My dad tells me all the time that our older population is being abandoned by everyone from the healthcare system to the government to our own family. He talks about how the Asian culture cares for their old and sick relatives in their homes and don’t leave them to be abused in nursing homes like here. I believe him, but I’ll always be there for him, and he knows that. My dream is to become successful not only for myself, but for my family, especially my parents.
I am a Gen Xer. I watched in the 80's as white Christian conservatives voted for and created policies than created the present day. They are selfish and self centered, especially the men. Let karma do its work. Let them rot.
Not only is your comment irrelevant to the video and my post, but you managed to be both sexist and racist in one reply. By the way, I’m a Christian, so thanks for generalizing us. Don’t bother responding, I don’t argue with fools and you have no business on my thread to begin with.
In our west Indian/Caribbean cultures the elderly are well cared for. We do not put or grandparents in a nursing home they stay living at home with the family. My grandmother recently passed on at 96 and she never went to a home.
My wife has been bedridden at home for over 15 years. She is 67 now and I have tried to take care of her but I need helpers in the house. The number of hours I need them has increased over the years. Too late for long term health care insurance and it now costs me over $5000 a month to keep her home. Prepare for this everyone. Eventually the money and my energy will run out.
My husband had a stroke in 2017. He went from being a highly active Army veteran to being unable to walk without assistance. He can no longer eat normally as well; all of his meals are liquids fed to him through a tube in his stomach. I am the one who takes care of him now. I'm a writer with complex PTSD so to say that our situation can be challenging is an understatement. Seeing this story actually eased my mind a bit because it helps to know that we're not the only ones facing these struggles.
@@bonniedunbar6717 I was an RN for 32 years, the last 10 as a geriatric specialist. Old people need more care than an infant. It is very sad when a caregiver dies first and often followed closely by their charge.
@@lindacortes2422 Linda, I am also a nurse. I chose to work in nursing homes because I grew up around elderly parents and aunts and uncles. I loved my job. As charge nurse I would have 30 patients on my halls. Not to brag but I was an excellent nurses THEN, my husband had a massive stroke that left him brain damaged and paralyzed but I made up my mind he would come home from rehab and I could take care of him all alone. What a laugh.. After almost 3 years I was having dizzy spells and I could no longer stand without holding onto something. A visiting rehab therapist finally convinced me I could not continue living like this.My guilt was overwhelming putting my husband into a home but I physically recovered and visited my husband every day. He died peacefully. I can relate to this woman and hope she will help herself before she has a break down. I do believe some caretakers need to be forced into reality as I was.
Karma. I am sure you are a good nurse. Your instincts prove that. The proof is in the pudding. And, yes, we are none of us perfect. Our imperfections draw us close to God, He is faithful. I admire anyone's ability to be a caregiver to a husband, I could not serve.
I'm a caregiver for both my mother and my 55-year-old sister who had a stroke two years ago. At least with my mother I could go to work, but now with dealing with my sister's issues I can't even think of going back to work. What little savings I have to pay for expenses that too will soon be gone. What can I do?
it is so expensive to put someone into a nursing home. people who care for their relatives deserve to be paid. not only is it far less expensive for society when they do this, but it is much better for the patient. Of course we all know the gov't. wants people who no longer pay taxes to die.
I don't know how it works in the US but now in France financial help is available for everyone who help a disable parents. I hope President Biden will think about those families.
It would be an issue that Congress would have to vote on. Given the history of what people deem socialism, it won’t likely be an issue addressed in the near future.
@@rolandhawbibata8029 Biden is not just an elderly person. He is the leader of the most powerful country in the world and if you would ever bother to watch national news you would understand Biden has Dementia and the entire world had better be worried.
the future of healthcare only looks worse! you pushed new nursing and med students through these accelerated programs! and then you let politics rule the world of medicine, so the good ones have all gone! when i left the nursing field, homecare was in the most dire need. and its only getting worse everyday. this is the future yall voted for :/
With free community college coming, things can change for the better. Make attractive geriatric nursing. If homes were built with modifications, families would move to another community or state just for accessible design, Make healthcare workers part owners, buy shares in the business. Employee owned would be better for everyone. Low wages, long hours, it's all engrained in an overtaxed system that is controlled by corporations. Build Back Better.
@@bagelchips3213 You have so much to offer. Rest and give it another shot. Would be solid gold as a nursing consultant and engineer. Looking at the COVID videos, everything spells burnout. Not least, all that pushing and pulling. Tracks. Tracks on the floor. Mechanism from Roomba. Send this bed to X-ray. Hospital hallways should have a dumb waiter wall. Put sterilized equipment on an elevator, floor to floor. Another one for used equipment. Another one for food trays, Bless you, all of you. You’ve done it by yourself far too long. Patient advocate? Try Nurses Advocate for awhile. Patients are short term. Nurses are 24/7. Everyone knows what privatizing prisons does. Cutting costs is all that matters. That’s what hospitals are…profit motivated. Biggest thing that can be done…immediate results…cycle in and cycle out. Like military…..deploy. Get off the front line for R and R, do desk work, de-brief, study, teach. Now, go back to the battlefield, refreshed at least. Hospitals should be partially funded by the government. Military, post office, like that….not corporate overlords. Bless you for your service.
@@powerWithinUs4055 nah. I tried looking for work from home RN jobs. There are none. They all still require ridiculous in-state residence, vaccines, low pay, lousy benefits, and its all temp contractual. I'm out of that rat race
Thanks NBC News for offering us this video. Well done and very accurate. I would like to repeat the title of the video for those who have posted derogatory comments. Perhaps they need to read the title again slowly and let each individual word sink in before making more nasty snotty quips. The title reads "Millions Of Older Americans Supporting Spouses As Full-Time Caregivers" That is factual and asks absolutely nothing of people who have no empathy.
Literally the point of marriage is to care for one another in sickness and health till death do you part. Everyone will get old many will become sick. Care for yourself. Care for your loved ones. Eat well, Exercise, give thanks and prey for the best.
She was not old when he had a stroke. I lovingly care for my husband for 21/2 years after his massive stroke. I was in my 50s and it nearly physically killed me. I would never marry again and care for another person.
@@bonniedunbar6717 I'm only 39 but I went through it with my own husband before he died. I'll never do it again either. I loved him but I just can't do it again.
Imagine a 70 year old woman trying to care for her husband- In a nursing home you need two people to lift some one or a hoyer lift. Get real. Alzheimers patients often become violent. Armchair critics should get off their butts & work or volunteer in a nursing home to see the realities of the situation.
@@franny5295 I was reading where a woman took care of her husband for years after he had a stroke. After he died within a year she met another man and remarried and soon after the new husband had a stroke and she was a caretaker again.I never wanted to be alone at a young age but that caretaking physically and mentally messed up my brain and I can't do it again. Best to you!
Let me tell you now. When you call, no one answers. If they do, you are put on hold, sometimes for hours. If you must leave a voice mail, they do not return your call. There is no to speak to, and if there is, they can’t give you the information you need, nor put you in direct contact with anyone who can. If you do finally get someone, the information is wrong, or what they need from you may be impossible to get. Good luck, folks.
"Reality smack in the face..." When you're young and in good health all this is inconsequential. But as time passes everything becomes more difficult. I feel sorry for people under 20. When their health problems begin to manifest in the future there may be far fewer ways to afford basic healthcare.
I don't know how much sympathy to give this woman. They should have put money aside regularly instead of just living 'the good life'. We all need to think 'what if' & have a plan. Their home looks comfortable. Perhaps she should sell & move to an apartment geared to the needs of people with disabilities. She might also count her blessings that she's still young & strong to care for him. I'm old & sick & I care for my older husband, just grateful that I still can because we love each other so much.
It's not kind to judge others when they are facing the same struggle that you are facing. Those memories of a good life are probably helping them to endure now. Please remember your compassion.
Because we are the children of two wars and we find ourselves as care givers to our Parents or our Spouses. Also we must start to think of the what will do if and when we will be alone. The one Silent killer of Senior Citizens isn't Cancer or Stroke or even Covid-19 it's ALZHEIMER'S. alone after our caregiving
My husband is bedridden.hes been down for two years.imalso running our ranch with livestock I have a broken back in 2 places a female problem cant see out of one eye. Been married for 40 years .he went bedridden when the covid showed up .that was stressful I also have a pet goat with a broken leg had the vet out.shes wearing a cast on her leg. Don't feel sorry.i tell my husband I rather have you than not.im tired alot.hopefuly he will walk again. And the goat.too.im going to live until I'm 90 years old I'm going to get me afloppy hat a rocking chair in front of my barn and a rifle across my lap.better days ahead.
Wow, I am a retired caregiver and I worked for local agencies as a Private Duty HHA/CNA/PCT.. One of my clients had invested in Long Term Care Healy Insurance and it came in right on time. Thanks for the video.
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As Aging Americans we must except the current Realities. Who if necessary must start aggresive to seek a Lobbyist who will champion our causes. Because who will help us with the change in income status to be more realistic with our current financial situations. And bring them into balance . We are either children of parents
Well thry had fun at younger times. And fifties start thr crap show that people aren’t resdy for especially if they haven’t been taking care of health especially eating right. Everyone gets old fat . It doesn’t have to be that way. It gets harder as you age if you don’t start sooner. The early agers get disease or conditions. And not expecting any of it.
As a caregiver to others and my father , it can be difficult. Doctors appointments , physical therapy , the daily routine of getting up and out of the house can take hours . Most meals need to be at home bc it’s cheaper and for dietary needs. With the loss of income , she probably can’t afford their usual activities . Hopefully she is with her best friend.
@@Noirmariposa The Dept of Ageing could help you find activities with transportation for disabled. If you can get qualified for Hospice your home help increases a great deal to give you a break. Hospice does not mean someone is dying.
@@Noirmariposa "usual" activities, they can find new ones. children can play with a stick. why we grown ups cant find activity that is simple and cheap?
Evidently you've never been in a position of being a 24/7 caregiver. It's not at 5pm you clock out and you're done job. You're day starts when you get out of bed and many times does not finish. At the end of the day you are so physically and mentally drained, any socializing is the last thing you want or can do. Prepare meals, laundry, therapies, laundry, clean or attempt to clean the house, doctor appointments, pharmacy, hygiene of the patient, supermarket. Taking someone out of the house, if that's even possible, may be an event in it self. Then there's the mental toll. You are alone, with little or no help. It can happen when the person became ill/disabled, some people stop contacting the patient for whatever reason.
@@caregiverinitaly I am sad that you were alone. Society.... People can help each other. Children should help parents. However, you are right, we are left alone. We struggle, we fight, and we cry. Sometimes we cry to random people, and it helps a little bit. I doubt government will step up... So only options is to hold each other tightly. I hope your life is better now. I wish you happiness.
@@evanneal7604 You need to take your loved one to their doctor. He will diagnose your loved one and if more care is needed at home then you can give the doctor will contact a local health agency. Even a diagnosis if diabetes can get you help. This is not full time help but it is up to the doctor and agency what is to be done.
@@bonniedunbar6717 the coverage that my parents have with Medicare, do not cover eldercare, and there income is to much for Medicaid. I LOVE them Desperately but I myself could use an income where I wouldn't have to leave them alone if I'm working full time.
Where are there children? In my culture, we take of our elders. Why? I thank my parents (Even though we normally don't see eye to eye) for providing food and shelter. I wouldn't put my parents in a nursing home! As for this woman? Should of had worked while her husband was working.
@@bonniedunbar6717 I choose not to put my parents in a nursing home. Why? In my culture we take care of our own. Not taking care of them is turning our backs on them. I find it real questionable that there was no mention about their children. In some cases, couldn't be bothered that there father worked his butt off. And the children couldn't even contribute. And your comment about diaper changing? Bint, what makes you think I haven't changed my mom's diaper. It ain't my first rodeo lassie!
@@LL-fd7xn What makes you think they have children? Not everyone chooses to have a family. And at there young age for a stroke to happen the kids would only be in their 3os not able to stop working much less afford to stop and give much help. You will understand when you are older and hopefully if you are a guy will not hand the care job off to sisters.
@@bonniedunbar6717 Will sounds like your children wouldn't want to take care of you BINT! And I wouldn't blame them. Lol. And lady, like I said IT AINT MY FIRST RODEO! And I do have an elderly dad which my sisters and I do take turns taking care of him.(We are In our 30s/40s working PART/FULL TIME JOBS (BTW I don't have a big shot job, regular blue collar job!) and have our own spouses and children with a mortgage! That's how much we care about our elders in our Asian Culture. It's frown upon to even put our elders in a nursing home! Even if they didn't have children, they should of been smart enough to have some lifeline or a financial plan like 30 years ago! You can't depend on one spouse's income now adays! Maybe 40 years years ago but times have changed. She choose not to work and lived comfortably as her hustle. She made her bed!
@@LL-fd7xn Last comment Watch the very end of video. She says to him she was his bride. I believe they were starting out in a second marriage together and the cruise etc was a honeymoon. Thus, she never had time to find a job before his stroke. And anyone can see she has aged 10 years in a very short time. The fact she does not just walk away makes her very special. Case closed and I was brought up that parents should be financially secure so all they need from their kids are relaxing visits and not become a burden.
He qualifies for home health assurance. She can also get a job, and join the work force. , you do what's needed to servive. , this I can't work , bs is a weak mind. .. period !!
The problem he is he we get a Pca once a week that is all we get is goes to a center that does it all no one comes for health care assistance he is 24/7 in need of my care he can’t walk and needs help to transferring I can’t work I guess you have never understood what a full time caregiver is and I hope you never have to walk in my shoes
My dad tells me all the time that our older population is being abandoned by everyone from the healthcare system to the government to our own family. He talks about how the Asian culture cares for their old and sick relatives in their homes and don’t leave them to be abused in nursing homes like here. I believe him, but I’ll always be there for him, and he knows that. My dream is to become successful not only for myself, but for my family, especially my parents.
It’s also unfortunate that this video doesn’t have more views. This is more important than any nonsense that’s trending right now.
I am a Gen Xer. I watched in the 80's as white Christian conservatives voted for and created policies than created the present day. They are selfish and self centered, especially the men. Let karma do its work. Let them rot.
Not only is your comment irrelevant to the video and my post, but you managed to be both sexist and racist in one reply. By the way, I’m a Christian, so thanks for generalizing us. Don’t bother responding, I don’t argue with fools and you have no business on my thread to begin with.
@@galemartin9155 it doesn't work to lump all in a particular age group to be the same.. as humans we are all fallible..
In our west Indian/Caribbean cultures the elderly are well cared for. We do not put or grandparents in a nursing home they stay living at home with the family. My grandmother recently passed on at 96 and she never went to a home.
Now count all the mother take care of the disabled child.
Well, you vaccinated. So that autistic child you got..that's on you. They're your responsibility now
Bless her for sticking by her husband.
I been doing that in my early 20s with my dad as a caregiver and there should be help for older children too for caregivers for there parents..
My wife has been bedridden at home for over 15 years. She is 67 now and I have tried to take care of her but I need helpers in the house. The number of hours I need them has increased over the years. Too late for long term health care insurance and it now costs me over $5000 a month to keep her home. Prepare for this everyone. Eventually the money and my energy will run out.
God bless our poor older adults .America should be ashamed how we treat our elders .
My husband had a stroke in 2017. He went from being a highly active Army veteran to being unable to walk without assistance. He can no longer eat normally as well; all of his meals are liquids fed to him through a tube in his stomach. I am the one who takes care of him now. I'm a writer with complex PTSD so to say that our situation can be challenging is an understatement. Seeing this story actually eased my mind a bit because it helps to know that we're not the only ones facing these struggles.
Find support groups for caretakers.They are all around and you are not alone.
Definitely a reality check. You’re a rockstar, girl. Don’t give up society, there’s still good people out there.
"in sickness and in health, till death do us part"
You do realize the caretaker usually died first.
@@bonniedunbar6717 I was an RN for 32 years, the last 10 as a geriatric specialist. Old people need more care than an infant. It is very sad when a caregiver dies first and often followed closely by their charge.
@@lindacortes2422 Linda, I am also a nurse. I chose to work in nursing homes because I grew up around elderly parents and aunts and uncles. I loved my job. As charge nurse I would have 30 patients on my halls. Not to brag but I was an excellent nurses THEN, my husband had a massive stroke that left him brain damaged and paralyzed but I made up my mind he would come home from rehab and I could take care of him all alone. What a laugh.. After almost 3 years I was having dizzy spells and I could no longer stand without holding onto something. A visiting rehab therapist finally convinced me I could not continue living like this.My guilt was overwhelming putting my husband into a home but I physically recovered and visited my husband every day. He died peacefully. I can relate to this woman and hope she will help herself before she has a break down. I do believe some caretakers need to be forced into reality as I was.
Karma. I am sure you are a good nurse. Your instincts prove that. The proof is in the pudding. And, yes, we are none of us perfect. Our imperfections draw us close to God, He is faithful. I admire anyone's ability to be a caregiver to a husband, I could not serve.
That is the very reason I will not abandon my husband. I made a promise.
They need an fn raise when mcdonald's employees make more than those caregivers something is off
100% Facts
I'm a caregiver for both my mother and my 55-year-old sister who had a stroke two years ago. At least with my mother I could go to work, but now with dealing with my sister's issues I can't even think of going back to work. What little savings I have to pay for expenses that too will soon be gone. What can I do?
Your mom needs to be on Medicaid. You will get more help physically and financially that way and stop spending your money.
Do you live in a state that can pay you for taking care of them?
it is so expensive to put someone into a nursing home. people who care for their relatives deserve to be paid. not only is it far less expensive for society when they do this, but it is much better for the patient. Of course we all know the gov't. wants people who no longer pay taxes to die.
I don't know how it works in the US but now in France financial help is available for everyone who help a disable parents. I hope President Biden will think about those families.
It would be an issue that Congress would have to vote on. Given the history of what people deem socialism, it won’t likely be an issue addressed in the near future.
Biden has Dementia and is unable to comprehend anything that is going on.
It's not Biden. It's the system here. Capitalism means for-profit.
@@bonniedunbar6717 You are very mean and disrespectful. It’s sad elderly people are not respect nowadays
@@rolandhawbibata8029 Biden is not just an elderly person. He is the leader of the most powerful country in the world and if you would ever bother to watch national news you would understand Biden has Dementia and the entire world had better be worried.
the future of healthcare only looks worse! you pushed new nursing and med students through these accelerated programs! and then you let politics rule the world of medicine, so the good ones have all gone! when i left the nursing field, homecare was in the most dire need. and its only getting worse everyday. this is the future yall voted for :/
With free community college coming, things can change for the better. Make attractive geriatric nursing. If homes were built with modifications, families would move to another community or state just for accessible design, Make healthcare workers part owners, buy shares in the business. Employee owned would be better for everyone. Low wages, long hours, it's all engrained in an overtaxed system that is controlled by corporations. Build Back Better.
I just quit nursing after 20 years. Burned out, disabled. 20 years of fighting administration to advocate for my patients. I'm done.
@@bagelchips3213 You have so much to offer. Rest and give it another shot. Would be solid gold as a nursing consultant and engineer.
Looking at the COVID videos, everything spells burnout. Not least, all that pushing and pulling. Tracks. Tracks on the floor. Mechanism from Roomba. Send this bed to X-ray.
Hospital hallways should have a dumb waiter wall. Put sterilized equipment on an elevator, floor to floor.
Another one for used equipment. Another one for food trays,
Bless you, all of you. You’ve done it by yourself far too long. Patient advocate? Try Nurses Advocate for awhile. Patients are short term. Nurses are 24/7.
Everyone knows what privatizing prisons does. Cutting costs is all that matters. That’s what hospitals are…profit motivated.
Biggest thing that can be done…immediate results…cycle in and cycle out.
Like military…..deploy. Get off the front line for R and R, do desk work, de-brief, study, teach. Now, go back to the battlefield, refreshed at least.
Hospitals should be partially funded by the government. Military, post office, like that….not corporate overlords.
Bless you for your service.
@@powerWithinUs4055 nah. I tried looking for work from home RN jobs. There are none. They all still require ridiculous in-state residence, vaccines, low pay, lousy benefits, and its all temp contractual. I'm out of that rat race
Thanks NBC News for offering us this video. Well done and very accurate. I would like to repeat the title of the video for those who have posted derogatory comments. Perhaps they need to read the title again slowly and let each individual word sink in before making more nasty snotty quips. The title reads "Millions Of Older Americans Supporting Spouses As Full-Time Caregivers" That is factual and asks absolutely nothing of people who have no empathy.
Marriage is really overrated for woman. We live longer and put up with too much sh#t in the name of love.
As you you take the house , the car, the bank account, the dog, the kids and anything else that’s not nailed down. 🙄 Sheesh give me a break
Literally the point of marriage is to care for one another in sickness and health till death do you part.
Everyone will get old many will become sick. Care for yourself. Care for your loved ones. Eat well, Exercise, give thanks and prey for the best.
She was not old when he had a stroke. I lovingly care for my husband for 21/2 years after his massive stroke. I was in my 50s and it nearly physically killed me. I would never marry again and care for another person.
Prey indeed
@@bonniedunbar6717 I'm only 39 but I went through it with my own husband before he died. I'll never do it again either. I loved him but I just can't do it again.
Imagine a 70 year old woman trying to care for her husband- In a nursing home you need two people to lift some one or a hoyer lift. Get real. Alzheimers patients often become violent. Armchair critics should get off their butts & work or volunteer in a nursing home to see the realities of the situation.
@@franny5295 I was reading where a woman took care of her husband for years after he had a stroke. After he died within a year she met another man and remarried and soon after the new husband had a stroke and she was a caretaker again.I never wanted to be alone at a young age but that caretaking physically and mentally messed up my brain and I can't do it again. Best to you!
Let me tell you now. When you call, no one answers. If they do, you are put on hold, sometimes for hours. If you must leave a voice mail, they do not return your call. There is no to speak to, and if there is, they can’t give you the information you need, nor put you in direct contact with anyone who can. If you do finally get someone, the information is wrong, or what they need from you may be impossible to get. Good luck, folks.
"Reality smack in the face..." When you're young and in good health all this is inconsequential. But as time passes everything becomes more difficult. I feel sorry for people under 20. When their health problems begin to manifest in the future there may be far fewer ways to afford basic healthcare.
I don't know how much sympathy to give this woman. They should have put money aside regularly instead of just living 'the good life'. We all need to think 'what if' & have a plan. Their home looks comfortable. Perhaps she should sell & move to an apartment geared to the needs of people with disabilities. She might also count her blessings that she's still young & strong to care for him. I'm old & sick & I care for my older husband, just grateful that I still can because we love each other so much.
Your comment doesn’t really contribute to the situation.
They had savings but it is running out.u didn't listen
It's not kind to judge others when they are facing the same struggle that you are facing. Those memories of a good life are probably helping them to endure now. Please remember your compassion.
@@skuggensdam13 well said!!!
We are in a rental home with Okl housing assistance our home is furnished from the belongings we had from the home we lost with 5 acres
This is my life completely.
Because we are the children of two wars and we find ourselves as care givers to our Parents or our Spouses. Also we must start to think of the what will do if and when we will be alone. The one Silent killer of Senior Citizens isn't
Cancer or Stroke or even Covid-19 it's ALZHEIMER'S.
alone after our caregiving
I salute you, Ms. Sherry Richmond. 🙌👏
My husband is bedridden.hes been down for two years.imalso running our ranch with livestock
I have a broken back in 2 places a female problem cant see out of one eye. Been married for 40 years .he went bedridden when the covid showed up
.that was stressful
I also have a pet goat with a broken leg had the vet out.shes wearing a cast on her leg. Don't feel sorry.i tell my husband I rather have you than not.im tired alot.hopefuly he will walk again. And the goat.too.im going to live until I'm 90 years old I'm going to get me afloppy hat a rocking chair in front of my barn and a rifle across my lap.better days ahead.
They should get dibs on that infrastructure money.
It doesn't just affect spouses, but adult children too. I've been my mother's caregiver for over 15 years.
Wow, I am a retired caregiver and I worked for local agencies as a Private Duty HHA/CNA/PCT.. One of my clients had invested in Long Term Care Healy Insurance and it came in right on time. Thanks for the video.
IT'S TIME TO END THE TWO-PARTY DUOPOLY
#RANKEDCHOICEVOTING
Hello everyone, I just made it out today, believe me okey, I no you all will be thinking, that I’m one of all those scammers out there, no just that RUclips don’t allow me too comment with this guy’s website too appreciate them, this guys up their🙄, are the best will all can deal with. I’m James from California!!
Hello everyone, I just made it out today, believe me okey, I no you all will be thinking, that I’m one of all those scammers out there, no just that RUclips don’t allow me too comment with this guy’s website too appreciate them, this guys up their🙄, are the best will all can deal with. I’m James from California!!
As Aging Americans we must except the current Realities. Who if necessary must start aggresive
to seek a Lobbyist who will champion our causes. Because who will help us with the change in income status to be more realistic with our current financial situations. And bring them into balance
. We are either children of parents
Well thry had fun at younger times. And fifties start thr crap show that people aren’t resdy for especially if they haven’t been taking care of health especially eating right. Everyone gets old fat . It doesn’t have to be that way. It gets harder as you age if you don’t start sooner. The early agers get disease or conditions. And not expecting any of it.
He was great untill he needed her.
What is that supposed to mean
So tired of the face diaper lie already along with the other lies.
How do you get paid for doing this?
They burned through their savings.
@@candacedawn357 what is savings?
She sounds selfish!!!!
@@mahfugga it’s when you work and don’t blow all of your money living in the moment.
A number if states will pay an hourly wage to family members that care for physically disabled family members. Ignore stupid comments.
No social life. Why? They could do stuff.
As a caregiver to others and my father , it can be difficult. Doctors appointments , physical therapy , the daily routine of getting up and out of the house can take hours . Most meals need to be at home bc it’s cheaper and for dietary needs. With the loss of income , she probably can’t afford their usual activities . Hopefully she is with her best friend.
@@Noirmariposa The Dept of Ageing could help you find activities with transportation for disabled. If you can get qualified for Hospice your home help increases a great deal to give you a break. Hospice does not mean someone is dying.
@@Noirmariposa "usual" activities, they can find new ones. children can play with a stick. why we grown ups cant find activity that is simple and cheap?
Evidently you've never been in a position of being a 24/7 caregiver. It's not at 5pm you clock out and you're done job. You're day starts when you get out of bed and many times does not finish. At the end of the day you are so physically and mentally drained, any socializing is the last thing you want or can do. Prepare meals, laundry, therapies, laundry, clean or attempt to clean the house, doctor appointments, pharmacy, hygiene of the patient, supermarket. Taking someone out of the house, if that's even possible, may be an event in it self. Then there's the mental toll. You are alone, with little or no help. It can happen when the person became ill/disabled, some people stop contacting the patient for whatever reason.
@@caregiverinitaly I am sad that you were alone. Society.... People can help each other. Children should help parents. However, you are right, we are left alone. We struggle, we fight, and we cry. Sometimes we cry to random people, and it helps a little bit. I doubt government will step up... So only options is to hold each other tightly. I hope your life is better now. I wish you happiness.
Is there a home care agency that accepts Medicare?
They all do.
@@bonniedunbar6717 they all except Medicaid but not Medicare. If at all possible could you post the agencies that accepts Medicare.
@@evanneal7604 You need to take your loved one to their doctor. He will diagnose your loved one and if more care is needed at home then you can give the doctor will contact a local health agency. Even a diagnosis if diabetes can get you help. This is not full time help but it is up to the doctor and agency what is to be done.
@@bonniedunbar6717 the coverage that my parents have with Medicare, do not cover eldercare, and there income is to much for Medicaid. I LOVE them Desperately but I myself could use an income where I wouldn't have to leave them alone if I'm working full time.
@@evanneal7604 Could you explain what you mean by income? If you would rather not I understand. Do you mean social security?
Where are there children? In my culture, we take of our elders. Why? I thank my parents (Even though we normally don't see eye to eye) for providing food and shelter. I wouldn't put my parents in a nursing home! As for this woman? Should of had worked while her husband was working.
Wait till you change your first poopy diaper. A private home health worker can run $27 an hour. Better get a super great job big shot.
@@bonniedunbar6717 I choose not to put my parents in a nursing home. Why? In my culture we take care of our own. Not taking care of them is turning our backs on them. I find it real questionable that there was no mention about their children. In some cases, couldn't be bothered that there father worked his butt off. And the children couldn't even contribute. And your comment about diaper changing? Bint, what makes you think I haven't changed my mom's diaper. It ain't my first rodeo lassie!
@@LL-fd7xn What makes you think they have children? Not everyone chooses to have a family. And at there young age for a stroke to happen the kids would only be in their 3os not able to stop working much less afford to stop and give much help. You will understand when you are older and hopefully if you are a guy will not hand the care job off to sisters.
@@bonniedunbar6717 Will sounds like your children wouldn't want to take care of you BINT! And I wouldn't blame them. Lol. And lady, like I said IT AINT MY FIRST RODEO! And I do have an elderly dad which my sisters and I do take turns taking care of him.(We are In our 30s/40s working PART/FULL TIME JOBS (BTW I don't have a big shot job, regular blue collar job!) and have our own spouses and children with a mortgage! That's how much we care about our elders in our Asian Culture. It's frown upon to even put our elders in a nursing home! Even if they didn't have children, they should of been smart enough to have some lifeline or a financial plan like 30 years ago! You can't depend on one spouse's income now adays! Maybe 40 years years ago but times have changed. She choose not to work and lived comfortably as her hustle. She made her bed!
@@LL-fd7xn Last comment Watch the very end of video. She says to him she was his bride. I believe they were starting out in a second marriage together and the cruise etc was a honeymoon. Thus, she never had time to find a job before his stroke. And anyone can see she has aged 10 years in a very short time. The fact she does not just walk away makes her very special. Case closed and I was brought up that parents should be financially secure so all they need from their kids are relaxing visits and not become a burden.
He qualifies for home health assurance. She can also get a job, and join the work force. , you do what's needed to servive. , this I can't work , bs is a weak mind. .. period !!
The problem he is he we get a Pca once a week that is all we get is goes to a center that does it all no one comes for health care assistance he is 24/7 in need of my care he can’t walk and needs help to transferring I can’t work I guess you have never understood what a full time caregiver is and I hope you never have to walk in my shoes