“This is you wanting to be with your friends more than your family.” That right there is 100% the reason he didn’t tell her. He couldn’t do anything without be guilt tripped.
!!!!!!! women equate anything w/o them as cheating. Play your game too much, you're cheating. I personally just don't give af anymore lol. You'd be crazy trying to keep up with a woman and her roller coaster ride of emotions.
guilt tripping works because ppl let it work, and if some me time is worth lying for it's worth fighting for. If the relationship can't survive that he owes it to himself to bring it up sooner rather than later, and at least give a reasonable solution a chance.
My buddy has the same problem. If he goes out his wife will bank that time. He’s out 4 hours then she’s gotta go out 4 hours. And she texts him the entire time.
Can't beat a 2007 fantasy baseball draft with Carlos Delgado and Hideki Matsui. If you pause at 1:40, you can see their draft board pretty well: Pujols, A-Rod, Vlad, and David Wright going top 4.
Pete is the one being terrorized. He is out doing harmless fun with his friends while Debbie goes to a club, hiding her marriage and hoping men would quote "f her" yet here she is guilt tripping her husband for hanging out with friends. Shes all about control, and her sister is the same as well. Everything has to be and go their way or else. Divorce!
At first I felt bad for her when she said she wanted time for herself until I remembered her going out to the club with Alison for her time away from the family. Also those times she was hanging with Alison during the pregnancy tests. Considering that she would have felt the same way if Pete told her or not, im with him on this one.
@@LeapingRat She wasn't lying nor was she going out every week to do those things. He was lying to her to get extra time away and push part of his responsibilities onto her. While he's out having fun, she's picking up additional childcare and household work that he's not there to do. It's a very mean thing to do to your partner. The solution was to be honest and up front from the start, not lie and sneak around.
I never understood this, men sleeping on their own couches or living in motels 😂😂😂 Give me the silent treatment all you want but I'll be sleeping in my bed and coming home to my house
@@ruckusmacleod6602 See this is where guys mess up they think their only role is to provide just like women think their only role is to keep house. Ppl don’t get married to be roommates, they are a team and if one of the team members are being lazy I.e. gaming, lying then they are gonna get called out for the good of the team same with the wife. BUT where men fail is they get stuck on the working is only important thing if they got nothing else or know what else to do and although that’s important they are the head of the house and set the tone for their home. This character isn’t a leader or acting like one so the house will collapse. So can’t complain about being treated like the leader while also not even being a leader. Paul Rudd character is immature. There are all kinds of things he could have done to improve the situation. But he chose weak.
This chick just broke into someone's house (it was unlocked but would still be B&E legally) found that her husband wasn't cheating and still found a way to assume the moral high ground. "I don't don't want you at the house anymore?" Who bought the house, cupcake? What are you going to do? File for divorce citing that I attended a fantasy baseball draft?
@@Seeker265729 someone random comes into your house without asking and your think they are all fine and dandy? probably not prison time but at least a fine
I remember how mad this scene made me. Her character is literally just angry that he's experiencing happiness at a hobby and that she doesn't get the justification to her anger that she was craving because he wasn't cheating. Everything she says to him is a projection of her unhappiness onto him. She's angry/ unhappy and it makes her mean and she wants him to be just as bad as her. I grew up with this with my mom. Sometimes you're having fun watching a comedy and then reality, like the physical personification from South Park, slaps you in the face and says, "F*** you!"
you completely missed the point. The whole point and reason she was angry was because he lied to her, for weeks on end. Relationships dont work without trust
@mosesmoses8357 It's been a while since I've seen the movie so correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't she lying about going out clubbing with the knocked up main female character? Because she was getting older and insecure about whether or not she was still attractive? And that's why she was convinced he was cheating on her?
@@mosesmoses8357 She was angry because she wnaetd to be part of that not because he lied. Have you watched the video? Lying part was not even something she cared much about.
She’s not angry at him being happy with friends. It’s because she is being lied to. And not lied to with cheating. Lied to because he feels it would be better to be untruthful about hanging out with friends than being forthright. 100% men and woman need alone time either by ourselves or with friends. Just don’t lie haha. Especially with something so simplistic as hanging out with firnds
Everyone forgets she is constantly lying to him. She goes out without him and dances with other guys and doesn't tell her husband. One of the running jokes in the movie is between him and Jason segal. paul rudds character has no idea what's going on.
And that is why you aren’t in a relationship or at least a happy one. Leslie Mann’s character is 100% right. You never lie to your partner no matter how small it is, because the moment the lie gets revealed, you start losing the trust that’s supposed to tie the two of you together. Additionally, both persons in a relationship deserve alone time, not just the guy, and in a relationship, even after marriage, both partners need to keep going on dates.
The first time I saw this movie I didnt really understand Pete's perspective. I didnt realize how much I actually enjoyed doing things by myself (I did a lot of things by myself as a teenager) when I live with a Partner it would actually drive me nuts not being able to go do things on my own. Was work, home with her or doing something with her work again. Watching this movie again after the relationship ended (although there were other issues with the relationship) I realize I probably should have just been open with her that I needed alone time rather then letting my frustration build with not being able to have time to myself.
PREACH!! the need of a hobby, friends, spending wiht yourself, or your family its JUST AS important as having a spouse... and more people need to understand that
If a woman has it in her head that you have a flaw, nothing resembling logic will interfere with that. Some women(and men) need to get over their fragile little egos and learn to let things slide. She is not the center of his universe. She is a partner. You share a life. You don't share an oxygen tank. People who think they need each other need to revaluate. You DON'T need each other. You are only together because you share a love. That's it. There is no survival element in this. Both of you need to retain the option to leave if that love dies. Don't become dependent on each others thoughts and time. Your relationship will go down in flames. Been with a woman for 20 years happily married because we respect each others freedom. I don't need to know what she is doing all the time and vice versa. Because the moments we do choose to spend together and grow is that much more special when new things happen to the both us away from each other. Be open to learning and growing and learn to detach from each other. Recognize that the infatuation part of a relationship is fleeting and that REAL love has longevity and evolution. You will love, lust, hate, anger, despair, fear, adore, admire, envy, and respect each other over time. It WILL happen. The feelings are incidental. You are building a life together and have to roll with the punches and push through and the reward is a mature and natural progression. Use your brains. Not everything you FEEL is correct. Not everything you FEEL is incorrect. Use. your. brain. This goes for both men and women.
No kidding. As someone who's been cheated on, if I found out my ex was actually just doing...this, my response would just be "....okay" We all need time to our friends and hobbies. Its hard to balance when you're in a committed relationship. Nothing wrong with getting away once in awhile
It’s worse for her because her character is controlling. She’s more upset about being wrong then his inability to communicate it because he literally said he spoke of a draft and she didn’t even care enough to remember
Look up how Dungeons and Dragons was made!! The guy Gary Gygax had a wife who thought he was cheating, but he was just hanging out with friends. She followed him, and she literally just found him hanging out with friends. He created a fantasy world and later sold it as Dungeons and Dragons. This is the same thing!! Ugh… I always found this scene heartbreaking. He just needed a break, and she was yelling at him for it saying it’s worse than cheating. It’s not worse. Ugh…. He just needed a mental break.
This shows that even with the perfect life There are still little moments like these where you don’t even know why you’re hurt The wife obviously wants more romance in her life and the husband wants some more alone time They just both don’t know how to express there emotions
The wife is a pain in the butt. Demanding, emotionally abusive and manipulative, and ready to believe the worst about her husband. She's suffocating and insufferable.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyeto, its the constant nagging she does, when she is with him. Constantly bringing him down, attacking and bickering. It’s also the constant hypocrisy on her part, going out to the bars dancing with random guys. He enjoys being alone on his own time, because of that. When she finds out he is literally just going to see Spider-Man 3 and a fantasy league with his male friends.. NOT cheating, then he’s still the villain. 😂 if that’s misogyny, then you have about as many brain cells as a worm.
Given the fact that Leslie Mann's husband (Judd Apatow) is the director of the movie, the question arises: is the Paul Rudd character actually a modified version of Judd Apatow?
I don't think a man as successful and influential in Hollywood as Judd Apatow would have stayed with Leslie Mann if she was ANYTHING like this shrew Debbie. Leslie Mann is probably the polar opposite of Debbie: Kind, considerate, understanding, willing to accommodate and compromise without fighting.
I never realised that but it makes sense especially when you think about this is 40 or whatever the sequel spin-off was called. The fact that his real child is in the movie.
I like that the movie really puts the onus on both of them. Pete should not be lying and going being his wife’s back and Debbie really shouldn’t be overbearing and short fused. Even though it’s a movie it shows how issues are just out in the forefront when you don’t communicate to your partner openly and without hostilities.
He is doing those things because she is overbearing and short fused. Frankly, if he has to do those things he is just better off without her. He would have had to know she was like that before the kids came.
And she's got some nerve being so short fused when, at this point in their lives, HE IS THE ONE bringing home all the bacon and paying for all the beautiful things they have!!!! What a horrid and ungrateful woman.
Also, wasn't she out clubbing husbandless (enough to get in without a wait and know bartenders/staff by name and they know her) with her friend in skimpy dresses dancing and flirting with random guys at the start of the movie which was only a few months prior to this point in the movie?
@@darren871 I have a feeling Leslie Mann, this actress, is almost the POLAR opposite of Debbie IRL. If she was anything like Debbie, a rich and influential Hollywood bigshot like Judd Apatow would never stay married to her and take this toxic abuse. I bet Leslie Mann is sweet, willing to compromise, and soft-spoken in real life.
@@CheerfullyCynical829 So because a man makes the money in a marriage, that gives him the right to treat his wife terribly, and she should just take it and be grateful?
Dude that is the most unreasonable woman ever. Time for myself too... Lady you went to the club and continue to kick it with your friend throughout this film, how tf are you not getting "time to yourself"? And then you say that him hanging with friends is worse than cheating!? That's the funniest part out of this whole movie is how ridiculous she was being. 😂
Their total lack of romantic chemistry made the movie so much funnier. Because there's absolutely no way to see how these 2 ever connected in the first place.
“Want” implies there’s room for discussion. I use the term “need” and it’s honored by the wife because she knows I mean it, considering I ask for so little.
Trust me. After finding a good woman that understands this, you won’t think a second longer about the ones who rejected you or couldn’t respect you for wanting alone time.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet she was the liar and irresponsible one, this scene is supposed to be a joke about the woman being a hypocrite, but for some reason people don't understand that and assume the guy is the one wrong here
Maybe you should just tell her you're going to the fantasy baseball draft. I'm not sure how you're managing to see Spiderman 3 in theaters every year, though.
This scene is funny. But the fact that a not-insignificant number of women think she’s fully in the right is absolutely terrifying. How on earth is having fun with friends “worse” than cheating? Sure, Pete probably should’ve sent a quick text about where he was and what he was doing, but with how insanely controlling she is I honestly don’t blame him. Her vibes just scream “I’m upset that you WEREN’T cheating on me so my anger is unjustified” or “I’m upset that you’re having fun without me.” And this is before getting into the fact that she goes to clubs and flirts with other guys without his knowledge… multiple times.
I've found that lying is the best way to keep yourself and your relationship happy. The longer you are in a relationship, the more a woman tends to guilt trip you for wanting to spend time alone. It still blows my mind how you just can't be honest about wanting to go to the movies by yourself, or just have one day where you binge video games and movies by yourself. Even if they say they are cool with it, you can definitely sense it in the air that it's not. Just lie and no one gets hurt.
Pete shouldn’t have to lie about being able to do things on his own, I’ve seen couples who are extremely attached it’s weird to go on a fishing trip and the girl has to come and the group just accepts it, overly attached relationships are weird in a sense that if one does not have the other they seem off or have no identity of their own because of fear of offending their partner. Both here are wrong but time apart from one another can be healthy if done correctly and not a form of avoidance.
Yep. Women become very co dependent. A husband couldn't go on a fishing trip for a weekend. The wife would ask why they don't do anything when the whole family just spent a whole week at Disney Land. She can go somewhere for a weekend and he just shrugs.
Considering she herself goes out and does things without him is pretty hypocritical. And she goes out to clubs and flirts with other guys. Yet what he's doing is worse than cheating.
I relate to this in a parental relationship way, not a romance one. Where you try to explain something to one of them and then they make it this big monster in their head.
@@s.marshian8455 seems like this is probably someone younger. But once you live with someone then this makes all the sense in the world. Parental relationship isn’t quite the same, for what this scene is trying to represent.
For all the women who wonder why men struggle with being honest, it's often just because so many of you have a tendency to overreact over things like this, when in fact there are abusive people out there who cheat and hurt their significant others. She would have fought him to the death if he straight up told her he just wanted to go do something for himself or she would have accused him of cheating anyway.
I FOUND THIS funny when I first saw this, but now I realize how accurate the ending of the clip is. It’s not funny when you find yourself in a similar situation
This is an example of a selfish spouse who doesn’t trust her husband and doesn’t allow him to have sometime to himself. Whereas she is out clubbing with her sister and flirting with other men yeah the double standards are real life.
I realized after I got married and had kids is that wives do not like to see husbands content. I literally could have just finished mowing the lawn and hanging up my clothes and decide to play my game for a couple of hours after finishing choirs, and my wife would start nagging about how it’s not fair how I’m having so much time to myself and she doesn’t get to have that. Like lady I just did all the choirs and watched the kids while you would go to the grocery store. And don’t get me started on football season 😩
This movie did a great job giving the characters believable interpersonal problems. Not saying the problems are justifiable or reasonable, just that they are relatable to the types of interpersonal problems real people have, which is somewhat rare in movies. The main "problem" that the movie centers around - an unplanned pregnancy - is one of the most unrelatable problems, but even that is pretty relatable for a lot of people.
@@slammin2445 if his wife wasn't a liar and manipulator, something that this scene is supposed to portray, and clearly demonstrate, then it would have been fine
I pray that i will never ever be in a relationship with a lunatic like that woman. I would actually prefer dying alone than being married to someone as unhinged as that
As I got older I understood and sympathized with Rudd’s character more and more. The gaslighting by wives is horrible. But don’t you see say anything about their shoes or make up on the bathroom counter.
"I like Spiderman." One of the funniest/saddest most well delivered lines in the whole movie. Leslie Mann is so underrated.
This is the one line in this movie that has stuck with me
😂😢
And there’s “underrated” guy…
Bro I catch myself saying that every day😂alongside other movie quotes 😩
@@neoneherefrom5836 900+ others saw the cinematic under appreciation of a super talented actor.
Then there's you... just being salty for no reason.
“We said no wives…”
😂😂😂
😂😂😂
“This is you wanting to be with your friends more than your family.” That right there is 100% the reason he didn’t tell her. He couldn’t do anything without be guilt tripped.
!!!!!!! women equate anything w/o them as cheating. Play your game too much, you're cheating. I personally just don't give af anymore lol. You'd be crazy trying to keep up with a woman and her roller coaster ride of emotions.
guilt tripping works because ppl let it work, and if some me time is worth lying for it's worth fighting for. If the relationship can't survive that he owes it to himself to bring it up sooner rather than later, and at least give a reasonable solution a chance.
@SmallvilleFann1983 He doesn’t sound single at all. He sounds married.
My buddy has the same problem. If he goes out his wife will bank that time. He’s out 4 hours then she’s gotta go out 4 hours. And she texts him the entire time.
men are not allowed hobbies when they get married, its all about worshipping the golden hole
Can't beat a 2007 fantasy baseball draft with Carlos Delgado and Hideki Matsui. If you pause at 1:40, you can see their draft board pretty well: Pujols, A-Rod, Vlad, and David Wright going top 4.
🥱🥱😴😴😴🤤🤤
Yeah Matsui is an excellent pick!
It actually was a good draft lmao they did their homework
As a blue jays fan I loved seeing Delgado up there haha
Yes!
So many great 1 liners in this movie. The delivery of “I got Matsui” and “I like Spider-Man” are perfect in this scene lmao
Not that great
@@Nopanop pretty great
Real great, so funny
@@lamakicker69 aww, glad you get so easily amused
@@Nopanop nah you’re just a miserable person who thinks hating popular things makes the unique and special🤣
She just proves why he needs time alone.
@SmallvilleFann1983
She said "let her check to see"😂
She's controlling, but he's selfish and lies to her. Both are quite wrong here.
Pete is the one being terrorized. He is out doing harmless fun with his friends while Debbie goes to a club, hiding her marriage and hoping men would quote "f her" yet here she is guilt tripping her husband for hanging out with friends. Shes all about control, and her sister is the same as well. Everything has to be and go their way or else. Divorce!
you should never date anyone
How? He was indeed lying about where he was and what he was doing. The trust was already gone before she went to confront him
Seth coughing PETE always had me dying 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Is it that easy to kill you? 🤯🤯😬🙄😬
The most replayed part of the video lmaoo
LOL that's the best part
Yes lol
Beat me to the comment, not a lot of people caught that
She gives a really genuine performance here, and it's really written well, I think many couples can attest to having been in conversations like this.
So is it well written, or just an average couples argument?
Probably cause her husband directed the movie 😂
@@Shmancyfancy536well written if it was badly written she would’ve freaked out destroying the draft.
At first I felt bad for her when she said she wanted time for herself until I remembered her going out to the club with Alison for her time away from the family. Also those times she was hanging with Alison during the pregnancy tests.
Considering that she would have felt the same way if Pete told her or not, im with him on this one.
You missed the whole point + those are perfectly fine activities?
@@xavierrusso2942 meaning that when she said "i want time for myself", she was being hypocritical because she has already been doing that.
She went out ONE night to celebrate her sister's promotion and the husband knew about it. This is him sneaking behind her back and lying to her.
@@xavierrusso2942 she not gonna let you hit simp
@@LeapingRat She wasn't lying nor was she going out every week to do those things. He was lying to her to get extra time away and push part of his responsibilities onto her. While he's out having fun, she's picking up additional childcare and household work that he's not there to do. It's a very mean thing to do to your partner. The solution was to be honest and up front from the start, not lie and sneak around.
That Pete cough always had me LOL
The most replayed part of the video lmaoo
Bruh, I forgot that part, has me rolling right now..😂
FACTS
Stick to the code (Pirates of the Caribbean voice)
The older I got, the more I understood him.
😂 same!
Yep
That's sad. You don't appreciate your family?
Are you serious???? Quit being so dramatic......
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet Soft
Reminds me of Patrice’s line about men wanting to be alone, but not lonely
Ain’t that better?
My favorite part of this is Paul Rudd decked out in Orioles gear when everyone knows he’s a die hard KC Royals fan lol
It's called ACTING.
@@RogersCadenhead It's called being RELAXED.
I believe Rudd said they couldn't get him any Royals gear so he wore Orioles stuff instead.
yeah I didn’t know that nor do I care
Okay nevermind that just makes me angry. Bro is just mocking us
"I don't want you at the house anymore!"
Cool, should I just skip paying the mortgage this month too or are you gonna to pay it in guilt trips.
I want to see that divorce court. "Your honor he didn't invite me to fantasy baseball and he lied; I want custody of the kids and the marital home".
I never understood this, men sleeping on their own couches or living in motels 😂😂😂 Give me the silent treatment all you want but I'll be sleeping in my bed and coming home to my house
@@ReverZe83facts b&#@× you sleep on the couch how about that
Boring 🥱
@@ruckusmacleod6602 See this is where guys mess up they think their only role is to provide just like women think their only role is to keep house. Ppl don’t get married to be roommates, they are a team and if one of the team members are being lazy I.e. gaming, lying then they are gonna get called out for the good of the team same with the wife. BUT where men fail is they get stuck on the working is only important thing if they got nothing else or know what else to do and although that’s important they are the head of the house and set the tone for their home. This character isn’t a leader or acting like one so the house will collapse. So can’t complain about being treated like the leader while also not even being a leader. Paul Rudd character is immature. There are all kinds of things he could have done to improve the situation. But he chose weak.
As a kid, i never really understood this scene. Now that im 35 and married it hits different
yup
yah, the wife sucks
how did you watch this movie as a kid and then become 35 years old when the movie came out in 2007 ? You were 18 then.
@@nomadeperI mean you can refer to yourself as a kid at 18. Most people do
@@alexbeardsley751gotta love the Tully sigil pfp
This chick just broke into someone's house (it was unlocked but would still be B&E legally) found that her husband wasn't cheating and still found a way to assume the moral high ground. "I don't don't want you at the house anymore?" Who bought the house, cupcake? What are you going to do? File for divorce citing that I attended a fantasy baseball draft?
It's not breaking and entering at all, and only trespassing if they had posted no trespassing or if they told them to leave and they didn't.
"cupcake"?
@@Seeker265729 It’s not “only trespassing if they posted a sign”. That’s asinine
@@Seeker265729 someone random comes into your house without asking and your think they are all fine and dandy? probably not prison time but at least a fine
Unlawful entry
I remember how mad this scene made me.
Her character is literally just angry that he's experiencing happiness at a hobby and that she doesn't get the justification to her anger that she was craving because he wasn't cheating.
Everything she says to him is a projection of her unhappiness onto him. She's angry/ unhappy and it makes her mean and she wants him to be just as bad as her. I grew up with this with my mom.
Sometimes you're having fun watching a comedy and then reality, like the physical personification from South Park, slaps you in the face and says, "F*** you!"
Does she even work in a movie?
you completely missed the point. The whole point and reason she was angry was because he lied to her, for weeks on end. Relationships dont work without trust
@mosesmoses8357 It's been a while since I've seen the movie so correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't she lying about going out clubbing with the knocked up main female character? Because she was getting older and insecure about whether or not she was still attractive? And that's why she was convinced he was cheating on her?
@@mosesmoses8357 She was angry because she wnaetd to be part of that not because he lied. Have you watched the video? Lying part was not even something she cared much about.
She’s not angry at him being happy with friends. It’s because she is being lied to. And not lied to with cheating. Lied to because he feels it would be better to be untruthful about hanging out with friends than being forthright. 100% men and woman need alone time either by ourselves or with friends. Just don’t lie haha. Especially with something so simplistic as hanging out with firnds
Everyone forgets she is constantly lying to him. She goes out without him and dances with other guys and doesn't tell her husband. One of the running jokes in the movie is between him and Jason segal. paul rudds character has no idea what's going on.
Oh right thx for giving the perspective of her hypocrisy. I guess I should re-watch it now that I'm married and have kid of my own.
That’s a woman for u
Would Pete seriously even care
She wasn't lying about going dancing
SHE WENT OUT ONCE AND REJECTED JASON SEAGALLS ADVANCES.. WHERE IS THE CONSTANTLY?! If you don’t know how to watch a movie just say that.
To this day, I will never understand how this woman thought she was in the right for this
Well she is a woman for starters LOL
Because she's a woman. It's all about feelings. We all apparently have to adapt to their "feewings."
And that is why you aren’t in a relationship or at least a happy one. Leslie Mann’s character is 100% right. You never lie to your partner no matter how small it is, because the moment the lie gets revealed, you start losing the trust that’s supposed to tie the two of you together. Additionally, both persons in a relationship deserve alone time, not just the guy, and in a relationship, even after marriage, both partners need to keep going on dates.
Ugh hearing her whiny nagging, let a man get some MAN time geez
@@lowestCommonDenominatorThis name fits you very well
The first time I saw this movie I didnt really understand Pete's perspective. I didnt realize how much I actually enjoyed doing things by myself (I did a lot of things by myself as a teenager) when I live with a Partner it would actually drive me nuts not being able to go do things on my own. Was work, home with her or doing something with her work again. Watching this movie again after the relationship ended (although there were other issues with the relationship) I realize I probably should have just been open with her that I needed alone time rather then letting my frustration build with not being able to have time to myself.
PREACH!! the need of a hobby, friends, spending wiht yourself, or your family its JUST AS important as having a spouse... and more people need to understand that
Yep Desiree knows what's up
@@jweezy5490 😘
100% true bro.
If a woman has it in her head that you have a flaw, nothing resembling logic will interfere with that. Some women(and men) need to get over their fragile little egos and learn to let things slide. She is not the center of his universe. She is a partner. You share a life. You don't share an oxygen tank. People who think they need each other need to revaluate. You DON'T need each other. You are only together because you share a love. That's it. There is no survival element in this. Both of you need to retain the option to leave if that love dies. Don't become dependent on each others thoughts and time. Your relationship will go down in flames. Been with a woman for 20 years happily married because we respect each others freedom. I don't need to know what she is doing all the time and vice versa. Because the moments we do choose to spend together and grow is that much more special when new things happen to the both us away from each other. Be open to learning and growing and learn to detach from each other. Recognize that the infatuation part of a relationship is fleeting and that REAL love has longevity and evolution. You will love, lust, hate, anger, despair, fear, adore, admire, envy, and respect each other over time. It WILL happen. The feelings are incidental. You are building a life together and have to roll with the punches and push through and the reward is a mature and natural progression. Use your brains. Not everything you FEEL is correct. Not everything you FEEL is incorrect. Use. your. brain. This goes for both men and women.
She literally displayed the behavior that causes him to want personal time 🤣
HAHAHA il disagree with her. Cheating is a TRILLION times worse than doing a baseball draft with friends
No kidding. As someone who's been cheated on, if I found out my ex was actually just doing...this, my response would just be "....okay"
We all need time to our friends and hobbies. Its hard to balance when you're in a committed relationship. Nothing wrong with getting away once in awhile
Tbh cheating is a worse act but this is sadder.
@@BlackDiamond2718this is definitely not sadder. Being cheated one is one of the worst feelings ever. Fantasy baseball is just silly
@@thaddeust.thirdiii736 sadder because of the situation. Cheating is more about anger.
It’s worse for her because her character is controlling. She’s more upset about being wrong then his inability to communicate it because he literally said he spoke of a draft and she didn’t even care enough to remember
Lmfaooo I like spider man 😂😂😂 I always die on that line
Totally agree LMFAO
Hahahaha
But that's Antman
Same hahahaha
Look up how Dungeons and Dragons was made!!
The guy Gary Gygax had a wife who thought he was cheating, but he was just hanging out with friends.
She followed him, and she literally just found him hanging out with friends.
He created a fantasy world and later sold it as Dungeons and Dragons.
This is the same thing!!
Ugh… I always found this scene heartbreaking. He just needed a break, and she was yelling at him for it saying it’s worse than cheating. It’s not worse. Ugh…. He just needed a mental break.
“I got Matsui!” 😂
Good pick lol
Glad Seth revisited the “hit u in the 😼 on ur way out” line 🎉
This shows that even with the perfect life
There are still little moments like these where you don’t even know why you’re hurt
The wife obviously wants more romance in her life and the husband wants some more alone time
They just both don’t know how to express there emotions
The wife is a pain in the butt. Demanding, emotionally abusive and manipulative, and ready to believe the worst about her husband. She's suffocating and insufferable.
Classic example of a miserable hate filled woman blaming a man for her problems while he tries to seek sanctuary and sanity.
Classic case of a woman determined to be mad at something even though she was wrong in the first place.
He was lying behind her back. Yet somehow she's the villain... classic misogyny
@@ASMRyouVEGANyeto, its the constant nagging she does, when she is with him. Constantly bringing him down, attacking and bickering. It’s also the constant hypocrisy on her part, going out to the bars dancing with random guys. He enjoys being alone on his own time, because of that. When she finds out he is literally just going to see Spider-Man 3 and a fantasy league with his male friends.. NOT cheating, then he’s still the villain. 😂 if that’s misogyny, then you have about as many brain cells as a worm.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet No, it is a double standard. She was lying to him, as well.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyetshe also had time to herself throughout the film. She’s just selfish and the sequel proved it
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet L. Eat some meat the vegan diet is rotting your brain.
Given the fact that Leslie Mann's husband (Judd Apatow) is the director of the movie, the question arises: is the Paul Rudd character actually a modified version of Judd Apatow?
Now I know how she keeps getting roles in movies
I don't think a man as successful and influential in Hollywood as Judd Apatow would have stayed with Leslie Mann if she was ANYTHING like this shrew Debbie. Leslie Mann is probably the polar opposite of Debbie: Kind, considerate, understanding, willing to accommodate and compromise without fighting.
@@CheerfullyCynical829 well he did say modified. Probably over dramatized to make it entertaining. But probably did have some sort of issue similar.
I never realised that but it makes sense especially when you think about this is 40 or whatever the sequel spin-off was called. The fact that his real child is in the movie.
Yes
"I need to keep my sanity a little bit" and she just puts on the waterworks for herself, she wonders why he kept a fantasy league meet a secret
Love the spider man 3 theme in this movie
I like that the movie really puts the onus on both of them. Pete should not be lying and going being his wife’s back and Debbie really shouldn’t be overbearing and short fused. Even though it’s a movie it shows how issues are just out in the forefront when you don’t communicate to your partner openly and without hostilities.
He is doing those things because she is overbearing and short fused. Frankly, if he has to do those things he is just better off without her. He would have had to know she was like that before the kids came.
And she's got some nerve being so short fused when, at this point in their lives, HE IS THE ONE bringing home all the bacon and paying for all the beautiful things they have!!!! What a horrid and ungrateful woman.
Also, wasn't she out clubbing husbandless (enough to get in without a wait and know bartenders/staff by name and they know her) with her friend in skimpy dresses dancing and flirting with random guys at the start of the movie which was only a few months prior to this point in the movie?
@@darren871 I have a feeling Leslie Mann, this actress, is almost the POLAR opposite of Debbie IRL. If she was anything like Debbie, a rich and influential Hollywood bigshot like Judd Apatow would never stay married to her and take this toxic abuse. I bet Leslie Mann is sweet, willing to compromise, and soft-spoken in real life.
@@CheerfullyCynical829 So because a man makes the money in a marriage, that gives him the right to treat his wife terribly, and she should just take it and be grateful?
Dude that is the most unreasonable woman ever. Time for myself too... Lady you went to the club and continue to kick it with your friend throughout this film, how tf are you not getting "time to yourself"? And then you say that him hanging with friends is worse than cheating!? That's the funniest part out of this whole movie is how ridiculous she was being. 😂
"I wouldn't be mad. I don't get mad" lol..
This movie is way more serious than it needed to be lol
That's Judd Apatow movies in a nutshell
Every line she delivers is knocked out the park
1:00 "PETE!!!" 😂🤣
Women hate when men have any fun or hobbies without them
Their total lack of romantic chemistry made the movie so much funnier.
Because there's absolutely no way to see how these 2 ever connected in the first place.
Maybe their marriage was arranged 😂 jking
Well seeing that she had a proclivity for the club scene and he is very simliar to Ben, they probably met there...
There is LITERALLY no good way to have a conversation with your girlfriend/spouse about wanting more time to yourself. 🤣🤣
“Want” implies there’s room for discussion. I use the term “need” and it’s honored by the wife because she knows I mean it, considering I ask for so little.
Trust me. After finding a good woman that understands this, you won’t think a second longer about the ones who rejected you or couldn’t respect you for wanting alone time.
Be a man. Say it. If she fights you about it, take it anyway.
@@alohasnackbar7622
Oh just like that huh, gee why didn't I think of that?! 🤣🤣
@@JustSomeCanadianGuy That dude ain’t married and if he is, it’s not lasting haha
It doesnt matter if he lied or not, she'll turn it somehow to her being a victim and him having to apologize. Just like she did.
She definitely came into this situation looking for a fight.
Really? I thought she wanted to watch Spiderman
so what did you kick him out the house for?
he was playing a fantasy baseball league behind my back!
what?
Yeah she is nuts
She had had it with his lying snd irresponsible behavior.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet She is a hormonal hypocrite.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet she was the liar and irresponsible one, this scene is supposed to be a joke about the woman being a hypocrite, but for some reason people don't understand that and assume the guy is the one wrong here
She played possibly the most detestable shrew in the history of cinema.
she just unintentionally proved his point when she was like
"this is worse than cheating..."
like, be so SERIOUS right now.
Oh geez it's so typical the guy is supposed to read her mind lol
"I don't want you at the house that you pay for anymore" lol
1:00 Seth character here is how mandem should be Look after one another 💯😂
*Cough* PETE *cough*
Yet if it was the other way around, "OMG, I just wanted to go to the club with my girls and flirt with random drunk guys, you're smothering me!"
Literally have this exact conversation with my wife every year
Then you guys need counseling or a divorce. Living like that isn't healthy
Then you need counseling.
Maybe you should just tell her you're going to the fantasy baseball draft. I'm not sure how you're managing to see Spiderman 3 in theaters every year, though.
This is giving me ptsd , 😂😂
“🥺 I like Spider-Man.” 😂😂😂😂
The important thing here is that the man changes. Always the man’s fault. God forbid this man want to get away for a few hours
This scene is funny. But the fact that a not-insignificant number of women think she’s fully in the right is absolutely terrifying. How on earth is having fun with friends “worse” than cheating? Sure, Pete probably should’ve sent a quick text about where he was and what he was doing, but with how insanely controlling she is I honestly don’t blame him. Her vibes just scream “I’m upset that you WEREN’T cheating on me so my anger is unjustified” or “I’m upset that you’re having fun without me.” And this is before getting into the fact that she goes to clubs and flirts with other guys without his knowledge… multiple times.
She only went to the club once. He called her home early.
I totally understand why Pete needed to get away this woman is INSUFFERABLE!!!
the “i don’t want to have to ask you to ask me, i want you to come up with it on your own” line hits hard fr
Does it?? Do you even talk to girls?
@@MrJimShortsdo you?!
@@MrJimShorts clearly you don't🥱
“She doesn’t have a gun, does she?”
“No……I don’t think so…”
I've found that lying is the best way to keep yourself and your relationship happy. The longer you are in a relationship, the more a woman tends to guilt trip you for wanting to spend time alone. It still blows my mind how you just can't be honest about wanting to go to the movies by yourself, or just have one day where you binge video games and movies by yourself. Even if they say they are cool with it, you can definitely sense it in the air that it's not. Just lie and no one gets hurt.
Typical. She doesn't catch him cheating, so fetches a reason to boot him from the house anyway.
Always nice to come back here and get a refresher to never get married
This scene makes me not wanna get married
How is this worse? Fantasy Baseball is worse than cheating? I think she can’t digest the fact that he is having fun without her.
They never can.
Pete shouldn’t have to lie about being able to do things on his own, I’ve seen couples who are extremely attached it’s weird to go on a fishing trip and the girl has to come and the group just accepts it, overly attached relationships are weird in a sense that if one does not have the other they seem off or have no identity of their own because of fear of offending their partner. Both here are wrong but time apart from one another can be healthy if done correctly and not a form of avoidance.
Yep. Women become very co dependent. A husband couldn't go on a fishing trip for a weekend. The wife would ask why they don't do anything when the whole family just spent a whole week at Disney Land. She can go somewhere for a weekend and he just shrugs.
Considering she herself goes out and does things without him is pretty hypocritical. And she goes out to clubs and flirts with other guys. Yet what he's doing is worse than cheating.
Being overly attached is bad. Imagine if you broke up or had a divorce or even died then one person may be significantly impacted mentally
Or maybe they just genuinely like spending time with one another
@@rp4712 happens all the time specially with death. It’s obviously a great impact, but some people literally have no idea what to do/how to go on.
She asked him to be honest then called him mean lol smh
I relate to this in a parental relationship way, not a romance one. Where you try to explain something to one of them and then they make it this big monster in their head.
That's right.
Why not romance? People need their space even in a relationship.
@@s.marshian8455 seems like this is probably someone younger. But once you live with someone then this makes all the sense in the world. Parental relationship isn’t quite the same, for what this scene is trying to represent.
It's the same thing either way
“We said no wives” is literally me and my friends 😂
He needs to be honest, and she needs to be not crazy.
🤦♂️ make a man feel guilty for nothing.
Understanding where she is coming from in this scene is a part of growing up and being an adult. And I’m a guy who 100% relates to Pete.
Woman hate seeing men happy
For all the women who wonder why men struggle with being honest, it's often just because so many of you have a tendency to overreact over things like this, when in fact there are abusive people out there who cheat and hurt their significant others. She would have fought him to the death if he straight up told her he just wanted to go do something for himself or she would have accused him of cheating anyway.
You see how all the rest of the lights are off, because it’s all men in the house. Only light the room you are in.
I FOUND THIS funny when I first saw this, but now I realize how accurate the ending of the clip is. It’s not funny when you find yourself in a similar situation
Why is she so unreasonable and self centred?
Because she's a female.
I don’t want you at the house anymore - ok chick, if you even dare to say this over fantasy baseball then it’s completely over
This is an example of a selfish spouse who doesn’t trust her husband and doesn’t allow him to have sometime to himself. Whereas she is out clubbing with her sister and flirting with other men yeah the double standards are real life.
Don't you understand Rom Coms? Men are morons and the women fix them in the end. I love you how you are honey, but oh he magically gets a better job.
I realized after I got married and had kids is that wives do not like to see husbands content. I literally could have just finished mowing the lawn and hanging up my clothes and decide to play my game for a couple of hours after finishing choirs, and my wife would start nagging about how it’s not fair how I’m having so much time to myself and she doesn’t get to have that. Like lady I just did all the choirs and watched the kids while you would go to the grocery store. And don’t get me started on football season 😩
You just married the wrong person I’m afraid.
Sounds like you married the wrong person and now you're bitter
I would hate being married to her.
Id probably off myself the next day because this is mental abuse
Why because she's asking him for support on helping take care of the kids they had together? 🥱🤨
My parents never understood why at 47 I never married, had kids, had a relationship of any kind. This is why.
Paul Rudd is the common dude spirit in all these movies.
A+ movie. Script and acting were great.
This movie did a great job giving the characters believable interpersonal problems. Not saying the problems are justifiable or reasonable, just that they are relatable to the types of interpersonal problems real people have, which is somewhat rare in movies. The main "problem" that the movie centers around - an unplanned pregnancy - is one of the most unrelatable problems, but even that is pretty relatable for a lot of people.
I love this movie so much I keep coming back to it
Women make it so tough to work out things, at 3:49 she is covering up her insecurities by kicking him out... how this will help their relationship?
Extremely funny scene 🤣
Debbie is the original Karen
Man has a hobby and gets hated for it.
I think he’s getting hated because he’s lying to his wife
@@slammin2445 if his wife wasn't a liar and manipulator, something that this scene is supposed to portray, and clearly demonstrate, then it would have been fine
Great scene and thats most couples …..and a reason so many of my friends end up divorced once the kids are grown
This is such a great sequence. It feels real and it will hit you different when you at least 30 something.
Is Rudd and Mann play the same couple in This is 40?
Same characters and is somewhat a sequel/spinoff of this movie
I’m generally sad that I’ve never been married, but then I see these type of scenes and realize why I haven’t and never will. I’m too broken for it
Brown town has the best team. Ichiro on his team he wins the hits category Automatically.
“If your gonna get caught cheating it shouldn’t be like this” 💀
the wife is completely wrong on this
I pray that i will never ever be in a relationship with a lunatic like that woman. I would actually prefer dying alone than being married to someone as unhinged as that
do not marry debbie
Unfortunately sometimes you find out after the fact, not before... Choose wisely...
So true
As I got older I understood and sympathized with Rudd’s character more and more. The gaslighting by wives is horrible. But don’t you see say anything about their shoes or make up on the bathroom counter.
If I were him I wouldn’t want to go home either.
If you were him, he would be gay and would have no use for his wife at home.
"I don't want you at the house anymore, ok?" YES ! 🥳