How To Make People Like You Immediately
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- Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
- One Simple Tip To Make People Like You - Tom Hiddleston Charisma Breakdown
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Watch Tom Hiddleston and Grae Drake banter back and forth and learn how you can boost your charisma just by shifting the way you crack jokes. It's a simple technique that you can use to make just about anyone like you, guy or girl. After all, we like people who make us feel good about ourselves, and this tip will do that for you.
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Living in Tokyo for 2 years now, the Japanese have mastered this. In fact, you should never outright disagree with anyone, agree first and then add another perspective so to say.
Cool, thanks for sharing that.
Yes. As i worked as an English teacher for children in Japan, i was taught in cultural training that children will very rarely say "i don't like...something" instead they will grimace and change the subject, or point to something else they do like or want. This is most visible in women, but seems to vanish the more superior a male positions themselves in this culture.
Overall a very socially cultivated world and I've actually adapted this mindset in my efforts to be more positive. Because if you don't focus on what you don't like, but rather on what you do like, it results in an automatic increase in positivity!
(Not sure if my message vanished as a glitch or Charisma brought my message back by choice, but thank you if you did)
I've absolutely found this to be the best way to deal with ANY conflict. Agree that their position is valid (even if you internally believe the opposite), then add your own position in a nonconfrontational way and you will ALWAYS get a positive reaction.
Snowy Killjoy it doesnt work with everyone.. some just want you to agree.. I had a debate with an online friend and they outright blocked me. I think cause I asked questions trying to understand their position while saying what I know. They just said "you know nothing about this, I know better, you just trying to win this argument" The whole thing was objectively petty but it shows that some ppl can be pretty insecure and have the need to completely dominate..
margaritanoir same here. Had the most obnoxious person telling me that a third person who self identified as queer, that both he & I were wrong in the terminology. She kept saying there's only gay or straight. I only knew the term for queer as two spirited, I was not trying to argue, just said those words were what I knew & that is what he called himself. Was like she was saying he doesn't know how he identifies through me.
I don't think he liked her. He seemed annoyed but tried to be polite anyway. That says a lot about him. He is a gentleman. She was trying to hard.
s marie well said.
s marie too*
He was mildly amused by the angle, the realness suggested, despite her awkward way of getting there.
I'm an aspiring fiction-writer, and I have to say breaking down conversations between people and explaining interpersonal relationships in this fashion is definitely helpful, even outside of public speaking. Thank you
+Atomic Surge That's exactly what I'm doing here.
I agree. I've been thinking of making a comic, and these videos are definitely helpful for making character's.
I agree. I've been thinking of making a comic, and these videos are definitely helpful for making character's.
Yeah, these videos are really helpful with character interactions! :D
I agree with you.
However, how do you mean "aspiring"? If you mean you haven't started writing yet but want to then you should perhaps start a blog to get followers or maybe go into it head on and start writing the plot outline for your first book. Maybe you can even find a job writing articles which would be ideal.
You're not getting any younger. Turn that "aspiring writer" into "currently a writer" today! :D
Can you make a video about Tom Hiddleston`s charisma
I second this
yesss
Yes please.
IKRRR
I would use this same clip to show how NOT to get people to like you. Had I been in the interviewee's place, I'd have never wanted to meet her again. Everything she said cheapened what he said, and came across as an attempt to fit in. I'd rate her charisma (going solely by this video) very low.
could you maybe do a video on a topic like this? would beinteresting and quite a change to your other videos
+Lindybeige I agree
I agree with you, her attempt to be funny was cringy af. Although I still understand the message Tom is trying to get across to agree with people.
Love your vids man
I cannot like a man who dislikes the spandau
I disagree with this one. He seemed to not like her right off the bat but hiddleston 's whole schtick being nice and charming. He seemed offended at first, and then awkward later but he try to laugh it off. This is better example how HIddleston handles someone he is effy about
+dulcetelixirdemure Yes, this is what happened. And no it's not what mr. Charisma on command said it happened. Mr. Charisma this, after the "how to be funny" is the second bad video. You can do better.
He's not wrong on the topic though, on what she's doing in the video. She's just not very successful at it because she's trying too hard.
Pyry Parkkola
That's like stating that someone that is pushing grape into his nose is "not very succesfull in eating grape". Then someone sees the scene and thinks "this is a perfect example of how to eat grape! I'll do a video about it!"
Yeah, that's true I guess. I got a lot from this video anyways, even if the example wasn't the best.
Pyry Parkkola
All you can get on a bad video about something is bad information, if you're really interested in that information, go to look where the info is sound and clear. For instance if you want a good example of politically correct, you don't watch a Trump video. Not to throw politics into the matter, it's just the first example got into my mind.
Honestly, I thought that woman was annoying as hell.
+Evil_Dude
Yes people that have to much interest in my personality seem weird or strange to me. Like Jehovas witnesses.
Ckyntosh
I just dont like the point that this technique is sold as some magic here.
Of course it increases the chance of a positive outcome if you smile, and share interests with some people.
Thats how children make friends.
All my friends have 70 % the same interests
and political views that i have
Sheldon Cooper81 it is magic for those you didn't thought about it before.. those who are introverted .
Ckyntosh
Well i am introverted it takes me 4 Weeks to 6 months to fully open up to people dont know.
I also have trust issues and live in constant fear of loosing new friends that i just made.
BUT its gotten better now its been A LOT worse 7 years ago
That "joke" about the wind howling was awkward as fuck.
Please do more videos on Tom Hiddleston. He always appear to be likeable, howww??
Be Yourself is the best way to live a life I guess. No more pretending.
Thanks for that!
It's actually pretty good advice
The actor seemed to be annoyed and waiting to finish the interview. The interviewer excited and silly. The conversation was not natural.
"The actor".... That's the great, holy, saint-like Tom Hiddleston right there; the most marriable guy in the history of guys.
I subconsciously analyse everybody's behaviour now because of you xP
Lucien Kuhn right? him and Sherlock are the reason why I do it
When I did improv, the "yes, and" exercise was so key in helping the scenes build up in comedy and energy! It definitely makes you feel heard and supported in a conversation.
I think the only reason the woman's social skills seem barely acceptable is because Tom Hiddleston is walking, talking charisma. Also, it's actually a really instructive video if you look as it as a lesson in dealing with awkward small talk. Tom navigates brilliantly.
To be honest, i don't think this interview is a good example. Contrary to what you said, she doesn't seem authentic at all to me. She is trying way too hard and i think Tom realises this himself. You can tell by how he reacts, after she completed a sentence. That "okay" in the beginning for example or that 1 second of confusion in his face followed by a "yeah... maybe" in the last scene. Her laugh also sounds very forced.
Anyway, that's just my interpretation. I still find your vidoes to be very interesting, so keep it up and have a nice day. =)
+Pidao Thanks! I totally see what your saying with Hiddleston's reactions in this video. I read him as more bashful , but either interpretation may be true
+Charisma on Command
Careful Pidao he is using the Yes and thing on you :O
+Charisma on Command If you watch some of Tom's other interviews, he's very long winded and passionate about his roles and film. I think he's probably just tired of talking about the same thing over and over without really getting to add any insightful commentary. Also, I'm not sure he's the best with back and forth banter, so this may be what we're seeing here.
+Pidao i agree
+Pidao ya, i also feel like she was trying too hard = /
"yes, and..." the first rule of improv
You sound so young in this video yet you know so much about charisma, it's amazing.
I thought a whole lot of charisma skills will develope only while growing up but you know so much.
what about the graham norton show ? its a treasure island even though its scripted but he seems to get everybody relaxed. the bill murray and matt damon episode was unexpected. how would you get old billy to laugh and joke ?
+Hela Sanaa I'll take a look at that show! I love it for breakdowns :-)
He gets them drunk backstage ;)
+Sophie Murphy Lol Love that comment :)
Will smith vs Jaden smith is about the graham Norton
it's not scripted...
Why would you cover her when Tom Hiddleston is the one oozing with charisma. Can you do a video on Tom?
I see Tom Hiddleston, I click.
Last night I ventured for the first time into the hot tub of my apartment complex, which it turns out is a very effective place to meet people. I put some of these principles into practice and became the life of the party, despite my native shyness. Thanks Charlie!
Interesting this trick about disagreeing but giving the impression you're agreeing at first. Very useful to use when you don't agree with someone but you don't want to get on their bad side by disagreeing right from the start.
This interview was kind of awkward
Your channel is pure gold💎👏👏👏
Thanks so much - I really appreciate that!
Iael BornToSing that's a diamond not gold lol
I'm kind of in love with this channel. Not that I need it, since I'm already so charming 😌
I really enjoy these videos. They help me mask my near-sociopathic tendencies.
I am actually trying to end a friendship with someone because they constantly shoot my statements down, even when they don't really know what they're talking about.
These videos really help me understand things, even better than books on sociologyand body language that I've read (and I've read a few!).
These videos are so interesting. Like learning how to be Sherlock
+JustJoe Well Sherlock doesn't care about being liked. Atleast the BBC version of him doesn't.
He knows how to make people like him though when it could be useful
Actually, this technique works very well. People just find this woman annoying because, while this is indeed a very effective method to be more likable, this woman here was trying too hard. The method alone cannot save you from the consequences of cringeworthy jokes, talking way too much and talking over someone, coming off as offensive (and by that I mean you can use that innocent little "poke at their ego" approach, but on this video, the woman wasn't very subtle in her words and it's obvious in the awkward expression on Tom's face that he was slightly uncomfortable by what she said). So truly, it's a great technique to be a likable person, it all just depends on how you use it.
La Dame Délire I was cringing every time she said something. She needs to relearn interviewing techniques...
she is a not a very good interviewer, I didn't feel a connection between her and him, she is off putting and didn't seem that genuine.
Most of these interviews seem to be phony as hell.... Don't understand why thus dude uses celebrities... Then again it's easy to find this rather than an actual situation as an example...
Yeah...Idk. I think Tom Hiddleston's charm outweighs the interviewer's by a thousand.
I see Tom Hiddleston
I CLICK
this one was definitely a miss. This girl came off more obnoxious, then anything else. From her hairstyle, and interrupting his stories with stupid jokes it just comes off as weird. It only seems like she is doing a good job because hiddleston is handling her stupid remarks with such grace. She is obviously trying to hard to impress him and her boss that she is forgetting to do what an interviewer should do, and that's ask questions and listen.
Thanks Charlie, I really enjoy your videos. I must have watched all of them. My goal from all of this is to make other peoples lives better that are around me and I think its working, being aware of myself is awesome.
Make a video about Hiddleston and Cumberbatch! Please!
please make a video on ryan renolds
She is one of the many new HORRIBLE breed of interviewers who makes the interview about them instead of getting the interviewee to open up.
love this channel
°Appreciate the kind words
LOVE YOUR VOICE MATE!
Love that, thanks!
Wow. I only started watching your videos last week and already gained 5 friends. Wish I had enough money to buy the charisma on command university thing
That was indeed very interesting.
Personally I have been told times upon times that I seemed weird/unlikeable to a person when they first met me but they now like me. Now this is mostly people who sort had no chance but to have contact with me, the people who can avoid me probably do.
I really learned a lot about what it is that makes people dislike me initially (basically I LOVE talking to people about things where they disagree with me, it's so much more insightful and stimulating than this small talk as described here, but I guess it would be wise to first get people to like you...)
I love that your videos are not directed to a gender in particular 🖤
Umm... Surprisingly good observation.
Most of them, at least
Ella Mary Men Are better that what u wanted to hear ? 😂
BeasTuBe On What?
BeasTuBe On *idk where you got that dude but.. no 😂*
i like grae! she's very personable. every interview i've seen with her has her interviewee's so relaxed.
I was not surprised to see Tom here😏
I like simple and honest people, you don't need to act in a certain way to achieve that
There’s a 3rd camp, this is the group of people with a broken social filter and have no idea how to reciprocate so they just say something that has nothing to do with anything. Usually there’s a key word you say that triggers and unrelated memory in them that they have to say, after the first few words they just aren’t listening anymore and are only thinking of what they want to say while waiting for you to shut up
whoa I do this at work and didn't even know. this whole time I thought I was manipulating people and felt bad about it (to make people like me for my greater good)... but it's just having charisma? mind blown o.o
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haha! I do this unconsciously with my husband whenever I'm kind of mentally occupied but I want him to know that I'm listening. I will agree and try to expand in some way on what he's saying.
it seems some people do not appreciate her brand of humor. from the actor's point-of-view, i would wager her style is a breath of fresh air after many stuffy interviews about shakespearean-level fraternal conflicts.
You must analyze Graham Norton. He brings so much energy.
He did! :)
Thank you for all the advice
Very helpful!
Grateful for that!
Charisma on Command I rencently discover you and I think you are great. I really mean it: you are able to teach us communicative skills and competence being nice and easy. Now I´m adicted to your videos, and it´s a healthy adiction :-) (as you can notice, I´m a foreign language speaker, so this videos have also this extra value for me, getting to understand some ideas about comunication in a context outside of my mother tongue). Thank you :)
Did anyone relize that subtitles are wrong
This was good to show a path of gaining rapport in a very high stress situation.
This interview is amazing, thank you for the video Charlie! xo
You should do one about Emilia Clarke, she's amazing
Thanks man! A bunch of value all free. That's really great and very appreciated. Cool! Unique as well! :)
Thanks for the encouragement!
I don't quite understand this one due to the example. The interviewer was exaggerating for her jokes and I don't have a good toleration of that yet, but it is something I practice.
WAIT WAIT!!!!! GUYS TURN ON THE CAPTIONS...YOU'LL THANK ME ....
" I hope u guys like this video. if you did, please make sure to raise your standard" this one's my favorite
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BEAUTIFUL SHOW OF EXPLANATION :)
THANK YOU FOR SHARING :)
THANK YOU FROM ISRAEL :)
Who the heck made the captions???
Tom bring me here but what you said was enough to make me stay
Oh Loki...
What a charming guy...but I got the impression he's not really into this woman though... He's just so nice and graceful being cut with weird attitude by the woman...
I am incredibly glad to have stumbled upon your channel! Keep making game of thrones (or other) themed videos! They are what made me notice you :)
°Will definitely be making more videos :-)
Two simple rules to make people like you:
1. Be beautiful
2. Smile
nah gtfo ,when you are beautiful like me, it doesn't fade you anymore
Average people hate beautiful people
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Folks, the video content is great stuff! I'm thankful and not complaining
Charlie, you need to do one on -"The Greatest Interview Ever!" by YAAAS TV -this is the best interview i have ever seen
i really like your videos man. its super precise and on point .
When I first watched this vid I agreed with the comments below, that the scene appeared awkward. I initially hated this vid because of it but it did have good points, just bad at showing them. I have now stumbled across the original vid that they clipped from. It is not anywhere near that awkward! It actually is a good example of these tips. Just somehow in the editing of this vid, the original context was lost. I suggest going to watch the full interview vid to see these in action. ruclips.net/video/6QQmO-3_uIY/видео.html
Lord, I love Tom.
not sure what all the haters are talking about in this comment section, this was a good video
I was expecting this would help me make people like me, as in create human beings in my likeness. Can you make a video about that please?
I do not believe that he felt endeared to him at all.
In my eyes, he came across as someone who is forced to be in the presence of a person who is painfully intense and causes one to feel somewhat uncomfortable. She is making such an effort to make the interview loud and upbeat that if he didn't smile it would come off as awkward.
good stuff. it really used to work in tense situations, customer service, tech support
Problem, I know when people try to make me like them. I call them on it. I prefer people who are honest and simply don't care if I like them all not. And sometimes I like them and other times I don't.
I've actually liked quite a few of your videos - but to me, in this video, he did seem a bit annoyed or irritated - kinda subtle but that's the feeling I got almost in all the four examples.
+RafeeeeS Yes, and it was kind of like he forced himself to laugh at her jokes.
Grae Drake is definitely a great and not boring interviewer at all
+moviebuzzrocks Yeah I love her :-)
Building rapport is very important in my profession. Clients won't pick our company to work with on their project, if they don't like me.
this video is very helpful . i will try to cultivate these ideas which u give
See personally speaking i don't like when people do this. I can see them doing it and even if it's authentic to them it makes me feel like they're just trying to hard to be liked.. Although i suppose that's what you were getting into in regards to building respect with disagreement it just seems connected to me because the technique you want to employ varies from person to person and setting to setting. Also body language and conversation topics can do a hell of a lot to manage peoples perceptions of you over the long run which enables the use of techniques more broadly.... Or to put that another way you can do some "yes-and"ing without making yourself look weak with the use of body language, the monitoring of enthusiasm and the topic for conversation.
This one in particular I found interesting and useful....
+Mark Kislich yes, and it was also explained in an easy to understand manner.
I think she is endearing herself to him actually.
I'm in love with him. anyways
i tried put this to use.
girlfriend: i think i put on abit of weight
me: yes, quite alot
didnt like me after that.
Roman R 😂😂😂😂😂
be likable
Well, i gotta say women and men have different press points to score "likes" in the real world. Imagine a guy interviewing a woman with Grae's style. It would come straight off as creepy
You're right. Men and women are socialized in different ways and society constructs the concepts of men and women very differently, which affects the ways in which we interact.
+Mx.Fluffy "Muh social construct"
It's biology, dude.
Jay Mazella that's like, your opinion man
Hes hardly laughing, and shes expanding on every single thing. It makes the guest feel like saying oh shut up..
you channel is AWESOME!
thank you :)
Major Andre is very charismatic.
Make a video about respect. I think it will be interesting
great video!!!
Please cover a song that will inspire people. And make a video about your life like making a "draw my life" or it doesn't have to be drawn. I bet this will be a great help and an inspiration.
Love Ya Charlie.
how can we talk like that without sounding like we are flirting with the other person?
You don't, you're cursed with leading guys on. Forever.
Eugenia Mikulan You really are..
hey:) came across your channel the other day, you have great content- short and informative! just wondering if you have a background in psychology? if not, whats your advice based on? thanks :)
Can you speak about johnny depp charisma
سافل وقليل الأدب 😕
+سافل وقليل الادب johnny depp is actually very socially awkward sooo...
Have you seen Johnny Depp on Graham Norton? Blank! is the word I'd use.
Don't be like Johnny Depp. He's extremely physically attractive (well, he was) with fantastic style. But he's a horrible conversationalist.
This is the biggest non-secret in improv comedy.
Love your channel
~ Glad you're loving it Wilfredo!