Sometimes I'm sad and sometimes I'm ok. Sometimes I cant sleep. Sometimes I cry and wipe my tears away. Then I say to myself, you can do this it's not the end of the world. Then i get sad all of a sudden. I guess this is a process that heart breaks go through. It hurts very much. Like a piece of me is gone.
+Maribel Carranza I know excately how you feel. The worst part is the highs and lows and trying to get through them. Stay strong... we will get though this and come out on the other side stronger people.
+Maribel Carranza: I also know how you feel. I went through a terrible divorce ten months ago. I cried in my bed in a ball for days. I finally stood up and said enough is enough and went to the river and sat in my car and did some thinking to myself. Sometimes quiet time helps as well.me time but also quiet time. I had a half a day of thinking and I realized that my divorce was happening whether I liked it or not and I can't change how he feels so I have to move on and I did.
same here . second break up with the same reason. He cheated but not admitting and said that he has no more feelings. Just like my previous relationship.
The hardest part isn't the break up, it's the memories you're left with. It's extremely hard loving someone and letting that person go.. But time is your friend and you will get through it! Good luck!
As many times as I've tried to move on and forget her, I always end up being reminded of her in some way. It really IS a tough thing to get over someone you were/are in love with.
R O that's hard when you have to see the person everyday. If you can quit the job you should. It's too hard seeing the person each day and hard to heal and move on
Pretty Girl_me I would love to leave my job, but I love my job. The difficult aspect is, she is still wanting us to be 'friends'. She still wants us to do lunches and such. I've told her before that the 'just friends' thing just doesn't work for me, to which she gets cold and weird. I guess that is her problem.
R O I don't think you should continue to be friends with her. If you continue to be her friend you will never be able to let go off her. Continuing to be her friend is gonna give you hope that you guys can get back together one day. You should ask her if she wants to give the relationship another try and see what she says. If she says no I really think you should stop being her friend so you can move on
Same. With her I was lonely. Now, I'm just alone. But I think of her every single day, for most of the day. We don't talk at all. She texted me after some time when I was feeling a bit better, she was all like "Hey, I miss you". And I fell for it. She just texted me because she felt lonely. When I replied and tried to make things better she was like "Nah but I still don't know what I want". It hurts to love someone in silence. It hurts to see they don't love you enough to fight for you.
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I tooootally wish I stayed single. I lost myself in a relationship before ever truly discovering myself. Now I’m more lost than I was before the relationship and don’t even know where to look to discovering the real me.
The worst is seeing your ex already in a relationship .... :( after they told you they loved you and asked you to marry them in only 2 months after the relationship. :(....how can someone be so heartless ?
Charlotte Maison I'm sorry to hear that the guy I've been dating hasn't came over or talk to me hardly at all since Thanksgiving I wish he would be man enough to tell me that we broke up but when I confront him he just says I need time but he's already dating someone else I found out it would be nice if these guys would just tell the truth that guy could have told you two months ago you were broken up that is so messed up in so many ways
Sadly..some people have no integrity when it comes to relationships and breaking things off. "Ghosting" as I guess it's called when people go radio silent without any warning.
I wanted to become an interior designer but I was engaged to a stupid man & when i broke up with my fiancée the first thing I did , I got myself an admission for interior designing & now I'm a professional Interior designer. I got my fiance's text one day about being sorry & everything, instead of accusing him for anything I thanked him for the break up. (I think that's the best thing happened to me) I gave myself a few years without running into anyone else because I didn't want sympathies or stupid advices. I took a decision & act accordingly. It's just a phase guys, please respect yourself first & try to take care of your emotional health aswell like you take care of your appearance.
I have always wanted to be an interior decorator but I am over 30 and don't know how to get into it without having to put myself back in student loan debt
hardest breakup ever. I think I'm handling it well. I believe today was as worst as it can get. I literally cried all day and I only got two hours of sleep. I'm spending a good amount of time with family and also with myself. I started writing music, I always wanted to do that. I don't like the fact that I know I have to be alone.. I jumped into this passed relationship 9 months after I got out of a 5 year relationship. and this one only lasted a year but it hurts so much more and I think I'm grieving the loss of my last two exes because I never gave myself that time to be alone. I'm scared but I know I'm strong enough to do this. I'll be okay.
Use your "alone time" to reflect and be honest with yourself on what your relationship really was. Learn to be able to "tell yourself no" and that you'll be better off for it by avoiding heartbreak by getting in a relationship that you knew wasn't right. Let the experience harden your resolve to make better choices that benefit you!
Kelsey Whitehead - wow I'm happy for you...im going thru this now after 9yrs. Omg this is hard...and I want to be married so bad!! I have to have faith!! because I deserve BETTER 😟
Sky T im on the same boat as you! After 8+ years, its only been a week since the breakup and I feel like its not getting easier. Create yourself! Love yourself! If its meant to be, love will find its way back! Hang tight!
I was very comfortable and happy with my single life, then came he, made everything upright, made me feel loved and wanted to love and be loved and then pushed me away for someone else, left me with all my feelings destroyed...
@@canaldodorn839 Thanks you, it's a lot better! I didn't even remember about this comment :) guys, everything will be much much better! just take your time
@@Ketuna Your past experience just happened to me a couple weeks ago and I just found out my ex is dating the girl he cheated on me with. It HURTS but your followup comment just gave me so much hope
I've only been in two real serious relationships..but now that I think back I never really gave myself time to learn how to be happy on my own in between those relationships. I was always trying to seek approval from a new guy to make myself feel better. This time around I am healing on my own.. yes it feels like a lonely road at times and missing the person comes in waves but with the pain I feel growth. Heads up ladies, your broken heart will heal and the best is yet to come.
Retreat, regroup, rediscover who you are. One of the best things that ever happened to me was a break up a few years ago. It led me on a new path of re-discovering who I am and ended up on a road I would not have dreamed. Use it as an opportunity to see your life as a blank canvass & to create whatever you want. I thank that ex every day for breaking up with me. It turned out to be one of the best gifts in my life so far. Good luck!
Everytime I get my heart broken. I think "Well I always have Matthew and his crew... The videos, the advice, and the time they spend telling people this to shall pass. And it gets better. So, thank you. For everything...
My 11yr marriage ended a couple of months ago, this is exactly what I'm going through. Love having teammates like Matthew in my corner. The road seems alittle less scary.
After being in a relationship for two years my boyfriend (now ex) broke up with me over the phone for no apparent reason... simply because he didn’t love me... this was just over a month ago now and I remember that day too well... I cried like a baby all day and night... I smashed things... I felt like I wanted to die for that whole entire first week... then suddenly I felt sad but that scary suicidal mindset seemed to shift... I was so grateful for that because I can’t even describe the pain and sadness I felt during that time... the reason I’m commenting on this video is to say thank you to Mathew for posting this... I’ve watched it so many times during this break up... I’m trying to do exactly what Is said in this video, to create myself and become comfortable with being alone. Let me tell you after a month of working on this I’m starting to get there... it’s worth it guys, stay strong. If you’re going through hell right now please keep fighting don’t give up like I nearly did. 🖤
glad to see im not alone... there are so many people going through the same thing that im going through and i think we should think about this that we are not at all alone👥
My boyfriend and I broke up just before Christmas :( I'm in a different country so I spent Christmas on my own and it was so painful but I think the saying is true what doesn't kill you makes you stronger :) And everything happens for a reason
DMarie girl... I went through the same thing this past Christmas. It's one of the worst feelings in the world. It was literally the worst Christmas of my existence.
I just can't believe that every time u post a video I can rely it on my life it's amazing the things u say and the things that are just so true. Thank you for helping woman understand everything a woman needs to know. Your a big help I will and hope to meet u someday.
This is great advice. I am at the exact same spot as this girl in my break up where the hardest part is coping with being alone. I love what Matthew said about learning how to be ok with being alone and that because I still have to do that I'm not done this journey of healing myself. Thank you Matthew, for helping me get another step closer...
Three weeks into my very 1st break up in a long-distance relationship...felt totally broken emotionally...still feeling like shit most of the days...but every week a bit better.. this just helps a lot! Most of your videos do!! Very greatful for your content!❤️
Hi! How are you now? I just got out of a long distance 3 weeks ago. Before I got in the relationship, I've always been alone so I'm used to it. When I got in the LDR relationship, I'm still physically alone but I didn't have void or didn't feel alone. Now that I'm single again, I find it hard to be alone in public. Because I'm alone and literally have no significant other. Did you feel the same way?
Man. I’ve been struggling on and off with my recent heartbreak and have to completely agree with what you’re saying. Literally been doing this completely by accident in a way and it’s surprised me how well it’s been working. Even went to the cinema by myself the other day
“Progress will make you happy and excited about life again. It’s not easy but the journey you’re in right now is gonna be so worthy later on. And when you’re with that special person in the future, you’re gonna be really glad that you had time to really get strong on your own before you met him. Keep doing what you’re doing.”
I'm just being thankful for all the heartbreaks that I had experienced in my life because it made me become a better version of myself. It's a lifelong process to finally realized that nothing's wrong with me, there are just things that aren't meant to be because God has a better plan ahead of me.
Going back to this video again everytime I need to hear encouraging words to myself. I am on that solitute moment. Spend time alone with myself and really go deep within. You are right, it is an important process after a breakup. Been 8 months now but I am still going to do this process until the day I would know I am healed. Thank you Ashley and Matthew for sharing this♥️
First time I heard you. Im agreed with all you said. But specially.. I love it .. The way you support her. You have an ángel. Sorry for my english im from Chile.
I broke up with him 3 years ago, and I have been dating myself ever since...great way to detox and learn about myself as an independent person...give back to your community, help others, learn a new skill, meet other people and enjoy life...I will be ready when he comes along...he just hasn't arrived yet!
Really agree with this. You need to get to know yourself again after being in a relationship. After any experience a person changes, and after a break up you need to figure out who you are after that experience. To be honest I've been taking myself on dates a lot and it was kinda uncomfortable at first but now I really love my own company! I fill my free time with movies, books and learning a new language or something. So while I do feel lonely sometimes...I'm not really alone :)
Dealing with a breakup right now that's killing me. Listening to this guys videos are the only relieving and hopeful thing I can do right now. These really helped, thanks Matthew
Thank you. A good thoughts about breakup and bridging the time to the end of it. One thing have on your mind-you will be fine. Solitude and finding the sparks to start your life again will gradually take over your emotional life, it will create you in more mature and lovable way, it will enrich your character. You are also going to be more valuable with the experience behind you and that will be noticed by someone special. Love your self unconditionally. Good luck to all heartbroken lovers.
If only women would give time to themselves after a breakup instead of jumping into the next relationship or even overlapping and jumping to another relationship, the world would be a better place. Why? because that can only make them really evolve and be better women, more grounded, more centered, cleaner inside, feeling better. I really do belive that.
Steve Igi 💯💯 work on yourself and let time do its thing!!! I'm done with dating for a while.. after 6 years, I have to let myself grow from this. It's so important to me. If someone came into my life that was amazing, I'd probably say thanks but no thanks.. times like these help us grow sooo much- in so many ways. Allow it to happen and you won't be disappointed.
2 months since you're gone. I no longer feel like a part of me is lost, I no longer feel like someone tore my arm and left me there suffering... I'm getting used to being by myself, I, now find joy just watching some film, learning a new language, texting with my friends... Sometimes I don't text, I don't even remember I used to text someone every night before going to sleep, I'm just there chilling with my fav series and then its time to sleep... In my dreams sometimes you come back to me, but is not you usually, it's everything I wanted you to be, but it's never you. I realised that today when I woke up, you've never been as perfect as my dreams make me think... I'm thinking maybe when we dream we reunite with another souls, we find each other there with random faces (that's why sometimes you dream about some random guy in his 20s and then wake up to realise you called him 'mom' the entire time)... And maybe sometimes you dream with your 'actual' mom but that's not her! Maybe sometimes faces and souls matches there, but not very often tho. I don't know, I don't miss you as much anymore, my days are no longer a disgrace, but I gotta admit sometimes I feel lonely... But I have no doubt I can keep moving forward, sadness comes everytime with lower tides...
One-day I sat alone and talked to myself -god if u really exist if u loved me please disappeared me from this world, now I can't bear pain, and den I closed mah eyes started counting 123-------10 after ten I opened my eyes still I found myself in same place ,den I thought running away from problem is not solution ,fight with prblm. Comment section r full with motivation ,not only me thousands of people r living with broken heart, I learned dat we r broken bt beautiful, now m loving more myself #stay positive 😊
the key to every breakup is spending time alone. spend as much time alone as possible. go running, hiking, walking, trying new food and etc. friends and family will always support you but if you always go to them then you will always rely on them and will never figure yourself out. even if you are in a relationship, spend time alone by and with yourself. Only then you can figure yourself out and what you want in life. its all trails an error. once you break free of all these. new path will open up. how exciting your future would be, who is the lucky person in your future. a whole new world and doors will open up for you.
My girlfriend and I broke up recently. We were long distance and it became too much for her. We still love and care for each other and we’re still in contact. We agreed that we want to get back together in the future when there’s no more distance (she has one more year of college) and I’m going to use this time to find my happiness within myself so that if it doesn’t work out, I’ll still be okay
You tips for dealing with a break up from "him" go surprisingly well for a relationship between two women. Relationships are relationships and love is love.
One problem I had before is that I couldn't be by myself. I would feel isolated, restless and afraid of dying alone. I forgot how to enjoy time alone and entertain myself. Through recent breakup, I watched a lot of his videos and now I got new hobby karate, and now I am seeing someone new who is so sweet. Thank you Matthew for your positive energy! I watched the movies you mentioned in your videos and they are as nice as your words! You are so valuable for this world!
Thank you So much,,,,,,it has been hard and the fact of being alone and losing yourself is the scariest and the most challenging part of the break up....not necessarily losing that person, especially after they show you who they really are.. The fear and anxiety comes from picking yourself back up and recreating who you are and finding new outlets and things to get you through the day, to distract yourself from thoughts of them, etc.....i believe the ones who go through these difficult times are the ones that come out stronger and wiser in the end.
creating yourself instead of finding yourself - love that part, always thought that way as well. It makes much more sense and sets no limits on becoming who you want to be
It helped me a lot to be more positive and seeing the good inside me after painful break up. I know.. i have to love my self first and more than anything else.
Hmm, about the being alone thing: you're never lonely! You're in your own company and I think you should be able to enjoy yourself! That's a wonderful goal to reach, because you get to know yourself better and you discover how rich your diversity is! By knowing this and value your own character, others (at least the right ones) will do so too! :) Every end is also a start, it's about what you create out of this, it's a chance! Take it! By discovering yourself, you gain selfrespect, confidence and love! As strange this might sound, but I wasn't able to tell myself I love you. After my Ex broke up with me, I LOVED myself for giving him an honest chance and suffer from the pain. It was the first time in my life, I told myself I love you for giving him an honest chance and the pain you feel now. Because what you gave came from the deepest of your heart and your being! Be proud of it! I cried and I was happy and sad at the same time. It was a wonderful sadness.
Very good advice! Yes...friends and family can help after a breakup and it's good to talk...but at some point you'll have to sit down on your own and work things out for yourself! Talking to people only puts off the inevitable...that you have to work things out for yourself, Talking to friends and family does help but they can't make you do what you know you should do! Face your heartbreak head on...don't skirt around it cos at some point you'll have to face it otherwise it will haunt you or crop up when you least want it to! Sitting on your own with a pen and paper...write down all the things you liked about your other half and all the things you disliked about your other half, write down what would make you happy...how you could move on...things to keep your mind off him/her, After a while things will become easier/clearer if you practice this...yes...you will have your good days and your bad days...on your bad days go for a walk etc...doctors reckon that going for a walk is better than any antidepressant! you'll come back with a clear mind...feeling better etc, But don't avoid the heartbreak...work through it...not round it! face up to it...it hurts very much but the more you do it on your own the easier it gets! And at some point in your future you will see the light at the end of the dark tunnel...you will realise what will make you happy again and set your goals and work towards them no matter how impossible they seem! start small! Its hard to get motivated when your heart is laying at your feet in a million pieces...but it does and will get better! And just say to yourself "I'm not alone in this heartbreak!" Millions of people around the world are heartbroken as well and going through exactly the same heartbreak we all experience at some point in our lives! you think to yourself "why me!?...why do I have to hurt so bad!?...what did I do to deserve this!?" you did nothing...we all go through it! Good luck and heal the hurt!
I love it when you are saying, go on the date with yourself. I really appreciate it. It’s a good thing to find balance in ourselves again. Thanks 🙏🏻 ❤️
Great advice Matthew Hussey!! I love the idea of being in a relationship with yourself and dating yourself. I also love what you said about 'creating yourself' as opposed to finding yourself. I love going on dates with myself. I go to the cinema all the time on my own, I love it, it's my favourite thing to do. I also love taking myself to dinner, or museums, or hiking. I love spending time alone.
@@palmerphil0901 Yeh it was a blast from the past seeing my old message like that. It’s like a time capsule message 😊 Wow 7 years. I’m doing very well 😊 focusing on my fitness at the moment - weight training, I love lifting weights, and I have been doing a lot of solo travelling. Life is good. 🙏 Thanks for asking - very kind. How are you doing?
@@Lala0RK LOL time capsule.. I love that! When I saw that it had been that long I wasn't sure if you'd even respond. But I threw that message in a bottle out anyway:) Thanks for the response and I'm very happy you sound like you're living your best life and loving it! That makes me smile. I'm going through a rough season but on a path to personal growth and development and pressure makes 💎 diamonds 💎. Something it sounds like you are perfecting.. God is good! Thanks for asking:) 🙏
@@palmerphil0901 Thank you so much for your very lovely response 😊 You are so sweet and kind. I really liked reading your message. Sorry it took so long to reply. Sorry to hear you’re going through a tough time, I hope things become better. How are you feeling today? The diamonds 💎 quote is a good one. Thank you again for your very kind words - I appreciate it a lot.
I tried both, keeping dating after a breakup and dating myself doing what I have always like but never did before, the latter simply rocks. I am amazed by how strong I could be and how much I loved myself and how wise I invest my time to treat myself very well.
Honestly what I love most of your channel is that you come from a loving place❤️ I seen your video about Rejection & you're so passionate about talking to people when they seem to be down & when nothing seems right.. I can relate with this question & You always connect with us and cheer us up! You point out the positive in us and how that hard time we are facing will only help us grow and make us stronger and remind us to love life :) thanks again for spreading love to broken hearts ...your idea of Valentine's in PJs was really thoughtful and I'm sure you'll make it a special day for everyone 💌💐😊thank again! X
I was just broken up with in the beginning of February, I instantly threw myself into my friends and family because the second I was alone I was left to think about how everything’s different now, how my phones not buzzing with your texts constantly. It’s been maybe 2 almost 3 weeks since we broke it off and the first week was spent pretending.... pretending that I was fine, that nothing happened because I wasn’t ready to tell my friends yet. The whole heart break made me feel so closed off, made me not even wanna try again. But now that it’s been almost 3 weeks I get it, I honestly am learning what I want, what’s gonna make haley happy. I use to be alone and hate it but now I’m slowly finding peace with it.
Matthew's out look on every situation just blows my mind HOW he can be so insightful 👍 Getting out of a long term relationship good or BAD is the hardest thing to get yourself back from. You live every emotion possible Sad/ happy/ lonely/ etc Creating a NEW self is exactly what Is the smartest thing to do!!!! It's also Fun finding the NEW YOU in the process!! Becoming an AMAZING woman and Truly being Happy in YOUR OWN SKIN Is the BEST feeling EVER! Thx for the AWESOME videos Matthew 👍😊👍 I'm still on my journey finding the BEST ME! But your videos are my motivation! Thank you! 👍❤👍
That is so true ... I'm distracting myself from my heart break and its exhausting me. Putting proper energy into personnal growth makes much more sense. Thank you 💗
I am just a small voice but I just want to say thank you to Forwago. This program helped me to build self-confidence and taught me how to believe in myself. More people should find out about it. Thank you, Forwago!
Ooh god that's so true ...❤️ I was in the same position this girl is in after 3 months of my breakup but today it feels worth it to have it ❤️ because I never felt myself so close to myself before this breakup ❤️ know I feel comfortable alone ❤️ I'm enjoying solitude again 😘❤️
Every single word he said is 100% right not because I think he's right but because I went through it all and honestly no doubt it's so worth it in the end alhamdulillah and masha'allah-Allah 🙌🏼🙏🏼
I like that line "create yourself don't find yourself". Signed up this afternoon for guitar lessons. Going to find a new passion. Take that negative energy and channel it to something constructive
Thank you for your wise words! I have watched many videos on getting over an ex, how to get an ex back, and so forth. I believe what you provide, gives people a realistic approach to dealing with heartbreak. It is one of the most gut wrenching experiences people go through. I recently got out of a relationship about 3 months ago. I miss the guy everyday but I am focusing on doing things for myself. It is really hard though, I am in the same position as the girl, however, the thing that kills me right now is how much I actually miss him. It is not that I feel alone, because before I met him, I was a pro at being alone and I have got use to that again, but it is the feeling of yearning someone who is no longer there. But, like mentioned above, your videos are realistic and I always feel better about myself after watching them. Therefore, thank you!
what about people who grow up as an only child....ive spent my whole life alone! my most creative, positive, outgoing and optimistic self was in a relationship as a team, once they ended i felt as if i was back where i had always been. and of course i was comfortable alone, probably until after living with my first girlfriend and finding out how much more enjoyable life was then, it makes me dread being a lone, although being alone is something im very familiar with, its not something i have ever been able to get comfortable with again.
I’ve never been alone. My husband just left me for someone my sons age two months ago We were together 17 years. This is what I think I need, to learn to be alone . Im so lost. I would love to see Mathew do more videos on older people that go through this in long term marriages, I know that not what you do mainly, but all your advice is amazing. I think you could really offer some help to a large population that are desperately in need it. There are some different problems that arise with kids and houses and money that are devastating. You’re very good at what you do. I’m 57 and it’s very much more difficult at this age. I’m hoping I can find another person at some point. I need to be comfortable alone first.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
I'm having a very hard time .. after breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years after finding out that he lied from the get go.. and a manipulator.. I realize now that I don't miss him exactly, but the comfort the familiarity brought me. It's painful and lonely, scary too... your insightful videos have helped and I thank you
This is what I’m trying to do. solitude. Time for myself: it is true, it is a great opportunity to reconsider ourselves, our inner strenght, our potential . It’s hard, still is, cause I do understand the feeling of being alone, but I also feel proud of myself for what I’m doing
I was very content with the idea that, if I never found the right person, I would be okay by myself. Then I met a woman who I thought was everything I was missing. I knew her for a half year where we were friends before she made the first move and basically asked me to ask her on a date. I tried to maintain my independence as best as I could, and did pretty well for the first few months. But as soon as I let myself start really falling for her, she started pulling away and eventually broke up with me. I had started really feeling like I had a family with her and her daughter, and that I was going to be her daughter's step-dad one day. Just one day, she just decided she didn't want to be with me anymore, and she dragged me on for two more months, always just pushing me away any time I wanted to see her, before she finally broke up with me. It hurt like hell, but I'm starting to see that she wasn't good for me. When things were good they were great, but the moment we had any problems whatsoever, she just emotionally bailed so she wouldn't get hurt, and then made it look like it was my fault, implying I was clingy and needy because I wanted to see her more than once a month. Be careful who you give your heart to. Some people aren't emotionally mature enough to be honest with themselves about what they want, or just run at the first site of trouble without even trying to communitcate.
Listen you are not alone I have felt like this several times and going through it now but believe it or not a couple of years from now this will be a blip in your existence. You got this keep fighting, we got this.
Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
I jumped into a new relationship very quick after a heartbreaking long term relationship ends. Having someone next to me did help me a lot to heal my wounds quicker from my old relationship. I finally completely moved on after a year. But also I lost interest in my current boyfriend. I know it was a selfish thing to do to take someone as a rebound. So this time I want to spend more time with myself before I commit to a new relationship. I want to find a guy I really attracted instead of just a companion.
After breakup left alone with such an heartache and pain with memories that comes haunting around makes me feel so week mentally unable to move forward even to do anything I used to like doing...its been so hard ...anyway Matthew uve been so amazingly helpful .. Thank you...n I luv this yur advice on finding ourselves
"Being alone..." Lonelyness man,what a terrifying word.To be nearby so many ppl who are having great time and such yet you still feel like u are sitting in an black void,so empty - like a brand new house which was recently bought... For everyone who may be reading this right now,know that i am there and others have been there before us,so even if it seems like a terrible place to be its still place many ppl visit from time to time,so u are not alone dear friend,as i am not too...
This makes so much sense! I am now going to feel more into my body when it comes to being comfortabe to be alone, cause this is causing me a lot of anxiety right now and I am willing to make myself feel better and to get to know my triggers better.
I cry fast everyday, sometimes I can’t control myself want to call ex. I know, this is Prozess, but really to hard to go. Every day I hold on, I will praise myself, getting closer to a healthy self.
My husband left on NYE's he was a self harmed who would not get help and he had multiple children by multiple women it all became to much trying to help someone who refuses to see they have a problem. I miss him every day. I miss the man I married 2 years ago in Jamaica and after 11 months I'm still having such a tough time of letting go and not texting him and calling him .. I'm trying though
Hayley Hilton you have to find a way to move on. You know he is no good and won't change and he keeps hurting you. Love is not suppose to hurt it's suppose to bring joy and happiness. Please Stop texting him and calling him. He will just hurt you more. He doesn't love you.
i tell you what this has been by far the best advise i have heard i broke up with my girl about a month ago and trust me it was not easy finishing it was not the first time either that it happened and finding your self more like find the things you use to do going to the gym studying finding your passion and what you believe in i have traveled world and met many people and been to many dangerous places as well in my job dont get me wrong when i broke from her i knew it was going to hit me at some point i went crazy at her now good more emotional based stuff ect not good for the mind but over time it heals we have blocked each other on social media i had to accept that its life but growing on your own is the best way i didn't actually mind being alone
At times I’m okay and then it’s like I’ll come across something that reminds me of you and it’s like I’m right back to the beginning and all the progress that I made getting over you just goes in the trash.. getting over you seems impossible but I know there’s no way can ever be together again..
Sometimes I'm sad and sometimes I'm ok. Sometimes I cant sleep. Sometimes I cry and wipe my tears away. Then I say to myself, you can do this it's not the end of the world. Then i get sad all of a sudden. I guess this is a process that heart breaks go through. It hurts very much. Like a piece of me is gone.
+Maribel Carranza I know excately how you feel. The worst part is the highs and lows and trying to get through them. Stay strong... we will get though this and come out on the other side stronger people.
+Maribel Carranza: I also know how you feel. I went through a terrible divorce ten months ago. I cried in my bed in a ball for days. I finally stood up and said enough is enough and went to the river and sat in my car and did some thinking to myself. Sometimes quiet time helps as well.me time but also quiet time. I had a half a day of thinking and I realized that my divorce was happening whether I liked it or not and I can't change how he feels so I have to move on and I did.
Maribel Carranza Exactly my emotions :( stay strong
Maribel Carranza this is me right now :(
same here . second break up with the same reason. He cheated but not admitting and said that he has no more feelings. Just like my previous relationship.
The hardest part isn't the break up, it's the memories you're left with. It's extremely hard loving someone and letting that person go.. But time is your friend and you will get through it! Good luck!
As many times as I've tried to move on and forget her, I always end up being reminded of her in some way. It really IS a tough thing to get over someone you were/are in love with.
On top of it...I work with her and we used to spend ALOT of time together. It is really tough to get over someone you work with. I see her every day!
R O that's hard when you have to see the person everyday. If you can quit the job you should. It's too hard seeing the person each day and hard to heal and move on
Pretty Girl_me I would love to leave my job, but I love my job. The difficult aspect is, she is still wanting us to be 'friends'. She still wants us to do lunches and such. I've told her before that the 'just friends' thing just doesn't work for me, to which she gets cold and weird. I guess that is her problem.
R O I don't think you should continue to be friends with her. If you continue to be her friend you will never be able to let go off her. Continuing to be her friend is gonna give you hope that you guys can get back together one day. You should ask her if she wants to give the relationship another try and see what she says. If she says no I really think you should stop being her friend so you can move on
the way she said ''being alone'' broke my heart a little cause i feel the same
mery Ann same.. I wanted to hug her. I know the way she's feeling to the T. Almost like she was speaking for me.
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Admitting that broke my heart too because being alone the feeling of being alone after a break up is the worst.
The obvious heartbreak in her voice made me cry a little bit. I can totally relate. Praying for her. 🥲😍
I was alone during the relationship
Same. With her I was lonely. Now, I'm just alone. But I think of her every single day, for most of the day. We don't talk at all. She texted me after some time when I was feeling a bit better, she was all like "Hey, I miss you". And I fell for it. She just texted me because she felt lonely. When I replied and tried to make things better she was like "Nah but I still don't know what I want". It hurts to love someone in silence. It hurts to see they don't love you enough to fight for you.
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Exactly Viv. She didn’t value or understand me.
9 years of feeling alone and neglected....I regret marrying him.divorcing now ...life is a mess and so disappointing. But I WILL get thru this
i felt this.........reminds me of the Adele song "Melt my heart to stone" where she says "Im the only one in love"
I can relate
Creating yourself instead of finding yourself - love that!
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"Date yourself" is a great concept. I'm going to try this. Thank you.
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I tooootally wish I stayed single. I lost myself in a relationship before ever truly discovering myself. Now I’m more lost than I was before the relationship and don’t even know where to look to discovering the real me.
Exactly same story for me
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The worst is seeing your ex already in a relationship .... :( after they told you they loved you and asked you to marry them in only 2 months after the relationship. :(....how can someone be so heartless ?
that is awful!
why people got lie?!?
jimmy roberson I have no clue when I confronted him he said but we already broke up 2 months ago ......-_-
+Charlotte Maison aw :(
Charlotte Maison I'm sorry to hear that the guy I've been dating hasn't came over or talk to me hardly at all since Thanksgiving I wish he would be man enough to tell me that we broke up but when I confront him he just says I need time but he's already dating someone else I found out it would be nice if these guys would just tell the truth that guy could have told you two months ago you were broken up that is so messed up in so many ways
Sadly..some people have no integrity when it comes to relationships and breaking things off. "Ghosting" as I guess it's called when people go radio silent without any warning.
one of the saddest things in life is having made so many happy memories with someone who is now just a memory. :-(
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Damn, that sucks. I think eventually you will create new memories which will be amazing on their own right. Focus on that :)
I wanted to become an interior designer but I was engaged to a stupid man & when i broke up with my fiancée the first thing I did , I got myself an admission for interior designing & now I'm a professional Interior designer. I got my fiance's text one day about being sorry & everything, instead of accusing him for anything I thanked him for the break up. (I think that's the best thing happened to me)
I gave myself a few years without running into anyone else because I didn't want sympathies or stupid advices. I took a decision & act accordingly. It's just a phase guys, please respect yourself first & try to take care of your emotional health aswell like you take care of your appearance.
Zuha Abid this happened to me too
Barbieandguns I hope you're doing okay now
I have always wanted to be an interior decorator but I am over 30 and don't know how to get into it without having to put myself back in student loan debt
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hardest breakup ever. I think I'm handling it well. I believe today was as worst as it can get. I literally cried all day and I only got two hours of sleep. I'm spending a good amount of time with family and also with myself. I started writing music, I always wanted to do that. I don't like the fact that I know I have to be alone.. I jumped into this passed relationship 9 months after I got out of a 5 year relationship. and this one only lasted a year but it hurts so much more and I think I'm grieving the loss of my last two exes because I never gave myself that time to be alone. I'm scared but I know I'm strong enough to do this. I'll be okay.
Use your "alone time" to reflect and be honest with yourself on what your relationship really was. Learn to be able to "tell yourself no" and that you'll be better off for it by avoiding heartbreak by getting in a relationship that you knew wasn't right. Let the experience harden your resolve to make better choices that benefit you!
Kelsey Whitehead - wow I'm happy for you...im going thru this now after 9yrs. Omg this is hard...and I want to be married so bad!! I have to have faith!! because I deserve BETTER 😟
Sky T im on the same boat as you! After 8+ years, its only been a week since the breakup and I feel like its not getting easier. Create yourself! Love yourself! If its meant to be, love will find its way back! Hang tight!
I wonder how u doin now a year later
How are you now?
I was very comfortable and happy with my single life, then came he, made everything upright, made me feel loved and wanted to love and be loved and then pushed me away for someone else, left me with all my feelings destroyed...
Same, just happened to me. I hope you're doing better!
same here, hope youre better
@@canaldodorn839 Thanks you, it's a lot better! I didn't even remember about this comment :) guys, everything will be much much better! just take your time
@@Ketuna Your past experience just happened to me a couple weeks ago and I just found out my ex is dating the girl he cheated on me with. It HURTS but your followup comment just gave me so much hope
@@LCarmela I totally understand your feeling but trust me you will be fine and remember you deserve someone who really loves you and cares about you
my mom was suprized how fast I moved on from my divorce. She said I am a very strong woman and she is so proud of me.
Sending healing vibes to all of us going through such a painful situation.
I've only been in two real serious relationships..but now that I think back I never really gave myself time to learn how to be happy on my own in between those relationships. I was always trying to seek approval from a new guy to make myself feel better. This time around I am healing on my own.. yes it feels like a lonely road at times and missing the person comes in waves but with the pain I feel growth. Heads up ladies, your broken heart will heal and the best is yet to come.
How are you now? Did you learn how to be a happy single?
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Retreat, regroup, rediscover who you are. One of the best things that ever happened to me was a break up a few years ago. It led me on a new path of re-discovering who I am and ended up on a road I would not have dreamed. Use it as an opportunity to see your life as a blank canvass & to create whatever you want. I thank that ex every day for breaking up with me. It turned out to be one of the best gifts in my life so far. Good luck!
Great advice, thanks!
Everytime I get my heart broken. I think "Well I always have Matthew and his crew... The videos, the advice, and the time they spend telling people this to shall pass. And it gets better.
So, thank you. For everything...
Rejection and loneliness is really tough ❤️
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My 11yr marriage ended a couple of months ago, this is exactly what I'm going through. Love having teammates like Matthew in my corner. The road seems alittle less scary.
After being in a relationship for two years my boyfriend (now ex) broke up with me over the phone for no apparent reason... simply because he didn’t love me... this was just over a month ago now and I remember that day too well... I cried like a baby all day and night... I smashed things... I felt like I wanted to die for that whole entire first week... then suddenly I felt sad but that scary suicidal mindset seemed to shift... I was so grateful for that because I can’t even describe the pain and sadness I felt during that time... the reason I’m commenting on this video is to say thank you to Mathew for posting this... I’ve watched it so many times during this break up... I’m trying to do exactly what Is said in this video, to create myself and become comfortable with being alone. Let me tell you after a month of working on this I’m starting to get there... it’s worth it guys, stay strong. If you’re going through hell right now please keep fighting don’t give up like I nearly did. 🖤
glad to see im not alone... there are so many people going through the same thing that im going through and i think we should think about this that we are not at all alone👥
maaz fatmi yea we together bro
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I know it’s extreme for her to say “he wrecked her” but I literally am in her shoes right now
Right? Took the exact words out of my mind😩
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almost a year and a half & I'm not afraid to be alone anymore. still need more time but I'll get there ❤
My boyfriend and I broke up just before Christmas :( I'm in a different country so I spent Christmas on my own and it was so painful but I think the saying is true what doesn't kill you makes you stronger :) And everything happens for a reason
DMarie girl... I went through the same thing this past Christmas. It's one of the worst feelings in the world. It was literally the worst Christmas of my existence.
I just can't believe that every time u post a video I can rely it on my life it's amazing the things u say and the things that are just so true. Thank you for helping woman understand everything a woman needs to know. Your a big help I will and hope to meet u someday.
How could you be alone when u r with self
This is great advice. I am at the exact same spot as this girl in my break up where the hardest part is coping with being alone. I love what Matthew said about learning how to be ok with being alone and that because I still have to do that I'm not done this journey of healing myself. Thank you Matthew, for helping me get another step closer...
"It is not easy now, but it will be worth it later on" I needed to hear that
"Progress makes you happy" :) be self observant
Three weeks into my very 1st break up in a long-distance relationship...felt totally broken emotionally...still feeling like shit most of the days...but every week a bit better.. this just helps a lot! Most of your videos do!! Very greatful for your content!❤️
Hi! How are you now? I just got out of a long distance 3 weeks ago. Before I got in the relationship, I've always been alone so I'm used to it. When I got in the LDR relationship, I'm still physically alone but I didn't have void or didn't feel alone.
Now that I'm single again, I find it hard to be alone in public. Because I'm alone and literally have no significant other. Did you feel the same way?
Man. I’ve been struggling on and off with my recent heartbreak and have to completely agree with what you’re saying. Literally been doing this completely by accident in a way and it’s surprised me how well it’s been working. Even went to the cinema by myself the other day
you ARE our teammate, Mathew! so heart warming. thanks for existing ^____^
“Progress will make you happy and excited about life again. It’s not easy but the journey you’re in right now is gonna be so worthy later on. And when you’re with that special person in the future, you’re gonna be really glad that you had time to really get strong on your own before you met him. Keep doing what you’re doing.”
this was so so helpfull, not only for a romantic heartbreak, but for creating yourself after the death of a loving one
I'm just being thankful for all the heartbreaks that I had experienced in my life because it made me become a better version of myself. It's a lifelong process to finally realized that nothing's wrong with me, there are just things that aren't meant to be because God has a better plan ahead of me.
Going back to this video again everytime I need to hear encouraging words to myself. I am on that solitute moment. Spend time alone with myself and really go deep within. You are right, it is an important process after a breakup. Been 8 months now but I am still going to do this process until the day I would know I am healed. Thank you Ashley and Matthew for sharing this♥️
Thank you for making these videos to help me pick myself up after a breakup, and to develop myself and find my own happiness.
First time I heard you. Im agreed with all you said. But specially.. I love it .. The way you support her. You have an ángel. Sorry for my english im from Chile.
I broke up with him 3 years ago, and I have been dating myself ever since...great way to detox and learn about myself as an independent person...give back to your community, help others, learn a new skill, meet other people and enjoy life...I will be ready when he comes along...he just hasn't arrived yet!
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Really agree with this. You need to get to know yourself again after being in a relationship. After any experience a person changes, and after a break up you need to figure out who you are after that experience.
To be honest I've been taking myself on dates a lot and it was kinda uncomfortable at first but now I really love my own company! I fill my free time with movies, books and learning a new language or something. So while I do feel lonely sometimes...I'm not really alone :)
Dealing with a breakup right now that's killing me. Listening to this guys videos are the only relieving and hopeful thing I can do right now. These really helped, thanks Matthew
Thank you. A good thoughts about breakup and bridging the time to the end of it. One thing have on your mind-you will be fine. Solitude and finding the sparks to start your life again will gradually take over your emotional life, it will create you in more mature and lovable way, it will enrich your character.
You are also going to be more valuable with the experience behind you and that will be noticed by someone special. Love your self unconditionally. Good luck to all heartbroken lovers.
If only women would give time to themselves after a breakup instead of jumping into the next relationship or even overlapping and jumping to another relationship, the world would be a better place. Why? because that can only make them really evolve and be better women, more grounded, more centered, cleaner inside, feeling better. I really do belive that.
Steve Igi 💯💯 work on yourself and let time do its thing!!! I'm done with dating for a while.. after 6 years, I have to let myself grow from this. It's so important to me. If someone came into my life that was amazing, I'd probably say thanks but no thanks.. times like these help us grow sooo much- in so many ways. Allow it to happen and you won't be disappointed.
2 months since you're gone. I no longer feel like a part of me is lost, I no longer feel like someone tore my arm and left me there suffering... I'm getting used to being by myself, I, now find joy just watching some film, learning a new language, texting with my friends... Sometimes I don't text, I don't even remember I used to text someone every night before going to sleep, I'm just there chilling with my fav series and then its time to sleep... In my dreams sometimes you come back to me, but is not you usually, it's everything I wanted you to be, but it's never you. I realised that today when I woke up, you've never been as perfect as my dreams make me think... I'm thinking maybe when we dream we reunite with another souls, we find each other there with random faces (that's why sometimes you dream about some random guy in his 20s and then wake up to realise you called him 'mom' the entire time)... And maybe sometimes you dream with your 'actual' mom but that's not her! Maybe sometimes faces and souls matches there, but not very often tho. I don't know, I don't miss you as much anymore, my days are no longer a disgrace, but I gotta admit sometimes I feel lonely... But I have no doubt I can keep moving forward, sadness comes everytime with lower tides...
One-day I sat alone and talked to myself -god if u really exist if u loved me please disappeared me from this world, now I can't bear pain, and den I closed mah eyes started counting 123-------10 after ten I opened my eyes still I found myself in same place ,den I thought running away from problem is not solution ,fight with prblm. Comment section r full with motivation ,not only me thousands of people r living with broken heart, I learned dat we r broken bt beautiful, now m loving more myself #stay positive 😊
the key to every breakup is spending time alone. spend as much time alone as possible. go running, hiking, walking, trying new food and etc. friends and family will always support you but if you always go to them then you will always rely on them and will never figure yourself out. even if you are in a relationship, spend time alone by and with yourself. Only then you can figure yourself out and what you want in life. its all trails an error. once you break free of all these. new path will open up. how exciting your future would be, who is the lucky person in your future. a whole new world and doors will open up for you.
My girlfriend and I broke up recently. We were long distance and it became too much for her. We still love and care for each other and we’re still in contact. We agreed that we want to get back together in the future when there’s no more distance (she has one more year of college) and I’m going to use this time to find my happiness within myself so that if it doesn’t work out, I’ll still be okay
You tips for dealing with a break up from "him" go surprisingly well for a relationship between two women. Relationships are relationships and love is love.
One problem I had before is that I couldn't be by myself. I would feel isolated, restless and afraid of dying alone. I forgot how to enjoy time alone and entertain myself. Through recent breakup, I watched a lot of his videos and now I got new hobby karate, and now I am seeing someone new who is so sweet. Thank you Matthew for your positive energy! I watched the movies you mentioned in your videos and they are as nice as your words! You are so valuable for this world!
Thank you So much,,,,,,it has been hard and the fact of being alone and losing yourself is the scariest and the most challenging part of the break up....not necessarily losing that person, especially after they show you who they really are.. The fear and anxiety comes from picking yourself back up and recreating who you are and finding new outlets and things to get you through the day, to distract yourself from thoughts of them, etc.....i believe the ones who go through these difficult times are the ones that come out stronger and wiser in the end.
creating yourself instead of finding yourself - love that part, always thought that way as well. It makes much more sense and sets no limits on becoming who you want to be
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It helped me a lot to be more positive and seeing the good inside me after painful break up. I know.. i have to love my self first and more than anything else.
You're wonderfully encouraging, positive and supportive!
Hmm, about the being alone thing: you're never lonely! You're in your own company and I think you should be able to enjoy yourself! That's a wonderful goal to reach, because you get to know yourself better and you discover how rich your diversity is! By knowing this and value your own character, others (at least the right ones) will do so too! :) Every end is also a start, it's about what you create out of this, it's a chance! Take it! By discovering yourself, you gain selfrespect, confidence and love! As strange this might sound, but I wasn't able to tell myself I love you. After my Ex broke up with me, I LOVED myself for giving him an honest chance and suffer from the pain. It was the first time in my life, I told myself I love you for giving him an honest chance and the pain you feel now. Because what you gave came from the deepest of your heart and your being! Be proud of it! I cried and I was happy and sad at the same time. It was a wonderful sadness.
it sucks cuz i really hear the sadness in her voice. :C i hope she is in a much better place now
Matthew Hussey, you're my great inspiration!I love watching all the videos. Your each and every word motivates me.
Thanks for being there!
Loved the video. Love the lesson on solitude. I think too many people are too dependent on others. I'm married, but I still go on dates with myself.
Thank you
Very good advice! Yes...friends and family can help after a breakup and it's good to talk...but at some point you'll have to sit down on your own and work things out for yourself! Talking to people only puts off the inevitable...that you have to work things out for yourself, Talking to friends and family does help but they can't make you do what you know you should do! Face your heartbreak head on...don't skirt around it cos at some point you'll have to face it otherwise it will haunt you or crop up when you least want it to! Sitting on your own with a pen and paper...write down all the things you liked about your other half and all the things you disliked about your other half, write down what would make you happy...how you could move on...things to keep your mind off him/her, After a while things will become easier/clearer if you practice this...yes...you will have your good days and your bad days...on your bad days go for a walk etc...doctors reckon that going for a walk is better than any antidepressant! you'll come back with a clear mind...feeling better etc, But don't avoid the heartbreak...work through it...not round it! face up to it...it hurts very much but the more you do it on your own the easier it gets! And at some point in your future you will see the light at the end of the dark tunnel...you will realise what will make you happy again and set your goals and work towards them no matter how impossible they seem! start small! Its hard to get motivated when your heart is laying at your feet in a million pieces...but it does and will get better! And just say to yourself "I'm not alone in this heartbreak!" Millions of people around the world are heartbroken as well and going through exactly the same heartbreak we all experience at some point in our lives! you think to yourself "why me!?...why do I have to hurt so bad!?...what did I do to deserve this!?" you did nothing...we all go through it! Good luck and heal the hurt!
I love it when you are saying, go on the date with yourself. I really appreciate it. It’s a good thing to find balance in ourselves again. Thanks 🙏🏻 ❤️
I think people in some point of life will always met with wrong person but that person will teach you more about life
Great advice Matthew Hussey!! I love the idea of being in a relationship with yourself and dating yourself. I also love what you said about 'creating yourself' as opposed to finding yourself.
I love going on dates with myself. I go to the cinema all the time on my own, I love it, it's my favourite thing to do. I also love taking myself to dinner, or museums, or hiking. I love spending time alone.
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Notice it's been 7 years since this comment. How are you doing?
@@palmerphil0901 Yeh it was a blast from the past seeing my old message like that. It’s like a time capsule message 😊 Wow 7 years. I’m doing very well 😊 focusing on my fitness at the moment - weight training, I love lifting weights, and I have been doing a lot of solo travelling. Life is good. 🙏 Thanks for asking - very kind. How are you doing?
@@Lala0RK LOL time capsule.. I love that! When I saw that it had been that long I wasn't sure if you'd even respond. But I threw that message in a bottle out anyway:) Thanks for the response and I'm very happy you sound like you're living your best life and loving it! That makes me smile. I'm going through a rough season but on a path to personal growth and development and pressure makes 💎 diamonds 💎. Something it sounds like you are perfecting.. God is good! Thanks for asking:) 🙏
@@palmerphil0901 Thank you so much for your very lovely response 😊 You are so sweet and kind. I really liked reading your message. Sorry it took so long to reply. Sorry to hear you’re going through a tough time, I hope things become better. How are you feeling today? The diamonds 💎 quote is a good one. Thank you again for your very kind words - I appreciate it a lot.
I fell in love with him. It’s really hard moving on when he feels like the one. But I’m trying to move on now
Same here, do you feel better ?
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After the heartbreak. The best is to accept the pain and process it . Discover yourself first before you want someone in your life.
I tried both, keeping dating after a breakup and dating myself doing what I have always like but never did before, the latter simply rocks. I am amazed by how strong I could be and how much I loved myself and how wise I invest my time to treat myself very well.
Honestly what I love most of your channel is that you come from a loving place❤️ I seen your video about Rejection & you're so passionate about talking to people when they seem to be down & when nothing seems right.. I can relate with this question & You always connect with us and cheer us up! You point out the positive in us and how that hard time we are facing will only help us grow and make us stronger and remind us to love life :) thanks again for spreading love to broken hearts ...your idea of Valentine's in PJs was really thoughtful and I'm sure you'll make it a special day for everyone 💌💐😊thank again! X
I was just broken up with in the beginning of February, I instantly threw myself into my friends and family because the second I was alone I was left to think about how everything’s different now, how my phones not buzzing with your texts constantly. It’s been maybe 2 almost 3 weeks since we broke it off and the first week was spent pretending.... pretending that I was fine, that nothing happened because I wasn’t ready to tell my friends yet. The whole heart break made me feel so closed off, made me not even wanna try again. But now that it’s been almost 3 weeks I get it, I honestly am learning what I want, what’s gonna make haley happy. I use to be alone and hate it but now I’m slowly finding peace with it.
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Better to be alone, single, and happy than be in a relationship with the wrong person.
4:52-5:13 this is so true, and it's so hard, but I know I must keep going forward :( Having this video on repeat , thank you Matthew!
Yesss to creation of self! Not finding self! Spot on
Matthew's out look on every situation just blows my mind HOW he can be so insightful 👍
Getting out of a long term relationship good or BAD is the hardest thing to get yourself back from.
You live every emotion possible
Sad/ happy/ lonely/ etc
Creating a NEW self is exactly what Is the smartest thing to do!!!!
It's also Fun finding the NEW YOU in the process!!
Becoming an AMAZING woman and Truly being Happy in YOUR OWN SKIN
Is the BEST feeling EVER!
Thx for the AWESOME videos Matthew 👍😊👍
I'm still on my journey finding the BEST ME!
But your videos are my motivation!
Thank you! 👍❤👍
It's been months since searching but I found the best reasons today to get over the breakup. Thank you 💞
That is so true ... I'm distracting myself from my heart break and its exhausting me. Putting proper energy into personnal growth makes much more sense. Thank you 💗
I am just a small voice but I just want to say thank you to Forwago. This program helped me to build self-confidence and taught me how to believe in myself. More people should find out about it. Thank you, Forwago!
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Great Advice ... the power of yourself ... alone but not lonely!
People talk about rebound relationships but I couldn’t even fathom another relationship right now because I still don’t want anyone else
Ooh god that's so true ...❤️ I was in the same position this girl is in after 3 months of my breakup but today it feels worth it to have it ❤️ because I never felt myself so close to myself before this breakup ❤️ know I feel comfortable alone ❤️ I'm enjoying solitude again 😘❤️
I love these videos. Its like having him speak to me, its the advice I needed to hear having just broken up.
Every single word he said is 100% right not because I think he's right but because I went through it all and honestly no doubt it's so worth it in the end alhamdulillah and masha'allah-Allah 🙌🏼🙏🏼
I like that line "create yourself don't find yourself". Signed up this afternoon for guitar lessons. Going to find a new passion. Take that negative energy and channel it to something constructive
Thank you for your wise words! I have watched many videos on getting over an ex, how to get an ex back, and so forth. I believe what you provide, gives people a realistic approach to dealing with heartbreak. It is one of the most gut wrenching experiences people go through. I recently got out of a relationship about 3 months ago. I miss the guy everyday but I am focusing on doing things for myself. It is really hard though, I am in the same position as the girl, however, the thing that kills me right now is how much I actually miss him. It is not that I feel alone, because before I met him, I was a pro at being alone and I have got use to that again, but it is the feeling of yearning someone who is no longer there. But, like mentioned above, your videos are realistic and I always feel better about myself after watching them. Therefore, thank you!
what about people who grow up as an only child....ive spent my whole life alone! my most creative, positive, outgoing and optimistic self was in a relationship as a team, once they ended i felt as if i was back where i had always been. and of course i was comfortable alone, probably until after living with my first girlfriend and finding out how much more enjoyable life was then, it makes me dread being a lone, although being alone is something im very familiar with, its not something i have ever been able to get comfortable with again.
This always go through my mind. I’m like DUDE my whole life has literally been to entertain myself and figure out what I like.
Same
@@Sunshine4 same. Its like wtf now?
I’ve never been alone. My husband just left me for someone my sons age two months ago We were together 17 years. This is what I think I need, to learn to be alone . Im so lost. I would love to see Mathew do more videos on older people that go through this in long term marriages, I know that not what you do mainly, but all your advice is amazing. I think you could really offer some help to a large population that are desperately in need it. There are some different problems that arise with kids and houses and money that are devastating. You’re very good at what you do. I’m 57 and it’s very much more difficult at this age.
I’m hoping I can find another person at some point. I need to be comfortable alone first.
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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I'm having a very hard time .. after breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years after finding out that he lied from the get go.. and a manipulator.. I realize now that I don't miss him exactly, but the comfort the familiarity brought me. It's painful and lonely, scary too... your insightful videos have helped and I thank you
This is what I’m trying to do. solitude. Time for myself: it is true, it is a great opportunity to reconsider ourselves, our inner strenght, our potential . It’s hard, still is, cause I do understand the feeling of being alone, but I also feel proud of myself for what I’m doing
I'm at once flabbergasted and truly grateful for this guy's genius. Wow. Thank you.
Heartbreak sucks. I've lost all motivation. It feels like I'm dying. Please, god, let me die in sleep tonight.
I was very content with the idea that, if I never found the right person, I would be okay by myself. Then I met a woman who I thought was everything I was missing. I knew her for a half year where we were friends before she made the first move and basically asked me to ask her on a date. I tried to maintain my independence as best as I could, and did pretty well for the first few months. But as soon as I let myself start really falling for her, she started pulling away and eventually broke up with me. I had started really feeling like I had a family with her and her daughter, and that I was going to be her daughter's step-dad one day. Just one day, she just decided she didn't want to be with me anymore, and she dragged me on for two more months, always just pushing me away any time I wanted to see her, before she finally broke up with me. It hurt like hell, but I'm starting to see that she wasn't good for me. When things were good they were great, but the moment we had any problems whatsoever, she just emotionally bailed so she wouldn't get hurt, and then made it look like it was my fault, implying I was clingy and needy because I wanted to see her more than once a month. Be careful who you give your heart to. Some people aren't emotionally mature enough to be honest with themselves about what they want, or just run at the first site of trouble without even trying to communitcate.
Create yourself is on of my favorite sayings!
Dude you are simply amazing. You don't have any idea how much your videos are helping me right now. Thanks a ton
I’m going through the same situation!
Crying and Suicidal thoughts every single night 😔
Listen you are not alone I have felt like this several times and going through it now but believe it or not a couple of years from now this will be a blip in your existence. You got this keep fighting, we got this.
The pain in her voice I can feel it. 2 weeks+ after my breakup of a 2 year relationship and im still in pain.
Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
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He is indeed a problem solver,he helpe me also I can't keep his good 😭 work to my self alone.
I jumped into a new relationship very quick after a heartbreaking long term relationship ends. Having someone next to me did help me a lot to heal my wounds quicker from my old relationship. I finally completely moved on after a year. But also I lost interest in my current boyfriend. I know it was a selfish thing to do to take someone as a rebound. So this time I want to spend more time with myself before I commit to a new relationship. I want to find a guy I really attracted instead of just a companion.
After breakup left alone with such an heartache and pain with memories that comes haunting around makes me feel so week mentally unable to move forward even to do anything I used to like doing...its been so hard ...anyway Matthew uve been so amazingly helpful .. Thank you...n I luv this yur advice on finding ourselves
"Being alone..."
Lonelyness man,what a terrifying word.To be nearby so many ppl who are having great time and such yet you still feel like u are sitting in an black void,so empty - like a brand new house which was recently bought...
For everyone who may be reading this right now,know that i am there and others have been there before us,so even if it seems like a terrible place to be its still place many ppl visit from time to time,so u are not alone dear friend,as i am not too...
This makes so much sense! I am now going to feel more into my body when it comes to being comfortabe to be alone, cause this is causing me a lot of anxiety right now and I am willing to make myself feel better and to get to know my triggers better.
I cry fast everyday, sometimes I can’t control myself want to call ex. I know, this is Prozess, but really to hard to go. Every day I hold on, I will praise myself, getting closer to a healthy self.
My husband left on NYE's he was a self harmed who would not get help and he had multiple children by multiple women it all became to much trying to help someone who refuses to see they have a problem. I miss him every day. I miss the man I married 2 years ago in Jamaica and after 11 months I'm still having such a tough time of letting go and not texting him and calling him .. I'm trying though
Hayley Hilton you have to find a way to move on. You know he is no good and won't change and he keeps hurting you. Love is not suppose to hurt it's suppose to bring joy and happiness. Please Stop texting him and calling him. He will just hurt you more. He doesn't love you.
i tell you what this has been by far the best advise i have heard i broke up with my girl about a month ago and trust me it was not easy finishing it was not the first time either that it happened and finding your self more like find the things you use to do going to the gym studying finding your passion and what you believe in i have traveled world and met many people and been to many dangerous places as well in my job dont get me wrong when i broke from her i knew it was going to hit me at some point i went crazy at her now good more emotional based stuff ect not good for the mind but over time it heals we have blocked each other on social media i had to accept that its life but growing on your own is the best way i didn't actually mind being alone
At times I’m okay and then it’s like I’ll come across something that reminds me of you and it’s like I’m right back to the beginning and all the progress that I made getting over you just goes in the trash.. getting over you seems impossible but I know there’s no way can ever be together again..