Hello Counselor - Jung Dongha, Lee Sangmin, Seong Daehyeon, Park Sanghui [ENG/2016.06.06]
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- Ep. 276 : I'm a working mom in the 30's and my life is a nightmare. I'm practically a servant! I have to serve my husband food, water and fruit. He even uses abusive language. Do I have to continue living with him? I've been the head of a family for 7 years. I have a cute wife who is 11 years younger. I can't meet friends or go to dinner gatherings in comfort. I'd like to have some freedom! I've been married for 6 years and am the mother of two children. I'm going crazy because of my father-in-law. He loses his temper while watching the news or while driving. He's like a walking time bomb. Father, please calm down!
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When Yeongja put everything into perspective and stood up for the wife in the first concern, I felt so happy for the wife.
i loved it when lee sang min stood and tried to go to the husband 22:25 honestly the husband needs to have some sense knocked into him
The first concern sounds like the start of an abusive relationship the fact that she's too scared to even talk back to him says a lot.... THIS ISN'T THE 1800's she has her own life and not just there to give you kids and pretty much be a second mother to you (if she does such a bad job do it yourself then I hate guys like this) 😒😠... 7th**
It already IS an abusive relationship tbh :( He's mistreating her, disrespecting her, putting her down in so many ways (demeaning her looks, her intelligence, her capabilities) and refusing to treat her like an adult. He might not be physically hitting her but words and humiliation can be just as damaging. I hope she somehow finds the strength and opportunity to leave because he's not changing any time soon.
Yeah I meant physically, it's 100% sure that this is a mentally abusive relationship
I agree.
It's to the point where her own children have been turned against her. I'd leave and never look back if I were in that situation. The man is flat out abusive.
+moodyoctober ohhhh i'm telling you there is physical abuse going on.. ofc she can't tell it on public because she might get hurt again and we know asian countries are still mostly a patriarchal system.. i just wish she divorce him seriously
+chachi1716 and where police won't get involve because it's a family problem
11:28-11:31
husband: "She should manage herself (so she would be thinner)"
Chanwoo: "You're actually a bit fat too"
LMAO I always love it when Chanwoo backfires the person who caused the concern XD
@@emankhan3753 I was wondering the same. Apparently he is sick so he quit 😢
The first guy is. ToTALL JERK !
The husband is the KING only if he treats his woman as a QUEEN. 👸🏻
very well said my friend 👏👏👏
woooww
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I haven't cried over something in a long time. But that first guy really got to me. If my husband EVER EVER treated me like that I would straight up divorce him. (I'm Native American and he is Korean) I was adopted as a child and I grew up in a household just like this, it makes me SICK. My sister ended up marrying a guy like this and has 6 children with him. Once I found out what he was doing I went over his house smacked the shit out of him and broke his arm. He is terrified of me to this day. She needs to leave his sorry ass QUICK. Saddest part is those children are going to grow up thinking that lifestyle is okay and it will be an endless cycle of abuse.
I had to pause a few times because I couldn't see the translation through my tears! The whole time I was trying to tell her, "LEAVE! I KNOW IT'LL BE HARD - YOU MAY NOT MAKE ENOUG MONEY TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN BY YOURSELF AND YOUR FAMILY MAY EVEN ABANDON YOU BUT LEEAAAVVVEEE!!!"She's terrified of him and their children are already disrespecting her :(I always thought that some people divorce to easily (they get married too easily too) but this man is toxic. He's ruining his children (especially his son. His own father was probably like that) and that poor woman is pitiful and scared! I really hope she doesn't actually still love him when he admitted that he didn't love her :(
Victoria Lang I would definitely divorce right away too.
The first concern had me so angry I started crying, I believe that most marriage problems could be worked through before turning to divorce, but there is no way I'd stick with that sort of treatment for 10 years let alone a single day. A wife is not a servant she is your partner.
ok the woman in the second concern needs to let her husband breathe, it's almost obsessive (or maybe it is idk).
Same omg with the first concern, I literally was about to punch the screen of my laptop!
I cried too. if i were their child i would scream at him and protect her
same to both of you
Same, I cheered so much the guy that was going to beat him up
In the first concern ••••• EVERYONE in the audience was ready to SQUARE UP 👿
I know I was, smh I almost couldn't finish the episode because he pissed me off so much
I honestly wanted to punch him
That man is repulsive. I watch this show and sometimes ppl show up with serious concerns... like this one. I wish they actually helped it the people with such problems. Like that Latin show Cristina. Where she. makes sure the police takes whoever deserves to he behind bars and she shelters those abused in anyway. making sure they have an escape then and there
I really want to know what happened to him after the episode aired. I mean, anyone in Korea who watches this and sees this guy on the street... like he might seriously need to go into witness protection.
foreal
I'm so done with that carrot looking husband in the first concern. He is seriously a lost case, she should leave him ASAP. For some reason I feel like he will never change and his keep this mindset of 'the wife has to do everything, I'm the king blah blah blah. I feel so bad for her :'( I'll pray for her, even if it helps a bit.
Hehe, carrot looking husband
even carrot is too good to call him, carrot is useful but that husband is just a trash!
Fahira Ardinip exactly
My mother always told me that people will never change. What you can change is only your attitude towards other people. Years later I realized that she hasn't happy most of the time. It's the same with this guy. He will never change and it looked like she realized it already for a long time.
I mean the wife also is too nice if i was in that situation I would leave as if it's a burning building. I would leave with my kids and live my life happy away from someone like THAT!
The kids of the abusive man were so happy when he said i love you to their mother was so heartbreaking. I dont understand this man, any other woman would have left him a long time ago. He really doenst appreciate the love of her and their children. I would say the wife should have set boundaries and dont let him get away with this disgusting behaviour. I hope the mother and the children will find happiness with or without him. It his choice to change or became a lonely dictator
22:28 25:45 thank you, Lee Sangmin. I don't usually watch Hello councillor because of how frustrating it can get, but because you appeared, I over looked the frustration for a little, just this once. I mean, if you had wanted to talk so much, you should've chosen happy together instead, no? I feel like a talk show would suit you better, and then we would be able to listen to more of the interesting things that you have experienced, or the stories that have occurred over the years. Anyway, thank you for bringing your 2 cents of justice to the injustices that are discussed in this show, and hopefully, we will be able to see more of you in the future ~
JUST DIVORCEEE!!!! I know in Korea it is hard to be a single mother but living like that is not humane. Men like that deserve to be left alone to understand. He is not even ashamed of his behavior.
I totally agree. If it weren't for south Korea's horrible stigma towards divorce, a lot more women and their families would be happier.
Theres no hope for this asswipe..Korea has a high divorce rate now so it's no longer an issue to do it!!
For the first concern: we all know he isn't going to change. He might even become worse. This kind of beavior lead to domestic violence at some point (she even seem scared of him which is a very bad sign) That why I think she should (absolutely) leave this moron without looking back!
the first dude seriously needs to chill. I feel so bad for the wife, please like literally leave him now. be your own queen :)
I would love, if for ONCE, they asked the people who did not vote to have the courage to raise their hand and explain the reason. How could the first concern not win? UGH!
she should win but they kids instead of vote they ask they dad if they should she realy should win tho
+Luísa Cabrita never mind the kids, what about the other 18 people who didn't think the first concern was win worthy?? They obviously have no sense of reason.
Right the 1st should totally win
+Moyo Odejayi well you can only vote in a limited amount of time.. and i think its like one vote at a time thats why you can see sometimes people are pressing a couple of times.. even though they know they can only get 1 point..
chachi1716 - I understand that but I'd still like for them, during one episode, to at least ask an individual as to why he/she did not vote for a concern that truly needed help or an intervention of some type. I'm not referring to just the first concern that was brought to light in this episode. I'm talking about other concerns from previous episodes as well. A majority may vote one way but they'll always be at least one person who thinks differently; and so, I'd like to hear the thoughts of the one person.
Can the father of the mother-son dance partner just come on the show every week, please?!?! He says the wisest things!!!!!!
(The First Concern) This is literally what masculine dominance is in lots of cultures. A man feels like he's entitled to anything and everything and doesn't have to help is dangerous. The wife should leave him (with the kids if she wishes) IMMEDIATELY. The husband is so ignorant I would slap him if I ever met him on the streets.
There's been a lot of shitty husbands on this show but the one from the first concern takes the cake. He didn't even try to pretend or lie and say he loves his wife when asked. I truly hope she gets a divorce after the show
I'm just speechless...
I feel the same
The things that kept coming out of his mouth...really...-_- I can't believe she has stayed with him for 10 years. I hope she realizes how wrong she is being treated and leaves him ASAP before it gets even worse and starts hitting her. I feel bad for the children as well.
i don't get people lol. how did the first concern not win? ugh
right ?! they say in this show that she should win but the kids instead of vote they ask they dad if they could vote but i dont get it ether
the voting have a limited time and its one vote at a time.. so having a 200 votes in 10 sec. is hard.. thats why you can see people are pressing couple of times to make sure their vote goes in
who the f didn't press the button for the first concern!
Sally D 😕
I wish I could jump in the screen and slap the husband in the first concern!!! She does not deserve someone who does not see her as a wife and a human being!!.
The first husband obviously doesn't love his wife anymore, she just needs to go her own way for her and her kids sake!
I don't think he EVER loved her to be honest 😤
the first concern should have already blown up when the wife said "I'm scared of him." this honestly ripped my heart.
Have they ever said 'just get a divorce' to any of these people? Seriously.
although divorce doesn't seem to be a big thing for you and/or your country/culture, most asian countries much like korea are very conservative and religious so divorce is often frowned upon.
and im sure they're thinking about it but they can't say it in front of public and in television.. its like saying to everyone divorce is the only solution (well in this case yes) that's why the program is made to look for that little hope of change..
Remember, this aired on KBS, the government-funded public broadcaster. They can't say certain things on certain shows. Not to mention, in countries such as this, there's a stigma on divorce and single parenthood.
I guess even the case was share to public, but they still think, the decision like divorce should't be suggested directly by third perspective. that's what heroin needs to think over.. I'm sure that all the hosts there who think this is a real concern, would have thought " she should divorce"..
I believe there is only ONE concern where they seriously bought up divorce lol
I hope the guy in the first concern knows people all over the world are pissed off at him and are debating about getting on a plane to beat the crap out of him... i wonder what the people around him did when they found out about this (i.e. his work place)? I hope he got some retaliation from this, honestly.
when sangmin stood up i was shouting because i want him to hit that guy hahaha
Korea seriously need educational talks about domestic violence. Being patriarchal links to domestic violence.
Sangmin Beautiful soul.
25:09 'i'm the kid's children and your wife'
me: wait what
ikr lmaoo
no she said "treat me like a mom and a wife in front of the children" (the translation is a bit off, its right its just ddnt portray the whole meaning) because i think like what she said earlier the kids are not seeing her as a mother its more like a slave..
+chachi1716 thats true but i was talking about the translations 😂
+Reg P ohhh i ddnt even read the translation carefully HAHAHAHA now i get it .. yea the translation is sometimes off and weird 😅😅😅
I'll keep myself hella short, because any curse word would drop. THE FIRST GUY=SEVERE NARCISSM . He obviously is a Psychopath.
I've watched Hello Counselor from the very beginning, so I've seen my fair share of really low-down, misogynistic husbands; especially these past few episodes, but 1st concern REEEALLY takes the cake. I haven't even finished the concern yet, I just feel so bad for her. Like it's hard to watch
The first husband is clinging to his belief that's he's the king of his household even in the face of reasonable and logical inputs and questions by the panel, especially by Yeongja, because that's all he has. I'm sure in the deep recesses of his mind, he knows he's in the wrong, but he can't let go of that mentality nor admit his mistreatment of his wife due to his stubborn pride. It's just too bad that the wife just loves him more than he loves her. She looked so hurt when he said that she could leave/divorce him as long she doesn't take the kids. It's just that it would inconvenience him to take care of them when she's gone. All I can say is "wow." If that doesn't wake her up, then I don't know what will. It'll be up to her how much more she'll put up with.
What I'm curious about is how come his parents weren't invited to the show so we can see if his parents are proud of his treatment of his wife and whether they approve his belief that he's "king" and should be treated as such by his servant wife?
Divorce. That's the only solution for the first couple. That sad excuse for a man doesn't deserve an ounce of the love she had or still has for this him. I don't even think I could express my anger in coherent words so I'm just gonna say they should get divorced.
Wow, that husband obviously didn't marry her to be his wife...he married her for her to be his slave >: horrible. Honestly, I wouldn't ordinarily suggest divorce as a solution but it seems like divorce is the ONLY solution here let's be real.
And I loved it when the hosts and guests started firing back at him..Especially the part where Yeongja-ssi was breaking it down for him YAASSSSSS.
I'm usually someone who believes that we should sort out problems first before resorting to divorce but the first concern is such a lost case. I have never felt such a strong disgust towards someone that selfish and narcissistic. Just get a divorce.
oh I love sangmin so much!
The first concern is straight-up domestic violence ---
'Domestic violence doesn't just mean violent behaviour. It also includes any type of physical, emotional, sexual or financial abuse that takes place in a domestic relationship. This could include a partner, ex partner, family member, landlord or neighbour.'
'Domestic abuse can take place in any relationship regardless of age, gender, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, wealth or lifestyle. It also includes issues of forced marriages and honour based violence.'
this is one of the most stressful episodes I've watched in a long time
Third concern.. As a person who swears.. Well, I mean just as long as he practices on how to cool down he can swear. I just think he needs to learn how to communicate. Communication is the key after all.
The first concern, if I were that woman, I would get a divorce. When people treat you like that it is not healthy to stick around.
but yeongja is actually pretty and i think she is just heavier but not fat. she looks like she has muscles
Thank you! This just made today wonderful
It's a pity that the wife on the first concern did not won. I'm honestly scared for her tbh. God knows what that evil husband can do to her after the show. We won't have a chance to see an update about her. :(
He killed me every time he said the husband is the king boyy stfu
I've watched most episodes of this show, but the first concern is the most heartbreaking I've seen yet. she needs to leave as quick as possible. ignore all the social stigmas & just get out of that relationship.
I will admit I am lazy but not that lazy XD what's the whole point of living if you don't do anything ! I wait to later and get it myself ! 😂 my motto is if you want it so bad do it/get it yourself !
I swear my anger level is up so high that I can go and knock that guy from first concern. I'm so pissed off at every seconds of this concern.
I don't know which is more upsetting. The husband in that first concern or that there were 20 people in that room who didn't think it was a concern.
41:01 I'm laughing so hard. That's me & my mom bc we've been sharing a room temporarily (although it's been months now) & when we argue we just sit there. Together... in silence
And that makes me even more mad 😂
I think we can all agree we all wanted to knock some sense into the first husband.
Such serious concerns in this episode... I hope it all works out for them.
I miss him jung dongha oppa love
Wish u to get a bby soon😍😍😍😍😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
I can’t understand husbands who treat their wives like servants.. how come??
Just hire nanny then!!
the first concern is crazy...i keep cursed hearing his respond....what a good wife he got
I had to skip the first concern
I can't!
Sometimes I really hope they, behind the scenes, investigate spousal abuse. For her to outright say she's afraid of him means that this is probably just the surface of what goes on in their house.
the first concern omg... leave him!!!!!
divorce him !!!!
Yes divorce him.
Lee sangmin is refreshing
btw I'm from Germany and i love so much this show, thanks for the subs😭😭
The first wife is so unfortunate. How can he say they are family now? How can he say he is gonna lives uncomfortably if she leaves? Is he married so he can have free maid? Free butler? She stands waiting for him to eat? Eats standing while doing dishes? Being treated like nothing even by her own children? Wow. It's amazing that she even stays with him. Changing is not impossible. But people like that won't change for others. Wonder how she lived now?
I don't think the first husband has any respect to her wife at all, I mean he knows he's wrong but doesn't give a shit about it. She should leave him, her life too precious to waste on ignorant husband like him
why this episode is so frustrating ? honestly a lot of concerns like the second so here 's fr once and all : a relationship wther you are a couple dating engaged or married needs to be built on trust !! if you can't trust the person you love than don't even think of starting any thing with him !!!! what's the use ??
I can't find the right words to describe my feelings about the first concern. I only want to rescue her and her childrens >.< Please tell me that is a dream ..
This is the first time I got really mad at husband-wife stories. I could tolerate some but this is absolutely the worst type of husband. If he wants to live as a king then he should get himself a maid. It's so frustrating to see their kids ending up like their father. I know it's bad to wish something ill to others but I know he will learn his lesson someday. Kudos to her wife to last that long with that kind of husband. This is the first time I'd hope you'd meet a better man than him.
why can't hello counselor read live tweets like in After school Club? lol
maaan the things I would say
For the first concern jeez what can you do? there are stubborn husbands as soon as they get married they show their real sides and trap people into marriages since there's such a stigma on divorces in Korea. hopefully he changes I can see he kinda felt guilty and the second concern the husband he should move out of his parents house if she's not comfortable living at home then she will obviously depend on him a lot, I wouldn't want to live with my in-laws HELL NO!!
honestly, the whole trapping thing is honestly why I'm afraid to get married because of what happened to my mom. She told me she lost her identity when she married him and I know from experience that he's nice at first and then super controlling. if more people stepped up when they were being mistreated in relationships or got divorced their lives would be so much better
I love the husband of the past concern that keeps winning.. he is funny, witty, and say a lot of things based on books hehehe..
and first concern husband, I have the same wonder as one of the guest.. do you really say that because you want to win 1000 won?
such a thickhead jeezz
I definitely feel bad for the wife in the first concern. But I always wonder how women decide to marry a guy like that. Or stay married. It's just sad. The guy deserves all the blame for behaving like that, but I wish women were taught that we're worth more, and to NEVER put up with guys like this.
I got teared up on the first concern when the kids talking T-T
Nothing wrong with being a king, but he should realize that even a king has responsibilities. A king is only another person without anybody who supports him. If he is supposed to be the king in the family, then he should make sure that the rest of them are willing to support him and have the possibility to do it. Simply calling yourself the king as an excuse to be lazy is wrong.
I see two solutions to that problem. 1. He earns enough money that the wife doesn't have to work. 2. He stops being lazy and starts taking responsibility for his family.
Like the host said, he's not a king, he's a tyrant.
@@Yosatorn.Asavapatr.Naptvik Like I said, he is irresponsible and makes others follow his orders without contributing himself.
So yes, I am aware that he is nothing more than a tyrant.
왕은 무슨 네놈한텐 머슴도 아깝다...
부인이 너무 가엽다..
The first concern sound alike the start of an abusive relationship and he's even getting the kids involved. As for the second concern that's not showing love and affection it's distrust and obsession
Sounds like*
Someone please slap that delusional first husband?!
TBH I have no idea how that first concern lost, especially when compared to the current reigning champion, his concern was ant poop compared to her's
this first couple needs dr.phil to tell them to get a divorce
첫번째 사연 남편 나쁜놈 못된놈 못~~~ 난놈..
부인 넘 예쁘고 젊어요
부인이 내 동생이면 우리집에 데려올란다
Ahn Junghwan ?! Are u kidding me ?! Maam ?!!
You don't SCOLD your wife. You are partners and a team. You love honor and cherish them. One is not higher than the other. Respect is part of love, and teamwork. She did not marry you to be a slave and nothing you do makes you king. No vows made you ruler.
I've been watching a lot of these episodes for the last few days and this whole, "I'm a man so I'm the King" attitude seems to be a very common problem in Korea. You don't get married if you want a SLAVE. What is wrong with these people? They don't need to go on a show, these people need professional help!
엔제나 보고 또 보고 아주 아주 재미 만점
onward my fellow youtube ppl! pick up your baseball bats and pickaxes and lets go hunt that first concern husband D:
OMG.... The more I watch the first concern, the more I end up getting pissed off!!!! What century is this guy living in? The Dark Ages? Might as well send that idiot back into time to see the realities of what his mindset is like back in those days!!!!!!!! I hate it when guys like this bastard makes the rest of us other men terrible! It's just ridiculous! And of course that concern was just 1+ point shy from actually winning... Wtf....?????!!! >:(
Youngja unnie, thank you for nagging at that husband for us. I know you toned it down a lot but really.
It would've been better if the wife on the first concern divorced with her husband. Wives should be treated equally, not like a working slave that you can just insult or scold for not being good enough. That man needs to be educated to have a better point of view 😤
The first concern should have taken 1st place. serious concern.
the first consern
Husband: husband is the king
Me: you are a sh*t
the first concern pissed me off.. 😈😈😈
king? wow! pakain kita s buwaya e 😂😂😂
The first guest reminds me of bora from sistar! :)
The man in the first concern made me like the man in the third one 😅
The first concern husband is really so bad. I rather be alone for my life than marry this kind of man. So angry!!!
1st concern: the husband is a bastard & bad father. That's a form of domestic violence. It takes a lot of love and patience for her to live with him for 10 years. No woman should be a victim of abuse. Men like that, I JUST CAN'T. He's prolly cheating on her.
2nd concern: woman get a job, when you start making that $$, he'll be the one calling you. I'll represent all the women in the world and say this: We won't touch your husband.
3rd concern: 1:00:28...stare of death LMAO...as long as her husband isn't like the father-in-law and he doesn't curse in front of their kid or throw a table at their kid..then idc. He can die mad.
Pride destroys relationship. Love is not proud. Husbands need to learn HUMILITY.
if he's the king then she's a fucking God cuz what she does is much more greater...
10:42 favorite audience reaction
i think the last father-in-law is awesome haha
Why does Jung Dongha have that tragic 2009 haircut
the first husband is completely not human.
the last concern, she looks like eunji.
in a way. haha
Okay so the first concern
The guy really pissed me off idk what's it with him I think that his way of thinking is very childish
The second concern seemed fake and uh so I just skipped it
The third concern was really complicated for all of them. Either they misunderstood each other, or the dad felt really sad once his son leaved him to work on something else. All dads hate their sons when they leave them btw, they just don't seem want to understand why they just assume that their sons hate them and they want to leave them when they're wrong in the first place so it's really normal.
I didnt even begin the show, but i read the comments so 1st concern the man is a jerk, from what i understood
the first concern had me sobbing, i was so surprised by the husband. KING... KING?!?! well that king can kiss my ass