I’m 76 years old and have been clean and sober since 2/5/84. We also need to expand our conversation to include peers, co workers, and adult family members who suffer from alcoholism and drug addiction. Psychedelics seem to be the latest quick fix for many vets who suffer from PTSD and alcoholism. It will be interesting to watch the long term results from psilocybin. My hope is that it will be effective but my gut feel is it’s a temporary fix for an underlying problem. My experience has taught me that alcohol must be completely removed from the equation before we can deal with our underlying issues. I enjoy your show. Keep up the good work. ❤️
Im a guy who drank his Marine Corps career away after over 14 years. You would think that alone would make me stop. I went through rehab twice while Iwas still in. I didnt quit until after I almost lost my wife and kids. Even after that I still had a couple relapses. I've now been sober a year. Im still building my life back. Its more than just getting sober. Its a complete lifestyle change which I'm still working on. I tried to quit way more than 7 times. Its something you have to do for yourself. If you use your kids, wife, career, as motivation it may help. If you aren't all in for you though, it wont work. I still think about booze everyday. I have people who keep me in line. It helps by talking with, and having mentors who have been through what you have been through. Luckily I have a couple of retired Navy Chiefs that keep me in line.
Your pride in service comments were on the nose. My uncle served in Korea during the war. He was not proud of his service because he was a cook. He was even injured, burned, but wouldn't discuss it. Your advice is 100% correct. You have a gift Andy. Keep doing what you do.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The tool to determine truth vs enabling.
Ive been in recovery from drug addiction for a little over 5 years and, in my opinion, the best option for parents is to cut the addict out until they make a genuine effort at recovery
I believe all of us have addictions. For some its a feeling, others maybe a substance, for others it may be an action. I've known a lot of people to go through rehab, recovery, relapse, round robin circle jerk... You cannot fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed and (to steal this from Andy) you cannot light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
Great job Andy!! I pray for all the people hurting with the fight against addition. Remember when you are feeling alone and think no one is there just look for Jesus!! He has never left your side and can help you with EVERYTHING!! #Godwins
My dad gave me a very long leash as a teenager. Boy, did I screw up, but I figured it out for myself, and I think I am a better person for it. This does not work for everyone for sure. My dad was an alcoholic, and quit. I was an alcoholic as well, and learned a lot from my dad. I'm 2.5 years sober, and feeling great. To this person, like Andy said, seek the advice of professionals, and do the best you can. Hopefully, they will snap out of it. Show them support and love, and have an ear to listen to them. 🙏
As a recovering addict , thanks for talking about this. I have 21 yr old daughter. And a 13 yr old. And I fear that they may become like me so much. Because I know how hard it has been , and will always be to stay sober. And I fear I have maybe done that to them. By increasing their odds of addiction. I've done everything I can think of to put the fear of God into them about it. And all I can do is hope they never have to go through it. Thanks again
Difficulty is measured by you. Staying sober is only difficult if you either don't believe it is the answer or you don't really want to be. Find what you really want and hyper focus upon it. Treat it as if it's a life or death thing and you'll realize how easy it really is if you want it bad enough. Don't treat it as something you should be commended for. While it's commendable to show resolve you put yourself there. You don't get praise for coming out of it. As my Marine father would say, snap out of it. Get yourself together.
I went through some rough few years as a teenager, not so much addiction, but just bad decisions and psychological issues that gradually got worse. My parents at that time didn't really know how to deal with it all and at some point pretty much gave up and created distance between me and themselves, physically and emotionally. Now 16 years later, while I get along fine with my parents again, there definitely still exists an emotional rift between us. Not saying you should enable/support your childs' behaviour of course, but distancing yourself as a parent in a time where they need guidance the most, can come at a cost down the road.
Many ex wardogs have used codein to be asset. It helped a lot,but... And after service its hard to get rid of the pain and cod. Including me. It took 1 year to recover . Plus alco.
#stumpf , hard to believe you can answer these questions like you do knowing how sarcastic, funny, and lude sometimes. 😅. You say it better than i could. Good job
Them some wise words. Its a slippery slope when you judge yourself based on other people. Its the slope of vanity and if you start falling down it, you will never reach the top. But if you have self respect you can be like ok im getting off here, im happy here. And in a lifetime being happy is all that really matters. Its why rich people are some of the most sour people. Not happy unless they reach the top.
The amount of money or possessions mean nothing at the end. It is how many you touched and brought along with you to the finish line. You live on through your deeds to others.
In this spot as a son and a brother mom does hard drugs and brother drinks everyday I’m 21 and don’t know how to make a change I’ve tried several different things but I guess you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change
I lost my best friend to addiction and I learned a lot from it. He had a great career, very charismatic, good looking, and good friends but he decided to surround himself with people from his NA group that enabled him. I told him time and time again not to hang out with these idiots because all they do is enable each other but he never listened. When he showed up high on my bday and kept lying to me I chewed him out for 45 minutes straight because I had enough of his shit and he knew I couldn't be manipulated. I told him if he kept going down this road he was going to die and sure enough next month he was found in his apartment dead from an overdose. He was an only son and it destroyed his parents because he was the center of there universe. He made the decision to keep using drugs and to hang out with people that enabled him to do so. We all have to take accountability for our own lives at some point. Unless someone wants it bad enough they will never become sober and you have to cut them out of your life for your own mental health.
I didn't know that a unit could be considered non-deployable. I'm not military and didn't grow up around it, but these days I'm really interested in the minutia of it.
Im addicted to staring into andys dark killers eyes while i contemplate about my shame of never getting to deploy to fight a war for satanists and occultists. No homo.
Here's a simple idea. Let your children fail at small things. Give them an opportunity to solve these things themselves. Let them feel accomplishment and they will deal with the big problems better than folks that were led their entire childhood.
I am currently going through generations alcoholism and 15 years of military service. Drink was big in culture and was a answer. I’m now in a program for rehab to unwire years of institutional behaviour @clearedhot
“Comparison is the thief of joy”-Teddy Roosevelt
I’m 76 years old and have been clean and sober since 2/5/84.
We also need to expand our conversation to include peers, co workers, and adult family members who suffer from alcoholism and drug addiction.
Psychedelics seem to be the latest quick fix for many vets who suffer from PTSD and alcoholism. It will be interesting to watch the long term results from psilocybin. My hope is that it will be effective but my gut feel is it’s a temporary fix for an underlying problem.
My experience has taught me that alcohol must be completely removed from the equation before we can deal with our underlying issues.
I enjoy your show. Keep up the good work. ❤️
🙏 Thank you for not shying away from difficult subjects and addressing them with such kindness and candor.
Im a guy who drank his Marine Corps career away after over 14 years. You would think that alone would make me stop. I went through rehab twice while Iwas still in. I didnt quit until after I almost lost my wife and kids. Even after that I still had a couple relapses. I've now been sober a year. Im still building my life back. Its more than just getting sober. Its a complete lifestyle change which I'm still working on. I tried to quit way more than 7 times. Its something you have to do for yourself. If you use your kids, wife, career, as motivation it may help. If you aren't all in for you though, it wont work. I still think about booze everyday. I have people who keep me in line. It helps by talking with, and having mentors who have been through what you have been through. Luckily I have a couple of retired Navy Chiefs that keep me in line.
Your pride in service comments were on the nose. My uncle served in Korea during the war. He was not proud of his service because he was a cook. He was even injured, burned, but wouldn't discuss it. Your advice is 100% correct. You have a gift Andy. Keep doing what you do.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The tool to determine truth vs enabling.
BRAVO ZULU
Andy is a great podcaster
ty andy...and to the dude whos kid is going through it...i'll pray for you guys...
Ive been in recovery from drug addiction for a little over 5 years and, in my opinion, the best option for parents is to cut the addict out until they make a genuine effort at recovery
I believe all of us have addictions. For some its a feeling, others maybe a substance, for others it may be an action. I've known a lot of people to go through rehab, recovery, relapse, round robin circle jerk... You cannot fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed and (to steal this from Andy) you cannot light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
Thanks Andy. Tough words to hear sometimes, but I always appreciate it.
Great job Andy!! I pray for all the people hurting with the fight against addition. Remember when you are feeling alone and think no one is there just look for Jesus!! He has never left your side and can help you with EVERYTHING!! #Godwins
My dad gave me a very long leash as a teenager. Boy, did I screw up, but I figured it out for myself, and I think I am a better person for it. This does not work for everyone for sure. My dad was an alcoholic, and quit. I was an alcoholic as well, and learned a lot from my dad. I'm 2.5 years sober, and feeling great. To this person, like Andy said, seek the advice of professionals, and do the best you can. Hopefully, they will snap out of it. Show them support and love, and have an ear to listen to them. 🙏
Thank you Sir, shared.
Great show Andy, let me know if you’d like to come to the dojo and learn some Aikido
Great podcast! As usual.
As a recovering addict , thanks for talking about this. I have 21 yr old daughter. And a 13 yr old. And I fear that they may become like me so much.
Because I know how hard it has been , and will always be to stay sober.
And I fear I have maybe done that to them. By increasing their odds of addiction. I've done everything I can think of to put the fear of God into them about it. And all I can do is hope they never have to go through it. Thanks again
Difficulty is measured by you. Staying sober is only difficult if you either don't believe it is the answer or you don't really want to be. Find what you really want and hyper focus upon it. Treat it as if it's a life or death thing and you'll realize how easy it really is if you want it bad enough. Don't treat it as something you should be commended for. While it's commendable to show resolve you put yourself there. You don't get praise for coming out of it. As my Marine father would say, snap out of it. Get yourself together.
@@billbradleymusic sure ! Never have looked for a pat on the back. Only expressed concern about my children. But thanks.
I went through some rough few years as a teenager, not so much addiction, but just bad decisions and psychological issues that gradually got worse. My parents at that time didn't really know how to deal with it all and at some point pretty much gave up and created distance between me and themselves, physically and emotionally.
Now 16 years later, while I get along fine with my parents again, there definitely still exists an emotional rift between us.
Not saying you should enable/support your childs' behaviour of course, but distancing yourself as a parent in a time where they need guidance the most, can come at a cost down the road.
Never compare your insides, to other people's outsides.
Many ex wardogs have used codein to be asset. It helped a lot,but... And after service its hard to get rid of the pain and cod. Including me. It took 1 year to recover . Plus alco.
#stumpf , hard to believe you can answer these questions like you do knowing how sarcastic, funny, and lude sometimes. 😅. You say it better than i could. Good job
Them some wise words. Its a slippery slope when you judge yourself based on other people. Its the slope of vanity and if you start falling down it, you will never reach the top. But if you have self respect you can be like ok im getting off here, im happy here. And in a lifetime being happy is all that really matters. Its why rich people are some of the most sour people. Not happy unless they reach the top.
The amount of money or possessions mean nothing at the end. It is how many you touched and brought along with you to the finish line. You live on through your deeds to others.
In this spot as a son and a brother mom does hard drugs and brother drinks everyday I’m 21 and don’t know how to make a change I’ve tried several different things but I guess you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change
I lost my best friend to addiction and I learned a lot from it. He had a great career, very charismatic, good looking, and good friends but he decided to surround himself with people from his NA group that enabled him. I told him time and time again not to hang out with these idiots because all they do is enable each other but he never listened. When he showed up high on my bday and kept lying to me I chewed him out for 45 minutes straight because I had enough of his shit and he knew I couldn't be manipulated. I told him if he kept going down this road he was going to die and sure enough next month he was found in his apartment dead from an overdose. He was an only son and it destroyed his parents because he was the center of there universe. He made the decision to keep using drugs and to hang out with people that enabled him to do so. We all have to take accountability for our own lives at some point. Unless someone wants it bad enough they will never become sober and you have to cut them out of your life for your own mental health.
I didn't know that a unit could be considered non-deployable. I'm not military and didn't grow up around it, but these days I'm really interested in the minutia of it.
And thank you to all that served and are serving.
How do you submit questions to Andy? Thanks for the assistance
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Im addicted to staring into andys dark killers eyes while i contemplate about my shame of never getting to deploy to fight a war for satanists and occultists. No homo.
A very well put together thought.
This dude wakes up earlier than Jocko😂😂😂
Nah.... Jocko has been up for 3 hours and got in a workout already. LOL
Good morning Andy!
Here's a simple idea. Let your children fail at small things. Give them an opportunity to solve these things themselves. Let them feel accomplishment and they will deal with the big problems better than folks that were led their entire childhood.
I am currently going through generations alcoholism and 15 years of military service. Drink was big in culture and was a answer. I’m now in a program for rehab to unwire years of institutional behaviour @clearedhot
Robert Palmer
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To the second topic, may want to consider getting a test kit for your daughter.