S1- how the hell doesn't OP realize he's the AH? He's lived in his gf home for 30 seconds. He needs to get his own place. I think he's the father. The way he's pushing? Yeah, thats his baby.
Right, I bet it's his and he's tryna sneak his side peice in and his baby... the audacity, and he's paying zero bills and thinks he can just tell Evelyn where she can work in her own house. I hope she catches on and kicks his a$$ out pronto
Take the daughter, just let her eat problem solved. She gets to say she's been there, he stays under budget and then make sure next time all bases are covered with stupid promises. And they are stupid because anything can crop up that you don't have control over and create issues like this LOL. I'd definitely make her feel super uncomfortable about it just to be petty though 😂
OP did say that the extra money goes towards vacation, sooo either explain "No vacation this year due to that One Restaurant Trip" or let the daughter know that Will be the case in advance of it happening. Daughter probably has no real life comparison for cost 🆚 compromise situations. Or she thinks parents have a money tree & once she's on her own, this opportunity won't come to her for a long time, until she can grow her own money tree...
The fact that she immediately says OP’S calling her greedy - shows me she knows she’s being unreasonable. She’s not too young to work and learn the value of a dollar. Also, a family tradition is not a promise to obey blindly.
Story 1: It _should_ be common sense, but apparently since it's not. "Don't take on a responsibility you can't fulfil without imposing on someone else." He does not have the means to help her the way he wants to, but she does. Yes, _she_ does. They are the means and resources at her disposal and it's damn well her prerogative. He has less justification for feeling infuriated with his gf, than himself for trying to take on something he's shown he's ill-equipped to. Good on gf for stating and enforcing boundaries.
OP would only be an AH if her father had an account dedicated solely for education. However he simply gave an amount in inheritance and stated his wishes. OP was almost destitute and needed the money to save her family. It’s easy for uncle to say the money should’ve been reserved seeing as how he wasn’t in OPs shoes
OP should tell the daughter that if she had put the money aside for her college, she'd Not Need Any Money Now Anyways, because they'd have starved to death, but that's OK though the money would be there so uncle can inherite it !!!
I couldn’t believe some people’s lack of empathy, most of all the daughter’s…did she not see how they were destitute? I do agree that OP should use it as a teachable moment because her daughter doesn’t seem to understand the difference between a need and a want.
Yes. OP did put the money towards securing her children’s future by paying off the credit card debt, putting food on the table, & making sure a huge chunk of the mortgage was paid off so they’d always have a home to live in & wouldn’t risk foreclosure. They are still only living paycheck to paycheck. The brother makes more money, so had no immediate need for it & was able to create a college fund for his kids. That is a privilege. If grandpa wanted the fund to be specifically used for college, he should have set up a college trust fund. Securing/investing in your child’s future can take many forms. Investing in stocks & bonds, setting up a college fund, setting up a trust fund, extra lessons for special interests/hobbies, paying for necessary medical procedures for a vary I’ll child, paying off a mortgage sot secure a home, etc……
@@tlang7616And since OP managed to pay off the mortgage such a long time ago, what was she spending her money on since then to not manaage to save anything? You might find that living "paycheck to paycheck" means that mummy dearest can only get a new gucci bag every other month.
He showed his true colors. As you’ve said, even if he didn’t cheat and isn’t Chantelle’s baby daddy, he’s definitely boundary stomping, wants to play hero at other’s expense, and has difficulty accepting No as an answer.
Where the children even old enough to understand at the time of grandpa’s death? Where they old enough to understand that while their cousins might get a college fund from grandpa, they will instead be putting the money towards paying off debts, the mortgage to keep a roof over their heads, & put food on the table? They put the money towards securing their future by way of ensuring the roof over their heads & that the credit card debt wouldn’t put them in a position to have to choose what bills they can pay that month. OP & her husband are already only 1 bad emergencies away from massive debt again since they still live paycheck to paycheck.
I so agree with this! I am so sick of all the redditors that think parents need to explain everything or tell their children everything including things about their past! Parents do not need to tell children everything. Period! My children are adults now and I still don't tell them everything. Some things are none of their business! I don't know why people think that's good parenting when it can actually be detrimental. The stupidity just amazes me!
Story 2: NTA. The other group imo instantly became the ahole when OP said they brought KIDS to a BREWERY. I can't be the only one thinking there's something wrong there. 😕
Story 1: This Chantelle seems like such a great friend - not only did she get evicted, now she is going to get OP evicted too for something that was never any of his business! Not that OP is completely innocent. He wet his own bed and now he may not even have that soon.
S1: OP needs to understand this clearly: YTA. Full stop. No questions. He’s lived there less than a month and he thinks his opinion should override his GF’s? Nope. GF should kick him out. Typical “nice guy” attitude.
Story 2, nobody expects people to bring their kids to a brewery, and if there were other tables to accommodate the people with kids they should have sat at another table to begin with.
@Roseytwinks MNK that sounds kid friendly, a place that sells beer and water isn't a place I'd want to go to since I'm not a big beer drinker. What are the kids gonna do? Look around while their parents get drunk?
@BlackLotus30 at op's local brewery, your options are beer or water, no food. No entertainment. Drinking beer is the entertainment. Do the kids at your local brewery just sit and drink water, or do they drink beer with everyone else?
I would refuse to pay $300 per person to eat a dinner!! That is just outrageous if you ask me. Even if I were rich, I wouldn't want to pay that much for a meal. Daughter is being unreasonable and OP didn't promise an uber expensive restaurant. That was a promise made and has been kept, within reason.
3rd story, if your daughter is saying that she can't trust you now because you won't take her to such an expensive restaurant. Sit her down and tell her you will, but you'll have to take money from somewhere else to pay for it. So, there is no allowance, no extra curricular activities, no extra shopping, etc. If she agrees, so be it.
@thatoneguy9816 lies? If that place is out of budget they would, as they stated on the post, need to take funds from elsewhere. Letting them know what actually happens is good. They can choose a nice dinner and sacrifice something else for it.
@@thatoneguy9816 Technically lying or not, she's old enough to understand that some things are unsaid but should be understood. Budget is one of those. I understand if she's trying her luck to ask, who knows maybe her parents actually agreed? But she should understand and back off when she's told that it's too expensive.
@@vivanyatodd5036 Are lies of omission a lie? Say a guy slept with all of a woman’s friends and didn’t tell her before the relationship. Is that a lie? Let’s do the opposite as well with a woman sleeping with all of the guy’s friends before a relationship.
Restaurant: So if anything left over from the outing goes into the family vacation fund, let *everyone* know that in exchange for going to the high-end place, The Opie would be *WITHDRAWING* from the vacation fund, ie, no vacation this year, thanks to the kid's choice of restaurant. Simple.
The parent's would then have world war 3 in the house if their son, understandably, wanted the vacation and their daughter wouldn't back off. And then, they'll be taking side no matter what they do.
@@vivanyatodd5036Well, a good compromise would be the daughter getting the restaurant, and NO vacation. Im sure they have family she can stay with for a couple of weeks.
Story 2: Personally, if you have a large group joining a table, I would say something. If it was just one family that's fine but a huge group with lots and lots of children, it's just common courtesy to outline this before sitting at a table that already has people sitting at it.
This. It’s not ok. They tried to boot these folks outta the table by saying a few ppl and showing up with enough crotch goblins to join an orc army against the elves 😂😂😂😂
@@BlackLotus30 so you would literally just rock up and invade someone else's table without considering them beforehand? Good to know. Common courtesy is seemingly a lost character trait.
She is mad she can't go to a place to spend $1500 on food and cries that she can't trust her parents. That's what happens when you're more of a peer than a parent. The fact that she knew how much that place costed and still expected to go speaks volumes.
My son did that to me when he was 7 years old. I asked him if he wanted trucking museum or fire truck museum. He said trucking. When I was leaving trucking museum, he then said he wanted fire truck. Little rugrat got me on my words. I did not tell him he could have ONLY one. He got both museums. This was in Connecticut. That day we drove back roads between museums and he got 3. After that I was VERY careful how I worded anything with my son.
@@lorrainelomotan1366 that's fine and all but the fact that she's not willing to compromise when she knows it's because of money means entitlement. To cry and claim, "I can't trust you anymore" is bonkers considering she's 15.
@Amy_The Unbearded_Roommate At 15, she could get a part-time job and save up for what she wants. Part of this was the parents fault. Never told kids a domination amount to eat, just choose restaurant of choice. Pay for meal, learn from this. Discuss why cannot go on vacation. As a parent we have to set rules and guidelines for our children. This starts at a young age. If you have a fit aka a temper tantrum this will be taken away. My son learned that in elementary school. He acted up, he got less of an allowance. Clean out the litter box for 3 days. Changed his attitude in school.
I'm assuming that she just learned that she is pregnant, therefore, WHY ISN'T SHE WORKING, PAYING HER DARN RENT? She can EASILY work up into her 8th month, providing she is not having complications, but then again, she will probably MAKE some up to prevent from working! Since she cannot/FREFUSE to pay rent, why they heck hasn't she gotten a termination? Can't pay rent, how the heck can she AFFORD a baby? More importantly, why hasn't she contacted the baby's father's family or other relatives? Then again, perhaps OP is the baby's daddy, and he is trying to handle it, by forcing his current girlfriend to take up his SLACK!
@@rebeccajohnson8579 She’s probably wanting to keep the baby so she can get more government assistance. She doesn’t seem to be in a hurry to get a job and obviously doesn’t care that she’s been evicted. I don’t know OP is the father of the baby but he seems to think that her responsibility is somehow his and that the girlfriend should just deal . It’s ridiculous and so is OP. Since it’s been a month since he’s moved in the girlfriend can either change locks or have the cops remove him.
@@Metonymy1979 yeah, it certainly goes on don't get me wrong. The algorithm is extremely clever as well though. it tracks how long you stay on each video, interactions with them even if you don't agree with the video and I just there to troll her abuse. It means those sort of people that are shown more content they can interact with, keeping you online for longer so you see more adverts which companies are paying the tech companies a lot of money for.
Story one: the edit says it all. “I want to be the hero at my gfs expense. Why won’t she let me?” Because she will have to try to work while dealing with a rude dead beat and before you know it, the rude dead beat and her spawn. Op will be away from the chaos.
100% agree. And once she has her baby it will - depending on state/country - be damn near impossible to evict her, even if she's not paying rent. If girlfriend budges she will regret it for years. Not only should she refuse to let that pregnant bum move in, but she should also kick her boyfriend out, and dump him.
@@mannydcbianco I really wouldn’t be surprised if the gf is looking out how to legally evict OP before he has the chance to try to move his baby momma, excuse me “dear friend” behind her back
@@lorilancaster5917 She doesn't Even have to evict his. HE'S been there "LESS THE A MONTH". She might Just Change the locks.If He's NOT ON THE Lease then There's NO PROBLEM.
@@andynieuwenhuis7833 You are so RIGHT ON, It's the FIRST thing she should do, PACK HIS BAGS and CHANGE THOSE LOCKS! I sure HOPE his girlfriend is reading all of our comments! Where is this AH coming from, from living with his parents, haven't been out on his own, moving from momma to momma without bearing ANY financial contributions?
Story 3: $1500 for a meal? Maybe for a graduation celebration, but OP should still have notice to save up for it. Story 4: NTA. The daughter thinks OP should have risked homelessness so she could have a college fund? Seriously? What a ridiculous, childish perspective.
Story 3: That sounds like a wonderful compromise. I think the daughter is being ridiculous, but not all kids grew up squeezing a penny until they had pretty much had copper wire and might not be aware of money so much. Your thought is much more manageable and fair. They don't break any promises but they make it for a very special dinner in the future.
@@lwolfstar7618 Oh, this guy's definitely building an art room for his babymama, even if he's straight. That's the point of the girlfriend moving out of her office.
Omg, that first story. I was gob-smacked with disbelief. OP's girlfriend could make several outfits from the fabric of that many red flags! Yep, OP is definitely three sheets to the wind if he thinks he's in the right to make such demands and he is most certainly in need of his own home... the audacity of the man.
Story #2, they got to the table first. The people with the families asked if they could sit down. It's common curtesy to let them know they're having kids. Also, bringing kids to a brewery is super distasteful. Go to Applebees if they want to get drunk with kids
Story 2: I'm a bit baffled about why you would take a gaggle of toddlers to a brewery. I have a two year old and I don't understand why people insist on bringing children into explicitly adult spaces. Kids, especially kids under five, do not belong in fine dining restaurants or establishments that serve nothing but booze. NTA.
No, she should have said she had her kids. Why did they wanna sit next to you if there were more tables?they were out of order especially if the kids were running around.
Yeah I'm really wondering why they brought children to a brewery If it's a family friendly sort (doubtful given there's only water and OPs reaction) then the children should be closer to the play area where the giant Jenga, connect four, and Cornhole are. But if they are merely allowed but not catered to then people are not expecting them in that environment and you need to be mindful of the people around you. Especially if you have the loud energetic sort who likes running around like they're at Chuck E Cheese's. Be respectful.
I'm wondering why OP chose one of a pair of tables for a group who will be playing games. It seems to me that a single table would be a lot more sensible.
@@lamwen03 the reasons would very much depend on a number of factors, like how large the game group is, how many games they are playing (if more than one, then extra tables make sense), and the general size of the tables. If the tables are 4-6 tops generally, and the group is larger than the largest table, then they need more than one. Same goes for smaller tables.
So no food served, no drinks other then beer and water, no kids besided the group that showed up? And to top it off they let their kids start running once they sat down. Yeah no NTA. A brewery is not a McDonald's in our state if food is not served kids are not allowed.
OP4: NTA. You took care of your kids by improving your overall situation. Your dad left you the money without conditions. You did the right name. The commenter who thinks people need to be "forthcoming"needs a reality check.
I agree. It was OPs inheritance not her children's and honestly while 120,000 is a good bit of money, it doesn't go as far as it used to. Don't get me wrong I'd be extremely grateful to receive such an amount but it's not an amount that would set you up for life
No way. And to say she could no longer trust her parents because of this is wicked. Emotional blackmail of the highest order. If she is still using emotional bkackmail to get her own way then tell her that she can go but book a table for for 1, if she is using technicalities then you can too, you said she could go to any restaurant, no actual agreement that you all have to go to the restaurant. She might go on her own and good for her if she does but its the only way she can afford to go.
And exactly what else I was wondering, has she told her mates that she is going??? Such an extreme reaction to say she can never trust her parents again?
@@lorilancaster5917 I've got to agree with you. The girl is Spend ing Lots of time at her Aunt's place. Most Adults wouldn't Even go a place like that ;unless They specifically Saved up for That night out.
@@oldwelshlady6584 I don't think she wants to brag to her friends. This sound like a trap, or those quack test from Tiktok or entitled adults. Considering her "I can't trust you anymore" comment, I'll bet that she was 'testing' her parents' trustworthiness.
Story 4 Please tell her to mind her own business, she is toxic and it's not her baby she can call her baby what ever she wants she over stepping and bullying your wife when she needs support she probably thought you would ask her to name him because she is entitled
I’ll bet she will start giving OPs son personalized items with Alex written instead of Alec. It will be an honest mistake. They didn’t have any that said Alec.
Alec is a very nice name. It's not too common, and it's not outlandish like the people who try to name their kids sentences. I still remember one that was "kid name" then "does the hula."
About the restaurant: Be parents and tell your kid, we can't afford that restaurant, move on to your next choice. You aren't breaking a promise, just setting expectations that are reasonable. Me, I just said too expensive, pick something else. If he or she had a fit, then they were sent to their room until they were ready to talk.
Expensive restaurant story: 15 is old enough to know what she's asking isn't normal. OP should be able to sit her down, and explain to her, that the $1500 evening being asked for, is a bit different than the $100 or so they paid for handpulled noodles, or even a few hundred for steaks. The aunt's response is also suspicious.
I don’t get the brewery story, if there were other tables, why did the group with kids want to share? But in any case, asking to share a table should come with all information. Eg We have screaming kids, we will be smoking cigars, we will be singing Viking war hymns.
Yup, he knocked her up. Generous with other's property. Write a rental agreement & make him pay rent. 2) Next time, state adults only, thank you. Share under your desires. Dibs. 3) fun family time. Limits on cost are appropriate. Teach responsibility & reality. Sister can sponsor! 4) nobody gave me money for college. Time to sit daughter down & go over finances for her 1st "pre-college" class. She is selfish. 5) yes, LOUDLY correct her each time to the level of utter humiliation. Sis is a jerk.
S1: found the original thread, he refused to answer if it's his baby... but answered other questions, so yup his baby and he's trying to move in his mooching pregnant side piece so they can mooch off of Evelyn together since he pays no rent either. I think he's planning to squat or off poor Evelyn or something... the absolute audacity
Story 3: what an entitled brat. I'm all for never breaking a promise and wholeheartedly agree with that BUT there is also some basic common sense you have to apply. I'd say that's fine, if we are being like there is no money limit both of us (the parents) are going to Paris for dinner for my birthday & due to there being a huge bill associated with this we would not be going on a family holiday this year. Then next year we will be only doing take out food for birthdays due to unrealistic financial outlays. What an entitled brat.
The solution is easy tell the Kids if we go to this restaurant than we have no budget for vacation. But we know who put her up to this. Is was the aunt, no doubt about it. They are verry close talks about this and aunt thinks this restaurant is not a problem. Yeah aunty puts her up to this.
Oh, she could be doing this to show off to her friends, as well. I agree, she is choosing this restaurant for manipulation, and getting mad, proves it. The louder the scream, the bigger the scam. I would tell her, ok, if you are going to be that way, you can have your dinner at the expensive restaurant, BUT YOU MUST PAY YOUR OWN WAY TO GET THERE, AND HOME. YOU WILL BE EATING BY YOURSELF, AND YOU MUST PAY THE TIP. DON'T WORRY, I'LL PUT IT ON THE BILL AND TAKE IT FROM YOUR ALLOWANCE. ALSO, YOU WILL NOT BE GOING TO YOUR BROTHER'S DINNER. I'm not chosing to lie to you; we cannot afford that dinner without making other sacrifices... like NO VACATION. Since rest of us don't want to make that sacrifice, YOU must make the sacrifice for your expensive dinner. Parents will call ahead and make arrangements to pay for the meal and tip over the phone, BUT SISTER MUST PAY FOR HER UBER TO AND FROM THE PLACE AND MOM WILL PULL THE TIP FROM HER ALLOWANCE. Force her to invest in this expensive meal, to drive the point home. Sister is looking at $50 tip alone, up to that much for an Uber ride to and from. Is spending $100 of her own money truly worth a meal that expensive? I'm not seeing where Aunty would gain anything from putting the daughter up to this; but her siding with her as a dig against Aunty's sister... I can see that. Should the sister say: THAT'S NOT FAIR! It's not a celebration if I'm by myself; why should I have to pay for anything!? Oh, then ask your aunty to take you and pay for you and herself. My friend says all the time: you can do anything you want, as long as you are prepared to pay for the consequences. If you want a meal that is worth $315, that comes with some pricey consequences.
@@Objective-Observer her friends no it is an adult who put her on to this and aunt was to Quick with her response from you made a promise. Would not surpriced me when she said to aunt mum and dad always do what they promist and aunty wanted to show her wrong. Learning the parents a lesson.
Second story: I admit; I haven't been to a brewery. With that aside, who asks to sit with someone when they have a whole group of people that would also need to join? I don't get that. It wouldn't matter where they were. A bunch of strangers joining a table are bound to takeover the table. Why was this a good idea. I mean OP and her husband couldn't expect to enjoy themselves with a bunch of unknown people and unknown kids. I don't understand why the woman asked to join their table when their were clearly other options. And heck NO, OP should not have been expected to get up and move under these circumstances. What am I missing here?
Story 2: Disagree, Op is NTA. Given how this woman was letting her kids run around, anyone wana bet that when Op’s group started drinking/ having adult time the mother would ask them to quiet down because “we have children here”
Story one…..oh my lord. This is hilarious that a grown person can be this ridiculous. There a month and already moving in his other girlfriend and their newborn. I hope the homeowner girlfriend dumps this idiot.
1st story: "It's a bold strategy Cotton, let's see if it pays off for 'em" Dinner story: hell no NTA your kid is out of touch thinking that's reasonable
#1 referring to your girlfriend as “out of line” because she won’t allow a freeloader to move in. I hope she dumps you yesterday, red flag language there
Choosing a restaurant story. Op shouldn't listen ti the hypocrisy of the sister. "No I wouldn't do it either, but you shouldn't break a promise with your child so just pay for the restaurant." Also, the daughter understands the budget but still demands to got to that restaurant is entitled behavior. The car analogy comment is perfect for this situation
1. Thats 100% his kid lol. 2. "Refused to pay the landlord" I own a rental real state agency, i have 51 homes in my portfolio that i rent below market rate while still turning a profit, so Im understanding about people going trough haed times and i can be forgiving about late rent. However words cannot describe how much I bloody hate entitled people that refuse to pay rent for atupid reasons, specially the whole "landlord are scummy" crowd.
$300 pp dinner story, 1 parent takes that bratty kid. So $700. At least she gets her dinner & the rule now changes to "nothing over $100 pp" since she was so intent on ruining it for the whole family.
OP, your girlfriends first BIG MISTAKE was NOT making you pay MARKET RENT! #2: Demanding that your girlfriend give your friend FREE RENT TOO! The best thing you can do is MOVE OUT, GET YOUR OWN APARTMENT, then move your MOOCHING friend in with you! Your girlfriend should have DEMANDED that you MOVE OUT to take care of your friend!
Story 3: NTA, but it was stupid not to establish a budget for the meal in the deal. pending $300 a person is insane when you can get the same quality food for $50 anywhere else.
A promise is a promise I will go but I also will tell that this year we will not have a family vacation because this diner took it all. And any other diners from now on will have a limited budget.
OP NTA. $300 is way too much for just 1 person. And that doesn't even add in the other costs and things. When she has her own 💰, she can spend whatever amount on a restaurant dinner. Even. The 50 steak and 60 ribeye is crazy to me. But if they can really afford 1000 for a night at a restaurant fine but they must be really rich since I don't think that is 100% rational.
#1. Yta , #2. Why are children in a place that only serve beers and water. #3. Nta. Sister need to shut up and teach that girl that yes you keep promises but expending soo much money in a dinner is ridiculous. #4. Nta #5. Nta. Her opinion IS useless.
Dinner story (I think story 3), It sounds like to me, like someone has been whispering into granddaughters ear, my money is on The SISTER. Kids do not know these things, without a lot of coaching.
I'm sorry?? Kids in a brewery??? In my country there's a law against taking kids to places that serve alcohol! So, yeah, not good..but still op hate kids apparently..😂😂
So the BF moved in with his GF, doesn't pay any rent, and demands that his best friend should be allowed to move in and pay no rent too? The BF is a HUGE AH. Move out and rent an apartment with your homeless best friend instead of being a parasite towards your GF!
Story about daughter dinner. Fine take her to dinner tell her by the way when we go on vacation you will have to stay home with your aunt bc what your eating is your vacation. There promise not broken
The baby name story: “family opinions are important and everyone should be able to express them”. Sure, and the sister did express her opinion and it was ignored. What she meant was “you should listen to my opinion over your own because I’m so important”.
Rich Dinner: I don't care how good the kid has been, if the dinner is too expensive, it doesn't happen. That'll be a good lesson in realism for her. You don't always get what you ask for or deserve, sometimes you get solely what you or the person paying can afford. But if she truly only wants to try it? Fine. One adult takes her, they SHARE an appetizer, and only drink water. And when THAT costs more than two normal meals, explain why she's eating crackers for the next two days.
S1: YTA. This is lowkey funny. Did Op really think he wouldn't be the AH when he's demanding his gf, who he don't even help with rent, to move in his pregnant 'friend' for free? The fact that the friend was rude to the gf and got evicted because she refuse to pay her previous landlord is the cherry on top, lol. He's delusional if he truly believe he's right here.
Last story I would have quoted Ayn Rand to the sister: "Don't offer unsolicited opinions; it will spare you the embarrassing discovery of their exact value to your listeners."
Wanna bet it's his kid
it was my first thought lol
Would explain why he doesn’t bring up the baby daddy
It’s the only thing that makes this insanity make any kind of sense. 😅
I wouldn't take that bet. Who would bet against me?
No I don't want to bet it's his kid I can't afford to lose any money with inflation the way it is
S1- how the hell doesn't OP realize he's the AH? He's lived in his gf home for 30 seconds. He needs to get his own place. I think he's the father. The way he's pushing? Yeah, thats his baby.
Dude's got a lot on his mind, he's going to be a father after all.
Well a mooch has to figure out some way to pay for his baby and his baby mama.
@@juliearmfield2634that’s where he fucked up. I didn’t notice until I heard it a second time that he wasn’t going to be paying rent at his gfs
Right, I bet it's his and he's tryna sneak his side peice in and his baby... the audacity, and he's paying zero bills and thinks he can just tell Evelyn where she can work in her own house. I hope she catches on and kicks his a$$ out pronto
I couldn't believe this wasn't written from the gf's perspective. This man had the audacity to look for agreement from Reddit 😂.
Story 3: "You promised' doesn't equal "I'll choose the most outlandish and unrealistic option available". OP is NTA.
Take the daughter, just let her eat problem solved. She gets to say she's been there, he stays under budget and then make sure next time all bases are covered with stupid promises.
And they are stupid because anything can crop up that you don't have control over and create issues like this LOL. I'd definitely make her feel super uncomfortable about it just to be petty though 😂
OP did say that the extra money goes towards vacation, sooo either explain "No vacation this year due to that One Restaurant Trip" or let the daughter know that Will be the case in advance of it happening. Daughter probably has no real life comparison for cost 🆚 compromise situations. Or she thinks parents have a money tree & once she's on her own, this opportunity won't come to her for a long time, until she can grow her own money tree...
@@marshawargo7238 this is what we would do also.
The fact that she immediately says OP’S calling her greedy - shows me she knows she’s being unreasonable. She’s not too young to work and learn the value of a dollar. Also, a family tradition is not a promise to obey blindly.
Define unrealistic, because dude said they could afford it.
Story 1: It _should_ be common sense, but apparently since it's not. "Don't take on a responsibility you can't fulfil without imposing on someone else." He does not have the means to help her the way he wants to, but she does. Yes, _she_ does. They are the means and resources at her disposal and it's damn well her prerogative. He has less justification for feeling infuriated with his gf, than himself for trying to take on something he's shown he's ill-equipped to. Good on gf for stating and enforcing boundaries.
This sounds like sound advice to me. I feel like it applies to children and pets too.
Inheritance. That YTA is insane. Does he think parents should share every decision they make with their children?
OP would only be an AH if her father had an account dedicated solely for education. However he simply gave an amount in inheritance and stated his wishes. OP was almost destitute and needed the money to save her family. It’s easy for uncle to say the money should’ve been reserved seeing as how he wasn’t in OPs shoes
OP should tell the daughter that if she had put the money aside for her college, she'd Not Need Any Money Now Anyways, because they'd have starved to death, but that's OK though the money would be there so uncle can inherite it !!!
I couldn’t believe some people’s lack of empathy, most of all the daughter’s…did she not see how they were destitute? I do agree that OP should use it as a teachable moment because her daughter doesn’t seem to understand the difference between a need and a want.
Yes. OP did put the money towards securing her children’s future by paying off the credit card debt, putting food on the table, & making sure a huge chunk of the mortgage was paid off so they’d always have a home to live in & wouldn’t risk foreclosure. They are still only living paycheck to paycheck. The brother makes more money, so had no immediate need for it & was able to create a college fund for his kids. That is a privilege. If grandpa wanted the fund to be specifically used for college, he should have set up a college trust fund. Securing/investing in your child’s future can take many forms. Investing in stocks & bonds, setting up a college fund, setting up a trust fund, extra lessons for special interests/hobbies, paying for necessary medical procedures for a vary I’ll child, paying off a mortgage sot secure a home, etc……
@@tlang7616And since OP managed to pay off the mortgage such a long time ago, what was she spending her money on since then to not manaage to save anything? You might find that living "paycheck to paycheck" means that mummy dearest can only get a new gucci bag every other month.
"Assume people are gonna have children" they went to a location that serves alcohol exclusively.
Because alcohol and toddlers that can’t stay put go hand in hand
I went to brewerys in my country, Kids are not aloud
Ya, who takes kids to a brewery.
@@paulinadeboer3604 Unless it is a restaurant it isn't allowed in the U.S. either.
@@mikehilbert9349 A FUCKTON of entitled parents.
S1: Gigantic YTA, even if the baby isn't OP's. I really hope the g/f kicks him out. He and the "friend" can be homeless together then!
He showed his true colors. As you’ve said, even if he didn’t cheat and isn’t Chantelle’s baby daddy, he’s definitely boundary stomping, wants to play hero at other’s expense, and has difficulty accepting No as an answer.
Who on earth brings children to a brewery!? They serve nothing the children can drink at all.
To be fair here in Australia, breweries also have bistros and some have children play areas so perhaps it’s the same for the story🤷🏻♀️
@@roseytwinksmnk2932it's not. Listen to the damn story.
@@veezopolis thank you people keep saying in other countries like no one cares they don’t anything for the kids there
Op1 getting dragged for his entitlement is giving me strength to face the morning
Inheritance story- you do not have to explain to a child what you do with your money. Period
I searched just for this. It's absurd to think that OP owed a literal child that kind of info.
Yeah not their business. They needed, a roof over their heads and food. That was the priority.
Where the children even old enough to understand at the time of grandpa’s death? Where they old enough to understand that while their cousins might get a college fund from grandpa, they will instead be putting the money towards paying off debts, the mortgage to keep a roof over their heads, & put food on the table? They put the money towards securing their future by way of ensuring the roof over their heads & that the credit card debt wouldn’t put them in a position to have to choose what bills they can pay that month. OP & her husband are already only 1 bad emergencies away from massive debt again since they still live paycheck to paycheck.
I so agree with this! I am so sick of all the redditors that think parents need to explain everything or tell their children everything including things about their past! Parents do not need to tell children everything. Period! My children are adults now and I still don't tell them everything. Some things are none of their business! I don't know why people think that's good parenting when it can actually be detrimental. The stupidity just amazes me!
Story 2: NTA. The other group imo instantly became the ahole when OP said they brought KIDS to a BREWERY. I can't be the only one thinking there's something wrong there. 😕
Story 1: This Chantelle seems like such a great friend - not only did she get evicted, now she is going to get OP evicted too for something that was never any of his business! Not that OP is completely innocent. He wet his own bed and now he may not even have that soon.
I so HOPE his girlfriend reads our comments and give us an UPDATE!
Not his business? He’s very likely the father
S1: OP needs to understand this clearly: YTA. Full stop. No questions. He’s lived there less than a month and he thinks his opinion should override his GF’s? Nope. GF should kick him out. Typical “nice guy” attitude.
I found the article. I think Chantelle is his other girlfriend. He is super entitled. He says the flat is his too 🤣
Story 2, nobody expects people to bring their kids to a brewery, and if there were other tables to accommodate the people with kids they should have sat at another table to begin with.
Here in Australia people do take their kids to breweries. They generally have bistros and children’s playgrounds
In Germany its actually normal to see kids at brewery.
@Roseytwinks MNK that sounds kid friendly, a place that sells beer and water isn't a place I'd want to go to since I'm not a big beer drinker. What are the kids gonna do? Look around while their parents get drunk?
Where I live Children and Pets are a local sight at the Brewery.
@BlackLotus30 at op's local brewery, your options are beer or water, no food. No entertainment. Drinking beer is the entertainment. Do the kids at your local brewery just sit and drink water, or do they drink beer with everyone else?
I would refuse to pay $300 per person to eat a dinner!! That is just outrageous if you ask me. Even if I were rich, I wouldn't want to pay that much for a meal. Daughter is being unreasonable and OP didn't promise an uber expensive restaurant. That was a promise made and has been kept, within reason.
And the restaurant is new. Regarding a promise, the terms and conditions have changed due to new developments.
So what price should it be?
Story 1: It's his kid.
Expensive dinner story: There's a boy or some group of people OP's daughter is trying to impress.
Nerve of the guy. HE MOVED IN TO HIS GIRLFRIEND APT. Girlfriend should break up with him and let him be with Chantel
But he lives there now too, so he gets a say!
Girlfriend: "Dude, I put your crap in a box at the curb. Give me the keys"... CYA
3rd story, if your daughter is saying that she can't trust you now because you won't take her to such an expensive restaurant. Sit her down and tell her you will, but you'll have to take money from somewhere else to pay for it. So, there is no allowance, no extra curricular activities, no extra shopping, etc. If she agrees, so be it.
So punish her for your lies?
@thatoneguy9816 lies? If that place is out of budget they would, as they stated on the post, need to take funds from elsewhere. Letting them know what actually happens is good. They can choose a nice dinner and sacrifice something else for it.
@@thatoneguy9816 Technically lying or not, she's old enough to understand that some things are unsaid but should be understood. Budget is one of those.
I understand if she's trying her luck to ask, who knows maybe her parents actually agreed? But she should understand and back off when she's told that it's too expensive.
@@chinxian can they afford it? Yes or no?
@@vivanyatodd5036 Are lies of omission a lie? Say a guy slept with all of a woman’s friends and didn’t tell her before the relationship. Is that a lie? Let’s do the opposite as well with a woman sleeping with all of the guy’s friends before a relationship.
Restaurant: So if anything left over from the outing goes into the family vacation fund, let *everyone* know that in exchange for going to the high-end place, The Opie would be *WITHDRAWING* from the vacation fund, ie, no vacation this year, thanks to the kid's choice of restaurant. Simple.
Brilliant countermove.
The parent's would then have world war 3 in the house if their son, understandably, wanted the vacation and their daughter wouldn't back off.
And then, they'll be taking side no matter what they do.
@@vivanyatodd5036Well, a good compromise would be the daughter getting the restaurant, and NO vacation. Im sure they have family she can stay with for a couple of weeks.
Story 2: Personally, if you have a large group joining a table, I would say something. If it was just one family that's fine but a huge group with lots and lots of children, it's just common courtesy to outline this before sitting at a table that already has people sitting at it.
This. It’s not ok. They tried to boot these folks outta the table by saying a few ppl and showing up with enough crotch goblins to join an orc army against the elves 😂😂😂😂
no its not, but it is rude to expect other people to carter to your sensibilities, if you wanted not to be next to children you move.
@@BlackLotus30 so you would literally just rock up and invade someone else's table without considering them beforehand? Good to know. Common courtesy is seemingly a lost character trait.
@@BlackLotus30not a family restaurant
@@drako8343 With other table options. Why is this crucial part being overlooked? They joined OP for no reason. but OP is expected to move?
Pregnant friend story- Anyone else wondering if the reason Op is pushing so hard is because the baby is his?
No doubt
She is mad she can't go to a place to spend $1500 on food and cries that she can't trust her parents. That's what happens when you're more of a peer than a parent. The fact that she knew how much that place costed and still expected to go speaks volumes.
My son did that to me when he was 7 years old. I asked him if he wanted trucking museum or fire truck museum. He said trucking. When I was leaving trucking museum, he then said he wanted fire truck.
Little rugrat got me on my words. I did not tell him he could have ONLY one. He got both museums. This was in Connecticut. That day we drove back roads between museums and he got 3.
After that I was VERY careful how I worded anything with my son.
@@lorrainelomotan1366 that's fine and all but the fact that she's not willing to compromise when she knows it's because of money means entitlement. To cry and claim, "I can't trust you anymore" is bonkers considering she's 15.
@@Black_Daniels679 exactly!!
@@Black_Daniels679 both your original comment and your reply are spot on. Very well said!
@Amy_The Unbearded_Roommate At 15, she could get a part-time job and save up for what she wants. Part of this was the parents fault. Never told kids a domination amount to eat, just choose restaurant of choice.
Pay for meal, learn from this. Discuss why cannot go on vacation.
As a parent we have to set rules and guidelines for our children. This starts at a young age. If you have a fit aka a temper tantrum this will be taken away.
My son learned that in elementary school. He acted up, he got less of an allowance. Clean out the litter box for 3 days. Changed his attitude in school.
The homeless pregnant (girl)friend can go to a women's shelter. She refused to pay her rent.
I'm assuming that she just learned that she is pregnant, therefore, WHY ISN'T SHE WORKING, PAYING HER DARN RENT? She can EASILY work up into her 8th month, providing she is not having complications, but then again, she will probably MAKE some up to prevent from working! Since she cannot/FREFUSE to pay rent, why they heck hasn't she gotten a termination? Can't pay rent, how the heck can she AFFORD a baby? More importantly, why hasn't she contacted the baby's father's family or other relatives? Then again, perhaps OP is the baby's daddy, and he is trying to handle it, by forcing his current girlfriend to take up his SLACK!
@@rebeccajohnson8579 She’s probably wanting to keep the baby so she can get more government assistance. She doesn’t seem to be in a hurry to get a job and obviously doesn’t care that she’s been evicted. I don’t know OP is the father of the baby but he seems to think that her responsibility is somehow his and that the girlfriend should just deal . It’s ridiculous and so is OP. Since it’s been a month since he’s moved in the girlfriend can either change locks or have the cops remove him.
I’m also wondering if she is pregnant or is saying she is for sympathy so someone will let her freeload off of them or give her money?
"that can change"😂😂
OPs gf is awesome--i love her already-- and I hope she kicks him out lol
Story one: the OP is the baby daddy. It's not his house.
I’m so sick of kids thinking they’re entitled to their parents money for college. As if it’s not even a question anymore.
I can't stop believing how entitled people can be. And it's never ending
That's because car crash TV is far more lucrative. That one sentence balances out all the crazy you see and hear about.
@@blindbrad4719 That's very true. It's so strange because I don't see it in my life so watching or hearing about it so often is weird.
@@Metonymy1979 yeah, it certainly goes on don't get me wrong. The algorithm is extremely clever as well though. it tracks how long you stay on each video, interactions with them even if you don't agree with the video and I just there to troll her abuse. It means those sort of people that are shown more content they can interact with, keeping you online for longer so you see more adverts which companies are paying the tech companies a lot of money for.
@@Metonymy1979 you can try balancing it out a little by including "uplifting" in front of your searches LOL
@@blindbrad4719 Well, that's insidious. Me no likey. Thanks for the heads up! I'll be more aware of it in the future.
Story one: the edit says it all. “I want to be the hero at my gfs expense. Why won’t she let me?” Because she will have to try to work while dealing with a rude dead beat and before you know it, the rude dead beat and her spawn. Op will be away from the chaos.
100% agree. And once she has her baby it will - depending on state/country - be damn near impossible to evict her, even if she's not paying rent.
If girlfriend budges she will regret it for years. Not only should she refuse to let that pregnant bum move in, but she should also kick her boyfriend out, and dump him.
@@mannydcbianco I really wouldn’t be surprised if the gf is looking out how to legally evict OP before he has the chance to try to move his baby momma, excuse me “dear friend” behind her back
Nothing worse than some idiot trying to play Captain Save-a-Ho’.
@@lorilancaster5917 She doesn't Even have to evict his. HE'S been there "LESS THE A MONTH". She might Just Change the locks.If He's NOT ON THE Lease then There's NO PROBLEM.
@@andynieuwenhuis7833 You are so RIGHT ON, It's the FIRST thing she should do, PACK HIS BAGS and CHANGE THOSE LOCKS! I sure HOPE his girlfriend is reading all of our comments! Where is this AH coming from, from living with his parents, haven't been out on his own, moving from momma to momma without bearing ANY financial contributions?
Story 3: $1500 for a meal? Maybe for a graduation celebration, but OP should still have notice to save up for it.
Story 4: NTA. The daughter thinks OP should have risked homelessness so she could have a college fund? Seriously? What a ridiculous, childish perspective.
Story 3: That sounds like a wonderful compromise. I think the daughter is being ridiculous, but not all kids grew up squeezing a penny until they had pretty much had copper wire and might not be aware of money so much.
Your thought is much more manageable and fair. They don't break any promises but they make it for a very special dinner in the future.
This is like, the third story in a row ive seen where op wants to move in their side baby mama with his girlfriend.
And even more if you count the "best friends " they're building "art rooms" for 😂
@@lwolfstar7618 🤣🤣🤣
@@lwolfstar7618 Oh, this guy's definitely building an art room for his babymama, even if he's straight. That's the point of the girlfriend moving out of her office.
Omg, that first story. I was gob-smacked with disbelief. OP's girlfriend could make several outfits from the fabric of that many red flags! Yep, OP is definitely three sheets to the wind if he thinks he's in the right to make such demands and he is most certainly in need of his own home... the audacity of the man.
Story #2, they got to the table first. The people with the families asked if they could sit down. It's common curtesy to let them know they're having kids. Also, bringing kids to a brewery is super distasteful. Go to Applebees if they want to get drunk with kids
Story 2: I'm a bit baffled about why you would take a gaggle of toddlers to a brewery. I have a two year old and I don't understand why people insist on bringing children into explicitly adult spaces. Kids, especially kids under five, do not belong in fine dining restaurants or establishments that serve nothing but booze. NTA.
No, she should have said she had her kids. Why did they wanna sit next to you if there were more tables?they were out of order especially if the kids were running around.
Yeah I'm really wondering why they brought children to a brewery If it's a family friendly sort (doubtful given there's only water and OPs reaction) then the children should be closer to the play area where the giant Jenga, connect four, and Cornhole are.
But if they are merely allowed but not catered to then people are not expecting them in that environment and you need to be mindful of the people around you. Especially if you have the loud energetic sort who likes running around like they're at Chuck E Cheese's. Be respectful.
I'm wondering why OP chose one of a pair of tables for a group who will be playing games. It seems to me that a single table would be a lot more sensible.
@@lamwen03 the reasons would very much depend on a number of factors, like how large the game group is, how many games they are playing (if more than one, then extra tables make sense), and the general size of the tables. If the tables are 4-6 tops generally, and the group is larger than the largest table, then they need more than one. Same goes for smaller tables.
So no food served, no drinks other then beer and water, no kids besided the group that showed up? And to top it off they let their kids start running once they sat down. Yeah no NTA. A brewery is not a McDonald's in our state if food is not served kids are not allowed.
😂😂😂 i just laughed at the 1st story esp. when he read the edit part. Op was trying his best to make us feel sorry for his friend 😂😂😂
must be his "build the art room friend" 😂🤣😅
That's his child 😂
OP4: NTA. You took care of your kids by improving your overall situation. Your dad left you the money without conditions. You did the right name. The commenter who thinks people need to be "forthcoming"needs a reality check.
I agree. It was OPs inheritance not her children's and honestly while 120,000 is a good bit of money, it doesn't go as far as it used to. Don't get me wrong I'd be extremely grateful to receive such an amount but it's not an amount that would set you up for life
I'd argue it did go to the kids anyway, even if it didn't go to their college, by providing a roof over their heads and food to eat.
No way. And to say she could no longer trust her parents because of this is wicked. Emotional blackmail of the highest order.
If she is still using emotional bkackmail to get her own way then tell her that she can go but book a table for for 1, if she is using technicalities then you can too, you said she could go to any restaurant, no actual agreement that you all have to go to the restaurant.
She might go on her own and good for her if she does but its the only way she can afford to go.
And exactly what else I was wondering, has she told her mates that she is going???
Such an extreme reaction to say she can never trust her parents again?
I think the aunt is putting ideas into her head. Auntie likes to create drama instead of tending to her own homestead.
@@lorilancaster5917 I've got to agree with you. The girl is Spend ing Lots of time at her Aunt's place. Most Adults wouldn't Even go a place like that ;unless They specifically Saved up for That night out.
@@lorilancaster5917I’m surprised none of the comments picked up on that.
@@oldwelshlady6584 I don't think she wants to brag to her friends.
This sound like a trap, or those quack test from Tiktok or entitled adults. Considering her "I can't trust you anymore" comment, I'll bet that she was 'testing' her parents' trustworthiness.
Story #3: NTA! $1500.00 ?? That's a rent, mortgage and nearly two car payments!! Tell her she can pick another restaurant or she can go hungry!
Story 4
Please tell her to mind her own business, she is toxic and it's not her baby she can call her baby what ever she wants she over stepping and bullying your wife when she needs support she probably thought you would ask her to name him because she is entitled
I’ll bet she will start giving OPs son personalized items with Alex written instead of Alec. It will be an honest mistake. They didn’t have any that said Alec.
The only way the sisters apprehension makes sense is if those all took place around the time of the Rust movie set shooting.
Alec is a very nice name. It's not too common, and it's not outlandish like the people who try to name their kids sentences. I still remember one that was "kid name" then "does the hula."
About the restaurant: Be parents and tell your kid, we can't afford that restaurant, move on to your next choice. You aren't breaking a promise, just setting expectations that are reasonable. Me, I just said too expensive, pick something else. If he or she had a fit, then they were sent to their room until they were ready to talk.
People who take their chíldréñ to bars, breweries that doesn't sale food. Is honestly wëîrd.
Expensive restaurant story: 15 is old enough to know what she's asking isn't normal. OP should be able to sit her down, and explain to her, that the $1500 evening being asked for, is a bit different than the $100 or so they paid for handpulled noodles, or even a few hundred for steaks. The aunt's response is also suspicious.
Agree that kind of restaurant is for graduation or engagement celebration not a casual birthday celebration
1. YTI. You moved into someone elses home and then invited a third person and are shocked the homeowner said no. Just stunned buy the audacity.
I don’t get the brewery story, if there were other tables, why did the group with kids want to share? But in any case, asking to share a table should come with all information. Eg We have screaming kids, we will be smoking cigars, we will be singing Viking war hymns.
Yup, he knocked her up. Generous with other's property. Write a rental agreement & make him pay rent. 2) Next time, state adults only, thank you. Share under your desires. Dibs. 3) fun family time. Limits on cost are appropriate. Teach responsibility & reality. Sister can sponsor! 4) nobody gave me money for college. Time to sit daughter down & go over finances for her 1st "pre-college" class. She is selfish. 5) yes, LOUDLY correct her each time to the level of utter humiliation. Sis is a jerk.
Story 1: bye bye now homeless boyfriend.
You mean ex-boyfriend.
S1: found the original thread, he refused to answer if it's his baby... but answered other questions, so yup his baby and he's trying to move in his mooching pregnant side piece so they can mooch off of Evelyn together since he pays no rent either. I think he's planning to squat or off poor Evelyn or something... the absolute audacity
Literally the audacity and entitlement of peole is sometimes amazing. 😂
Who the hell brings kids to a place that serves only alcohol?
VERY IRRESPONSIBLE PARENTS! Who is supposed to drive home sober?
Story 1 that's probably his child
Story 3: what an entitled brat.
I'm all for never breaking a promise and wholeheartedly agree with that BUT there is also some basic common sense you have to apply.
I'd say that's fine, if we are being like there is no money limit both of us (the parents) are going to Paris for dinner for my birthday & due to there being a huge bill associated with this we would not be going on a family holiday this year. Then next year we will be only doing take out food for birthdays due to unrealistic financial outlays. What an entitled brat.
The solution is easy tell the Kids if we go to this restaurant than we have no budget for vacation.
But we know who put her up to this. Is was the aunt, no doubt about it. They are verry close talks about this and aunt thinks this restaurant is not a problem. Yeah aunty puts her up to this.
Oh, she could be doing this to show off to her friends, as well. I agree, she is choosing this restaurant for manipulation, and getting mad, proves it. The louder the scream, the bigger the scam.
I would tell her, ok, if you are going to be that way, you can have your dinner at the expensive restaurant, BUT YOU MUST PAY YOUR OWN WAY TO GET THERE, AND HOME. YOU WILL BE EATING BY YOURSELF, AND YOU MUST PAY THE TIP. DON'T WORRY, I'LL PUT IT ON THE BILL AND TAKE IT FROM YOUR ALLOWANCE. ALSO, YOU WILL NOT BE GOING TO YOUR BROTHER'S DINNER.
I'm not chosing to lie to you; we cannot afford that dinner without making other sacrifices... like NO VACATION. Since rest of us don't want to make that sacrifice, YOU must make the sacrifice for your expensive dinner. Parents will call ahead and make arrangements to pay for the meal and tip over the phone, BUT SISTER MUST PAY FOR HER UBER TO AND FROM THE PLACE AND MOM WILL PULL THE TIP FROM HER ALLOWANCE. Force her to invest in this expensive meal, to drive the point home. Sister is looking at $50 tip alone, up to that much for an Uber ride to and from. Is spending $100 of her own money truly worth a meal that expensive?
I'm not seeing where Aunty would gain anything from putting the daughter up to this; but her siding with her as a dig against Aunty's sister... I can see that.
Should the sister say: THAT'S NOT FAIR! It's not a celebration if I'm by myself; why should I have to pay for anything!?
Oh, then ask your aunty to take you and pay for you and herself.
My friend says all the time: you can do anything you want, as long as you are prepared to pay for the consequences. If you want a meal that is worth $315, that comes with some pricey consequences.
@@Objective-Observer her friends no it is an adult who put her on to this and aunt was to Quick with her response from you made a promise.
Would not surpriced me when she said to aunt mum and dad always do what they promist and aunty wanted to show her wrong. Learning the parents a lesson.
Kids don't belong at a brewery. Why is this happening?
Second story: I admit; I haven't been to a brewery. With that aside, who asks to sit with someone when they have a whole group of people that would also need to join? I don't get that. It wouldn't matter where they were. A bunch of strangers joining a table are bound to takeover the table. Why was this a good idea. I mean OP and her husband couldn't expect to enjoy themselves with a bunch of unknown people and unknown kids. I don't understand why the woman asked to join their table when their were clearly other options. And heck NO, OP should not have been expected to get up and move under these circumstances. What am I missing here?
Ppl like to be generous with s**t that is not their own
Story 2: Disagree, Op is NTA. Given how this woman was letting her kids run around, anyone wana bet that when Op’s group started drinking/ having adult time the mother would ask them to quiet down because “we have children here”
First story, it’s his baby 💁
YTA 1: what is op smoking😂 bro you better go get ya own house
Story 2
Thought it was illegal to drink with children and babies
But who else could be the designated driver?
It depends upon what country you live in. It's fine here in the UK and also in many continental European countries.
Story one…..oh my lord. This is hilarious that a grown person can be this ridiculous. There a month and already moving in his other girlfriend and their newborn. I hope the homeowner girlfriend dumps this idiot.
1st story: "It's a bold strategy Cotton, let's see if it pays off for 'em"
Dinner story: hell no NTA your kid is out of touch thinking that's reasonable
Thank you for that Dodgeball reference that was perfect lol.
#1 referring to your girlfriend as “out of line” because she won’t allow a freeloader to move in. I hope she dumps you yesterday, red flag language there
Story 2: NTA (if this was in the USA), it would actually be illegal to bring kids into a bar like this.
It is legal in a few states. Like South Dakota.
Choosing a restaurant story. Op shouldn't listen ti the hypocrisy of the sister. "No I wouldn't do it either, but you shouldn't break a promise with your child so just pay for the restaurant." Also, the daughter understands the budget but still demands to got to that restaurant is entitled behavior. The car analogy comment is perfect for this situation
OP3: "Any restaraunt you want" carries an implied "within reason." B17ch needs to learn the value of money.
1. Thats 100% his kid lol. 2. "Refused to pay the landlord" I own a rental real state agency, i have 51 homes in my portfolio that i rent below market rate while still turning a profit, so Im understanding about people going trough haed times and i can be forgiving about late rent. However words cannot describe how much I bloody hate entitled people that refuse to pay rent for atupid reasons, specially the whole "landlord are scummy" crowd.
$300 pp dinner story, 1 parent takes that bratty kid. So $700. At least she gets her dinner & the rule now changes to "nothing over $100 pp" since she was so intent on ruining it for the whole family.
OP, your girlfriends first BIG MISTAKE was NOT making you pay MARKET RENT! #2: Demanding that your girlfriend give your friend FREE RENT TOO! The best thing you can do is MOVE OUT, GET YOUR OWN APARTMENT, then move your MOOCHING friend in with you! Your girlfriend should have DEMANDED that you MOVE OUT to take care of your friend!
Story 3: NTA, but it was stupid not to establish a budget for the meal in the deal. pending $300 a person is insane when you can get the same quality food for $50 anywhere else.
Brewery OP is NTA. They were there first and children should not be in a brewery.
A promise is a promise I will go but I also will tell that this year we will not have a family vacation because this diner took it all. And any other diners from now on will have a limited budget.
Keeping a roof over your head was the priority for the money.
And it not like Op children won’t inherit the house when Op pass away so it not like he squandered the money just invested it differently
Homeless shelter for his pregnant sidechicks!😂😂😂
Who takes kids to a bar?
Agree some people try to life a child free lifestyle while having children because they don’t feel like paying for babysitters
OP NTA. $300 is way too much for just 1 person. And that doesn't even add in the other costs and things. When she has her own 💰, she can spend whatever amount on a restaurant dinner. Even. The 50 steak and 60 ribeye is crazy to me. But if they can really afford 1000 for a night at a restaurant fine but they must be really rich since I don't think that is 100% rational.
Story 2) NTA did every one miss the fact that the word brewery
#1. Yta ,
#2. Why are children in a place that only serve beers and water.
#3. Nta. Sister need to shut up and teach that girl that yes you keep promises but expending soo much money in a dinner is ridiculous.
#4. Nta
#5. Nta. Her opinion IS useless.
The inheritance story wasn't the kids business in the slightest good on op for paying off the house. And the big shopping trip was for FOOD.
Last story, Obi Wan Kenobi does not agree, aka the actor Sir Alec Guinness
The fact OP in the first story had to even ask is what gets me😂😂😂😂. Probably his kid
They had the table first. They were out to have adult time. So no they should not have had to move.
Don’t forget the gratuity on a 1500 plus bill. Drinks are probably extra
Dinner story (I think story 3), It sounds like to me, like someone has been whispering into granddaughters ear, my money is on The SISTER. Kids do not know these things, without a lot of coaching.
2nd story nta the kids are in the bar
I'm sorry?? Kids in a brewery??? In my country there's a law against taking kids to places that serve alcohol! So, yeah, not good..but still op hate kids apparently..😂😂
So the BF moved in with his GF, doesn't pay any rent, and demands that his best friend should be allowed to move in and pay no rent too? The BF is a HUGE AH. Move out and rent an apartment with your homeless best friend instead of being a parasite towards your GF!
Story about daughter dinner. Fine take her to dinner tell her by the way when we go on vacation you will have to stay home with your aunt bc what your eating is your vacation. There promise not broken
The baby name story: “family opinions are important and everyone should be able to express them”. Sure, and the sister did express her opinion and it was ignored. What she meant was “you should listen to my opinion over your own because I’m so important”.
OP2: Taking kids to a brewery is a dick move.m, therefore NTA.
Rich Dinner: I don't care how good the kid has been, if the dinner is too expensive, it doesn't happen. That'll be a good lesson in realism for her. You don't always get what you ask for or deserve, sometimes you get solely what you or the person paying can afford. But if she truly only wants to try it? Fine. One adult takes her, they SHARE an appetizer, and only drink water. And when THAT costs more than two normal meals, explain why she's eating crackers for the next two days.
I have a curiosity on Story 1 people complain about the age gap on friendship he's still an idiot but people need to shut up about age gaps
S1: YTA. This is lowkey funny. Did Op really think he wouldn't be the AH when he's demanding his gf, who he don't even help with rent, to move in his pregnant 'friend' for free? The fact that the friend was rude to the gf and got evicted because she refuse to pay her previous landlord is the cherry on top, lol. He's delusional if he truly believe he's right here.
The GF needs to dump this wanker ASAP!
I refuse to believe story 1 is real life
"Alec" is the scottish version of "Alex."
Story 2 Not the idiot- kids at a brewery?
Last story
I would have quoted Ayn Rand to the sister: "Don't offer unsolicited opinions; it will spare you the embarrassing discovery of their exact value to your listeners."
Story 3: not the 🍑🕳️. This sounds like some shit she seen on TikTok
Has she not ever heard of alec baldwin? Nta.
1. YTA: Is Evelyn or Chantelle your actual girlfriend?
Evelyn is the ATM and Chantelle is the babymama