1:15 Oh my gosh Sis, I have never seen a human with teeth so white. I didn't know teeth could even be this white. Just discovered your channel tonight, GREAT channel 👍 I am Thrilled that the world is catching on to teaching/learning & being enlightened about classic pathological narcissism, we have come such a long way in the last six years in learning about Narcopaths 👏 👏 👏
Thankyou for the compliment 😊😊...I'm glad you discovered my chanel who's main mission is to get the word out there and create a safer space for women😊😊...I hope you're subscribed sis❤
The crazies hide who they are online because it is easier and they flock to online dating apps to hide who they are better than online. Most never approach women in person, but do so online.
Same. And he was married too. But I said I'm a single mom. I won't get better than a married man. Sometimes it takes time longer than wanted. Patience is more important than a fantasy
They always lie about wanting a relationship until they get sex then all of a sudden they don’t want relationships and they “let they be known from the beginning.” 😂
When I was single I used a few dating apps and learned very quickly that none of the men were seriously looking for a relationship… only hook ups and situationships
People think I'm weird when I say get off the apps and join an organization, get a hobby, do fitness classes,etc to meet new people and see how they actually are
Agreed. That way, you will be working on yourself, and if you do run into a man, it will be someone who has similar interests. It's too easy for them to fake whatever they see on your profile.
Hmm… so is this why wives be married to whole serial killllllers (for years and years) and they were high school sweethearts 🤔. Or how people never thought that person was capable of such things because “they’ve known them for years”…
Sadly, that still isn’t enough. The funny sweet guy in fitness class might not be like that outside the fitness class either. Dating apps is just another avenue, not the only option narcissists/abusers use
Bad people exist both online and in real life though. You’ll need common sense, vetting skills, intuition and proper boundaries regardless of how you meet someone There’s a lot of people who’ve met great partners online.
THANK YOU!!! They are dangerous at work, at the grocery store, at the restaurant etc etc!! They’re dangerous wayyyy BEFORE they ever got on the “dating app”!!
This is the most realistic comment I have seen. I was single over 11 yrs. My husband an I met online. I love him dearly and he loves me. I had the bad horrible dates also. You must use ur brain on these apps.
Exactly. I met some awful men on apps I also met great ones. I met my man through Hinge and it's the best relationship I've ever had. Just use your brain to filter out the bad options and you'll be fine!
I get the message that they are trying to get across but you can meet the same guy in a public setting, through a friend of a friend, in church, etc. I am not a fan of dating apps anymore but when they first started they were a great to meet men. What we need to teach ppl is to have the spirit of discernment and patience. We now understand what love bombing, narcissist, gas lighting, etc is and now we need to understand a handsome man or pretty face may seem to have great intentions but take your time to verify. Take your time getting to know this new person (because woman can be just as damaging) on a deeper level and ask the right questions. Doesn't matter what their favorite color is, ask what podcasts do you listen to, what is your relationship with your mother, what are your thoughts on finances, etc. It's like warning ppl about the dangers of getting hit by a car but not teaching ppl how to look both ways before you cross😂
I agree, actually met this seemingly amazing guy in public and he did all the right things. I thought he was going to be my new boo until weeks later I discovered that he was charged for CP and it did time of 9 years out of the 10 he was sentence for having that stuff on his computer. You have to be very careful when vetting these guys. He stated that he was framed and it was dehumanizing but even if the ladder was true, the fact that he has limitations on his life would hinder me in mine. Therefore that Scarlet letter was one that I could not help him bare..
I agree with you....you're actually right... especially about what media they consume...koz nowadays the red pill podcast boys are too much...and about the rlshp with his mother ( oh My!! I can't insist enough how important this is) trust me ladies if a man doesn't have any respect for his mother and I don't mean (Mama's boy) leave those ones alone....I mean the men that are independent and have achieved stability but still respect their mother...and have a healthy rlshp not a codependent relationship....I wish sb told me this earlier
But now, we have to be even more vigilant because they have access to the same content we do. So, I've been meeting a few who are well versed in therapy speak, they're using all the terminologies and everything. So you can't just ask these questions, they've learned to lie better.
Yes, when I was younger, my friends and I used to go socially all the time. We never have problems meeting people. Honestly was a lot more fun than online dating.
There is nothing that is safe these days. It truly does not matter if you meet them through a friend or a family member, at church, at work, at a restaurant, at a bar, online, at a beach, on vacation comma at a pet store..... people can be just as sadistic, horrific, abusive and insane!!! Please do not think that it's just dating apps. It is people in general!
They’re dangerous at the grocery store TOO… they’re dangerous in real life BEFORE they even get on the internet!! I’m talking about real danger danger… not someone “catfishing” about how they “look”!
My personal view is that dating , men and marriage are overrated and that's exactly what I'm teaching my daughters. Ive lost inrereat in all that BS and have a beautifully crafted stress free financially stable life. Most women who are deaperate for these things and are male centered are gonna fall victim to the games men play online or irl. Practice discernment.
Went on ONE date…lies from his profile photo being 10 years prior…4 inches shorter than his profile said…child he showed up for lunch a middle aged man shorter than my 5’5 in heels…claimed he was 5’9 and 40 years old…dude was 49 maybe 5’5 years with a 2 year old and 3 other teenagers…paying child support wanted to know my salary and if I was open to moving in eventually. Once the lunch was over, I knew that was it for me so I blocked him. He calls me drunk saying rude ish. I hung up and blocked that one too😂😂😂. You can’t bully me into that mess.
That’s another good point. Dating apps are ground zero for catfishing and “Chadfishing” (where 1ncels use a pic of a really good looking guy to get matches with women so they can h@rrass them)
The man who did the most emotional, psychological and sexual intentional harm to me, I met him organically in person. Just because you meet someone in a situation other than online, doesn't mean they are any safer or better. Don't have a false sense of security thinking it's any safer or more meaningful.
then if your car is the exception to the rule just thank God and try not to cancel out the truth of this phenomenon and warning relevant for those NOT as blessed as you.@@vanessatheurbantarotgoddes2192
You can meet the same type of person in real life. They can walk up to you in the store, a restaurant, a bar, etc...u just gotta watch out in general not only on the apps
17:42 I totally agree with her. I don’t understand the men that put photos of kids up or their pets but then say they don’t have kids and it’s not their pet. Like… what? What’s the point 😅
I got a match on Tinder where he tried to lure me down a dark alley. Saw a guy waiting round there that looked nothing like the guy I was supposed to meet up with. Noped the f*&! outta there
Ok so I was driving and he said the pub he was in was having a lock in so I thought it'd be ok to just pop round and leave when I wanted. The address he gave me had no pub in sight and I felt like I was driving around for ages. When I got to the so-called location, he told me it was across the bridge: it was completely covered by trees and overgrowth. I stayed in my car and there was a guy hanging around. When he went to use his phone, I got a message. I called him and this random dude went to answer his phone. Could've been a coincidence but I highly doubt it so I took off home. Maybe "alley" wasn't the best description but still just as sketchy and dangerous.
My sister used a professional matchmaking service. With rules and it was pricey. They put her together with a guy. It was rocky at first since its like a blind date thing. They discourage you from seggs too soon as well. They worked out the kinks and now 4 years later, we're all family now. Just another option.❤ im happily single. I did the apps and sites. Its all too scary and most of the men on there are cheating or just bored at work and passing time talking ish. Stay woke ladies!❤
I just had a man match with me just to go on an incel rant, talking about how much he hates black women, and gaslight me/ criticizing me for almost 3 hours straight! He matched just to be abusive! I’m done! So terrifying!
If a strange man is going to have to spend the night on the street if he can't sleep at your house that means he has burned all of his bridges. A man that is in touch with the world would know that a woman is vulnerable and he would not try to force something like this. Only a predator.
I hate to agree with you but it is so common. Its sad it gives validity to "how you get them is how you lose them". Its way too easy this day and age to cheat and double life. No one deserves this. But it's just too easy to have profiles on any site.
Keep your positivity sis because people always want to tell you otherwise, I'm glad you were able to find someone who makes you happy. Thanks for sharing
Ladies it doesn’t matter if you meet someone on a app or in person use common sense and if you don’t have any your ass better find some quick. Don’t put yourself in dumb situations like inviting randoms over to your house. Have a random pick you up from your house. Take your time to get to know someone. If he got friends meet them. Have your own condoms ask important direct questions. Carry a concealed weapon just in case.
Facts sis. I’ll admit I need to stop taking my safety for granted. The amount of times I’ve been on dates and let guys pick me up from my house. Got to be more careful 😳
These same men on apps are ones that you can meet irl so it doesn't really matter.. You just have to listen to your intuition and NEVER make an excuse for red flags. When you're too nice and worry about their feeling over yours you are in for trouble. These days unless you've got the will enough to tase , stab or break the arm of an aggressive guy (been there done that) , don't date.
I just think dating overall it’s just not easy these days. You should be always be careful.. but I don’t have good luck meeting people in person, and now I’ve gotten to where I just lean into being unapproachable. However, my last two relationships were men that I met on Facebook dating one lasted three years and sort of fizzled out as we grew apart but he was a good man.. the man I’m with now is literally my dream man and I also met him online. we did see each other in person briefly and when we matched online we remembered where we saw each other but even then when we saw each other it was at a concert and it did not materialize into anything until we matched online. I think it’s just really difficult overall and you can’t win Either way ,you just have to be careful. there will be good dates and bad dates, regardless of where you meet men.
@@mskabue yes, your chances of meeting crazy people are much higher dating online because you’re putting yourself in a bigger pool. And people can put their best foot forward through a couple of pictures and sentences online..
The tender swindler while all bad operated a lil differently than what is described here. But, I do agree that dating apps are mostly full of narcissistic losers. So, if you choose to use a dating app believe nothing til you verify everything at least 5 different ways.
What Female in their Right Mind would want to meet ANYONE at a Park AT NIGHT??? 😦 AND...Who in THEIR Right Mind would NOT just HANG UP on someone who starts BARKING! Why listen for 2 MINUTES? Shows Desperation. DON'T be/act DESPERATE!!
I'm South African and you are absolutely right about what women are facing throughout Africa. Apps are the last thing we should be on and giving men easy access and making it easier for abusers etc to find us.
@PandaHead602 100%! All I hear is horror stories these days. I did meet a toad before I met my husband but to be fair, he was not half as bad as the stories I am hearing.
I have had enough issues finding truthful partners when meeting in person.. there’s NO WAY I’m starting on an app where they can make up ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING😂😂🤷🏾♀️💯
Lol! I met my current husband on POF.. that was over 10 years ago.. been happily married for 8 years. Stop blaming the apps. You’ll meet the same types wherever you go. Its you, what you attract and your requirements that will bring the right men your way. Some things don’t make sense and so many women still women still continue past the RED FLAGS!
@@IAMHERE486I agree it’s gotten worse but I think she has a point. I had a short list of non-negotiables I sent to men who messaged me. Most guys don’t bother but some answer. Those who pass that test I talked on the phone to determine the vibe. If they passed that test I would sometimes go on a date. It’s not foolproof but it helped me fine my partner 🤷🏾♀️
Bless you for making this video 🙏❤ I have been celibate for 9 years and I am focused on healing. Rest in peace angel Rita 🙏🪽 Sending love and prayers to all of the family and friends 🙏 ❤️ xx
Yeah i did that when i was like 19 but when i realized it was just to hook up. I stopped. I dont trust people and i rather see if its an instant connection.
"Yea, I'm a complete stranger, so meet me at the deserted park around 10 at NIGHT"!! Said, every serial k...iller EVER! Let's use some basic survival skills people. 🙄
An anonymous dating app?? It's gone be nothing but serial killers matching with other serial killers 😂😂 Ps. I met a man who I was talking to and he ACTUALLY knew how to converse back and forth, unlike 99.99% of people on there. I asked him if he wanted to find hookups or an actual relationship bc his profile said "still figuring it out". I told him I was looking for a relationship bc I don't sleep with someone unless I'm fully dating them for a while so I can know them better and see if they're a good person, trustworthy, etc. He told me yes he was looking for a relationship, but he liked to sleep with the girl first to see if we will be compatible sexually and THEN after he'd want to get into a relationship and he can "spoil me" once we make to that phase and all that. I asked him how often that worked and then I told him we weren't looking for the same thing and unmatched him for lying 😂
Staaapp using dating apps back in 2019. Got more active in volunteering in my neighborhood, meeting new ppl who share the same interests as me. Also, it’s a win win, you get active and involved in your community and you meet new ppl.
The apps are partly to blame bc they choose who sees you and who you see. They don't let you naturally gravitate to someone in your area. It's based on a looks algorithm. Supposedly they don't do it anymore but the deck still looks strange.
She said “society doesn’t take photos of men” don’t we all take our own photos? Men choose to only take photos when they caught a fish. Men should know it’s not okay to use photos from 10-20 years ago. I just realized reading another comment I started and stopped being on dating apps because of covid.
While I've never really used the apps as I prefer to meet people organically and I'm in a happy relationship, I know that they work for many people. People from the apps are people from real life. Everyone needs to take responsibility for themselves and their choice of partners. If you're pursuing and staying with people who don't have serious intentions with you, maybe you could reassess your pool for more suitable dating prospects.
Lady's what is meant for you will not pass you by. I have been happily single for 16yrs yes my ex was that bad he put me off dating for a life time. Be safe and be happy always xx ☺☺💗💗
It doesnt really make to much of a difference, even if you meet someone in person how do you knoe they dont have 12 bodies in their basement? You dont, you can be married to someone for 40+ years and still not know who exactly you're married to, humans and the way to many behave are the probelm.
I hate hearing this bc im55 and bedridden and wheelchair, i have zero way to meet anyone living with my ex who hates me,abuses me,neglects me,i cant leave,im not going in no home,i enjoy cooking cleaning sex smoking 😢
I HATE modern dating. I had a PSYCHO stalker once he found out I discovered her was married!! Told me his "EX," wife was dying of cancer and tried to threaten to send our sexting to my employer if I told. It was terrifying
A lot of people also married to their partner from dating apps so it’s a risk! You can meet a psychopath anywhere! Most women just don’t have good discernment!
Countless men and women have found the love they were looking for on a dating site. What is needed is a 🎉 common sense, intuition , and good discernment. There's no need to fear monger women!
My ex narcissistic husband left me and our 6 kids for dating app dates and he joined a vampire sex cult and now he is “busy” watch out ladies he is out there wild.. 😂😂in reality do watch out.
People like myself have been done with dating apps for years. If I feel they're trash, I can only imagine the man who's meant for me will also feel that way....so I'm not going to find anything but a waste of time on dating apps.
I’ve had worst experiences with people in person a lot of club nights and events when i was my 20s so i wasn’t really on the dating apps til my late 20s into my 30s
Practice posing in front of a mirror. People used to do that. We need to go back to that. Also, look at yourself , front and back, in a full-length mirror.
10:10 Just because it's a dating app, it doesn't mean that men who are there are actually looking for dating. Tinder for example, we all know what this app was created for. And in fact it still runs on the same principle. Read the description of the man's profile, if someone is looking for a long-term relationship, it will be stated up on top.
I got paranoid when I was on those dating apps, I would see random men mugshots on the news, and swear I saw those same men on the App. I know I'm silly, but I deleted them just in case.😂
I deleted my dating apps a while ago. Too much drama. Too much creepy. Too much just weird. Nope. But eventually I just decided to go full on 4B. Glad I did. Not dating has really eliminated a lot of stress ❤
I've talked to sooo many different men on various sites and her intro sums it up! just shows me that I'm correct in following my intuition. I don't give up but the more I try, the more I find these men are all the same!
@@YemmieInc but looks ain't nothing if anything for me they've attracted the worst type of males...and keep in mind that no matter your looks males will still dog you out...in my opinion I think they help to the extent of getting the attraction but can't control who exactly is attracted and can't prevent what they'll do to you....and btw if those around you think like that..it's time you stayed away from them and found yourself people who add to your cup girl😌
I met my husband on a dating app (this was back in 2014), but would i recommend that to anyone? NO! There are too many crazy individuals out there that you normally wouldn’t give them a time of day just because of how weird and toxic they are in real life. Of course there are few good ones but it’s really not worth the risk. And if you do go on a date with someone from a dating app, always tell someone and share your live location with them. You can even tell your date about it so that they are aware people know where and who you are with. Thank you for making this video. Stay safe ladies (and gents as there are women on dating apps being used to lure men and only end up robbing them or even worse, murdered).
1:15 Oh my gosh Sis, I have never seen a human with teeth so white. I didn't know teeth could even be this white.
Just discovered your channel tonight, GREAT channel 👍
I am Thrilled that the world is catching on to teaching/learning & being enlightened about classic pathological narcissism, we have come such a long way in the last six years in learning about Narcopaths 👏 👏 👏
Thankyou for the compliment 😊😊...I'm glad you discovered my chanel who's main mission is to get the word out there and create a safer space for women😊😊...I hope you're subscribed sis❤
She is beautiful!
The same men on apps are the same men that exist in the real world. You have to use caution no matter where you meet someone.
Exactly! I met a crazy at Target. Lol.
It’s true
@@MsCurlyBarbiewow I would think Walmart 😂 but target ! Omg
The crazies hide who they are online because it is easier and they flock to online dating apps to hide who they are better than online. Most never approach women in person, but do so online.
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They don't have time to date but they will expect sex and validation. I met a man who lied about wanting a relationship from the beginning.
Bingo, I’m in that situation now, he only wanted a sex buddy.
Same and he was married for 15 years. I asked him and he lied
Same. And he was married too. But I said I'm a single mom. I won't get better than a married man. Sometimes it takes time longer than wanted. Patience is more important than a fantasy
They always lie about wanting a relationship until they get sex then all of a sudden they don’t want relationships and they “let they be known from the beginning.” 😂
@beautiful_wonderfullymade straight up lie and then blame us for their lies! Where's the accountability in that?
When I was single I used a few dating apps and learned very quickly that none of the men were seriously looking for a relationship… only hook ups and situationships
Yep. And they wonder why women are not on there much anymore
But aren't there apps just for the hookup? 🤔
I found this aswell. Men just wanting casual hookups or just plain weirdo's.
@beekind6267 they make all apps for hook ups, even if that wasn't it's intention
@@Lisette121 yeah, I suppose you're right.
Stop using dating apps over a year ago and I’ve never felt happier and safer.
Dating Apps is the equivalent to "digging in a dumpster". ENOUGH SAID.
Thank you
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Hahahahahahah digging in dumpster
FACTS! 💯
Truuuu
People think I'm weird when I say get off the apps and join an organization, get a hobby, do fitness classes,etc to meet new people and see how they actually are
Agreed. That way, you will be working on yourself, and if you do run into a man, it will be someone who has similar interests. It's too easy for them to fake whatever they see on your profile.
This is a good way to make acquaintances as well.
Hmm… so is this why wives be married to whole serial killllllers (for years and years) and they were high school sweethearts 🤔. Or how people never thought that person was capable of such things because “they’ve known them for years”…
Sadly, that still isn’t enough. The funny sweet guy in fitness class might not be like that outside the fitness class either. Dating apps is just another avenue, not the only option narcissists/abusers use
exactly they are still trash @@ambersaura9988
Bad people exist both online and in real life though. You’ll need common sense, vetting skills, intuition and proper boundaries regardless of how you meet someone
There’s a lot of people who’ve met great partners online.
THANK YOU!!! They are dangerous at work, at the grocery store, at the restaurant etc etc!! They’re dangerous wayyyy BEFORE they ever got on the “dating app”!!
This is the most realistic comment I have seen. I was single over 11 yrs. My husband an I met online. I love him dearly and he loves me. I had the bad horrible dates also. You must use ur brain on these apps.
Exactly. I met some awful men on apps I also met great ones. I met my man through Hinge and it's the best relationship I've ever had.
Just use your brain to filter out the bad options and you'll be fine!
Yes a long time ago. It's inundated with losers now.
Ladies just remember we can't even trust men we be dating for yrs much less total strangers....better to stay single than risk your life
I get the message that they are trying to get across but you can meet the same guy in a public setting, through a friend of a friend, in church, etc. I am not a fan of dating apps anymore but when they first started they were a great to meet men.
What we need to teach ppl is to have the spirit of discernment and patience.
We now understand what love bombing, narcissist, gas lighting, etc is and now we need to understand a handsome man or pretty face may seem to have great intentions but take your time to verify. Take your time getting to know this new person (because woman can be just as damaging) on a deeper level and ask the right questions. Doesn't matter what their favorite color is, ask what podcasts do you listen to, what is your relationship with your mother, what are your thoughts on finances, etc.
It's like warning ppl about the dangers of getting hit by a car but not teaching ppl how to look both ways before you cross😂
I agree, actually met this seemingly amazing guy in public and he did all the right things. I thought he was going to be my new boo until weeks later I discovered that he was charged for CP and it did time of 9 years out of the 10 he was sentence for having that stuff on his computer. You have to be very careful when vetting these guys. He stated that he was framed and it was dehumanizing but even if the ladder was true, the fact that he has limitations on his life would hinder me in mine. Therefore that Scarlet letter was one that I could not help him bare..
I agree with you....you're actually right... especially about what media they consume...koz nowadays the red pill podcast boys are too much...and about the rlshp with his mother ( oh My!! I can't insist enough how important this is) trust me ladies if a man doesn't have any respect for his mother and I don't mean (Mama's boy) leave those ones alone....I mean the men that are independent and have achieved stability but still respect their mother...and have a healthy rlshp not a codependent relationship....I wish sb told me this earlier
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But now, we have to be even more vigilant because they have access to the same content we do. So, I've been meeting a few who are well versed in therapy speak, they're using all the terminologies and everything. So you can't just ask these questions, they've learned to lie better.
Please one of my worst relationships was from a guy i met at work toxic narcissist who was living a double life draining the life outta me
What’s the difference in meeting a liar on an app and meeting a liar in person.
Exactly
Thank you for doing this video, so-called dating experts need to stop lying to women.!! Dating apps are not a great way to meet men!!
Yes they've lied to women for too long..it's time we saw the light and met men organically
Yes, when I was younger, my friends and I used to go socially all the time. We never have problems meeting people. Honestly was a lot more fun than online dating.
It's sad to say dating apps are worse than bars
At all
There is nothing that is safe these days.
It truly does not matter if you meet them through a friend or a family member, at church, at work, at a restaurant, at a bar, online, at a beach, on vacation comma at a pet store.....
people can be just as sadistic, horrific, abusive and insane!!!
Please do not think that it's just dating apps.
It is people in general!
They’re dangerous at the grocery store TOO… they’re dangerous in real life BEFORE they even get on the internet!! I’m talking about real danger danger… not someone “catfishing” about how they “look”!
It's harder to hide what you look like in real life. Behind a keyboard ppl can be who they want to be.
My personal view is that dating , men and marriage are overrated and that's exactly what I'm teaching my daughters. Ive lost inrereat in all that BS and have a beautifully crafted stress free financially stable life.
Most women who are deaperate for these things and are male centered are gonna fall victim to the games men play online or irl. Practice discernment.
Agreed.
Just don't stop giving up the cookies. Relationships are overrated. Sex without commitment is the thing.
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Went on ONE date…lies from his profile photo being 10 years prior…4 inches shorter than his profile said…child he showed up for lunch a middle aged man shorter than my 5’5 in heels…claimed he was 5’9 and 40 years old…dude was 49 maybe 5’5 years with a 2 year old and 3 other teenagers…paying child support wanted to know my salary and if I was open to moving in eventually. Once the lunch was over, I knew that was it for me so I blocked him. He calls me drunk saying rude ish. I hung up and blocked that one too😂😂😂. You can’t bully me into that mess.
🤣🤣🤣glad for you sis.....seems like he catfished you...watch my videos on catfish you'll like them
That’s another good point. Dating apps are ground zero for catfishing and “Chadfishing” (where 1ncels use a pic of a really good looking guy to get matches with women so they can h@rrass them)
The man who did the most emotional, psychological and sexual intentional harm to me, I met him organically in person.
Just because you meet someone in a situation other than online, doesn't mean they are any safer or better.
Don't have a false sense of security thinking it's any safer or more meaningful.
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True. I had similar experiences
If you’re an older man like me, art classes are a goldmine
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Found my husband on a dating app and we happy...it all depends on intuition and many people ignore signs
A long time ago.
@tranquility9325 no not really about 3years but I'm sure it's gotten worst
then if your car is the exception to the rule just thank God and try not to cancel out the truth of this phenomenon and warning relevant for those NOT as blessed as you.@@vanessatheurbantarotgoddes2192
You can meet the same type of person in real life. They can walk up to you in the store, a restaurant, a bar, etc...u just gotta watch out in general not only on the apps
17:42 I totally agree with her. I don’t understand the men that put photos of kids up or their pets but then say they don’t have kids and it’s not their pet. Like… what? What’s the point 😅
I got a match on Tinder where he tried to lure me down a dark alley. Saw a guy waiting round there that looked nothing like the guy I was supposed to meet up with. Noped the f*&! outta there
Down am alley, what the hell 😮
I'm creeped out on your behalf....wait? Down an alley 😳??and I can imagine it was dark too ooh the horror 😳😕
Ok so I was driving and he said the pub he was in was having a lock in so I thought it'd be ok to just pop round and leave when I wanted. The address he gave me had no pub in sight and I felt like I was driving around for ages. When I got to the so-called location, he told me it was across the bridge: it was completely covered by trees and overgrowth. I stayed in my car and there was a guy hanging around. When he went to use his phone, I got a message. I called him and this random dude went to answer his phone. Could've been a coincidence but I highly doubt it so I took off home. Maybe "alley" wasn't the best description but still just as sketchy and dangerous.
@@TiaSordida2024nah, if he refuses to meet at a public location, then I ain’t going at all.
@@ihanakaunotar2741 he did suggest a public place (the pub) but lied about the location to ambush me
Easy ground for serial killers too. I refuse to be on any of these creepy sites!
I found mines on Tinder 5 years ago. I got blessed 🙏🏾
"I don't support gold digging, but even these men that are worried about diggers don't even have the gold to be dug." 😂❤love this!
My sister used a professional matchmaking service. With rules and it was pricey. They put her together with a guy. It was rocky at first since its like a blind date thing. They discourage you from seggs too soon as well. They worked out the kinks and now 4 years later, we're all family now. Just another option.❤ im happily single. I did the apps and sites. Its all too scary and most of the men on there are cheating or just bored at work and passing time talking ish. Stay woke ladies!❤
Meeting men online or in person we need to "listen to our gut instincts"..
3:28 I wish this woman was my Mom ❤❤❤ I desperately needed a mom like this when I was younger~ it would have saved me 14 years of hell. 😢
I just had a man match with me just to go on an incel rant, talking about how much he hates black women, and gaslight me/ criticizing me for almost 3 hours straight! He matched just to be abusive! I’m done! So terrifying!
Why didn’t you leave right away? Three hours of ranting?
If a strange man is going to have to spend the night on the street
if he can't sleep at your house
that means he has
burned all of his bridges. A man that is in touch with the world would know that a woman is vulnerable and he would not try to force something like this.
Only a predator.
I met some really good men on date sites, women just habe to vet, pay attention and notice red flags. My finace found me and he is a great man.
Happy for you sis😊
And he probably still on that dating site because they always looking for better but im happy for u of it worked
I hate to agree with you but it is so common. Its sad it gives validity to "how you get them is how you lose them". Its way too easy this day and age to cheat and double life. No one deserves this. But it's just too easy to have profiles on any site.
Keep your positivity sis because people always want to tell you otherwise, I'm glad you were able to find someone who makes you happy. Thanks for sharing
What about Asian & black dating sites
I'm not interesting enough to be on a dating app no way.🥴😂
Preach!!
Ladies it doesn’t matter if you meet someone on a app or in person use common sense and if you don’t have any your ass better find some quick. Don’t put yourself in dumb situations like inviting randoms over to your house. Have a random pick you up from your house. Take your time to get to know someone. If he got friends meet them. Have your own condoms ask important direct questions. Carry a concealed weapon just in case.
Facts sis. I’ll admit I need to stop taking my safety for granted. The amount of times I’ve been on dates and let guys pick me up from my house. Got to be more careful 😳
These same men on apps are ones that you can meet irl so it doesn't really matter.. You just have to listen to your intuition and NEVER make an excuse for red flags. When you're too nice and worry about their feeling over yours you are in for trouble. These days unless you've got the will enough to tase , stab or break the arm of an aggressive guy (been there done that) , don't date.
People take their offline bad persona online. Be vigilant wherever you people, be it inperson or online.
I’m married and I’ve never used a dating app or had a social media profile but I can’t stop watching these stories for some reason
I just think dating overall it’s just not easy these days. You should be always be careful.. but I don’t have good luck meeting people in person, and now I’ve gotten to where I just lean into being unapproachable. However, my last two relationships were men that I met on Facebook dating one lasted three years and sort of fizzled out as we grew apart but he was a good man.. the man I’m with now is literally my dream man and I also met him online. we did see each other in person briefly and when we matched online we remembered where we saw each other but even then when we saw each other it was at a concert and it did not materialize into anything until we matched online. I think it’s just really difficult overall and you can’t win Either way ,you just have to be careful. there will be good dates and bad dates, regardless of where you meet men.
I agree but online is where they hide too much about themselves
@@mskabue yes, your chances of meeting crazy people are much higher dating online because you’re putting yourself in a bigger pool. And people can put their best foot forward through a couple of pictures and sentences online..
The tender swindler while all bad operated a lil differently than what is described here. But, I do agree that dating apps are mostly full of narcissistic losers. So, if you choose to use a dating app believe nothing til you verify everything at least 5 different ways.
What Female in their Right Mind would want to meet ANYONE at a Park AT NIGHT??? 😦 AND...Who in THEIR Right Mind would NOT just HANG UP on someone who starts BARKING! Why listen for 2 MINUTES? Shows Desperation. DON'T be/act DESPERATE!!
IKR
That story was like something out of the creepypasta channels on RUclips
It’s not the apps per se. I’ve met nice guys on the apps and crazy guys in Target.
Listen to your gut. If something seems off trust that feeling.
I'm South African and you are absolutely right about what women are facing throughout Africa. Apps are the last thing we should be on and giving men easy access and making it easier for abusers etc to find us.
I found my husband on Tinder 9 years go😂
Wait I hadn't understood you at first...that f**d up for real
Did you divorce him?
@@mettamorph4523if she called him her husband 4 days ago, what do you think? 😂😂🙈🤡
Ya 9 years ago wasn’t bad …. it’s really bad now
@PandaHead602 100%! All I hear is horror stories these days. I did meet a toad before I met my husband but to be fair, he was not half as bad as the stories I am hearing.
Thank you for these "bad dates/dating app compilations. They are my favorite compilation videos. Keep them coming
Glad you like them...more to come😊
@@mskabue Awesome, thanks! ❤️❤️
So where are ppl supposed to meet someone? Not everyone is goes out or has a network of friends big enough to meet that way.
I think the key is to be very discerning and alert at all times...koz these bad men are everywhere
True.@@mskabue
Wow! Dating is unbelievable now. I'm good 👍🏼 😌. Please be safe and cautious for those who still do!
These scams are not limited to dating apps. These men troll social media as well.
I agree dating apps are not where its at. All I ran into were nuts and need serious help.
I have had enough issues finding truthful partners when meeting in person.. there’s NO WAY I’m starting on an app where they can make up ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING😂😂🤷🏾♀️💯
Lol! I met my current husband on POF.. that was over 10 years ago.. been happily married for 8 years. Stop blaming the apps. You’ll meet the same types wherever you go. Its you, what you attract and your requirements that will bring the right men your way. Some things don’t make sense and so many women still women still continue past the RED FLAGS!
💯💯💯💯💯
You’ve been married for 10 years so how could you possibly know how bad dating is now?
@@IAMHERE486I agree it’s gotten worse but I think she has a point. I had a short list of non-negotiables I sent to men who messaged me. Most guys don’t bother but some answer. Those who pass that test I talked on the phone to determine the vibe. If they passed that test I would sometimes go on a date. It’s not foolproof but it helped me fine my partner 🤷🏾♀️
I met the love of my life on a dating app ❤
@@IAMHERE486 it's been the same since Adam and Eve
"Hinge" should be called "Unhinge". You got some crazy people out there. Ladies, be careful.
Bless you for making this video 🙏❤ I have been celibate for 9 years and I am focused on healing.
Rest in peace angel Rita 🙏🪽 Sending love and prayers to all of the family and friends 🙏 ❤️ xx
I'm glad you liked it sis😊
@mskabue I really did! I just found your channel, so I will be catching up on your other videos too. Lots of love xx 💜 🌟 😘
Yeah i did that when i was like 19 but when i realized it was just to hook up. I stopped. I dont trust people and i rather see if its an instant connection.
"Yea, I'm a complete stranger, so meet me at the deserted park around 10 at NIGHT"!! Said, every serial k...iller EVER! Let's use some basic survival skills people. 🙄
An anonymous dating app?? It's gone be nothing but serial killers matching with other serial killers 😂😂
Ps. I met a man who I was talking to and he ACTUALLY knew how to converse back and forth, unlike 99.99% of people on there. I asked him if he wanted to find hookups or an actual relationship bc his profile said "still figuring it out". I told him I was looking for a relationship bc I don't sleep with someone unless I'm fully dating them for a while so I can know them better and see if they're a good person, trustworthy, etc. He told me yes he was looking for a relationship, but he liked to sleep with the girl first to see if we will be compatible sexually and THEN after he'd want to get into a relationship and he can "spoil me" once we make to that phase and all that. I asked him how often that worked and then I told him we weren't looking for the same thing and unmatched him for lying 😂
Many people met and married on dating apps...it s like in real life crazy people are everywhere we have to be very discerning and weeding out
Staaapp using dating apps back in 2019. Got more active in volunteering in my neighborhood, meeting new ppl who share the same interests as me. Also, it’s a win win, you get active and involved in your community and you meet new ppl.
Did u meet anyone yet?
“Just leave. It’s better to be rude and safe than nice and a victim”
B O O M
The apps are partly to blame bc they choose who sees you and who you see. They don't let you naturally gravitate to someone in your area. It's based on a looks algorithm. Supposedly they don't do it anymore but the deck still looks strange.
She said “society doesn’t take photos of men” don’t we all take our own photos? Men choose to only take photos when they caught a fish. Men should know it’s not okay to use photos from 10-20 years ago. I just realized reading another comment I started and stopped being on dating apps because of covid.
While I've never really used the apps as I prefer to meet people organically and I'm in a happy relationship, I know that they work for many people. People from the apps are people from real life.
Everyone needs to take responsibility for themselves and their choice of partners. If you're pursuing and staying with people who don't have serious intentions with you, maybe you could reassess your pool for more suitable dating prospects.
Lady's what is meant for you will not pass you by. I have been happily single for 16yrs yes my ex was that bad he put me off dating for a life time. Be safe and be happy always xx ☺☺💗💗
The girl at 25:00 talks so damn slow omg get to the point
Ikr, I had to speed up the video because of it, like my God girl get to the point already!
Great content! Please upload more like this. Btw, It would be interesting to know how things ended with the 3rd lady?
I'll look into it and prolly do a part two
It doesnt really make to much of a difference, even if you meet someone in person how do you knoe they dont have 12 bodies in their basement? You dont, you can be married to someone for 40+ years and still not know who exactly you're married to, humans and the way to many behave are the probelm.
Not for everyone many ppl found their spouses on dating apps. You can meet these same so called narcissists in person so what is your ppint exactly?
3:20 I really love the first women I think she is very intelligent ❤
here to see who is still using dating apps once quarantine ended… 🤔
TIL that gay women can also be pickmes…huh, interesting
What y’all paying to get on hinge ?? It costs ???
The lady at 9:21 is gorgeous. Chocolate's Representing!🍫🎯💯👌🏽
Yes it is & I didn't know this. Now I am a Targeted Individual who is stalked 24/7/365. Never Again. He was a horrible narcissist.
It's so offensive when a friend believes the new man's word over her own friend's. That one story with the DV guy is RIDICULOUS.
I hate hearing this bc im55 and bedridden and wheelchair, i have zero way to meet anyone living with my ex who hates me,abuses me,neglects me,i cant leave,im not going in no home,i enjoy cooking cleaning sex smoking 😢
Hang in there mama plan your exit strategy slowly
I HATE modern dating. I had a PSYCHO stalker once he found out I discovered her was married!! Told me his "EX," wife was dying of cancer and tried to threaten to send our sexting to my employer if I told. It was terrifying
A lot of people also married to their partner from dating apps so it’s a risk! You can meet a psychopath anywhere! Most women just don’t have good discernment!
Countless men and women have found the love they were looking for on a dating site. What is needed is a 🎉 common sense, intuition , and good discernment. There's no need to fear monger women!
Ask a bunch of friends over and each friend brings 3 single friends .
My ex narcissistic husband left me and our 6 kids for dating app dates and he joined a vampire sex cult and now he is “busy” watch out ladies he is out there wild.. 😂😂in reality do watch out.
People like myself have been done with dating apps for years. If I feel they're trash, I can only imagine the man who's meant for me will also feel that way....so I'm not going to find anything but a waste of time on dating apps.
I’ve had worst experiences with people in person a lot of club nights and events when i was my 20s so i wasn’t really on the dating apps til my late 20s into my 30s
Habari! Met my current dude on an app. He is a narc and it's been a nightmare. Lies and addictions and psycho arguments! It's not been worth it.
THANK GOD FOR THAT FRIEND. 😮💨 wow!!! Ol girl doesn’t even realize how blessed she was!
It’s so bad anything after 2012 is terrible guys it’s low key too low value they get to know u and have ur attention but you don’t know truth
Her channel on RUclips is called Spiritual whistleblower.
But I haven't even been messaged by a Nigerian prince yet... I want to make sure I have the full experience before I quit, lol! 😆
😂😂😂 hilarious
"Hook up with the male species" 😅
Practice posing in front of a mirror. People used to do that. We need to go back to that. Also, look at yourself , front and back, in a full-length mirror.
It seems like the scammers are getting scammed. "Let that sink in".
10:10 Just because it's a dating app, it doesn't mean that men who are there are actually looking for dating. Tinder for example, we all know what this app was created for. And in fact it still runs on the same principle. Read the description of the man's profile, if someone is looking for a long-term relationship, it will be stated up on top.
I got paranoid when I was on those dating apps, I would see random men mugshots on the news, and swear I saw those same men on the App. I know I'm silly, but I deleted them just in case.😂
Thank god I'm still alive after some of the stuff I've done willingly or let happen. Now I'm retired and permanently single in pink apt
Awwww, I feel so sorry these ladies 😢. Well, I met my African king on a dating app BADOO . we been together 4 years now. Happily married 💕 praised God
Those men are crazy!!! I never met any from there but the verbal abuse I get is crazy
I deleted my dating apps a while ago. Too much drama. Too much creepy. Too much just weird. Nope.
But eventually I just decided to go full on 4B. Glad I did. Not dating has really eliminated a lot of stress ❤
I've talked to sooo many different men on various sites and her intro sums it up! just shows me that I'm correct in following my intuition. I don't give up but the more I try, the more I find these men are all the same!
Exactly!
Bruh some of us are ugly and have no prospects. What should i do instead 😅😢
Wait...no...just checked your pic you ain't nowhere close to ugly...and I mean this
@@mskabue if everyone you're around thinks so, it's still hard :')
@@YemmieInc but looks ain't nothing if anything for me they've attracted the worst type of males...and keep in mind that no matter your looks males will still dog you out...in my opinion I think they help to the extent of getting the attraction but can't control who exactly is attracted and can't prevent what they'll do to you....and btw if those around you think like that..it's time you stayed away from them and found yourself people who add to your cup girl😌
Please don’t think of yourself as ugly. And those who make you think that are the ugly people. I agree I think your picture is beautiful.
Keep smiling. you are beautiful x
And keep your distance from those type of people who are projecting their insecurities on you x
"The dating apps are where all the insane people are gathered" 😂😂😂 This comment! 🙌🏽 😂😂
Thank God I do not mess with these apps and I am an older woman.
If her coworkers loved her just as much as she loved then, they would've told her that dude was behind her.
Recently single here. One of my friends is on dating apps. I will not be joining lol. No ma’am!
4:44 the woman called herself attractive while saying there were no attractive people.
I met my husband on a dating app (this was back in 2014), but would i recommend that to anyone? NO! There are too many crazy individuals out there that you normally wouldn’t give them a time of day just because of how weird and toxic they are in real life. Of course there are few good ones but it’s really not worth the risk. And if you do go on a date with someone from a dating app, always tell someone and share your live location with them. You can even tell your date about it so that they are aware people know where and who you are with. Thank you for making this video. Stay safe ladies (and gents as there are women on dating apps being used to lure men and only end up robbing them or even worse, murdered).