medication companies.
Psychiatry uk is a good resource that is free and has shorter wait times than the nhs, you can find out about it online
I’m sooo glad you got your bag back! The anxiety in those situations is horrible. Love this video, needed something like this today 💛
It's been really interesting to hear about your ADHD journey. I have Dyspraxia and was diagnosed when I was a child, but even now I question behaviours or personality traits of mine and think "is this my Dyspraxia or just me being weird?".
Totally understand how you feel resentful to the way people have treated you in the past as well. I get really sensitive when people think I'm not trying with things, when actually, my brain is working really hard and people can't tell I'm overwhelmed by things. I know it's not reasonable to expect people to just get it, but it still hurts sometimes
I have dyspraxia and constantly question myself too!! When I'm overwhelmed i tend to just freeze up and dont say anything, and this can seem like I dont care, or i simply have nothing to say when in actual fact my brain is going haywire.
Sometimes i feel like screaming to people that i act the way i do because of my dyspraxia, i wouldn't, but i cant help but be hurt when people are upset at something i cant help.
You're not alone!!
I also have dyspraxia. I think we do have certain traits. However, Dyspraxia is not our personality. :0)
@@indiaplumtree2025 Exactly how I feel sometimes! Nice to know we're not alone 😊
@@lauragrillo27 Very true, and it's worth noting that there's so many symptoms of Dyspraxia, so it can manifest in people very differently 😀
I’m so glad you finally got a diagnosis! I was on the waiting list for a consultation when I was taken off as they are super back dated and can’t apply again for another 6 months
That’s bullshit! Sorry to hear that love xx
@@helenanderz thank you lovely! would you be up for doing a video or Tiktok of how you stay motivated with adhd? I find it super hard to tidy, I procrastinate a lot & am easily distracted! Cleaning one room takes hours! I start loads of tasks at once then get bored 😪 really struggling at the moment! Xx
I hope you don’t mind some unsolicited advice, but there is a great channel: How to adhd. If you didn’t know that one yet :)
Also routine and breaking tasks into tiny chunks is key! I used to leave everything till Saturday and be so grumpy and overwhelmed. Now I do one little task almost every day. Even have a little schedule. If you built it into your routine (for example do it right when you get home from work/school before you even sit down), then it becomes a lot less effort mentally.
Routine and habits beat motivation 😊
@@MsEvaonAir thank you so much for reaching out! I’ll definitely look into this! Can use all the help I can get x
Giving up alcohol helped my ADHD by like 100%. May not work for everyone. But definitely did wonders for me.
I was diagnosed at a really young age, and felt like a freak for it (still do sometimes) for all of my adolescence.
I accept who I am a lot more these days :)
Hi, I have a question about your great frog rings! Do you keep them on all day and wash your with them on ?
Hi!! Would you please share where you got the black swimsuit with fringe that you wore when you jumped into the water in?! (Was a quick video snippet that played when talking)
Love you Helen!! I'm also a fellow tattooed ADHD babe, realised aged 33! My nickname is also Melon 😂 xx
A reminder that no character with super powers has it easy! All the stories are about them balancing their lives
Helen, do you mind me asking who you went with for your diagnosis? I am looking to go private, and am after any recommendations :)
I could feel the happiness and positivity radiating from you whilst watching this video 😁 so glad you’re in a happier place. I felt the same when I got my ADHD diagnosis last year, it definitely helped me to understand myself better. Can’t wait to see what comes next for you xx
Unrelated but damn I love what you've done to your hair. The blonde popping out from underneath. I'm obsessed.
Thanks mate!!! Xx
Yesss I'm obsessed with it!!
I went through all of this when I got diagnosed 2 years ago, there’s definitely a period of grief and sadness. I cried lol thinking about all of the parts of my personality that were always seen as flaws and something that I could help when really I had ADHD and just don’t function in the same way as other people. These feelings and acceptance get so much easier and it won’t be at the forefront of ur mind forever ahaha (the diagnosis defo consumed my life for a bit!)
Super dopper proud of u Helen !!! Your such a inspiration to me !! 🖤 also coming to Norwich next month got any recommendations on we’re to go xx
I love the taxi driver's impression😂 he was so nice, people like that exist and are far more than we think. Only annoying people make more noise
RUclips channel How To ADHD is pretty good
Well done to that taxi driver - what a lovely bloke!
I love honest & open you are! a kind soul :) x
The slight change with Sunny Bones reminds me a lot of The Pretty Reckless where the marketing and "face" of the band is the badass female lead🤘
1000% feel the same when I got dianosed with Autism. All the things people have made me do and all the many ways I have had to be, to be a part of society... I feel like you say resentment in some kind of way... Anyway you are an inspiration as always in so many ways - and what a lovely taxa man! - Also I LOVE your hair it is so awsome! :-)
@@salmetal01 that is so true, and I can relate so much to it!. And I really admire people like you who can use their own life expiriences, struggles and trauma to help other people overcoming their struggles and traumas, Very inspiring and beautiful done!
Fellow autistic here who got diagnosed 2 years ago and can also really relate to what you and Helen are saying. I'm recovering from a burn out and the first few months I had to process a lot of pent up anger towards people who forced me to act neuro typical or made me feel bad when I didn't/ couldn't. Also once again fascinated by how much overlap there is with autism and adhd because so much of what Helen describes is so similar to what I experience/ what I'm like.
How did you survive that jet setting!! I’m not sure that long surrounded people would be possible for me 😬😅❤️ sending love from Edinburgh ❤️❤️❤️❤️🏴
Being an American, it’s so weird to hear that 5 and a half hours from one side of the country to the other is slow haha.
(Loving your rockstar hair btw) 👌🏻
The back pack story made me emotional. I’m so glad you got your stuff back and the guy was so sweet.
Thanks for the catch-up! Keep being fabulous!❤️
Stoked for this ^-^
☁️💚☁️
your hair looks SO good! I loooove it. Also really excited for the future! Sounds really good
I changed my hair a month ago cause I loved your hair, now I love this look even more! I live vicariously through your videos now that I'm a mom and I resonate with your style.currently🍃 cheers from CA
looooove you where is your watch strap from please xx
So happy you got your diagnosis 💕 xxx
Loved this catch-up video ♥️ I’m sat on the couch with a cuppa. Perfect start to my day!
The impression of the cabbie sent me hahaha
Love the simple little intro. So happy for you that you are coming off anti depressants and are feeling happier :)
Fantastic information. You will be helping a lot of people with your openness. You describe adhd/add symptoms so well. It's a shame that NHS waiting lists for assessments are extremely long. Being from salford myself. 16 months I got told of adhd360. So I kicked up a storm. And now I've been referred somewhere else. Unsure of wait time. Am not holding my breath.
Fuck yes! 🙌 Thank you for sharing this and being open about it!
I feel I'm kind of going through a similar time in my life as well and I feel I'm more motivated and inspired to stay on track when "I have someone with me" 🙏💖
Love your energy !! Stay like you are !
Just before I watch the video I want to say this hair on you is fire! 🔥 xx
You just described me 🤣 It's very uncommon for a girl to get diagnosed with ADHD as a child. I was one of the very lucky few. When I was diagnosed there was ADD and ADHD now it's just ADHD. I felt like I was stupid for the longest time. But I know now I'm not. I just learn things a different way. Maybe a little bit slower but I get there. ADHD has shown me that I do have amazing qualities. Being creative is one of them.
In a similar space myself - got my ADHD diagnosis two weeks ago and it was very bittersweet but feels good to know where to turn now for strategies/support for coping through ❤️
Maybe go strattera for a month, non stimulant medication. Virtually no chance of becoming addicted need a full month tho to see the affects. It gives you a good lesson on how you should feel so you know what you need to aim for in the future medication free.
being self employed and running your own business are the best scenarios for ADHDers to be in with work and career because you can do whatever you like and need to get stuff done and accommodating your ADHD so you already naturally went that way! hopefully you can be more compassionate about those moments you talked about. i found that was the biggest game changer after diagnosis was learning to be compassionate with myself and relearning how i view and speak to myself
Love you Lady Helen!!!
Aw what a good taxi driver amazing phew!
As a young shy inattentive girl i watched you be the creative cool person i felt was inside me and wished i could be, i wanted to be outgoing and confident like you. Now i’m watching going oh f*** yeah she about to find a whole new level of confidence haha and i’m excited to keep being inspired by you! I reckon the best thing about a late diagnosis is it teaches you to trust and listen to yourself more and strengthens your relationship with yourself!
Hi Helen, you remind me of the actress Russian Dolls on Netflix.
Yay! You know your type of spice. Getting diagnosed was the most validating. It's made living and functioning so much easier, I can now treat my sweet little brain with compassion. I hope your journey continues to bring joy into your life. I love following it 🖤
Beautiful xx
Would love to see a vlog about your health journey and self care journey! Loved this vlog! Xx
We love you Helen x I have anxiety I was diagnosed about 2/3 years ago. And since that it’s made me understanding things and why I get over emotional over things
Looking forward to all the wonderful goodness life has to offer you. Always rooting for you, doll.
Thank you lovey!! Xxx
I've never wanted to be anyone's friend more
Love this. Keep doing you! 💜
So happy for you!! Same with the positive body and mind vibe here. We got this! 💜
Also love the hair
I love your honesty and bounce back at life confidence. ADHD suits you and we would not want it any other way. Much love x
Missed your chatty videos! Good to see them back… 😍
(Is that an Abigail Ahern lamp I seee…. Bloody love them, have two! The gorilla and the baboon 😍🥰.)
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That f*ing train to Liverpool!! It's honestly the worst thing in the world! Why have 3 carriages to go through so many big cities!?
Yes a super power so proud of you Helen xxx
I'm so unbelievably happy for you , getting my diagnosis changed my life for the better. It connected the dots and made things make sense 💜
Oooh I'm early! HI 👋
This is how I felt after being diagnosed with autism! Finally feel like myself and it’s definitely a new chapter. Long time viewer of yours and love seeing you grow :)
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Aw well excited for you, Helen! Best of luck with this new chapter of you. Also, just gotta say, your hair is so badass, love it ❤️
I'm so happy for you Helen! 🤗 Excited to see your next chapter in life and wish you the very best with everything you do!
Bless All beautiful soulz That's keep reading & writing and sharing with one Another
🕊️🖤🤍🖤🕊️ I Hear the Love & realizations and Revelations no matter who & what the experience has & had for us & otherz continuely build Grow 🪴 seeing more to reasons the seasons 😎😆😂✌️🤙🌯🌯🌯Love you guyzz Thanks for being apart of Helens world with me cyberly she's bin way ahead of her time as well as anyone from heart factz.