Having compassion for the narcissist does not equal tolerating abuse
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
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Thank you so much Petra. Enough is Enough. I did offer so much compassion. Been through it all. The threats, even blackmail, disease..chaos.. it took me 7 years to really see what was going on. (with me) I am doing the inner work for ME now. That's not easy but absolutely necessary for my health and wellbeing. 😘💛
Yes, enough is enough! Great insight on your part. Doing your inner work is so challenging AND rewarding. Keep your eyes on the vision you have for your life. Much love xx
I was reading my old chats with the person and it was sheer madness. He'd be so aggressive and call me coward when I did not respond to his aggression...but I would go back to him in morning. Putting love and peace above everything and because he'd go off at such small things...they were easy to forget and I'd just blame myself for setting him off. Thank you so much for existing Petra. Your wisdom soothes my soul when people don't understand what I'm going through.
And this is My Daughter 💔and they are Good at fooling us 😔My Daughter know I am a good person! Because everyone tells her she is blessed to have a Mother who loves her so Much! My Daughter is trying to Destroy me I was blind but thank God he opened up my eyes!!🙌🏽🙌🏽
Thank you SO much ! As an empathic person I forgive easily . From afar is what I needed to hear .
Just found your channel and OMG, your compassion and such soothing words is what I needed. Will watch ALL your videos till I heal completely. ❤
Happy to see you again Petra! Again, great video and many thanks for sharing your wisdom with us.
I am looking forward to your video about (female) narcs and how they are handling their friendships (I.e. amount of hoovering, silent treatments, etc.) I have seen your previous videos regarding this topic and it really helped me.
Thanks again for your contribution to this community! God bless
I just love the title. Whenever there is behavior, there is a reason. ❤️
Oh yes indeed.....always behind closed doors. Everyone at church only ever saw a "living saint".....the whole church seemed to be conned by this manipulative lady......the meanness /abuse only ever occurred when we were alone, so I was the unloving Christian, making things up. A nightmare!!
This is so TRUE! Thank You so much Dear Petra xxx
You're most welcome Pietje xx
At first it seems so much easier to relent than to deal with the discomfort that comes with standing your ground. Especially when you are being accosted with exaggerated sentiments, guilt trips and sad back stories. But stand anyway and not only will you feel liberated, you'll wonder what took you so long to cut those toxic ties. And yes, they are being nice because they instinctively know that they are loosing control over you.
Bring it out! Go head sister Petra! Speak that truth!
I really tried to "cover up "the bad behaviour. I even dried her tears and comforted her when she wept.
My Daughter told me if someone ever talks about me you are suppose to defend me no matter what 😔I knew that was not normal coming from her!! You are right My Daughter has used me for years!!Love this Video!!!my Daughter is like a empty shell inside!!😔
My Daughter Dad was a Narcissist but I did not know until Years Down the Line!!I know now because my Daughter is just like him and he tried to kill me Mentally and Physically
I just thanked the person that shared this with me. I really needed it!!
I want to say a big thank you to you, for breaking it down like this. So true, real talk-on point... lessons learned, finally! Onwards&upwards, not wasting anymore time on trying to salvage something that is so toxic.
Stay sweet&blessed 😇🥰
Break away (life is short)
Yes the more I let her use me the more she used me !!!I was Blind But God made me see!!🙌🏽
You’re my favourite person on the subject..I thank you so much!
Love and very bright Light🦋
That is so sweet, thank you so much. Love and light beloved.
You're words make so much sense. Thank you for understanding this and helping me heal and transform, and now I have really been able to see what the hell I was putting myself through...without even realizing it's crazy!
Going no contact finally.....by email.....produced torrents of tears (in public at church), blaming me and accusing me of "dumping" her....."why are you upset,?.....tearful answer, " I've been dumped"....sigh!!!
God bless
You're a goddess. Much love from Dwingeloo!
Sweet, thank you! Dwingeloo is prachtig!
You are an ASMRtist
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For moments only..its wierd..
Is overcompassion a form of emotional dysregulation?
Well, I wouldn't use that term specifically. I believe it's our emotional wounds which become triggered (people pleasing, the need for validation, love and acceptance). So we overcompensate in order to get a few crumbs of recognition and kindness.
@@PetraVanDeijl Thank you so much🌿🌹🌿🌞🌎🌍🌏