Buddhist Story That'll Make You Rethink Anger
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- Опубликовано: 12 май 2024
- Whenever you encounter a person or situation that provokes your anger, take a moment to pause and remind yourself that, “The other person can merely be an empty boat." A wonderful story we can all learn from! Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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Great story! Do you have a story about having kindness and compassion for all beings?
Beautifully said and so simple to understand.
very enlightening. ❤
Thank you so much for this video!
I’m a shadow coach (the work developed by Carl Jung). This is such a simple and beautiful way of explaining how things trigger us, why they trigger us, and that it is all from within us. We cannot control others…or an empty boat. we can work on learning about ourselves, and why we react the way we do. We can learn to have compassion for ourselves and for others.
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Buddhism has so many good lessons to teach, but not all boats that hit you are empty, and if a boat is driven at you with intent, pretending it was empty is to delude both yourself and those who would wish to cause harm.
An empty boat or one operated by another person are still the same: a factor outside of your control. Getting angry at someone running into your boat is as unnecessary as getting angry when an empty boat runs into you.
I have studied Buddhism for nearly 2 decades now, including at university. It has many things to teach. But it was conceived as a philosophy before we could measure evolution. Our emotions need to be examined and controlled. But evolution put those emotions there for a reason. It was no accident and it was not done lightly. The entire crux of survival is conservation of energy. These emotions serve a purpose, and would not be there if they were a waste of energy. Buddhists always have smart answers, and some of them help. A lot are just ego or ignorance though. People are just people. Buddhist monks are just people. They just happen to have better answers than any other 'religion'. Yes, It's a religion. Common usage and the placement of temples in city centres has converted a great philosophy into just another mediocre religion, sorry to say.
I was worse than that monk. One time, I was walking my dog on a leash & I saw 2 unleashed dogs hanging around a man working on a car. I thought, “What an irresponsible dog owner!” & walked away self-righteously condemning him. Then, a few minutes later a women drove up in a car & said she had lost her 2 dogs & asked if I had seen them. I realized the man was not the owner & I was falsely condemning him. What a stooge I was!
why does a dog need to be leashed if they are not a nuisance .... how would you like to be leashed? Respect all life.
@@eabutler6861 Many places throughout the USA have laws requiring dogs to be on a leash. Dogs should only be off-leash on the owner's property and nowhere else. It's also a safety issue as well.
@@infoseeker i was kind of kidding, but America is a damn police state these days.... go find some killers and leave the dogs alone and let me choose to not use a seat belt if I'm driving 1 minute away...lol. again all jokes but it can get tiresome, china doesn't even bother people for small things like that.
Well your also a bit of a Karen as dog owners have every right not to have the dog leashed as they would be on the owners property!
And then one day you realize your own boat is empty too.
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that's what the video stated "copy and paste"
Yep
Your boat is not only empty, but it’s sinking, too!
My father is not an empty boat. When his spirit bumps into my meditations it reminds me why the meditation brings communion, which is an expression of journeys met and journey’s arrivals.
Removing bitterness, anger and hate from within is so necessary but so challenging. Yet we must cleanse these harmful emotions from our minds to achieve deep inner peace. Gratitude to the Buddha for this wisdom . May those empty boats we encounter always remain neutral and harmless vessels to our emotions. Om mani padme hum .
The best summary of Zen philosophy of finding balance I’ve seen is in the movie Siddhartha where is sitting on the bank of a river and a man on a boat who is tuning a string instrument says that if the string is too tight it will break but if too loose it will not play and the music is found in the middle.
Zen isn’t about always being good but balancing the bad things life throws our way with good when the opportunity presents itself, like smiling and tossing out a compliment about something a stranger driving or is wearing or things like offering to park their shopping cart for them in the parking lot on the way into a store. Nowadays in urban environments those small acts of kindness shock people at first with skepticism 🤨 but then always brings a smile 😊.
Thank you so much for this video. I am a ShadowCoach (the work developed by Carl Jung) and this video beautifully sums up why we are triggered by certain things and react the way that we do. Everything is within us. We tend to project onto others what we are feeling and blame them instead of looking within to resolve inner conflict.
Yet anger is a healthy response to being abused, hurt, or disr3spected without cause.
Anger is an early stage we are naturally prone to or later, conditioned too. Hurtful, inconsiderate, disrespectful people are ignorant of a better way to live, with insight and compassion, and your compassionate understanding of them will not give them the reflexive response they internally expect of you so as to feed their self-hate-based self-image. They were denied as children, and are compensating. Work on your own growth and enlightenment, for it is the best you can to for the world.
@tjjharris I have already achieved the compassion and understanding to allow me to live a joyful life. There is a time when all must face the fact that true evil exists. Sociopaths and psychopaths will use our compassion to abuse and torture us worse. It seems to truly offend them to see kind and happy people. They see us as the rabbits/victims of society. They cant change and psychopathy is basically untreatable. Their joy is hurting others. Making excuses for them, or denying this will only get you or others into perfect victimhood. Pointless really, unless you are a Masochist.
I understand your reasoning but the Spiritual path transcends conditioned responses of hatred and fear. Is it better to live in peace and die at the hand of a murderer or live a fearful and vengeful life and die of old age?
@@user-lj7be4wy4q I'm sorry but I can't make sense of your answer. I'd rather live a peaceful life and make it to 100, or however long the good lord wants me to.
Anger is your subconscious protecting and warning you. You may or may not need protecting in that moment, and it’s up to your wisdom and experience to know whether you do, but anger is a critical part of yourself. It is necessary and useful if managed properly.
Love this. I will remember this. Thank you.
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Thanks loads for posting such a wonderful reminder!
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But then the Monk saw someone on the bank of the lake who yelled to him, "Could you bring my boat back, I forgot to moor it!".
Thank you, thought provoking
Health and safety at it’s worst 😊
In other words you can’t control all circumstances, only your reaction to them.
Thank you. It is a good reminder of how to handle anger.
No one is an empty boat.
Mmm, yes, except for the part when you're angry at yourself...
Anger itself is not the problem, it's how we express it/what we do with it.
A lot of people don't realize they should angry at themself because of their own actions, but it's easier to channel that anger to 'the other'.
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Avoiding personal accountability is like that...
I have to agree. A former boss & mentor, who could see that I was overreacting and taking work matters personally, left a lasting impression when they told me “you can’t choose how you feel but you can choose how you respond”
An empty shopping cart 🛒 once rolled into my car while I was in it, causing $1500 in damage. I looked over and realized that the shopping cart was empty and so I didn’t get angry
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I had one like that...on a windy day, & a shopping cart blew into my vehicle making a small dent & dislodging paint. The cart was empty but I realized a thoughtless person had not tended it after loading their own groceries. I will never meet that person, but I will be cautious where I put my vehicle on a windy day!
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Wonderful
Keep it up
To the point! Thank you
Thank you for your comment
Beautiful and deeply consistent with all of Buddhism but cleverly framed in Zen.
Isn't Zen the Japanese form of Buddhism?
From the ninth century CE, migrating to the Island Kingdom. Important to note here: it's practice is known as 'zazen', literally 'not Zen'. Difficult to speak of Zen ~ hence the parables. Yes, the strawberry was good.
Thank you
The other boat had his disciple on it. Realizing his master was meditating in the boat, the disciple jumps off the boat and dive into the water. When the master opens his eyes, the boat was empty. 😅
“The Miller's Tale” comes from "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, and is told by a drunken miller named Robin who is one of the pilgrims headed to Canterbury. He describes a story of a carpenter, John, his wife, Alison, and two men who desperately want to sleep with her. A miller is a person who operates a mill, a machine to grind a grain (for example corn or wheat) to make flour. Milling is among the oldest of human occupations.
ha! found a boat! -C
Thank you. Very helpful.
My favorite one :)
Lovely story
Good.
When people con you or attack you, there's no empty boat.
Should we jsut let the con and the attack pass by? Make the necessary counter moves, but "let" it pass by. Maybe the life skill is to learn to negociate/navigate around these attacks? Maybe this means keep one eye open durring meditation.
Being conned or attacked is still →you who are yet somehow 100% involved (right or wrong); the issue then becomes "I have done or not done something [somehow and somewhere in time] to allow myself the encounter of this disadvantageous situation; so, how can I now make the best of it [rather than reactionarily resort to physically or emotionally/mentally violent, destructive behavior that, in turn, allows myself to subscribe to →even further victimhood and downright self loathing" - all of which are typical, when "the actually empty boat is falsely/ignorantly and arrogantly perceived as 'not empty'".
All of this is very easy to "think" and say. But, truely true "heros" do live it 100% (plus). Some truly "experienced" guy once said, "When the hard way becomes easy..." And, another said that the truth was "suffering and the end of suffering" (some such like that). Both of those guys were terrifically empty boats who actually did know how to navigate the “rapids and the falls”. This particular thread in these comments is what these guys and others like them were addressing and are yet still addressing; duality is such.
And, there was Arjuna, who was a heroic warrior who Krishna told that he →must fight, should the situation actually call for it. This is where authentic insight comes into play.
Authentic Spirituality is the totality of everything that's happening - the good , the bad and the ugly. Nonduality →includes duality and "I Am" is THAT [which includes all of the apparently separate, individualized "us"].
How to be "'in' the world, but not 'of' it" is the genuine effort - the "how to" of "the empty boat" ride. And, there is no boat, nor is there anyone navigating it. The equation of "form is emptiness and emptiness is form" = the emptiness of the boatless boat.
Easy to say, but accepting the dare and actually doing it is what practically all of us stand on the shore and only imagine, pretending to be doing it and yakking away about it, as if “we” are actually knowledgeable and as if “we” know what “we” are doing - no different than “me”, “myself” and “I” either - knowledge and intellectual/egoic information not being the same.
Truthfully to say [fey, fey - shame on “us” all]...why are “we” here in the first place? 😢
Such is the nature of Being - which is also the nature of Pure Consciousness...
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But, I'm probably full of PURE shit...so fuckin' crucify me, Baby [where's the hammer and nails]...!!!
Duality is such [ain't it grand, just to have something to see and do]...
ONE is like that…[ain't it?]...a lotta empty words.
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Beautiful
Thank you!
Decent analogy.
Thank you for your comment friend
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Good one...
Thank you friend
But when a Sombra sneaks up behind me in Overwatch, she is a VERY full boat!
But it's also healthy to stay in touch with our dark side. Surpressing natural feelings can eventually come back to bite.
A useful tip when in a situation that could cause an angry reaction is to ask yourself if it warrants it. Ask yourself if you want to be angry at that time.
If the answer is yes, then release the dark side. If the answer is no, then think rationally and let it slide.
This comes from The Chimp Paradox.
Except when the 'Boat' is a ULEZ charge or a congestion charge, or a mandate to forcibly inject something into your body against your will, or a row of potholes and speed bumps that damage your vehicle, etc.
Those are all external things. Your choice of reaction is yours. The anger is still for an empty boat.
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Tell that to Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj :p
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Wimp mindset, you need anger these days to get through this crappy world and deal with all the idiots….
Yep, makes sense, tho I do not think there is anything wrong with anger and sadness.
Its a human emotion. But we dont need to share that emotion nor put it on display
@@stvargas69 Sharing sadness is often necessary as is anger as long as it harms none. Sadness and anger do not have to be destructive but human responses to sometimes terrible and horrible things and/or deep wrongs.
JG
REALLY? A 2:24 minute ad to watch a 1:59 minute video?
Thats crazy!
Sounds "deep", but it's really missing what I consider to be a basic fundamental truth: That the people we meet in our lives are not just empty boats, but rather, fancy mirrored reflections of ourselves. It's a way to externalize internal functioning. And it's also how judgment comes into this world. We are sure we're seeing something OUTSIDE of ourselves, and we rush to judgment. GOTCHA! We just passed judgment on ourselves. Because there's a fundamental problem when it comes to judgment. The soul says: "I would not have sinned had it not been for this body you placed me in." And the body says: "I would not have sinned had you just left me alone to be my true nature as dust." Both true. So how does judgment happen? Simple...we judge ourselves. (Try taking that up on appeal.) 😀
The funny thing is you're told to release anger as it arrives otherwise it accumulates to a point where one must express it. 🌋⚡
Which is it?
Just ignore that one specific feeling but allow the others because they don't offend people even if _they're_ the ones propagating it? If you don't like anger stop taking actions that repeatedly elicit anger. Common sense.
... 4 Noble Truth...
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There are no good or bad emotions.They are vital responses to the world, circumstance and happenings. It is perfectly appropriate to be angry sometimes. It sets boundaries. It is perfectly appropriate to be angry about what is happening in Gaza for example. What is important is finding non violent and constructive ways to express emotions.
I think Buddhism is wonderful but I think it’s got this wrong and needs to learn from Western psychotherapy. Buddhism has given much to the West but we have something to offer too.
What does the West have to offer? Postmodernist relativism?
Like pharmaceuticals!
Sorry, couldn't help myself...
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He suddenly jumps to attracting empty boats of good and bad experiences .... now, based on what happened, where does attraction/ repulsion come from? Did someone (for eg. the narrator) wish to add profundity to an already profound and elegant story?
My only mistake of watching the video was reading the comments. A lot of you need help. Jesus, Buddha, a one night stand something
Why, thanks so much for the arbitrarily self righteous blame!
I'll carry the nails for you while you do the hammering (that's just too messy for me)...
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Well, it doesn't account for clinical challenges, like depression. Nothing triggers depression. It just comes and has to be accepted. Maybe that is the empty boat? The unshakeable sadness itself? Idk. That's feelings with no trigger.
You might enjoy reading the book “The Language of Emotions by Karla McLaren
It is deep and accepting of all emotions. She shows you the purpose of each emotion.
Are you getting any kind of guidance - beyond the ever so popular and expensive pharmaceuticals. If not, you might do some research. Genuine help is actually there to be found.
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Expecting something in the second boat was the problem. Our expectations of others lead to disappointment.
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You're 100% and expectations are killers and practically indiscernible from attachment.
But, clinical depression typically goes - extremely - deeper than methods of dealing with expectations and attachments.
That could very well be wrong, but clinical depression is so deep that it sometimes renders people incapable of even getting out of bed [let alone examining personal "issues"].
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Hey there, Erroneous - I'm sure that you've been working with professional assistance on the clinical depression issue? If not, you might give it a try in order to "stabilize your own boat" enough to personally recognize and settle into its authentic emptiness? After all, someone who knew indicated that form (the boat) and emptiness ("you") are not different.
Stay close to those who encourage you and help you in "building personal self confidence".
And [most definitely] DIVEST yourself of those so horrifically ugly as to habitually enjoy personally discouraging and humiliating you and/or others.
God bless you and good luck...do persist and, certainly...DO...
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If all the boats are empty who put them there.
Boat builders. NEXT!
That's specifically what Authentic Spirituality is all about.
But Then A Jet Ski Boat With Filled With Idiots Who Threw their Trash Into The Lake And Laughed About It Came By...
all "comment" Zero Application. That's the majority of people nowadays.
love the story but the video sucks. stop turning youtube into a dump of ai generated content.
Glad you loved the story! What kind of videos do you like more?
@@ProgressMastery NOT AI , that's for sure !
@@stevierayripple Noted! :)
Ai is just another empty boat.
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All this searching and yearning is so tedious. Be enlightened now and in the next second. Dont take life too seriously, chasing after your own projections of what you think you should be, only to realise it was all folly at the end. 🕉️🏴🕊️
Internalising and repressing emotion. Long associated with mental illness and cancer.
The interpretation kind of misses the point. We are all "empty boats." Most emotions are knee-jerk responses we learned long ago from cultural and family conditioning.
It is better to use real stock images, than to use the AI generated imagery the channel is using. This is a gross example of what's being shared now on YT. AI is great as a tool, but this video overly relied on it.
Trump is scared of boats
Uve copied dare to do motivation 😢😢
This story pisses me off.
Excellent! Your way of really enjoying yourself is contagious!
Here...have some nails and a hammer and keep banging away. It's quite a show.
Ok initiate.
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Trolls are like that.
@@Da_Xman yup
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The story and message are great but… the AI sucks.
You arent the first saying that :(
What a hatefull dehumanising story. And the biggest lie: Everything is inside you. I hope your mother gave you love. Wich comes from her, not from your inside.
Return to your creator who gave you life. Find out what is waiting for you, you prodigal son. Receive Gods love and endless grace. He will answer who calls upon Him. Thats what Jesus says.
Amen.
Nie Wieder they say. WE SEE The Genocide
in Gaza. !
Ohh I understand completely how it makes us feel but can we do anything about it? I am not there, I would not want to be a soldier.
Thank you