Life Regrets of 90 Year Olds
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- In this mini documentary, I sit down with five elderly people and discuss their lives, any advice they have to share, and their regrets.
Thank you to Arbor Terrace in Morris Plains for allowing us to film.
Thank you to Alwin for filming with me.
Thank you to:
Paul Kimball
Susan Rossi
Gretta Pollack
Roy Gatreel
Anita Ehrenbeiger
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I'm near their age. I'm 81 years old. One thing that brings you happiness in old age that is hard for a young person to understand, is however my life has played out, I got the chance. By the time you're 81, you know dozens of people that died much younger, in their 30's and 40's and 50's from accidents, suicide, rare diseases, you name it. So just by being alive still, my heart fills with gratefulness that I got at least 81 years to experience life. When I was young, I would have thought that sounded pathetic, to be so easily made happy that waking up and having chats, or reading the paper, or walking outside would fill me with joy. When you're young, that's never enough. You feel like you need to leave your mark and make a big name for yourself. But a funny thing happens as you age. You live long enough to see some people you know become big shots, became rich or famous in some way, but most aren't made much happier by it, and some become lost when the notoriety fades. And then loving life for the small things starts to shift from feeling pathetic and small, to feeling wise and full. In fact, if life has taught me anything, it's that the reason we're here is to be present with the priviledge of each moment, as much as possible. Thinking about your goals tomorrow matter of course, and cherishing yesterday's memories. But more than anything, I think what has kept me healthy and happy is appreciating the priviledge of each moment. When you're a little kid, that's how you think. You appreciate recess at school, or going down a sliding board, or a walk through the woods. DON'T LOSE THAT. That, whatever that is, is the reason we're here. Being connected to small moments so strongly that they feel large. If you can do that well, you can enjoy being 80 as much as 40 or 20.
That is incredible. Absolutely amazing! I really do see the value in your words and this is extremely well said! Enjoy the present, yet plan for the future while never forgetting the past. A perfect balance that when achieved, is the key to life's successes and happiness.
Thank you so much for this. Have a healthy and life😊
Thank you so much for this! I am 50 and I am already noticing how I look at life differently than I used to. I cherish your words of wisdom.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🥰
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Not a single mention of money. Just family and friends and about fulfilment in other ways. Beautiful
I actually had a similar thought... and then I saw that they were in “luxury assisted living” that costs 5-6k a month, lol. Still a nice sentiment though.
And the travel and cruises, which are expensive.
"Well you don't have to go to work anymore... that's a good plus", requires Money.
"Being in a place like this (Retirement Home)", costs money.
"Being able to take time to do the things we want without being scheduled", requires money.
"I did a lot of traveling.. I've been all over the world.", requires money.
The list goes on, but money is the reason all of these people are able to live such comfortable lives at their age.
One of them talks about work and his promotions.
Ha! Because it's obvious. Try to get into old age broke and you'll see how that feels
Super interesting.
In 50 years people will be saying "My biggest regret is looking at my phone so much."
I agree
@gonootropics yeah true, they'll be too distracted by their phone to regret being distracted by their phone.
@@BrianHallmond you know I had to sit down and think about that but it's very true
@@edmundpower1250 I'm glad you took the time to think about something you may not have considered before. I wish more people in the world would do that.
I ‘m 20 and already regret this
My grandpa just turned 100 yrs and my grandma just had her 99th bday! They're lucid, able bodied and feisty!! Lol
Wow! God bless them!😊
That’s amazing to hear!!! Super happy for you! Wish nothing but health and happiness.
That is incredible. My wife have a good chance to live till 86 years old, but I will have to live till I'm !00. Fat chance, but I can only hope.
That's awesome!
How wonderful! I lost my mom last year and she was almost 99yrs. To live so long is such a great gift in life. My mom was very alert mentally and took care of her own physical needs except I cooked for her. She got around greatly. A true blessing I'm so thankful for.
I am 68. My mother in law died at 95. She told me that she regretted how much she time she spent on worrying. She often went to bed with migraines due to this. It changed me. There is so much I just let go of thanks to her wisdom. It took me years to figure out we can only control ourselves. Enjoy the moments.
@@thispeace1281 thank you. Our daughter gets migraines. I will pass this on.
Diane, this is a great lesson to pass on. I'm such a worrier myself. Right now it's the middle of the night and I can't sleep and I have such a headache from all the things I think and worry about. I just don't know how to switch off the inner voice, but I appreciate this piece of advice so much. I don't know how to do it but I know I ought to. Much love.
@@evab2274 I pray and I also remind myself of all the things I worried about in the past that never happened. Being this age, I no longer want to waste my energy and my day. I’m not perfect at this. Sometimes I worry about my grandchildren
May her soul rest in peace ❤️
Hi, there was a study done of people that were at end of life, and asked if they had any regrets. 85 or 90% worry. So sorry for your loss, but happy that you are living a life focused on positivity and not worrying 🙏
I am 23 years old guy. These people seems 10times more happy and satisfied than me.
because you're on the internet 24/7 and it has warped how you process things. Severe anxiety and depression increases from fake interactions
People get happier as they get older, contrary to popular opinion. You’ll be okay!
Maybe that's what life teaches you......❤️❤️❤️
I was thinking the same thing
@@joys8634 So very true. It’s an insidious disease that I feel will come back to haunt them.
It’s a serious problem in society that should be acknowledged and acted upon for the benefit of our youth.
An elderly woman got onto me for not closing the blind on the plane we were on. So I closed it because she told me too. I thought she was kinda rude the way she said “ you need to close that blind”. I said yes mam sorry about that. Then as we continued in the flight, I was reading a book and she handed me a light that you can put on your book. So I realized then how sweet she was and I’m so glad I was respectful to her. Respect your elders always even if they come across as too stern or loud.
You have been well raised, Dear Soul.
Love this!
Sometimes older people become more blunt, or their “nice voice” editor goes on the fritz. If you respond with kindness and respect, as you did, chances are they will too. 😊
Ive met elders who abuse the kindness and respect given to them to stay in full control and power, intimating, harsh, no patience love and consideration for anyone unless benefit them, and self-indulged. Not all elders are nice and have love for others.
I'm retiring next month. And I'm a bit nervous about how to keep up with a lot, wasn't really able to save so much, but i believe i will survive.
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I’m in my mid 40’s and what I learn is don’t wait until retirement to do what you want now. If you like to travel. Make time to do it now. If you can try not to work so much. Enjoy your family and friends now.
me too (age wise) and I started traveling at 40 as an expat living outside of America ... I aim to have no regrets...and one of the women confirmed I will look back on these travels and exclaim with pride!
Couldn't agree more! And I would add that not being able to do some of the things you want to do may come sooner than you think. I did some serious travelling in my 30s, but bust my back in my 40s, so can no longer do that kind of backpacking travel any more. Thank goodness I did it when I did!
And yes, I work part-time by choice - I'd far rather have a bit less money but the time to do so many things other than work.
Claire Noon That's how my life has been and LOVE it!❤️
Same! I'm in my mid-40s and want to live a meaningful life! Not just a busy life or exhausted life. Being middle aged now, I have to admit it was tough for me to accept that I am aging and my body won't look or feel the way it did when I was younger. I got seriously ill a few years ago and now my parents are aging too. The concerns are definitely different. Sometimes you can't help but have some regrets like I wish I was healthier and felt better or picked a better career or had a marriage or relationship that worked. But what I have learned from older people is that a lot of them who are happy do not carry much regret in their life. You just keep moving on and moving forward and try to do so with hope and lightheartedness. That is what I am aiming for! Life is short! Spend it doing the stuff you love with the people you love. Try to love your life and love yourself! ❤
I agree. My parents worked so hard during their lives but never had much money. They always said we will work hard and get out and about when we retire. Unfortunately for them my mother died aged 60 and my father died aged 64.
This is precious. Thank you for honoring the elderly. They deserve our respect.
Hi Kathy
Absolutely.
@@helened6896 Hello how are you doing
no. maybe one gets to live old by being an unscrupulous sellout.
@@infowazz no.
I'm in my 70's and have a good life as a single widow. My 33 years of marriage, and numerous successful careers taught me so many life lessons. I wish I hadn't lived in so much fear, because it all worked out.
My only son is having the time of his life on the road with his wife and dogs in an RV....I would like to see him more, however, I'm glad to see he's happy.
I've been on my own for 20 years, happy and socializing with many friends, still wondering if a life partner will have a place in my life. More will be revealed, I'm enjoying the journey ; ~ π
Your words changed a big part of my life
"I wish ididnt live in fears because it all worked out"
So your son is a meth head that lives in a trailer? Why doesn’t he get a job and a home or do they want their kids to be junkies too?
@@barbaralynnjoy3840 what are you talking about? Her son is traveling with his wife in an RV.. exploring places.
@@barbaralynnjoy3840 what a mean thing to say.
@@barbaralynnjoy3840 It sucks to be you. It will always suck to be you. Your family and neighbors have a name for you: “Misery.” So much for “Joy.”
Today we worship youth over wisdom. Our seniors are living history and should be more appreciated.
could not agree more!
Why? This is the generation that screwed us over. They are the ones who still vote for our downfall based on meaningless principles that are 50 years out of date. They care nothing about us, just say "work harder that's what I did" when most of them had one income families and a job with a pension. They are out-of-touch and not deserving of anything just because "they're old".
@@Mutiny960 You are not forgiving them and your children will not forgive you. You will be pushed out,
also. When does it end?
@@j.b.4614 LOL My Generation's children will not forgive us for ruining the future how? Paying off our Student Debt until we are 60 and and working until we are 80 because Social Security no longer exists for us? Get your head out of your fucking ass HAHAHAHA
Who is "we"
I am an 87 year old gay man, and having lost my life-long partner ten years ago, now live alone in a beautiful old historic house with a large garden here in Australia with close family nearby. My mantra is that I still do the cooking, washing, ironing, shopping, gardening, vacuuming, minor painting and decorating as well as singing in a choir, and entertaining friends and family every five weeks when it is my turn on a family/friends roster. Oh, and I also play piano to amuse myself. I regret that my beloved player-piano is not working these days, otherwise I would be able to boast being able to play piano concerto transcriptions, Chopin and Beethoven as well. Life has been very good to me for which I am truly grateful. I am also fortunate to have some internet skills but as with most other people, young and old, these are in a constant state of catch-up, but are enough to keep me in touch with the world. Life for the elderly nowadays is not nearly as limited as it was in the famous 'old days'.
God bless you, William. Im a 29 year old gay man who benefits from all that the générations before me fought so hard for. Just know I and many others around the globe are so grateful for people like you.
@@kandondooley89 Thank you Kandon. You are very kind. When we were battling through the tough times of our youth, my generation made the most of our lives. My partner Alan and I did the best we could by setting an example by our lifelong devotion and love for each other against occasional ridicule, but mostly understanding from friends and family, and of course the pleasure of the other gay couples we had as friends. As with yourself, I too am now reaping the benefits of the changes in society. It is a great joy to me that I am treated nowadays as a perfectly normal old guy with no secrets to hide.
William I enjoyed reading your post here......I like the idea of a hosting rota with a circle of friends and family (so might try and sneak that one into future) I am impressed by your domestic skills but also share your interest in classical music. As a professional violinist for 35 yrs my recent interest has been to try and resurrect my classical guitar playing as I had to decide very young on which instrument to concentrate my studies. Ho hum the road is long and I am no Segovia. Score reading is a very good way to play the game of keepy uppy at speed!…the great piano concertos of Mozart, Beethoven, Ravel, Prokofiev, Rachmaninov etc plus the great violin concertos of Brahms Sibelius Prokofiev (again) plus the great symphonic orchestral and chamber repertoires can all live forever in your head even if not your fingers!
@@catherinehamer5653 Thank you Catherine. These cyber conversations are great, aren't they. They fill a few hours now and then for people like me in their dotage! I also follow a few young gay married bloggers raising families, unheard of in my day! They feel like surrogate grand children to me as I follow their simple daily lives. My pianistic ability is quite limited, but again, with the internet I can sit in my living room with surround sound and watch the whole classical repertory, Opera, Orchestral, Sacred and so on, enjoying concerts in my own home. We are truly blest these days.
Bless you 🙏🏻 Such a wholesome comment! thank you for sharing
Just lost my mom in her late 90s a week ago. She didn’t seem to have regrets. So glad I was able to care for her at home. Treasure them as they are suddenly gone. The house is so empty
Me too. Same story. Huggs to you friend 💖🌹💖
Sorry for your loss! Glad to hear there were no regrets!
Not many of us get to see our parents in their 90's. I am 88 years old and one of the lucky ones and even luckier to reach 90.
@@DerrikMirochnik deepest condolences .i miss my lovely mother ever day been 5 years .💕💖
Thank you for reminding me of this. My mom is 89 years old and very stubborn but I love her so much. You are right they are suddenly gone, need to make the most of every moment. Sorry for your loss but you will always carry her love in your heart, nothing can take that away xx
My grandparents will be 89 & 85 this year. 67 years of marriage. They are the perfect couple. She loves to talk. He can barely hear. LOL
God I wish I couldn't hear my wife! haha
I’m listening to the 92yr old who paints, draws, has plenty social relationships, is learning French, values relationships and attributes his life to clean eating, plenty of exercise, etc. he seems like he blooms where he’s planted even tucked away in a retirement home. And the younger lady who lived on St Croix with the positive attitude.
both great souls
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@Matt Hendrix am fine dear
You misread them both. Anita was the most honest, the one with the most life experience because she actually traveled(the others didn't once mention travel) at the same time, she had the most negative energy, probably because she traveled. Ignorance is Bliss, right? She wasn't ignorant to the world. She also mentioned multiple times NOT having to work, what does that tell you? The guy with no teeth gave advice that he clearly didn't take. He admitted it. It doesn't seem like you listened to these old folks, you're just on here virtue signalling, praising these very avg people for what, being alive?
@@nerddorkdiaries4021 why are you so angry about this. It’s a cute and sentimental video there’s no need to overanalyse these beautiful people
My papa lived with me for 25 years .. we had coffee every morning and diner every night .. I lost him at 83 4 years ago his presence is missed every day .. this was so wonderful to listen to .. thank you
@Kim Samuels I know he is with me .. and I talk aloud to him a lot .. I just wish sometimes he would answer me ...
@@lyncressler2608 he’s dead. Accept it.
Their presence is important, I understand that too late
As a young kid I learnt from my grandma that I was lovable and was loved a lot by her, those memories and lasting impressions saved my young adult life. I grew up happy, positive and full of life just cos’ of the time I spent with my grandma and nothing else, I will remain eternally grateful for my beautiful and kind grandma, she saved me in a way I can’t describe 🙏
I had a grandma like yours and it had the same effect on my life. Thank you so much for your comment, because, as a grandma myself now, I have struggled to feel relevant, and your comment helped me understand better how important grandparents are.
Browse the Best grandparents are irreplaceable and invaluable, big hugs to you. Best things in life are free, just like the warm hugs, endless stories and unconditional love of grandparents ❤️
@@sd7317 Thank you so much!!
Oh how I wish I had grandparents! I choked up a bit when I read your first sentence. Not all of us get a nice “Mom.” I think I have a sense of what you mean when you wrote, “she saved me in a way I can’t describe.” To have a grandmother to afford you a sense of safety, security and unconditional love must have been just....heaven. She clearly loves you very, very deeply and no doubt is so pleased at the person you have become! Take care, please stay healthy.
TundraWoman Says thank you so much for the wishes, I couldn’t have said it any better🤗
There's something really comforting and inspiring about this 92-year old grandpa learning French and looking so happy saying "Bonjour" 💞
Achievement is the only way to remain content about life otherwise what's the point of doing anything
@@ma2i485 The point is to enjoy living, enjoy the present moment. Enjoy the sound of rain, a walk in the woods, a hot drink on a cold day, a hug from a loved one. He's learning French for the joy of learning and speaking a new language. Achievement feels good but the feeling tends to fade because it's ultimately not all that important compared to love, connection and enjoying life.
Both my grandmothers said on their death bed that all that matters in life is family. They both were smart women xx
I have no family. Never will.
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o family doesn’t have to be blood
@@vanityxoxo9957 true. But it would be nice to not have family denied to me three times.
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o they will always be your family. It's their loss to abandon you, always remember they are the ones holding the hate or judgment... They have to worry about having that on their shoulders... Live your life and be glad you don't have those toxic people in it. You can be happy without them, forgive them.. hold your head high it's gonna be okay you will make new family
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o Make your friends your family
Gretta 85?? Omg how ?? She looks like she is 65!! :O
Actually they all look really good for their ages !
They surely do. 👵
Probably because they're happy. Stress has an ability of aging you faster.
@@jlw184 yes.. that's true actually :D . Live a happy life :D
Same, I was gonna say late 50s or early 60s
I think the key is to be active, social and be healthy.
I agree dear
Everyone is different. For me, when you are young, don't rush into marriage, don't spend recklessly and take care of your health. I did survive and now, retired comfortably at 89.
@@patriciacole8773 Yes, I enjoyed a happy marriage. Next month will be our 51st wedding anniversary.
@@patriciacole8773 I’m a little younger than owleyes and I also waited to get married. My late husband has been dead for 29 yrs. this year. I miss him every. single. day. That’s not “Euphoric Recall:” It’s grief, the price we pay for having loved and been loved so very, very well.
@@tundrawomansays5067 Your husband must have died young. I married at 38 and my wife was 23. My wife is still a young 74. Edit change: 33 changed to 38.
Amazing!
Thanks for sharing your story owleyes I’m a 22 year old and it was very heart warming to read your comment.
I'm 37. My only regret so far is that I haven't taken more risks and haven't achieved as much as I know I'm capable of.
37 ??? You can still do it!!! What's holding you back ???
It’s never too late, don’t worry about what you haven’t done, try to do what you can at your own pace. Wishing you a good life.
Colonel Sanders started KFC at age 65. We can hold that for inspiration. My uncle started his wildly successful family campground in his 60s and lead it into his 90s.
@@jacksondnj Big fan of the Colonels work. I could be living in a mansion if it weren't for that man's chicken.
I started Late, 42 became a nurse...
My Dad was born in Jan. 1929. My Mom was born Aug. 1932. We lived in Baltimore. We used to go to Wildwood , NJ in the summers. That would have been early 1960's. My Dad was a Korean vet. He worked his career with Bethlehem Steel. Unfortunately he passed in 1998. I miss my Dad. I love him.
So sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like he lived a great life and raised great children.
@@DerrikMirochnik Thank you Derrik , He was old school. Discipline , loyalty , love of family , honesty. I feel like my Dad was the real, only person who had unconstitutional love for me. That sounds crazy , but I was lucky to have a wonderful father.
Bethlehem Steel transferred him to Indiana in 1969. You were probably lucky also ?
@@AwesomeBeatles Amazing! I have a great relationship with my father and love him dearly. He is one of the main reasons I am the man I am today! Couldn't do what I do with out him!
Sorry for your loss
I have a 94 year old mother that is still doing well. She lives at home and is able to get around fairly well for her age. Her health is good and I feel blessed to have her around. I thank God every day that I have this time with my mom. She broke her hip a few months ago and recovered. My mom is a walking miracle for sure. Hope I can age as gracefully as she has. I luv u mom. 💗🙇🙏
Such a blessing! Hope she is well!
Glad to meet these elders. I am 85 had 4 children leading to 10 grandchildren and one great grandson. I feel more like 68-70. I keep up to date with the world events and have a wide interest in learning new things, new languages and cultures. I have been a widow for the past 18 years. I am blessed with a roof on my head, enough to live a simple life. I never feel lonely, I learned to be comfortable with my own company. No regrets, learned from my mistakes, hopefully have grown in wisdom.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
They all seem so youthful for their ages, that is a great secret in itself. Age is only a number. God bless them for sharing.
Hello Belinda
Yes, it really is. Take care of yourself and those around you and everything else will fall into place as it should!
It’s so wonderful to see you honoring people in this stage of life. Unlike other countries, seniors in America are overlooked and undervalued. They have become very wise in their long lives.
We should respect them and learn from them.
It would be a noble thing if more millennials would step up and show them love. They were once young and vibrant, too.
Ellen...WoW! So beautifully stated, THANK YOU!!
I agree. They can teach the youth how to live and age gracefully. If we are lucky to reach old age, this is what we all need to know. I read one of the final books that Reverend Billy Graham did and it spoke about aging. He said "getting old isn't for the weak." You have to have courage and not be faint of heart. Not his exact words, but this was his general idea.
I agree 100%, those folks are golden, the knowledge they possess and are so willing to share freely with the youth. Seems as if the one of the greatest gifts to share are being thankful and to appreciate the little things, family, friends and beauty in nature so easily overlooked in society today.
I'm sorry. I didn't hear any profound statements. Only one mentioned helping others.
Probably won’t happen. Millennials heads are buried in their phones trying to see if they can break their like record on the next photo posted to IG.
I'm not 90 yet but I can tell you that no matter what you do in life, everyone has regrets. That's life.
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I do not. I am 46. I have no regrets. am I supposed to regret my mistakes? because then it is impossible to not have regrets and be miserable about that regret. just move on and always be happy.
@@defaultworkouts Then you have never learnt anything. Either that or you are a liar.
@@mrofnocnon I accept my mistakes which results from immaturity or lack of experience. I do NOT regret that. why would I? I am not a robot programmed to do exactly what is accurate. the regret I laugh at about other people is that they worry so much about self image and pleasing and impressing others. what a JOKE. idi0ts living their lives for strangers. pathetic
@@defaultworkouts What a perspective! This has nothing to do with self image or pleasing others, that would be a shallow view indeed. I too accept my mistakes and yes some were due to immaturity and lack of experience but those things are not an excuse for everything. Those mistakes were often made from the wrong judgement or action. Would you not say that a person who broke the law or by a wrong judgment harmed someone, even by an unintentional action, has made a mistake such person might regret? It sounds like you would not, unless you were caught. It is a social construct in a way. Our regrets are for a path chosen or an action taken that afterward we realize was wrong. This is no harm but a learning experience.
I thought the first gentleman was probably just a little bit older than myself and I'm almost 62. He looks good. 👵
They all look great! I was shocked with their ages when they told me! I thought they were in their 60-70s!
@@DerrikMirochnik me too! ❤️👵
@@DerrikMirochnik if I were single I'd even go out with him. 😁
am just 20 and to be honest no tv-shows, no social media has given me so happiness, fulfillment, and a spark to enjoy my life, but our elders did it so beautifully by explaining the meaning of life thank you so much.
It has been a nice moment indeed
Hope it shall impact you to enjoy life as them too
Just by watching this video at age 20 you are showing such wisdom. Young people generally think they know it all. Consulting your elders is the smartest thing you can ever do. They have been where you are now and can point out the mistakes you may make in life. Smart people learn from their mistakes but the smartest people learn from the mistakes of others.
@@robwilton9539 very true
Having regrets is useless. It's ok to feel bad about them for a short time and learn from them, but then let regrets go.
But it's pointless to hold on to regrets because they cannot be undone. None of us can go back in time even for a second. We can however learn from our regrets in order to make a better decision the next time when facing a similar situation.
I know that but am incapable of forgetting the past. I’ve tried so many things even Buddhism and meditation.
Wise but hard to achieve, for me, at least.
@@sethbriars2042 Regret was easy for me to overcome. Regret is not remembering the past. It’s thinking “I should have done X, but did Y”.
Two things helped:
1) Realizing it doesn’t really matter that much in the end and nobody really cares that much.
2) Telling myself “Even if I went back in time where I was my old self, I’d still make the same mistake…”. Why? Because I’d have the same brain and mind as that time.
When you get to a certain age only a few things matter, family and health.
Rubbish. The most important thing is to help others. Family will always be there and you have very little control over health
Agreed!
@@brit50ify a strong relationship with your family, those closest to you in your life leads to stronger and more stable mental health, social connection and a higher quality of life. Helping others is important too, but how can you help others if you are not in the best of shape yourself? Family helps you get into this strong state to then go help others!
So so true
Life is fleeting, I feel like a young kid but I'm 32, I only realise I'm older when I'm around actual young kids.
Life creeps up on you without you knowing.
So true. I recently heard someone say “the days are long, but the years are short.” Very true.
I can remember being your age and sitting in a college bar. That's the first time I started feeling "old". That feeling still comes up here & there throughout life, but one just deals with it now.
I have always been drawn to older people. I love listening to their stories. My parents were both born in 1921 and turning 100 this year. My Mother lived into her 90s. She was smart, beautiful and very talented, playing the piano and organ, sharing her gift with others. Our house was filled with music and happy times.
This interview needs to be given to all seniors, everywhere. There’s no godly reason why seniors all over the world shouldn’t be given this kind of respect.
No one should be given respect. Respect has to be earned.
@@asdfgh-uh6cy Which is why you have not earned any respect from me...
@@orangeziggy348 I never asked for your respect, and I never will. You and your opinions mean nothing to me (or anyone else for that matter).
@@asdfgh-uh6cy I can tell that you dont care about people's respect.
@@orangeziggy348 Your profile picture is a perfect representation of you as a person -- a highly emotional snowflake.
This video confirms everything I’ve had on my mind. All of them light up when talking about their kids and friends and personal hobbies. I’m almost glad they didn’t bring up money or material things because I always knew money is just the tool to get us what we want and need but it will never give us as much fulfillment as sweet memories with loved ones. ❤️
Money is only a tool to those who have it in abundance. For everyone else it's a NEED in order to survive.
@@Mutiny960 speek louder please
They didn't talk about money because they are fortunate to have enough for their needs. They are privileged. I'm sure they realize it.
As a freaked out 55 y/o this gives me hope!
im 50 and freaking out so im watching these lol
@@docgreggs2040 Hahah! Hope you enjoyed the video and thank you for watching! Hopefully this provided some insight into just how long life really is!
@@DerrikMirochnik it does but thats so scary
Yeah I play a game and there's a 51 year old in my alliance who's playing. That's literally the age I could someone say as father.
Girl you’re young get out of your head and enjoy life
I am in my 30’s n I learned one things , to sit next to super elderly people and jus listen to them or their stories n trust me u learn to live life n also realize the real happiness is in small things and without material things ✨. Beautiful
I'm so thankful for older people. I love listening to them. It's easy to learn alot, even when their not trying to teach anything.
No way does Gretta look eighty-five! Bloody hell! o.o
Learning French in this age,wow we got to take over his positiveness. We would study a new language if only we would use it.
He made me laugh... Lifelong learner
@@shavorwalker671 Yes he is! They all seemed to be!
yes!
These people are in excellent shape. Genes most certainly play a part, but they've clearly taken care of themselves. God bless them, I hope I make it to 85.
Hello Marie
We live in the life of plenty! No war. We r the lucky ones.
Loved this! I wish more people in our society respected the elderly. They have so much wisdom to give. They are very valuable and precious.
Hello Susan
How are you doing today?
"..Of course, I fight it off and face tomorrow." Lovely said!! Thanks Susan!
I'm going to be 26 years old and identify better with these folks than my own generation. I grew up in a long term traumatic situation, which spanned over 18 years. I also lost 13 friends to suicide in under two years, lost 4 more in a car accident, 2 more to a gun, my best friend to drugs, and my baby daughter. I may not be old but I know what it means to live and to be destroyed by life....and I really value the words that these people have to say. It gives hope to someone like me, who has tried to end my life with my own hands several times. It gives me faith that there's a light at the end of the tunnel to look forward to, and I love every moment that I spend listening to their pureness of heart. I love you so much, all of you. Thank you for your lives on earth, you are so cherished and appreciated. Especially by young adults like me, who have trouble seeing the worth in getting old in this world.
Hope you're doing well 💕 That weariness and trauma and ptsd left behind by grief and and traumatic events can really take a toll, I know. It can make you feel so old and ancient and weary.. Going to the Dr and getting on depression medicine made a world of difference for me. Was the first step in feeling like myself again. Feeling young and free again. I know that can sound impossible, in the midst of it. And nothing will ever take the pain and sadness of grief away. But medicine can help you feel joy in the things you love, again.
I'm sorry you've had so much pain in your young life. Thinking and praying for you. Hope you are well.
Hope you are getting help my GOD that's a terrible life you have you are far to young for all this to happen to you wold you not move away and start a new life you could be in the wrong place know it's easy to say these things but can't See any other way for you to go forward you need so much help what about your doctor he should should be getting you some advice and looking out for you please don't waste your life all the very best for 2023 you will be in my prayers over the Christmas
26 years old and i kept regretting certain things i never did, the risks i could have taken... this video filled me with hope.
Video is Titeled "Life Regrets of 90 Year Olds". They proceed to tell us how they don't have any regrets and are happy with what they've acomplished....................................................
Thats kinda the whole point...
I think that's the point. When you're 90, no one is going to have regrets about O SHIT THAT ONE TIME I LOST AN ARGUMENT ON THE INTERNET. Don't sweat the small things.
@@DerrikMirochnik change the title i feel like make fun of something or something or generation with that title
I m 66, live a happy life, m serving GOD, I now leave scriptures here & there, I don't speak to people anymore. Wish these virus would end. I m never at home, except when it's raining too hard. I m mostly at the malls. My husband deceased going on 8 yrs. I have three sons, the oldest, twins. My oldest son (one son, twin daughters & two more daughters). I have three great grand- daughters. Thank GOD for loaning me life. I went back to work, I love what I do. Love life, go out there & serve GOD.
Serving God equates to serving OTHERS!
Hello Mari
Thank you. I wish this virus would end as well.
Well one thing I personally learned is that life is amazing at 38! I'm pretty sure life is most enjoyable at around age 55. If only I could go back to my worried 20-year old self and tell him a lot of the worries will just go away with time. Time heals so many wounds! Maybe it won't heal all of them, but it's an amazing feeling to feel your happiness increase as you get older.
I just love listening to older people talk about their lives I'm getting up there I'm 62years now,my dad is 88 a and my mom is 84 just love listening to story's about there child hood memories 😊sending love to everyone from Toronto Canada ❤
Hi, How are you doing? I'm Patrick.
@@carrieeade5515 I'm pleased to meet you, Where are you from?
How lucky for you to have both your parents at age 62.I am 65 .My parents are long gone.please look after your parents and enjoy their company. From Toronto.
@@carrieeade5515 I'm originally from Cavan Ireland but I live in Chicago IL.
@@carrieeade5515 Do you mind being friends?
I'm 19 now but my motto in life is , "don't wait for miracles to happen , do it & don't bear regrets later"
Have a great life y'all. ♥️
These people are lying, life is hard and then you get sick.
Maybe they lived longer because they had a lot of joy along with the hard times.
@@barbaralynnjoy3840 lmao. You just made my day.
Guess what ! You are a miracle , and you have a gift , which is not to complain with at you have , you expect more from yourself not others. Bye miracle !!!God Bless you!!!🕊🌍🕊🌎🕊🌏🕊🌎🕊🧁
Remember:
You’re never to old to try/do something you love or something new!! 😊
That is not all true unfortunately, I am 60 and I always wanted to be a boat captain so I studied passed the 5 test from the USCG, had the qualifying sea time, jumped all the hoops and got my masters captains license and I believe because of my age no one wants to hire me even though I have years of experiense on the ocean
Notice the lack of isolation. They've always had community, they're always learning something new, and they're not fearing the future. Ty for this video.
I'm only 49 years old, but have learned a lot. I have had a life-threatening illness since childhood, and have had to go through a great deal of life issues with poverty and medical problems. I am surprised I have lived as long as I have, frankly, and feel lucky for every day that I'm given. I think longevity is probably about half luck (growing up with caring parents, lack of poverty, access to resources, not being in a bad accident) and half genes (which is also luck when you think about it).
I've learned to treasure your family and friendships, and live in the now. Take risks! Be the first to say I love you, apply for that dream job, follow passions that everyone tells you are not lucrative enough..... I didn't do that, but at least I did get some "useless" degrees in areas that I actually loved. And those degrees actually did manage to get me some well-paying jobs.
This is not to say that I don't feel miserable or sorry for myself from time to time, but in the end, I realize how lucky I am to have a loving husband, a sweet son, and some working years and fun travel behind me!
Carpe diem folks
Hi Kim! How are you doing so far?
Hope you are doing well now 😊
These folks are so sweet. I find it funny that they complained about us using our phones too much, 80% of the views of this is on a phone. All of them mentioned family is the most important, I agree. By the way I'm 62.
If you don’t want to lose your teeth, then brush with baking soda!! Most people my age have dentures, but my teeth are there and healthy. Regular exercise is important to prevent strokes and Alheimer.
Thank you very much!
Flossing helps too!
Their secret is optimism !!! 💕🎸🍌🌼
I've been berated for being 'too optimistic'. 'Toxic positivity', apparently!
One day are parents put us down never to pick us back up again, we moved forward, our voices were so young and eventually it starts to sound older but with more love in the tone, as well as the skin on our face that gets wrinkles from the joys sorrows and wonders that pass us buy, or did we pass them buy..we only know what happened not knowing what's to come. I also believe that media, tv and friends had more of an influence over what my children and their friends did as they got older. It's easy to train a child but not so easy to train a teenager or a young adult.
Screw my parents for creating me now I have to kill myself to escape this shit.
@Matt Hendrix yep actually doing pretty good. Thanks for asking.
@Matt Hendrix you all are going to have to come up with a new one, drilling ha ha ha ha.
No regrets....it's all a learning experience and it's all good. Life is meant to be lived.
This is so calming. They have perspective and priorities straight. ❤❤❤
To Paul Kimball, my father is also 91, was in the army 5th regiment rifleman in Korea, and is also still married 63 years! Love all of these beautiful life stories. 💕
I am gonna be 24 in 1 day wished i'll stay 23 forever but life gives me hope evertime
I’m 64 my mom told me when I was 19 don’t wish your life away it will go fast enough
Boy she was right
She’s 87 and still going strong
Enjoy your youth and don’t let the little things bother you
Life’s too short
I know know what Im afraid of. Im afraid of getting old and looking back on the life I lived and being disappointed.
I’m disappointed rn.
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o dont be. We all have so much time, it just feels fast. Just realize that humans are social creatures and that we work best with with those that we like or love.
And help the earth, I hope to make huge impact in human sustainability in my lifetime to preserve the earth.
Im just irrationally afraid of the passage of time.
It feels like we have lots of time in our youth even though elders say time flies. They’re right.
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o entirely
How did I get here?? Anyway, they look great and in their right frame of mind. I'm 40 & I'm starting be forgetful, body aches.
My mother is 92 (widow of 52 years) and still has all her wits about her. She loves to travel, being surrounded by her large family, helping others, and serving God. She’s saddened how the world is less trusting today. She remembers going to bed with the car and house door unlocked.
M 68, I admire YOUR MOM, M so happy She is serving GOD, have her write to me at: Marilu G.Montalvo, Box 1901, Brazoria. Texas 77522, thanx.
Hello
Hopefully you're not a scammer targeting the elderly
@@pearlperlitavenegas2023 you should be thinking of positive things instead of this pessimistic ideas of yours about people.
@@pearlperlitavenegas2023 Hello
Always loved older people,they have been through so much,have the wisdom and experiance,was raised by my Grandparents.
LISTEN UP ALL YOU YOUNG PEOPLE!!!
LISTEN TO THESE WISE AND EXPERIENCED FOLKS!! TAKE NOTE AND REMEMBER WHATS BEING TAUGHT TO ALL OF US ! HISTORY SPEAKS!!!!
Listen to what? Work Hard and do stuff for your town?? What a Joke. Town's don't give an F about you and "working hard" nowadays means 80+ hours for HALF the spending power of what they were getting working 40 back in 1950's and 60's. They lived a privileged life that doesn't exist anymore. They know NOTHING about the struggles of living today.
Beautiful Souls ! So humble! Your stories Matter to us ! YOU matter ! I am glad I got to “meet” you here. Love from Buffalo, NY
This made my heart so happy. I love seniors, their wisdom and life experiences are priceless. Thank you for posting this.
Thank you for posting this - I'm 81 an it's encouraging to hear what these people have to say.
Thank you for interviewing these people. It was good to know they did not have major regrets. God bless you and them.
Thank you Derrik, lovely to see these seniors talk about such topics in their view. They were young before us.. one day we will venture the same path in age as they. NOTE: it would be fascinating for me to see a photo of them in their youth... lots of Blessings to you and your tea. 🙏💕
It's a good reminder of what is important! Thank you to all the people interviewed for sharing their lives.
Great work Derrik! I'm based in New Zealand, and I help save family stories and memories on video too. I am passionate about doing this so that stories don't get lost or forgotten - as many sadly do. My Dad passed in 2018 after 2 years of illness that left him unable to communicate, so we didn't get the chance to save his story. My work is dedicated to his memory, and I feel privileged to be able to help save precious memories and stories for loved ones to pass on to future generations. I'm sure the families of these people will be so grateful for this doco footage of their loved ones. You can't put a price on this work as you know, and you've done a wonderful job. So glad I found your channel. ❤
It’s about being honest. Honest with yourself, your feelings,being honest with your fears. Being honest with your partner & hoping they are honest with you. If you are yourself at all times & your comfortable then you can’t go wrong but you must face up to the brutally honest version of yourself & be happy with that. Don’t try to please people at your expense.
My mom was a singer and she would Voleenter some of her time to sing in nursing homes.... I went with her to several different ones and found most older people living there to be quite lonely.... most said they hardly had visitors and they also missed their pets.....made me cry....
I learned from that experience that independent living should be planned out as if your life depended on it and money set aside to guarantee u keep your options available to live your golden years the way You See Fit....
it is the best money u can spend after living a life of work and caring for others because most families are busy and In Reality, sometimes they tend to treat their elders like annoying children....
I have noticed even doctors or other professionals, as well as average people, use ageism when they talk about Others ( at the same time making sure they exclude themselves)who are old or older...
Derrik , you've done a wonderful job. Thanks a million! It is a precious gift to humanity what these people are sharing with. A great lesson for all the generations of the world. God bless you.
This video brought so much joy to me. Thank you for sharing
That was just beautiful. I got the sense that with age comes a sense of peace and gratitude. Listening to these individuals was very uplifting. Thank you.
Why would you want to live with regrets? Nothing you can do about it other than to accept the way things have turned out
I regret my entire life.
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o Seriously?
In a sense.
Children lost bc of roe v wade is the hugest regret.
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o Hi Dan, hope you are feeling better. What do you regret about your life? I think honesty about regrets is more helpful than these folks saying that they "don't have any". If they were being intellectually honest they would say instead that they came to accept that some amount of suffering was an inevitable part of life, and they accept the events which took place in their lives; which has provided them the ability to "look back without regrets".
It would be more instructive to ask these questions of elderly people living in poverty, which compromises a much larger swath of the American population. Few Americans will financially be able to retire at 65, travel the world, and live in luxury assisted living, as depicted here. And that will not be due to their unwillingness to "do more / work more" or "volunteer" for corporate America, hoping for "promotions"; as per the gentleman's advice; as so many of us are already working 60-80 hours per week, or multiple jobs.
Thank you for this video! I appreciate their honesty and for giving us a glimpse into their lives. We are now facing this with an aunt and uncle, both of which are drifting toward dementia. At 59, my wife and I are enjoying retirement and our youth (in comparison to our aunt and uncle). Love every day, never miss an opportunity to do acts of kindness, and giving back to the community. Life is truly too short.
Thanks Derrik and guests. Really beautiful.
My grand father lived to be 98 in good health, he said it’s hard to have a good Conversation with some one his own age and he missed all who went before him, he was the last one out of his brothers and sisters, what a great man he was veteran of ww2, my grandfather said to me love the job that you are doing never work a day in your life and live and enjoy the moment that you are in or don’t do it that all, I took his advice I love my job and I’m thankful for most of the moment’s what a blessed man
Not many like Gramp
I love that they all said they had no regrets...Thank you all for sharing a bit of yourselves with us.
I agree. Maybe that's why they are still around, they have no regrets eating away at them.
Beautiful wisdom. They were gracious in their advice. Love this!
Mrs. Rossi is someone I could sit and talk with for hours! Lovely video, thanks
Don't forget that if they don't mention money, it's probably because they actually had money. Questioning people that lost everything and go through their old age without anything would be interesting as well.
God bless these dear people who have worked hard all their lives. May they have many healthy years ahead of them.
What a great idea to film this, I am 56 now and sometimes the thought of retirement homes is scary but the lady called Anita was so happy it made me feel happier.
Thankyou Derrik! the experiences and thoughts these elders share are indeed so very profound and timeless! Nothing in this World can equal the experience of life through their 80s' and 90s'.
Yes Derrik! Definitely please do, make a follow up video to this!!
I think they are just great, and I hope that when I reach 90, I still have it together, as they do. I'm a senior, but I'm not as old as they are. God Bless.
Ms. L. Churchill
This is beautiful… they are all lovely and I adore listening to the wisdom of those who have lived such long lives and still have smiles on their faces.
Thank you for sharing your perspectives. I love hearing people with so much lived experience share.
Simply beautiful. Thank you.
Hello how are you doing?
They definitely grew up in a gentler time
I’m younger than them by quite a bit, yet I could go on for days of my regrets 😢
What lovely people, this great generation is passing away, and it seems what we will be left with is self centered, depressed, mentally ill people. Since the 60s our society started the “me me” movement. It used to be helping others and most parents took pride in raising good children, and some values. Not so much today…. So many even “grandmothers “ act like they are 18! They don’t want to get old! They need to grow up and act like grandmothers and leave their grandchildren a legacy of love
Loved this, so sweet and how wonderful that you encapsulated their memory. Such a lovely group of people. They remind me of my grandmothers, who are no longer with us. They both died around 94 and 95. But I cherished my time with them. Interestingly, I spent more time with them growing up and especially in my college years than my contemporaries. There was just something about being with them that was nice and hearing all the stories and advice. Also, those surprising moments when they would do something or say something totally unexpected. I wish younger people would get to know their elders more. I think they would learn so much from them.