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We can't control the other person's behavior but we can choose to react to it based on our own standard we want to be treated. We need to prevent ourselves from feeling resentful for expecting what we thought it could be and learn not to settle for lesser than we should be. Let them be, get "bored" as Helena said, if they come back we make it clear of our standards if not we move on.
I think I'm dealing with an avoidant type of man and because of this I am also behaving avoidant so we never talk 😂 but I'm perfectly fine with that. Let the other wxmen in his harem tolerate and deal with it. I'm good without him.
He was a category 2, an old friend who reconnected with me. For 9 months he blew hot and cold, occasionally playing the platonic friend , and flirt heavily another times, but always via texts. I finally, fed-up, sent him a voice message, and told him I can’t continue like that forever. He replied that « he won’t hurt me anymore » and gone. Did I do the right thing? Please let me know, because I am still sad and confused 🙏
Yes you did the right thing, you stood up for yourself not to tolerate his behavior. It's painful and will leave you feeling anxious and maybe resentful but he is not the right guy. The right guy should treat you the way you want to be treated and you should feel calm and peaceful not the opposite.
I really need some kind of an explanation because I don't understand his behaviour.He stop texting me.We have casual relationship,we see each other couple times a week and he is calling me once a day ..we had connection through messaging but for a week or so he stopped texting,and when I ask him he is telling me to text him but he respond me in hour...I feel something is different..and when we see each other he is great snd we have good time..but he stopped texting me good morning and good night messages.. Should I be worried?
Category 2, over here too… And I really think he could be a Category 1 because he came back to me for whatever it’s worth.. We have known each other for a really long time so it’s hard to understand why he gives me bread crumbs then goes away then comes back.. how do I deal with that?
Thanks for sharing your experience here! ❤️ Just because a guy comes back around doesn’t necessarily put him into the first category. A man’s past behavior is a good indication of what his future behavior will be - so if he has a pattern of being “hot and cold” or only giving you crumbs, you can likely expect more of the same from him. These videos might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/RZdL_-_q2f4/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/GWRLhZJKvzU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/fzyjMlOD3oc/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/VcjFqtaGj3Y/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/R1hRVtg_PEg/видео.html.
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Thanks for sharing your experience here! It sounds like he may fall into the second category. This video might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html
The third type of guy. Great when he's with you, consistent communication, seems like you are building a future but your intuition makes you anxious in between because he is really only acting the part to keep you there, he has no intention of anything long term despite talking of retirement together. He acuses you of being needy when you express your feelings and you try to own it and work on it yourself and then you find out he's been keeping his options open by talking to other women so you weren't imagining he wasn't really there for you after all. From now on my type of man is one that I know for certain how much he loves me.
OMG I can absolutelly relate to your story😯 happened to me, my intuition and anxiety levels weren't wrong. I was really hurt when 2 weeks before our trip to my home country together he broke up saying "he is not ready for a relationship" after all those months building something serious🤷♀️ I just let him go, no fight, no arguing, and offcourse no contact, no social media, removed his photos from my phone etc. It's been 10 months and only now I'm more understanding of my problems, attachment style and going into the bottom of those can help a lot to understand yourself and break those old patterns
Category 1 was my situation years ago! It showed me just how insecure I was. Now I'm confident enough to not act that way, and get bored with the Category 2's 🙌🏽
While I don’t know the details of your situation, these videos might help give you some clarity: ruclips.net/user/livevaZBN5TU6i0?feature=share and ruclips.net/video/t0Mfw4tbsew/видео.html.
Thanks for sharing your experience here. These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.htmlsi=yKCDoDptTsN-hMfh, ruclips.net/video/_D37APGOy8Y/видео.htmlsi=U066S8tfSL8Dx-OR and ruclips.net/video/PzHP5tO3FeU/видео.htmlsi=6P3_UuULvSGJjYb1.
This is a clip from a livestream I did about a week before my son was born - hope you enjoy it! If you want to learn the secrets to attracting the man you want and inspiring his love, devotion and commitment, get my FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoaching.com/
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I've learned to lean back and have such a full life that I don't care or notice when they disappear and act inconsistent.
Love it, thanks for sharing! 💖
We can't control the other person's behavior but we can choose to react to it based on our own standard we want to be treated. We need to prevent ourselves from feeling resentful for expecting what we thought it could be and learn not to settle for lesser than we should be. Let them be, get "bored" as Helena said, if they come back we make it clear of our standards if not we move on.
I like what you said here, thanks for sharing your insights! 💞
I think I'm dealing with an avoidant type of man and because of this I am also behaving avoidant so we never talk 😂 but I'm perfectly fine with that. Let the other wxmen in his harem tolerate and deal with it. I'm good without him.
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💙
Thank you. So much needed. Love these short videos as well. 😊😉 Due to not having too much time to listen to long ones. 👍
You’re welcome! 💕
He was a category 2, an old friend who reconnected with me.
For 9 months he blew hot and cold, occasionally playing the platonic friend , and flirt heavily another times, but always via texts.
I finally, fed-up, sent him a voice message, and told him I can’t continue like that forever. He replied that « he won’t hurt me anymore » and gone.
Did I do the right thing? Please let me know, because I am still sad and confused 🙏
If he's gone that's the answer.
Yes you did the right thing, you stood up for yourself not to tolerate his behavior. It's painful and will leave you feeling anxious and maybe resentful but he is not the right guy. The right guy should treat you the way you want to be treated and you should feel calm and peaceful not the opposite.
I really need some kind of an explanation because I don't understand his behaviour.He stop texting me.We have casual relationship,we see each other couple times a week and he is calling me once a day ..we had connection through messaging but for a week or so he stopped texting,and when I ask him he is telling me to text him but he respond me in hour...I feel something is different..and when we see each other he is great snd we have good time..but he stopped texting me good morning and good night messages.. Should I be worried?
Thanks so much mine is a category 2
You’re welcome! I talked more about that kind of man in this video: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html
Awesome video Helena🎉❤
Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 🩷
Of they are breadcrumbing they arnt interested. Its best to detach and move on to someone wont do it
Thanks for sharing! Yes, I agree that if they’re consistently breadcrumbing it’s definitely best to move on. 💜
Category 2, over here too… And I really think he could be a Category 1 because he came back to me for whatever it’s worth.. We have known each other for a really long time so it’s hard to understand why he gives me bread crumbs then goes away then comes back.. how do I deal with that?
Thanks for sharing your experience here! ❤️ Just because a guy comes back around doesn’t necessarily put him into the first category. A man’s past behavior is a good indication of what his future behavior will be - so if he has a pattern of being “hot and cold” or only giving you crumbs, you can likely expect more of the same from him. These videos might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/RZdL_-_q2f4/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/GWRLhZJKvzU/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/fzyjMlOD3oc/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/VcjFqtaGj3Y/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/R1hRVtg_PEg/видео.html.
What do you really want is what you get from this man?
@@Sun-sz4ne don’t understand your question?
I'm not certain. He seems like a good guy. So I'm going to move on from him completely
Thanks for sharing your experience here. This video might also be helpful for anyone who can relate: ruclips.net/user/livevaZBN5TU6i0?si=h-4z0cClj_xqQv6B
I have strong feelings for this guy the back and forth is unbearable sometimes! I'm like don't chase don't chase lol
Thanks for sharing your experience here! It sounds like he may fall into the second category. This video might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html
The third type of guy. Great when he's with you, consistent communication, seems like you are building a future but your intuition makes you anxious in between because he is really only acting the part to keep you there, he has no intention of anything long term despite talking of retirement together. He acuses you of being needy when you express your feelings and you try to own it and work on it yourself and then you find out he's been keeping his options open by talking to other women so you weren't imagining he wasn't really there for you after all. From now on my type of man is one that I know for certain how much he loves me.
I love the steps am trying to keep myself accupied with other things right now thanks 🙏
OMG I can absolutelly relate to your story😯 happened to me, my intuition and anxiety levels weren't wrong. I was really hurt when 2 weeks before our trip to my home country together he broke up saying "he is not ready for a relationship" after all those months building something serious🤷♀️ I just let him go, no fight, no arguing, and offcourse no contact, no social media, removed his photos from my phone etc. It's been 10 months and only now I'm more understanding of my problems, attachment style and going into the bottom of those can help a lot to understand yourself and break those old patterns
The second type of guy fills the loneliness void, so it’s a false sense of security! Friends are better for this! Thank you, Helena ❤❤
You’re welcome! Yes, I talked more about that kind of man in this video: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html
Category 1 was my situation years ago! It showed me just how insecure I was. Now I'm confident enough to not act that way, and get bored with the Category 2's 🙌🏽
I’m happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💗
I agree, detachment makes u magnetic
Yes, thanks for sharing! 💕
I'm involved with a #2 man.
I talked more about that kind of man in this video: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html
Yeah find someone else to do lol 😂
Category 2
I talked more about that kind of man in this video: ruclips.net/video/dLj3_tqtCmo/видео.html
Thanks a lot 😊
You’re welcome! 💕
What about someone who falls in between category 1 and 2?
While I don’t know the details of your situation, these videos might help give you some clarity: ruclips.net/user/livevaZBN5TU6i0?feature=share and ruclips.net/video/t0Mfw4tbsew/видео.html.
You are so inspiring. I needed to hear this.
Thank you! ❤️ My latest video should also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/PNgNAfSNG1A/видео.htmlsi=5owTbAFqyDynZMnU
Category 2 for 6 years now hot cold in out on off omg stop the BS man
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