OP did the right thing. What the son said was horrendous, but I also understand that kids who have been a victim of bullying can be convinced to say/do some pretty awful stuff to try and make it stop. I am glad that the son, OP and husband are all willing to try and fix things.
That’s tough. But words do hurt, and once said cannot be taken back. I hope Zach learns from this situation. But he should have definitely stood up for the people who loved him to his friends. I hope he learned a life lesson from this.
NTA, im not a member the community. That was not acceptable of the son. Must learn consequences to actions, and the son must also work out the feelings with a therapist. There was a LOT of damage done over trying to look cool for some loser friends.
I totally agree - the son's behavior was completely unacceptable, and it's sad how much damage can be done just to impress the wrong crowd. You're right that therapy could be key here. There’s clearly a lot of underlying issues that need to be worked through, both for the son and to hopefully heal the family relationship in the future.
Thanks so much for your comment and perspective! It's definitely a tough situation, and Sean had to make a really difficult decision. What do you think could be the best way for Sean and Zack to rebuild trust with his son, if that's even possible? Would love to hear more thoughts from you and others!
I get it, we're all dickheads at 16. I think the Dad overreacted, slightly. I'm not convinced this story's real, because if my Dad kicked me out, there's no way I'd ever want to come back. The damage would be irreparable, I'd probably become genuinely homophobic, if I weren't before. 11:20 Again, don't think that story's real. Boys don't talk about their feelings at that age, and the Dad would already know that. 14:30 I guess it's possible, but still sounds like a fantasy. Young men will gladly destroy everything for perceived insults. My Dad treating me like a criminal, for Bullshiting with dickhead friends? Ah Hell No! I'm not a parent, and I'm not really sure what I'd do in this situation. The boy definitely needs better "friends", and my own Dad would never let me disrespect my mother, but ultimatums usually lead to war.
YOU CANT FORCE THAT KIND OF LIFE ON ANYONE ESPECIALY A KID HE SPOKE HIS MIND AND DAD DISNT LIKE ITHET IVER IT THE KID WILL GROW UP THINK THE SAME DONT FOOL.YOUR SELF HE SAIDAND KNOWS WHATS RT AND IT WAS ADAM N EVE NOT ADAM N STEVE WAKE UP YOUR WRONG NIT THE KID
It's the Bi-ble, not the Straight-ble. "YOU CANT FORCE THAT KIND OF LIFE ON ANYONE ESPECIALY A KID" Agreed, you should never force straightness on anyone. Also, you need to retake grade school English.
OP did the right thing. What the son said was horrendous, but I also understand that kids who have been a victim of bullying can be convinced to say/do some pretty awful stuff to try and make it stop. I am glad that the son, OP and husband are all willing to try and fix things.
That’s tough. But words do hurt, and once said cannot be taken back. I hope Zach learns from this situation.
But he should have definitely stood up for the people who loved him to his friends. I hope he learned a life lesson from this.
NTA, im not a member the community. That was not acceptable of the son. Must learn consequences to actions, and the son must also work out the feelings with a therapist. There was a LOT of damage done over trying to look cool for some loser friends.
I only state that as not being a member, it’s NEVER okay to act in that manner or show hate.
I totally agree - the son's behavior was completely unacceptable, and it's sad how much damage can be done just to impress the wrong crowd. You're right that therapy could be key here. There’s clearly a lot of underlying issues that need to be worked through, both for the son and to hopefully heal the family relationship in the future.
Nta as someone part of the community I'd say that's very rude. Op did the right thing
Thanks so much for your comment and perspective! It's definitely a tough situation, and Sean had to make a really difficult decision. What do you think could be the best way for Sean and Zack to rebuild trust with his son, if that's even possible? Would love to hear more thoughts from you and others!
Kid didn't wanna think his dad was getting his cruster busted as he got older.
I'm confused.. You're on reddit and you're getting hate as a gay man? Did reddit change?
I get it, we're all dickheads at 16. I think the Dad overreacted, slightly.
I'm not convinced this story's real, because if my Dad kicked me out, there's no way I'd ever want to come back.
The damage would be irreparable, I'd probably become genuinely homophobic, if I weren't before.
11:20
Again, don't think that story's real. Boys don't talk about their feelings at that age, and the Dad would already know that.
14:30
I guess it's possible, but still sounds like a fantasy. Young men will gladly destroy everything for perceived insults.
My Dad treating me like a criminal, for Bullshiting with dickhead friends? Ah Hell No!
I'm not a parent, and I'm not really sure what I'd do in this situation. The boy definitely needs better "friends", and my own Dad would never let me disrespect my mother, but ultimatums usually lead to war.
YOU CANT FORCE THAT KIND OF LIFE ON ANYONE ESPECIALY A KID HE SPOKE HIS MIND AND DAD DISNT LIKE ITHET IVER IT THE KID WILL GROW UP THINK THE SAME DONT FOOL.YOUR SELF HE SAIDAND KNOWS WHATS RT AND IT WAS ADAM N EVE NOT ADAM N STEVE WAKE UP YOUR WRONG NIT THE KID
It's the Bi-ble, not the Straight-ble. "YOU CANT FORCE THAT KIND OF LIFE ON ANYONE ESPECIALY A KID" Agreed, you should never force straightness on anyone. Also, you need to retake grade school English.