About 8 years ago, I felt lonely and a bit depressed. I decided to, whenever going outside the door, to just smile at people whether I felt like it or not, the amount of smiles I got in return made me feel like smiling every time!
@@yspegelYou cant smile to anyone in the street or shop not all people are like beautifull cute young like in youtube smiling back and you can never have that energy to smile on every person or you will fell clown everytime smiling
I met my best friend because I smiled at her everyday. She was in the grade below me and everyday when I was on the way to lunch she was going back to my classroom. We made eye contact and I smiled. She stare at me and we went our separate paths. The next day this happened again. This time she smiled back. We would wave at each other and progressively we would say hi as we passed. It wasn’t until a school event when we started talking. She said my smile made her day. She said she didn’t have much friends and she was happy when she saw me. It is now seven years later and we have been friends ever since.
i think it's important to acknowledge that we shouldn't change ourselves in the process. the "if they like me, they like, if they don't, too bad" mentality is still applicable if making someone like you includes going against your core morals and values.
true. and some of them over here might already be likeable by people but they can't see bcoz of their insecurities. It's good for them to work on the latter i guess .
I disagree. People have negative traits, talking about themselves too much for example, that make them who they are. If they can change thise things and be better than the person they are now why not do that?
the same principals stand, if you loved someone more you would smile more, compliment honestly more, want to know about them more, avoid arguments more. If you don't love them then remember what a wise man said: "love is like a fart, if you try to force it, its probably shit"
Sometimes i feel sad cause people forgot the meaning of love. They always think it's romantic or crush but it's not if its with family.. what about friends?
I've realized that I have already been doing all of those things more and more recently, but not for other people to like me. I've been doing this to like myself more, to have a clear conscience about myself
Same, I literally saw my new self when i was watching this video,all of these made me respectful enough that everyone in my class likes to talk with me and it even made me get really close with a girl from class
1- make people open up and tell you more about themselves(people are eternally intrested in themselves) 2-lack of appreciation make people go away so show some appreciation 3-arguing with people can is almost always a lose lose situation because even if you win you might lose that person and make him feel bad (if you really have to argue show some support on some points that the other make to make him still intrested and make it clear that your intentions is learning not winning) 4-physical language is important so always act comfortable and smile around them
There are people who don't want to talk to you and won't talk to you It's okay it is not a mission to be friends with the whole world cus that would never be possible But being friends with even one person is a blessing
Instead of arguing, you should try to discuss. It turns from a competition about winning, into a learning experience for both parties (hopefully). That's how I like to think about it at least.
And sometimes they won’t be interested in said discussion and that’s ok too. I think if the conversation is going no where it’s good to just change the topic
great advice but i have a little remark here :) Don't only talk about the other person all of the time. Yes, they will like you for listening to them, but they won't actually care about who YOU are, only what you can do for them. It is so incredibly important to have mutual relationships. Feel free to share a little story from your life, and they will feel closer to you, because they get to know you better.
Thanks for commenting, I have a question related to the first principle, if we like someone and we are utilising the first principle during a conversation, for how many occassions we should utilise this and when should we start talking about ourselves to create a balance, because if we keep questioning them or keep extending the conversation from sub-topics picked from the main topic of the conversation then it may get boring or the other person will get suspicious. I know that it is when they are going to naturally ask about us then we have to answer naturally and honestly, and I also know we shouldn't tell everything at once, share your insight please.
@@TatTvamAsiSwetaketu-nz4ey my experience is that when i try to structure conversations in a mathematical way, then I struggle actually connecting with the person im talking to. I dont actively try to balance the conversation, i just go with whatever is easier for me at the moment. Things like conversations and relationships are trial and error. Sometimes you will make mistakes and say something embarrassing or unexpected, but thats okay. Its normal.
@@plswatchinfinitytrain thanks for replying, I think that I shouldn't think too much about application of principles and all that stuff, like you said instead of approaching conversations mathematically I should just go with the flow, unfortunately it is high time for me and I wish I could have just be in the natural state of flow and take things as they come (trial and error like) , but at this age I have some pressure, clock is ticking for me and that's why I'm analysing everything, things were not like this 10 years ago for me, I wish I had achieved some experience in dating and relationship, so I wouldn't have to worry about things the way I do now, all I can fo now is hope and keep trying.
@@TatTvamAsiSwetaketu-nz4ey it sounds like youve been working a lot on getting better at this and like its been very difficult and I can see that you are very knowledgeable with communication. I hope things work out for you!!!! :)
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
principle 3 is not only great for your own peace and making people like you- but it’s very attractive when I see someone can diffuse a situation instead of feeling like they have to be right or get the last word in. I love when myself and other would rather put our pride to the side than prove a point because deep down everyone knows who was “right” anyways.
I've always been actually doing these without even finding the video before, I can't say that many people really like me but at least I have no problems with no one. I don't think anyone would hate me (of course they can, but I think if they do it's probably all about themselves and it's personal) so I'm grateful for that. I try to respect everyone and I'm trying to be careful about not judging people randomly, and I think people like that about me
This vídeo had an impact on me, I was feeling depressed because I have insecurities that people wouldn't like me as much as I thought they would, but I feel better just by watching this video. Thank you, for real. Remember guys, you are enough and deserve respect no matter what you do. I hope yall have a great day ❤❤😊😊
The tip about letting people talk about themselves actually helped me a lot when I first started socializing (in college). Unknowingly encouraging others to talk about their life and interests, because I didn't have any of my own, got me a good friend. And the smile... At some point, after talking to my therapist and getting rid of toxic people in my environment, I actually started smiling more and began enjoying every day I lived. Then I developed a habit of wishing others a good day: drivers, cashiers, just random people I've encountered. The amount of smiles I got in return and still get to this day is amaizing. Also, I think the key is confidence. Not necessarily bold confidence: just understanding that your emotions and feelings, requests and wants are valid enough to be sure you have all the right to communicate to another person. Being sure you can freely talk to someone, make mistakes, be slightly weird or unusual, and it's okay. That helped me overcome shit ton of fears. To an extent when people don't believe me saying I'm an introvert.
Yeah man, it is sooo refreshing that literally every single youtube channel has been doing it for a few years now. Yep. Refreshing. Not repetitive and copypasted at all. A dated new aesthetic, one could say...
#6 - know your weaknesses and be ok with them. This allows others to be laid bad around you. They don’t feel like they have to be “perfect” because you’re so easy going with your own faults (obviously don’t be a mess about it tho)
I am16 since yesterday and in high school and I love this video for what it is, but I'm at a total loss. I do all of these things. I know I do, yet still... so many people do not like me, maybe I'm just being bullied... like don't get me wrong, I have friends, but I used to have so many friends and now I only have like three. I don't know what I could have done wrong for so many people to hate me now but all I know I can do is to keep trying. To keep being empathetic an compassionate. No matter the cost or what others will think, but it's hard when I feel so lonely.
Don't worry, that's normal for your age and for people to change their preferences. It's impossible everyone to like us or to spend time with us - people have their own problems even though they act as they don't have any.
I am quite in your situation, btw hello i am sumit from india and I too apply all those principles from the video but still i don't have more than 2 good freinds. Don't worry u shall keep a positive attitude in every lemon this life of yours throw at u. If u feel like making an international friend -awkward; i know but still a good way to know each other and btw u are too much kind the way you explained your situation. ❤
"Do I like myself?" is a question everyone should ask themselves if they want to be loved/liked. The first and foremost step for making others like you is to love yourself and I'm not talking about the "toxic self-love" advice rather to become a version of yourself that you can love. Trust me if you achieve this there is nothing that can hold you back. "Treat others like the way you expect them to treat you" can be applied here. Talk to people like the way you expect/like them to talk to you. You need to think over all this to get the idea but You've free will, think about it yourself! These are just my thoughts. I apologise for any mistakes made and to anyone I have hurt through my horrible writing. Amazing advice! I love all of these. they all seem so simple yet so hard to implement
me personally I think I’m pretty mid rn since I’m skinny and mediocre in what I do but idk if that’s what “do I like myself”? On the other hand I’m much nicer than most and like to help
@@wheatwhole_ To love yourself is to improve yourself. I believe that you do not hate yourself but do not love yourself either. It's fine though. My advice: Ig work on your physique and look for things that you can improvise in your work to achieve better results. This should help you I think. Just implement, a work done imperfect is better than no work. Have a good day!
I do all of these already and can definitely say that I don't know anyone that dislikes me, they all seem to be fine and dandy being around me but don't actually CAGE about me and wouldn't go out of their way to do any of the same to me
The way I win/avoid arguments is by asking thought-provoking, open-ended questions about the other person’s position. It’s often as simple as asking, “Why?” Literally, a sincere “why” will get the other person thinking, and their answer is usually pretty interesting. Because most people put so little critical thought into the positions they hold, a few probing questions is often all it takes to either get them on my side or, at the very least, make them far more open-minded about the subject.
1) Encourage other people to talk about themselves. 2) Give sincere and honest appreciation. 3) Best way to win an argument is to avoid it. 4) Try honestly to see things from the other person Pov. 5) Smile.
How to win friends and influence People 1.encourage other people to talk about them 2.Give them sincere and honest appreciation 3. The best way to win argument is to avoid it 4.Try to see things from the other Person's POV 5. Smile 😊
I have adapted in life in such a way that I somewhat know how to make people like me. But after making everyone like me I realised I wasn't ever able to make actual close friends or people climbed over my head and took advantage of me so you should be careful of that. I would recommend you to have enough self satisfaction that you wouldn't need many people to like you. I of course would not recommend everyone hating or not liking you also, it's hella lonely.
So true,your kindness at times is taken for granted. At the end of the day,you feel so lonely.. Like you gave your energy to them and when it's not reciprocated the same ,it hurts.
@@liliac3895 Yeah like you go through everything to try and please everyone ask them how their days are going when you really want someone to ask you that. The loudest person in the room is usually the one who needs help the most
From my own experience, i observed that the best connection were formed when i was my authentic self, when my reactions and talking was genuine, when i had good intentions in my heart. Be the energy you want to attract
I need to improve on the talking part, I never talk about myself I only let other people talk, thinking I'm doing great, when in reality it's just awkward, I fear of talking too much or saying things I shouldn't say or to become a open book
bro dropped the best guide videos i’ve ever seen, you doesn’t just explained but made the video based on practice, which helped remembering the info better and easier, along with the examples you gave us
yeah cause some people are demons , it’s not hard to smile at everyone and be positive and open but some people genuinely are evil or not trustworthy and that’s the only reason ion ever like anyone. idk abt u
Something I realized from living in a hometown is that you see the same people grow and even if new people appear they just turn into the people around them, I went from being hated from the 3rd grade to being nonexistent now in high school, people had opposite opinions from mine and every time I succeed they would tear me down and now that I’ve met and known everyone there’s no one else
Man I needed this video. Sure some of the concepts are general knowledge but just having someone talk over them and allowing me to sit back and think of ways to implement them really helps. Much love❤
The best thing you can do is show a genuine interest in people, and realise people are interesting! I have started to learn so much and make so many friends just getting to know random people.
i'm super glad that i adapted the argument point a year ago. it changes your life literally, you just feel wayyy wayy better when you back off from an argument that you know goes nowhere
1. The compliment thing is very true. Ever since i got in uni, i like to compliment people even if i know we'd probably won't be friends lol. But it's nice to you and the other person because it's a positive things. I usually compliment people's clothes like "your cardigan is so pretty" just simple things. Also like their stationeries or work small stuff. But sometimes I'd go deeper and compliment them the way i see them like "i admire you because you're always calm in conflict" like these are my true thoughts and naturally they'd open up about themselves. Just say wtvr positive things u have in ur mind, like i said it's good vibes for you and them 2. Smile. Just smile even for yourself. You'll feel better if you greet and smile at someone at the start of your day (except home cus yknow some things can't be fix). But if you don't feel like it don't force yourself. Just like compliments it has to come naturally and from your heart. Your body will naturally feel it as "sincerity" making yourself feel good as well. 3. Avoiding arguments is soo important. Im still fixing it, fought in sem 2 and haven't recovered ever since but i dont really care cus i personally dont want them in my life. But i think to avoid arguments you have to control your emotions first. Im very emotional and sadly i burst up when i bottled them for too long just for them to be as always - ignorant. When I realised that, i just become determine to just NOT have any interaction with that person at all. Since nothing happened, nothing else would occur. It takes a lot mind control and im stuggling buy I'll manage and i feel better now i care less about the other person.
One really important thing for when you're talking to someone is to leave space on your speech for others to fill in with their opinions and perspectives
Well, I would like to say something. I was exactly like this when i was in high school, and surely without any effort every one loved me. The things you get for being kind
I want to give everyone watching this right now a massive hug and tell them that everything will be ok and you will find your people and become the person they want to be
Five principles to make other people like us- ☘️Encourage other people to talk about themselves ☘️Give sincere and honest reaction ☘️The best way to win an argument is to avoid it ☘️Try honestly to see things from the other persons pov ☘️Smile:)
Adding on to the 5th one, letting yourself genuinely laugh. So many times people feel too serious about a lot of things; smile to engage the other person, laugh at semi-funny things to disarm them, and don't take life too serious; laugh at your own goofs!
i appreciate this video, i am going into high school this year and am very nervous to meet new people. I have never been particularly good at socializing, but I've decided to put on my a game and try to make a lasting impression! I decided to put these principals on a keychain so i will never forget them. thank you very much! i hope life is treating you well.
It kind of bother me how some people need these tips, this is basically being a decent and grounded being. Understanding that you're clearly not the main guy in the story and obviously no one is, while trying to make it in a world were most of the people you will encounter actually behave like they are. Growing up without love, without incentives to actually like to learn and good rolemodels can really ruin a life. We're all just passing by, only one life. Being caring, loving and treating others how you want to be treated is amazing. Weaponized ego is huge in our days, and it used to hurt me a lot how specially men let their ego ruin their lives, instead of sharing their feelings, their fears and asking for a hand.
But wouldn't you agree that it's ultimately a good thing for these kinds of people to seek improvement? It's unfortunate that it isn't the standard, but so is most things in life tbh
Sorry if my text is high ego or smth. But i think most people i met likes me they hangout with me and stuff but i achieve that by just listening to their orders like slaves and just keep quiet i avoid arguments so much its so tiring so this video is great but just dont go extreme you will not feel great at all
Another important advice is to maintain eye contact while talking to someone, and to put more focus into your body language and facial expressions, they mean a lot
This vid made me feel better as a person, I don’t feel like I have enemies like legit. I low key feel so free rn, thank you for the best vid I have ever seen which has changed me tk beckme a better person!❤️❤️
i dont know. if those principles should make people like me, then i dont want to be liked personally i hate compliments, they are just words. it feels like a cheap method to get other person's attention and not arguing with people?? we cant avoid an argument completely, that will make us be dominated in every field and forcing a smile... if i am not feeling like it i am not going to force it. that would be completely against my true feelings... i would prefer to look for things that make me sad and fight the sadness in that way, not by ignoring my sadness but i completely agree with seeing things from other perspectives. we shall look at the world more broadly. that is part of my philosophy
Completely agreed with this comment tbh. First time in this comment section that I have nothing to argue against, ironically. Like, it is so obvious that the summary of this video is "to make people like you, just avoid confrontation", literally, just put up a facade, feliz falsedad, and that's it, no problems whatsoever, you'll be the most popular guy in town. Whenever someone needs a person to step all over, that is... Falsely complimenting people, being all smiles and never saying what you truly think for the sake of avoiding arguments and simply telling other people that they are correct in every single instance is something that I find completely despicable. Not only will it lead to false, shallow friends, but it also is counter productive from the point of view of wanting to achieve some kind of meaningful connection or literally any progress in any aspect of life. If you are convinced that someone is wrong and are bound to f- themselves over, then why should I just nod and smile as if nothing was wrong? That's not what a real friend does. I'd rather be alone tbh. Not to mention, imagine if everyone just falsely agreed with everyone else and never tried to argue anything. Where would humanity be? Why has human progress stagnated so much outside of highly specialized fields? Because most people are fucking mediocre and simply try to avoid confrontation, that's why. That confrontation being any form of hardship, including any argument, debate or even just plain learning. But I guess making false friends matters more than becoming a real person. And, as you said, literally the only point that I can agree with is trying to see things from others' point of view. In my line of work tho, that is mostly to try to understand just how they came up with such an incredibly stupid and absolutely deranged idea.
@@tiranito2834I agree with you. Last year I read this book and tested it out. To be honest, it worked well. I made several new friends and know more people. As time went by, I grew closer to one of the friends I met using these principles. But later I realized this relationship was start/ based on “me being a listener”. So she is used to tell me everything that happened to her, yet she wouldn’t respond to me the same way I did. Though the effect of these principles can vary from person to person, and I might have much more to learn regarding human relationships, I still think there are high chances that you make fake connections rather than genuine ones .
i get suprised every time i see a video like this, how a entire generation dont even know how actually make friends. and i think all of that come because the education
As someone who improved a lot from being in a group of friends I didn't like, who made jokes at my expense, and made me have low self-confidence and be depressed, to someone who can get along with anyone, has good friends and has high self-esteem, this is absolutely right. The one that hit me the hardest was the 1st principle. A few years back, I liked talking with my mom a lot, since she would always listen, and one time, after I gave her another long rant about whatever new series I was watching or game I was playing, she told me, that to make people like conversations more, I should ask more questions, and let them talk about themselves. That really helped me, and just that conscious act of doing something to make someone else feel good made me so much more aware of my effect on others, and I started to realize the things I did that kept others away from me, and improve on them on my own. To be honest, I think just doing the 1st principle, will help anyone greatly.
SO, I have done everything right then as I have been doing all of that since I grew into a pre teen, I am 16 now still doing that and so many people like me that they fight over the fact who will meet up with me first. Good to know I have done everything righ,t makes me feel happy
Use a person's name in greetings and even goodbyes.. " Hey Richard,/ Sue ..how are you doing?". See you again Jo.." I can't stress this enough..it's so simple but it's so important to remember a persons name and use a person's name.... Plus remembering basic manners ..It's really helped me all through my life. I'm nothing to look at and don't have any real skills but I've always managed to get on well with people just by this simple code .
This video has really opened my eyes in terms of my relationship I've had for more than two years now. I'm confident to say I'm going to make sure that it'll thrive with these tips, thank you for making this video. And as for a compliment, to anyone out there that might read this comment; you're amazing. Don't let anyone make you think otherwise. You're going to thrive no matter what happens!
As an extrovert who always act like all the point of your video I was happy cuz one day I stopped smile because I was tired and sad and I was thinking " No one give a fuck about me " it was a LITTLE bit selfish and mean . But I came to school and all of my friends and teachers was like " Do you felt ok ? Are you sad ? Why are stopping smiling ?" and even people I don't really know . I was like " My smile and my good energy everyday got in impact on people ??? " And after this I never felt like "nobody" Thank you for your video 😭
There was a period where I had depression, was going to an extremely rough period, no friends new country and that led me to forget smiling. The thing that help me the most get back up was forcing smiles in front of the mirror and re-learning how to smile
Thx! I'm going into highschool after summer break and i want to make some friends there just so those years aren't insufferable. I'm autistic, so i've always been different and when neurotypical people meet me, they seem to always see that theres something 'off' about me. I've never been anythin other than a loner really, so i mever learned how to initiate conversation in my childhood. I'm hopeful that i'll make atleast 1 friend, but theres no guarantee.
Bro just spawned out of no where and decided to make the best videos in the world
@@SuperBlackDog69 Lol.
Literally
Exactly
Ikr
@@SuperBlackDog69 mbappe
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
About 8 years ago, I felt lonely and a bit depressed. I decided to, whenever going outside the door, to just smile at people whether I felt like it or not, the amount of smiles I got in return made me feel like smiling every time!
😊 man... That is so true... Its just that being told to do it always sounds corny.
Ive tried it myself and its awesome
Nice cheeks
Idk man, if i smile all the time i would be like a damn clown 🤡
@@giorgosd3624Maybe it's a good idea to learn the difference first between a friendly smile and a creepy evil clown smile 🤣
@@yspegelYou cant smile to anyone in the street or shop not all people are like beautifull cute young like in youtube smiling back and you can never have that energy to smile on every person or you will fell clown everytime smiling
The fact that 269k people watched this video says alot about the cruel world , but its beautiful
I think that's just the RUclips algorithm taking effect
411k now 9 days after publishing
@@Stewie_eating_Heisenburger ya i think so...
@@Mefrcuh impressive 👏
@Arkmobile158 i guess so ?
I met my best friend because I smiled at her everyday. She was in the grade below me and everyday when I was on the way to lunch she was going back to my classroom. We made eye contact and I smiled. She stare at me and we went our separate paths. The next day this happened again. This time she smiled back. We would wave at each other and progressively we would say hi as we passed. It wasn’t until a school event when we started talking. She said my smile made her day. She said she didn’t have much friends and she was happy when she saw me. It is now seven years later and we have been friends ever since.
Best friendship story I've ever heard
That’s such a beautiful story
Thats the most wholesome thing i've ever heard!
Most wholesome friendship
I’m tryna do the same thing but she never be seeing my eyes and my friends always all there so idk what to do
i think it's important to acknowledge that we shouldn't change ourselves in the process. the "if they like me, they like, if they don't, too bad" mentality is still applicable if making someone like you includes going against your core morals and values.
well you wouldnt befriend such person in the first place right
Agreed
true. and some of them over here might already be likeable by people but they can't see bcoz of their insecurities. It's good for them to work on the latter i guess .
I disagree. People have negative traits, talking about themselves too much for example, that make them who they are. If they can change thise things and be better than the person they are now why not do that?
@@Roddy556 why would you try to change someone else? if you dont click and their morals are different from you, its not worth being their friend.
I don’t want people to like me more, I want to love them more.
Doing this would make others feel cared for and appreciated .
the same principals stand, if you loved someone more you would smile more, compliment honestly more, want to know about them more, avoid arguments more.
If you don't love them then remember what a wise man said: "love is like a fart, if you try to force it, its probably shit"
I do try all of these things whenever I have a crush... I do not get a gf anyways 😂@@joesephjoestar6430
Sometimes i feel sad cause people forgot the meaning of love. They always think it's romantic or crush but it's not if its with family.. what about friends?
love yourself
I've realized that I have already been doing all of those things more and more recently, but not for other people to like me. I've been doing this to like myself more, to have a clear conscience about myself
That’s wonderful, have a great day🖤
Same, I literally saw my new self when i was watching this video,all of these made me respectful enough that everyone in my class likes to talk with me and it even made me get really close with a girl from class
nice profile picture
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
1- make people open up and tell you more about themselves(people are eternally intrested in themselves)
2-lack of appreciation make people go away so show some appreciation
3-arguing with people can is almost always a lose lose situation because even if you win you might lose that person and make him feel bad (if you really have to argue show some support on some points that the other make to make him still intrested and make it clear that your intentions is learning not winning)
4-physical language is important so always act comfortable and smile around them
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
There are people who don't want to talk to you and won't talk to you
It's okay it is not a mission to be friends with the whole world cus that would never be possible
But being friends with even one person is a blessing
Thank you for the advice your an amazing person!
@@axle3064 damn your words made my day...
That's actually beautiful...your absolutely right, having just one person support you and hang out with you is really better then being alone
good said
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
Instead of arguing, you should try to discuss.
It turns from a competition about winning, into a learning experience for both parties (hopefully).
That's how I like to think about it at least.
I liked how you actually explained your pov
Have a nice day
And sometimes they won’t be interested in said discussion and that’s ok too. I think if the conversation is going no where it’s good to just change the topic
good word man
Thank you for explaining it and giving an example on how to avoid an argument! ❤❤
That is the best alternative possible. Not only are you not destroying the other person's pov, but you're also engaging in leaning with an open mind.
Bro wake up , IncognitoCeo posted again
Yeaahh, I'm awake.
Ty, had to wake up from my 7 hour napping
Yessir
Nice buns
It’s the first of the month
great advice but i have a little remark here :)
Don't only talk about the other person all of the time.
Yes, they will like you for listening to them, but they won't actually care about who YOU are, only what you can do for them. It is so incredibly important to have mutual relationships.
Feel free to share a little story from your life, and they will feel closer to you, because they get to know you better.
Thanks for commenting, I have a question related to the first principle, if we like someone and we are utilising the first principle during a conversation, for how many occassions we should utilise this and when should we start talking about ourselves to create a balance, because if we keep questioning them or keep extending the conversation from sub-topics picked from the main topic of the conversation then it may get boring or the other person will get suspicious. I know that it is when they are going to naturally ask about us then we have to answer naturally and honestly, and I also know we shouldn't tell everything at once, share your insight please.
@@TatTvamAsiSwetaketu-nz4ey my experience is that when i try to structure conversations in a mathematical way, then I struggle actually connecting with the person im talking to.
I dont actively try to balance the conversation, i just go with whatever is easier for me at the moment.
Things like conversations and relationships are trial and error. Sometimes you will make mistakes and say something embarrassing or unexpected, but thats okay. Its normal.
@@TatTvamAsiSwetaketu-nz4ey usually i put stories at the beginning of conversations because theyre a good openener
@@plswatchinfinitytrain thanks for replying, I think that I shouldn't think too much about application of principles and all that stuff, like you said instead of approaching conversations mathematically I should just go with the flow, unfortunately it is high time for me and I wish I could have just be in the natural state of flow and take things as they come (trial and error like) , but at this age I have some pressure, clock is ticking for me and that's why I'm analysing everything, things were not like this 10 years ago for me, I wish I had achieved some experience in dating and relationship, so I wouldn't have to worry about things the way I do now, all I can fo now is hope and keep trying.
@@TatTvamAsiSwetaketu-nz4ey it sounds like youve been working a lot on getting better at this and like its been very difficult and I can see that you are very knowledgeable with communication. I hope things work out for you!!!! :)
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
u hv nice taste in books
law of attraction is not bullshit
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
principle 3 is not only great for your own peace and making people like you- but it’s very attractive when I see someone can diffuse a situation instead of feeling like they have to be right or get the last word in. I love when myself and other would rather put our pride to the side than prove a point because deep down everyone knows who was “right” anyways.
The music, the ghibli in the background, the chill voice and not condescending tone, these videos are the best
The yung lean accent is on top too
@@sharkkisser54 i think your name is cringe/funny in good way:D
@@Kehveli609 thanks haha:D
I've just finished reading the book!
*"How to win friends and* *influence people"*
It's super awesome!
Are there any points not mentioned in this video or importieren Things?
@@yousihard8569 Yeah, There are a lot! The whole book contains so many great ideas 💡
@@yousihard8569 Yeah there are lot. The book has so many useful ideas 💡
I too have same book but haven't finished it
@@yousihard8569yeah, there are a lot. Consider reading the whole book :)
I've always been actually doing these without even finding the video before, I can't say that many people really like me but at least I have no problems with no one. I don't think anyone would hate me (of course they can, but I think if they do it's probably all about themselves and it's personal) so I'm grateful for that. I try to respect everyone and I'm trying to be careful about not judging people randomly, and I think people like that about me
I like the way you describe yourself :)
Have a good day
@@mightnare3237 aww thank you, that made my day
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You sure sound like a respectable person:)! I could never do it in the first place😅
@@dontplsgx7934 heyy thank you for saying that!!
This vídeo had an impact on me, I was feeling depressed because I have insecurities that people wouldn't like me as much as I thought they would, but I feel better just by watching this video. Thank you, for real. Remember guys, you are enough and deserve respect no matter what you do. I hope yall have a great day ❤❤😊😊
great i hope you have a great day😊
The tip about letting people talk about themselves actually helped me a lot when I first started socializing (in college). Unknowingly encouraging others to talk about their life and interests, because I didn't have any of my own, got me a good friend.
And the smile... At some point, after talking to my therapist and getting rid of toxic people in my environment, I actually started smiling more and began enjoying every day I lived. Then I developed a habit of wishing others a good day: drivers, cashiers, just random people I've encountered. The amount of smiles I got in return and still get to this day is amaizing.
Also, I think the key is confidence. Not necessarily bold confidence: just understanding that your emotions and feelings, requests and wants are valid enough to be sure you have all the right to communicate to another person. Being sure you can freely talk to someone, make mistakes, be slightly weird or unusual, and it's okay. That helped me overcome shit ton of fears. To an extent when people don't believe me saying I'm an introvert.
I appreciate your comment. Definitely helped change my perspective for the better.
summing up this all video in one sentence:
Be a decent and kind human being, and don't be afraid to talk with people
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Highly agreed, cheers to your insight brother
This is ass advice though, the video is actually helpful.
thanmk youu
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
Idk Why but this old anime scenes with music makes his video so relaxing or refreshing I always watch his video on Fullscreen
Yeah man, it is sooo refreshing that literally every single youtube channel has been doing it for a few years now. Yep. Refreshing. Not repetitive and copypasted at all. A dated new aesthetic, one could say...
@@tiranito2834thank you
@@tiranito2834 u got some examples? would love to have a look at some more of this aesthetic!
Hey man just wanted to say you have beautiful lips
Just wanted to say
You are a
Perv@@JuhoSprite
#6 - know your weaknesses and be ok with them.
This allows others to be laid bad around you. They don’t feel like they have to be “perfect” because you’re so easy going with your own faults (obviously don’t be a mess about it tho)
Great point.
hey man, I noticed you post poker vids on ur channel. What's your favorite psychological trick that you use to trick people in poker?
unfortunately THAT weakness makes me unable to do what i should be able to do.
OH MY FKING GOD?! IS THAT A MOB PSYCHO REFERENCE?!
When I first saw this, I was like ‘damn! I needed this’ and when I saw everything said. I realised, I had already been doing this from the start.
I stopped chasing people, now I only wait for someone to be my friend, still waiting for that day
Be sure that the right time will come. I already was in the same situation
Wanna be my friend?
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
I am16 since yesterday and in high school and I love this video for what it is, but I'm at a total loss. I do all of these things. I know I do, yet still... so many people do not like me, maybe I'm just being bullied... like don't get me wrong, I have friends, but I used to have so many friends and now I only have like three. I don't know what I could have done wrong for so many people to hate me now but all I know I can do is to keep trying. To keep being empathetic an compassionate. No matter the cost or what others will think, but it's hard when I feel so lonely.
Don't worry, that's normal for your age and for people to change their preferences. It's impossible everyone to like us or to spend time with us - people have their own problems even though they act as they don't have any.
I am quite in your situation, btw hello i am sumit from india and I too apply all those principles from the video but still i don't have more than 2 good freinds. Don't worry u shall keep a positive attitude in every lemon this life of yours throw at u. If u feel like making an international friend -awkward; i know but still a good way to know each other and btw u are too much kind the way you explained your situation. ❤
Genuine people often have fewer friends. The popular guys are often not so empathetic and compassionate unfortunately:/
@@simonbonde9123 i agree. The popular guys tend to make other feel low or down happens in my case.
Quality over quantity (:
"Do I like myself?" is a question everyone should ask themselves if they want to be loved/liked.
The first and foremost step for making others like you is to love yourself and I'm not talking about the "toxic self-love" advice rather to become a version of yourself that you can love. Trust me if you achieve this there is nothing that can hold you back.
"Treat others like the way you expect them to treat you" can be applied here.
Talk to people like the way you expect/like them to talk to you. You need to think over all this to get the idea but You've free will, think about it yourself!
These are just my thoughts. I apologise for any mistakes made and to anyone I have hurt through my horrible writing.
Amazing advice! I love all of these. they all seem so simple yet so hard to implement
Hey brother i appreciate ur comment
yes
me personally I think I’m pretty mid rn since I’m skinny and mediocre in what I do but idk if that’s what “do I like myself”?
On the other hand I’m much nicer than most and like to help
@@siddhant-sj3mu Thank you for your kind words!
@@wheatwhole_ To love yourself is to improve yourself. I believe that you do not hate yourself but do not love yourself either. It's fine though.
My advice: Ig work on your physique and look for things that you can improvise in your work to achieve better results. This should help you I think. Just implement, a work done imperfect is better than no work.
Have a good day!
Guys, dont forget, you making yourself vulnerable. MAKE SURE you actually trust the person WHOEVER you are WITH so they wont mock you. Its 2024 guys
I clicked because i saw Studio Ghibli movies in the thumbnail. I stayed because this is actually very useful for me. Thank you :D
I do all of these already and can definitely say that I don't know anyone that dislikes me, they all seem to be fine and dandy being around me but don't actually CAGE about me and wouldn't go out of their way to do any of the same to me
Today, I learned that I have to, need to, want to smile more. Not only for people, but for me as well.
Thank you for this video.
Wow you have a really nice Profile picture
The way I win/avoid arguments is by asking thought-provoking, open-ended questions about the other person’s position. It’s often as simple as asking, “Why?” Literally, a sincere “why” will get the other person thinking, and their answer is usually pretty interesting. Because most people put so little critical thought into the positions they hold, a few probing questions is often all it takes to either get them on my side or, at the very least, make them far more open-minded about the subject.
I love your pfp!
I love how you make/edit your videos. Its beautiful and refreshing.
cute pfp ♥♥♥
1) Encourage other people to talk about themselves.
2) Give sincere and honest appreciation.
3) Best way to win an argument is to avoid it.
4) Try honestly to see things from the other person Pov.
5) Smile.
I was boredly scrolling down youtube in hope to find something interesting and this video is truly one of a kind.
How to win friends and influence People
1.encourage other people to talk about them
2.Give them sincere and honest appreciation
3. The best way to win argument is to avoid it
4.Try to see things from the other Person's POV
5. Smile 😊
When i smile i look like uncanny creepy shit
Tysm bro ur making my life better with these new videos that ur uploading
same 😊❤
Yeah right 😊😊❤
I have adapted in life in such a way that I somewhat know how to make people like me. But after making everyone like me I realised I wasn't ever able to make actual close friends or people climbed over my head and took advantage of me so you should be careful of that. I would recommend you to have enough self satisfaction that you wouldn't need many people to like you. I of course would not recommend everyone hating or not liking you also, it's hella lonely.
Same boy
Same
i rater be lonely then having friends that make you fell lonely
So true,your kindness at times is taken for granted.
At the end of the day,you feel so lonely..
Like you gave your energy to them and when it's not reciprocated the same ,it hurts.
@@liliac3895 Yeah like you go through everything to try and please everyone ask them how their days are going when you really want someone to ask you that. The loudest person in the room is usually the one who needs help the most
From my own experience, i observed that the best connection were formed when i was my authentic self, when my reactions and talking was genuine, when i had good intentions in my heart. Be the energy you want to attract
That‘s actually one of the best videos on the whole internet.
I do similar videos 🤝
I need to improve on the talking part, I never talk about myself I only let other people talk, thinking I'm doing great, when in reality it's just awkward, I fear of talking too much or saying things I shouldn't say or to become a open book
Same, I don't like to talk about myself cause I feel that I'm a narcissist
these videos are so chill i really appreciate the content. keep up the amazing work!
I love just putting on this guys videos and settling in with a cup of tea
bro dropped the best guide videos i’ve ever seen, you doesn’t just explained but made the video based on practice, which helped remembering the info better and easier, along with the examples you gave us
I love your pfp! The cat part is so creative (where did you find it)
I shed a little tear just now because I realized that it has been a long time since I smiled.
Best self improvement video ever made
Bro, keeps traking mam i know you are doing well, good luck
Bro woke up and decided to make the best video of the year ✔️❤️✨
True 👍
It's not humanely possible to like everyone
yeah cause some people are demons , it’s not hard to smile at everyone and be positive and open but some people genuinely are evil or not trustworthy and that’s the only reason ion ever like anyone. idk abt u
Yes. We can never come to like people who hurt us deeply. But we try to always move on. ❤
Do not be of this world, rather, be of the nature of your Father in Heaven, and strive to be perfect before him just as Jesus would proclaim unto us.
Yes it is bro
true, yeah. Sometimes is it's just not worth it. But that realization usually comes later, after some time
The fact that almost a million people watched this video says a lot about the cruel world.
Something I realized from living in a hometown is that you see the same people grow and even if new people appear they just turn into the people around them, I went from being hated from the 3rd grade to being nonexistent now in high school, people had opposite opinions from mine and every time I succeed they would tear me down and now that I’ve met and known everyone there’s no one else
Don’t talk about you’re bionicle collection if they aren’t interested
Ive started reading a book and started developing a systemic schedule
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Keep going mate
@@hanzoo7943 thanks
@@dwacheopus thanks mate
ohhh , nicceee , what book are you reading?
Man I needed this video. Sure some of the concepts are general knowledge but just having someone talk over them and allowing me to sit back and think of ways to implement them really helps. Much love❤
As we Say Listening IS one of the softest forms of love
Hope one day that we will be surrounded by many peopole who use that forms of love ❤️
bro woke up and chose love
The best thing you can do is show a genuine interest in people, and realise people are interesting! I have started to learn so much and make so many friends just getting to know random people.
Why does it feel like I just arrived on earth 🌎
You can't breathe while you're smiling
There is no such thing as this I just wanted you to smile
you failed miserably my friend
Well, I can breathe while smiling
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the end of the comment made me smile thanks bro
Thanks ❤
Nice vid, next can you do: How to talk to people and not overthink it
This
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
i'm super glad that i adapted the argument point a year ago. it changes your life literally, you just feel wayyy wayy better when you back off from an argument that you know goes nowhere
Same, i would always fight with my mom at dinner but now I just say 'okay we have different opinions' and move on. Dinner is so much nicer now
1. The compliment thing is very true. Ever since i got in uni, i like to compliment people even if i know we'd probably won't be friends lol. But it's nice to you and the other person because it's a positive things.
I usually compliment people's clothes like "your cardigan is so pretty" just simple things. Also like their stationeries or work small stuff. But sometimes I'd go deeper and compliment them the way i see them like "i admire you because you're always calm in conflict" like these are my true thoughts and naturally they'd open up about themselves.
Just say wtvr positive things u have in ur mind, like i said it's good vibes for you and them
2. Smile. Just smile even for yourself. You'll feel better if you greet and smile at someone at the start of your day (except home cus yknow some things can't be fix). But if you don't feel like it don't force yourself. Just like compliments it has to come naturally and from your heart. Your body will naturally feel it as "sincerity" making yourself feel good as well.
3. Avoiding arguments is soo important. Im still fixing it, fought in sem 2 and haven't recovered ever since but i dont really care cus i personally dont want them in my life. But i think to avoid arguments you have to control your emotions first.
Im very emotional and sadly i burst up when i bottled them for too long just for them to be as always - ignorant. When I realised that, i just become determine to just NOT have any interaction with that person at all. Since nothing happened, nothing else would occur. It takes a lot mind control and im stuggling buy I'll manage and i feel better now i care less about the other person.
One really important thing for when you're talking to someone is to leave space on your speech for others to fill in with their opinions and perspectives
Thanks for the advice , love your confident keep going 💪
Video starts at 1:20
Ty
Boywithuke posted this on his story thats why im here 😂❤
Lmao😂
same
same lol
Me too
Forcing yourself to smile when you want to cry can lead to serious issues. Don't burry your feelings deep in the ground, you're gonna break down.
Well,
I would like to say something. I was exactly like this when i was in high school, and surely without any effort every one loved me. The things you get for being kind
"I want to be a kind and gentler person"
I want to give everyone watching this right now a massive hug and tell them that everything will be ok and you will find your people and become the person they want to be
Five principles to make other people like us-
☘️Encourage other people to talk about themselves
☘️Give sincere and honest reaction
☘️The best way to win an argument is to avoid it
☘️Try honestly to see things from the other persons pov
☘️Smile:)
This video is built so well, easy to remember and pretty useful
Adding on to the 5th one, letting yourself genuinely laugh. So many times people feel too serious about a lot of things; smile to engage the other person, laugh at semi-funny things to disarm them, and don't take life too serious; laugh at your own goofs!
That's so usefull , thanks for sharing that :)
i appreciate this video, i am going into high school this year and am very nervous to meet new people. I have never been particularly good at socializing, but I've decided to put on my a game and try to make a lasting impression! I decided to put these principals on a keychain so i will never forget them. thank you very much! i hope life is treating you well.
Ayy it’s good you want to keep improving, I’m sure you will👊
This video isn't about "How to make people like you" but it is about how to be a better person in general. 😄
On point
0:19 *napoleon music*
this is giving so much of ruff 😭 one of my favourite youtubers
The just smile bit, I forced a smile and actually feel good now.
It kind of bother me how some people need these tips, this is basically being a decent and grounded being. Understanding that you're clearly not the main guy in the story and obviously no one is, while trying to make it in a world were most of the people you will encounter actually behave like they are. Growing up without love, without incentives to actually like to learn and good rolemodels can really ruin a life. We're all just passing by, only one life. Being caring, loving and treating others how you want to be treated is amazing.
Weaponized ego is huge in our days, and it used to hurt me a lot how specially men let their ego ruin their lives, instead of sharing their feelings, their fears and asking for a hand.
You are right..
I'm the main guy and all bad things happen to me
But wouldn't you agree that it's ultimately a good thing for these kinds of people to seek improvement? It's unfortunate that it isn't the standard, but so is most things in life tbh
love Christ with all your heart.
Sorry if my text is high ego or smth. But i think most people i met likes me they hangout with me and stuff but i achieve that by just listening to their orders like slaves and just keep quiet i avoid arguments so much its so tiring so this video is great but just dont go extreme you will not feel great at all
Another important advice is to maintain eye contact while talking to someone, and to put more focus into your body language and facial expressions, they mean a lot
This vid made me feel better as a person, I don’t feel like I have enemies like legit. I low key feel so free rn, thank you for the best vid I have ever seen which has changed me tk beckme a better person!❤️❤️
Agree. I do similar videos btw
i dont know. if those principles should make people like me, then i dont want to be liked
personally i hate compliments, they are just words. it feels like a cheap method to get other person's attention
and not arguing with people?? we cant avoid an argument completely, that will make us be dominated in every field
and forcing a smile... if i am not feeling like it i am not going to force it. that would be completely against my true feelings... i would prefer to look for things that make me sad and fight the sadness in that way, not by ignoring my sadness
but i completely agree with seeing things from other perspectives. we shall look at the world more broadly. that is part of my philosophy
Completely agreed with this comment tbh. First time in this comment section that I have nothing to argue against, ironically. Like, it is so obvious that the summary of this video is "to make people like you, just avoid confrontation", literally, just put up a facade, feliz falsedad, and that's it, no problems whatsoever, you'll be the most popular guy in town. Whenever someone needs a person to step all over, that is...
Falsely complimenting people, being all smiles and never saying what you truly think for the sake of avoiding arguments and simply telling other people that they are correct in every single instance is something that I find completely despicable. Not only will it lead to false, shallow friends, but it also is counter productive from the point of view of wanting to achieve some kind of meaningful connection or literally any progress in any aspect of life. If you are convinced that someone is wrong and are bound to f- themselves over, then why should I just nod and smile as if nothing was wrong? That's not what a real friend does. I'd rather be alone tbh. Not to mention, imagine if everyone just falsely agreed with everyone else and never tried to argue anything. Where would humanity be? Why has human progress stagnated so much outside of highly specialized fields? Because most people are fucking mediocre and simply try to avoid confrontation, that's why. That confrontation being any form of hardship, including any argument, debate or even just plain learning. But I guess making false friends matters more than becoming a real person.
And, as you said, literally the only point that I can agree with is trying to see things from others' point of view. In my line of work tho, that is mostly to try to understand just how they came up with such an incredibly stupid and absolutely deranged idea.
@@tiranito2834I agree with you. Last year I read this book and tested it out. To be honest, it worked well. I made several new friends and know more people. As time went by, I grew closer to one of the friends I met using these principles. But later I realized this relationship was start/ based on “me being a listener”. So she is used to tell me everything that happened to her, yet she wouldn’t respond to me the same way I did. Though the effect of these principles can vary from person to person, and I might have much more to learn regarding human relationships, I still think there are high chances that you make fake connections rather than genuine ones .
Any one from India??
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Jesus loves you guys. Just so you know
i get suprised every time i see a video like this, how a entire generation dont even know how actually make friends. and i think all of that come because the education
As someone who improved a lot from being in a group of friends I didn't like, who made jokes at my expense, and made me have low self-confidence and be depressed, to someone who can get along with anyone, has good friends and has high self-esteem, this is absolutely right. The one that hit me the hardest was the 1st principle. A few years back, I liked talking with my mom a lot, since she would always listen, and one time, after I gave her another long rant about whatever new series I was watching or game I was playing, she told me, that to make people like conversations more, I should ask more questions, and let them talk about themselves. That really helped me, and just that conscious act of doing something to make someone else feel good made me so much more aware of my effect on others, and I started to realize the things I did that kept others away from me, and improve on them on my own. To be honest, I think just doing the 1st principle, will help anyone greatly.
I don't think this is something you learn from the internet
You have to be open to new learning opportunities regardless of where they come from
Bro the tips work tbh
why do you have to use 1980 - 2000 anime rfor this video
Its good
Idk ,but I love it ❤
I unconsciously did all these things to my best friends, that's why they're still with me ... That makes sense
SO, I have done everything right then as I have been doing all of that since I grew into a pre teen, I am 16 now still doing that and so many people like me that they fight over the fact who will meet up with me first. Good to know I have done everything righ,t makes me feel happy
you know now that i think about it i have this one friend that everytime i see him i just start smiling
This is FACTUALLY an amazing video. Everything about it❤
Use a person's name in greetings and even goodbyes.. " Hey Richard,/ Sue ..how are you doing?". See you again Jo.." I can't stress this enough..it's so simple but it's so important to remember a persons name and use a person's name.... Plus remembering basic manners ..It's really helped me all through my life.
I'm nothing to look at and don't have any real skills but I've always managed to get on well with people just by this simple code .
This video has really opened my eyes in terms of my relationship I've had for more than two years now. I'm confident to say I'm going to make sure that it'll thrive with these tips, thank you for making this video.
And as for a compliment, to anyone out there that might read this comment; you're amazing. Don't let anyone make you think otherwise. You're going to thrive no matter what happens!
Thank you😊
As an extrovert who always act like all the point of your video I was happy cuz one day I stopped smile because I was tired and sad and I was thinking " No one give a fuck about me " it was a LITTLE bit selfish and mean .
But I came to school and all of my friends and teachers was like " Do you felt ok ? Are you sad ? Why are stopping smiling ?" and even people I don't really know .
I was like " My smile and my good energy everyday got in impact on people ??? "
And after this I never felt like "nobody"
Thank you for your video 😭
The world need more people like you
As someone who has a lot of interest in meeting other people this is a great way to come off as likable and befriend people, thank you so much
Your videos are so asthetically pleasing, it's insane
There was a period where I had depression, was going to an extremely rough period, no friends new country and that led me to forget smiling. The thing that help me the most get back up was forcing smiles in front of the mirror and re-learning how to smile
I tried to be nice but this makes it easy
bro,
just 8 videos so far, u create uncountable value for people
wishing you soon reach 1m subscribers💪
Thx! I'm going into highschool after summer break and i want to make some friends there just so those years aren't insufferable. I'm autistic, so i've always been different and when neurotypical people meet me, they seem to always see that theres something 'off' about me. I've never been anythin other than a loner really, so i mever learned how to initiate conversation in my childhood. I'm hopeful that i'll make atleast 1 friend, but theres no guarantee.