I deleted all my social media almost 2 months ago. My overall mood and mental clarity has greatly improved, and now I’m seeing other ways I use technology to distract myself. Even being on RUclips now, getting an email notification, a text message- it’s a dopamine hit. Soon will be removing all notifications from my phone, and only using a computer to check emails and RUclips
Same here, i deleted Snapchat and Pinterest a month ago and deactivated my Instagram like a week ago and then I started spending hours watching a serie on youtube but thankfully she posted
@@nadine2361 no, I don’t. All I’m “missing out” on is recycled issues that have always been talked about, ideas and thoughts with no credibility or value. Any the ideas and thoughts with real value get absolutely no where when they should. The arguing just for the sake of arguing, flexing your life when you’re actually miserable. Almost no one has an original thought anymore because we are all being fed the “right way to think” about things. I’ve learned a ton from the internet, but I’ve also wasted 5x more of my energy by feeling like whatever someone else was doing had any value to me. Everyone just talks in circles. There’s no answers to all the problems. It’s a great way to make us feel helpless. Also the constant up and down emotions from scrolling made my brain too full to even consider anything else. I’d laugh my ass off one video, sob the next, get angry at the next, cry again, laugh again, mad again, confused, laugh. My equilibrium was fucked and I couldn’t even see it. Suddenly my FOMO for my own life and my own story became stronger than my FOMO for someone else’s. I’m 23 today, but next week I’ll wake up 50 years old. Doom scrolling and watching mindless content 75+ days a year is not the story I want just because I rationalized it like if I didn’t keep up I would miss something important. You won’t. I started looking at historical discussions, sooo many of them were still having right now. I’ll have a facebook memory from 7 years ago, advocating for a law or something that we still have made 0 movement on and are still talking about. Try to see it. Every single point has been talked over and over and over and over before. They recycle the arguments every generation.
@Meghan144 youtube is not social media. you can use it for learning new things and improve yourself but with social media apps like instagram tiktok etc you can't do this. you just scroll and lose time with them
This is a real issue in our society that many of us don’t want to admit, I’ve seen a lots of youtubers talking about this topic and the views are over millions yet people still are addicted to social media, including me, it’s like an escapism from reality and a “modern” coping mechanism of early trauma
I've noticed this, too, Jasmina. Yes, there are a LOT of videos on youtube talking about this, yet very few people are willing to get a small flip phone and cut way back on staring at their phones so much and actually participate in their lives.
This is so true. I’ve been addicted to my phone since I was a young child. It was a way for me to forget about my worries/anxietys. It’s so toxic though because these worries would just build up until I exploded. I feel so unmotivated in my life. A lot of people don’t like themselves and they don’t understand why. Well here’s the truth. You don’t love yourself because you never do what you need. You scroll on TikTok instead of cleaning you room, you talk to random people online instead of making real connections, and you hide your emotions till you explode. You are worthy of everything, please don’t let addiction stop you from becoming yourself. ❤️
I'm 13 and a few months ago I deleted all social media (instagram,tiktok,snapchat) and although it hasn't been that hard, after a month or so I decided to download snapchat again because of the social barriers that come with deleting everything, especially at my age. Still, I find myself procrastinating on applications such as RUclips and Tumblr, and you're right. It's a real problem. I feel trapped in a way, in a repetitive cycle. Social Media is manipulating us and taking away our free will, without us even realizing it. It's genius, really. And as beneficial it can be to spread awareness, positivity and growth, I feel like it's being misused, like it makes life meaningless because everyone around me is trapped, and only a select few really care about the effect it has on us (atleast in my age group), therefore making this journey a lonely one. I really really really wish I was a teen in the 2000's, everyone seemed so much more free, happy and healthier.
I'm kind of ranting right now, but I feel like everyone growing up too fast, I mean 10 year old's at Sephora, buying expensive skincare for they're clear, spotless skin? It's the media. I don't blame them, brands and influencers don't make content targeted toward our age group and we consume the daily thoughts and worries of 20,30 year old's. Multiple brands make lots of profit off of this, so nothing will ever change, it's only going to get worse. It's sad, really, I'm not surprised everyone my age is depressed, EXTREMLY insecure (l have some friends who've already self-harmed and had suicidal thoughts at 12!? CRAZY.) It's all just fucked up. Like, I still WANT to play mermaids in the pool, still WANT to make slime with no borax, still WANT to go to a playground or some fun slidey place with bouncy balls and play tag. But, instead of doing that, I'm told (by the media) to workout, put on makeup, cover up, but not too much. Get a boyfriend, have an "aesthetic" lifestyle, watch my diet, have millions of different skincare products, perfumes and more. I'M STILL A KID. And people just blindly follow that then they're labeled as "basic" and they should get a "personality" it's like, there's no winning. It's just a repetitive cycle that never ends. I know this is very confusing and everything but I just had to get if off my chest. I don't know. Again, really really really wish I was a teen back in the 2000's.
@@MarieLuise1111Youre so Right! Im also 13 and here you’re being judged by looks. I have Snapchat, TikTok and many other social medias, but I really wanna stop being so much on my phone. And honestly, in the last two weeks I didn’t delete them, but it’s because I’m bored of it. I still have them tho, but I really want to just change my entire life. I don’t know where to start tho, but you’re right. We’re only 13 and we should enjoy our life however we want! ❤❤
1. Create routines : ask your self what the dream/perfect routine the best version of yourself would have & then create non negotiables & negotiables 2. Set time limits on how long you stay on apps & reward yourself for every challenge you overcome : long time pleasure over short time pleasure 3. Set your phone screen to black & white ( it makes it leass visually appealing & therefore the less colours you have on your phone , the less dopamime is going to be released when you use it 4. Get clear on what you are really missing out : 5 hours of daily screen time is in total 75 days of the year . Which means you wasted 25% of the year , so use that time instead investing on yourself , something beneficial ( like spending your limited time on this earth with closed ones , or doing something meaningful like building skills so you won't regret it in the future ) 5. Prioritise yourself: You don't want to spend your whole life being the audience of someone else ! Go & live your own life ! You want to create your own memories , your own life & your own skills . Think about even getting a flip phone ( she has a nokia flip phone ) so now no one has access to you & neither do you to anybody 6. Create balance between consuming & creating: you are not here to just watch others ! Turn your energy inwards , create something!!! ( paint , create music , write poetry , write a book ) turn your pain into art
social media is hell and its so hard to escape. i deleted all of my socials last year except RUclips bc thats the only source of entertainment that i thought I'd be having. i thought i wouldn't spend much time here as compared to all those short-form content apps but i was WRONG.i switched to long-form content like true crime documentries or just a podcast and started getting addicted to those. i was in total denial at first but i finally realised that now i was addicted to RUclips. thats why i started putting my phone away like in some cupboard for most of the time of my day.
Phone addiction really is destroying many of us .....once i start to use phone...i don't know but i literally became rude whenever my family members try to talk to me.... like this is a really big issue.........i feel so irritated when someone tells me something when im using phone .....cuz i just i wanna keep scrolling... but when i stop using phone its like my mood feels so much better n lighter its like i realised i have so many things pending n talking with family members is more fun then using phone 24/7
Turned my phone to black and white immediately after she said to- I literally feel the difference, I’ve seen adverts while finishing her videos and emojis now and my brain almost feels a little more relaxed , lots of gratitude for this Chanel 🙏
immediately did what you said to do, and now I am going use this time to actually do something worth MY time. will not let a glowing rectangle waste my precious time 💀
thank you so much for creating this video. i’m in high school and there are no limits to phone usage (even during tests) and everyone thinks i’m strange for not really using my phone or keeping headphones on 24/7. it’s refreshing to remember that there are people out there with the same values and priorities as me, especially because i spend so much time in a draining environment. sending love to you xx
I remember when my phone and laptop broke literally one day after another and I was without these devices for 3 weeks. Neither the phone nor the laptop brought me such happiness as reading books, going for long walks etc. Then I realized how much the phone itself was taking away the pleasure of my life.
Am using my phone 8 hours a day and it's definetly not ok because am a student am about to graduate high school my final exam is coming in 3 months i have always dreamt of being the top student in my whole country because the government grades our exams and it's doesn't seem like am going to be anywhere near top student out of thousands of students all over the countrty. My laziness and phone addiction has gotta stop Thanks for the advice it knocked me back into my senses❤
thank you.....i really needed this...i don't know why but lately my screen addiction is increasing so severely that its almost concerning now.....i'll surely follow your advice and try to reduce my screen time 💖
Thats why i love that i need to cancel my wifi from my router. Only then have my highspeed on my phone which is limited and i have no money to buy more highspeed
I've known the dangers of my phone, but I realized that since I get so stressed from studies (and the idea of being able to do a lot of things but I cannot choose one), I try to escape it using my phone. Thank you for this so much.
You are so right, before I got a phone I was happy, I had time, I was top student, I didn't even knew the word "depression" but after I got a social media, I started to spend time watching influencers and caring about singers I lost myself. I lost my dreams, my time, my grades, I got into depression. Now I don't know who I am anymore, I don't have a dream or a job. I can't study anymore lile I did before. I have times when I want yo throw my phone over the window, buy a radio, spending time on cooking healthy meals, caring about my look and health and reading books in my spare time.
Lately i've been feeling so depressed again since i'm not working anymore, i realized that i was spending too much time in My phone, i could watch tiktok a whole evening and i was feeling very estimulated, that's why i couldn't do something else, i was so tires after this time on My phone, so today i tried not yo scroll in social media, and i didn't use My phone in the morning, I even started to read a book (in My phone 'cause now i can't Buy books) and i feel so much better! Now i understand that i have to set goals for myself and spend my time with responsability❤
The problem was being aware of hundreds of different thoughts all at once and it feels like every they all you as if you’re talking to yourself in a endless loop and it was an overload of thoughts and emotions that needed to get my mind under control and today is done.
A while ago I noticed that my reading habit was dropping a lot because of the time I was spending on tiktok. I had such quick access to dopamine that I no longer wanted to do things that release dopamine in the long term and that was really hurting me. I decided to go without social media for a while and when I came back I set a limited amount of time to use it, this helped me A LOT. Thank you Alessia
Thank you, Alessia ❤ I love the last phrase "Earlier the internet was an escape from the real life, now the real life is an escape from the internet...". This is so true, I can relate
Thank you for changing the direction of my existence towards something better. You're allowing me to bloom in so many ways that I don't know what I was doing before. I thought that no one ever care. I thought that I knew exactly that I will never be loved and that the flow of my current life i deserved the worst. But you came along, and it all becoming crystal clear. I realised then that I could become a better version of myself. I started to see both my imperfections and perfections and understand what it means to let growth in, what it means to let experiences impart useful knowledge, and what it means to let love in. I started valuing myself and becoming determined in ways you've taught.. Im becoming more whole by myself than I've ever been before..I love you so much ❤
Your elegance is everything ~ also, I love the new editing style because it makes your videos seem so luxurious without even mentioning how amazing your makeup and clothes always look 💋🌹
I really needed this as I've lately discovered that how im an overachiever w a completely fucked up nervous system and unable to do anything unless its an emergency. Ive those procrastination tendencies, along w anxiety, and a reliance on emergencies to kickstart action as it is attributed to factors like pressure of impending deadlines triggering productivity as well as a fear of failure that intensifies when faced w urgency. And all this creates a pattern where i delay all my tasks until the last minute which leads to a cycle of stress and relief and all this is because of the damn phone amd a screentime of over 8 hrs and all the potential is basically just going wasted. You don't wanna regret later, start changing now. Bitter fact but the world doesn't wait for anybody so we gotta keep moving and I'm trying really hard to change! Thank you for this reminder ily
I like your videos! I watched you! And I just wanna share this with you! Psalms 139:13-14For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
I always wanted to write and I've been spending my time scrolling down and being ''the audience'' of other people'' as you perfectly said it. I even used to read 4/5 books a month.... now I need to get back to my old habits. I used to be fulfilled and happy ! Being accessible 24/7 is mentally draining !
Alessia you possibly couldn't! I have been struggling with constantly being on my phone since last 2 weeks! You really are the answer universe is sending me. Thank you sincerely for this
Thank you so much for this, definitely a reality check I needed. I'm ready to stop self sabotaging and finally be happy with myself. You're doing wonders for the world ❤️
you look so gorgeous, alessia ❤ also love this video. i've been doomscrolling on instagram and youtube a lot lately, and my screen time has been crazy. hopefully i end this addiction by reducing my screen time and actually living life outside my phone. being on my phone is like an escape to me. and i try to distract from my real life by constantly getting hooked on overconsuming content online (which is clearly not helping 🤠🖐🏻)
I dont have much to do off... I dont like to watch to others ppls life, but i like learning a lot, on diff religions, spirituality & such, that ofc ig lots of infos many of which i dont need & anws i keep forgeting stuff... thank you, i needed these... be blessed
This is actually something I experienced, and yet Alessia came in the right time, I feel awake and realize a lot after watching this. So thank you, Alessia ❤❤❤
I really needed to hear this. My phone addiction has gotten so bad recently. I’ve gotten so lazy I can’t do necessary daily tasks. Thank you for the advice
I can’t focus 5min on reading a book and I used to read a lot. I said to myself I’m addicted to phone. I don’t really scroll on IG but on FB these adds and suggested for you took so much of my focus and time. So I unfollowed everything and now if I want to read something in my groups I need to go to group section. I don’t read everything that comes in front of my eyes but only what I have interest this day. I also started to meditate and my head is so more clear.
Loved the video, I would love to hear you talking about smoking/drinking and eating addiction (consumption for pleasure, not nutrition). I think those issues should be addressed. Thanks for the vid ❤
thank you for this Alessia ❤ Divine timing honestly, I'm struggling with an extensive phone use for a long time and it has a big impact but now thankfully I know what to do and I'm aware of it
It's been 3 days since I've been doing a digital detox with no phone from 7am till 8pm and I've been honestly so creative and learning so much 😭 thank you for this video 🩷
I was just thinking my phone was a problem because I realized I can’t seem to look away when I’m scrolling online. I feel hipnotice and it’s crazy. I will really use all your tips because you’re sincere and you help me see what is the problem, how is it caused and what can I do. Love your content ❤
This is a VERY good video. Thank you for saying this! You're right using your phone (or laptop) for too long is bad for you for a lot of different reasons.
this was VERY helpful. specially the part where u talked about trying to escape from an emotion, that was something that i NEEDED to hear. TYSM for this amazing video. new follower right here :)
I’ve been wanting to get an actual digital watch so then I can be reliant on the watch and not my phone for the time. There are SO many times when I check my phone for the time, and then just scroll or play games and then I get upset at myself cause I just wasted time when I should’ve been doing something productive. I’ve also been upset at myself because my younger self would’ve been way better at setting boundaries with their phone and screen time. I just feel like my younger self had her life together and now it’s exhausting.
I will be honest I struggled listening to this video all the way trough but you are so so right even though I have adhd I know my phone ruïnes my attentionspan I am working on the addiction now but have a long way to go
i'm on the internet for 19 years ur completely right my attention span ruined after i installed instagram and tiktok and i my grades kept dropping each year i used to ace exams without studying
Thank you so much I literally needed this like I have exams coming next week and I was so additicted to the phone I was like blind folded.Thanks soo much once again ❤😊.
If the phone was my problem, how could i watch your videos then or all the content that helped me so much, it is not always bad, but i agree with the addiction of scrolling and so on❤
Beauty and brains, good to speak about this issue!!! I myself, am not an addicted girl. I just like the phone for pictures, recipes etc. But I can go many hours without a phone lol, I love paper books. The only thing I'm really addicted to is tea. People need to switch their phone and go hug trees smh
just when i was thinking my phone is the problem
Same here
Ahaa ahaan 😂
Ah ya ves
Lol samee
literally SAME
"if something is free, you are the product" this one hits soooooo hard !!!
this is a very known quote and it is not hers :)
„You just watch it and you neglect your life“ THIS IS SO TRUE
for real lol
Oh my god ...the perfect red shade is everything ..
i was looking at it the whole time it really suits her
Her make up is so gorgeous!suits her perfectly! We need her to upload make up tutorials 😍✨♥️
Gorgeous!!!
My screentime last Thursday was 12 hrs 56 mins 💀
fr like everyday 😢
I used to be like all of you now it's like 4 hrs I've never been happier
This is literally what I needed. My phone is destroying my days and I’m grateful that you made a video about it.
Kafka is so proud of you mother
I just realized something the phone is a tool to use for us people. But we are becoming the tools of the phone. We are addicted to it.
10 hrs a day this video made me answer why on watching things on my phone.im escaping my life the stress and the problems in my life
I am done with my glowing rectangle 🥴 Thank you for the amazing video
This is what I need after feeling frustrated because of overusing my phone.
Wait , she literally changed my mindset now
I deleted all my social media almost 2 months ago. My overall mood and mental clarity has greatly improved, and now I’m seeing other ways I use technology to distract myself. Even being on RUclips now, getting an email notification, a text message- it’s a dopamine hit. Soon will be removing all notifications from my phone, and only using a computer to check emails and RUclips
Same here, i deleted Snapchat and Pinterest a month ago and deactivated my Instagram like a week ago and then I started spending hours watching a serie on youtube but thankfully she posted
But don't u get FOMO?
@@nadine2361 no, I don’t. All I’m “missing out” on is recycled issues that have always been talked about, ideas and thoughts with no credibility or value. Any the ideas and thoughts with real value get absolutely no where when they should. The arguing just for the sake of arguing, flexing your life when you’re actually miserable. Almost no one has an original thought anymore because we are all being fed the “right way to think” about things.
I’ve learned a ton from the internet, but I’ve also wasted 5x more of my energy by feeling like whatever someone else was doing had any value to me.
Everyone just talks in circles. There’s no answers to all the problems. It’s a great way to make us feel helpless. Also the constant up and down emotions from scrolling made my brain too full to even consider anything else. I’d laugh my ass off one video, sob the next, get angry at the next, cry again, laugh again, mad again, confused, laugh. My equilibrium was fucked and I couldn’t even see it. Suddenly my FOMO for my own life and my own story became stronger than my FOMO for someone else’s. I’m 23 today, but next week I’ll wake up 50 years old. Doom scrolling and watching mindless content 75+ days a year is not the story I want just because I rationalized it like if I didn’t keep up I would miss something important.
You won’t. I started looking at historical discussions, sooo many of them were still having right now. I’ll have a facebook memory from 7 years ago, advocating for a law or something that we still have made 0 movement on and are still talking about. Try to see it. Every single point has been talked over and over and over and over before. They recycle the arguments every generation.
RUclips is social media
@Meghan144 youtube is not social media. you can use it for learning new things and improve yourself but with social media apps like instagram tiktok etc you can't do this. you just scroll and lose time with them
I needed this so badly. Thank you mother.
🥹🤍
This is a real issue in our society that many of us don’t want to admit, I’ve seen a lots of youtubers talking about this topic and the views are over millions yet people still are addicted to social media, including me, it’s like an escapism from reality and a “modern” coping mechanism of early trauma
I've noticed this, too, Jasmina. Yes, there are a LOT of videos on youtube talking about this, yet very few people are willing to get a small flip phone and cut way back on staring at their phones so much and actually participate in their lives.
Tbh last week I had a moment of realization about how dangerous the phone is By losing focus and feeling depressed for no reason like its so bad frrr
This is so true. I’ve been addicted to my phone since I was a young child. It was a way for me to forget about my worries/anxietys. It’s so toxic though because these worries would just build up until I exploded. I feel so unmotivated in my life. A lot of people don’t like themselves and they don’t understand why. Well here’s the truth. You don’t love yourself because you never do what you need. You scroll on TikTok instead of cleaning you room, you talk to random people online instead of making real connections, and you hide your emotions till you explode. You are worthy of everything, please don’t let addiction stop you from becoming yourself. ❤️
I'm 13 and a few months ago I deleted all social media (instagram,tiktok,snapchat) and although it hasn't been that hard, after a month or so I decided to download snapchat again because of the social barriers that come with deleting everything, especially at my age. Still, I find myself procrastinating on applications such as RUclips and Tumblr, and you're right. It's a real problem. I feel trapped in a way, in a repetitive cycle. Social Media is manipulating us and taking away our free will, without us even realizing it. It's genius, really. And as beneficial it can be to spread awareness, positivity and growth, I feel like it's being misused, like it makes life meaningless because everyone around me is trapped, and only a select few really care about the effect it has on us (atleast in my age group), therefore making this journey a lonely one. I really really really wish I was a teen in the 2000's, everyone seemed so much more free, happy and healthier.
I'm kind of ranting right now, but I feel like everyone growing up too fast, I mean 10 year old's at Sephora, buying expensive skincare for they're clear, spotless skin? It's the media. I don't blame them, brands and influencers don't make content targeted toward our age group and we consume the daily thoughts and worries of 20,30 year old's. Multiple brands make lots of profit off of this, so nothing will ever change, it's only going to get worse. It's sad, really, I'm not surprised everyone my age is depressed, EXTREMLY insecure (l have some friends who've already self-harmed and had suicidal thoughts at 12!? CRAZY.) It's all just fucked up. Like, I still WANT to play mermaids in the pool, still WANT to make slime with no borax, still WANT to go to a playground or some fun slidey place with bouncy balls and play tag. But, instead of doing that, I'm told (by the media) to workout, put on makeup, cover up, but not too much. Get a boyfriend, have an "aesthetic" lifestyle, watch my diet, have millions of different skincare products, perfumes and more. I'M STILL A KID. And people just blindly follow that then they're labeled as "basic" and they should get a "personality" it's like, there's no winning. It's just a repetitive cycle that never ends. I know this is very confusing and everything but I just had to get if off my chest. I don't know. Again, really really really wish I was a teen back in the 2000's.
@@MarieLuise1111Youre so Right! Im also 13 and here you’re being judged by looks. I have Snapchat, TikTok and many other social medias, but I really wanna stop being so much on my phone. And honestly, in the last two weeks I didn’t delete them, but it’s because I’m bored of it. I still have them tho, but I really want to just change my entire life. I don’t know where to start tho, but you’re right. We’re only 13 and we should enjoy our life however we want! ❤❤
the fact you are already consicous of this at 13 is amazing! well done@@MarieLuise1111
@@MarieLuise1111 Exactly how I feel right now :(
Very good!
1. Create routines : ask your self what the dream/perfect routine the best version of yourself would have & then create non negotiables & negotiables
2. Set time limits on how long you stay on apps & reward yourself for every challenge you overcome : long time pleasure over short time pleasure
3. Set your phone screen to black & white
( it makes it leass visually appealing & therefore the less colours you have on your phone , the less dopamime is going to be released when you use it
4. Get clear on what you are really missing out : 5 hours of daily screen time is in total 75 days of the year . Which means you wasted 25% of the year , so use that time instead investing on yourself , something beneficial ( like spending your limited time on this earth with closed ones , or doing something meaningful like building skills so you won't regret it in the future )
5. Prioritise yourself:
You don't want to spend your whole life being the audience of someone else ! Go & live your own life ! You want to create your own memories , your own life & your own skills .
Think about even getting a flip phone ( she has a nokia flip phone ) so now no one has access to you & neither do you to anybody
6. Create balance between consuming & creating: you are not here to just watch others ! Turn your energy inwards , create something!!! ( paint , create music , write poetry , write a book ) turn your pain into art
Thank you 🙏🏼
Thanks you sm
I am so grateful of you honestly. May you live a wonderful life and meet the wonderful people!
Just before my exam when I'm procrastinating and surfing through yt shorts. THANK YOU MOTHER.
Been off social media for a month and a half now…feel better but also feel weird but I’m really trying to kick this addiction!
social media is hell and its so hard to escape. i deleted all of my socials last year except RUclips bc thats the only source of entertainment that i thought I'd be having. i thought i wouldn't spend much time here as compared to all those short-form content apps but i was WRONG.i switched to long-form content like true crime documentries or just a podcast and started getting addicted to those. i was in total denial at first but i finally realised that now i was addicted to RUclips. thats why i started putting my phone away like in some cupboard for most of the time of my day.
"5 hours a day" bestie it’s 11-12 hours a day
No fr
for me its 13 hours :( I am trying to fix it though and I struggle with depression so it makes sense
I cant use it more Than 4 Hour :)
I basically spend half the year on my phone fuck
You're absolutely right. The phone is destroying my life in general.
I gasped to realise how true it is when she said "if something's free you are the product"
Phone addiction really is destroying many of us .....once i start to use phone...i don't know but i literally became rude whenever my family members try to talk to me.... like this is a really big issue.........i feel so irritated when someone tells me something when im using phone .....cuz i just i wanna keep scrolling... but when i stop using phone its like my mood feels so much better n lighter its like i realised i have so many things pending n talking with family members is more fun then using phone 24/7
'you're so powerful!❤
If you think you're not!
You're not!'
Turned my phone to black and white immediately after she said to- I literally feel the difference, I’ve seen adverts while finishing her videos and emojis now and my brain almost feels a little more relaxed , lots of gratitude for this Chanel 🙏
immediately did what you said to do, and now I am going use this time to actually do something worth MY time. will not let a glowing rectangle waste my precious time 💀
thank you so much for creating this video. i’m in high school and there are no limits to phone usage (even during tests) and everyone thinks i’m strange for not really using my phone or keeping headphones on 24/7. it’s refreshing to remember that there are people out there with the same values and priorities as me, especially because i spend so much time in a draining environment. sending love to you xx
I remember when my phone and laptop broke literally one day after another and I was without these devices for 3 weeks. Neither the phone nor the laptop brought me such happiness as reading books, going for long walks etc. Then I realized how much the phone itself was taking away the pleasure of my life.
Am using my phone 8 hours a day and it's definetly not ok because am a student am about to graduate high school my final exam is coming in 3 months i have always dreamt of being the top student in my whole country because the government grades our exams and it's doesn't seem like am going to be anywhere near top student out of thousands of students all over the countrty. My laziness and phone addiction has gotta stop
Thanks for the advice it knocked me back into my senses❤
Good luck!!
The black and white screen is such a good tip. You can also add it to your control center to turn in off and on when you want.
3:48, so true😅, I think posting about yourself is weird, and people constantly watching other people is weird
thank you.....i really needed this...i don't know why but lately my screen addiction is increasing so severely that its almost concerning now.....i'll surely follow your advice and try to reduce my screen time 💖
I am proud of you dear ♥️
Thats why i love that i need to cancel my wifi from my router. Only then have my highspeed on my phone which is limited and i have no money to buy more highspeed
I've known the dangers of my phone, but I realized that since I get so stressed from studies (and the idea of being able to do a lot of things but I cannot choose one), I try to escape it using my phone. Thank you for this so much.
Bro I was scrolling and I couldn't stop myself and just got the notif. The timing is crazy 😭
You are so right, before I got a phone I was happy, I had time, I was top student, I didn't even knew the word "depression" but after I got a social media, I started to spend time watching influencers and caring about singers I lost myself. I lost my dreams, my time, my grades, I got into depression. Now I don't know who I am anymore, I don't have a dream or a job. I can't study anymore lile I did before. I have times when I want yo throw my phone over the window, buy a radio, spending time on cooking healthy meals, caring about my look and health and reading books in my spare time.
You don’t know how much you’ve helped people. Keep doing what your doing!!💖
dear alessia you are an angel .your timing is perfect as always. I was working with my therapist about my phone addiction and you uploaded this video💗
Mother has gifted us on this blessed day with her wise words again
Lately i've been feeling so depressed again since i'm not working anymore, i realized that i was spending too much time in My phone, i could watch tiktok a whole evening and i was feeling very estimulated, that's why i couldn't do something else, i was so tires after this time on My phone, so today i tried not yo scroll in social media, and i didn't use My phone in the morning, I even started to read a book (in My phone 'cause now i can't Buy books) and i feel so much better! Now i understand that i have to set goals for myself and spend my time with responsability❤
The problem was being aware of hundreds of different thoughts all at once and it feels like every they all you as if you’re talking to yourself in a endless loop and it was an overload of thoughts and emotions that needed to get my mind under control and today is done.
A while ago I noticed that my reading habit was dropping a lot because of the time I was spending on tiktok. I had such quick access to dopamine that I no longer wanted to do things that release dopamine in the long term and that was really hurting me. I decided to go without social media for a while and when I came back I set a limited amount of time to use it, this helped me A LOT. Thank you Alessia
Thank you, Alessia ❤ I love the last phrase "Earlier the internet was an escape from the real life, now the real life is an escape from the internet...". This is so true, I can relate
Thank you for changing the direction of my existence towards something better. You're allowing me to bloom in so many ways that I don't know what I was doing before. I thought that no one ever care. I thought that I knew exactly that I will never be loved and that the flow of my current life i deserved the worst. But you came along, and it all becoming crystal clear. I realised then that I could become a better version of myself. I started to see both my imperfections and perfections and understand what it means to let growth in, what it means to let experiences impart useful knowledge, and what it means to let love in. I started valuing myself and becoming determined in ways you've taught.. Im becoming more whole by myself than I've ever been before..I love you so much ❤
Your elegance is everything ~ also, I love the new editing style because it makes your videos seem so luxurious without even mentioning how amazing your makeup and clothes always look 💋🌹
I really needed this as I've lately discovered that how im an overachiever w a completely fucked up nervous system and unable to do anything unless its an emergency. Ive those procrastination tendencies, along w anxiety, and a reliance on emergencies to kickstart action as it is attributed to factors like pressure of impending deadlines triggering productivity as well as a fear of failure that intensifies when faced w urgency. And all this creates a pattern where i delay all my tasks until the last minute which leads to a cycle of stress and relief and all this is because of the damn phone amd a screentime of over 8 hrs and all the potential is basically just going wasted. You don't wanna regret later, start changing now. Bitter fact but the world doesn't wait for anybody so we gotta keep moving and I'm trying really hard to change! Thank you for this reminder ily
i loveee that you mentioned to mute notifications, i only didn’t mute them for my parents because im still young and everything could happen
I like your videos! I watched you! And I just wanna share this with you!
Psalms 139:13-14For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Mom was right, it's all because of this damn phone
I always wanted to write and I've been spending my time scrolling down and being ''the audience'' of other people'' as you perfectly said it. I even used to read 4/5 books a month.... now I need to get back to my old habits. I used to be fulfilled and happy ! Being accessible 24/7 is mentally draining !
Alessia you possibly couldn't! I have been struggling with constantly being on my phone since last 2 weeks! You really are the answer universe is sending me. Thank you sincerely for this
Thank you so much for this, definitely a reality check I needed. I'm ready to stop self sabotaging and finally be happy with myself. You're doing wonders for the world ❤️
you look so gorgeous, alessia ❤ also love this video. i've been doomscrolling on instagram and youtube a lot lately, and my screen time has been crazy. hopefully i end this addiction by reducing my screen time and actually living life outside my phone. being on my phone is like an escape to me. and i try to distract from my real life by constantly getting hooked on overconsuming content online (which is clearly not helping 🤠🖐🏻)
thankkkk u alessia, i need this as a student!
I dont have much to do off...
I dont like to watch to others ppls life, but i like learning a lot, on diff religions, spirituality & such, that ofc ig lots of infos many of which i dont need & anws i keep forgeting stuff... thank you, i needed these... be blessed
Fr i have a mock exam on wednesday and i literally studied for 8minutes and look where i'm now .
Thank you Alessia! Not on social media, but I'm addicted to listening to music and it's really disturbing.
The day I decided to stop my phone addiction.
Your video came up. Love u ❤😊
This is actually something I experienced, and yet Alessia came in the right time, I feel awake and realize a lot after watching this. So thank you, Alessia ❤❤❤
this came at the right time everyday I'm on 10 hours on my phone 😢
Literally. People even get bored just sitting outside without anything. Put the phone down and go for a walk yall or at least don't go on it
I really needed to hear this. My phone addiction has gotten so bad recently. I’ve gotten so lazy I can’t do necessary daily tasks. Thank you for the advice
I can’t focus 5min on reading a book and I used to read a lot. I said to myself I’m addicted to phone. I don’t really scroll on IG but on FB these adds and suggested for you took so much of my focus and time. So I unfollowed everything and now if I want to read something in my groups I need to go to group section. I don’t read everything that comes in front of my eyes but only what I have interest this day. I also started to meditate and my head is so more clear.
Loved the video, I would love to hear you talking about smoking/drinking and eating addiction (consumption for pleasure, not nutrition). I think those issues should be addressed. Thanks for the vid ❤
thank you for this Alessia ❤ Divine timing honestly, I'm struggling with an extensive phone use for a long time and it has a big impact but now thankfully I know what to do and I'm aware of it
It's been 3 days since I've been doing a digital detox with no phone from 7am till 8pm and I've been honestly so creative and learning so much 😭 thank you for this video 🩷
I was just thinking my phone was a problem because I realized I can’t seem to look away when I’m scrolling online. I feel hipnotice and it’s crazy. I will really use all your tips because you’re sincere and you help me see what is the problem, how is it caused and what can I do. Love your content ❤
Perfect timing!! I am on my social media detox it has been 5 days but my current plan is keep detoxing till 21th day.
SOCIAL MEDIA is just a hell. I literally deleted my all social accounts except yt acc. Nowadays im feeling better than before. Anyway thank youh❤
"You're not here to just watch other"... damn, it hurts.
This is a VERY good video. Thank you for saying this! You're right using your phone (or laptop) for too long is bad for you for a lot of different reasons.
just looked at my screen time i’m spending about 100 days a year on my phone!! that’s 1/3 of the year 😭😭😭
13:13
Just what I was feeling 😆
Tysm
Alessia, you are a real helper. whenever I'm feeling down, I always watch your videos. you are Incredible. ❤
this was VERY helpful. specially the part where u talked about trying to escape from an emotion, that was something that i NEEDED to hear.
TYSM for this amazing video. new follower right here :)
this should have like milions of views. everyone should know about this.
Thank you so so much, I really need to hear this, and watch this❤❤❤❤ I’m waking up, and I’m starting to get better
I’ve been wanting to get an actual digital watch so then I can be reliant on the watch and not my phone for the time. There are SO many times when I check my phone for the time, and then just scroll or play games and then I get upset at myself cause I just wasted time when I should’ve been doing something productive. I’ve also been upset at myself because my younger self would’ve been way better at setting boundaries with their phone and screen time. I just feel like my younger self had her life together and now it’s exhausting.
I will be honest I struggled listening to this video all the way trough but you are so so right even though I have adhd I know my phone ruïnes my attentionspan I am working on the addiction now but have a long way to go
thank you so so much Alessia I really needed this at the moment
wow.... i cant explain how much i needed to hear this! thanks admin i will always love you for being able to put my mind at clear vantage. THANKS!
THE WAY I NEEDED IT.
Mother is mothering!!!! Amazing video (so grateful for this)
OMG Alessia today I was thinking about that I needed to stop being on my phone too much!!
Thank you so much, one of my big goals this year was to cut my phone addiction and you did help me with this video (my phone now is black and white 😂)
turns out my parents were right it IS that damn phone 😔
Yes you are our "MOTHER"💋💓🌟
This shows me we should be using our phones too communicate not too live on
i'm on the internet for 19 years ur completely right
my attention span ruined after i installed instagram and tiktok
and i my grades kept dropping each year
i used to ace exams without studying
These last few days I was thinking about this topic and today you put out a video about it! Thank u❤️
EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED. thanks mother.
Thank you so much I literally needed this like I have exams coming next week and I was so additicted to the phone I was like blind folded.Thanks soo much once again ❤😊.
If the phone was my problem, how could i watch your videos then or all the content that helped me so much, it is not always bad, but i agree with the addiction of scrolling and so on❤
Setting mi phone to black and white was one of the besttt
Beauty and brains, good to speak about this issue!!!
I myself, am not an addicted girl. I just like the phone for pictures, recipes etc. But I can go many hours without a phone lol, I love paper books. The only thing I'm really addicted to is tea.
People need to switch their phone and go hug trees smh
I LITERALLY SQUEALED IN EXCITEMENTTTT WHEN I SAW YOU UPLOADED!!!
LOVE YOU ALESSIA!!