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Such a great demo. IThanks to both you and Ruthie. I especially loved how you gently but firmly steered her out of her "story" in the beginning of the session -- I struggle with this with clients and love the prompt, "As you hear yourself sharing this story, what strikes you as most important for us to explore in coaching today?" Genius!!
The story is important, and I want the client to share the story, but then I need them to tell me what of the story is most important for our session. So yes to the story, and yes to the "what's important from the story?" :) Thank you for the comment!
How awesome, congratulations on your PCC journey :) And, thank you so much for recommending my videos. There are several that go through the markers. I hope they all support you. :)
Thank you, Tracy, for your comment and for checking it out. I'm happy you found it useful. I'm just starting this series so there will more to come. 😉 Cheers!
Thank you! I'm happy you found it useful! This is part of a new series so there are more to come. Plus, I am expanding my ICF Core Competency videos over the next few weeks. I hope you will come by again and please reach out if I may answer any questions. Cheers, Lyssa
Thank you for sharing this demonstration, Lyssa. The client's transformation from the beginning of the session to the end was powerful. I also appreciate that you add the ICF markers--an important learning tool as I work towards my certification.
I'm so glad I found this coaching example. I really was helped by seeing the actual competencies listed after a question was asked. Also, it was refreshing bc I didn't feel like it was a coach coaching a coach. I actually heard things that sound like the conversations I have with my clients. I am looking forward to learning more from your site Lyssa deHart! Thank you!
This is awesome - love the connection and playfulness and quality of attention whilst getting great things done. GREAT and inspirational. Also excellent to call out the markers for PCC. Polished.
Hi Christopher, I'm delighted you found it useful. If you would like to access more free resources such as transcripts, videos with and without the markers, swing by my website lyssadehart.podia.com/ and I'm always available for your questions. Cheers and thank you so much for commenting! ✨ Lyssa
Love this, Lyssa. Thanks for sharing. Like that you took her easefulness (coined wordn :)) all the way through; that with all the story, lots of story, you were able to stay focused on the who, and that you mirrored her energy as well. I noticed you also held onto other pieces of shares until the time in the conversation that they seemed relevant, and offered up a question around a potential link between them. Appreciate this share and you, Lyssa! Warmly, K
Thank you for the feedback Karen, and I appreciate the noticing of the mirrored energy. I am not sure that I was intentionally focused on doing that, per se, I think that it is a part of how I have trained myself to show up... but also, I tend to coach people I resonate with, so maybe I am choosing clients in some way that makes mirroring them easy for me. :)
Hi @deborahbillings5225 I'm so happy you have found them useful! I have a new free one available on my learning academy. It's called Tune Your Ear, if you get a chance, come by and check it out. Thank you so much for watching and commenting!!
Thank you posting this demonstration and including the ICF markers! What a powerful coaching session. This is so helpful. I am currently working towards my certification. Warm wishes from the Philippines!
thank you so much for sharing this recording! The slides are so useful as well. I am at the beginning of my coaching training so it’s really magical to watch how sessions run and it’s helping to build my confidence!
Lyssa this was great and tremendously helpful! As I prepare my video for submission for my PCC, I have learned so much from watching this video and all your videos that go through the ICF Competencies and Markers. I don t think there any other MCC Coach out there that's putting together a demo session with the great slides showing the core competencies you are demonstrating. Cant' wait to see more.
Thank you, Nicole! And, you are very welcome. I'm so happy you found it useful. I hope you will tune in again. If I may ever answer any questions, please reach out. Best wishes! Lyssa
Great work Lyssa -- and very efficient which I think is impressive as this could have been a 90 minute call but got to where you need to be in 1/3 the time...
Hi Lyssa! Thank you for giving us a peek into some masterful coaching. I have a question. At around the 7:45 mark, you asked Lyssa : "If we look at the container of powering through to ease, where is the best place to explore what's in the way of ease or what allows for ease? If either of these questions resonate? Why give the coachee two options? Why not leave it completely open ... where is the best place to explore? If you had to include the option (maybe coachee has no idea) why not give only one of the options - what's in the way of ease? Granted the two options are different, but they are pretty similar...
Great question. First, I do not want to assume anything for the client, so testing my assumption that this is what the client wants, to move from powering through toward ease, is important. In the Agreement Setting, we want to confirm and/or reconfirm for clarity that both the client and the coach understand the container of the coaching conversation. Yet, you bring up a valid point. I gave the two options because I didn't like how limiting my first question was, so I attempted to course-corrected in the moment. Another choice point (CP) would have been: "If we are looking at powering through towards ease, where would you like to begin our exploration?" There are many CP's that I might have chosen. :) Thank you for the question!
I love new subbies! :) Welcome to the channel. If you ever have a coaching question that I could do a video on, let me know! Thank you for subscribing.
Thank you for the great demo. I've learnt a lot from it. I love powerful questions you have for the coachee. Just one thing I notice that sometime you step in while coachee is talking. Will it be a minus when I'm assessed for credential?
Interruption is an interesting thing. There is interruption when we are highlighting something the client said that sounds potentially important, and then there is interruption when we are taking the client in a different direction. It's a dance. 1 or 2 interruptions over the course of a coaching session, if for a useful purpose, won't typically be a problem. Multiple interruptions where you are asking about details of the situation or missing something the client shared and steering them in new directions would be very problematic. Also, remember this is a short video (20 minutes) with 2 purposes, to demonstrate coaching and explore the differences between coaching and say therapy. This is not a 45-60 minute coaching call. I would probably avoid interruption if there was more time... Last thing, interruption is something I continue to work on in my own coaching. :)
Thank you Lyssa, for sharing such wonderful demonstration. Adding the ICF markers was an important learning tool as I am preparing my final recordings for PCC. My question here relates to marker 4.3 which question during the conversation that indicates demonstrating that marker?
4.3 Coach acknowledges and supports the client’s expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs or suggestions. I think you ask a very important question. First, what did you see in the conversation that showed that I as the coach supported the client's expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs, or suggestions? Coaching is not linear, so it may have shown up in the capacity of the coach to hold the space as the client explored their own thoughts, perceptions, feels... etc. My thoughts are, when we hold space for the client, when we ask inside out questions, when we support the client to explore their beliefs, we demonstrate 4.3. When you listen to the call, which questions demonstrate that for you?
I'm so excited I found your channel and this great coaching demo, Lyssa! I'm training to be a coach and working to understand and integrate the competencies. It's a rollercoaster, for sure. It's great that you added this recording with the slides to point out the markers for each question. I do have one question for the end of the coaching session. What if the client says No to "Do you feel like this is an OK place to stop the coaching?"
I’m glad that you found the channel, also. That’s an interesting question. What if the client says No to, “Is this an ok place to stop?” I have a couple of thoughts about this. One is that most client sessions have a time frame. So, the client will know that the session is getting close to time and will most likely not say “No.” The second thought is if the client did say “No,” I might ask, “What last thing do you need to feel complete for today as we come to an end?” Maybe there is still something they need to anchor or acknowledge for themselves. I would be transparent about the coming to the end. The invitation is not to go on for another 20 minutes. I haven’t experienced people saying “No,” when we’ve had a thoughtful session, and they have learned or remembered something important. They are typically full and ready to noodle around with their insights. The last thought is that maybe if I am coaching 30-minute sessions and the person I’m working with is an internal processor and thoughtful in taking time to consider things, 30-minutes might not be enough time, and we might need to renegotiate the length of their sessions. It’s so funny; I just did a video about this on Tuesday. We should have it published soon. Thank you for the question, and please ask more if you have others. 😀
@@LyssadeHart thank you for your detailed reply 😀. I was thinking in terms of a 30 minute session, 'cause to me that's quite a short time. Maybe I'll have a different opinion once I gain more experience. That question around what the client needs to feel complete for that session is gold!
Thank you for sharing! Very informative demonstration. Question: how long did your session end up being? Did you spend any time talking through action items, or was this more of a reflective session? Thanks!
Great question Jessica. The session was the length that you saw, that was an entire coaching conversation. Ruthie and I met a week before and agreed to do the video recording. And, we had a debrief after the session. But, what you see is what we did. About the action items, at 23:59 I asked, "Are there any specific actions that would support this awareness that you're having?" I then restate the question because she asks what I mean. (The restating is an indicator I could have asked a cleaner question. Choice Point: What actions will support you moving forward?) Remember, post-session actions can be anything that the client determines they will do, like thinking, reflection, or specific actions. The coach partners by asking about actions, and the client partners by saying what they will do. This could mean, "I will journal about this." Or, "I will call X# of people." Or "I will set a time to do XYZ." In this conversation Ruthie determined that she would "journal, do market research, and on Monday reach out to the people in her network." The action items didn't take a lot of time to explore because she had been working up to them throughout the conversation and was clear on her next steps by the end of the conversation. I hope this is a useful explanation. And, thank you for asking such a great question.
"Is there anything you want to name yourself as we come close that you just really need still to be acknowledged or said about yourself?" very powerful question!! 👏👏 Lyssa, I wanted to ask.. Are there any other ways, how i can ask the same question?
I don't ask this question every time; it felt right in this moment. How I ask the question also changes depending on the conversation. How would you, in your voice, ask a similar question?
Please help me here if it's not the right approach....how does this sound to you ..... Did our conversation lead you to experience something new about yourself ?
@@TejaswiniGaikwadTalks Did... leads to a closed question; the client might respond with "Yes", so to open it up consider What or How questions. A reframe on your question, "What have you learned about yourself today in this conversation?" This type of question is a simple open-ended question and will probably invite the client to share what they learned. :) Great practice!
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I love the way you put the slides each time you ask a question. Great format Lyssa!
:) Thanks @AlmostRetiredinMexico I think it helps coaches to see how a question might meet more than one competency :)
Such a great demo. IThanks to both you and Ruthie. I especially loved how you gently but firmly steered her out of her "story" in the beginning of the session -- I struggle with this with clients and love the prompt, "As you hear yourself sharing this story, what strikes you as most important for us to explore in coaching today?" Genius!!
The story is important, and I want the client to share the story, but then I need them to tell me what of the story is most important for our session. So yes to the story, and yes to the "what's important from the story?" :) Thank you for the comment!
I am an iranian pcc coaching student , I suggested this video to all of my classmates . I had so much learning for me 👏 👏 👏
How awesome, congratulations on your PCC journey :) And, thank you so much for recommending my videos. There are several that go through the markers. I hope they all support you. :)
The Competency slide added to this conversation is like icing on the cake...outstanding!!
I think coaches often don't understand the power of one question to meet multiple competencies.
I really liked the organic and insightful way you partnered the client. Thank you so much for sharing!
You are so welcome! Thank you, Satyam @satyamarora5827 for tuning in.
Brillant demo! I so much enjoy watching this ICF coach. Love her demos and ICF teachings!
Thank you so much for watching :) And for the lovely compliment.
Thank you Lyssa - it is so hard to find great coaching demonstrations and yours, with the slides added, is such a great teaching resource. Thank you.
Thank you, Tracy, for your comment and for checking it out. I'm happy you found it useful. I'm just starting this series so there will more to come. 😉 Cheers!
Thank you Lyssa. Wonderful demostration😀
Thank you! I'm happy you found it useful! This is part of a new series so there are more to come. Plus, I am expanding my ICF Core Competency videos over the next few weeks. I hope you will come by again and please reach out if I may answer any questions. Cheers, Lyssa
Thank you for sharing this demonstration, Lyssa. The client's transformation from the beginning of the session to the end was powerful. I also appreciate that you add the ICF markers--an important learning tool as I work towards my certification.
Ok two votes for the ICF markers! :) Thank you so much for your feedback Julie!
Amazing coaching conversation... Thankyou Lyssa... you are awesome!!!
LOL, I appreciate the kind words. Thank you. 😀
Thank you both for this. Ruthie for your vulnerability, and Lyssa for your willingness to share insights and expertise. Eye opening.
Ruthie is AWESOME and I am very glad you found the insights on my questions useful :)
This is goldmine! THANK YOU!
I am happy you struck GOLD!!! 😀 Thank you for the comment!
Thank you so much for doing this! So helpful.
Yay! I love hearing that it is supporting your coaching :)
I'm so glad I found this coaching example. I really was helped by seeing the actual competencies listed after a question was asked. Also, it was refreshing bc I didn't feel like it was a coach coaching a coach. I actually heard things that sound like the conversations I have with my clients. I am looking forward to learning more from your site Lyssa deHart! Thank you!
Wonderful! :) It was not a coach coaching a coach, but that said, I seem to get mostly coaches who are willing to be coached on RUclips.
Thank you for sharing this very high quality content!
It is very useful, thank you 🙏
I am so glad to hear that! Thank you for the comment. And I will have more videos coming, so stay tuned... :)
Lyssa, what an amazing coaching demonstration. I am learning a lot especially you link what you are doing with the markers. Thanks again
Glad it was helpful! And, Thank you for the comment :)
Thank you Lyssa and Ruthie…this is very useful for new and experienced coaches
Thank you, Patrick! I'm excited about this new series of videos and hope they will be useful. ✨
This is awesome - love the connection and playfulness and quality of attention whilst getting great things done. GREAT and inspirational. Also excellent to call out the markers for PCC. Polished.
Thank you Mag, Ruthie was an awesome client and I think it helps to see how a question can demonstrate multiple markers. :)
This was so great-thank you for sharing your gifts so we can learn from you!
I am glad you liked it :) And, you are most welcome!
I watched 3 times to make sure that I captured all the essence out of it.😄
Thank you, Jack! Delighted you are here and watching. Please reach out to me with any questions and I will be sure to touch base with you!
Thank you for sharing this. Very useful!
Hi Christopher, I'm delighted you found it useful. If you would like to access more free resources such as transcripts, videos with and without the markers, swing by my website lyssadehart.podia.com/ and I'm always available for your questions. Cheers and thank you so much for commenting! ✨ Lyssa
So helpful. Thanks!
Yay, I love hearing that @Deborahbillings5225
Love this, Lyssa. Thanks for sharing. Like that you took her easefulness (coined wordn :)) all the way through; that with all the story, lots of story, you were able to stay focused on the who, and that you mirrored her energy as well. I noticed you also held onto other pieces of shares until the time in the conversation that they seemed relevant, and offered up a question around a potential link between them. Appreciate this share and you, Lyssa! Warmly, K
Thank you for the feedback Karen, and I appreciate the noticing of the mirrored energy. I am not sure that I was intentionally focused on doing that, per se, I think that it is a part of how I have trained myself to show up... but also, I tend to coach people I resonate with, so maybe I am choosing clients in some way that makes mirroring them easy for me. :)
I love your demos Lyssa!
Hi @deborahbillings5225 I'm so happy you have found them useful! I have a new free one available on my learning academy. It's called Tune Your Ear, if you get a chance, come by and check it out. Thank you so much for watching and commenting!!
Thank you posting this demonstration and including the ICF markers! What a powerful coaching session.
This is so helpful. I am currently working towards my certification. Warm wishes from the Philippines!
I am so glad you found it useful! Sending you good vibes as you work on your certification.
Wonderful, thank you for doing these :D
VERY USEFUL. Thank you!!!!
You're welcome! I'm delighted you found it useful and please reach out to me with any questions you may have. And, thank you for watching, Sabina. ✨
thank you so much for sharing this recording! The slides are so useful as well. I am at the beginning of my coaching training so it’s really magical to watch how sessions run and it’s helping to build my confidence!
So happy to hear that. Coaching is a lifelong learning journey for me. :) I am glad that this is useful.
Lyssa this was great and tremendously helpful! As I prepare my video for submission for my PCC, I have learned so much from watching this video and all your videos that go through the ICF Competencies and Markers. I don t think there any other MCC Coach out there that's putting together a demo session with the great slides showing the core competencies you are demonstrating. Cant' wait to see more.
I really appreciate your feedback!
Amazing coaching demonstration! This is exactly what I needed to help me get back into my wellness coaching practice. Thank you Lyssa! :)
Thank you, Nicole! And, you are very welcome. I'm so happy you found it useful. I hope you will tune in again. If I may ever answer any questions, please reach out. Best wishes! Lyssa
Great work Lyssa -- and very efficient which I think is impressive as this could have been a 90 minute call but got to where you need to be in 1/3 the time...
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Thank you for tuning in and sharing your thoughts. :)
great, love it :) thank u so much
You are welcome! :) Glad you found the video. There are a few more on RUclips.
Hi Lyssa! Thank you for giving us a peek into some masterful coaching.
I have a question. At around the 7:45 mark, you asked Lyssa : "If we look at the container of powering through to ease, where is the best place to explore what's in the way of ease or what allows for ease? If either of these questions resonate?
Why give the coachee two options? Why not leave it completely open ... where is the best place to explore?
If you had to include the option (maybe coachee has no idea) why not give only one of the options - what's in the way of ease?
Granted the two options are different, but they are pretty similar...
Great question.
First, I do not want to assume anything for the client, so testing my assumption that this is what the client wants, to move from powering through toward ease, is important. In the Agreement Setting, we want to confirm and/or reconfirm for clarity that both the client and the coach understand the container of the coaching conversation.
Yet, you bring up a valid point. I gave the two options because I didn't like how limiting my first question was, so I attempted to course-corrected in the moment.
Another choice point (CP) would have been:
"If we are looking at powering through towards ease, where would you like to begin our exploration?"
There are many CP's that I might have chosen. :) Thank you for the question!
New subbie here! Love this ❤
I love new subbies! :) Welcome to the channel. If you ever have a coaching question that I could do a video on, let me know! Thank you for subscribing.
Thank you for the great demo. I've learnt a lot from it. I love powerful questions you have for the coachee. Just one thing I notice that sometime you step in while coachee is talking. Will it be a minus when I'm assessed for credential?
Interruption is an interesting thing. There is interruption when we are highlighting something the client said that sounds potentially important, and then there is interruption when we are taking the client in a different direction. It's a dance. 1 or 2 interruptions over the course of a coaching session, if for a useful purpose, won't typically be a problem. Multiple interruptions where you are asking about details of the situation or missing something the client shared and steering them in new directions would be very problematic. Also, remember this is a short video (20 minutes) with 2 purposes, to demonstrate coaching and explore the differences between coaching and say therapy. This is not a 45-60 minute coaching call. I would probably avoid interruption if there was more time... Last thing, interruption is something I continue to work on in my own coaching. :)
Thank you Lyssa, for sharing such wonderful demonstration. Adding the ICF markers was an important learning tool as I am preparing my final recordings for PCC.
My question here relates to marker 4.3 which question during the conversation that indicates demonstrating that marker?
4.3 Coach acknowledges and supports the client’s expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs or suggestions.
I think you ask a very important question. First, what did you see in the conversation that showed that I as the coach supported the client's expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs, or suggestions?
Coaching is not linear, so it may have shown up in the capacity of the coach to hold the space as the client explored their own thoughts, perceptions, feels... etc.
My thoughts are, when we hold space for the client, when we ask inside out questions, when we support the client to explore their beliefs, we demonstrate 4.3.
When you listen to the call, which questions demonstrate that for you?
I'm so excited I found your channel and this great coaching demo, Lyssa! I'm training to be a coach and working to understand and integrate the competencies. It's a rollercoaster, for sure. It's great that you added this recording with the slides to point out the markers for each question.
I do have one question for the end of the coaching session. What if the client says No to "Do you feel like this is an OK place to stop the coaching?"
I’m glad that you found the channel, also. That’s an interesting question. What if the client says No to, “Is this an ok place to stop?” I have a couple of thoughts about this.
One is that most client sessions have a time frame. So, the client will know that the session is getting close to time and will most likely not say “No.”
The second thought is if the client did say “No,” I might ask, “What last thing do you need to feel complete for today as we come to an end?” Maybe there is still something they need to anchor or acknowledge for themselves. I would be transparent about the coming to the end. The invitation is not to go on for another 20 minutes. I haven’t experienced people saying “No,” when we’ve had a thoughtful session, and they have learned or remembered something important. They are typically full and ready to noodle around with their insights.
The last thought is that maybe if I am coaching 30-minute sessions and the person I’m working with is an internal processor and thoughtful in taking time to consider things, 30-minutes might not be enough time, and we might need to renegotiate the length of their sessions.
It’s so funny; I just did a video about this on Tuesday. We should have it published soon.
Thank you for the question, and please ask more if you have others. 😀
@@LyssadeHart thank you for your detailed reply 😀. I was thinking in terms of a 30 minute session, 'cause to me that's quite a short time. Maybe I'll have a different opinion once I gain more experience. That question around what the client needs to feel complete for that session is gold!
Thank you for sharing! Very informative demonstration. Question: how long did your session end up being? Did you spend any time talking through action items, or was this more of a reflective session? Thanks!
Great question Jessica. The session was the length that you saw, that was an entire coaching conversation. Ruthie and I met a week before and agreed to do the video recording. And, we had a debrief after the session. But, what you see is what we did.
About the action items, at 23:59 I asked, "Are there any specific actions that would support this awareness that you're having?" I then restate the question because she asks what I mean. (The restating is an indicator I could have asked a cleaner question. Choice Point: What actions will support you moving forward?) Remember, post-session actions can be anything that the client determines they will do, like thinking, reflection, or specific actions.
The coach partners by asking about actions, and the client partners by saying what they will do.
This could mean, "I will journal about this." Or, "I will call X# of people." Or "I will set a time to do XYZ."
In this conversation Ruthie determined that she would "journal, do market research, and on Monday reach out to the people in her network."
The action items didn't take a lot of time to explore because she had been working up to them throughout the conversation and was clear on her next steps by the end of the conversation.
I hope this is a useful explanation. And, thank you for asking such a great question.
"Is there anything you want to name yourself as we come close that you just really need still to be acknowledged or said about yourself?" very powerful question!! 👏👏 Lyssa, I wanted to ask.. Are there any other ways, how i can ask the same question?
I don't ask this question every time; it felt right in this moment. How I ask the question also changes depending on the conversation. How would you, in your voice, ask a similar question?
Please help me here if it's not the right approach....how does this sound to you .....
Did our conversation lead you to experience something new about yourself ?
@@TejaswiniGaikwadTalks Did... leads to a closed question; the client might respond with "Yes", so to open it up consider What or How questions. A reframe on your question, "What have you learned about yourself today in this conversation?" This type of question is a simple open-ended question and will probably invite the client to share what they learned. :) Great practice!
@@LyssadeHart thank youu for this