"You're not going to be BFFS w/everyone." Such an important point! I used to feel something was wrong if I wasn't connecting with someone. Now I just accept it and really cherish those friendships where the connection actually is real. Where there's a pulse. Makes me feel more alive.
My Dad passed away 3 years ago and this is how we used to talk on the phone, kisses goodbye included. Im living away from my family in a different country and call likes these are so precious. Asian dad's that aren't afraid to be gentle and express themselves are so rare to find and watching this reminded me how grateful I am to have had a dad so wonderful. I don't comment on RUclips videos ever but I wanted you to know that this really touched me. Lots of love and light to you Rowena, please always be your beautiful self
In 2020, I dropped a toxic friend, lost a few old friends but kept the loyal ones. This year, I'm focusing on two friendships, one virtual, one physical. Wish me luck!
Hey Nicole, I have a podcast. Would u plz hear it out and let me know any scope of improvement. anchor.fm/khushi823/episodes/Handling-rough-days-in-your-life-els54g It would really mean a lot to me. Lots of love Have a great time.
"Listening to what the other person is saying and responding with kindness." Love how you walked us through this! vulnerability is the birthplace of connection 💙
I've decided to limit my use of social media extensively, including RUclips. But I always make it a point to come back to your videos, and I never miss an update. You shine so bright, girl. Thank you for the wonderful work.
omg I so relate with being able to spend weeks alone as an introvert and how meeting up with friends and sharing personal goals and secrets can really make you feel so full. but I also feel when I've had too much of it back to back, I tend to get back into my shell for another 2 weeks at the least.
I don't know if you want people to open up to you ofc, but what could help to start a deeper connection is paying close attention to your friends to see how they're doing and asking about their day or if they just wanna talk, or if you know what stuff they're going trough ask how that's going or if they're holding on. You showing that you care and see them makes them feel loved and comfortable and they'll probably go to you sooner if they wanna talk to someone :))
Omg yes!! What you said after the 1 on 1 dinner! I can totally relate. I then always ask myself why I don't do this more often bc I feel so good and my heart is so full after spending time with 1 or 2 friends. I mean we're all busy all of the time but still....
Hello human beans! Just a reminder that YOU are beautiful, and that it is important to stay close to the people who make you feel happy and who make you feel better about yourself. Also, It's okay if it takes you a little longer to "un-potato" yourself. It is a process. Have an amazing rest of your day! I love youuuu
We've been watching movies together with chat in another 'channel' - via Slack, Discord, etc. so it's a lot like being together, laughing at the same lines and funny bits, critiquing outfits, etc.
Oh Rowena, I've enjoyed this series so much. I enjoyed this video too & I've been participating on Vibely.. But this video was honestly the most difficult for me.. I just don't have that many friends. It's gotten so much harder in adulthood & I find it really difficult to cultivate new friendships even though I *really* want to. When I was writing out my list of people that I spend time with.. it was just my family, work "friends" and my boyfriend. Especially now that there is social distancing - I have no idea where to even start. Even when I make attempts with friends from my past (I wrote a few xmas cards & sent them out because everyone lives kinda far away - I moved a lot in my youth) conversations just fizzle out & we both get busy with our every day lives. I feel like you were mostly talking about improving the friendships & relationships that we already have, as opposed to creating new ones.. I would really appreciate a video on how to make friends as an adult 🙏🏼💕
The conversation with your dad!! I am currently in that awkward stage with a person; someone who based on our very minuscule interaction-I would like to be friends with. This is a very unusual thing for me because any form f r/ships are the one thing I know that I am very inept at, and wanting to develop a friendship with someone from a work setting is even stranger. I have spent so much time thinking of ways not to f*** it up- 'am I saying the right things?" "how do I establish a balance; and not be excessive/standoffish?". Do I just ask this person if they would like to be actual friends, as opposed to one with whom I banter (or very nearly flirt with-I didn't even realize that I could do this)? Ughh
Wow, I just finished talking to my bbf, came to your channel and found this video. And I feel more grateful for having my family and the friends I have. Thanks for sharing a bit of your life! P.S. Please put some more parts of you talking chinese, I am studying chinese and is like classes of life + chinese in one
Ive seen these types of comments several times on this video. May I ask the reason why asian dads do not say “i love you?” Ive seeb plenty of young asian dads who are very into their child and although i may not understand the language but the way the dad(s) ive seen care about their child looks like they show physical love? And if it were to be seen as non masculine does this also mean they would normally not say it to their wife either? Really curious and no judgement at all :)
Talking people just so freely is very hard for me . I’m always anxious and thinking of how I’m going to respond so, I’m not awkward. I have noticed this since a few years ago, I would like to know where this is coming from ☺️
I would suggest looking into (social) anxiety. I was struggling with similar issues - at one point I couldn't even raise my hand in class anymore without having a panic attack - and knowing what it actually is helped me deal with it a lot. There are many tips, strategies, tools to ease the anxiousness and become more comfortable. Takes time, but you can do it! Most people don't really judge you or think about your awkwardness as much as you think they do :)
omg your talk with your dad was so wholesome AND I really needed his words. Especially regarding when it's time to part ways. I unfortunately had to block one of my childhood friends because I think we were forcing ourselves to stay connected longer than we really should have ultimately and things just kind of... boiled over... and we were in this toxic cycle where she would block me and unblock me regularly when I said something she didn't like or agree with and ignored me most of the time when I wasn't blocked and I just finally ended it and blocked her for good on every single form of communication we shared. Then I more gracefully let go of some other people because I just felt like cleaning things up that night. As someone who never cuts anyone off and will stay friends with someone her entire life if they'll let her I guess I needed to hear the proper way to just let things end naturally. Thank you for sharing :) Some of my closest friends and I live all around the world and we have an anime watch party together most weeks! It's so fun to watch with them. Watch parties are amazing.
I unintentionally started this week's challenge by having an open and vulnerable conversation with my friend about friendships and my insecurities in friendships. Your video has opened me up to truly thinking about my actions as social wellness so thank you so much! Sidenote: I'm practicing listening to Chinese and listening to your conversation with your dad really helps me test myself on how much I can follow along with true conversational Chinese. It's a bit difficult to read the subs and also listen but the subs helped a lot because there are some words I couldn't catch or aren't familiar with.
Quality over quantity has been my mantra on relationships after being heartbroken with friends. Your reflections helped alot, rowena. Great way to do some check and balance ❤
the clip of you talking to your day made me emosh 😭 you guys' relationship is so sweet! also my asian dad would 1000% also say "if you don't do anything will heaven drop pastries and pies for you?" 😂
Gracias, gracias y más gracias... No sabía que necesitaba este video hasta que lo ví. Me hizo muy bien y me ayudó bastante a destrabarme mentalmente. No me queda más que agradecer!
Trying this makes me really anxious i can't be that honest about people on my life cause for real nobody is close or even energize me so i don't know if i have someone for real
Since I started my own self-care/mental health journey my relationship with me parents has improved so much! Your conversation with your dad reminded me so much of the wisdom my own dad and mom share with me that I never experienced before just because I wasn't open enough myself to start those kinds of conversations with them. Your videos have been golden sunshine since I found them a few months ago. You're doing amazing!44
Watching your video first thing while eating my breakfast gives such warm feels and nice start for the day~ Also, you should do a Q&A with your dad! Love how you guys interact! Stay awesome, love you and your content!
thank you for helping me become a better person. you really do help me a lot both with your ideas and with your voice. thank you for creating videos. truly, thank you
Love how you talk. I am going through a very hard time of self build up and I felt died and live again. Your voice is calming and gental,and as a Chinese I love you speaking some Chinese words in the video. That feels close and cute. You are like a sister I don't talk to but give me supports in another space. Hugs
This came at a good time! I have been debating on ending a friendship after numerous incidents but i am pretty certain I need to put my foot down. Interactions have been draining & not worth the energy 🧘♀️
Thanks for the virtual hug! 💕 I like these exercises, they are such eye openers ☺️. Human relationships are really beautiful and without all the other distractions, it's even more important to value and identify who is really in your inner circle.
You are right, when two people can be open and vulnerable with each other that’s real friendship. However, there are people who might use these deep convos to put the other person down or even twist the truth in later time. This breaks the trust. Building new friendships can be difficult and scary after going through this.
I've been pretty lonely during the last few weeks but haven't been able to have more deeper relationships with my friends. Kind of feel like they're too busy for me or have their own lives going on. Thanks for making it a little bit easier to take the first step!
This is the first video I've watched of hers and omg, I love it, it feels like whole episodes and it's calming too, inspiring, I resonated with her at a deep level
Omg Rowena, when I heard you speak in Chinese, I realized that we are both "Taiwanese-north-Americans", born in the same year and we love sharks! It's like sweet potatoes destiny!
"You're not going to be BFFS w/everyone." Such an important point! I used to feel something was wrong if I wasn't connecting with someone. Now I just accept it and really cherish those friendships where the connection actually is real. Where there's a pulse. Makes me feel more alive.
That convo with your dad was so wholesome
Right. It was sweet 🥺💖
My Dad passed away 3 years ago and this is how we used to talk on the phone, kisses goodbye included. Im living away from my family in a different country and call likes these are so precious. Asian dad's that aren't afraid to be gentle and express themselves are so rare to find and watching this reminded me how grateful I am to have had a dad so wonderful. I don't comment on RUclips videos ever but I wanted you to know that this really touched me. Lots of love and light to you Rowena, please always be your beautiful self
couldn’t agree more :’) sending you so much love Nicole 💕
In 2020, I dropped a toxic friend, lost a few old friends but kept the loyal ones. This year, I'm focusing on two friendships, one virtual, one physical. Wish me luck!
for an introvert like me, this is so nice and helpful since i haven't REALLY talked to my friends since lockdown in our country started
the conversation with your dad was the sweetest thing :”) my heart is warm
Human connection is crucial! Especially in today’s world.
Hey Nicole,
I have a podcast. Would u plz hear it out and let me know any scope of improvement.
anchor.fm/khushi823/episodes/Handling-rough-days-in-your-life-els54g
It would really mean a lot to me.
Lots of love
Have a great time.
I agree ✊🏻😤
"Listening to what the other person is saying and responding with kindness." Love how you walked us through this! vulnerability is the birthplace of connection 💙
I've decided to limit my use of social media extensively, including RUclips. But I always make it a point to come back to your videos, and I never miss an update. You shine so bright, girl. Thank you for the wonderful work.
Yes,she is my go-to RUclips friend.
omg I so relate with being able to spend weeks alone as an introvert and how meeting up with friends and sharing personal goals and secrets can really make you feel so full. but I also feel when I've had too much of it back to back, I tend to get back into my shell for another 2 weeks at the least.
By these standards I'm not actually close with anyone, because I'm not the kind of person people open to, hah.
You can 🥺 it’s not too late ❤️
It's alright, it definitely takes time to nurture these sorts of relationships and the current situation makes it more difficult
same
same for me. :/
I don't know if you want people to open up to you ofc, but what could help to start a deeper connection is paying close attention to your friends to see how they're doing and asking about their day or if they just wanna talk, or if you know what stuff they're going trough ask how that's going or if they're holding on. You showing that you care and see them makes them feel loved and comfortable and they'll probably go to you sooner if they wanna talk to someone :))
Omg yes!! What you said after the 1 on 1 dinner! I can totally relate. I then always ask myself why I don't do this more often bc I feel so good and my heart is so full after spending time with 1 or 2 friends. I mean we're all busy all of the time but still....
Awwww it must be nice to have such a good relationship with both of your parents
Hello human beans! Just a reminder that YOU are beautiful, and that it is important to stay close to the people who make you feel happy and who make you feel better about yourself. Also, It's okay if it takes you a little longer to "un-potato" yourself. It is a process. Have an amazing rest of your day! I love youuuu
Omg thank uu 🥺🥺🥺 angel ❤️
@@Loopynesss ❤️❤️❤️
🥺💛
this is such a valuable video considering that many of our happiness depends on our relationships
We've been watching movies together with chat in another 'channel' - via Slack, Discord, etc. so it's a lot like being together, laughing at the same lines and funny bits, critiquing outfits, etc.
Your dad is delightfully profound! 💖
Omg this is literally my New Years resolution! I want to focus on strengthening my personal relationships this year.
You’re beautiful!
Oh Rowena, I've enjoyed this series so much. I enjoyed this video too & I've been participating on Vibely.. But this video was honestly the most difficult for me.. I just don't have that many friends. It's gotten so much harder in adulthood & I find it really difficult to cultivate new friendships even though I *really* want to. When I was writing out my list of people that I spend time with.. it was just my family, work "friends" and my boyfriend. Especially now that there is social distancing - I have no idea where to even start. Even when I make attempts with friends from my past (I wrote a few xmas cards & sent them out because everyone lives kinda far away - I moved a lot in my youth) conversations just fizzle out & we both get busy with our every day lives. I feel like you were mostly talking about improving the friendships & relationships that we already have, as opposed to creating new ones.. I would really appreciate a video on how to make friends as an adult 🙏🏼💕
the conversation with your dad made me a bit teary-eyed; it was so wholesome :>
you can definitely tell rowena puts in so much time & effort into each & every one of her videos. Thanks for caring so much about us - we love you!!
Rowena’s tips are getting me thru quarantine
The conversation with your dad!! I am currently in that awkward stage with a person; someone who based on our very minuscule interaction-I would like to be friends with. This is a very unusual thing for me because any form f r/ships are the one thing I know that I am very inept at, and wanting to develop a friendship with someone from a work setting is even stranger.
I have spent so much time thinking of ways not to f*** it up- 'am I saying the right things?" "how do I establish a balance; and not be excessive/standoffish?". Do I just ask this person if they would like to be actual friends, as opposed to one with whom I banter (or very nearly flirt with-I didn't even realize that I could do this)? Ughh
In other words, this is the one YT video that, at the time of watching, didn't have a dislike. AH!
Wow, I just finished talking to my bbf, came to your channel and found this video. And I feel more grateful for having my family and the friends I have. Thanks for sharing a bit of your life!
P.S. Please put some more parts of you talking chinese, I am studying chinese and is like classes of life + chinese in one
My dearest Rowena ♥️ I adore your videos! I come with a sad empty feeling and always leave with a full heart, ready to connect with people again.
Such a great relationship with your dad! Like many other Asian kids, we’ve never even said the word “love you” in my household 😢
Haha my dad doesn’t even talk to me
When u called ur dad :') sooo cute
I don’t know why I started crying watching this video. But gosh, I am so grateful for this video 🤍
I don’t need to deepen friendships because I have no friends
I love that you and your dad say I love you to each other!! It's so rare in Asian families. 💔
Ive seen these types of comments several times on this video. May I ask the reason why asian dads do not say “i love you?” Ive seeb plenty of young asian dads who are very into their child and although i may not understand the language but the way the dad(s) ive seen care about their child looks like they show physical love? And if it were to be seen as non masculine does this also mean they would normally not say it to their wife either? Really curious and no judgement at all :)
Why is our relationship with dads so weird? Like, I cannot talk to him as I talk to Moms or friends or uncles.
Talking people just so freely is very hard for me .
I’m always anxious and thinking of how I’m going to respond so, I’m not awkward.
I have noticed this since a few years ago, I would like to know where this is coming from ☺️
I would suggest looking into (social) anxiety. I was struggling with similar issues - at one point I couldn't even raise my hand in class anymore without having a panic attack - and knowing what it actually is helped me deal with it a lot. There are many tips, strategies, tools to ease the anxiousness and become more comfortable. Takes time, but you can do it! Most people don't really judge you or think about your awkwardness as much as you think they do :)
@@NicoHaBaCoop thank you that puts me at ease 👍
omg your talk with your dad was so wholesome
AND I really needed his words. Especially regarding when it's time to part ways. I unfortunately had to block one of my childhood friends because I think we were forcing ourselves to stay connected longer than we really should have ultimately and things just kind of... boiled over... and we were in this toxic cycle where she would block me and unblock me regularly when I said something she didn't like or agree with and ignored me most of the time when I wasn't blocked and I just finally ended it and blocked her for good on every single form of communication we shared. Then I more gracefully let go of some other people because I just felt like cleaning things up that night. As someone who never cuts anyone off and will stay friends with someone her entire life if they'll let her I guess I needed to hear the proper way to just let things end naturally. Thank you for sharing :)
Some of my closest friends and I live all around the world and we have an anime watch party together most weeks! It's so fun to watch with them. Watch parties are amazing.
When I think of someone who gives me energy, i think of rowena!
I unintentionally started this week's challenge by having an open and vulnerable conversation with my friend about friendships and my insecurities in friendships. Your video has opened me up to truly thinking about my actions as social wellness so thank you so much!
Sidenote: I'm practicing listening to Chinese and listening to your conversation with your dad really helps me test myself on how much I can follow along with true conversational Chinese. It's a bit difficult to read the subs and also listen but the subs helped a lot because there are some words I couldn't catch or aren't familiar with.
I've had that cloud sweater saved on yesstyle for ages but didn't know if it would look good irl! Now I know it's adorable, I might get it :D
Omg Rowena your mandarin is sooooo good! I’m a Taiwanese and your accent is like ... so native! Totally impressed🌹
Quality over quantity has been my mantra on relationships after being heartbroken with friends. Your reflections helped alot, rowena. Great way to do some check and balance ❤
the clip of you talking to your day made me emosh 😭 you guys' relationship is so sweet!
also my asian dad would 1000% also say "if you don't do anything will heaven drop pastries and pies for you?" 😂
Thank you again for this challenge, Rowena!
I've been trying to connect with my friends more :D
It's so nice to see you smiling with your heart content twice in this video :)
Andy's bedroom walls are on Rowena's sweater! Cool!
This video’s soo adorable and wholesome!! Thank you for sharing these lovely tips !!❤️😍✨
你爸爸好可爱
Loved this video so much, seemed to touch on all the right spots. ❤️❤️
thanks for the idea Row! will definitely write a letter for my love ones as too 💖
Gracias, gracias y más gracias... No sabía que necesitaba este video hasta que lo ví. Me hizo muy bien y me ayudó bastante a destrabarme mentalmente. No me queda más que agradecer!
The timing of this is hilarious
Trying this makes me really anxious i can't be that honest about people on my life cause for real nobody is close or even energize me so i don't know if i have someone for real
Since I started my own self-care/mental health journey my relationship with me parents has improved so much! Your conversation with your dad reminded me so much of the wisdom my own dad and mom share with me that I never experienced before just because I wasn't open enough myself to start those kinds of conversations with them. Your videos have been golden sunshine since I found them a few months ago. You're doing amazing!44
I needed that hug 🥲💓💓💓💓💓
I saw this legit after I was renewing my values for this year (one of them is depth!) I’m mind blown
i am delightfully obsessed with your videos rowena!!
Wow your dad talks as cute as you. Do you take after him?
- secretly coveting/loving the hugs -
Watching your video first thing while eating my breakfast gives such warm feels and nice start for the day~ Also, you should do a Q&A with your dad! Love how you guys interact! Stay awesome, love you and your content!
This is the video which I needed RIGHT NOW!!!
thank you for helping me become a better person. you really do help me a lot both with your ideas and with your voice. thank you for creating videos. truly, thank you
Thank you so much Rowena. You're videos mean so much to me and are changing my practises and thinking for the better. 💕 oxoxox
Love how you talk. I am going through a very hard time of self build up and I felt died and live again. Your voice is calming and gental,and as a Chinese I love you speaking some Chinese words in the video. That feels close and cute. You are like a sister I don't talk to but give me supports in another space. Hugs
This came at a good time! I have been debating on ending a friendship after numerous incidents but i am pretty certain I need to put my foot down. Interactions have been draining & not worth the energy 🧘♀️
I just feel recharged and so full of taking up the world after binging your videos
Well i didn’t expect to be reduced to tears on my living room floor but here I am
I'm so happy for you that you have a good relationship with your father. How rare and beautiful💕
Well great tips, what if you don’t have friends lol fam doesn’t count
Thanks for the virtual hug! 💕
I like these exercises, they are such eye openers ☺️. Human relationships are really beautiful and without all the other distractions, it's even more important to value and identify who is really in your inner circle.
When a video starts with a quotation from Brene Brown, I am already invested.
this comment will be very random and i also don't know why i feel like this but i really really love hearing people speak english and chinese combined
This series compiled and published as a book would be the best book I'll never have 👉👈
i've recently found your channel and i am so in love with your mind and how you say these important things
You are right, when two people can be open and vulnerable with each other that’s real friendship. However, there are people who might use these deep convos to put the other person down or even twist the truth in later time. This breaks the trust. Building new friendships can be difficult and scary after going through this.
you should really write a book, rowena. I hope you consider this!
I've been pretty lonely during the last few weeks but haven't been able to have more deeper relationships with my friends. Kind of feel like they're too busy for me or have their own lives going on. Thanks for making it a little bit easier to take the first step!
Yours hugs are a real blessing. Thank you so much for this video 🥔🥰
This is the first video I've watched of hers and omg, I love it, it feels like whole episodes and it's calming too, inspiring, I resonated with her at a deep level
Your honesty and openness and vulnerability is 😌
I wuv you and I hope your doing well 🌼☀️🌸✨💖🍉🍓🌟🌻
很幸福的女儿呢！ 羡慕你的父女关系。
I'm always the one initiating meet ups with my friends :(
I love your hugs 😊💖💖 And thank you for this video 😄
Did you just said 3 in Chinese🤣so cute❤️
I notice Rowena got a new phone! Congrats for that :D
Your Dad has such a comforting voice ☺️
So exited for next week's video👍🏽💗💗
She hugged me. I'm so happy. - tears of joy -
Omg Rowena, when I heard you speak in Chinese, I realized that we are both "Taiwanese-north-Americans", born in the same year and we love sharks! It's like sweet potatoes destiny!
I love listening to you speaking Chinese!♡
I wish I still had my dad to make my middle school days better
This video came up right when I needed it
I am loving the true beauty reference
your yaw is getting bigger are you stressing too much ?
Oh I loved this, so important! X
the timing like u don’t understand
So great thanks :)
That True Beauty Reference thooo
We got three Rowena hugs this week 🥺❤
Your dad seems like a very wise man!
this is such a cool idea! thank u for this
I love to listen to you rowena.. 🤗
You may have saved my life today 🥰