I cried the day I dicovered I am an infj because it explained so much and for the first time in my life ,I feel like I finally belong somewhere and that there are people out there who are like me. I relate to everyone in the comment section and everything you said, it's crazy. I subscribed. Thank you very much for this.
I've always been an advocate for other people, someone people can go to for advice, but as soon as I go to someone else for advice (very rare) they don't understand me or they don't understand where I'm coming from.
It sucks, but it's made me more independent but sometimes you just need someone to lean on. A lot of people don't even know how to deal with upset people to. They use the "I told you so" approach and that never works. An upset person doesn't want to hear "Well I told you so" the fact is is what's done is done and all I need is support, I did what was right in the moment and usually my intuition is correct and in the long run I never regret doing anything I thought was right at the time.
I've known that I am an INFJ for a few years years now. It explained a lot why I am the way I am. The one thing I've noticed is that INFJ people seem to attract users. People who will manipulate you because they know you are a giving and caring person ready to jump in and help. Unfortunately my INFJ intuition failed me sometimes on this, mostly because my heart overtakes it. I've been burnt a few times because of it. Now I'm more aware of my intuition.
Just realize that there is a thin line between people pleasing and helping others, and the separation between yourself and what you feel. Please. Or you will still keep attracting users, abusers and narcissists until you learn how to do this.
I agree completely. One of the Users I tended to attract is Narcissistic Sociopaths. :( However, now that I know I'm INFJ, everything makes sense to me now and I am bent on taking better care of myself while trying to "save the world".
An understanding of human nature helped me out with that. Now I see the snakes before they can even get close. Oh and also understanding that coincidences are very rare and should be made note of.
I have the opposite. Users can not get close to me because I sense their intention without the need to get to know them. It has always been this way ever since I was old enough to be in school (exposed to world outside of family). I get a vibe about a person upon meeting that person and I am usually right about my vibe. My inner circle consists of ppl I got good or best vibe. A few that I had the most positive vibe I was feeling like having fireworks exploded inside my head, pure euphoric upon meeting them for the first time.
what's better than knowing yourself and why human beings do what they do? to me, it's truly fascinating and helpful as a tool to use in life. INFJs also make the best therapists! we're just good like that. you know?
Ok, here goes, I am a recent discoverer of self, (meaning), that I am an INFJ, which helps alot, but I also want to add that I am a believer and follower of Jesus Christ. Any others out there? This intensifies things emensely I find. The caring for others, the thoughts of the future, the wanting to be alone to be with my creator, the percecution, (for not being understood), explains alot!
Oh my, YES. “Intensifies things” is how I have felt for the last ten years since becoming a believer. I care so deeply and it’s painful to have my intentions be misunderstood. I’m looking forward to being in eternity and being KNOWN with no more sorrow and just endless perfect fellowship with God and others. 🙌
(I am just seeing your comment in 2020.) YES! I have a personal relationship with Jesus. It can't be simplified into "religion" or following a set of moralistic rules. It takes me hours some days to "pray," and I'm telling Jesus things I might never be able to communicate to another human, because they "interrupt" or lose their attention span, or don't really care about your feelings or ideas. I can't imagine losing that connection, or how anyone else navigates the drudgery of daily life without having an ongoing conversation with God. I want the same type of relationship I have with Jesus to be a reality in their lives.
Lol dont you hate when your trying to explain something to someone and your having a hard time then your friend jumps in to explain what your trying to say and there totaly off
Or when you have deep ass convos with someone but they come back in the future to let you know how they were telling someone else about one but in completely the wrong way. 😆😓
I'm definitely an INFJ-T. I took it twice and got the same result within a 3 month radius. Watched a few videos that made me question myself and I know I'm definitely an INFJ-T. Friends always come to me for advice while I know it won't be reciprocated. I'm a very good writer. Those whom I feel comfortable with has read my writing can also feel feelings through it. A friend gave me the nickname M.I.A because I disappear....a lot. Revealing my true feelings is very rare and hard to do. Friends also find me intense and passionate beneath the placid exterior.
I dont really like to put myself in a label because usually I dont think that one label can describe what a person is really like, but knowing my personality type really helps me to understand better how my subconcious mind works and where my weakness lies so I can work around it knowing my limitations and strenght.
When I worked in retail, I often was at our meetings & within the hour I had a solution to all the issues. One boss constantly tried to control me through victimisation. I had the best results for my division nationally as I continued to strive to improve our results
I swear, God speaks to me. He tells me things through my heart. Or if I just start writing. I came to know Him through his Son, Jesus, all alone, when I was 17 years old. Now I am nearly 70. If I sit still and ask Him a question He answers me with the most simple, amazing, unexpected answers. He is my closest-and sometimes only-friend. I have very few, chosen, friends. And the best husband in the world. But no one makes me feel like I belong except my Heavenly Father. Since I was a tiny child I was always aware of Him watching me. I know I came from Him, and I will return to Him. This world seems like a difficult testing place, and not my home. I endure with a peaceful, trusting heart. He is mine, and I am His.
Wow thank you JESUS..this is so true....what a friend we have in Jesus..all our sins and grieve to bear what a privilege to carry everything to Christ in prayer...This shows how faithful christ really is....
Thanks so much omg I just always have thought the world is so unfair People run to me for advices, morelikely relationships (Ironically Ive been single my whole entire life) but I'm still able to give the best response for them And seeing the results went well is quite satisfying But then I realized even though I know these stuff why am I still alone? I want someone to understand me and also do the same, I need someone to accept me I just find it difficult to be interested in someone
You're right, Carlos! That's such a challenge: understanding people but seldom being understood. That's a huge pain point for every INFJ. You are not alone in feeling that way.
Connecting the dots always spoils the fun when im watching a movie. I always know whats gonna happen because i've already come up with different conclusions and theories waaay before the movie ends.
I like this video, a lot of other videos talk about how INFJ feel depressed a lot and kind of just all the negative things about INFJ. This video was more positive
Wow! This really explains me. I always seem weird to other people and can't understand me most of the time. This makes me to prefer some alone time and hate to explain myself to others because I don't see the point of it as at the end of it they can't really grasp what I mean.
Thank you. I really needed this TT I just came from a family gather and they asked me about my achievements and I felt like crying, I worked REALLY hard to overcome a depression, I lost a lot of weight, I had a panic attack, I lost all sense of selforientation and honestly, I couldn't keep up with "normal life" I was barely able to get up from bed and I felt so unworthy, so sad and mostly like one would understand me, even If I tried to share my real thoughts.. they are my family but I don't feel like we are close.. It's just very strressful and nerve wrecking to reunite with them :( This video helped me soothe my helplessness a bit. Thank you 💜
The only thing about the elusive infj is so many people actually are mistyped, you need to do multiple testing and delving into the shadow side of every personality type to understand if you truly are an infj... there is a strange mystical idea that infj are so magical because they are the rarest type, but a true infj understand that it is no walk in the park. And also every personality type is amazing and beautiful and aweful in their own way. No type is more magical than another. There wouldn't be this many infj popping up being that it is the smallest portion of population.
Definitely not magical, interesting in my own mind, lonely a lot of the time, misunderstood most of the time, looked at as "superior" but knowing I'm not at all, feeling like an alien amongst my own family, but also knowing I'm actually okay, just not from here!? loving people, working with people trying to help people and at the same time sometimes just looking at people makes me tired, it's a struggle, definitely not magical. As someone said " i.n.f.j, it would not have been my first choice".
Chantel Wensley agree but a true INFJ really knows whothey are. And we know the big bad down side living through that. It’s been hell on earth before I understand it all . And at 59 years old I still find it hard.😦
Thank you. I love you. People think I’m crazy sometimes. I have a hard time not understanding how people don’t know things. If that makes sense. THANKS AGAIN.
I just found out yesterday that I'm an INFJ and it was so nice., I felt like I was truly being understood. When I read about it I was instantly surprised and wanted to learn more about myself and this personality and it fits for many reasons 1. I'm always thinking of ideas 2. I love doing things that require creative work 3. I always try to look out for my sisters (who both have special needs. By the way, do siblings of special needs children develop more of an INFJ personality or no since they always try to help people out (which is a defining trait of INFJs)?), friends, and loved ones and try my hardest to make them happy 4. I'm someone who will get things done no matter what 5.i like to be productive 6. I like being with a close, small group of friends but I value my alone time (thus the paradox part) And yes I've seen the positives and negatives of this personality but I'm proud of who I am
Discovering I was an INFJ really changed my life for the better... It's great to finally find out why my mind works the way it does.. I always thought it was due to Aspergers...
wow same here. I was thinking about the similarities to someone with aspergers.My father is self diagnosed aspergers and he is similar to me and I get this result on the test that I am INFJ..sometimes I get INFP so I don´t know but I feel INFJ is more correct..I used to think I must have something like aspergers I knew I was not like most people and used to hate myself. But this makes me feel little easier about myself that I´m ok just few of us out there..
I am an INFJ-T, I don't like to put myself in a category, but I like to know there are people who think and feel like I do, because I was allways misunderstood or simply described as a strange and shy girl. But I still think that everyone I know would never even try to understand my feelings.
Yes. Quickly seeing connections & Patterns and thinking outside the box definitely Not appreciated in most jobs. Having to sit through long tedious meetings waiting for others to see the answers is frustrating.
Amazing video!!!TOTALLY spot on!!!thank you☺We really have a mind of our own, i remember at school, I was very good at maths, used to take A all the time, but as i was growing up, around 12, 13 years old, i started to take B sometimes, although i knew the subject well enough to take an A, what happened was that, even in maths, i had to use my Ni and my Ti together and i had to get out of the "Box" cause that was so boring and so easy...and i just had to go around and around...those were the times when i took B, ahahah...don't like the thinking inside the box, our minds are rebels and have their own will, that takes us to be also one of the most open minded and genuine considerate types of personality, we really CARE and the smaller the things are, the more we care, for real.You described me with your words, i am always, always thinking about the future ,since i can remember, but at the same time we know exactly what we want and we strive to do the right thing to achieve It. I've always liked the song from Supertramp"You take the long way home" yeah,complexity is our thing and sometimes it's complicated, but hey, that's us and i love It ☺Bo miller I appreciate your videos, regards to you Vera
Awesome, Vera! Glad you enjoyed it. I never thought about my math experience before now, but I'm pretty sure my grade-school experience was similar to yours. :-) Thanks for the encouragement and for sharing!
This is so cool! When I was an engineer, I'd always come to a conclusion about a problem well before I knew the details. To "sell" my idea to others, the details would always come after. It always amazed me how the details would hardly EVER show that I was wrong in the first place.
Thanks so much! Your work is a precious gift. I recently found out my MBTI type and was trying to understand how to apply that knowledge to better my life. I am blown away by your insight and feel validated and positive about my ability to do some good in the world.
I'm 38 just finding out too, you're not alone. I didn't even know what an EMPATH was, everything I've been going through makes a lot of sense now. Welcome ❤️
If anyone has seen the superman movie Man of Steel - it is symbolically a bit like being an INFJ - finding out you are an INFJ and your abilities is a bit like Clark Kent finding out that he is from Krypton and what his powers are!
Laughing at the sudden clarity...this is amazing. Thank you for digging in on your interests and living your strengths out loud. This is so helpful and I really like your resources...very well done and provides a lot of immediate value...so much in fact, I have to slow down to make sure I'm not trying to ingest too fast. Two ideas that really landed on me from this: (1) "impressions" for INFJs are formed from the experience and observation of our lives to that point, so when we have an impression or perspective, it is hard to articulate exactly how we got there but they are most often accurate; (2) even my spouse has a hard time understanding me...and the awareness here is that as much as my thoughts and comments make sense to me, I have a memory book full of people not "getting it" or not understanding me...which is easy to take as negative feedback when you are young, and keep quiet...BUT, now I know it's just me...and that's very cool to know. And a relief :-) Thank you, Bo!
I'm an INFJ/Empath/Indigo/Starseed. all of this info I could relate with. if you're aware of the practice of EMDR and brainspotting in psychology, INFJs are excellent at this process. I have done both for quite a few sessions, and I was the best in having info coming up from my subconscious and my ability to be aware of those memories, beliefs, feelings, and energy of what was coming up and being able to describe it all. quite helpful to be an INFJ. it would seem like the INFJ brain was created specifically for these processes. Yay, Male INFJs!! love the female ones, too, but there seems to be many more of them than us.
I can relate to your buying a home with your spouse. All the home we were looking at were all similar to each other. One of the homes we were checking out, the neighborhood looked great, the house on the outside looked great, too. But I got to the front door, this sense came over me and instantly knew and I said “NOPE”! I turned around to leave. I didn’t want to waste our time. My husband was so annoyed with me...and insisted on going through. I had no interest. And just went in to appease him. Though, I didn’t even want to go through any rooms, nor look at anything. He then brought up the topic in the car, to argue with me as to why I didn’t want to go in and look at anything. I told him, “You know, when you know”! He said “ You didn’t even give it a chance”. He said “We came out to look at homes”. I told hIm, “I don’t care, if it was a palace/or made of gold, on the inside, the answer was “NO”! Frankly, I was surprised that he didn’t ‘KNOW’ as I ‘KNEW’. I just knew that wasn’t going to be our home. It felt so wrong.
It was only a few months ago that I found that I am an INFJ. It all made sense. In my adult life, I have found that I work well with people with Autism(especially Asperger's)...but in general, psychology is fascinating to me.
I just started watching some of these INFJ videos a couple days ago. I think I may be INFJ. It explains a lot of things to me about myself. Most of the things I'm hearing about the INFJ personality fits me very well.
I found out I am INFJ 5 months ago, but I have unfortunately discovered that no one else really cares. It can be a bit lonely with this new knowledge of yourself. I've explained to 4-5 people that are close to me and no one ever asked me any questions about it, or why realising the fact I'm an INFJ is life changing for me. People simply didn't really care. It was a bit disheartening. I'm just letting you know in advance, don't expect too many people to be as excited as you are about this new discovery. For INFJs this discovery is amazing... for many other personality types it's not a big deal. Your best bet is to immerse yourself in INFJ RUclips channels and online forums. Good luck on becoming a better version of yourself. You will only improve from here onwards. Embrace your weirdness!
I noticed I thought someone might care but no not one I’m still very glad I found out I show videos to a few people I don’t think anyone watched them to the end but thank you for your wise words
5 years late to the party 😂 but you are absolutely correct! It really is relieving to understand that you are not "a lone" is this World as there are others albeit a small % who think in a very similar manner as you do. It's funny just the other night I step outside to let my little Micky (10lbs long-haired chihuahua and LOVE of my life) outside my back yard for a bit of exercise / take care of business and literally out of the blue I'm suddenly inspired to purse an endeavor I've been putting off for no good reason as it turns out. Trust your "intuition" folks it's generally correct! Also don't be afraid to "fail" this life is far too short for that, just give in a shot what is the worst that can happen?
Thank you so much this really helped me so much will be coming back for more, finally I can actually say here to friends or associates and just play this and it might explain some questions about my personality that they just don't understand! Thank you after this comment I will be subscribing! AWESOME!
I have said to my spouse, when drama happens, it takes me a few days to know how I really feel about it. My first instinct is to calm the drama. If I can't do that, dominate it and take over and subdue it or drive it off. Because underneath this sweet, accomodating person runs the blood of a true barracuda who tries to use her dark side for good and not evil. Ahem. If I can't do that, leave. Then retreat and think. Stew. Process. Chew on it. Turn it over and look for holes and blemishes and good bits. Sleep. Have coffee. THEN........Know how I feel about the event and the people involved. Meanwhile there will be a side of me that really hated to have to get out the barracuda, if indeed I had to. But it had to be done. So hate scary Trish, but good job scary Trish. Sigh.
This is the best and most healthy way for us to deal with negative energy, to transmute it over to positive. That is a great example thanks for sharing. 😀❤😀💗
Finally a topic that helps me understand me.. I'd really like to read up on the guide you mentioned in the beginning of your video but I'm not in the States. How can I get my hands on your guide? Hopefully you can help me out. Thanks!
Awesome, A. Rina S! Glad you found it helpful. Go to ispeakpeople.com/infj-personality-guide/ and you can download a guide for free. Let me know if you have any other questions or need help with anything!
Hello, Thank you! So, I subscribed..., but then noticed that U don't have any other videos. I would interested in seeing some more, please. I'm an INFJ. That new news to me certainly explains a lot. Now the challenge is to not allow my INFJism become my crutch..., or my excuse. I like being an INFJ. I like being me. But it's sooooo difficult finding people who get me. Hey, I'm a list maker. Any other INFJ list people? And what are your specific INFJ qualities? What separates you from the crowd?
Just a random comment; I stopped playing video games to make time for women in my life. I feel like this probably happened after a woman complained about her boyfriend spending too much time playing video games.
I tried being an extrovert, had some horrible experiences with people in the workplace. Who lied about me and turned everyone against me. I was also assaulted at work and the witnesses denied seeing anything. I also got bullied at school in both primary and secondary school. How am I mean to like and trust ppl after all of this shit? I know not everyone is bad, but for the most part the average person I have disdain for.
My 2 cents of advice What doesn’t kills you makes you only stronger, for mankind cannot remake himself without suffering for (s)he is both the marble and the sculptor. Never be afraid to be hurt, it’s just the way how we learn new things and the more we are aware the harder it will be for us. In our younger years we were just shy and mimicking to be part of a group, but once you have found a purpose never stop believing in yourself.
I was at a meeting one time where someone suggested that this person who wasn't there would be a great fit for this new position. I automatically stood up and said I don't believe she's going to be able to take that position. I don't know the reason why but I'm positive she's not going to accept it. And sure enough it was a political gathering and she was not of the same political party ! The fact that her name came up was just nuts, like an oxymoron!
On two tests I was an infj on one I was an infp then on another I was an infj but when I was younger I was an ENFP so I'm figuring I either have multiple personalities or I self contradict. Stuff that keeps me thinking at night.
My spouse purchased a house in 2001 , I told him we need to wait two years , he thought I was insane , two years later restate hit bottom , the best time for buyers now god told me to wait
I enjoyed this video. New to investigating what it means to have an INFJ personality type, I find it all rather intriguing and can relate to most of it. Regarding personality compatibility, I'd just say that I believe from my experiences, that the most important factor has to do with temperament. I feel that is the most important part of personality that determines compatibility, esp. over time. I'd like to see more focus on that aspect of attraction and how others feel about this theory. I also would like to hear more about the significance of empathetic experiences because those play a very large part in my own relationships and life, and I have a feeling I am not alone in that. ;)
Miah, when you refer to temperament, are you thinking about idealists, guardians, artisans, and rationalists or sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric, and melancholic - or maybe even something else? Do you feel like they're the most important factor in personality? And when you refer to empathetic experiences, do you mean people putting themselves in one another's shoes? Thanks for your comment!
Would you say that the infjs weak extraverted sensing and difficulty being in the moment makes them more susceptible to substance abuse/drug addiction? Or have you ever come across this theory?
I've read about it throughout the years from various sources. Here's one: infjoe.wordpress.com/2013/01/21/infj-complexity/ Also, being an INFJ you'll probably enjoy www.stellarmaze.com
N. K. That is interesting at 34y.o. I started playing the guitar left handed, I am right hand dominant. I had a right handed guitar but didn't make sense to me till I picked up a left handed guitar.
I always tested as an ENFP until I became a mother and also grew spiritually. I took the test again twice in the past few years and was surprised to find that I am actually an INFJ. But this is my real personality without question. I think that I had finally peeled the layers of the onion necessary enough to see myself as I really am.
Ah now I know why people think I’m so brilliant lol. I’m a smart person but it seems like people think I am smarter than I am. It must be how I connect the dots so effortlessly.
What about infj's that are starting to not handle all the bullshit. Lately I am starting to act like a crazy person and call people out on their bs because I can't handle the negativity and manipulation and deceit. So I have started to be more extroverted with my feelings even if it makes me the bad person.
Do you have any vids on INFJ and addictions? Could you delve into that? I know many of your vids are based on your experiences, but maybe you could apply your knowledge to addictions 🙏
For my coaching business, I can observe a complex problem for a while and then sort of come up with detailed solution out of nowhere. Others will question it, asking about the details, and strangely my solution will have addressed everything problem, and I never really consciously remember thinking it through in that level of detail. Does that make sense to anyone else?
Bo, I noticed there are many on this comment section stating they were a different personality type and got tested as an INFJ. How can that be? I know people grow and change mentally and physically, but I have also taken the tests about five times and always rated as an INFJ. If what you state is true, how can these individuals say they have changed to an INFJ? Isn't our thought processes wired this way and can't be changed? I am confused on this. What do you think on this matter?
Him: Have you ever wondered how your INFJ mind functions- Me: Yes (rolling my eyes because that's why I'm here, lol). Him: -and perhaps why you think so differently than other personality types? Me: YES (tearing up and about to cry).
I cried the day I dicovered I am an infj because it explained so much and for the first time in my life ,I feel like I finally belong somewhere and that there are people out there who are like me. I relate to everyone in the comment section and everything you said, it's crazy.
I subscribed. Thank you very much for this.
You are very welcome! When I found out I was an INFJ, I felt similarly. It was a big relief and encouragement.
be kind It won't cost you anything , I feel exactly the same way. I always wondered where my tribe was. Thank you so much man.
Welcome to you !
Being kind can cost your life if you run into a sociopath
Durga devi
Thank you .thank you for existing
I've always been an advocate for other people, someone people can go to for advice, but as soon as I go to someone else for advice (very rare) they don't understand me or they don't understand where I'm coming from.
Kaylee, that's definitely one of the biggest frustrations for most INFJs, hands down. So tough and frustrating. I can relate.
It sucks, but it's made me more independent but sometimes you just need someone to lean on. A lot of people don't even know how to deal with upset people to. They use the "I told you so" approach and that never works. An upset person doesn't want to hear "Well I told you so" the fact is is what's done is done and all I need is support, I did what was right in the moment and usually my intuition is correct and in the long run I never regret doing anything I thought was right at the time.
You're right: sometimes someone to lean is the best medicine, and the "I told you so" approach is seldom helpful.
same, I think it's worse for a guy because its harder to express what you truly feel
Do you mean that it's not the social norm for guys to communicate how they feel?
I've known that I am an INFJ for a few years years now. It explained a lot why I am the way I am. The one thing I've noticed is that INFJ people seem to attract users. People who will manipulate you because they know you are a giving and caring person ready to jump in and help. Unfortunately my INFJ intuition failed me sometimes on this, mostly because my heart overtakes it. I've been burnt a few times because of it. Now I'm more aware of my intuition.
BlueCat Blu I think you are exactly correct on attracting users! It is uncanny how many I attract.
Just realize that there is a thin line between people pleasing and helping others, and the separation between yourself and what you feel. Please. Or you will still keep attracting users, abusers and narcissists until you learn how to do this.
I agree completely. One of the Users I tended to attract is Narcissistic Sociopaths. :( However, now that I know I'm INFJ, everything makes sense to me now and I am bent on taking better care of myself while trying to "save the world".
An understanding of human nature helped me out with that. Now I see the snakes before they can even get close. Oh and also understanding that coincidences are very rare and should be made note of.
I have the opposite. Users can not get close to me because I sense their intention without the need to get to know them. It has always been this way ever since I was old enough to be in school (exposed to world outside of family). I get a vibe about a person upon meeting that person and I am usually right about my vibe. My inner circle consists of ppl I got good or best vibe. A few that I had the most positive vibe I was feeling like having fireworks exploded inside my head, pure euphoric upon meeting them for the first time.
Being able to read people like a book can be a blessing and a curse lol
I do love psychology
Oh, yeah! It's great stuff, indeed.
what's better than knowing yourself and why human beings do what they do? to me, it's truly fascinating and helpful as a tool to use in life. INFJs also make the best therapists! we're just good like that. you know?
So do I !! Love it
Ok, here goes, I am a recent discoverer of self, (meaning), that I am an INFJ, which helps alot, but I also want to add that I am a believer and follower of Jesus Christ. Any others out there? This intensifies things emensely I find. The caring for others, the thoughts of the future, the wanting to be alone to be with my creator, the percecution, (for not being understood), explains alot!
Oh my, YES. “Intensifies things” is how I have felt for the last ten years since becoming a believer. I care so deeply and it’s painful to have my intentions be misunderstood. I’m looking forward to being in eternity and being KNOWN with no more sorrow and just endless perfect fellowship with God and others. 🙌
(I am just seeing your comment in 2020.) YES! I have a personal relationship with Jesus. It can't be simplified into "religion" or following a set of moralistic rules. It takes me hours some days to "pray," and I'm telling Jesus things I might never be able to communicate to another human, because they "interrupt" or lose their attention span, or don't really care about your feelings or ideas. I can't imagine losing that connection, or how anyone else navigates the drudgery of daily life without having an ongoing conversation with God. I want the same type of relationship I have with Jesus to be a reality in their lives.
Maybe I am wrong, but I do believe Jesus was also an INFJ...
You are not alone 😉
Yes. Jesus understands, even when no one else does.
Lol dont you hate when your trying to explain something to someone and your having a hard time then your friend jumps in to explain what your trying to say and there totaly off
LMAO XD
ore when people think you in trouble because you are totally somewhere else in your head 😂
neasi
Or when you have deep ass convos with someone but they come back in the future to let you know how they were telling someone else about one but in completely the wrong way. 😆😓
christian carriere Yas!!!
I'm definitely an INFJ-T. I took it twice and got the same result within a 3 month radius. Watched a few videos that made me question myself and I know I'm definitely an INFJ-T. Friends always come to me for advice while I know it won't be reciprocated. I'm a very good writer. Those whom I feel comfortable with has read my writing can also feel feelings through it. A friend gave me the nickname M.I.A because I disappear....a lot. Revealing my true feelings is very rare and hard to do. Friends also find me intense and passionate beneath the placid exterior.
I dont really like to put myself in a label because usually I dont think that one label can describe what a person is really like, but knowing my personality type really helps me to understand better how my subconcious mind works and where my weakness lies so I can work around it knowing my limitations and strenght.
Yeney Diaz
That’s such a great way of looking at things:)
Thanks man, I always feel like I'm never understood therefore I'm always quiet and I'm very sensitive to criticism.
You're welcome, Jedidr. That's a very common sentiment among INFJs. I can totally relate!
Same
When I worked in retail, I often was at our meetings & within the hour I had a solution to all the issues. One boss constantly tried to control me through victimisation. I had the best results for my division nationally as I continued to strive to improve our results
I swear, God speaks to me. He tells me things through my heart. Or if I just start writing. I came to know Him through his Son, Jesus, all alone, when I was 17 years old. Now I am nearly 70. If I sit still and ask Him a question He answers me with the most simple, amazing, unexpected answers. He is my closest-and sometimes only-friend. I have very few, chosen, friends. And the best husband in the world. But no one makes me feel like I belong except my Heavenly Father. Since I was a tiny child I was always aware of Him watching me. I know I came from Him, and I will return to Him. This world seems like a difficult testing place, and not my home. I endure with a peaceful, trusting heart. He is mine, and I am His.
Homebody Heaven Amen to that!
Amen! How often do you write and when?
I want to thank You for making me feel your words.
I feel the same way 💗
Wow thank you JESUS..this is so true....what a friend we have in Jesus..all our sins and grieve to bear what a privilege to carry everything to Christ in prayer...This shows how faithful christ really is....
Thanks so much omg
I just always have thought the world is so unfair
People run to me for advices, morelikely relationships (Ironically Ive been single my whole entire life) but I'm still able to give the best response for them
And seeing the results went well is quite satisfying
But then I realized even though I know these stuff why am I still alone?
I want someone to understand me and also do the same, I need someone to accept me
I just find it difficult to be interested in someone
You're right, Carlos! That's such a challenge: understanding people but seldom being understood. That's a huge pain point for every INFJ. You are not alone in feeling that way.
oh my god i relate so much
Connecting the dots always spoils the fun when im watching a movie. I always know whats gonna happen because i've already come up with different conclusions and theories waaay before the movie ends.
The movies I like the most are the ones where my predictions were wrong. I’m looking at you, Parasite!
I am happy being an INFJ. What a beautiful privilege to be this personality.
I like this video, a lot of other videos talk about how INFJ feel depressed a lot and kind of just all the negative things about INFJ. This video was more positive
Awesome, Emma. Glad you found it uplifting! :-)
Depressing but true
Wow! This really explains me. I always seem weird to other people and can't understand me most of the time. This makes me to prefer some alone time and hate to explain myself to others because I don't see the point of it as at the end of it they can't really grasp what I mean.
Thank you. I really needed this TT I just came from a family gather and they asked me about my achievements and I felt like crying, I worked REALLY hard to overcome a depression, I lost a lot of weight, I had a panic attack, I lost all sense of selforientation and honestly, I couldn't keep up with "normal life" I was barely able to get up from bed and I felt so unworthy, so sad and mostly like one would understand me, even If I tried to share my real thoughts.. they are my family but I don't feel like we are close.. It's just very strressful and nerve wrecking to reunite with them :( This video helped me soothe my helplessness a bit. Thank you 💜
The only thing about the elusive infj is so many people actually are mistyped, you need to do multiple testing and delving into the shadow side of every personality type to understand if you truly are an infj... there is a strange mystical idea that infj are so magical because they are the rarest type, but a true infj understand that it is no walk in the park. And also every personality type is amazing and beautiful and aweful in their own way. No type is more magical than another. There wouldn't be this many infj popping up being that it is the smallest portion of population.
@Chantel Wensley
I agree with you 100%. Its no walk in the park being an INFJ. lol
Definitely not magical, interesting in my own mind, lonely a lot of the time, misunderstood most of the time, looked at as "superior" but knowing I'm not at all, feeling like an alien amongst my own family, but also knowing I'm actually okay, just not from here!? loving people, working with people trying to help people and at the same time sometimes just looking at people makes me tired, it's a struggle, definitely not magical. As someone said " i.n.f.j, it would not have been my first choice".
Chantel Wensley agree but a true INFJ really knows whothey are. And we know the big bad down side living through that. It’s been hell on earth before I understand it all . And at 59 years old I still find it hard.😦
Thanks. I have never heard anyone describe the intuitive personality so clearly and directly before.
Wonderful, Darrel! Glad you found it helpful! Thanks for your comment. :-)
Thank you. I love you. People think I’m crazy sometimes. I have a hard time not understanding how people don’t know things. If that makes sense. THANKS AGAIN.
I just found out yesterday that I'm an INFJ and it was so nice., I felt like I was truly being understood. When I read about it I was instantly surprised and wanted to learn more about myself and this personality and it fits for many reasons
1. I'm always thinking of ideas
2. I love doing things that require creative work
3. I always try to look out for my sisters (who both have special needs. By the way, do siblings of special needs children develop more of an INFJ personality or no since they always try to help people out (which is a defining trait of INFJs)?), friends, and loved ones and try my hardest to make them happy
4. I'm someone who will get things done no matter what
5.i like to be productive
6. I like being with a close, small group of friends but I value my alone time (thus the paradox part)
And yes I've seen the positives and negatives of this personality but I'm proud of who I am
Discovering I was an INFJ really changed my life for the better... It's great to finally find out why my mind works the way it does.. I always thought it was due to Aspergers...
wow same here. I was thinking about the similarities to someone with aspergers.My father is self diagnosed aspergers and he is similar to me and I get this result on the test that I am INFJ..sometimes I get INFP so I don´t know but I feel INFJ is more correct..I used to think I must have something like aspergers I knew I was not like most people and used to hate myself. But this makes me feel little easier about myself that I´m ok just few of us out there..
Don't forget to blink or your eye's will dry. Please be careful 😣
Haha! Thanks for the tip. :-) I've been working on that. My more recent videos include some blinking.
I Speak People I didn't mean to offend you or anything. It's was something I saw that could possibly happen.
I Speak People you look and sound like my friend Matthew P. Sommerman.
No worries! I didn't take it that way. Thanks for your concern, Tenuto. :-)
Professors could not connect the dots in my estimations. In fact, I could not understand why they could not see my connections.
Happens all the time, didn't knew that was a issue 🤔
The patterns !! I see so many !!
I am an INFJ-T, I don't like to put myself in a category, but I like to know there are people who think and feel like I do, because I was allways misunderstood or simply described as a strange and shy girl. But I still think that everyone I know would never even try to understand my feelings.
I studied religion, faith, spirituality, and idiology (politics) because it was fascinating to me, with so many connections, and similarities.
Yes. Quickly seeing connections & Patterns and thinking outside the box definitely Not appreciated in most jobs. Having to sit through long tedious meetings waiting for others to see the answers is frustrating.
Amazing video!!!TOTALLY spot on!!!thank you☺We really have a mind of our own, i remember at school, I was very good at maths, used to take A all the time, but as i was growing up, around 12, 13 years old, i started to take B sometimes, although i knew the subject well enough to take an A, what happened was that, even in maths, i had to use my Ni and my Ti together and i had to get out of the "Box" cause that was so boring and so easy...and i just had to go around and around...those were the times when i took B, ahahah...don't like the thinking inside the box, our minds are rebels and have their own will, that takes us to be also one of the most open minded and genuine considerate types of personality, we really CARE and the smaller the things are, the more we care, for real.You described me with your words, i am always, always thinking about the future ,since i can remember, but at the same time we know exactly what we want and we strive to do the right thing to achieve It.
I've always liked the song from Supertramp"You take the long way home" yeah,complexity is our thing and sometimes it's complicated, but hey, that's us and i love It ☺Bo miller I appreciate your videos, regards to you Vera
What is the Present anyway?? the second before gone, Past, and the next second is already the FUTURE, so you might as well mind the Future☺
Awesome, Vera! Glad you enjoyed it. I never thought about my math experience before now, but I'm pretty sure my grade-school experience was similar to yours. :-) Thanks for the encouragement and for sharing!
Thank you for the illumination. Sunny vibes from a fellow Advocate who likes to shine light into dark places x
We should do an INFJ meet ;)
This is so cool! When I was an engineer, I'd always come to a conclusion about a problem well before I knew the details. To "sell" my idea to others, the details would always come after. It always amazed me how the details would hardly EVER show that I was wrong in the first place.
Thanks so much! Your work is a precious gift. I recently found out my MBTI type and was trying to understand how to apply that knowledge to better my life. I am blown away by your insight and feel validated and positive about my ability to do some good in the world.
It it an "INFJ thing" to have the most fascinating and frustrating duality in just about everything we think and do?
Yeah . Being an Infj is 24/7 struggle in almost everything.
I am 37 and I just realized I'm an infj.
I'm 41....always thought I had a mental illness...it certainly answers alot of questions. Good luck with your self discovery 👍👍
Same. Same. I always thought that there is something about me, not wrong and not right either.
I'm 38 just finding out too, you're not alone. I didn't even know what an EMPATH was, everything I've been going through makes a lot of sense now. Welcome ❤️
Wow! This is soooooo me! Thank you. The house example I can totally relate too.
If anyone has seen the superman movie Man of Steel - it is symbolically a bit like being an INFJ - finding out you are an INFJ and your abilities is a bit like Clark Kent finding out that he is from Krypton and what his powers are!
Laughing at the sudden clarity...this is amazing. Thank you for digging in on your interests and living your strengths out loud. This is so helpful and I really like your resources...very well done and provides a lot of immediate value...so much in fact, I have to slow down to make sure I'm not trying to ingest too fast.
Two ideas that really landed on me from this: (1) "impressions" for INFJs are formed from the experience and observation of our lives to that point, so when we have an impression or perspective, it is hard to articulate exactly how we got there but they are most often accurate; (2) even my spouse has a hard time understanding me...and the awareness here is that as much as my thoughts and comments make sense to me, I have a memory book full of people not "getting it" or not understanding me...which is easy to take as negative feedback when you are young, and keep quiet...BUT, now I know it's just me...and that's very cool to know. And a relief :-)
Thank you, Bo!
I really love the way you explained this to me.
Awesome! I'm so glad you found it helpful, Joann. :-)
Putting together fast, the just knowing part of processing and putting together a thought or idea ,,yes ,thanks
Sure, Gigi!
I'm an INFJ/Empath/Indigo/Starseed. all of this info I could relate with. if you're aware of the practice of EMDR and brainspotting in psychology, INFJs are excellent at this process. I have done both for quite a few sessions, and I was the best in having info coming up from my subconscious and my ability to be aware of those memories, beliefs, feelings, and energy of what was coming up and being able to describe it all. quite helpful to be an INFJ. it would seem like the INFJ brain was created specifically for these processes. Yay, Male INFJs!! love the female ones, too, but there seems to be many more of them than us.
I can relate to your buying a home with your spouse. All the home we were looking at were all similar to each other. One of the homes we were checking out, the neighborhood looked great, the house on the outside looked great, too. But I got to the front door, this sense came over me and instantly knew and I said “NOPE”! I turned around to leave. I didn’t want to waste our time. My husband was so annoyed with me...and insisted on going through. I had no interest. And just went in to appease him. Though, I didn’t even want to go through any rooms, nor look at anything. He then brought up the topic in the car, to argue with me as to why I didn’t want to go in and look at anything. I told him, “You know, when you know”! He said “ You didn’t even give it a chance”. He said “We came out to look at homes”. I told hIm, “I don’t care, if it was a palace/or made of gold, on the inside, the answer was “NO”! Frankly, I was surprised that he didn’t ‘KNOW’ as I ‘KNEW’. I just knew that wasn’t going to be our home. It felt so wrong.
your positivity is really helping me with this, im in the grip
Listening n reading this , gives some relief to heart , understanding is love
It was only a few months ago that I found that I am an INFJ. It all made sense. In my adult life, I have found that I work well with people with Autism(especially Asperger's)...but in general, psychology is fascinating to me.
I just started watching some of these INFJ videos a couple days ago. I think I may be INFJ. It explains a lot of things to me about myself. Most of the things I'm hearing about the INFJ personality fits me very well.
My son is an INFJ❤️
(I m INFP.)
Thank you! It's so hard to just stay present! I have so much to speak but just haven't found the language to speak about it...in a way..
It's so nice to hear someone else say that, Shawn. That is completely my struggle too!
#2, I've always called it "instantaneous diagnosis".
I found out Monday I’m an INFJ but I have no one to talk to about it or even how I feel but I’m glad I’m not weird anymore 😂
I found out I am INFJ 5 months ago, but I have unfortunately discovered that no one else really cares. It can be a bit lonely with this new knowledge of yourself. I've explained to 4-5 people that are close to me and no one ever asked me any questions about it, or why realising the fact I'm an INFJ is life changing for me. People simply didn't really care. It was a bit disheartening.
I'm just letting you know in advance, don't expect too many people to be as excited as you are about this new discovery.
For INFJs this discovery is amazing... for many other personality types it's not a big deal. Your best bet is to immerse yourself in INFJ RUclips channels and online forums.
Good luck on becoming a better version of yourself. You will only improve from here onwards. Embrace your weirdness!
I noticed I thought someone might care but no not one I’m still very glad I found out I show videos to a few people I don’t think anyone watched them to the end but thank you for your wise words
Thank you soooo much for this video brother, I've finally found my people😁
I am an INFJ and highly sensitive person (HSP). Is it common for INFJs to be HSPs?
J G yes and Empath.
5 years late to the party 😂 but you are absolutely correct! It really is relieving to understand that you are not "a lone" is this World as there are others albeit a small % who think in a very similar manner as you do.
It's funny just the other night I step outside to let my little Micky (10lbs long-haired chihuahua and LOVE of my life) outside my back yard for a bit of exercise / take care of business and literally out of the blue I'm suddenly inspired to purse an endeavor I've been putting off for no good reason as it turns out.
Trust your "intuition" folks it's generally correct! Also don't be afraid to "fail" this life is far too short for that, just give in a shot what is the worst that can happen?
Well said, Eric! Thanks for sharing. 🙂
Thank you so much this really helped me so much will be coming back for more, finally I can actually say here to friends or associates and just play this and it might explain some questions about my personality that they just don't understand! Thank you after this comment I will be subscribing! AWESOME!
This video makes so much sense for me. I think exactly like this.
I have said to my spouse, when drama happens, it takes me a few days to know how I really feel about it. My first instinct is to calm the drama. If I can't do that, dominate it and take over and subdue it or drive it off. Because underneath this sweet, accomodating person runs the blood of a true barracuda who tries to use her dark side for good and not evil. Ahem. If I can't do that, leave. Then retreat and think. Stew. Process. Chew on it. Turn it over and look for holes and blemishes and good bits. Sleep. Have coffee. THEN........Know how I feel about the event and the people involved. Meanwhile there will be a side of me that really hated to have to get out the barracuda, if indeed I had to. But it had to be done. So hate scary Trish, but good job scary Trish. Sigh.
Haha! That's an awesome description and example, Trish. :-) Thanks for sharing about your "barracuda" side!
very true.
This is the best and most healthy way for us to deal with negative energy, to transmute it over to positive. That is a great example thanks for sharing. 😀❤😀💗
Finally a topic that helps me understand me.. I'd really like to read up on the guide you mentioned in the beginning of your video but I'm not in the States. How can I get my hands on your guide? Hopefully you can help me out. Thanks!
Awesome, A. Rina S! Glad you found it helpful. Go to ispeakpeople.com/infj-personality-guide/ and you can download a guide for free. Let me know if you have any other questions or need help with anything!
Hello,
Thank you!
So, I subscribed..., but then noticed that U don't have any other videos. I would interested in seeing some more, please.
I'm an INFJ. That new news to me certainly explains a lot. Now the challenge is to not allow my INFJism become my crutch..., or my excuse.
I like being an INFJ. I like being me. But it's sooooo difficult finding people who get me.
Hey, I'm a list maker. Any other INFJ list people?
And what are your specific INFJ qualities? What separates you from the crowd?
Just a random comment; I stopped playing video games to make time for women in my life. I feel like this probably happened after a woman complained about her boyfriend spending too much time playing video games.
Finally. a voice of Reason...
OMG, now I know why I futurize. It has given me the most problems in my life.
I tried being an extrovert, had some horrible experiences with people in the workplace. Who lied about me and turned everyone against me. I was also assaulted at work and the witnesses denied seeing anything. I also got bullied at school in both primary and secondary school. How am I mean to like and trust ppl after all of this shit? I know not everyone is bad, but for the most part the average person I have disdain for.
My 2 cents of advice
What doesn’t kills you makes you only stronger, for mankind cannot remake himself without suffering for (s)he is both the marble and the sculptor.
Never be afraid to be hurt, it’s just the way how we learn new things and the more we are aware the harder it will be for us.
In our younger years we were just shy and mimicking to be part of a group, but once you have found a purpose never stop believing in yourself.
Thank you for this video. This helps me a lot.
Thank you so much for my INFJ guide.
You're welcome!
This is so true! Thanks you
You are welcome!
I was at a meeting one time where someone suggested that this person who wasn't there would be a great fit for this new position. I automatically stood up and said I don't believe she's going to be able to take that position. I don't know the reason why but I'm positive she's not going to accept it. And sure enough it was a political gathering and she was not of the same political party ! The fact that her name came up was just nuts, like an oxymoron!
Thank you Brother Spirt
On two tests I was an infj on one I was an infp then on another I was an infj but when I was younger I was an ENFP so I'm figuring I either have multiple personalities or I self contradict. Stuff that keeps me thinking at night.
My spouse purchased a house in 2001 , I told him we need to wait two years , he thought I was insane , two years later restate hit bottom , the best time for buyers now god told me to wait
I enjoyed this video. New to investigating what it means to have an INFJ personality type, I find it all rather intriguing and can relate to most of it. Regarding personality compatibility, I'd just say that I believe from my experiences, that the most important factor has to do with temperament. I feel that is the most important part of personality that determines compatibility, esp. over time. I'd like to see more focus on that aspect of attraction and how others feel about this theory. I also would like to hear more about the significance of empathetic experiences because those play a very large part in my own relationships and life, and I have a feeling I am not alone in that. ;)
Miah, when you refer to temperament, are you thinking about idealists, guardians, artisans, and rationalists or sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric, and melancholic - or maybe even something else? Do you feel like they're the most important factor in personality? And when you refer to empathetic experiences, do you mean people putting themselves in one another's shoes? Thanks for your comment!
Would you say that the infjs weak extraverted sensing and difficulty being in the moment makes them more susceptible to substance abuse/drug addiction? Or have you ever come across this theory?
Thank you. I really enjoyed this.
Thank you! This explains a lot!
I'm a INFJ-A ♋
Thank you for the free guide...
You're welcome!
once we are closed mind
we will be stubborn
so we should be open minded feeding some new perspective from other...
change plan before is too late
Yep... that explaines a lot.
Great video! Also, we supposedly use both hemispheres of our brains equally!!
Thanks, N.K.! Awesome! I didn't know that. Where did you learn that factoid?
I've read about it throughout the years from various sources. Here's one: infjoe.wordpress.com/2013/01/21/infj-complexity/
Also, being an INFJ you'll probably enjoy www.stellarmaze.com
Awesome! Thanks for sharing, N.K.!
N. K. That is interesting at 34y.o. I started playing the guitar left handed, I am right hand dominant. I had a right handed guitar but didn't make sense to me till I picked up a left handed guitar.
Yes I think Scott Morgan talks about that. And he also is very good to help us understand.
I've been changing from ENFP to ENFJ to INFJ in 5 years
Interesting. Do you think you've changed, or do you just understand yourself - and Myers-Briggs personality types - better now?
I always tested as an ENFP until I became a mother and also grew spiritually. I took the test again twice in the past few years and was surprised to find that I am actually an INFJ. But this is my real personality without question. I think that I had finally peeled the layers of the onion necessary enough to see myself as I really am.
Ah now I know why people think I’m so brilliant lol. I’m a smart person but it seems like people think I am smarter than I am. It must be how I connect the dots so effortlessly.
You're personality doesn't mean you're smart dumbass
What about infj's that are starting to not handle all the bullshit. Lately I am starting to act like a crazy person and call people out on their bs because I can't handle the negativity and manipulation and deceit. So I have started to be more extroverted with my feelings even if it makes me the bad person.
I have changed from ISFJ to INTJ to INFJ now within 2 years.
Totally correct.
Mine thinks into the future. Yes, a vision
Buying a house and moving is quite the chore, even for sensing types.
Can''t thank you enough!
Wow. Never heard of this... maybe I might finally get some answers about myself.
Do you have any vids on INFJ and addictions? Could you delve into that? I know many of your vids are based on your experiences, but maybe you could apply your knowledge to addictions 🙏
For my coaching business, I can observe a complex problem for a while and then sort of come up with detailed solution out of nowhere. Others will question it, asking about the details, and strangely my solution will have addressed everything problem, and I never really consciously remember thinking it through in that level of detail. Does that make sense to anyone else?
Bo, I noticed there are many on this comment section stating they were a different personality type and got tested as an INFJ. How can that be? I know people grow and change mentally and physically, but I have also taken the tests about five times and always rated as an INFJ. If what you state is true, how can these individuals say they have changed to an INFJ? Isn't our thought processes wired this way and can't be changed? I am confused on this. What do you think on this matter?
Great video! Just subbed :)
Awesome! Thanks!
For me.. I had been thinking by mistake my body is human body..which is attatched to human world
Yeah, being misunderstood is the story of my life. Still, I find it numorous when tertiary Ni types think they have a bead on Ni.
Thank you brother
Gemini
INFJ (ENFJ in college but tested INFJ several times since)
Genuine Empath
Yeah I'm fucked 🙍
Him: Have you ever wondered how your INFJ mind functions-
Me: Yes (rolling my eyes because that's why I'm here, lol).
Him: -and perhaps why you think so differently than other personality types?
Me: YES (tearing up and about to cry).
Is the guide still available? And I live in Africa so can I get it? Thank u
Thank you
ty i am from germany and i finnaly found out whats (wrong with me )