Honestly, an INTJ that's willing to put themselves out there on youtube in front of a camera is an outlier. I sure wouldn't. The most I can manage is occasionally answering a question on Quora. That said, your'e doing a service to fellow INTJ's getting our thoughts, concerns and struggles out in the public forum, which is both instructive to other personality types, and self validating to our own. Thank you.
You're very welcome. I honestly just think being a female on the internet means creeps will view that as an invitation. I'm glad that I've managed to attract so many great people to my channel to combat that. It helps.
wow. Bro nice to meet you. I'm 18 years old with the same character (INTJ-T). It's the second year that I have been living with bipolar disorder and you know what, I got used to it.
Hello Niki. I have seing a few of your videos... spot on. My name is David - 55yr male - San Diego - INTJ (AF). I am NOT here to be ... rude or low brow. I wanted to share a few things. Island ... yep! Unfortunately, my island exists in a hell of my own creation. I exist solitary and have attempted to construct a vessel to escape but failed after a year of intense risk and fortitude. It is difficult to escape isolation from one's own mind and doings. I find myself attempting to construct a NEW vessel, a new method to escape this volcanic barren island of disparity. Another risk with hopeful lessons learned from past failures and a few great successes. INTJs disappear because of over stimulation and social disorder. We can not handle large venues for prolonged periods ... it disrupts our harmony our center. When I was a full time stoner - drinker ... I would suddenly and without saying goodbye ... simply ghost-out. It was perceived as rude but I viewed it as personal survival. Unfortunately... it's also a great way to never hold onto friends. However ...we're they ever "friends". We exist in the ether of humanity. We drift through ... see ... experience ... learn ... judge ... return to nothingness and nobody. At 55 yr and after experiencing a divorce after 27 years of commitment ... I can safely say ... before an INTJ opens up to people or an individual whom you utterly trust ... don't settle for the common ... search for and research them to the core! Trust nobody till you trust somebody absolutely. We ... INTJ ... need to find or create a unique place that is safe for US.
This isn't an obvious connection, but a lot of INTJs are highly sensitive people, and I do recommend Elaine Aron's book about it. An INFJ friend of mine, Amy Lyne (swear I'm not looking for clout, Amy), just recently posted a video about INFJs' empathy and boundaries, which in the most part I resonate with as an INTJ, and just like your video I couldn't stop thinking "damn, that sounds like high sensitivity" (funnily enough she also has people tell her she must be an INTJ because "too rational"; maybe is a woman thing, maybe is a narrow view of the types, or both). Particularly, I often find myself caught in a cycle of hypervigilance /stilmulation then a crash, dissociation and retreat. It's almost like chasing the overwhelm to get the numbness of exhaustion at the finish line. All of that as a way out of the current overarousal. On top of that, people are risky. And I don't say that as a scared little boy. Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence. Even the well meaning can be cumbersome if they can't think as deeply, as thoroughly, with good abstract reasoning, and consequently be fair, efficient, considerate. So we're left running laps over people's thoughts, which is a recipe for regular frustrations and eventual disasters. No wonder we say fuck off and disappear
Hi Niki, as a fellow INTJ it made my day to see you back. I hear the challenges you’ve been experiencing that kept you away, and I deeply understand that INTJ need to pull back when the ‘Se’ world seems too much. The important thing is that you’ve processed what happened, like any INTJ would, and you’re back, and I’m sure your INTJ brain has abstracted numerous learnings from the experience. I would also say as an INTJ I don’t have the courage to put myself out there on RUclips the way you have.
What can I say? I like to challenge myself just to see if I can do it and then improve upon it. There may have also been some people around me who actively tried to stop me from succeeding. Good motivator.
@@nikiyikes5674 I understand. Engaging the world is harder for us INTJs but it actually is very good for us. I have a print out on wall reminding me that I have to do this with some regularity, otherwise as an INTJ I get too into my head, and then I or a friend has to dig me out. What you’re doing is great.
That "sharing the load" part resonated with me a lot. I have huge issues with that, too, and I paid the price (of carrying too much by myself) enough times to know I should be more trusting, if only to not be crushed by the weight of it all. But it's hard. Anyway, glad you're OK, and nice to see you around here again. All the best to you, Niki.
Thank you very much! I think it's perfectly okay to take our time with trusting others. Perhaps one day I'll have someone I feel like I can share the load with without it being an expectation. One thing that really shuts me down is when people insert themselves.
"In an ideal world"... Having a close connection with an INFJ, I can definitely relate to you both getting stressed out by external stimuli way quicker than me. I have been her 'personal secretary', meaning I would skim through and delete things like you mention with regard to emails, chats or similar things, or even reply to things that would drain her. However, to get there, I needed to be fully trusted, and it has taken her quite awhile to be willing to share the load more fully with me - or even to see it as a possibility at all to ask. The other thing is with regard to vulnerability. I can only second your experience, that it is hard to 'get' the INTJ vulnerability. Even now, when you are obviously sharing something very vulnerable, as an ENTP, what I notice more is the 'spikes'. Maybe this is also due to my more extensive experience with Ni, that I notice that the vulnerability of both you and her, isn't quite "typical". In general, vulnerability tends to be a general invitation for some qualities, be it support, care, understanding, space, warmth, empathy or something else, but with Ni I see a direct link to how the inner aspirations for an ideal world seeping into the social meaning of expressing vulnerability. It now has both an expressed meaning, and an indirect, unexpressed, idealistic meaning - The duality of being vulnerable, but also being highly selective with whom you will trust - means the message you are sending out has important nuances that most people don't hear in its entirety. And of course, there are also people that don't care, regardless of what you say. It is still vulnerability, and you do tell people what you need, by virtue of telling them what you dislike. When I reflect on that now, what comes to mind is that I know that you might disappear and some of the things that trigger it - and by no means do I imply that you need to say everything on the internet - but I also notice that I don't know what will make you stay/not disappear. And so I might instinctively hesitate to reach out or say something, because I am fearing that I will be shut down. I have experienced time and time again with my INFJ, that she tends to not ask open questions like; "What can you do to help me/What do you think I need or Based on what I said, what do you think would make things better?", and she simply assumes there is nothing I can do that might help. Contrary to this assumption, there are many things that can make any given situation a tiny bit better, as with the example about being a personal secretary above, which was a great boon in her opinion. Sadly, even with my Ne superpowers of seeing possibilities, I can't transform the world. Which is something I do wish I could offer, as finding ideals I love is a fundamental part of what draws me to someone, and especially Ni, as it offers much more long-term direction. I want to truly support those ideals, and I am bummed out when my support is rejected/ignored because it don't necessarily align with what should be. I hope you, and others reading this far, will find someone that will support and enable great ideals to flourish in the best way possible. Take care Niki, and all the best for your lovely cat as well.
Oof. That sounds so rough and difficult. If it is making your life difficult, there is no shame or trouble in stepping away from RUclips. Please do what’s best for yourself. I would miss your content, and I’ve enjoyed getting to know you a little and chatting via the comments and your business email a little bit, but, its really important for you to do what’s best for yourself. And if that means stepping away for a while, that’s fine. I remember last time I talked to you, you were dealing with difficult and inappropriate people a little, but it seems to have gotten much worse :/ Anyway, also when you were talking about your internal world, that was really resonating. I’ve been thinking about, and living, in mine a lot lately.
a BIG, BIG, BIG, ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLY ENORMOUS reason why we are introverted IS because when we feel or choose to attend to something in an affective way; we CHOOSE to feel ABSOLUTELY DEEPLY. that IS also why we temper ourselves so much. STILL WATERS RUN DEEP. ^ THAT ^ saying MUSTVE been inspired by observations of an INTJ. ABSOLUTELY. FOR SURE. - INTJ
I'm an INTJ too and I work with other people after working solo for 5 years and I absolutely hate it. I picked up a job as a cook in a kitchen when a business scheme fell through, and I'm finally saving up enough to get back into that through working multiple jobs. But I'm stuck working with people in the meantime and it sucks. I'm a man, so I don't have to worry as much about advances, although I have had unwanted same-sex advances at work a couple times... but this past month I've had to defend 3 staff members from unwanted harassment. One of them was against a minor, and the culprit has since been fired. The other two times I was the only one who said anything or did anything about it. It's all so tiresome. Very relatable video, I certainly feel your pain :P Here's wishing you some inner peace.
The world needs people like you. I find myself defending others also. A common INTJ trait, perhaps? I hate to hear that you're having to deal with unwanted advances. That's never okay. Let's create those nano-chips and cure creepy behavior. We can also create a laser in outer space as a contingency...
She lives! Staying alive is a victory when the world is out to get you. My neighbor across the street died a couple of days ago. She was in her late 80's and went from normal to passing from liver failure in about a month's time. She had a good day a few days before the end, so she got to say goodbye to her children that flew into town to see her. I think dying alone is one of my biggest fears since I never had kids. Being trapped in an unhealthy body with just my mind working is a bit of a personal hell to me. On a happier note, stress kills and I'm so happy to hear you are in a less toxic place now. Your new room looks beautiful, so I hope it's located in a safer location after hearing about your last one. I love getting your video notifications, it's like hearing from an old friend. I'm happy to pick up right where we left off, even if it's only once or twice a year. I do look forward to your next video, but please don't worry about how long or quickly the motivation comes to you. Personally, my joints are killing me lately with the shifting of the weather, so I've been spending a lot of time in bed listening to audiobooks/sleeping, so I haven't had much motivation to do much beyond getting through the days. Hearing from you reminds me I'm not the only one going through tough stuff, so I hope you get some comfort from reading this as well.
Hello there! I don't think any of us want to die feeling alone just on a human level. That's a very valid fear. Thank you for sharing that with me. Also, I painted my apartment myself, so I appreciate the compliment! I am very safe where I am, and I'm much happier. Thank you for your continued support.
@@nikiyikes5674 I just emailed you a link to my soon-to-be-released album, as well as the album cover, which I just picked out on Sunday. It somehow has some well-known artists collaborating with me - like, songs-with-millions-of-streams, have-KEXP-live-sessions level.
My grandmother suffered from migraines for something like 30 years week in and week out. She finally gets a regular doctor after successfully beating cancer and that doc gets her on the train of thought that maybe it's an allergic reaction. Well, it was. She was allergic to fucking beef. 40 years of insufferable pain and discomfort all gone after she stopped eating beef. I took this as life goes in a direction for a long time and then one day, it just doesn't. Takes a long time not only for a person to change in key beneficial ways, but to also realize they can. My grandmother never even suspected an allergy. She thought she just had a sickness of some sort. In a way she did. She had a blindspot when it came to diet, a common thing. People have blindspots to all sorts of things, but the good news is that one day they can just see it and all the suffering stops. That's pretty much the definition of the human condition right there.
Allergic to beef? I've heard of that before. There's honestly no telling when it comes to migraines. I've had them since I was a little girl. However...is now a good time to say that I'm allergic to cats? I wouldn't be surprised if the creatures I love the most cause my brain to feel like it's going to explode. That feels quite poetic.
Hej Niki, thank you for your honesty. I can relate to most of this as I am a 31 year old female INTJ, who also suffers from stress-induced migraine attacks. Noise, people, unfamiliar sourroundings, etc. can be so exhausting. Retreating until I feel up to it again is also what I prefer to do when I can. So just feel free to be yourself. I will stay subscribed and I am looking forward to what you will talk about next. =)
Thank you! My migraines are always more frequent when im stressed, so I've been having a hard time. I really appreciate your support, and I'm sorry to hear that you suffer from similar things as well.
@@nikiyikes5674 From my perspective it always helps to have someone backing you up and able to understand what you are going through. Only other migraine patients can truly understand what we are going through during an attack. Others like to judge and tell us we should keep it together but they have no idea just how awful real migraine is. Compairing it to regular headaches is a bad joke. I count myself lucky that I found a self-help-group of women who are really supportive and share their aquired knowlede on how to treat this very treacherous illness. With their help I found ways to reduce my migraine days from a monhtly average of 14 days to 4 days. It feels like a real blessing to be able live my life again. I hope you get all the support and help you need as well.
Shame on those creeps who were sending you inappropriate messages. Bunch of no life losers. I cannot speak for other INTJs either obviously, but when i need to disappear, it's due to some required soul searching. Sounds cliche because many people do it regardless of personality type. What's not so common would be the fact that solitude is among one of the highest priorities for INTJs compared to most folks, even when we are in an exclusive relationship with somebody. My wife who happens to be INTJ like me are just glad you are at a safer place these days and have some peace of mind. We wish you a life full of true love, joy and prosperity, and to gain the wisdom for navigating life's challenges and overcome the perils which may come your way, whether you eventually find a life partner or decide to remain single.
Agree 100%. I'm so sorry the creeps came after you. Here's a question: what kind of people do you find trigger you the least; who do you feel most comfortable with? As an INTJ I've seen a pattern were I am often comfortable with people who seem like they are INTPs or INFPs. However, I wish I could find a female friend who is also an IN*J. Also, in my opinion it's completely okay that you upload periodically. The right people understand!
Thank you for sharing. I feel more at home and comfortable with people who have calm energy and aren't leading solely with emotion. I'm sort of like that cat that goes to the person not trying to pet them because it's safe over there, and they respect boundaries.
As listing found myself really related to this. Even though im infj, this is the archetypical hermit mode, where you retreat within to find answers.. usually to bring life to "the project" and what ive learned is our weak ankle is perfectionism. Not only with our creation, but reality itself and others. And theres always a point when you realize that chaos, uncertainty and imperfection are bound to life to create balance, we cannot control it, so we have to let it go, and accept "the shadow" so we can work with it as a tool for improvement.. i hope it helps somehow
As an INTJ dude, it sucks to know about you getting creepy emails. If it makes you feel any better, I had my few share of stalkers in a city where I used to reside. What make it somewhat strange was that they were women!! It's why I long deleted most of my social media accounts because all I really need and want is my privacy. This basically applies for everyone, although it's especially important for us INTJs and introverts in general. Hoping for the day where I can afford to live a nomadic lifestyle, going wherever that catches my fancy without having to worry about personal finances.
I recently found your channel and I just want to let you know that it has been really healing and useful for me to hear your perspective on INTJ emotions. I think your channel is a valuable voice on the subject. I'm sorry you are experiencing so much harassment and I understand if you need to step away. But please keep your videos on RUclips so they can continue to help INTJs like me stay in touch with their emotions and have language to describe them.
I've made the decision to continue with my youtubing, but if I decide to stop, I have no intentions of removing my videos. I'm so glad that it's been helpful for you. That's always good to hear.
@@nikiyikes5674 I'm happy to hear that and am looking forward to your future videos when you have time and emotional space to make them. This is my shadow account for a larger channel that I run so I understand that, if you feel as I do when I hear comments like mine, you really mean it even if you receive a lot of them. On a related note, my last full featured video was over a decade ago, so I also *really* understand what it means for an INTJ to disappear from their RUclips channel for long periods of time.
So sad to hear that you've been harassed and sent inappropriate messages. Those people should be ashamed. As a counter to those negative experiences I wanted to comment on how much I enjoy your channel. I love your videos and hearing your perspectives. You are very genuine, and I totally share your sense of humour. I relate to alot of your talks and I'm not even INTJ or a witch. Your less serious videos are really funny. At the same time it is heartbreaking hearing about your struggles in more serious videos. You really do carry a heavy load, but from my view you do it gracefully. I wish you the best going forward. //INFJ
6:20 regarding chronic migraines... I had them too for many decades. Turns out they were caused by insulin resistance of the brain. They (and many other metabolic syndrome symptoms) completely went away within 3-4 months after I started weekly multi-day water-only fasts, and then going OMAD and low-carb as new lifestyle. You may give it a try: it may work for you too.
It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand the essence of an introvert, especially one like INTJ. I, as an ENTP, watch this video and realize that my life is filled with carefree joy, like a child without any problems and worries. I am both alone and at the same time have no difficulties with people and my environment
Hey, my only issue has been other people since the moment I was born. Most of my adult life is just slapping people with boundaries over and over again until they act right or go away.
Hello, this is Nathan again. From your vid it sounds like you have been through a lot I am sorry. I hope things get better for you. I know how it is to be alone. Try to be well.
@@nikiyikes5674 your welcome, I can understand what your kind of going through. It is not easy living a life most do not understand. I hope your world gets better. It is kind of funny, you have moved 5 times that sucks but I am looking to move out of state, I live in the hell hole known as cal. I hate it here, so working a lot trying to save up to move hoping to transfer with my company out of state. Yea, sorry for the long text.
I have renewed my subscription... not sure why it vansihed on me. I have ptsd so my uploading of videos is scattered at best. Sending you good vibes if you want them.
You've been gone for too long, the length of your hair says it all -.- Happy to see you again, although I'm INFJ I find many similarities with you in videos and always look forward to see new ones... Why INTJs disappear? You ain't fooling me, you've been secretly working on world domination plans ;) :)
Sad thirsty peeps on the interwebz. Now I understand one of the reasons Yikes is in the name of your channel. Unless it really is your last name. But I would not put my last name on youtube. So
All of the good ones are targeted. Keep your head up. Sometimes, I wish I was an INTJ so I could get more done (INTP HERE). Also, you guys (INTJs) can be a$$holes at times but I find it hilarious and even sort of justified? No misunderstandings here. I do NOT consent to being chipped!
@@nikiyikes5674 I see, a lot of what you say matches up a lot with SzPD. And might not necessarily be an INTJ-specific thing, as I'm ENTJ. These sound like schizoid adaptations rather than INTJ. Hope this helps.
Hello. I am also a 5, though I never bothered to learn if my wing was a 4 or a 6. I recall it looking the same on the chart, but I refused to pay for it to see what it said. I am certainly a very creative INTJ who enjoys art, stories, and exploring new ideas to further make improvements. I've read about INTJs who fall under each one of these types, and I relate to both. Feel free to analyze and let me know which one you think fits me better. Maybe I'll actually look into it more - if only to see if you're right.
I'm surprised that more people haven't commented on it, but that's to be expected with a bunch of people who focus on the overall message. Good to see you!
Honestly, an INTJ that's willing to put themselves out there on youtube in front of a camera is an outlier. I sure wouldn't. The most I can manage is occasionally answering a question on Quora. That said, your'e doing a service to fellow INTJ's getting our thoughts, concerns and struggles out in the public forum, which is both instructive to other personality types, and self validating to our own. Thank you.
You're very welcome. I honestly just think being a female on the internet means creeps will view that as an invitation. I'm glad that I've managed to attract so many great people to my channel to combat that. It helps.
We disappear to find ourselves. ♾🦋
And to sleep.
.. To be creative,work hard.and create our INTJ small world...
Im 22 years old INTJ with bipolar. u have no idea how much therapy your channel is giving me
I have people very close to me with bipolar disorder. This will always be a safe space for you. Thank you for your support.
wow. Bro nice to meet you. I'm 18 years old with the same character (INTJ-T). It's the second year that I have been living with bipolar disorder and you know what, I got used to it.
Hello Niki. I have seing a few of your videos... spot on. My name is David - 55yr male - San Diego - INTJ (AF). I am NOT here to be ... rude or low brow. I wanted to share a few things. Island ... yep! Unfortunately, my island exists in a hell of my own creation. I exist solitary and have attempted to construct a vessel to escape but failed after a year of intense risk and fortitude. It is difficult to escape isolation from one's own mind and doings. I find myself attempting to construct a NEW vessel, a new method to escape this volcanic barren island of disparity. Another risk with hopeful lessons learned from past failures and a few great successes.
INTJs disappear because of over stimulation and social disorder. We can not handle large venues for prolonged periods ... it disrupts our harmony our center. When I was a full time stoner - drinker ... I would suddenly and without saying goodbye ... simply ghost-out. It was perceived as rude but I viewed it as personal survival. Unfortunately... it's also a great way to never hold onto friends. However ...we're they ever "friends".
We exist in the ether of humanity. We drift through ... see ... experience ... learn ... judge ... return to nothingness and nobody.
At 55 yr and after experiencing a divorce after 27 years of commitment ... I can safely say ... before an INTJ opens up to people or an individual whom you utterly trust ... don't settle for the common ... search for and research them to the core! Trust nobody till you trust somebody absolutely.
We ... INTJ ... need to find or create a unique place that is safe for US.
This isn't an obvious connection, but a lot of INTJs are highly sensitive people, and I do recommend Elaine Aron's book about it. An INFJ friend of mine, Amy Lyne (swear I'm not looking for clout, Amy), just recently posted a video about INFJs' empathy and boundaries, which in the most part I resonate with as an INTJ, and just like your video I couldn't stop thinking "damn, that sounds like high sensitivity" (funnily enough she also has people tell her she must be an INTJ because "too rational"; maybe is a woman thing, maybe is a narrow view of the types, or both). Particularly, I often find myself caught in a cycle of hypervigilance /stilmulation then a crash, dissociation and retreat. It's almost like chasing the overwhelm to get the numbness of exhaustion at the finish line. All of that as a way out of the current overarousal. On top of that, people are risky. And I don't say that as a scared little boy. Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence. Even the well meaning can be cumbersome if they can't think as deeply, as thoroughly, with good abstract reasoning, and consequently be fair, efficient, considerate. So we're left running laps over people's thoughts, which is a recipe for regular frustrations and eventual disasters. No wonder we say fuck off and disappear
Hi Niki, as a fellow INTJ it made my day to see you back. I hear the challenges you’ve been experiencing that kept you away, and I deeply understand that INTJ need to pull back when the ‘Se’ world seems too much. The important thing is that you’ve processed what happened, like any INTJ would, and you’re back, and I’m sure your INTJ brain has abstracted numerous learnings from the experience.
I would also say as an INTJ I don’t have the courage to put myself out there on RUclips the way you have.
What can I say? I like to challenge myself just to see if I can do it and then improve upon it. There may have also been some people around me who actively tried to stop me from succeeding. Good motivator.
@@nikiyikes5674 I understand. Engaging the world is harder for us INTJs but it actually is very good for us. I have a print out on wall reminding me that I have to do this with some regularity, otherwise as an INTJ I get too into my head, and then I or a friend has to dig me out. What you’re doing is great.
That "sharing the load" part resonated with me a lot. I have huge issues with that, too, and I paid the price (of carrying too much by myself) enough times to know I should be more trusting, if only to not be crushed by the weight of it all. But it's hard.
Anyway, glad you're OK, and nice to see you around here again. All the best to you, Niki.
Thank you very much! I think it's perfectly okay to take our time with trusting others. Perhaps one day I'll have someone I feel like I can share the load with without it being an expectation. One thing that really shuts me down is when people insert themselves.
@@nikiyikes5674 I know what you mean. And I hope you find someone like that.
"In an ideal world"... Having a close connection with an INFJ, I can definitely relate to you both getting stressed out by external stimuli way quicker than me. I have been her 'personal secretary', meaning I would skim through and delete things like you mention with regard to emails, chats or similar things, or even reply to things that would drain her. However, to get there, I needed to be fully trusted, and it has taken her quite awhile to be willing to share the load more fully with me - or even to see it as a possibility at all to ask.
The other thing is with regard to vulnerability. I can only second your experience, that it is hard to 'get' the INTJ vulnerability. Even now, when you are obviously sharing something very vulnerable, as an ENTP, what I notice more is the 'spikes'. Maybe this is also due to my more extensive experience with Ni, that I notice that the vulnerability of both you and her, isn't quite "typical". In general, vulnerability tends to be a general invitation for some qualities, be it support, care, understanding, space, warmth, empathy or something else, but with Ni I see a direct link to how the inner aspirations for an ideal world seeping into the social meaning of expressing vulnerability. It now has both an expressed meaning, and an indirect, unexpressed, idealistic meaning - The duality of being vulnerable, but also being highly selective with whom you will trust - means the message you are sending out has important nuances that most people don't hear in its entirety.
And of course, there are also people that don't care, regardless of what you say.
It is still vulnerability, and you do tell people what you need, by virtue of telling them what you dislike. When I reflect on that now, what comes to mind is that I know that you might disappear and some of the things that trigger it - and by no means do I imply that you need to say everything on the internet - but I also notice that I don't know what will make you stay/not disappear. And so I might instinctively hesitate to reach out or say something, because I am fearing that I will be shut down. I have experienced time and time again with my INFJ, that she tends to not ask open questions like; "What can you do to help me/What do you think I need or Based on what I said, what do you think would make things better?", and she simply assumes there is nothing I can do that might help. Contrary to this assumption, there are many things that can make any given situation a tiny bit better, as with the example about being a personal secretary above, which was a great boon in her opinion.
Sadly, even with my Ne superpowers of seeing possibilities, I can't transform the world. Which is something I do wish I could offer, as finding ideals I love is a fundamental part of what draws me to someone, and especially Ni, as it offers much more long-term direction. I want to truly support those ideals, and I am bummed out when my support is rejected/ignored because it don't necessarily align with what should be.
I hope you, and others reading this far, will find someone that will support and enable great ideals to flourish in the best way possible. Take care Niki, and all the best for your lovely cat as well.
Oof. That sounds so rough and difficult. If it is making your life difficult, there is no shame or trouble in stepping away from RUclips. Please do what’s best for yourself. I would miss your content, and I’ve enjoyed getting to know you a little and chatting via the comments and your business email a little bit, but, its really important for you to do what’s best for yourself. And if that means stepping away for a while, that’s fine. I remember last time I talked to you, you were dealing with difficult and inappropriate people a little, but it seems to have gotten much worse :/
Anyway, also when you were talking about your internal world, that was really resonating. I’ve been thinking about, and living, in mine a lot lately.
a BIG, BIG, BIG, ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLY ENORMOUS reason why we are introverted IS because when we feel or choose to attend to something in an affective way; we CHOOSE to feel ABSOLUTELY DEEPLY.
that IS also why we temper ourselves so much.
STILL WATERS RUN DEEP.
^ THAT ^ saying MUSTVE been inspired by observations of an INTJ.
ABSOLUTELY.
FOR SURE.
- INTJ
Still waters do indeed run deep. Thank you for your continued support.
I'm an INTJ too and I work with other people after working solo for 5 years and I absolutely hate it. I picked up a job as a cook in a kitchen when a business scheme fell through, and I'm finally saving up enough to get back into that through working multiple jobs. But I'm stuck working with people in the meantime and it sucks. I'm a man, so I don't have to worry as much about advances, although I have had unwanted same-sex advances at work a couple times... but this past month I've had to defend 3 staff members from unwanted harassment. One of them was against a minor, and the culprit has since been fired. The other two times I was the only one who said anything or did anything about it. It's all so tiresome. Very relatable video, I certainly feel your pain :P Here's wishing you some inner peace.
The world needs people like you. I find myself defending others also. A common INTJ trait, perhaps? I hate to hear that you're having to deal with unwanted advances. That's never okay. Let's create those nano-chips and cure creepy behavior. We can also create a laser in outer space as a contingency...
She lives! Staying alive is a victory when the world is out to get you. My neighbor across the street died a couple of days ago. She was in her late 80's and went from normal to passing from liver failure in about a month's time. She had a good day a few days before the end, so she got to say goodbye to her children that flew into town to see her. I think dying alone is one of my biggest fears since I never had kids. Being trapped in an unhealthy body with just my mind working is a bit of a personal hell to me.
On a happier note, stress kills and I'm so happy to hear you are in a less toxic place now. Your new room looks beautiful, so I hope it's located in a safer location after hearing about your last one. I love getting your video notifications, it's like hearing from an old friend. I'm happy to pick up right where we left off, even if it's only once or twice a year. I do look forward to your next video, but please don't worry about how long or quickly the motivation comes to you.
Personally, my joints are killing me lately with the shifting of the weather, so I've been spending a lot of time in bed listening to audiobooks/sleeping, so I haven't had much motivation to do much beyond getting through the days. Hearing from you reminds me I'm not the only one going through tough stuff, so I hope you get some comfort from reading this as well.
Hello there! I don't think any of us want to die feeling alone just on a human level. That's a very valid fear. Thank you for sharing that with me. Also, I painted my apartment myself, so I appreciate the compliment! I am very safe where I am, and I'm much happier.
Thank you for your continued support.
I'm always rooting for you.
Thank you for STILL being here. I'll have to hear more of your music soon.
@@nikiyikes5674 I just emailed you a link to my soon-to-be-released album, as well as the album cover, which I just picked out on Sunday. It somehow has some well-known artists collaborating with me - like, songs-with-millions-of-streams, have-KEXP-live-sessions level.
My grandmother suffered from migraines for something like 30 years week in and week out. She finally gets a regular doctor after successfully beating cancer and that doc gets her on the train of thought that maybe it's an allergic reaction. Well, it was. She was allergic to fucking beef. 40 years of insufferable pain and discomfort all gone after she stopped eating beef. I took this as life goes in a direction for a long time and then one day, it just doesn't. Takes a long time not only for a person to change in key beneficial ways, but to also realize they can. My grandmother never even suspected an allergy. She thought she just had a sickness of some sort. In a way she did. She had a blindspot when it came to diet, a common thing. People have blindspots to all sorts of things, but the good news is that one day they can just see it and all the suffering stops. That's pretty much the definition of the human condition right there.
Allergic to beef? I've heard of that before. There's honestly no telling when it comes to migraines. I've had them since I was a little girl. However...is now a good time to say that I'm allergic to cats? I wouldn't be surprised if the creatures I love the most cause my brain to feel like it's going to explode. That feels quite poetic.
Hej Niki,
thank you for your honesty. I can relate to most of this as I am a 31 year old female INTJ, who also suffers from stress-induced migraine attacks. Noise, people, unfamiliar sourroundings, etc. can be so exhausting. Retreating until I feel up to it again is also what I prefer to do when I can. So just feel free to be yourself. I will stay subscribed and I am looking forward to what you will talk about next. =)
Thank you! My migraines are always more frequent when im stressed, so I've been having a hard time. I really appreciate your support, and I'm sorry to hear that you suffer from similar things as well.
@@nikiyikes5674 From my perspective it always helps to have someone backing you up and able to understand what you are going through. Only other migraine patients can truly understand what we are going through during an attack. Others like to judge and tell us we should keep it together but they have no idea just how awful real migraine is. Compairing it to regular headaches is a bad joke. I count myself lucky that I found a self-help-group of women who are really supportive and share their aquired knowlede on how to treat this very treacherous illness. With their help I found ways to reduce my migraine days from a monhtly average of 14 days to 4 days. It feels like a real blessing to be able live my life again. I hope you get all the support and help you need as well.
least you tried, screw the trolls. keep going and good for you.
Thank you for your support. I shall keep moving along.
i just started watching your channel early last week, and your last post was 7 months ago, i’d like to think i summoned you😼😼
*Rises from the floor in a swirl of smoke, with a cup of tea in one hand*
"You rang?" 🤣
Shame on those creeps who were sending you inappropriate messages. Bunch of no life losers.
I cannot speak for other INTJs either obviously, but when i need to disappear, it's due to some required soul searching. Sounds cliche because many people do it regardless of personality type. What's not so common would be the fact that solitude is among one of the highest priorities for INTJs compared to most folks, even when we are in an exclusive relationship with somebody.
My wife who happens to be INTJ like me are just glad you are at a safer place these days and have some peace of mind. We wish you a life full of true love, joy and prosperity, and to gain the wisdom for navigating life's challenges and overcome the perils which may come your way, whether you eventually find a life partner or decide to remain single.
Agree 100%. I'm so sorry the creeps came after you. Here's a question: what kind of people do you find trigger you the least; who do you feel most comfortable with? As an INTJ I've seen a pattern were I am often comfortable with people who seem like they are INTPs or INFPs. However, I wish I could find a female friend who is also an IN*J. Also, in my opinion it's completely okay that you upload periodically. The right people understand!
Thank you for sharing. I feel more at home and comfortable with people who have calm energy and aren't leading solely with emotion. I'm sort of like that cat that goes to the person not trying to pet them because it's safe over there, and they respect boundaries.
Good to know that you're okay. Disappear and reappear as you see fit. Those of us who enjoy your content will still be here.
Thank you so much!
As listing found myself really related to this. Even though im infj, this is the archetypical hermit mode, where you retreat within to find answers.. usually to bring life to "the project" and what ive learned is our weak ankle is perfectionism. Not only with our creation, but reality itself and others. And theres always a point when you realize that chaos, uncertainty and imperfection are bound to life to create balance, we cannot control it, so we have to let it go, and accept "the shadow" so we can work with it as a tool for improvement.. i hope it helps somehow
INFJs always have such a fascinating way of talking to an INTJ. I really appreciate your input and support. Thank you.
As an INTJ dude, it sucks to know about you getting creepy emails. If it makes you feel any better, I had my few share of stalkers in a city where I used to reside. What make it somewhat strange was that they were women!! It's why I long deleted most of my social media accounts because all I really need and want is my privacy. This basically applies for everyone, although it's especially important for us INTJs and introverts in general.
Hoping for the day where I can afford to live a nomadic lifestyle, going wherever that catches my fancy without having to worry about personal finances.
I recently found your channel and I just want to let you know that it has been really healing and useful for me to hear your perspective on INTJ emotions. I think your channel is a valuable voice on the subject. I'm sorry you are experiencing so much harassment and I understand if you need to step away. But please keep your videos on RUclips so they can continue to help INTJs like me stay in touch with their emotions and have language to describe them.
I've made the decision to continue with my youtubing, but if I decide to stop, I have no intentions of removing my videos. I'm so glad that it's been helpful for you. That's always good to hear.
@@nikiyikes5674 I'm happy to hear that and am looking forward to your future videos when you have time and emotional space to make them. This is my shadow account for a larger channel that I run so I understand that, if you feel as I do when I hear comments like mine, you really mean it even if you receive a lot of them. On a related note, my last full featured video was over a decade ago, so I also *really* understand what it means for an INTJ to disappear from their RUclips channel for long periods of time.
So sad to hear that you've been harassed and sent inappropriate messages. Those people should be ashamed.
As a counter to those negative experiences I wanted to comment on how much I enjoy your channel.
I love your videos and hearing your perspectives. You are very genuine, and I totally share your sense of humour. I relate to alot of your talks and I'm not even INTJ or a witch. Your less serious videos are really funny. At the same time it is heartbreaking hearing about your struggles in more serious videos. You really do carry a heavy load, but from my view you do it gracefully.
I wish you the best going forward.
//INFJ
6:20 regarding chronic migraines... I had them too for many decades. Turns out they were caused by insulin resistance of the brain. They (and many other metabolic syndrome symptoms) completely went away within 3-4 months after I started weekly multi-day water-only fasts, and then going OMAD and low-carb as new lifestyle. You may give it a try: it may work for you too.
lol I forgot about the fake IG account. Good to see you again, Nikki!
Hello! Hope you're well.
@@nikiyikes5674 pretty good. We had Le baby. How’s life in a new state?
You can be Invisible. ~ Dio (1983)
I do like the commitment to the monochrome (lack of) colour palette! Almost didn't spot the cat there either 🤣
Would you believe me if I said that was accidental? My other cat is black and white.
@@nikiyikes5674 Do cats deliberately camouflage themselves on objects with the same colour? It would actually make sense...
It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand the essence of an introvert, especially one like INTJ. I, as an ENTP, watch this video and realize that my life is filled with carefree joy, like a child without any problems and worries. I am both alone and at the same time have no difficulties with people and my environment
Hey, my only issue has been other people since the moment I was born. Most of my adult life is just slapping people with boundaries over and over again until they act right or go away.
Hello, this is Nathan again. From your vid it sounds like you have been through a lot I am sorry. I hope things get better for you. I know how it is to be alone. Try to be well.
Thank you, Nathan. I really appreciate your support.
@@nikiyikes5674 your welcome, I can understand what your kind of going through. It is not easy living a life most do not understand. I hope your world gets better. It is kind of funny, you have moved 5 times that sucks but I am looking to move out of state, I live in the hell hole known as cal. I hate it here, so working a lot trying to save up to move hoping to transfer with my company out of state. Yea, sorry for the long text.
I have renewed my subscription... not sure why it vansihed on me. I have ptsd so my uploading of videos is scattered at best. Sending you good vibes if you want them.
You've been gone for too long, the length of your hair says it all -.- Happy to see you again, although I'm INFJ I find many similarities with you in videos and always look forward to see new ones... Why INTJs disappear? You ain't fooling me, you've been secretly working on world domination plans ;) :)
Shhhhh!!! I'm almost finished with my last top secret thing. I can't have anyone catching on before then....
Thank you for the support :D
Privacy security and osint by Michael Bazzell.
Sad thirsty peeps on the interwebz.
Now I understand one of the reasons Yikes is in the name of your channel. Unless it really is your last name. But I would not put my last name on youtube. So
Yikes is an inside joke and not my last name. I agree with you on that.
All of the good ones are targeted. Keep your head up. Sometimes, I wish I was an INTJ so I could get more done (INTP HERE). Also, you guys (INTJs) can be a$$holes at times but I find it hilarious and even sort of justified? No misunderstandings here. I do NOT consent to being chipped!
We can very much be an a-hole. I wield that side of me very strategically, though.
What's your opinion on Schizoid Personality Disorderr?
I read a lot about it in my youth.
@@nikiyikes5674 I see, a lot of what you say matches up a lot with SzPD. And might not necessarily be an INTJ-specific thing, as I'm ENTJ. These sound like schizoid adaptations rather than INTJ. Hope this helps.
@@zk2399 I don't fit the bill for that, but I do appreciate you sharing just in case.
What's your ennegram, curious, I'm intj 5w6
Hello. I am also a 5, though I never bothered to learn if my wing was a 4 or a 6. I recall it looking the same on the chart, but I refused to pay for it to see what it said. I am certainly a very creative INTJ who enjoys art, stories, and exploring new ideas to further make improvements. I've read about INTJs who fall under each one of these types, and I relate to both. Feel free to analyze and let me know which one you think fits me better. Maybe I'll actually look into it more - if only to see if you're right.
@@nikiyikes5674 your more artsy and have cool tattoos, your probably 5w4
Hey talk about the colleague like relationship between INTJ INFJs.
I can work with my INFJ friend on this! Thanks for the idea.
You're an ISTP, not an INTJ, Niki.
Why thank you, random stranger on the internet.
That intro had me dying 🤣🤣🤣, by the way I’m sorry that these assholes acted inappropriately - ISTJ
I'm surprised that more people haven't commented on it, but that's to be expected with a bunch of people who focus on the overall message. Good to see you!
@@nikiyikes5674or it could be an ISTJ thing, we focus on the little things 😅
I apologize for the earlier comment, perhaps a bit crass.