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Great video. INTJ are interesting how our brains work.

This was such a strange interpretation of the words "romantically clueless". When I randomly clicked the video, I thought it self-evident that those words primarily mean having poor ability in noticing when a man is romantically interested in her, and if the woman happened to also be interested in the man, knowing what kind of feedback to give so that the man doesn't conclude that she must not be interested based on the way she's responding. Secondarily it also might (or might not) involve being able to instinctively notice changes in the romantic mood of the other, when already in a relationship. It didn't even occur to me that the words might be taken to mean nonstandard ways of expressing romance.

9:25 i mean as a male entp, you could flip it: Thanks that you gave me valuable information. Byebye.

hmmm .. inersting .... im a male INTJ .. people think I'm cold

My entire brain hurts. Just stop.

Gosh, you are so beautiful. Intp with Ti-Ni style here.😊 That island's high expectation do actually just go away when the one we love is who we truly love though in my view.

Thank you !!!! So much !! Yeah I’m not a man, I love that part too! Thank you … I’m planning on staying single because it’s just easier !!

I never need to be friends with someone so much (from a 18-intj girl

Carnivore Diet - Really helped my ADHD/ASD/Anxiety. I got healthy eating only fatty red meat, salt, water and animal products. Victory will be yours. 🙂

Please look into a carnivore diet. It really helps. Dr Ken Berry and Dr Anthony Chaffee have free videos on coping with ADHD/ASD/INTJ.

Have you discovered the benefits of a Carnivore Diet ? Dr Ken Berry and Dr Anthony Chaffee have videos for people like us. I have seen great improvements since changing to animal based diet.

As an INTJ dude, it sucks to know about you getting creepy emails. If it makes you feel any better, I had my few share of stalkers in a city where I used to reside. What make it somewhat strange was that they were women!! It's why I long deleted most of my social media accounts because all I really need and want is my privacy. This basically applies for everyone, although it's especially important for us INTJs and introverts in general. Hoping for the day where I can afford to live a nomadic lifestyle, going wherever that catches my fancy without having to worry about personal finances.

Shame on those creeps who were sending you inappropriate messages. Bunch of no life losers. I cannot speak for other INTJs either obviously, but when i need to disappear, it's due to some required soul searching. Sounds cliche because many people do it regardless of personality type. What's not so common would be the fact that solitude is among one of the highest priorities for INTJs compared to most folks, even when we are in an exclusive relationship with somebody. My wife who happens to be INTJ like me are just glad you are at a safer place these days and have some peace of mind. We wish you a life full of true love, joy and prosperity, and to gain the wisdom for navigating life's challenges and overcome the perils which may come your way, whether you eventually find a life partner or decide to remain single.

"In an ideal world"... Having a close connection with an INFJ, I can definitely relate to you both getting stressed out by external stimuli way quicker than me. I have been her 'personal secretary', meaning I would skim through and delete things like you mention with regard to emails, chats or similar things, or even reply to things that would drain her. However, to get there, I needed to be fully trusted, and it has taken her quite awhile to be willing to share the load more fully with me - or even to see it as a possibility at all to ask. The other thing is with regard to vulnerability. I can only second your experience, that it is hard to 'get' the INTJ vulnerability. Even now, when you are obviously sharing something very vulnerable, as an ENTP, what I notice more is the 'spikes'. Maybe this is also due to my more extensive experience with Ni, that I notice that the vulnerability of both you and her, isn't quite "typical". In general, vulnerability tends to be a general invitation for some qualities, be it support, care, understanding, space, warmth, empathy or something else, but with Ni I see a direct link to how the inner aspirations for an ideal world seeping into the social meaning of expressing vulnerability. It now has both an expressed meaning, and an indirect, unexpressed, idealistic meaning - The duality of being vulnerable, but also being highly selective with whom you will trust - means the message you are sending out has important nuances that most people don't hear in its entirety. And of course, there are also people that don't care, regardless of what you say. It is still vulnerability, and you do tell people what you need, by virtue of telling them what you dislike. When I reflect on that now, what comes to mind is that I know that you might disappear and some of the things that trigger it - and by no means do I imply that you need to say everything on the internet - but I also notice that I don't know what will make you stay/not disappear. And so I might instinctively hesitate to reach out or say something, because I am fearing that I will be shut down. I have experienced time and time again with my INFJ, that she tends to not ask open questions like; "What can you do to help me/What do you think I need or Based on what I said, what do you think would make things better?", and she simply assumes there is nothing I can do that might help. Contrary to this assumption, there are many things that can make any given situation a tiny bit better, as with the example about being a personal secretary above, which was a great boon in her opinion. Sadly, even with my Ne superpowers of seeing possibilities, I can't transform the world. Which is something I do wish I could offer, as finding ideals I love is a fundamental part of what draws me to someone, and especially Ni, as it offers much more long-term direction. I want to truly support those ideals, and I am bummed out when my support is rejected/ignored because it don't necessarily align with what should be. I hope you, and others reading this far, will find someone that will support and enable great ideals to flourish in the best way possible. Take care Niki, and all the best for your lovely cat as well.

When I was younger and in high school, I was more like your friend with crushes and liking boys and after age like 16/18 I was a lot more like you're describing here, especially 20-23; I don't have crushes and it's very hard for me to catch feelings and my only "crushes" were men/boys at the time from my past who I knew I could trust and like you said too, it's also super hard for me to let people in, even though I am actually a super loving and good girlfriend. Your relationship experiences sound very identical to mine. I really hope you've healed more the past three years and are able to find genuine lasting love.

Amen

Oof. That sounds so rough and difficult. If it is making your life difficult, there is no shame or trouble in stepping away from RUclips. Please do what’s best for yourself. I would miss your content, and I’ve enjoyed getting to know you a little and chatting via the comments and your business email a little bit, but, its really important for you to do what’s best for yourself. And if that means stepping away for a while, that’s fine. I remember last time I talked to you, you were dealing with difficult and inappropriate people a little, but it seems to have gotten much worse :/ Anyway, also when you were talking about your internal world, that was really resonating. I’ve been thinking about, and living, in mine a lot lately.

This isn't an obvious connection, but a lot of INTJs are highly sensitive people, and I do recommend Elaine Aron's book about it. An INFJ friend of mine, Amy Lyne (swear I'm not looking for clout, Amy), just recently posted a video about INFJs' empathy and boundaries, which in the most part I resonate with as an INTJ, and just like your video I couldn't stop thinking "damn, that sounds like high sensitivity" (funnily enough she also has people tell her she must be an INTJ because "too rational"; maybe is a woman thing, maybe is a narrow view of the types, or both). Particularly, I often find myself caught in a cycle of hypervigilance /stilmulation then a crash, dissociation and retreat. It's almost like chasing the overwhelm to get the numbness of exhaustion at the finish line. All of that as a way out of the current overarousal. On top of that, people are risky. And I don't say that as a scared little boy. Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence. Even the well meaning can be cumbersome if they can't think as deeply, as thoroughly, with good abstract reasoning, and consequently be fair, efficient, considerate. So we're left running laps over people's thoughts, which is a recipe for regular frustrations and eventual disasters. No wonder we say fuck off and disappear

6:20 regarding chronic migraines... I had them too for many decades. Turns out they were caused by insulin resistance of the brain. They (and many other metabolic syndrome symptoms) completely went away within 3-4 months after I started weekly multi-day water-only fasts, and then going OMAD and low-carb as new lifestyle. You may give it a try: it may work for you too.

You're an ISTP, not an INTJ, Niki.

I have renewed my subscription... not sure why it vansihed on me. I have ptsd so my uploading of videos is scattered at best. Sending you good vibes if you want them.

You can be Invisible. ~ Dio (1983)

So sad to hear that you've been harassed and sent inappropriate messages. Those people should be ashamed. As a counter to those negative experiences I wanted to comment on how much I enjoy your channel. I love your videos and hearing your perspectives. You are very genuine, and I totally share your sense of humour. I relate to alot of your talks and I'm not even INTJ or a witch. Your less serious videos are really funny. At the same time it is heartbreaking hearing about your struggles in more serious videos. You really do carry a heavy load, but from my view you do it gracefully. I wish you the best going forward. //INFJ

i just started watching your channel early last week, and your last post was 7 months ago, i’d like to think i summoned you😼😼

It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand the essence of an introvert, especially one like INTJ. I, as an ENTP, watch this video and realize that my life is filled with carefree joy, like a child without any problems and worries. I am both alone and at the same time have no difficulties with people and my environment

I do like the commitment to the monochrome (lack of) colour palette! Almost didn't spot the cat there either 🤣

As listing found myself really related to this. Even though im infj, this is the archetypical hermit mode, where you retreat within to find answers.. usually to bring life to "the project" and what ive learned is our weak ankle is perfectionism. Not only with our creation, but reality itself and others. And theres always a point when you realize that chaos, uncertainty and imperfection are bound to life to create balance, we cannot control it, so we have to let it go, and accept "the shadow" so we can work with it as a tool for improvement.. i hope it helps somehow

Good to know that you're okay. Disappear and reappear as you see fit. Those of us who enjoy your content will still be here.

I recently found your channel and I just want to let you know that it has been really healing and useful for me to hear your perspective on INTJ emotions. I think your channel is a valuable voice on the subject. I'm sorry you are experiencing so much harassment and I understand if you need to step away. But please keep your videos on RUclips so they can continue to help INTJs like me stay in touch with their emotions and have language to describe them.

Honestly, an INTJ that's willing to put themselves out there on youtube in front of a camera is an outlier. I sure wouldn't. The most I can manage is occasionally answering a question on Quora. That said, your'e doing a service to fellow INTJ's getting our thoughts, concerns and struggles out in the public forum, which is both instructive to other personality types, and self validating to our own. Thank you.

Im 22 years old INTJ with bipolar. u have no idea how much therapy your channel is giving me <3

lol I forgot about the fake IG account. Good to see you again, Nikki!

That "sharing the load" part resonated with me a lot. I have huge issues with that, too, and I paid the price (of carrying too much by myself) enough times to know I should be more trusting, if only to not be crushed by the weight of it all. But it's hard. Anyway, glad you're OK, and nice to see you around here again. All the best to you, Niki.

I'm always rooting for you.

You've been gone for too long, the length of your hair says it all -.- Happy to see you again, although I'm INFJ I find many similarities with you in videos and always look forward to see new ones... Why INTJs disappear? You ain't fooling me, you've been secretly working on world domination plans ;) :)

Hej Niki, thank you for your honesty. I can relate to most of this as I am a 31 year old female INTJ, who also suffers from stress-induced migraine attacks. Noise, people, unfamiliar sourroundings, etc. can be so exhausting. Retreating until I feel up to it again is also what I prefer to do when I can. So just feel free to be yourself. I will stay subscribed and I am looking forward to what you will talk about next. =)

We disappear to find ourselves. ♾🦋

least you tried, screw the trolls. keep going and good for you.

Hello Niki. I have seing a few of your videos... spot on. My name is David - 55yr male - San Diego - INTJ (AF). I am NOT here to be ... rude or low brow. I wanted to share a few things. Island ... yep! Unfortunately, my island exists in a hell of my own creation. I exist solitary and have attempted to construct a vessel to escape but failed after a year of intense risk and fortitude. It is difficult to escape isolation from one's own mind and doings. I find myself attempting to construct a NEW vessel, a new method to escape this volcanic barren island of disparity. Another risk with hopeful lessons learned from past failures and a few great successes. INTJs disappear because of over stimulation and social disorder. We can not handle large venues for prolonged periods ... it disrupts our harmony our center. When I was a full time stoner - drinker ... I would suddenly and without saying goodbye ... simply ghost-out. It was perceived as rude but I viewed it as personal survival. Unfortunately... it's also a great way to never hold onto friends. However ...we're they ever "friends". We exist in the ether of humanity. We drift through ... see ... experience ... learn ... judge ... return to nothingness and nobody. At 55 yr and after experiencing a divorce after 27 years of commitment ... I can safely say ... before an INTJ opens up to people or an individual whom you utterly trust ... don't settle for the common ... search for and research them to the core! Trust nobody till you trust somebody absolutely. We ... INTJ ... need to find or create a unique place that is safe for US.

All of the good ones are targeted. Keep your head up. Sometimes, I wish I was an INTJ so I could get more done (INTP HERE). Also, you guys (INTJs) can be a$$holes at times but I find it hilarious and even sort of justified? No misunderstandings here. I do NOT consent to being chipped!

I'm an INTJ too and I work with other people after working solo for 5 years and I absolutely hate it. I picked up a job as a cook in a kitchen when a business scheme fell through, and I'm finally saving up enough to get back into that through working multiple jobs. But I'm stuck working with people in the meantime and it sucks. I'm a man, so I don't have to worry as much about advances, although I have had unwanted same-sex advances at work a couple times... but this past month I've had to defend 3 staff members from unwanted harassment. One of them was against a minor, and the culprit has since been fired. The other two times I was the only one who said anything or did anything about it. It's all so tiresome. Very relatable video, I certainly feel your pain :P Here's wishing you some inner peace.

I like how even while saying hello and smiling, it sounds " You will fucking die. "

She lives! Staying alive is a victory when the world is out to get you. My neighbor across the street died a couple of days ago. She was in her late 80's and went from normal to passing from liver failure in about a month's time. She had a good day a few days before the end, so she got to say goodbye to her children that flew into town to see her. I think dying alone is one of my biggest fears since I never had kids. Being trapped in an unhealthy body with just my mind working is a bit of a personal hell to me. On a happier note, stress kills and I'm so happy to hear you are in a less toxic place now. Your new room looks beautiful, so I hope it's located in a safer location after hearing about your last one. I love getting your video notifications, it's like hearing from an old friend. I'm happy to pick up right where we left off, even if it's only once or twice a year. I do look forward to your next video, but please don't worry about how long or quickly the motivation comes to you. Personally, my joints are killing me lately with the shifting of the weather, so I've been spending a lot of time in bed listening to audiobooks/sleeping, so I haven't had much motivation to do much beyond getting through the days. Hearing from you reminds me I'm not the only one going through tough stuff, so I hope you get some comfort from reading this as well.

Hi Niki, as a fellow INTJ it made my day to see you back. I hear the challenges you’ve been experiencing that kept you away, and I deeply understand that INTJ need to pull back when the ‘Se’ world seems too much. The important thing is that you’ve processed what happened, like any INTJ would, and you’re back, and I’m sure your INTJ brain has abstracted numerous learnings from the experience. I would also say as an INTJ I don’t have the courage to put myself out there on RUclips the way you have.

Privacy security and osint by Michael Bazzell.

That intro had me dying 🤣🤣🤣, by the way I’m sorry that these assholes acted inappropriately - ISTJ

My grandmother suffered from migraines for something like 30 years week in and week out. She finally gets a regular doctor after successfully beating cancer and that doc gets her on the train of thought that maybe it's an allergic reaction. Well, it was. She was allergic to fucking beef. 40 years of insufferable pain and discomfort all gone after she stopped eating beef. I took this as life goes in a direction for a long time and then one day, it just doesn't. Takes a long time not only for a person to change in key beneficial ways, but to also realize they can. My grandmother never even suspected an allergy. She thought she just had a sickness of some sort. In a way she did. She had a blindspot when it came to diet, a common thing. People have blindspots to all sorts of things, but the good news is that one day they can just see it and all the suffering stops. That's pretty much the definition of the human condition right there.

What's your ennegram, curious, I'm intj 5w6

I apologize for the earlier comment, perhaps a bit crass.

Agree 100%. I'm so sorry the creeps came after you. Here's a question: what kind of people do you find trigger you the least; who do you feel most comfortable with? As an INTJ I've seen a pattern were I am often comfortable with people who seem like they are INTPs or INFPs. However, I wish I could find a female friend who is also an IN*J. Also, in my opinion it's completely okay that you upload periodically. The right people understand!