What Walking Away Does to the Person You Left Behind | Stoicism
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
- Have you ever wondered what happens to someone after you walk away from their life? In this video, we explore the profound effects your absence can have on the person left behind, all through the lens of Stoicism. From self-reflection to personal growth, discover how walking away can create powerful shifts in the dynamics of relationships. Learn how your strength in stepping away can impact their mindset and how this can lead to transformation for both parties.
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Choosing to walk away is the ultimate declaration of self-respect. If they didn't see your value when you were there, they'll sure feel it when you're gone!
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After a 15-year relationship ended. At first, it hurt. I was confused, fearful, and didn't really know what or how to move forward. Now, after spending time alone, I realize that I can do this. I'm finding peace and smiling more even when I'm alone. The fear is going , and the peace is coming. I have time to reflect and make plans for my own future . It really feels good. While at moments, I sometimes wonder how it all became about, it's okay because I have a second chance. Thank you, Lord.
I found the discussion about the 'initial shock' particularly enlightening. It really drives home how our everyday presence can be taken for granted until it’s no longer there. This video makes me reflect on the importance of appreciating those around us more openly and consistently. Does anyone else feel motivated to express gratitude more freely after watching this?
I too have experienced this and the incredible transformation I’ve experienced since letting go of dead weight, those who no longer align with my path. These people come into our lives as teachers (karmic soul contracts) they help us clear out old karma and lesson we need to learn about ourselves and the karmic patterns and cycles we run like a hamster wheel.
I’m truly grateful for these individuals and experiences as it has helped me evolve and break the cycle, to now build my best self and the life I deserve.
@@Empress4U I'm glad you joined the discussion! You're right, making others truly see your value isn't easy, but with Stoic principles, we can gain confidence and not rely on external validation. What methods have you used to show your true worth? Feel free to share more!
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. It’s truly inspiring to see how you’ve turned such a difficult situation into an opportunity for growth and peace. Healing takes time, but finding strength and joy in your own company is such a powerful achievement. Embracing that second chance with gratitude and a forward-looking mindset shows how resilient you are. Keep smiling and moving forward-you’re writing an incredible new chapter for yourself! 🌱
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your powerful experience! 🙏 It's incredible how, through letting go of those who no longer align with our path, we create space for growth and transformation. You're so right - these individuals often come into our lives as teachers, challenging us to face old patterns and evolve beyond them. Breaking free from that "hamster wheel" is such a liberating feeling, and it opens the door to becoming our best selves. Your journey is truly inspiring, and it's amazing to see you embracing your power and the life you deserve. Keep shining! ✨
He took me for granted, 100%, goodbye to him!
Same with me 🎉 just walk away
The narrator’s voice is clear and well-paced. Excellent diction and timing!
I removed myself from a 32 year friendship which my efforts had maintained. I ignored many 'red flags' that clearly indicated my friendship was not valued. It was once equal and mutually supportive, but I was loyally living in the past. A few instances led to a tipping point and I no longer had the energy or will for it and recognized it was no longer good for me. She has 'reached out' to me a number of times and I wish I could respond; long term friendships are very precious, but, sadly, the magic of a comfortable, confident and easy friendship is over, hopefully done without malice or ill will. I find I have more time to devote to myself and people who value me. A difficult and painful decision but time has shown, the right one.
It sounds like you made a really tough but necessary decision. Long-term friendships can be incredibly hard to walk away from, especially when they’ve been such a big part of your life. But recognizing when something no longer serves you is a sign of growth and self-respect. It’s natural to feel conflicted when they reach out, but prioritizing your peace and surrounding yourself with those who genuinely value you is so important. You deserve relationships that are supportive and fulfilling. It’s never easy, but sometimes letting go opens the door to new and better connections.
Stepping away made me realize just how strong I really am. I embraced the solitude. It gave me the clarity and space I needed to pray, reflect, and journal. It was a reminder that I don’t fear being alone. It’s where I thrive. When I’m alone, I find my focus, my peace, and my power. If anything, stepping away wasn’t a loss, it was a reset.
Your absence speaks louder too loud
I really appreciate how the video incorporates Stoic principles, especially the idea that walking away is an act of courage and self-respect. It’s a powerful reminder that we must prioritize our peace and growth, even if it means making tough decisions. Who else feels empowered by this message?
That's awesome! Glad to hear that! I'm too need to get on this journey
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What a profound lesson on self-worth! Walking away isn't just about leaving, it's about reclaiming your peace and sending a powerful message. Truly inspiring!
I'm a habitual leaver if I'm not appreciated or respected. Their loss💪🏾
The concept of 'loss aversion' that was discussed here is so impactful. It’s fascinating how we are programmed to fear loss more than we appreciate gain. I wonder how many of us can relate to this in our personal relationships. Does this idea resonate with anyone else here?
"I never thought absence could be bigger than presence until now. The way you break it down makes it understandable and inspiring. Thanks for guiding us through this emotional journey with such wisdom! I wish the community all the best. grateful, grateful
Your absence speaks louder.
I walked away from a person who never ever noticed me over one year and when I pointed it out she showed NO emotion and now that I stopped talking and left her in her space and just patiently waiting to clear this up but for now I have no choice and if it stays this way it will not surprise me.😢❤
The challenge posed at the end of the video to let our silence echo louder than words is quite a declaration of strength. It’s not just about walking away but about stepping up in a way that’s unforgettable. How many of you are ready to embrace this powerful shift and make your presence undeniable, even in absence?
It takes so much strength to walk away from someone, especially when you've invested your heart and time. Sometimes, the hardest truth is realizing that we can’t control how others feel or react. But walking away was an act of self-respect and emotional growth, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
Remember, someone’s lack of response doesn’t define your worth. Continue to focus on your growth and happiness - you deserve to be noticed and valued for who you truly are. If things are meant to be cleared up, they will in time. But for now, take this space to heal and keep moving forward. Stay strong! 💪❤
You need to learn to write better sentences my guy.A very terribly expressed statement here.
@@ceemor3404 thanks 🙏 my grammar stinks.😷
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It feels good to have my peace, my mental health is very important and precious to me. I'm finally finding myself again. It wasn't easy walking away it was very painful. But I have realized that I'm stronger than I thought. And it's because of my Heavenly Father that I'm able to overcome.
I love this! Protecting your peace and mental health is so important, and it's amazing that you're finding yourself again. Walking away is never easy, especially when it comes with pain, but your strength really shines through in moments like this. It’s inspiring to see how faith has played such a big role in your journey. Keep pushing forward-you’re stronger than you realize!
I stupidly walked from one helpless situation straight into another.
My absence speaks louder
Gain is rewarding, whereas loss is nerve-wracking... people will do best if they choose to rejoice in the things that they have instead of craving for the things that they no longer have access to.
You're absolutely right. When we focus on what we already have, we not only find peace but also gain the strength to move forward without being weighed down by loss. As the Stoics say, *"He who is not content with what he has, would not be content with what he would like to have."* Appreciating the present gives us the power to navigate challenges with a clearer mind. Thanks for sharing this wisdom!
Your absence speaks louder
My action speaks louder🦋
I’ve been through a lot of pain in my life but always kind of shrugged it off. But one of the most painful parts was when I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 52 and realizing how long I struggled with it. The first year medicated was probably the lowest point of my life. I felt like I was falling into a deep pit I could never get out of. And the amount of loneliness I felt hurt the hardest. It took me a year to move past it and have been in therapy since (a lot of trauma through the years). At times I feel like my marriage is falling part and discovered a side of my wife I never knew existed because I couldn’t see it. It’s taken me a long time to get to where I wake up in the morning and realize it’s a new day and a new beginning. And I go to bed realizing I did my best and will start over again tomorrow. I am now working on not letting others emotions lead mine. It’s hard, but it’s a constant step forward. These videos are giving me new insights on new ways to improve myself. Stay strong brothers.
There was a time I walked away from someone I cared deeply for, hoping it would bring me peace. Yet even now, years later, the pain of that decision lingers. I still wonder if leaving was truly the right choice, or if I missed out on something that could have grown into something beautiful. Has anyone else faced this kind of doubt after walking away? How did you find closure?
It was the right choice, otherwise you wouldn’t have left. We often lie to ourselves about the fantasy of what could have been.
I know for me I don't like to lose people or have to let them go but when I do it...I feel like there is no other choice! Sometimes I feel sad years later...missing some of the good times we had. But , I have to be honest with myself and say I miss them sometimes...but the bad things in the relationship made me leave. It no longer worked or was healthy. It is okay to grieve and wished it could have lasted longer. Many times that friendship had stopped growing in a healthy way. I trust my decisions at the time. It is okay to love and miss people...they were a part of our journey. I feel grateful for what I learned.
#4/Emotional Maturation that my experience by walking away😅
Thank you
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I needed this. Especially, today.
Your absence speaks louder ❤
My absence speaks louder.
It's hard to just walk away and and act like they don't exist after 15 years of marriage
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I didn’t just walk away. He left me no choice, I RAN! 10 yrs, I had brain surgery, took care of his mom who was bedridden, and his father who had dementia @the same time, trying to heal myself. I watched him torment them and me. I protected them as best I could. They passed, I was the only one left, who gave into everything. I lost myself, he hurt me, physically, mentally, sexually, financially, and emotionally.
I’m lost, and grieving, realizing… He never loved me. He twisted and used everything painful I endured in my life against me.
It’s been 1 month since I have been threatened, put down, yelled at, berated. Ultimately….. I’m better off homeless.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry you had to endure all of that-it takes incredible strength to survive what you’ve been through. It’s clear that you did everything you could, not just for him but for his family too. The fact that you ran shows your courage and self-respect, even when it feels like you’ve lost yourself. It’s heartbreaking to realize someone didn’t love you the way you deserved, but recognizing that truth is a huge step toward healing.
Please remember that your worth isn’t tied to how he treated you, and you’re far stronger than the pain he caused. You deserve peace, safety, and a chance to rebuild your life without the weight of his abuse. It might feel overwhelming now, but taking back your freedom is a powerful move toward reclaiming yourself. Stay strong-you’re already on the path to healing.
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Walking away is attractive 🇨🇦🙏🌹
Enough is enough, because I know what will God for me. I'm a woman not only woman but woman how to give as lessons to us. People knows my stories,but I'm not a woman headache in this earth...
You’re absolutely right, knowing your worth and standing strong in your truth is powerful. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, but you've come out stronger and wiser. Sometimes, our experiences teach not just us, but others around us. You’re not here to cause trouble, but to rise above it all, showing strength and grace. Keep holding onto that confidence and faith in what’s meant for you!
I had to walk away from a very abusive and toxic relationship. It destroyed me, but I took time to heal and I grew stronger. It's been over 2 years and he has tried getting me back, but I could see no change in him. He's become even more toxic and hateful!
I’m really proud of you for walking away and prioritizing your healing. It takes so much strength to step away from a toxic situation, especially when it’s so damaging. It’s clear you’ve done a lot of work on yourself, and that growth shows. It’s no surprise he’s tried coming back, but recognizing that he hasn’t changed and is still toxic is a huge step in protecting your peace. Keep focusing on your well-being, and never let anyone drag you back into that negativity. You've come too far to look back! Stay strong!
This video highlights a profound truth about human psychology-sometimes our absence speaks louder than our presence ever could. It’s intriguing to think about how walking away can cause such a dramatic shift in others. Have you ever experienced a situation where your absence made more of an impact than your presence?
Your Absence speaks louder
Your videos are beautiful , as they inspire freedom, peace, well being and building brightly the days ahead.
I did not understand well something.
Why should some relation end for good, without leaving a door open ?
Perhaps later both of these people might see things clearly and so continue together, besides growing in every sense.
Why should each time grow by loosing someone on the way ?- To learn and grow I agree but why loosing and loosing as if it wohld be a Must/ a law, before you grow ?
Someone might say
“ Ok, I took a lesson here and am doing better “ but why related with loosing ?
For example, I dont loose my sister, my mom or my best friend just because I had to fix a mistake.
If I do, then our relation was purely superficial .
Isn’t it the same idea in a personal relationship of a man and a woman?
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad the videos resonate with you and bring a sense of peace and well-being.
You've raised a really important question. Why does growth often seem tied to loss, especially in relationships? And why can't we just leave the door open for the possibility of reconnection?
In relationships, it’s true that not every connection needs to end with loss to create growth, just like with family or close friendships. However, in romantic relationships, things can get more complex because emotions, desires, and expectations come into play in different ways. Sometimes, ending a relationship allows for a clearer sense of self. People need space to heal, reflect, and rebuild without the pressure or emotional ties of the past weighing them down. It’s not always about “losing” someone, but more about finding yourself again.
Leaving the door open can be tempting, and it might be right in some cases, but it can also prevent both people from truly moving forward. If both individuals grow and change, and they are meant to reconnect later, that could certainly happen. But the key is to focus on your personal journey first, without clinging to the hope of reconciliation.
Growth doesn't always require loss-sometimes it simply requires change, space, or new perspectives. Every relationship is different, and only you can determine when it’s right to keep that door open or when it’s time to move on.
Your thoughts are so insightful, and I really appreciate your perspective! What do you think? Does this help clarify a bit?
@@powerfulstoichabits Thank you for answering so fast and for your compliments.
Of course :)
That is so true ! Besides, in a romantic relationship one must keep in mind to throw those elements of some familiarity in behavior , manners, leaving space and freedom to his or her partner, to think at peace, search in his own heart - it requires freedom to both think and choose , the next step.
Why would anyone want a forced relationship , even if it worked out in the end?
No one is less than the other, it is all about finding your missing part 🌹☺️
I agree!
They should definitely make sure to properly clarify things between them, peacefully.
From my perspective as a female , I wouldnt pay attention to things that are told to me in anger, as much as they are cleared up when both are at peace.
Otherwise that would be a cause to look back again. Wouldn’t it ?
If he would never look back again, this would not be the end of my story but a great clarification ( which would make me happy because I never wanted anything , just because I , wanted it)- that this person was not my other half to be.
Time is precious so moving on would be the best choice.
Peaceful conversations matters because there is hidden the entire truth.
When talking of preventing both people from moving on, noone should be so low spiritually etc, to allow the other be in such a dilema , ignorance, just because he or she could not have a few peaceful min after years of friendship , To show the respect of seeing the other in the eyes and straighten things out in a appreciative way.
After this , one can keep the door open or close, depending on where things ended up.
What do you think ? Perhaps I am not correct- Could this be tricky ?
Sometimes the healing and finding yourself, is connected with the absence of the other person in one’s life.
My question is, how can someone heal or find themselves, if they miss this person so much?
Things migh take some time, sometimes, not always.
Is this person healing from past wrong Communication , attitude, etc Or is becoming worst because doesn’t have the correct answer , the final response.
In today’s society, One is very welcomed to choose between loving himself more or the other person the same as himself 🙏🏻
This is often a martyrdom, in my vocabulary at least.
While things are not clear enough ,on the other hand is expected this person to heal, to grow ,to go on but sometimes he/she can’t.
If your other half is missing , how do you heal exactly?
If people had no feelings but this is not the case.
We are spiritual, intellectual beings but with feelings.
One must dare to be authentic and real, no matter the Circumstances bring his way.
However or you are healing , or ‘loosing’ the other person. Not both .
Ending, I agree with you about peace, self appreciation and worth, leaving behind what is not yours: be it an attitude or a person.
Loving , appreciating yourself, are your duty and when they follow - good for them ! ☺️
Thank you 💖
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Thanks for watching
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He cheated with escorts for 10 years. We just caught him. He has moved out and he has filed for divorce, irreconcilable differences. In the UK it's no fault divorce. I would not be able to use his cheating to help gain a bigger percentage of our marital assets. I met him in uni, we have same master degree but i stopped working once the boys came. I am proud to be their mom, i saw their first smile, their first step..and my 3 adult sons are such amazing people. They are fun, kind, very caring to me and amongst themselves as brothers. Above all, they have very good values, moral ,ethics . Their dad is french and their grandmother, french, supports him and is horrible anc very wicked with my sons. I am very happy that i won't have to play happy family anymore. It is all fake. My sons have told their dad they are not talking to him and his family frim now on. They finc him dirty. They are so disappointed that my eldest, a junior doctor, wants to get rid of his father's surname .
First of all, I want to say I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through such a painful and difficult experience. It takes so much strength to stand tall amidst such heartbreak. You’ve done an incredible job raising your sons-they sound like compassionate, respectful, and morally grounded individuals, which is a reflection of your love, dedication, and values as their mom.
While this chapter has been painful, it’s clear that you have a supportive and loving bond with your sons, and that is something truly priceless. The strength you’ve shown in building that foundation is something no one can take away from you, not even the mistakes and actions of others.
Though you might not be able to change certain outcomes legally, know that the love and respect of your sons, and the peace of moving on from a “fake” situation, is an invaluable gift. You're stepping into a future where you no longer have to carry the weight of pretending, and that’s a freedom to embrace with pride. Stay strong-you deserve peace, happiness, and all the love your sons clearly have for you. Keep moving forward with your head held high.
0:02 It lets them grow and learn. Just say ❌
Why would you even think of the what the person you left may be going through due to you exit? I couldn't care if had a 2 week party or didn't get out of bed.
Ditto
I am winsome ❤❤❤
Have you ever experienced a moment where your absence spoke louder than your presence? What did it teach you about your own worth 🤔?
Hey! 🙌 That's such a powerful question. I’ve definitely had moments like that, where stepping back made me realize just how much value I bring to the table. It taught me that sometimes, people don’t recognize what they have until it’s no longer right in front of them. It’s a reminder that my worth doesn’t depend on someone else’s acknowledgment but on my own understanding of what I offer. What about you? Have you had a similar experience?
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