“The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” -Carl Jung- In knowing this one can then say that ego is a part of psyche that is positive until it is not. Is it fear driven? Is it insecurity based? Perhaps, perhaps not. The neurosis that a human being has as it pertains to both psyche and its ego is a varying entity, everyone is different, situations dictate this. The one constant that Jung preached was self honesty when gazing in the mirror. The inability to do so was in his mind what drives ego out of control. And let’s be honest, truth hurts, and few embrace pain. Therein lies a huge quagmire for the individual and their quest for self control. My proof? Look around you,. Excess and Access is a death knell.
Bravo. Humble pie is always hard to swallow with your pride. My life got a lot easier when I realized it was not my job to be right but simply honest. Let others be right. Let others argue about what’s right. My job is to focus more on being honest. If I’m honest then everything falls into place much easier.
I dono for me I felt I was always (not tootin' my own horn here) way too honest. Especially on the wrong time. Very blunt. I felt dishonesty is sometimes useful to meet my objective. What do you think?
@@donkeylzc sometimes its not what you say (your honesty), rather HOW you say it (ij this case being blunt). Try other softer approaches or indirect approaches while still being honest. Jujitsu
Rival Sports for non-academics, I use Jocko and Jordan Peterson with students. Even some rich entitled students know that there is something more and hunger for it.
In most places I've worked most people are humble it's that 10 percent of employees / managers that aren't and they cause all kinds of problems whether that's not doing what they are told would be a good idea, being lazy, being overconfident and making bad decisions, not being polite, or whatever. As a regular employee not involved in management there isn't much I can do besides confer with managers who are also humble and understanding and let them deal with it.
Just if anyone's wondering, what Jocko is describing with "pulling the string" is called the Socratic Method. You ask a directed line of questioning that evidently leads to the conclusion you want. It's incredibly effective at changing minds, because people feel like they came to the conclusion themselves, rather than having it forced onto them
Love this it's absolutely truth... I've had the hardest time keeping my ego in check. Now I have a hard time keeping quiet when i notice other people allowing their ego to fill the situation and the room. Also best Ego voice ever!
You'll never know me and most likely will never read this but as someone else said, you have changed the trajectory of my life with your knowledge and advice. You cannot reach the end of your journey if you start out facing in the wrong direction. It feels like I'm finally facing the right direction and I thank you for opening my mind so that I could recognize that
After listing to this and coming back a week later I have found this is very hard for me to put into practice and at the fron of my mind among other things. With that said it gave me the opportunity to look at my life and daily interactions and slowly start to critique myself and my thought prosses and I can see a very small change in my perception of my life and I believe that if I keep at it I wont just kill my ego but I'll change who I am and be able to maintain a healthy mindset moving foward. Baby steps
omg the ego conversation is so relatable to me. I work in a room full of super stars, but I am the only programmer. So often I can help them do their job more efficiently but they won’t ask me for help, and if I try offer my help they say no. It’s really frustrating. The last shift I worked I tried to be a but more assertive and just create the fix for one of my coworkers to try show him it would help, and instead he just did it manually anyway 😭
I laugh so hard everytime they do these voices. Seriously, every single time. Wonderful talk. This is something I'm having issues to control, I think I'm almost there, but still it slides from time to time.
Your ego holds you back from everything good life has to offer. Read the book “Ego is the enemy” by Ryan Holiday, changed my perspective about a lot of things
My ex-girlfriend is all into narcissism and it all goes hand and hand. Humility is a good thing and when I think about my biggest experiences of personal growth, many stem from being humbled.
Books are dangerous, authors are as imperfect as you are, what makes you think they are right. Jocko also has ego, he is playing the guru, in all actuality he has no experience in corporate America.
@@bluwng Ever heard of his company called Echelon Front? That's literally his job, to go into "corporate America" and help companies with leadership. Giving advice isn't ego. What makes you think you are right? Be skeptical, sure, but if a book makes sense, and it is practical and helpful, then, it is just right enough to be effective.
Everyone has an ego. Having an ego isn’t “bad.” It’s necessary. However, if you don’t know who you REALLY are (not your mind, body or feelings), your “personal identity” might cause you a lot of suffering.
Holy s***. I was just getting in my car thinking "I've come a long way, and I think it's thanks to overcoming the ego, a painful part of life. Anyway, let's see what Jocko has to say today." and this video was at the top of my Home page
I had a quarrel with the missus. Then I come to you Jocko for a morale boost and boom you just tell the solutions for the exact problem we just had with the wife! This isn't even the first time, you are becoming a life saver for me, sir, thank you!
Something that really got rid of my ego is a different subject but possibly the same idea. I thought I was really good at riding motorcycles on the street. I went to the race track to ride with people who train and learn regularly. I quickly realized I was actually a really bad rider. Joining the groups in learning and training how to do it well gave me a great appreciation of what being good actually was and the importance of always learning and being open to new ideas.
My son, who was about 35 at the time, thought he knew a lot about shooting handguns. After attending one intro to firearms class, he goes, 'Wow, I learned a lot.'
This approach is useful. It's worked on me in the past and it will work on me in the future. I have a feeling laziness might not exist...what I mean is humans are looking for homeostasis. We are looking to put out the minimum amount of energy necessary to maintain where we are at this moment. No matter where we are, we've all made it this far. The only things that will make us put out more effort are: 1: We get a gut feeling that we are suffering more than we need to be, or 2: Something or someone we trust is hinting at a better version of ourselves that's attainable. Legitimately trust the intelligence of the person you're talking to. If they need to change, it won't come by calling them lazy or by laying out their problems...They are the only ones that can grasp their entire lives and change. Thanks for the lesson, gentlemen. I'll try to integrate it.
Jocko, you are both correct. A slapjack is a leather-wrapped piece of flat metal used to slap with a uniform flat point of contact with the metal bending to provide additional momentum. A blackjack is a leather-wrapped coil spring with a piece of thick metal on the top. A flick of the wrist and a black jack builds instant momentum for small quick hits with insane impact. Both items are leather single wrapped with a double wrap on the impact points. My blackjack was about 8in long and had a leather band to slide my hand in as I held it, keeping it on my hand like a glove. My slapjack was about 15in long and had a leather loop meant for the wrist. Both are great tools but their legality depends on the location. Love your show and wise insight, Sir. Thank you for all you do.
I found the best way for me was to start training Brazilian jiu jitsu and muay thai at 43. It was a great lesson in humility. 12+ years later and I'm still getting humbled.
Thank you guys. After watching this I confronted my partner about a fight we had last night. I took ownership about my mistake of demanding her to admit her mistakes, and in doing so admitted I was being egoistic myself in that situation. She forgave me, and we reconciled the whole thing. Taking ownership about my ego hurt a lot. But it was worth it, since I came out better than I was before it. Thank you.
Diplomacy. Sounds easy, but it isn't. Many of us have never learned it, never needed to. Jocko makes it sound easy, because he learned it the hard way. I aint saying don't try, I'm just saying learn slowly. You aint gonna be Jocko the next time you talk to your boss, but you can apply this stuff over time. Knowledge is more than listening. It is doing. Be careful, not quick.
Best advice out there. Everything in these podcats takes practice and failures. So everyone can eventually craft a customized solution for his problem, by adopting the right approach. It's definitely not easy. There's a freaking reason why is so unpopular :) . It physically hurts, to keep our ego in check while using diplomacy with a boss who has a huge one. Takes a lot of time to be consistent and make it a habit, that eventually leads to much less internal fights and thus stress, than before practicing it. Before we fuck up again thinking we got this and we discipline ourselves again. But it needs to get worse before getting better. Because you first fight both your too big ego and the other person's inflated ego.
Thanks for the video. A person can never...and I mean never change another person. A person can only change themselves. This goes against all society training us since childhood. If a person is completely ego driven it's their responsibility to change themselves. If they WONT? Then walk. No matter who it is.
Where I grew up a blackjack was a small wooden bat that had been drilled out and filled with lead. A slapjack was a wide, thick leather piece with lead sewn into the center.
I’m currently watching this because I realized that I had an ego when I looked at the thumbnail and said “I don’t need to watch that because I don’t have an ego”
Not only you can do it but the most important things is the person that produces the resources so you leave it to the person that produces the resources this is the most important things because before the person brought it you he or she knows can do it
I legit watched a video then had a conversation with a friend. Normally i escalate way too fast in an argument but I literally just chilled and thought about how to present it positively. He listened to me in like 30 seconds. It was all about approach and nothing to do with content. I think it was the nobody listening vid.
I've always heard it called "blackjack." Im in the same spot as Jocko... like 98% sure but not 100. Lol it makes me wonder if you guys ever researched it to settle your mini dispute. Love the podcast. Ive watched so many that im starting to watch re-runs. Life changing.
There are blackjacks AND slapjacks. A black jack is a weighted, flexible piece of braided leather that resembles a small baton. A slapjack kind of looks like a leather toungue, also weighted and with a strap made to palm the weapon. There are different sizes of both "tools".
Humility, discipline, courage, helping others, sticking together etc, these values used to be called „a good character“; it seems that modern „self-help“ books have completely forgotten this idea; you need to look in older books to find them; Benjamin Franklin wrote on them (13 virtues), or Marcus Aurelius, for example. I really hate that today, many people with power and reputation promote the opposite: The „easy wealth“, that it’s ok to be a selfish asshole because that’s what might bring you succees and that you don’t need to help others. That you constanly have to show off and impress others with how amazing you are. That is our modern world. The world of „celebrities“ who promote such „modern“ values. But you have the freedom to not follow their example. To not follow them on instagramm or whatever their name. But as Benjamin Franklin wrote in „the way to wealth“: after the old wise had told them his good advice, the people, after applauding him, just returned to their old habits, their vices as if nothing had happened. So, it is only on yourself to be better than these „modern“ values and be an example to others. It’s not a new invention (though I‘m sure the „self-help-books“ will discover this in the future as a „revolutionary idea“ and make big profits), it is common knowledge and testable in real life today.
Charles Bourgoigne Great observation Charles. Stephen Covey talked about this as the ‘Character Ethic’ vs ‘Personality Ethic’ in his book 7 Habits for Highly Effective People.
In the Marines, they tell us to lead by example. The SNCO, NCO, and Officers would follow that one person who yells from the top of their lungs. Then it becomes a domino effect, the moral of the unit and platoon just becomes total toxic. Our company motto, "The beatings will continue until morale improves." I was leading by example. My example is to have empathy and sympathy and to bring my squad and platoon up. Once the other leaders see what is happening. Here comes the mind games, yelling, and trying to make themselves bigger than you. Do something right, you're in the wrong. Do something wrong, you're in the right. Glad I got out from the toxicity and wannabe masculinity. Yelling to me, it just seems you haven't grown up and acting like a child. Grown ass men yelling and try to belittle you. People need to read Carl Jung, his mind is in a different level.
I've found that being tough and SMART beats macho tough every time. I'm impressed you read Jung, most idiots don't even read books in 2020. There is hope after all.
My experiences with Marines and LEOs are that they mostly need healing in their inner child, having been ABUSED by authority figures, parents, teachers, etc. Abuse is a lifestyle for some, especially Marines.
Interesting to hear. I almost joined the Marines, except double vision put a damper on that. I'm having organizational difficulty in the corporate world now. It's tough - I've been in good organizations and using Jocko's techniques are typically respected. However, there are organizations that implicitly value herd mentality etc. I have "the scapegoat mentality". Over time, people just end up bullying me. I've gone to a bunch of therapy about it, but like these videos the response is just "don't be a scapegoat". Strange, because when I try to stand up for myself it just brings more heat on. Oh well. Sick of having to move organizations. Sick of having to wonder if the problem is me or them. I spent a long time at my first company and things went really well... but, was it me or them?
stevebean1234 Im like you. Your approach can work if the higher ups also embrace it. Toxic people above you have authority over you, and when good faces bad in those situations, the bad often is the winner. They will detest your success and fear your power of influence and no matter how subtle you are. With some people or corporate cultures, its a no-win situation.
I can appreciate your conversation and your massage but many people don't speak so precise and knowledgeable common since 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️💯💯🔥🔥♈♈🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️👍👍👍👍
Jocko is the only guy I can see actually holding a knife while making a valid point and not get scrutinized for it, i don’t think it’s wrong in anyway(for him) just funny too me🤣
Sometimes the knife makes me nervous I have seen this and seeing him wave it in a way that does not threaten so my never bothers me now thanks chief xo
I don't know if you'll read this Jocko but you are helping me change my life.
he dont give a shit lmao
Maybe not individually.... while he’s mocking Dong Jong.
@ bruh
@ of course he cares. Jocko does these podcasts to help people, duh
@@Lukas-cg3ms he definitely doesn't read any comments but he does care about changing people's life, just like he did with mine too!
Ego...a product of fear plus insecurity.
Good way to describe it. Really makes you ponder on that
Not tryna be a smartass, but technically that would be a sum, not a product.
@@sunn1846 - Math for the win.
“The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.”
-Carl Jung-
In knowing this one can then say that ego is a part of psyche that is positive until it is not. Is it fear driven? Is it insecurity based? Perhaps, perhaps not. The neurosis that a human being has as it pertains to both psyche and its ego is a varying entity, everyone is different, situations dictate this. The one constant that Jung preached was self honesty when gazing in the mirror. The inability to do so was in his mind what drives ego out of control. And let’s be honest, truth hurts, and few embrace pain. Therein lies a huge quagmire for the individual and their quest for self control. My proof? Look around you,. Excess and Access is a death knell.
Thats the bad ego, the good ego is to try get better on what you do😉
Bravo. Humble pie is always hard to swallow with your pride. My life got a lot easier when I realized it was not my job to be right but simply honest. Let others be right. Let others argue about what’s right. My job is to focus more on being honest. If I’m honest then everything falls into place much easier.
amazing comment. I will repost this comment on my instagra. Thanks dude 👊
Incredibly worded
Amen brother.
I dono for me I felt I was always (not tootin' my own horn here) way too honest. Especially on the wrong time. Very blunt. I felt dishonesty is sometimes useful to meet my objective. What do you think?
@@donkeylzc sometimes its not what you say (your honesty), rather HOW you say it (ij this case being blunt). Try other softer approaches or indirect approaches while still being honest. Jujitsu
As a high schooler, constantly surrounded by entitled and rich kids, with giant (unearned) egos, I wish that we had the Jocko Podcast as a class.
Save your breath, focus on you first.
be the example for those around you. be how you see jocko, for those around you.
Amen brother
Just wait 4 years and you’ll see them fail. It ain’t worth it.
Rival Sports for non-academics, I use Jocko and Jordan Peterson with students. Even some rich entitled students know that there is something more and hunger for it.
I pride myself on my humility.
Wow wow wow, Very humble
But I am the most humble of them all.
THIS - is what people need to see
Right, that is why I am watching
Indeed.
In most places I've worked most people are humble it's that 10 percent of employees / managers that aren't and they cause all kinds of problems whether that's not doing what they are told would be a good idea, being lazy, being overconfident and making bad decisions, not being polite, or whatever. As a regular employee not involved in management there isn't much I can do besides confer with managers who are also humble and understanding and let them deal with it.
one of the true leader of our world.
leader is not position nor title, it is personality, it is mind, it is action, it is integrity.
Name one
jocko
Tergridy weed.
Ego is the result of fear. Fear is what happens when you have a worldview that does not completely serve you and you are also unwilling to learn.
Ego will drive you into a pit of unsatisfied eternal thirst, eternal hunger, greed, fear, and an endless world of unanswered questions.
Absolutely love Echo’s demeanor and the chem between these two somewhat gentle giants. Great examples for us all.
Really appreciate Echo’s humble attitude and his talk about his own example! Respect
I come back to these videos when I start slipping off the path to get some perspective. Thank you Jocko and Echo.
Just if anyone's wondering, what Jocko is describing with "pulling the string" is called the Socratic Method. You ask a directed line of questioning that evidently leads to the conclusion you want. It's incredibly effective at changing minds, because people feel like they came to the conclusion themselves, rather than having it forced onto them
im so glad to have found this podcast. everything that Jocko says is very applicable to life in general
You guys are the father and the elder brother and the mind coach I never had - all in one.
Thanks again Jacko+Echo+everyone involved.
Love this it's absolutely truth... I've had the hardest time keeping my ego in check. Now I have a hard time keeping quiet when i notice other people allowing their ego to fill the situation and the room. Also best Ego voice ever!
Man... So many people need this advice! So many undeserved/unearned egos out there!
His "ego" voice has me cracking up
LOL
You'll never know me and most likely will never read this but as someone else said, you have changed the trajectory of my life with your knowledge and advice. You cannot reach the end of your journey if you start out facing in the wrong direction. It feels like I'm finally facing the right direction and I thank you for opening my mind so that I could recognize that
After listing to this and coming back a week later I have found this is very hard for me to put into practice and at the fron of my mind among other things. With that said it gave me the opportunity to look at my life and daily interactions and slowly start to critique myself and my thought prosses and I can see a very small change in my perception of my life and I believe that if I keep at it I wont just kill my ego but I'll change who I am and be able to maintain a healthy mindset moving foward. Baby steps
Studying Buddhism greatly helped me with the ego and how it creates suffering.
omg the ego conversation is so relatable to me. I work in a room full of super stars, but I am the only programmer. So often I can help them do their job more efficiently but they won’t ask me for help, and if I try offer my help they say no. It’s really frustrating. The last shift I worked I tried to be a but more assertive and just create the fix for one of my coworkers to try show him it would help, and instead he just did it manually anyway 😭
I definitely have to do this daily. Thank you for these podcasts
I laugh so hard everytime they do these voices. Seriously, every single time.
Wonderful talk. This is something I'm having issues to control, I think I'm almost there, but still it slides from time to time.
Your ego holds you back from everything good life has to offer. Read the book “Ego is the enemy” by Ryan Holiday, changed my perspective about a lot of things
My ex-girlfriend is all into narcissism and it all goes hand and hand. Humility is a good thing and when I think about my biggest experiences of personal growth, many stem from being humbled.
Books are dangerous, authors are as imperfect as you are, what makes you think they are right. Jocko also has ego, he is playing the guru, in all actuality he has no experience in corporate America.
@@bluwng Ever heard of his company called Echelon Front? That's literally his job, to go into "corporate America" and help companies with leadership. Giving advice isn't ego. What makes you think you are right? Be skeptical, sure, but if a book makes sense, and it is practical and helpful, then, it is just right enough to be effective.
@Mular Everyone has an ego but i'm not sure I understand your question.
Everyone has an ego. Having an ego isn’t “bad.” It’s necessary. However, if you don’t know who you REALLY are (not your mind, body or feelings), your “personal identity” might cause you a lot of suffering.
Take ownership, poke around lightly, allow room for self analysis, do jujitsu and eat some steak.
Underrated comment
Holy s***. I was just getting in my car thinking "I've come a long way, and I think it's thanks to overcoming the ego, a painful part of life. Anyway, let's see what Jocko has to say today." and this video was at the top of my Home page
Ego comes from good results and stellar performance, that makes it a difficult problem to deal with.
Thank god for Jocko!
Sooo multi leveled.!!!
I had a quarrel with the missus. Then I come to you Jocko for a morale boost and boom you just tell the solutions for the exact problem we just had with the wife! This isn't even the first time, you are becoming a life saver for me, sir, thank you!
This is fantastic. I always confront, but this is so much better!
My humbleness is the greatest thing about me.
Thanks for making me a better man and leader jocko
Something that really got rid of my ego is a different subject but possibly the same idea. I thought I was really good at riding motorcycles on the street. I went to the race track to ride with people who train and learn regularly. I quickly realized I was actually a really bad rider. Joining the groups in learning and training how to do it well gave me a great appreciation of what being good actually was and the importance of always learning and being open to new ideas.
My son, who was about 35 at the time, thought he knew a lot about shooting handguns. After attending one intro to firearms class, he goes, 'Wow, I learned a lot.'
I struggle with this but it’s getting better the more I learn
This approach is useful. It's worked on me in the past and it will work on me in the future.
I have a feeling laziness might not exist...what I mean is humans are looking for homeostasis. We are looking to put out the minimum amount of energy necessary to maintain where we are at this moment. No matter where we are, we've all made it this far. The only things that will make us put out more effort are:
1: We get a gut feeling that we are suffering more than we need to be, or
2: Something or someone we trust is hinting at a better version of ourselves that's attainable.
Legitimately trust the intelligence of the person you're talking to. If they need to change, it won't come by calling them lazy or by laying out their problems...They are the only ones that can grasp their entire lives and change.
Thanks for the lesson, gentlemen.
I'll try to integrate it.
The best teacher is having your ego get put in check. That changes you. Life does that. Overcome and be better everyday
You are helping me to change my life jocko Thankyou.
Awesome video! Could have used this much sooner (for myself and some other folks in mind...) than now but better late than never. 👍🏽
This is probably the most important part of EO imo
Jocko, you are both correct. A slapjack is a leather-wrapped piece of flat metal used to slap with a uniform flat point of contact with the metal bending to provide additional momentum. A blackjack is a leather-wrapped coil spring with a piece of thick metal on the top. A flick of the wrist and a black jack builds instant momentum for small quick hits with insane impact. Both items are leather single wrapped with a double wrap on the impact points. My blackjack was about 8in long and had a leather band to slide my hand in as I held it, keeping it on my hand like a glove. My slapjack was about 15in long and had a leather loop meant for the wrist. Both are great tools but their legality depends on the location.
Love your show and wise insight, Sir. Thank you for all you do.
WOW... THIS WAS my reality check!
I found the best way for me was to start training Brazilian jiu jitsu and muay thai at 43. It was a great lesson in humility. 12+ years later and I'm still getting humbled.
I had the same experience when I started climbing at 60. Very humbling when a 10 year old can climb harder routes than me. Anybody can be a teacher.
I can see this happening in every business. So pull threads, reveal the problem, attacking egos will result in failure
Great stuff.
Absolutely necessary subject
Perfect explanation of micro-managing = ego.
Thank you guys. After watching this I confronted my partner about a fight we had last night. I took ownership about my mistake of demanding her to admit her mistakes, and in doing so admitted I was being egoistic myself in that situation. She forgave me, and we reconciled the whole thing. Taking ownership about my ego hurt a lot. But it was worth it, since I came out better than I was before it. Thank you.
No better sex than make up sex 🤣
lol
Diplomacy. Sounds easy, but it isn't. Many of us have never learned it, never needed to. Jocko makes it sound easy, because he learned it the hard way. I aint saying don't try, I'm just saying learn slowly.
You aint gonna be Jocko the next time you talk to your boss, but you can apply this stuff over time. Knowledge is more than listening. It is doing. Be careful, not quick.
Best advice out there.
Everything in these podcats takes practice and failures. So everyone can eventually craft a customized solution for his problem, by adopting the right approach.
It's definitely not easy. There's a freaking reason why is so unpopular :) . It physically hurts, to keep our ego in check while using diplomacy with a boss who has a huge one. Takes a lot of time to be consistent and make it a habit, that eventually leads to much less internal fights and thus stress, than before practicing it. Before we fuck up again thinking we got this and we discipline ourselves again.
But it needs to get worse before getting better. Because you first fight both your too big ego and the other person's inflated ego.
Much needed stuff to hear
Wow he's humble its a attractive trait 💓
"Ego massage"... Brilliant
When Joko make them funny tough voices , priceless 🙏🏽😂😂😂😂 "ohh,ohh, my supporters dont wanna step up!"👊🏾
Thanks for the video.
A person can never...and I mean never change another person. A person can only change themselves. This goes against all society training us since childhood. If a person is completely ego driven it's their responsibility to change themselves. If they WONT? Then walk.
No matter who it is.
"Those are miiiine" had me dying haha. You are the greatest Jocko!
I too am extraordinarily humble
Hell yeah, great message 🤘
I really enjoy these clips
March 24 listening Manny like to expand his knowledge 💯🔥🔥🤷🏻♂️🙏🙏♈♈
Where I grew up a blackjack was a small wooden bat that had been drilled out and filled with lead. A slapjack was a wide, thick leather piece with lead sewn into the center.
I’m currently watching this because I realized that I had an ego when I looked at the thumbnail and said “I don’t need to watch that because I don’t have an ego”
Recognizing this is my first step took me long enough man I want to become better
Loved this episode 🙏🏼
It’s our ego that makes us believe the other persons ego is the problem.
Life altering with ego1 and ego2 situation equals more than the sum.
That cough tho. The cough of a dragon.
Yo fr lmao
*Eckhart Tolle and David R. Hawkins are the masters of overcoming and transcending the ego.*
Greatest way to rid others of their egos, feed it. Greatest way to rid yourself of ego, starve it.
Not only you can do it but the most important things is the person that produces the resources so you leave it to the person that produces the resources this is the most important things because before the person brought it you he or she knows can do it
I want to be like these men when I’m their age maybe not some super solider but a good self actualized man
I love how you can take Jocko's advice and win an argument with a not so heavily guarded position
I legit watched a video then had a conversation with a friend. Normally i escalate way too fast in an argument but I literally just chilled and thought about how to present it positively. He listened to me in like 30 seconds. It was all about approach and nothing to do with content. I think it was the nobody listening vid.
Damn....
Echo looks JACKED!
J O C K E D
Wow. I’m already doing this. Thanks
This was so funny and educational
Two very important men
"The needs of the few are less important than the needs of the many" - I think this is very close to the SEAL motto. And it's absolutely true.
Same could be said about confrontation of any sort. Flank & over run your problems. Don't give a chance to defend themselves.
Suggest editing / cut to reactions of guest or in this case echo . Would help the conversation flow naturally ..
@8:28 I half-expected Jocko to say "my precious" LMAO
i'm in a band
and just realized how much ego i have to deal with including my own
pull the thread
reveal peoblem
avoid confronting if posssible
be a bouncer, use minimum force necessary
i love how jocko imitate ego 😄
How good is the voice :XD
I've always heard it called "blackjack." Im in the same spot as Jocko... like 98% sure but not 100. Lol it makes me wonder if you guys ever researched it to settle your mini dispute. Love the podcast. Ive watched so many that im starting to watch re-runs. Life changing.
Thanks!
My one hour speech on humility.
love this analogy of pulling the thread...the approach of being a hammer to a nail does not work. eager learner here ready to master life
There are blackjacks AND slapjacks. A black jack is a weighted, flexible piece of braided leather that resembles a small baton. A slapjack kind of looks like a leather toungue, also weighted and with a strap made to palm the weapon. There are different sizes of both "tools".
Humility, discipline, courage, helping others, sticking together etc, these values used to be called „a good character“; it seems that modern „self-help“ books have completely forgotten this idea; you need to look in older books to find them; Benjamin Franklin wrote on them (13 virtues), or Marcus Aurelius, for example.
I really hate that today, many people with power and reputation promote the opposite: The „easy wealth“, that it’s ok to be a selfish asshole because that’s what might bring you succees and that you don’t need to help others. That you constanly have to show off and impress others with how amazing you are.
That is our modern world. The world of „celebrities“ who promote such „modern“ values. But you have the freedom to not follow their example. To not follow them on instagramm or whatever their name.
But as Benjamin Franklin wrote in „the way to wealth“: after the old wise had told them his good advice, the people, after applauding him, just returned to their old habits, their vices as if nothing had happened.
So, it is only on yourself to be better than these „modern“ values and be an example to others.
It’s not a new invention (though I‘m sure the „self-help-books“ will discover this in the future as a „revolutionary idea“ and make big profits), it is common knowledge and testable in real life today.
Charles Bourgoigne Great observation Charles. Stephen Covey talked about this as the ‘Character Ethic’ vs ‘Personality Ethic’ in his book 7 Habits for Highly Effective People.
I love this
An ego tripper is the master of excuses
In the Marines, they tell us to lead by example. The SNCO, NCO, and Officers would follow that one person who yells from the top of their lungs. Then it becomes a domino effect, the moral of the unit and platoon just becomes total toxic. Our company motto, "The beatings will continue until morale improves." I was leading by example. My example is to have empathy and sympathy and to bring my squad and platoon up. Once the other leaders see what is happening. Here comes the mind games, yelling, and trying to make themselves bigger than you. Do something right, you're in the wrong. Do something wrong, you're in the right. Glad I got out from the toxicity and wannabe masculinity. Yelling to me, it just seems you haven't grown up and acting like a child. Grown ass men yelling and try to belittle you. People need to read Carl Jung, his mind is in a different level.
I've found that being tough and SMART beats macho tough every time. I'm impressed you read Jung, most idiots don't even read books in 2020. There is hope after all.
My experiences with Marines and LEOs are that they mostly need healing in their inner child, having been ABUSED by authority figures, parents, teachers, etc. Abuse is a lifestyle for some, especially Marines.
Interesting to hear. I almost joined the Marines, except double vision put a damper on that. I'm having organizational difficulty in the corporate world now. It's tough - I've been in good organizations and using Jocko's techniques are typically respected. However, there are organizations that implicitly value herd mentality etc. I have "the scapegoat mentality". Over time, people just end up bullying me. I've gone to a bunch of therapy about it, but like these videos the response is just "don't be a scapegoat". Strange, because when I try to stand up for myself it just brings more heat on. Oh well. Sick of having to move organizations. Sick of having to wonder if the problem is me or them. I spent a long time at my first company and things went really well... but, was it me or them?
no one needs to read your books...:P
stevebean1234 Im like you. Your approach can work if the higher ups also embrace it. Toxic people above you have authority over you, and when good faces bad in those situations, the bad often is the winner. They will detest your success and fear your power of influence and no matter how subtle you are. With some people or corporate cultures, its a no-win situation.
It is a slapjack that he was thinking of but there is also a military baton referred to as a blackjack.
Bad ass psychology
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I am young but my ego destroyed my life. i now rebuild with more care.
Okay... but how do we build a culture where you can actually be direct and honest?
Do a piece on radical honesty--tell me when and how this is wrong: facebook.com/adamgolding/posts/10107446637905022
Sex robots?
Echo karls- family matters, community first
Jocko is the only guy I can see actually holding a knife while making a valid point and not get scrutinized for it, i don’t think it’s wrong in anyway(for him) just funny too me🤣
Sometimes the knife makes me nervous I have seen this and seeing him wave it in a way that does not threaten so my never bothers me now thanks chief xo
I laughed at my self mate.
Joe Rogan: Have you tried DMT?
Yeah well that dissolves ego
Roe jogan: I’m on it right now
How to really destroy the ego
Jocko: Have you tried Jiu Jitsu?
Why yes, I have.
cant spell LEGO without it.