I have to remind myself to smile in good company or else I'm perpetually stone faced. I don't want diagnoses to further sink me into the social murk as I will be ostracized. I don't know what to do. I want friends and lovers too.
I have this. First time I noticed it was I was told by a therapist that I needed to look around in my body for feelings associated with emotions. Totally foreign concept for me; I had no idea you could actually feel feelings. Also I suck at writing fiction where characters are motivated by the way they feel about things. So I think alexithymia is a kind of blindness.
I believe that I am creative, imaginative, have nice colorful dreams, but I rarely feel anything, I almost never cry, and when I do, I don't feel much, tears just fall for some reason. Can this be Alexithymia ?
Earlier i used to have a dead expression, even when my grandfather died my thoughts were, well, flat to put it bluntly, I niether felt sad nor did I cry and I said to myself it will happen to everyone one day why are my parents crying? I was 5 then. At school too most people would either thought that I was anti social or egoistic, the truth is I was just neutral, I displayed emotions because I had learnt to imitate them by watching others. I made some friends and talked with them to learn more stuff. It was around 8th grade I associated fear and anxiety when I did a public speech, later on sadness when I lost someone very close to me, and from there I figured out what the opposite of sad would be like. My best friend says that the cyborg has finally gained feelings lmao. Now i can identify sadness, happiness, anger, fear and most other emotions, does that mean I will be fine without any other help, I recognise them and 'feel' them but I can also like pull the plug and go blank. About my dreams: There is one dream in particular I don't like, it constitutes of white and black lines in a horizontal fashion slowly expanding. They move in an incomprehensible way, I can't explain it. And for some reason that dream scares me.
i have reoccurring dreams where i’m late fer werk my job is a giant mall / theme park and everyone i’ve ever met is there i have that one and another one where i move into a haunted house i try to chase the demon in my dream but i always end up looking in a mirror when i go after it .... thoughts youtube ?!
Gurprem Singh i think your dramatic. No person who can’t show emotion would even comment this. Your obviously emotional asf. You just want to see EDGY😂😴😂😂😂
I miss being able to dream. I miss nightmares. Ive lost the ability to express most emotions. This is the closest thing to explaining whats wrong with me. Thanks.
I grew up in a emotional abusive household, I'm here because after awhile I just stopped feeling when they would insult me. They'd call me things that would usually make me start to sob but eventually I just stopped feeling everything. Now, I feel like I've got a wall thats between me and my emotional life, every time I try to show people I'm happy, it never feels real. Should I try to go to a doctor about it?
I never question my feelings they are so vivid I cannot imagine how can someone have any difficulty i feel the same every time i feel that feeling so it's so logical to me to describe it depending on the situation i feel it It's just exactly like feeling a sensation on my body feelings are just like that You just sense the memories and moments and experience you do When you feel something When you describe it It's just like the thing you do You know what i mean??
Scratch G Gurprem Singh i think your dramatic. No person who can’t show emotion would even comment this. Your obviously emotional asf. You just want to see EDGY😂😴😂😂😂
This has been how I’ve been feeling for the past year almost it has damaged relationships with siblings friends and even my parents I hate this I don’t know how to describe my feelings over what’s been going on
Is there a condition or disorder where someone is aware of the emotions they're feeling but it's physically incapable of expressing them and what would cause that to occur
I learned my husband has this. I feel like an awful person. How often I would get sooo frustrated, thinking he was refusing to communicate. He needs more processing time for his feelings, and I need to give him that time and space.
I saw a psychologist for the treatment of my eating disorder when I was 17. She told me years later that I had very bad alexithymia. I am a lot better now, but it took me years to overcome my anorexia/ bulimia. I have learnt to manage my depression and anxiety and I can communicate my feelings a lot more effectively.
As with the previous video, this video has offered good information that is comprehensive for those who are still learning about concepts (such as myself); It is also a great tool to utilize for research.
What helps not damage relationships and you personal image as much is pretending/acting. Or at least that helps me. Either way, it's nice to have a word for this thing.
A lot of these things match up with what i have expirienced most of my life only being able to reconise anger and no other emotions is actually not as fun because i only remember the times i got angry in my early youth i also can’t link any emotions to specific memories
Sometimes I will feel something, but not know what the hell it is. Like not even know if it is positive or negative. Kinda like when you look out the window and see it's sunny but not know what the exact temperature is. I know I'm feeling something but not know what it is
I feel that if i could put half my thoughts into words i would have solved all my problems and difficulties and just moved on by now. But i cant i just stay stuck with all these hint like feelings in my head willing me into a certain direction, then they just abandon me and just switch to something else. Like i cant process anything or concentrate well enough. I have a limited vocabulary. I have literally no social skills or social knowledge. Sometimes alcohol helps me speak my mind more, but who in the world wants to be an alcoholic
I've had this my entire life and I just found out about it, I don't feel emotions but I can feel there presence I've never felt an emotion in my body and in my head it's more of a thought than anything else I can't actually feel it I just know it's there I can't dream unless something came up that'd very attached to my emotions (just because I can't feel them doesn't mean they aren't there, even though I very often describe myself as emotionless) and I don't really imagine accept for if I make myself fantasize about different things and try my hardest to I can't, my thoughts are basically non existent accept for when I'm texting most of the time it's just a very empty very numb hard shell, I don't feel emotions but my body acts on them which confuses me bc I'll be confused on why I'm acting that way idk if there's anything else to add to this but that's basically what it's like having it, also life is very wierd and boring when you don't have one of the main things that is nessisary to live life and idk about anyone else but I often think myself a monster bc I can't react like others or cry or anything like that
My childhood dog was put down nearly 2 years ago I grew up with her I picked her out when I was about 18 months old so when I felt nothing when she was put down I was worried I mean my step dad who knew her for all of 3 years broken down when we put her down I grew up with this dog and felt nothing.
I was talking with a friend of mine who's studying physiatric and I was complaining that nothing seems to triggers me anymore. For example, I was making out with a guy and I was bored. He even told me that "u know kissing doesn't have to last this sort" and I was thinking "you kidding me I was dreaming about the book in my bag for centuries", I had a fight with a friend of mine last month and she was technically fighting by herself and she said some pretty bad things to me and I was expecting me to cry but if you ask me now I dont even remember what she said. The same friend who's studying physiatric claims that I have anxiety and I was always denied that yet my hands are shaking and sometimes my legs as well. Even my voice breaks at times (mostly when I talk to him). I can hardly express any feeling verbal. I am able to describe a feeling with moves or pictures but not with words because I can never be fully sure if its pure. I don't seem to get hurt. no matter what people say or do to me. I don't feel like crying. I don't get enthusiastic as easily as I used to and when I do..well I can't explain but it dosen't feel right. like.. I coud be more happy, I could feel more. I just feel like the vibes I get are not strong enough, the feelings i get from people don't satisfy me. Its like I know I can feel more but.. I can't. And it's not like I am sad, I am just dissapointed. I have no idea what I am looking for bacause everything I do and everyone I meet boring me. Like the guy I mentioned before.I was never interested inrelationships and boys and all these but like I said I was bored and I wanted to try something new something different. He was honestly the most different person I could ask for, yet I was bored. The point is , I can identify others emotions and I do sympathize at times but I feel nothing myself. and its not the dark , poetic, depressing thing movies and 14 years old tend to romanticize, its a state where I am not sad at all but I can't gain satisfaction from anything. Emotions are there, they always are but I can't sense them. So my friend suggested that I have alexithymia. I do recognise some of the sumptoms on me but I am not yet convinced that that's the case because like I said I don't have problem identify other people emtions or symathize with them and I can identify when I feel happiness but the amount of happiness I feel does not satisfy me. I always think that there must be something more.
Look up anhedonia, it sounds a lit like what you're experiencing, but I could be wrong. Anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure in situations where one would normally feel pleasure, like when you were with your boyfriend but didn't feel pleasure.
I have finally found what might be what my thing about finding emotions towards *humans*, emotionless I feel nothing towards humans only animals except for the circle of life were a cat kills a mouse I’m still possibly looking for help about why I don’t cry when a *human* dies Only when an animal dies
What about the psychosomatic component, my husband has alexithymia and his emotions manifest in his body physically literally instantly whenever there is a conflict.
Everyone comes to me when they need help or someone to talk to, but I have no one to talk to, I don’t trust anyone and I don’t want to talk about my emotions or feelings because I don’t want people to feel bad for me 🤷🏻♀️ idk what’s wrong me all I want is to scream and cry alone !
I have a problem of this and it also hinders from me getting my messed up thought away. All I can do I if I can't find the action to let it out I just keep it and wait untill I either forget or suddenly move on or feel better I guess
I can relate to this but not all characteristics, for example; i consider myself quite imaginative (or ay least a litte.more than average) but my dreams are always super reslistic, i even discussed this with my theraphist, how do i know?
It's very annoying,bc i feel them,but i can't put words sometimes,most likely i can't describe them,and if my father asks me about my feeling i get the weird feeling in my throat like i'm gonna cry but i don't want to,side note,i grew up with my grandparents since i was 11,and my grandma she is a psycho
I don't know if I will get an answer, and I probably should ask my therapist but talking to him is not as comfortable as typing on a keyboard. My therapist diagnosed me with Alexithymia in the letter he sent to my parents to basically answer their questions about my mental health. So I research a little bit about it. The expression thing, is true. My most prominent expression is happy, I can smile and laugh and cry, but that's about it. The people around me always point out my poker face. And I cannot ever express anger, although I do feel a lot of frustration within my body. But the lack of imagination I cannot relate. I'm a writer, learning to be a professional one. I'm very, maybe too imaginative, able to produce stories out of the air. My ability to write also is major in my therapy session. My therapist assigns me to write journal, a habit of mine already, and asks me to describe images that could evoke from my feelings. I do have rigid thinking, severe social anxiety and relate a lot to people with Autism Spectrum Disorder, my understanding of the world is black and white, yes and no, but despite creating a system around everything, I manage to be creative, in life and work. I always feel like I have 2 sides, the brain and the heart, and they always give opposite opinions, never connect. So no particular question but it's just confusing. Have you ever met a case like mine?
I often wonder if my uncle Sid had that condition after not getting any recognition for helping to fight in the second world war only because of his indigenous heritage as a Metis person when going on to become a carpenter except for one thing. He had no problem recognizing emotions in others however he was not able to at each and every moment in time express that he had acknowledged within himself the emotion openly expressed in someone else because he didn't have time while trying to parent a dozen children in a very small home with a wife who couldn't work outside of the home because she had both latent Tuberculosis and heart damage from a Scarlet fever infection too when a child. His fingers as he got nearer to his death in his late 50's after all those setbacks including with a grade 3 education outside of trade school getting duped into believing that cigarette smoking was good for him started turning black as the circulation in his extremities got more and more less healthy. At the time people of indigenous heritage had a life expectency of only age 55.That was the 1960's for you. A quilt she sewed with scraps made from old clothing and a sewing machine someone donated to her is still in a museum here in this city as far as I know unless an extremist radical decided it was worth nothing now. With a grade 3 education he did stilll manage somehow to teach himself how to write in both English and French before his fingers got debilitated. There is a big difference between acceptance of my own feelings without jumping to conclusions about what the feelings of others might have from moment after someone had reveals somehing to me about their past in that present day counselling session for being able to use that information later only to my own advantage while trying to maintain a name for myself and -- Being able to regulate my own emotionboundaries and emotions appropriately. at all times no matter what the subject content is being discussed during counselling sessions. That takes a lot of practice -- decades of practise - to achieve well enough not to feel drained and feeling sad near the end of each and every work day. However it is well within the reach of anyone who has ever managed to get a diploma or a degree in any mental health profession no matter what their background is or has been or for that matter a diploma or a degree in any other field. Believe me it is a skill worth honing for anyone including for a plumber who could then go on working until past the age of 100 if a plumber feels like it: www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=newssearch&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwjX7ZS_w__pAhUVIzQIHTbfDTkQqQIIMygAMAI&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cbc.ca%2Fnews%2Fcanada%2Fnewfoundland-labrador%2F100-year-old-barber-shop-1.5337326&usg=AOvVaw10d689Vehkp2R45ED6jCJl
My psychiatrist told me I was a psychopath because I checked off most of what is found in psychopaths, but the traits in psychopathy are similar to alexithymia, how can I tell that my psychiatrist misdiagnosed me, or was she right?
So how could you determine this from someone who doesn't WANT to feel emotions, or talk about them? Because in both they would shut down if you asked them. You can't find out the true "why" from them because they both won't talk or open up.
Difficulty identifying feelings, recognizing feelings and/or emotions in other people sounds very much like something we would find in the autism spectrum.
Why does people think that this is some kind of disease or something and that it can be cured ? I’ve always been like this and just realised now that people treat it like a pathology. It’s like Telling me that the Color my hair is not normal. Maybe i’m not like the majority of people but dont tell me that this is not normal. Having difficulties expressing myself and thinking rationally is a part of myself and I don’t want to change myself even if it’s hard to be like this
I would have to encounter the first person suffering Alexithymia who's not a cluster b case. If they can't feel how can they then feel guilt or remorse when they hurt others ? How can they 'read' the 'expression' of 'pain' off the faces of those they have hurt ? If they can get away with manipulating others without feeling bad, aren't they going to rely on manipulation later in life just as most cluster b cases do ? Aren't these like basic questions to take in consideration when you claim that this 'not feeling' is 'just' a 'handicap' but not a personality disorder ??
Hey please help me, I have dificulty but i can identify my emotions after analizng them, but I can't feel feelings for others, but I know that i have them. I sometimes feel the feelings for the other person but in a blunt way, but only sometimes. I don't know witch friend i like and i feel like im neutral about my family most of the time. My grammar is a bit wrong cause im not a native english speaker.
I feel intensly, but until recently could not read the feelings. They all used to get funneled into just a few feelings, like anger, anguish, elation, and lust. I don't know if I have this trait, but that is how I was.
What this does for me is makes it incredibly hard to show that I love someone even though I really do. It more or less the showing of love not the experiencing of love.
porcelain well i can’t feel anything like such things like love. But maybe I can do as if. Like i can smile , laugh , cry , but there is no feeling behind it. I also know in wich situation what i should feel. That’s bc I don’t have this since birth, I’ve got this since 2 years , when I was 11 so I know how some feelings feel like (but I’m starting to forget it) I believe that one day someone will make me feel again
Informative. I have done the Toronto test, scored, but no formal diagnosis. Not tried the other tests. I wish there was more research on this. Busy getting a formal diagnosis for Aspergers. Now in my 50s but been single for life.
I recorded a video on this about a month ago and it just came out of post-production. Because you asked about the topic, it will be the next video I release.
Yes I have alexithymia because I'm autistic but I just escaped a narcissist and I think They have alexithymia. Can it develop after living in a cult environment from a young age?
This video talks about alexithymia as a construct. I found it interesting that this condition can be co morbid with substance use disorder. What does that look like?
I would argue that for unpleasant feelings that aren't dangerous, alexithymia is a good thing. I'm pretty sure I'd have a significant problem with anxiety if I knew how to recognize it, but the physical symptoms I get are minor annoyances, not major problems. I've pretty much escaped grief for the deaths that have happened near me. I had a panic attack once, but without an emotional side, it was much less problematic than similar experiences seem to be for other people. I give alexithymia 4/5 stars (good experience, would purchase again, but could improve at warning me of impending disaster). In case it matters, I have autism spectrum disorder (Aspergers under the DSM4 system).
Dragon Slayer912 it gets in the way of relationships because you hurt people and can’t cater to their emotional needs... if you wanna be alone then yea no need to get help
I have to remind myself to smile in good company or else I'm perpetually stone faced. I don't want diagnoses to further sink me into the social murk as I will be ostracized. I don't know what to do. I want friends and lovers too.
@zehnwa zehnwa I was just diagnosed w alexithymia alongside autism. I'm 34.
Ivory Mantis if someone close to me was to die i wouldnt show any emotion crying ect.... i also have depression
@Autism Enlightenment How do they diagnose alexithymia? I never knew they did
Hello sir...
I can recognize emotions well, but I have problems expressing them.
EXACTLY !!
I have this. First time I noticed it was I was told by a therapist that I needed to look around in my body for feelings associated with emotions. Totally foreign concept for me; I had no idea you could actually feel feelings. Also I suck at writing fiction where characters are motivated by the way they feel about things. So I think alexithymia is a kind of blindness.
I believe that I am creative, imaginative, have nice colorful dreams, but I rarely feel anything, I almost never cry, and when I do, I don't feel much, tears just fall for some reason.
Can this be Alexithymia ?
Earlier i used to have a dead expression, even when my grandfather died my thoughts were, well, flat to put it bluntly, I niether felt sad nor did I cry and I said to myself it will happen to everyone one day why are my parents crying? I was 5 then. At school too most people would either thought that I was anti social or egoistic, the truth is I was just neutral,
I displayed emotions because I had learnt to imitate them by watching others. I made some friends and talked with them to learn more stuff.
It was around 8th grade I associated fear and anxiety when I did a public speech, later on sadness when I lost someone very close to me, and from there I figured out what the opposite of sad would be like.
My best friend says that the cyborg has finally gained feelings lmao.
Now i can identify sadness, happiness, anger, fear and most other emotions, does that mean I will be fine without any other help, I recognise them and 'feel' them but I can also like pull the plug and go blank.
About my dreams: There is one dream in particular I don't like, it constitutes of white and black lines in a horizontal fashion slowly expanding. They move in an incomprehensible way, I can't explain it. And for some reason that dream scares me.
I used to have similar dreams too. And it's strange that I'm not completely emotionless, but I can only feel very strong ones, usually negative ones.
@@discourseondecadence568 same as me
@@discourseondecadence568 I only feel strong usually negative ever since well
i have reoccurring dreams where i’m late fer werk my job is a giant mall / theme park and everyone i’ve ever met is there i have that one and another one where i move into a haunted house i try to chase the demon in my dream but i always end up looking in a mirror when i go after it .... thoughts youtube ?!
Gurprem Singh i think your dramatic. No person who can’t show emotion would even comment this. Your obviously emotional asf. You just want to see EDGY😂😴😂😂😂
I miss being able to dream. I miss nightmares. Ive lost the ability to express most emotions. This is the closest thing to explaining whats wrong with me. Thanks.
I grew up in a emotional abusive household, I'm here because after awhile I just stopped feeling when they would insult me. They'd call me things that would usually make me start to sob but eventually I just stopped feeling everything. Now, I feel like I've got a wall thats between me and my emotional life, every time I try to show people I'm happy, it never feels real.
Should I try to go to a doctor about it?
i dont think i have this but it is really really hard to tell people what i feel i wanna say it but i cant. i just cant get the words out of me...
happens to me too whenever im under pressure
Same to me, I get frustrated easily but still can't speak about it, i just give in and cry or just lie so no one gets worried
I never question my feelings they are so vivid
I cannot imagine how can someone have any difficulty i feel the same every time i feel that feeling so it's so logical to me to describe it depending on the situation i feel it
It's just exactly like feeling a sensation on my body feelings are just like that
You just sense the memories and moments and experience you do
When you feel something
When you describe it
It's just like the thing you do
You know what i mean??
Scratch G Gurprem Singh i think your dramatic. No person who can’t show emotion would even comment this. Your obviously emotional asf. You just want to see EDGY😂😴😂😂😂
This has been how I’ve been feeling for the past year almost it has damaged relationships with siblings friends and even my parents I hate this I don’t know how to describe my feelings over what’s been going on
Is there a condition or disorder where someone is aware of the emotions they're feeling but it's physically incapable of expressing them and what would cause that to occur
TheAnonymousGuy i think that fits into the umbrella term of alexithymia
Thank you for the concise and informative video. Alexithymia also tends to be comorbid with autism and disorders of the corpus callosum.
You're welcome!
I learned my husband has this. I feel like an awful person. How often I would get sooo frustrated, thinking he was refusing to communicate. He needs more processing time for his feelings, and I need to give him that time and space.
I saw a psychologist for the treatment of my eating disorder when I was 17. She told me years later that I had very bad alexithymia. I am a lot better now, but it took me years to overcome my anorexia/ bulimia. I have learnt to manage my depression and anxiety and I can communicate my feelings a lot more effectively.
As with the previous video, this video has offered good information that is comprehensive for those who are still learning about concepts (such as myself); It is also a great tool to utilize for research.
What helps not damage relationships and you personal image as much is pretending/acting. Or at least that helps me. Either way, it's nice to have a word for this thing.
I was an alcoholic for 7 years so maybe that’s why I’m here. I’ve been clean 2 months but still feel like a zombie most days.
Chris Larusso give it a full year to get back to “YOU”. 🙏💙
Thank you for your informative video! I like how detailed your videos are to explain certain traits or symptoms of disorders.
You're Grand, Dr. Grande!
A lot of these things match up with what i have expirienced most of my life only being able to reconise anger and no other emotions is actually not as fun because i only remember the times i got angry in my early youth i also can’t link any emotions to specific memories
Sometimes I will feel something, but not know what the hell it is. Like not even know if it is positive or negative. Kinda like when you look out the window and see it's sunny but not know what the exact temperature is. I know I'm feeling something but not know what it is
I feel that if i could put half my thoughts into words i would have solved all my problems and difficulties and just moved on by now. But i cant i just stay stuck with all these hint like feelings in my head willing me into a certain direction, then they just abandon me and just switch to something else. Like i cant process anything or concentrate well enough. I have a limited vocabulary. I have literally no social skills or social knowledge. Sometimes alcohol helps me speak my mind more, but who in the world wants to be an alcoholic
OMG SAME!exactly
I've had this my entire life and I just found out about it, I don't feel emotions but I can feel there presence I've never felt an emotion in my body and in my head it's more of a thought than anything else I can't actually feel it I just know it's there I can't dream unless something came up that'd very attached to my emotions (just because I can't feel them doesn't mean they aren't there, even though I very often describe myself as emotionless) and I don't really imagine accept for if I make myself fantasize about different things and try my hardest to I can't, my thoughts are basically non existent accept for when I'm texting most of the time it's just a very empty very numb hard shell, I don't feel emotions but my body acts on them which confuses me bc I'll be confused on why I'm acting that way idk if there's anything else to add to this but that's basically what it's like having it, also life is very wierd and boring when you don't have one of the main things that is nessisary to live life and idk about anyone else but I often think myself a monster bc I can't react like others or cry or anything like that
My childhood dog was put down nearly 2 years ago I grew up with her I picked her out when I was about 18 months old so when I felt nothing when she was put down I was worried I mean my step dad who knew her for all of 3 years broken down when we put her down I grew up with this dog and felt nothing.
I was talking with a friend of mine who's studying physiatric and I was complaining that nothing seems to triggers me anymore. For example, I was making out with a guy and I was bored. He even told me that "u know kissing doesn't have to last this sort" and I was thinking "you kidding me I was dreaming about the book in my bag for centuries", I had a fight with a friend of mine last month and she was technically fighting by herself and she said some pretty bad things to me and I was expecting me to cry but if you ask me now I dont even remember what she said. The same friend who's studying physiatric claims that I have anxiety and I was always denied that yet my hands are shaking and sometimes my legs as well. Even my voice breaks at times (mostly when I talk to him). I can hardly express any feeling verbal. I am able to describe a feeling with moves or pictures but not with words because I can never be fully sure if its pure. I don't seem to get hurt. no matter what people say or do to me. I don't feel like crying. I don't get enthusiastic as easily as I used to and when I do..well I can't explain but it dosen't feel right. like.. I coud be more happy, I could feel more. I just feel like the vibes I get are not strong enough, the feelings i get from people don't satisfy me. Its like I know I can feel more but.. I can't. And it's not like I am sad, I am just dissapointed. I have no idea what I am looking for bacause everything I do and everyone I meet boring me. Like the guy I mentioned before.I was never interested inrelationships and boys and all these but like I said I was bored and I wanted to try something new something different. He was honestly the most different person I could ask for, yet I was bored. The point is , I can identify others emotions and I do sympathize at times but I feel nothing myself. and its not the dark , poetic, depressing thing movies and 14 years old tend to romanticize, its a state where I am not sad at all but I can't gain satisfaction from anything. Emotions are there, they always are but I can't sense them.
So my friend suggested that I have alexithymia. I do recognise some of the sumptoms on me but I am not yet convinced that that's the case because like I said I don't have problem identify other people emtions or symathize with them and I can identify when I feel happiness but the amount of happiness I feel does not satisfy me. I always think that there must be something more.
Look up anhedonia, it sounds a lit like what you're experiencing, but I could be wrong. Anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure in situations where one would normally feel pleasure, like when you were with your boyfriend but didn't feel pleasure.
I have finally found what might be what my thing about finding emotions towards *humans*, emotionless
I feel nothing towards humans only animals except for the circle of life were a cat kills a mouse
I’m still possibly looking for help about why I don’t cry when a *human* dies
Only when an animal dies
What about the psychosomatic component, my husband has alexithymia and his emotions manifest in his body physically literally instantly whenever there is a conflict.
Fascinating
Everyone comes to me when they need help or someone to talk to, but I have no one to talk to, I don’t trust anyone and I don’t want to talk about my emotions or feelings because I don’t want people to feel bad for me 🤷🏻♀️ idk what’s wrong me all I want is to scream and cry alone !
What. Does happiness feel like?
I have a problem of this and it also hinders from me getting my messed up thought away. All I can do I if I can't find the action to let it out I just keep it and wait untill I either forget or suddenly move on or feel better I guess
I don't feel emotions and I just feel normal most of the time but I'm still able to cry and laugh but I dont feel the emotions
Why is it I don't get angry?
Wyatt Bunnell same🤦🏽♂️
I can relate to this but not all characteristics, for example; i consider myself quite imaginative (or ay least a litte.more than average) but my dreams are always super reslistic, i even discussed this with my theraphist, how do i know?
It’s just not fair that some people have this and they get no help or recognition in life
Awesome as usual!
Do you know of anyone with alexitymia that relates more with animal..ie can talk to dogs and Express emotions but can't with humans or partner
Actually, yes, and this is somewhat common with alexithymia.
i can relate. i can be sure i feel happy around my dog, but around people it's always a weird mix of feelings even though i'm smiling
It's very annoying,bc i feel them,but i can't put words sometimes,most likely i can't describe them,and if my father asks me about my feeling i get the weird feeling in my throat like i'm gonna cry but i don't want to,side note,i grew up with my grandparents since i was 11,and my grandma she is a psycho
Is there any treatment for alexithymia? Do People with alexithymia have photosensitivity and sound sensitivity
Idk if i have it i get sad or mad sometimes for no reason and im depressed
I don't know if I will get an answer, and I probably should ask my therapist but talking to him is not as comfortable as typing on a keyboard. My therapist diagnosed me with Alexithymia in the letter he sent to my parents to basically answer their questions about my mental health. So I research a little bit about it. The expression thing, is true. My most prominent expression is happy, I can smile and laugh and cry, but that's about it. The people around me always point out my poker face. And I cannot ever express anger, although I do feel a lot of frustration within my body. But the lack of imagination I cannot relate. I'm a writer, learning to be a professional one. I'm very, maybe too imaginative, able to produce stories out of the air. My ability to write also is major in my therapy session. My therapist assigns me to write journal, a habit of mine already, and asks me to describe images that could evoke from my feelings.
I do have rigid thinking, severe social anxiety and relate a lot to people with Autism Spectrum Disorder, my understanding of the world is black and white, yes and no, but despite creating a system around everything, I manage to be creative, in life and work. I always feel like I have 2 sides, the brain and the heart, and they always give opposite opinions, never connect. So no particular question but it's just confusing. Have you ever met a case like mine?
Very informative! Would this be a construct present with those on the spectrum?
I often wonder if my uncle Sid had that condition after not getting any recognition for helping to fight in the second world war only because of his indigenous heritage as a Metis person when going on to become a carpenter except for one thing. He had no problem recognizing emotions in others however he was not able to at each and every moment in time express that he had acknowledged within himself the emotion openly expressed in someone else because he didn't have time while trying to parent a dozen children in a very small home with a wife who couldn't work outside of the home because she had both latent Tuberculosis and heart damage from a Scarlet fever infection too when a child. His fingers as he got nearer to his death in his late 50's after all those setbacks including with a grade 3 education outside of trade school getting duped into believing that cigarette smoking was good for him started turning black as the circulation in his extremities got more and more less healthy. At the time people of indigenous heritage had a life expectency of only age 55.That was the 1960's for you. A quilt she sewed with scraps made from old clothing and a sewing machine someone donated to her is still in a museum here in this city as far as I know unless an extremist radical decided it was worth nothing now. With a grade 3 education he did stilll manage somehow to teach himself how to write in both English and French before his fingers got debilitated. There is a big difference between acceptance of my own feelings without jumping to conclusions about what the feelings of others might have from moment after someone had reveals somehing to me about their past in that present day counselling session for being able to use that information later only to my own advantage while trying to maintain a name for myself and -- Being able to regulate my own emotionboundaries and emotions appropriately. at all times no matter what the subject content is being discussed during counselling sessions. That takes a lot of practice -- decades of practise - to achieve well enough not to feel drained and feeling sad near the end of each and every work day. However it is well within the reach of anyone who has ever managed to get a diploma or a degree in any mental health profession no matter what their background is or has been or for that matter a diploma or a degree in any other field. Believe me it is a skill worth honing for anyone including for a plumber who could then go on working until past the age of 100 if a plumber feels like it: www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=newssearch&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwjX7ZS_w__pAhUVIzQIHTbfDTkQqQIIMygAMAI&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cbc.ca%2Fnews%2Fcanada%2Fnewfoundland-labrador%2F100-year-old-barber-shop-1.5337326&usg=AOvVaw10d689Vehkp2R45ED6jCJl
My psychiatrist told me I was a psychopath because I checked off most of what is found in psychopaths, but the traits in psychopathy are similar to alexithymia, how can I tell that my psychiatrist misdiagnosed me, or was she right?
So how could you determine this from someone who doesn't WANT to feel emotions, or talk about them? Because in both they would shut down if you asked them. You can't find out the true "why" from them because they both won't talk or open up.
Difficulty identifying feelings, recognizing feelings and/or emotions in other people sounds very much like something we would find in the autism spectrum.
Why does people think that this is some kind of disease or something and that it can be cured ? I’ve always been like this and just realised now that people treat it like a pathology. It’s like Telling me that the Color my hair is not normal. Maybe i’m not like the majority of people but dont tell me that this is not normal. Having difficulties expressing myself and thinking rationally is a part of myself and I don’t want to change myself even if it’s hard to be like this
Thank you for this video - much appreciated
Great Video
Thanks Dr Todd Grande
I would have to encounter the first person suffering Alexithymia who's not a cluster b case. If they can't feel how can they then feel guilt or remorse when they hurt others ? How can they 'read' the 'expression' of 'pain' off the faces of those they have hurt ? If they can get away with manipulating others without feeling bad, aren't they going to rely on manipulation later in life just as most cluster b cases do ? Aren't these like basic questions to take in consideration when you claim that this 'not feeling' is 'just' a 'handicap' but not a personality disorder ??
Hey please help me, I have dificulty but i can identify my emotions after analizng them, but I can't feel feelings for others, but I know that i have them. I sometimes feel the feelings for the other person but in a blunt way, but only sometimes. I don't know witch friend i like and i feel like im neutral about my family most of the time. My grammar is a bit wrong cause im not a native english speaker.
Does this mean someone with alexithymia can’t experience love or care about another person?
I feel intensly, but until recently could not read the feelings. They all used to get funneled into just a few feelings, like anger, anguish, elation, and lust. I don't know if I have this trait, but that is how I was.
Corvus Mortuus what are you like now? You feel more? Genuinely curious
What this does for me is makes it incredibly hard to show that I love someone even though I really do. It more or less the showing of love not the experiencing of love.
porcelain well i can’t feel anything like such things like love. But maybe I can do as if. Like i can smile , laugh , cry , but there is no feeling behind it. I also know in wich situation what i should feel. That’s bc I don’t have this since birth, I’ve got this since 2 years , when I was 11 so I know how some feelings feel like (but I’m starting to forget it)
I believe that one day someone will make me feel again
Isn’t this a major component of ASC though?
Great vid!
Thank you!
Very informative. At what age does Alexithymia surface?
I've got it since birth
Dragon Slayer912 i’ve got it since I’m 11
Well, I have this condition
Informative. I have done the Toronto test, scored, but no formal diagnosis. Not tried the other tests. I wish there was more research on this. Busy getting a formal diagnosis for Aspergers. Now in my 50s but been single for life.
fascinating
I suggests thc w.e way iy its is consumed.
What causes alexithymia ?
I recorded a video on this about a month ago and it just came out of post-production. Because you asked about the topic, it will be the next video I release.
@@DrGrande Thanks!!
Trusting women.
Yes I have alexithymia because I'm autistic but I just escaped a narcissist and I think They have alexithymia. Can it develop after living in a cult environment from a young age?
Autism Enlightenment yeah
This video talks about alexithymia as a construct. I found it interesting that this condition can be co morbid with substance use disorder. What does that look like?
I find so many more females have this disorder
an alein last of it's kind never understanding others or them self's not seeing them self's in the mior
What if they don't have the feelings or pretend too
I would argue that for unpleasant feelings that aren't dangerous, alexithymia is a good thing. I'm pretty sure I'd have a significant problem with anxiety if I knew how to recognize it, but the physical symptoms I get are minor annoyances, not major problems. I've pretty much escaped grief for the deaths that have happened near me. I had a panic attack once, but without an emotional side, it was much less problematic than similar experiences seem to be for other people. I give alexithymia 4/5 stars (good experience, would purchase again, but could improve at warning me of impending disaster).
In case it matters, I have autism spectrum disorder (Aspergers under the DSM4 system).
I want this how do i get this
ItsGante Boi you don’t want it bro I find all I do is hurt the ones I love and I can’t feel remorse about any of it
No you don't
I don't think there is a necessity to cure it. It comes wih difficulties, but I think we just need people to understand and accept us the way we are.
Dragon Slayer912 it gets in the way of relationships because you hurt people and can’t cater to their emotional needs... if you wanna be alone then yea no need to get help
@@XPrincess30 true ☹️
I thought it was a good thing to not feel feelings anymore? 🤔
This sounds alot like anedohnia.
Joe Dirt anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure in pleasurable activities
Joe Dirt no