lol i was so distracted that my teacher kicked me from my zoom meet, but also my mic doesnt work, soooooooooo i can blame it on that U.U also hi dutchy ily
Hey girls, I'm a top (maybe 85-90% top and the rest versatile) and as I have slept with Pillow Princesses or various degrees of bottoms I'm going to explain a few things if you like : - a "pillow princess" just lets you do it, she probably will not reciprocate AT ALL or just a little bit. It's not that they don't like you or are lazy: it's their sexual preference. - a bottom may or may not reciprocate, a bit like a pillow princess (though not so extreme) but again, it's their sexual preference, so respect it and communicate a lot. - a pure 100% top might claim the title "stone", "stone butch" etc, but many won't. Opposite to the pillow princess, they do all the actions and often REFUSE to be touched, or don't like people to reciprocate much. - pillow princess and stone go hand in hand for obvious reason! - If you're a top yourself and want to date a pure 100% top, you might need to discuss the possibility and establish your boundaries early on..... Same if you're a bottom dating a pillow princess or another bottom. - despite what I said, it's all more fluid than those labels and communication is key. - finally to answer the original question, a pure top takes pleasure in the act of doing stuff to the bottom. It's 90% of the fun in my opinion, and it can be enough to. ... feel good (you know what I mean). But if you need a physical push to reach this while taking care of your bottom partner, it's always OK to use your hands or toys on yourself! Make them and yourself happy at the same time: THE BEST THING EVER. PS: Some pure bottoms are very femme in appearance with long nails etc. and some pure tops are very masc and embrace the butch identity. However it's again more fluid on average so don't assume someone is top or bottom based on their appearance. COMMUNICATION IS KEY ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you. I needed this. I am a bottom(almost a pillow princess) I but always get scared that if my partner will think that I am selfish or lazy on bed. I like how you said, "it's their sexual preference". this is exactly how I feel. At the same time, I also want to make her feel good. so I was thinking about toys or something like that... it's great to hear from a top perspective on this subject matter.
@@shanchitaroysorno7181 from a top perspective, I don't really think that way like thinking my partner is kinda lazy about it, I just actually don't like to be touch too much... I find pleasure from making my partner happy to the max... hugging ,grabbing on me in anyways is like sending me millions messages that she's losing herself on it,and that's makes me become even more monsters on making her 😊 😉....🍻
@@sanmegmesias3968 great to know a top perspective again, actually make me more confident. specially in bed. thank for all the information. all i need is now to find a soul mate/partner who is a Top.😊😊
@@brownstudios5379 That is so real I didn't think I would be doing anything at all for at least 5 years and me and my partner (even though I was terrified of asking) are planning to because I asked today. Honestly relationships can be so unexpected and its beautiful
I'm thirteen and came out lesbian to my sister yesterday! 🌈🌈🌈 she was so supportive! She herself is a closeted pan. Its hard cause my parents don't know and are homophobic.😔😔😔
@@princepark1013 right! Wtf! I’ll never understand. My straight gfs say that usually both the guy and the woman equally give and take. The thought of being just one is so flipping boring. It also makes me think if I was just a giver, that woman is definitely not all that in to me. I’ve been there and that don’t fly. I’m so tired of all these stupid social constructs. I’d rather be alone than in one of those top/bottom relationships. I’d be bored within a week….Either way. I’m also very much a woman and very in touch( no pun intended😉) with my body. Maybe women who are exclusively tops are not down with their woman parts? I guess it’s different for everyone. Um just curious🤔 Blessings
So as I said before, I recently came out to my family and friends as bisexual. And one of the things i always so on tiktok was people changing their style after coming out as saying that they felt like a completely different person. I experienced it yesterday for the first time in my entire life I looked amazing wearing an outfit and I felt super comfortable with it. It was really like if I was someone else. With all this I just wanted to thank you Dutchy for all the amazing videos and podcasts you do. It really helps me. ❤❤❤
Sooo proud of you first of all! :D RIGHT?! I feel you 100%! The same thing happened to me! I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling more comfortable in your clothing! Aww thanks so much for all of your support!! Love you sooo much
This is so relatable!! I labeled myself as a bisexual in 2021 (im 19). Only 6 of my closest girl friends know about my bisexuality (including my girl crush). I have learned so much about the community since November 2021 (that was when I decided to actually learn about the Lgbtq+ community). I'm so glad that I finally feel understood!! On the 4th of January 2022 (yesterday) I confessed my feelings to my first girl crush (I liked her 2 years ago but not anymore) and turns out she is also bi and was flirting with me the whole time, I was in denial about me liking girls in 2020 so I didnt pay much attention to it. I should have kissed her, I will regret it FOREVER :(
Let me just share my story... I was 10, dating this boy let's call him nate. I met nate when I was in year 3 and we had been together for 3 years. Although I knew something was wrong. It felt like a friendship and nothing more, and I knew I didn't like him. I tried to break up with him, but seeing him that upset I managed to play it off as a prank. I was now in year 5, and I had just moved into a new class with someone I knew (a little), let's call her... kate. So that year I went through a lot. Me and nate finally broke up, I was bullied and had fake friends. But kate was there for me no matter what. I got yo know her and we talked more and more until we nacame best friends. She left for secondary (she is older than me) and thats when I started realising that it just wasn't the same without her. Now that I had broken up with hate I realised that I don't really like boys and eventually fell in love with kate. During this covid it was hard but we still see each other very often! We slowly grew closer and she acts like she loves me back. Now in the present i am not out to anyone but my friends. I have fully accepted myself for who I am and hope to ask kate out soon. Wish me luck
Who’s dating rn?? Whenever I talk to someone they hide behind COVID. For good reason, maybe but this video kinda proves to me that people are still getting some from someone out there so they can quit telling me “I like you but COVID”
It's a really tough time for dating RN! I started seeing my partner rightttt before covid started happening so we were lucky! But if you're talking to someone and it's going well then as soon as restrictions start to ease and they're still interested in seeing you, that's awesome :)
@@MsDickerz I sure hope they have the patience. What I'm hearing rn is that they don't even want to start something until the restrictions are over. Not even flirting. I worry about their mental health as well as mine if they are not even willing to talk. I'm at least open. Your videos are helpful 🙂
I actually spent two years without dating anyone new, even if interested in. I don't think everyone was in this place and/or living together with people who could take the risk.
I’m not a lesbian, I’m achillean, but I’m here to support you all! Edit (1 year after originally posted): I’m pretty sure I’m abro, so I consider myself lesbian sometimes)
I am a lesbian but im so young . So during quarantine i started feeling like boys were "kinda ugly" but i still liked them, and i liked girls too, and i decided i was bissexual. But then almost 3 months past quarantine i really felt like boys were "ugly" so i am now lesbian. Recently when school started i saw my group of bff's again, but i realised one of them left to a public school and she is the one i like. Now the problem is that i swear she is bi or lesbian but she wont say it, and i can't force it but i really hope she is at least bi or lesbian bc i actually really like her. Luv you so much dutchy, thx for all the knowings in stuff
Communication is important. Especially after you've been with someone who was giving you absolutely nothing. No help at all in terms of what she likes or wants.
i literally only learn new things from dutchy's sex ed videos lmaoo we currently have a puberty unit at my high school rn but the documentary we watched is so heteronormative and we don't have much representation of gender spectrum either....
Unpopular opinion: It doesn't make sense for straight people to use the terms "top" and "bottom" (Unless it's in a bdsm context). They're gay sex terms. Dom/sub are terms for everyone but they don't mean the same thing as Top/bottom.
Soooo I’m def lesbian, but lesbian sex SCARES ME SO MUCH. What if I’m not good at it?? What if a girl thinks I’m hot when she meets me, but I disappoint in the bedroom?? It’s so dang scary. 😭😭 I get that natural instincts “take over,” but it is still terrifying.
Okay - update - I did it and now I’m actually married to a woman!!! (I’m a woman.) She’s sooo the love of my life and told me I give her the best s** ever!!! I promise you y’all are going to be okay! It depends on the connection. Also - kinda study the v*g*na if you want to know what to do. Look at the nerve endings from a scientific standpoint if that helps!
I’ve already come out to my friends, but I’m so scared to come out to my parents. I know they’ll support me, but just thinking about it make me jittery
I would be interested if you could do a BDSM or D/S relationships video - I've been in the community for 2 years now and would love to hear your thoughts on your experiences, viewpoints or advice regarding this? Great video as well!
Dutchy, I love you so much. You make me forget all the shitty things going on at home, and ur advice is so helpful. I just wanted to make sure you knew that you're probably helping a lot of people right now.
I met this girl like 6 months ago and we started dating she was really pretty and her personality was so sweet but it turned out she was faking and I ended up in a really toxic relation ship. She eded breaking up with me and now I'm really depressed and in a dark part of my life. She didn't even like girl in red :( what should I do dutchy?
Just know that it'll get better with time. Give yourself time to heal. Someone much better than her will come along eventually. Just give yourself time and love yourself ♥️
I'm asking for advice here: Me and my best friend once had a conversation about our sexuality, and I said I was confused between a lesbian and bisexual, and she knew she was bisexual. We both support that ofc. Later that night she texted me a bunch of emojis. It was the lesbian ones (gay flag, 👩❤️💋👩👩👩👧👧👩👩👦👦👩👩👧👩👩👦) and then said "guess what they mean, it's what I'm gonna ask you tomorrow". I was really confused and tired, it was pretty late. Next morning she asked me to go out with her. I said yes, believing I liked her. But now, I'm not sure if I automatically just said yes, as it was "cool" to be in a relationship in my school at that time. It's been a year, and I'm not sure if I even like her. I know I like girls, but just not her as a girlfriend. I don't want to break up with her incase it makes her feel bad and makes things awkward when we're friends again.
Not sure what you ended up doing, but the best thing is to be honest with her. Imagine it like this, would you want to be with someone that doesn't really romantically like you? Probably not. Be honest and say that you like her as a friend, but do not feel anything more than that. If she still wants to be friends, great, if not, that's okay too.
@@Amelie-mk5bw a few months ago i talked to her, and told her how maybe we were just exploring ourselves. we're no longer dating, but still friends! :)
A question here; how do I know if my sister is LGBTQ+? It seems like she's giving out hints that she's Lesbian a lot of times, like saying how a certain girl in her class caught her attention or how she wishes that a girl would take her away and become her gf- honestly, it first seemed like a joke (it really did), but with months passing with her telling me and repeating a lot of this in different ways, I didn't know how to confront her about it. I feel like she's a little insecure but I don't know how to tell her that it's okay and how I should ask her. Our father is an atheist and my mother is a christian. (So I think my sister is being careful around them? My parents don't talk about their views a lot) So please help me! I don't have that much experience, (seeing that I'm literally eleven) but I want the best for her. Ty! 💗
If she is lgbtq+, let her tell you on her terms. You do not need to do anything. It is her journey and her choice to come out to you, if she is lgbtq+.
i came out to my family as bisexual, theyre not all supportive...like some think im doing it cause its a "trend" which is not the case- but thats another topic. Like to people who feel like theyre not ready yet for well sexual relationships, thats fine but i would honestly still watch this for when the time comes ^w^
I labeled myself as a bisexual in 2021 (im 19). Only 6 of my closest girl friends know about my bisexuality (including my girl crush). But I still haven't found my style, I think I'm androgynous but way more feminine. I like tight dark-colored clothes, not too girly but not too masculine. Does someone know what am I?
I'd say, someone fairly strong and confident, comfortable anyway, starting out in life. At your age, I moved to Germany, At this age, the world is at your feet.
I bet it because they think not talking about sex will have kids not do it(specifically girls) but not teaching about safe sex only leads to stds, teen pregnancy, and misconceptions about consent. It’s way more harmful than people think. It’s ok to teach kids about sex
I don't know who I am.... I'm so confused... I have boyfriend but I'm attracted towards girl ( kinda tom boy )though I haven't dated any girl yet .... My bf loves me so much yeah obviously I do love him... But idk its just a phase or am I bisexual or lesbian??..
I always love to see your videos and hear your advice so when this topic comes up, i’m so excited! it’s not awkward with you and it’s fun, we have a good laugh, right? Hope yall have a great day!
Hey Dutchy I am a huge fan of yours and Your vids have helped me in my relationships with the women i have been with and gave me insight into how to do certain things properly with my woman. Notification Squad!
Top and bottom aren’t the same and dom and sub. Top and bottom are about who’s giving or receiving. A straight couple can’t have a top or bottom, what they mean when they say that is dom or sub
I was hanging out with my girlfriend yesterday and I was trying to grab her shoulder but I accidentally grabbed her boob 😭😭😭 I didn’t know what to do so I quickly moved away to the shoulder and forgot to apologize 😓 SO AWKWARD. Like I didn’t think it made her uncomfy but I just felt bad because THATS EMBARRASSING. NOW I CANT GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD
im going to watch how to come out because 1 im stressed because my dad is homophobic then my mom is not then everyone else it homophobic i dont know what to do.
It will take time. try watching youtubers with similar storys, try to get more education about it maybe, maybe watching coming out videos (those always help). 👌❤
It might take a while to overcome that feeling because that’s what you grew up with, but just make sure that you remind yourself that it is NOT a sin, try love yourself and eventually it’ll work out. Time is key. I hope it all goes well for you 💕
Christians are supposed to follow Jesus. Jesus literally never said anything about homosexuality. He did, however, say multiple times to love others and accept them as you are. That is what truly matters. As hard as it, define your religious belief on your terms, and do not let your parents shame you for something that is totally natural. Same sex attraction is natural.
My gf and I are both verse - but I'm more of the bottom and she's more the top. There's a lot of grey area here, because it's not like as the bottom I ALWAYS receive or don't ever initiate, like you were saying. I'm just more often submissive. And she's more dominant. But there are times where I initiate and start out with the dominance. We both always receive, it's just the WAY and WHEN and HOW we receive that makes me more a bottom and them more a top
It's entirely up to you how you tell him but you can't keep dating someone you're not completely attracted to - it's not healthy for either of you. I guess just have a chat and say you think you need to be single and work on yourself for a while/work some things out. :) let me know how you go x
@@MsDickerz well that took a unexpected turn he came into my room telling me he wanted to break up and i said im a lesbian and he said oh im gay and now were best friends yayyyy thanks so much ilysmmmmm ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑
Don't lie. If they don't accept you and your bisexuality, they aren't worth your time. We need solidarity in the community and we need to have eachothers backs, and it's a shame that sometimes it isn't like that. Just be yourself unapologetically and you'll find someone who loves you for it
ive had sex ed before, but the only thing is, is that schools (at least mine) doesn't teach lgbt sex. only strictly heterosexual. it sucks :( thank you so much for the help!!!
I’m 16 and holly molly, I’m so scared but at the same time I really want to experiment hahahahah so hard to explain, nice video, thanks for sharing this 🙃🙃❤️
My dilemma is just wanting to find a girlfriend who lives in my area and is my age, but with the pandemic I’m not going to school so...yeah that’s hard as is. But I have no clue how to find a potential partner, let alone one at my school. I say I want them in my area or school so I can see them more often. I want a girlfriend but I have no clue how to do this with all the COVID stuff. :( Any advice? (Sorry for the wordy message and on this video of all videos lol)
thank you so much,ive been needing to know this in case i do something like this with my partner also i need some tips,how do i make conversation with them,we are both very quite around each other but know how to talk around our friends,and we are better at creating conversations online.It also doesn't help that they are 1 grade lower than i am so i don't get to talk to them often.I am scared they will leave me because they look more happier with their friends than with me and they truly laugh around their friends and i don't think ive ever seen them truly laugh in front of me.
Okay I don't know if this helps but; Quite Honestly it's very common that your partner (especially if you aren't together very long, which I don't know in your case) might look happier with their friends. With friends (especially old ones) you share a bond, that mostly has differentiations from romantic relationships. And in a group of people there is often a different dynamic that can seem like they really enjoy it. But that doesn't mean your partner is happier with their friends, or it doesn't mean they aren't equally or in another great way happy with you. It probably can change over time, like doing many things together and just connecting. You really shouldn't worry about your partner leaving you, because that's probably just hurting you, I'd advice you to just talk to your partner about it. Or do it over messager if you are to shy in person. It will work out... and if it doesn't, then that's also fine (i get that it hurts though), the important thing in a relationship is being comfortable with each other and just being content. So I jusy hope it works our for you and that this helped you on some extend
So I keep thinking guys are cute even though I wouldn't want to date them or have sex with them or anything. I'm not really sure how I could explain this to myself? I mean, I identify as a lesbian and nonbinary but it's just so confusing. Could it be CompHet? I really don't know. If anyone has any advice that'd be really appreciated.
You could have a split attraction, like me: romantic and/or aesthetic attraction towards people of all genders but all the other attractions, especially physical, only go towards women?
@@harryferguson1812 You find some men very beautiful and it gives you feelings, like a beautiful painting or music. I have that for a couple of male actors and men's hands.
🌈✨🔥DUTCHY FAM🌻🍒💗
I hope this video helped!! Do you have any other questions? What other sex ed videos would you like me to film?
@@angxlkitty753 Hi angel!! Aww thank you that means the world to me! A coming out story video!? Yass I could film that next week :D
lol i was so distracted that my teacher kicked me from my zoom meet, but also my mic doesnt work, soooooooooo
i can blame it on that U.U
also hi dutchy ily
@@theentirecastof_eeef Hehe oooops! Hiii ily too!!!
@@MsDickerz *fanboying intensifies*
Hey Dutchy! Thanks for answering my question it was really clear and helpful!!
It's 3 am here, but it doesn't matter because it's always dark in the closet lol
you are a LEGEND!!! thanks for watching still! :D but also MOOD
I felt that
Mood
Sometimes there is a light in there yk, some people have a walking closet. It CAN be a luxury. Lmao
Same 😂
y’all wanna know sum gayyyyyy?? me and my bby went stargazing and we held hands and listened to girl in red in the dark and it was a vibeeeee
ack i wish i could do that but my bby lives in georgia and i live in colorado :((
I was listening to old Flyleaf songs
@@theskyesummers i hope you both
can see each other soon!
@@bunnydadummy thank youuu
this sounds like the SWEETEST lil date ever!! awww so happy for you !
Hey girls, I'm a top (maybe 85-90% top and the rest versatile) and as I have slept with Pillow Princesses or various degrees of bottoms I'm going to explain a few things if you like :
- a "pillow princess" just lets you do it, she probably will not reciprocate AT ALL or just a little bit. It's not that they don't like you or are lazy: it's their sexual preference.
- a bottom may or may not reciprocate, a bit like a pillow princess (though not so extreme) but again, it's their sexual preference, so respect it and communicate a lot.
- a pure 100% top might claim the title "stone", "stone butch" etc, but many won't. Opposite to the pillow princess, they do all the actions and often REFUSE to be touched, or don't like people to reciprocate much.
- pillow princess and stone go hand in hand for obvious reason!
- If you're a top yourself and want to date a pure 100% top, you might need to discuss the possibility and establish your boundaries early on..... Same if you're a bottom dating a pillow princess or another bottom.
- despite what I said, it's all more fluid than those labels and communication is key.
- finally to answer the original question, a pure top takes pleasure in the act of doing stuff to the bottom. It's 90% of the fun in my opinion, and it can be enough to. ... feel good (you know what I mean).
But if you need a physical push to reach this while taking care of your bottom partner, it's always OK to use your hands or toys on yourself! Make them and yourself happy at the same time: THE BEST THING EVER.
PS: Some pure bottoms are very femme in appearance with long nails etc. and some pure tops are very masc and embrace the butch identity. However it's again more fluid on average so don't assume someone is top or bottom based on their appearance.
COMMUNICATION IS KEY ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you. I needed this. I am a bottom(almost a pillow princess) I but always get scared that if my partner will think that I am selfish or lazy on bed. I like how you said, "it's their sexual preference". this is exactly how I feel. At the same time, I also want to make her feel good. so I was thinking about toys or something like that... it's great to hear from a top perspective on this subject matter.
@@shanchitaroysorno7181 from a top perspective, I don't really think that way like thinking my partner is kinda lazy about it, I just actually don't like to be touch too much... I find pleasure from making my partner happy to the max... hugging ,grabbing on me in anyways is like sending me millions messages that she's losing herself on it,and that's makes me become even more monsters on making her 😊 😉....🍻
@@sanmegmesias3968 great to know a top perspective again, actually make me more confident. specially in bed. thank for all the information. all i need is now to find a soul mate/partner who is a Top.😊😊
@@shanchitaroysorno7181 goodluck!😊 ... I'm on my way on finding my "the one" too...
@@sanmegmesias3968 goodluck to you too😊
Me secretly watching this while being closeted:👁👄👁
Lmaoooo same🤣🤣
Haha same 😂
Lol
*deletes history*
Same
Me watching this knowing damn well I ain't doing nothing no time soon: ✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾
LMFAOOO
@@stuff1784 10 months later and guess what I've done😄....Nothing😣
Mood
Felt this in my bones
@@brownstudios5379 That is so real I didn't think I would be doing anything at all for at least 5 years and me and my partner (even though I was terrified of asking) are planning to because I asked today. Honestly relationships can be so unexpected and its beautiful
Man I read through the comments and dutchy has the most kindest, sweetest replys! You can tell she truly cares about here fan base
Dutchy is a sweety...
I'm thirteen and came out lesbian to my sister yesterday! 🌈🌈🌈 she was so supportive! She herself is a closeted pan. Its hard cause my parents don't know and are homophobic.😔😔😔
Maybe try to keep it a secret I don’t know if my parents are or not because I’m scared to tell them so I’m keeping it secret I hope the best for you😁
Wtf, 13 year old. Haha, what a joke of a world we are in
@@nho2x113 um
@@nho2x113 we gotta know too 😔✊🏾
@@nho2x113 are u saying that because you were unsure of your sexuality at the age of 13?
People thinking of top vs bottom as literal sex positions instead of pleasure giver vs receiver is so weird to me. Heteronormativity
The whole top bottom seems rather heteronormativity. Many lesbians equally give and take. Cannot imagine giving without receiving. Boring
@@princepark1013 right! Wtf! I’ll never understand. My straight gfs say that usually both the guy and the woman equally give and take.
The thought of being just one is so flipping boring. It also makes me think if I was just a giver, that woman is definitely not all that in to me. I’ve been there and that don’t fly.
I’m so tired of all these stupid social constructs. I’d rather be alone than in one of those top/bottom relationships. I’d be bored within a week….Either way.
I’m also very much a woman and very in touch( no pun intended😉) with my body. Maybe women who are exclusively tops are not down with their woman parts? I guess it’s different for everyone. Um just curious🤔
Blessings
So as I said before, I recently came out to my family and friends as bisexual. And one of the things i always so on tiktok was people changing their style after coming out as saying that they felt like a completely different person. I experienced it yesterday for the first time in my entire life I looked amazing wearing an outfit and I felt super comfortable with it. It was really like if I was someone else.
With all this I just wanted to thank you Dutchy for all the amazing videos and podcasts you do. It really helps me. ❤❤❤
Sooo proud of you first of all! :D RIGHT?! I feel you 100%! The same thing happened to me! I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling more comfortable in your clothing! Aww thanks so much for all of your support!! Love you sooo much
@@MsDickerz It's so great to be able to watch your videos after studying and working and knowing you actually saw my comment. Always makes my day ❤
THIS IS SO TRUE. I felt so different. Like a fog was lifted
This is so relatable!! I labeled myself as a bisexual in 2021 (im 19). Only 6 of my closest girl friends know about my bisexuality (including my girl crush). I have learned so much about the community since November 2021 (that was when I decided to actually learn about the Lgbtq+ community). I'm so glad that I finally feel understood!! On the 4th of January 2022 (yesterday) I confessed my feelings to my first girl crush (I liked her 2 years ago but not anymore) and turns out she is also bi and was flirting with me the whole time, I was in denial about me liking girls in 2020 so I didnt pay much attention to it. I should have kissed her, I will regret it FOREVER :(
That sucks :( but congrats on working up the confidence to tell her. At least now you know you have the confidence to tell people in the future. 👏💚😄
Let me just share my story...
I was 10, dating this boy let's call him nate. I met nate when I was in year 3 and we had been together for 3 years. Although I knew something was wrong. It felt like a friendship and nothing more, and I knew I didn't like him. I tried to break up with him, but seeing him that upset I managed to play it off as a prank. I was now in year 5, and I had just moved into a new class with someone I knew (a little), let's call her... kate. So that year I went through a lot. Me and nate finally broke up, I was bullied and had fake friends. But kate was there for me no matter what. I got yo know her and we talked more and more until we nacame best friends. She left for secondary (she is older than me) and thats when I started realising that it just wasn't the same without her. Now that I had broken up with hate I realised that I don't really like boys and eventually fell in love with kate. During this covid it was hard but we still see each other very often! We slowly grew closer and she acts like she loves me back. Now in the present i am not out to anyone but my friends. I have fully accepted myself for who I am and hope to ask kate out soon.
Wish me luck
You too
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Aww thanks so much for sharing this with us!! Wishing you all the luck
@@MsDickerz again thank you you underrated kween 💕💕💕
Good luck🥰
Who’s dating rn?? Whenever I talk to someone they hide behind COVID. For good reason, maybe but this video kinda proves to me that people are still getting some from someone out there so they can quit telling me “I like you but COVID”
It's a really tough time for dating RN! I started seeing my partner rightttt before covid started happening so we were lucky! But if you're talking to someone and it's going well then as soon as restrictions start to ease and they're still interested in seeing you, that's awesome :)
@@MsDickerz I sure hope they have the patience. What I'm hearing rn is that they don't even want to start something until the restrictions are over. Not even flirting. I worry about their mental health as well as mine if they are not even willing to talk. I'm at least open. Your videos are helpful 🙂
Yeah I had that happen he was like ahh covid and I was like fair, what's the intention, after it ends? And GHOST lol... that's life in 2020 🤦♀️
I actually spent two years without dating anyone new, even if interested in. I don't think everyone was in this place and/or living together with people who could take the risk.
I’m not a lesbian, I’m achillean, but I’m here to support you all!
Edit (1 year after originally posted): I’m pretty sure I’m abro, so I consider myself lesbian sometimes)
Ruined the 69
I am a lesbian but im so young .
So during quarantine i started feeling like boys were "kinda ugly" but i still liked them, and i liked girls too, and i decided i was bissexual. But then almost 3 months past quarantine i really felt like boys were "ugly" so i am now lesbian. Recently when school started i saw my group of bff's again, but i realised one of them left to a public school and she is the one i like. Now the problem is that i swear she is bi or lesbian but she wont say it, and i can't force it but i really hope she is at least bi or lesbian bc i actually really like her.
Luv you so much dutchy, thx for all the knowings in stuff
@ok ok she is bi
I’m new to being as bi, but I’m leaning more on being as a lesbian woman.
Communication is important. Especially after you've been with someone who was giving you absolutely nothing. No help at all in terms of what she likes or wants.
Me: a Bi Boy.
Hrmm Yes Information
Indeed🤣
Im questioning so I am just like " interesting, interesting"
@@Kwisoyyyy lmfao 😂
@@llavados me a straight girl: I N T E R E S T I N G
@@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36 xD very
Thank you so much for this!!!! we need more casual talks about this but no one ever teaches us. Thank you!!!!
i literally only learn new things from dutchy's sex ed videos lmaoo
we currently have a puberty unit at my high school rn but the documentary we watched is so heteronormative and we don't have much representation of gender spectrum either....
What a surprise
I would appreciate a video about safe sex, cause I never heard about it from nobody. I think it is really important to know...
Unpopular opinion: It doesn't make sense for straight people to use the terms "top" and "bottom" (Unless it's in a bdsm context). They're gay sex terms. Dom/sub are terms for everyone but they don't mean the same thing as Top/bottom.
Soooo I’m def lesbian, but lesbian sex SCARES ME SO MUCH. What if I’m not good at it?? What if a girl thinks I’m hot when she meets me, but I disappoint in the bedroom??
It’s so dang scary. 😭😭 I get that natural instincts “take over,” but it is still terrifying.
Same😭even when I thought I was straight and I was having heterosexual sex, that scared me too lmao
Same like I’m so nervous
Okay - update - I did it and now I’m actually married to a woman!!! (I’m a woman.)
She’s sooo the love of my life and told me I give her the best s** ever!!!
I promise you y’all are going to be okay! It depends on the connection. Also - kinda study the v*g*na if you want to know what to do. Look at the nerve endings from a scientific standpoint if that helps!
Might get useful in the future...lol
I'm as single as a Pringle
Liniya Moore I thought pringles live in long tubes spooning with 99 of their fellow pringles in a Pringle centipede
@@CrystalMouse1 unless your that one unlucky Pringle 😂😂
I'm not as single as a pringle because pringles are loved af 😂😂
@@catarinaroberto1409 hehe 😅
@@catarinaroberto1409 THEN HOW AM I SINGLE? 😂😂👉👈
I’m year 11 and I literally have had no sex Ed this really helps, thank you Megan
Romans chapter one
I’ve already come out to my friends, but I’m so scared to come out to my parents. I know they’ll support me, but just thinking about it make me jittery
Hello
sameee
I would be interested if you could do a BDSM or D/S relationships video - I've been in the community for 2 years now and would love to hear your thoughts on your experiences, viewpoints or advice regarding this? Great video as well!
I would love to film a video and/or podcast episode on that!! Thanks so much!
it's 1 am and im currently coming out as being lesbian 💗🦋
Dutchy, I love you so much. You make me forget all the shitty things going on at home, and ur advice is so helpful. I just wanted to make sure you knew that you're probably helping a lot of people right now.
Premiering in 8 hours are you kidding?😩
gotta get 'em keen
Someone:
“1/4 people are gay”
*me sipping apple juice staring at my 3 family members*
Totally don’t get too and bottom with is a stereotype. Many of us switch. Equal give and take. Otherwise, that would be so boring.
I met this girl like 6 months ago and we started dating she was really pretty and her personality was so sweet but it turned out she was faking and I ended up in a really toxic relation ship. She eded breaking up with me and now I'm really depressed and in a dark part of my life. She didn't even like girl in red :( what should I do dutchy?
Maybe she preferred Paramore or Flyleaf more
Just know that it'll get better with time. Give yourself time to heal. Someone much better than her will come along eventually. Just give yourself time and love yourself ♥️
@@harryferguson1812 aww thank you! You made my evening so much better tysm.
you will find someone, i promise.
and you dont need no liars anyways. 🤎
@Eilish Hassett haha okayyyy
💗 I’m not old enough for sex but I’m just gonna keep this in the back of my mind! 💗
Good to be educated :D
@@madds14 do it whenever you feel ready, either it is at 14 or at 18. it doesn't matter as long as YOU are ready. ❤
i opened youtube and this thumbnail popped up and my phone was visible to so many people in my school who were in the proximity 😭
Nothing to be ashamed of lovely!!!
I'm asking for advice here: Me and my best friend once had a conversation about our sexuality, and I said I was confused between a lesbian and bisexual, and she knew she was bisexual. We both support that ofc. Later that night she texted me a bunch of emojis. It was the lesbian ones (gay flag, 👩❤️💋👩👩👩👧👧👩👩👦👦👩👩👧👩👩👦) and then said "guess what they mean, it's what I'm gonna ask you tomorrow". I was really confused and tired, it was pretty late. Next morning she asked me to go out with her. I said yes, believing I liked her. But now, I'm not sure if I automatically just said yes, as it was "cool" to be in a relationship in my school at that time. It's been a year, and I'm not sure if I even like her. I know I like girls, but just not her as a girlfriend. I don't want to break up with her incase it makes her feel bad and makes things awkward when we're friends again.
Not sure what you ended up doing, but the best thing is to be honest with her. Imagine it like this, would you want to be with someone that doesn't really romantically like you? Probably not. Be honest and say that you like her as a friend, but do not feel anything more than that. If she still wants to be friends, great, if not, that's okay too.
Hey, what happened between you 2?
@@Amelie-mk5bw a few months ago i talked to her, and told her how maybe we were just exploring ourselves. we're no longer dating, but still friends! :)
@@normanminecraft69 that's great! 💗
Watching this knowing my mom doesn't approve me getting a gf
My bisexual ass taking notes knowing I’m not pulling no one any time this year.
I just stumbled across your channel for the first time… So glad I did. You are vivacious, you speak with clarity, and are simply terrific‼️❣️
Good, the notifications worked for this one. Dutchy coming in clutch as usual
Thank goodness! Thanks RUclips hahaha
A question here; how do I know if my sister is LGBTQ+? It seems like she's giving out hints that she's Lesbian a lot of times, like saying how a certain girl in her class caught her attention or how she wishes that a girl would take her away and become her gf- honestly, it first seemed like a joke (it really did), but with months passing with her telling me and repeating a lot of this in different ways, I didn't know how to confront her about it. I feel like she's a little insecure but I don't know how to tell her that it's okay and how I should ask her. Our father is an atheist and my mother is a christian. (So I think my sister is being careful around them? My parents don't talk about their views a lot) So please help me! I don't have that much experience, (seeing that I'm literally eleven) but I want the best for her. Ty! 💗
I might understand her because I'm a closeted, novice witch- but its still hard for me to try and talk to her at the same time(?) I'm miserable haha.
If she is lgbtq+, let her tell you on her terms. You do not need to do anything. It is her journey and her choice to come out to you, if she is lgbtq+.
@@gabbym333 ah, she actually told me two months ago! Thank you though, because I didnt really think of that.
can u please do a video on aftercare? :)
lmao, i still don't know i am bi or lesbian, but whoaaaaa ✨✨✨
Thank you Dutchy! I get so excited when I see a notification for a premier for your channel
Aww thank you Crimson! That means the world :D
Never been with a woman before. Totally nervous incase I mess things up with woman I like. She's amazing. Thanks for sharing these videos.
high school me is screaming and she really could have used this (now me is still using this lmao)
NOTIFICATION SQUAD where yall at? 💖
C-o-n-s-e-n-t SAY IT WITH ME
Consent :)
CONSENT
i came out to my family as bisexual, theyre not all supportive...like some think im doing it cause its a "trend" which is not the case- but thats another topic. Like to people who feel like theyre not ready yet for well sexual relationships, thats fine but i would honestly still watch this for when the time comes ^w^
I labeled myself as a bisexual in 2021 (im 19). Only 6 of my closest girl friends know about my bisexuality (including my girl crush). But I still haven't found my style, I think I'm androgynous but way more feminine. I like tight dark-colored clothes, not too girly but not too masculine. Does someone know what am I?
I'd say, someone fairly strong and confident, comfortable anyway, starting out in life. At your age, I moved to Germany, At this age, the world is at your feet.
I bet it because they think not talking about sex will have kids not do it(specifically girls) but not teaching about safe sex only leads to stds, teen pregnancy, and misconceptions about consent. It’s way more harmful than people think. It’s ok to teach kids about sex
I LOVE the freed sexual mind set!!! Well done young lady, keep up the great work!!
How do I bypass an age restriction on one of your videos ( I'm 16 so it should be fine for me right?)
I don't know who I am.... I'm so confused... I have boyfriend but I'm attracted towards girl ( kinda tom boy )though I haven't dated any girl yet ....
My bf loves me so much yeah obviously I do love him... But idk its just a phase or am I bisexual or lesbian??..
thanks for my sex education that my parents will never tell me I love yah your awesome you helped me out to know I was bi
I always love to see your videos and hear your advice so when this topic comes up, i’m so excited! it’s not awkward with you and it’s fun, we have a good laugh, right? Hope yall have a great day!
I also left a review because your podcast is simply amazing and so educational! Love you so much 💕
Aww thanks so much lovely, that means the world!! So glad to hear it!!
@@rebeccapeers5348 EEEK THANK YOU
Hey Dutchy I am a huge fan of yours and Your vids have helped me in my relationships with the women i have been with and gave me insight into how to do certain things properly with my woman. Notification Squad!
Your future children will have the coolest mom!!! The can learn everything at an early age
Top and bottom aren’t the same and dom and sub. Top and bottom are about who’s giving or receiving. A straight couple can’t have a top or bottom, what they mean when they say that is dom or sub
i love how i am asexual
love!!
I was hanging out with my girlfriend yesterday and I was trying to grab her shoulder but I accidentally grabbed her boob 😭😭😭 I didn’t know what to do so I quickly moved away to the shoulder and forgot to apologize 😓 SO AWKWARD. Like I didn’t think it made her uncomfy but I just felt bad because THATS EMBARRASSING. NOW I CANT GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD
no bc my gf and i might be doing it soon i’m terrified but excited!?!? how soon you may ask? in less than a week cuz we both want ti
Hope everything went well :>
Hi people how are you all it’s been awhile❤️
How are you doing cutie?!
@@MsDickerz hello I’m doing good thank you how about you thank you for responding it means the world I didn’t think people would actually care🥺
**clears watch and search history**
Uhh should I tell my crush that I like her? We're friends so idk if it would end up being weird
im going to watch how to come out because 1 im stressed because my dad is homophobic then my mom is not then everyone else it homophobic i dont know what to do.
here for you always!!
@@MsDickerzthank you
@@maytamoss8908 did you come out
@@shelbymcdonald793 no not yet im still closeted
@@maytamoss8908 well I hope when you do it goes well happy thanksgiving
Last year I found out I like boys but i feel really sinful bc of my Christian parents. Any advice on accepting yourself?
It will take time. try watching youtubers with similar storys, try to get more education about it maybe, maybe watching coming out videos (those always help). 👌❤
It might take a while to overcome that feeling because that’s what you grew up with, but just make sure that you remind yourself that it is NOT a sin, try love yourself and eventually it’ll work out. Time is key. I hope it all goes well for you 💕
As I said to someone else here, all we want is love and be loved, and if God exists, of course he loves us the way we are too! ♥️
Christians are supposed to follow Jesus. Jesus literally never said anything about homosexuality. He did, however, say multiple times to love others and accept them as you are. That is what truly matters. As hard as it, define your religious belief on your terms, and do not let your parents shame you for something that is totally natural. Same sex attraction is natural.
My gf and I are both verse - but I'm more of the bottom and she's more the top. There's a lot of grey area here, because it's not like as the bottom I ALWAYS receive or don't ever initiate, like you were saying. I'm just more often submissive. And she's more dominant. But there are times where I initiate and start out with the dominance. We both always receive, it's just the WAY and WHEN and HOW we receive that makes me more a bottom and them more a top
How do i tell my boyfriend im lesbian and want to break up?
How???
Sorry im so confused rn
It's entirely up to you how you tell him but you can't keep dating someone you're not completely attracted to - it's not healthy for either of you. I guess just have a chat and say you think you need to be single and work on yourself for a while/work some things out. :) let me know how you go x
@@MsDickerz omg thx for the advice ill sure do that right now scince hes coming in my room ahh ill tell i in five mins😬🏳️🌈👑
@@MsDickerz well that took a unexpected turn he came into my room telling me he wanted to break up and i said im a lesbian and he said oh im gay and now were best friends yayyyy thanks so much ilysmmmmm ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑👑
if you wouldn’t mind it, could you post your podcast on youtube?
i think it is also important to say that there hasn't to be an orgasm. it's about the road to get there even if you dont get there
What am I doing here. It's 2 am and I am a sex repulsed asexual with no girlfriend
Yes, this is great that you are sharing these sorts of things because sis, lemme tell you. There are so many people that need this omg thank you :))
Did you name your little cactus yet? 🌵 love ya btw💗✨
Theo
@@MsDickerz Awee that’s actually so cute OMG 🌵🥺
@@MsDickerz I love that name 💗
@@fantasticfrances hi
I'm straight and I'm here because of my curiosity
Sameeee
The real challenge: find a girl that's available and not biphobic (next time I'll just lie and say I'm a golden star lesbian 😑)
Don't lie. If they don't accept you and your bisexuality, they aren't worth your time. We need solidarity in the community and we need to have eachothers backs, and it's a shame that sometimes it isn't like that. Just be yourself unapologetically and you'll find someone who loves you for it
You can just go for another bi girl if lesbians don’t want you lol
I’m a Lesbian
ive had sex ed before, but the only thing is, is that schools (at least mine) doesn't teach lgbt sex. only strictly heterosexual. it sucks :( thank you so much for the help!!!
Great vid! Glad you made it for everyone. TY
you're so welcome!
It’s like 1:40 am
its my girl, DUTCHYYYYYYY!
Video topic starts at 3:00 .
The previous are just ads and so
I would really appreciate time stamps gurlll 😭
I’m 16 and holly molly, I’m so scared but at the same time I really want to experiment hahahahah so hard to explain, nice video, thanks for sharing this 🙃🙃❤️
I feel comfy here ☺️
My dilemma is just wanting to find a girlfriend who lives in my area and is my age, but with the pandemic I’m not going to school so...yeah that’s hard as is. But I have no clue how to find a potential partner, let alone one at my school. I say I want them in my area or school so I can see them more often. I want a girlfriend but I have no clue how to do this with all the COVID stuff. :( Any advice? (Sorry for the wordy message and on this video of all videos lol)
first time today wish me luck👉👈
How did it go?
@@velvet_venus 👀
Notification squad!!!!
thank you so much,ive been needing to know this in case i do something like this with my partner also i need some tips,how do i make conversation with them,we are both very quite around each other but know how to talk around our friends,and we are better at creating conversations online.It also doesn't help that they are 1 grade lower than i am so i don't get to talk to them often.I am scared they will leave me because they look more happier with their friends than with me and they truly laugh around their friends and i don't think ive ever seen them truly laugh in front of me.
Okay I don't know if this helps but; Quite Honestly it's very common that your partner (especially if you aren't together very long, which I don't know in your case) might look happier with their friends. With friends (especially old ones) you share a bond, that mostly has differentiations from romantic relationships. And in a group of people there is often a different dynamic that can seem like they really enjoy it. But that doesn't mean your partner is happier with their friends, or it doesn't mean they aren't equally or in another great way happy with you. It probably can change over time, like doing many things together and just connecting. You really shouldn't worry about your partner leaving you, because that's probably just hurting you, I'd advice you to just talk to your partner about it. Or do it over messager if you are to shy in person. It will work out... and if it doesn't, then that's also fine (i get that it hurts though), the important thing in a relationship is being comfortable with each other and just being content.
So I jusy hope it works our for you and that this helped you on some extend
Thanks for being you!
aw thank you :)
Dutchy sister love you miss you my dear 😓
Vulvascalways taste and smell so good. Girls don't worry about it.
So I keep thinking guys are cute even though I wouldn't want to date them or have sex with them or anything. I'm not really sure how I could explain this to myself? I mean, I identify as a lesbian and nonbinary but it's just so confusing. Could it be CompHet? I really don't know. If anyone has any advice that'd be really appreciated.
You could have a split attraction, like me: romantic and/or aesthetic attraction towards people of all genders but all the other attractions, especially physical, only go towards women?
@@alexpoulpe979 what is aesthetic attraction if you don't mind me asking?
@@harryferguson1812 You find some men very beautiful and it gives you feelings, like a beautiful painting or music. I have that for a couple of male actors and men's hands.
@@alexpoulpe979 oh ok. That makes sense. That sounds kind of like what I'm experiencing. Thank you so much!
HI HI ♥ New subscriber! I love your voice and the video of course.
HIII welcome to the fam!!! aw thank you :)
thanks for this video it was so helpful!
Are you dutch, cause your accent sounds more like an autralian one
Edit: just saw your name is dutchy and you are Australian.
Why are women so awkward about sex, i mean i understand if it's a guy-girl relationship but with 2 women, shouldn't it be a lot easier...
Me being shy demibisexual who will not have girlfriend anytime soon, because is scared but still good quality wideo.
do lesbian hookups even exist? every girl I talk to on apps just wants to be friends or its a dead convo
Gotta SLURP THAT KNOWLEDGE!! Um, actually, bad phrasing... Thank u Dutchy! :DD