Man Found Wrapped in Carpet After Going Wild on Business Trip | Nathan Millard Case Analysis

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  • @DigitalNeb
    @DigitalNeb Год назад +373

    I just keep thinking about this guy's wife. She obviously loved him enough to stay with him through his struggles with drug abuse. Now she has to deal not only with his loss, but with the betrayal as well. That is so unfair. Wherever you are lady, I see what you had to go through, and I'm sorry for you. You deserve better.

    • @Jersey1971
      @Jersey1971 Год назад +39

      And the embarrassment of it all she was left to clean up his mess

    • @ozgal6929
      @ozgal6929 Год назад +30

      ​@Christopher Moltisanti that's nasty and likely very untrue

    • @lucassmith1886
      @lucassmith1886 Год назад +25

      ​@Christopher Moltisanti how old are you? 12?

    • @shelliejones434
      @shelliejones434 Год назад

      ​@@christophermoltisanti776commenters like you are the reason for arguments. I hope you are ignored for your comment. That's a completely biased and horrible thing to think

    • @larbur9342
      @larbur9342 Год назад

      @Christopher Moltisanti Hush, incel troll.

  • @LibraInSeattle
    @LibraInSeattle Год назад +200

    I’m often reminded, as someone with 15 years of recovery this month that my addiction is like a watchful predator. It’s waiting patiently for me to become complacent with my program. To skip a few meetings, and not work with the newcomers. The minute I become complacent my addiction will be there ready and it’s not gotten weaker in 15 years. It has remained just as strong as it was when I got clean. I’ve seen it happen to many people. People with more time than I have get complacent and go back out either drinking or using and within a couple of weeks they’re right back where they were before they got sober. If not worse.
    My own sister was one of those people. She had 21 years of sobriety and went back to drinking. She died from alcoholism a year ago this past Thanksgiving. It’s a dangerous disease.

    • @coolwater55
      @coolwater55 Год назад +13

      🙏😓 I'm truly sorry. So much hope for all those years with your sister.
      God keep you strong!
      We barely had a glimmer of our sister - her former self- as she fell into drug use.
      She passed 2010 leaving a young daughter and now she has a daughter...the story goes on. It's excruciating to witness, but also excruciating to help over and over..damaging one's own family at times...
      I was glad when she passed, for her saje and ours...she couldn't manage fully paid top rehab facility. She akways left...
      She stole drugs from hospital under her tongue and sold them on the street. That was at the end when She was dying of cancer and they couldn't keep her in hospital...
      she went downhill quite fast.
      Our Mom feared her, she was in with dangerous people, but could not discern good from bad anymore.
      Mom was still devastated when she passed.
      Leaves scars that do not heal for some. I was the stable sister she ran to over and over, until I Said no ...as it was impacting my girls.
      I got her to go to counseling, didn't abandon her.
      Long stories...but my relationship with oldest daughter suffered after that.
      She impersonated me..didn't know until I applied for a teaching job and needed a criminal check.( After she died).
      My reputation was restored, after one year of getting a lawyer and finally they proved the police did not process her properly. Didn't take her fingerprints and actually believed her lies
      Never got an apology...
      It almost prevented me from being with oldest daughter when she had her first child in the U.S.
      The damages of the addicted person go on for life.
      Making amends really never happens for most, can't undo the past harms in many cases. It took years for me to forgive her.
      She died knowing she impersonated me and stole identity off another sister. The ones who helped her the most.
      And am helping her daughter for years....still am
      .the daughter had a child...she's an orphan...raising a child...it's been exhausting. But she's clean.
      Because our lives ( husband and I and other siblings) are normal, helping family who are sick or dying. And trying to create healthy atmosphere and good home for our own children and now grandchildren. My life has been a sea of helping, which is good to be there for family...
      But drugs..and the government mamby pambying to say its a disease ..nope. drugs alcohol are a choice. Period.
      I could say a lot more.
      Please stay sober for your sake and your loved ones...

    • @London20258
      @London20258 Год назад +12

      All the very best to you Patricia. Proud of you and grateful for your sobriety. Keep going girl!!

    • @stefs3460
      @stefs3460 Год назад +3

      So sorry for your loss😢

    • @mattgrelee2199
      @mattgrelee2199 Год назад

      What was your drug of choice?

    • @Brittany4sure
      @Brittany4sure Год назад +1

      Sorry to hear. Keep staying strong!

  • @theuprising4847
    @theuprising4847 Год назад +302

    What a horrible thing for his wife to have to deal with.

    • @jimcronin2043
      @jimcronin2043 Год назад +17

      It is a shame that people with substance problems don't think of this aspect before they embark on their binges.

    • @elhuddleston17
      @elhuddleston17 Год назад +7

      And get more details on this video then she needed to know.

    • @sc3ku
      @sc3ku Год назад +2

      @@jimcronin2043 often true, though many do think of others yet can’t stop the addiction train (a train they did start in the first place, yes). I’ve known addicts who definitely think of others, but the monkey on their back is too big a burden to overcome once it gets to a certain point. sad to see either way…

    • @brianbagnall3029
      @brianbagnall3029 Год назад +18

      The only sympathy I feel is for the wife and kids. But in a way, maybe the wife is lucky. Now maybe she can lead a life with someone who actually cares for her.

    • @valfletcher9285
      @valfletcher9285 Год назад +2

      @@elhuddleston17 This has been on the news and social media SO MUCH for the past month - I am sure she does not watch all of it.

  • @ruthokelley5833
    @ruthokelley5833 Год назад +238

    Alcohol and drug abuse will rob a person of their humanity…pure and simple. Over my 83 yrs, I have seen it up close and personal. It is heartbreaking to watch family and friends destroy themselves and anyone else, that is too invested in them.
    This is sad story of a man who lost his way, and never found a way to overcome his addiction. My heart goes out to his loved ones who also suffered through his addiction and now his loss. ❤

    • @beaulieuc8910
      @beaulieuc8910 Год назад +10

      I agree, it has always been like this. I've never understood people who are obsessed with drink and drugs and having no personal boundaries. I have never been into that type of lousy experience.

    • @applepie9576
      @applepie9576 Год назад +13

      Agree. An addict once said that when you're on drugs, "it erases your conscience."

    • @mikelobrien
      @mikelobrien Год назад +1

      Very well stated and I completely agree. People don't realize how dangerous substances can be, especially those substances that are "celebrated" by society. I have seen them change people for the worse physically, emotionally, and mentally and drag those within their orbit down into the toilet with them.

    • @jackactu5741
      @jackactu5741 Год назад

      ​@@beaulieuc8910 lol no no

    • @lukespack
      @lukespack Год назад +1

      I go to his family, not so much to him.

  • @GenXfrom75
    @GenXfrom75 Год назад +108

    My father had 7 failed attempts at sobriety before he succeeded. On June 12, 1992, I turned 17 and my father completed day 1 of recovery. This June, I'll be 48 and he achieves his 31st anniversary of sobriety. Addiction doesn't go away. You're either in recovery or actively addicted. It's like remission. It's so heartbreaking 💔 when addiction steals a life.

    • @Golfing422
      @Golfing422 Год назад +7

      I haven’t seen my dad since he died on 2/13/93. He failed over and over and it cost him his life and I’m 49 years old right now. It set a fine example of what not to do, yet I do meet people who shared similar experiences and behave almost as if they are trying to follow in the footsteps.

    • @cn1800
      @cn1800 Год назад +7

      Thanks for sharing that story! Glad he’s sober and can show people that it can be done.

    • @GenXfrom75
      @GenXfrom75 Год назад +7

      @@Golfing422 I'm sorry your dad never got sober. I know my dad would've died had he not gotten sober. As long as there is life, there's still hope. I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I know so many people who still are in active addiction. Some I love very much. 💔

    • @Golfing422
      @Golfing422 Год назад +7

      @@GenXfrom75 It’s crazy how much he missed. Me and my sister were 18, the others 14 and 12 when he died. We always thought he’d make it for years. He died suddenly, aspirated in his sleep. My 14 yo system found him dead. It’s hurt me more than my sisters. Being a guy, I felt very alone all my life.

    • @Golfing422
      @Golfing422 Год назад +1

      @@GenXfrom75 thanks

  • @milliewoo337
    @milliewoo337 Год назад +266

    They say that a relapse is incredibly dangerous for an individual with a substance abuse problem, because after a period of sobriety their tolerance will be significantly lower than it was when they were last using, but the person will start using as heavily as they did before they quit not realizing that their body can’t handle it. It’s always a huge risk.

    • @TadiKAT
      @TadiKAT Год назад +31

      Absolute TRUTH.. my Brother did exactly that after 8 mos. Rehab.. got drunk, froze to death in the 1st Colorado Blizzard of Dec. 2010😢😢

    • @kristyann9912
      @kristyann9912 Год назад

      That's when most die. Crack addicts seem to die when they quit after 40 or 50. It seems crack keeps people alive longer than if they quit at 40 plus their bodies seem to not be able to take it after 20 years of using crack. They seem to all have heart attacks.
      Never use alcohol if you are trying to stay clean.
      He was also a sex addict and that seems to be what killed him worse.
      The drug dealer sold him the door that killed him.That should be q murder charge.

    • @alisonj9533
      @alisonj9533 Год назад +32

      Yep and takes twice as long or longer to get off again if you do at all. I haven't drank for 23 years and I wont ever believe anyone or trust them if they tell me "one is not going to hurt you!" I silently right them off as they don't give a damn about me I will not waste my time on them.

    • @RaferJeffersonIII
      @RaferJeffersonIII Год назад +1

      Thanks for the insight professor

    • @maryu8328
      @maryu8328 Год назад +12

      @@RaferJeffersonIII ? Thanks for unnecessary ‘tude Cpt.Crankypants

  • @Mia-tn5th
    @Mia-tn5th Год назад +319

    The first lesson from this tragedy: DO NOT BLANK THAT BLANKING BLANK

    • @sciencenotstigma9534
      @sciencenotstigma9534 Год назад +16

      💯! 😂. I think it would benefit kids more if they didn’t bleep correct words for substances.

    • @defundhollywood3259
      @defundhollywood3259 Год назад +6

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад +22

      No..don't drink in excess is the 1st. And don't drink at all in unfamiliar areas or at all period imo

    • @SeaBlue1976
      @SeaBlue1976 Год назад +7

      We all speaking like dr Grande over the years😂

    • @amischair
      @amischair Год назад +5

      We love Dr. Grande!

  • @applepie9576
    @applepie9576 Год назад +53

    I feel for his family that his nefarious activities were brought to light. Not only do they have to deal with his death but the shock and shame of what he was doing away from home. It's probably not the first time he "went wild" when he was away on a business trip.

  • @Robin-xt7yo
    @Robin-xt7yo Год назад +219

    How awful for his wife and 5 kids to find out he had a hidden, seedy side: hookers, drugs and getting so sht faced at a bar that he was kicked out.

    • @johnschlottman619
      @johnschlottman619 Год назад +16

      L O S E R

    • @ruthokelley5833
      @ruthokelley5833 Год назад +16

      Oh, she knew…the kids know something was askew, just not how/what! The damage is deep and long lasting…ask anyone living or has lived in a family of drug and alcohol addiction!
      We think ‘they’ will quit or things will get better…things rarely improved, only deteriorated and finally complete disaster!

    • @samjohns3227
      @samjohns3227 Год назад +8

      His wife obviously knew he had addiction problems, and I bet this kids did too...he only had 3 kids not 5.

    • @Robin-xt7yo
      @Robin-xt7yo Год назад +11

      @@samjohns3227 Two are stepchildren from his wife. I didn't want to diminish what they are going through. Peace.

    • @drbalbon7332
      @drbalbon7332 Год назад

      We've all been there.

  • @tracyking5945
    @tracyking5945 Год назад +150

    Addiction is a lifelong struggle, and many recovering addicts and alcoholics who attain sobriety experience cravings for the rest of their lives. Fighting off these cravings is an every day challenge. Thank you Dr. Grande for highlighting how a first sip of alcohol can be the most dangerous decision any addict can make. ❤️👍🌵🌷

    • @sophiah1091
      @sophiah1091 Год назад +6

      Word! Real Talk! 💜

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 Год назад +3

      @@Mia-tn5th True. Addiction comes in many forms...TV, sex, alcohol, drugs, games, bad behaviors, lying...the list is endless. It can be hard to change but I'm a believer no one is doomed to be an "addict"....that's a label. I had a big problem with alcohol when I was younger, stopped drinking for 10 yrs once I decided no more, was a very easy choice. Now I can socially drink a few with no issues. Yes some folks need professional help to stop or can't recover once they've done too much damage unfortunately 😑🍸🎲💰💊⚰️or can't reprogram their mind away from the addiction.

    • @thelostronin
      @thelostronin Год назад +8

      ​@@zenawarrior7442 I disagree. Once an addict always an addict. Ive been sober for years now but I dont fool myself. I'm still an addict. Once an addict always an addict.

    • @glow1815
      @glow1815 Год назад +1

      ​@@zenawarrior7442 mindset

    • @richardvinsen2385
      @richardvinsen2385 Год назад +4

      @@Mia-tn5th That’s not an addiction. It’s a lack of common sense.

  • @sleeplessinthecarolinas8118
    @sleeplessinthecarolinas8118 Год назад +96

    My heart breaks for Nathan's children. What a tragic story.

    • @hhp2932
      @hhp2932 5 месяцев назад

      They must be deeply ashamed.

  • @Ordinary_Citizen
    @Ordinary_Citizen Год назад +140

    Dr. Grande's ability to tell a story like this with a straight face is a remarkable achievement in itself.

  • @NewAccountWhoDis
    @NewAccountWhoDis Год назад +104

    Relapses are so deadly for addicts. They believe they can handle the same amount they did when they quit. Surviving a relapse is a blessing. A gift.

    • @sciencenotstigma9534
      @sciencenotstigma9534 Год назад +10

      The brain requires the same amount to achieve the desired effect, even though your tolerance has gone down. I think when people are not getting high, they assume they can handle more. It takes longer for the nerve receptors to heal from addiction than it does to lose tolerance. I just read about this in my Psycholopharmacology 679 class. I wish all treatment centers taught clients the specifics, so they understand why you can’t trust your sense of what your limits are, in relapse. I wish everyone knew this…really, they should teach it in high schools. I hope some do, now.

    • @TadiKAT
      @TadiKAT Год назад +3

      Absolute TRUTH😢❤

  • @elceenomoun8115
    @elceenomoun8115 Год назад +17

    Addiction is a lifelong struggle. Today's street drugs are so toxic. Wishing peace to his family. This is tough.

  • @zenawarrior7442
    @zenawarrior7442 Год назад +70

    Too much alcohol, drugs, prostitutes, homeless, seedy people. Strange case with so many terrible judgement calls. Great points again. Thanks Dr G😊💛💛

    • @KnowzsPenge
      @KnowzsPenge Год назад +6

      Looks like he was chasing it all...

    • @scottricci5063
      @scottricci5063 Год назад

      WLM

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 Год назад +3

      @@KnowzsPenge Yes and none brought or ever brings peace or happiness. In his case ☠.

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson Год назад +2

      Hi Zena - Once a person's mind is affected by alcohol, they can seem to lose all inhibitions and sensible thinking! After that the worst of society seems to be just waiting for them. This is not fun but rather tragedy!

  • @Traderjoe
    @Traderjoe Год назад +58

    When you see buildings that look like the buildings shown here, do not go into them. When you see people who look like the people shown here, don’t associate with them. Don’t consume alcohol or take illegal drugs and if you follow these suggestions, you will live longer and healthier.

    • @missbearlockholmes
      @missbearlockholmes Год назад +10

      What you're saying is so true, but I still cackled uncontrollably when I read it.

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge Год назад +3

      Like it's so basic. God!

    • @Ken-fh4jc
      @Ken-fh4jc 9 месяцев назад

      Or just don’t hang out with blacks.

    • @brightballoon
      @brightballoon 7 месяцев назад

      People use drugs for pleasure, and most of all, to attempt continually to eliminate their pain. That's a damn noble cause. So, I think you're misunderstanding addiction. People using drugs aren't looking for trouble. They just want to be well and happy, and healthy.

  • @pwallace5359
    @pwallace5359 Год назад +24

    “I don’t blank with that blank” 😂 My husband and I we up at 2am replaying that part over and over again laughing historically! Thanks for the laughter Dr Grande. It’s been awhile since we got that tickled . My husband said that’s going to his new catch phrase when he doesn’t want to do something.😂 💛

    • @defundhollywood3259
      @defundhollywood3259 Год назад +6

      My favourite part was the "Quote... Unquote." It made it sound like the guy literally said "blank with that blank" 🤣

    • @aquaqt853
      @aquaqt853 9 месяцев назад

      How Dr. Grande managed to say it with such a straight face is what's histerical.

  • @jackiegrice714
    @jackiegrice714 Год назад +9

    You know…what I wondered watching this was how many people are in situations similar to Nathan’s every day. Addiction is a risky business. Thanks for covering this Dr. Grande.

  • @bunnymad5049
    @bunnymad5049 Год назад +49

    Oh, Nathan. So sad. So sad for his wife and loved ones.

    • @holdencawffle626
      @holdencawffle626 Год назад +4

      Ya. He has three kids too

    • @joan-lisa-smith
      @joan-lisa-smith Год назад

      @@holdencawffle626 5 kids

    • @marilynmccall2879
      @marilynmccall2879 Год назад

      ​@@joan-lisa-smith 3 kids

    • @joan-lisa-smith
      @joan-lisa-smith Год назад +2

      @@marilynmccall2879 "Millard had two sons, was a stepfather to two teenagers, and has a 7-year-old daughter."

  • @VerdictView
    @VerdictView Год назад +60

    I am born and raised in BR area. And the places that Nathan went to are very dangerous!! The Greyhound bus station at night?!
    His hotel was in downtown BR, which is relatively safe. But don’t go wondering around at night. It’s just like any other place at night.
    So he started off in decent area and ended up in the worst area possible.

    • @TempleofAmon666
      @TempleofAmon666 Год назад +2

      Same here. I worked at the river center for 11 years. Downtown has a big homeless problem. While most were harmless it does make that area dangerous.

    • @theconceptofmentalwellness355
      @theconceptofmentalwellness355 Год назад +7

      That’s what he was seeking

    • @valfletcher9285
      @valfletcher9285 Год назад +1

      Baton Rouge here too. There are people unfortunately that are all too happy to indulge anyone's sin with no regard to consequences...in this city and all over. Sad.

    • @1chienandalou
      @1chienandalou Год назад

      I reckon many a city has an area like this and this man was there conscious or not, RIP

    • @shaun5047
      @shaun5047 Год назад +1

      Also let’s be real here someone that looks like him looks like an easy meal to any criminal. They probably saw him and immediately figured we’re going milk this guy for every dollar. It’s so crazy that he put himself in such a dangerous situation.

  • @minnietrout814
    @minnietrout814 Год назад +72

    According to news reports, his hotel was on Scenic Highway in Baton Rouge which was a kinda seedy area when I lived there back in the 60’s-70’s. I can’t imagine that the area has improved.
    I’m glad the BRPD has looked further into this case. It smelled to high heaven, both literally and figuratively. I feel really sad for his family. Nathan didn’t fall off the wagon; he took a running leap off of it. Very sad.

    • @wiffley
      @wiffley Год назад +14

      I lived in Baton Rouge from 92 to 97 and Scenic Highway was lined with abandoned buildings. All the places he went were dangerous areas of the city. I mean, this man was slumming in a scary way.

    • @troyverret2862
      @troyverret2862 Год назад +1

      I believe his hotel was in downtown Baton Rouge. The abandoned funeral home where his body was found was around scenic highway

  • @barbarasterner7863
    @barbarasterner7863 Год назад +15

    The calm logic in Dr. Grande´s presentations is something I really appreciate in the era of hysteric outbursts that we live in!

  • @joettekanter7699
    @joettekanter7699 Год назад +6

    Thank you for covering this case Dr. Grande! This happened in my area. I’m the General Manager of a hotel and when he was missing someone brought a flyer to my hotel with his picture on it and I knew it probably wouldn’t end well for him. I feel that he put himself in a bad situation, and I feel bad for his wife and children. 🙏🏻

  • @dl733sak
    @dl733sak Год назад +27

    I believe the technical term for these types of people is, "Hot Mess".

    • @defundhollywood3259
      @defundhollywood3259 Год назад +1

      I'm impressed you were able to comment without referencing skateboarding or Occupy Wall Street, Mr. Pole! Bravo! I take my beanie off to you, sir!

    • @lynnehuff9659
      @lynnehuff9659 Год назад +1

      I shouldn't laugh

    • @johnschlottman619
      @johnschlottman619 Год назад +3

      More technical term:
      L O S E R S

    • @dl733sak
      @dl733sak Год назад +2

      @@defundhollywood3259 it's complicated

    • @jbrown8601
      @jbrown8601 Год назад +1

      💯

  • @bbe3034
    @bbe3034 Год назад +79

    This is so sad for his wife and children. It’s my understanding that part of town is very dangerous. Actually I can’t think of any downtown area I’d like to go. RIP Nathan.

    • @nmc1859
      @nmc1859 Год назад +5

      Yes very sad for his family

    • @donotsupportterroristgroups
      @donotsupportterroristgroups Год назад +5

      I also feel sorry for the wife and children; I'm sure the wife had no idea that her husband lived such a dangerous and detrimental life.
      The outcome of his shenanigans was the best case scenario, he is not the type of man you want touching you or in your home.

    • @KnowzsPenge
      @KnowzsPenge Год назад +7

      He was cheating you clow, clearly didn't love his family that much.

    • @lizzyliz9915
      @lizzyliz9915 Год назад +7

      @@KnowzsPenge Just curious; what is a Clow ?

    • @jhoughjr1
      @jhoughjr1 Год назад

      Um he didnt care that much if he was out fucking street walkers. Play stupid games.

  • @pfranks75
    @pfranks75 Год назад +12

    This is a cautionary tale for people in recovery. I stopped drinking in 1993. I knew I had a problem with alcohol and stopped drinking by going to AA meetings. I witnessed people relapsing and it does seem ironic the longer the amount of time a person goes without drinking the greater the fall.

  • @loiskondo8349
    @loiskondo8349 Год назад +34

    Wow, one bad decision after another! Some people just don’t learn! Thanks for another interesting video Dr. Grande!

  • @jakepervine3341
    @jakepervine3341 Год назад +10

    “I don’t blank with that blank” RELATABLE

  • @Citizen1910
    @Citizen1910 Год назад +13

    He was from my hometown. We thought he was missing and murdered. So sad for the family when the truth was found out.

  • @SandraLily2
    @SandraLily2 Год назад +1

    What a pitiful end and how embarrassing for his family.

  • @sweetpeasouthernhome
    @sweetpeasouthernhome Год назад +24

    As someone that lives in the Baton Rouge area I’m here to tell you he was in the worst parts of town. Crime and drugs have overtaken the city. Police originally reported when his body was found wrapped in plastic and a rug there was “ no foul play suspected “ really?! Later the whole story was reported but my heart breaks for his family.

    • @valfletcher9285
      @valfletcher9285 Год назад +3

      I suspect his wife had to know something. No one can be THAT naive? Still feel bad for her and I feel bad for him - and so many others of every walk in life. I live in Baton Rouge. There are some very unsafe "holes" to fall into in this city. I am sure other places as well. Sad.

    • @heathermunoz6282
      @heathermunoz6282 Год назад

      ​@@valfletcher9285Huh?

    • @alycewich4472
      @alycewich4472 Год назад +1

      @@valfletcher9285 If he was clean and sober for years, she might not have known or believed that he wasn't going to relapse. Addiction is a horrible disease, no matter what the substance.

    • @valfletcher9285
      @valfletcher9285 Год назад

      @@alycewich4472 yes

  • @christinehutchins123
    @christinehutchins123 Год назад +4

    I admire his energy level ,some people just never stop...till they do

  • @louisebelcher1497
    @louisebelcher1497 Год назад +5

    This is extremely sad for his loved ones to deal with. Condolences to them and I hope they find the peace they need to heal.

  • @annalisegiovanni7032
    @annalisegiovanni7032 Год назад +33

    Hey Dr. Grande😍 Happy to be here with you. As always, you're a blessing to insomniacs.

    • @marie5701
      @marie5701 Год назад +2

      Night listener here… can’t even imagine “tuning in” during my intense, complicated day-light hours. I compartmentalize these nocturnal “hearings” and manage to relax even when topics are dark & tragic… 🤔 🙃

  • @sngray11
    @sngray11 Год назад +6

    My heart goes out to his wife and children. Addiction and alcoholism destroys so many people’s lives. 💔

  • @sbrooke210
    @sbrooke210 Год назад +27

    Who calls the police when someone doesn't show up to a 9 AM business meeting? That seems dramatic. What a disastrous mess of a life these druggies lead. And now what a complete embarrassment Nathan has become to his family.

    • @sjohnson65456
      @sjohnson65456 Год назад +7

      I thought the same thing about the client calling the police over a no show to a 9am meeting. Maybe he called the hotel after calling Nathan etc etc before calling police. 🤔

    • @irairod5160
      @irairod5160 Год назад +7

      I imagine the client witnessed, or knew of, the beginning of this man's wild night, and that he/she called his business partners and the hotel before calling the police. I would've done the same. In fact, I have.

    • @r.c.l2569
      @r.c.l2569 Год назад

      He knew he was in from out of town and Baton Rouge is deadly.
      It checks out. Anyone with any kind of sense would’ve done the same.
      Excluding the 17 up votes…lol.

    • @pattycarol5191
      @pattycarol5191 Год назад

      He knew what his city had to offer an out of town man possibly

  • @LEV1ATHYN
    @LEV1ATHYN Год назад +398

    Honestly, it shocks me what a grown man with 3 kids and a business can get up to on a business trip. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

    • @armandorey557
      @armandorey557 Год назад +44

      He lacked spiritual maturity to be able to wisely administer the blessings that fell into his hands.

    • @TheJohnbjunior
      @TheJohnbjunior Год назад +40

      I know! We've all done stupid stuff while drinking, myself including! Thank God not on that level!

    • @coweatsman
      @coweatsman Год назад +21

      The shadow aspect that is part of everyone's personality and blows up in a poorly integrated person.

    • @sarahholland2600
      @sarahholland2600 Год назад +35

      It won't have been a one off. I worked in 80% male, massive investment banks for years. Married men often have a what she doesn't know wont hurt her thing re women & substances. They'd get their Prozac & Viagra delivered to the office.

    • @dianevanderlinden3480
      @dianevanderlinden3480 Год назад +20

      @@sarahholland2600 I worked in an office where the guys joked about "stall 3" . It was the stall in the men's room where the cocaine was kept.

  • @arinerm1331
    @arinerm1331 Год назад +10

    Addiction, whether to alcohol or to other drugs, can lead to tragic outcomes. One of my favorite people in the world explained it this way: "I don't want a drink. I want 10 drinks. Then I want 10 drinks after that."
    It was not a relapse that claimed John, but his passing was hard anyway.

    • @peterliebezeit5636
      @peterliebezeit5636 Год назад +2

      Like they say, 1 drink is too many, and 10 drinks isn’t enough

  • @monicasmessages
    @monicasmessages Год назад +3

    I appreciate you Dr. G. Thank you for addressing the dangers of alcoholism and relapse. 🌵

  • @6thwatergateplumber
    @6thwatergateplumber Год назад +20

    The guy is slobbering drunk so I suppose just about anything could have come out of his lips while he could still use them. It's a sad thing when a husband/father has five adoring kids, and presumably a good wife, a home, and it's not enough in life.

  • @Kimber-bz9fe
    @Kimber-bz9fe Год назад +8

    How terribly sad. He wasn’t thinking & I have no idea how on earth he could have made these decisions to begin with. His poor family, what was only to 72hrs away turned into being him never returning home to his loved ones.

  • @Cyber_Kati_6744
    @Cyber_Kati_6744 Год назад +30

    Bravo Dr. Grande! 👏
    Proud Patreon Supporter Here! ❤
    Tyvm for everything that you do! Have a wonderful night! 🙏

  • @LittleBrownsFan63
    @LittleBrownsFan63 Год назад +3

    Awwww, RIP Nathan... Prayers To His Family And Friends...🙏

  • @farrahfeathers6668
    @farrahfeathers6668 Год назад +5

    Such a sad and preventable case. It’s like one drink or line is too much & multiple drinks & lines are not enough. Here in a small city in NY where I reside our local newspaper has warned of drug dealers adding horse tranquilizers with Fentanyl to the drugs that they are peddling. I can’t imagine the heartbreak that Nathan’s wife and children are having to deal with. Such a cautionary & sad story. Thank you Dr. Grande for breaking down all the blankety blank with such a stoic face.

    • @valfletcher9285
      @valfletcher9285 Год назад +1

      For there is no line long enough. That is the truth.

  • @sauter1
    @sauter1 Год назад +7

    What a story. Reminds me of a classic movie with Griffin Dunne called After Hours, on what can happen when you mix with the 'late night weirdos' crowd.

    • @phillumenistfilms
      @phillumenistfilms Год назад +1

      Amazing film -- one of Scorsese's finest and what he has called his comeback project after dealing with a string of failed films and an addiction to cocaine.

    • @aquaqt853
      @aquaqt853 9 месяцев назад

      Im old. It reminds me of the movie, Looking for Mr. Good Bar staring Diane Keaton and Richard Geere. She was a teacher by day and a nymphomaniac by night, that is, until she met the wrong male prostitute. She should have never blanked with that blank.

  • @gossamer9966
    @gossamer9966 Год назад +8

    As a recovering addict my heart goes out to Nathan and his family. I think Nathan unfortunately was responsible for his death, though the other people there should have called 911 ultimately he was in that situation by his own choices. I am a Nathan. When I slip with alcohol I become hyper social and want to kick the party up as many notches as I can. Hearing his story help to remind me of what WILL happen if I relapse.

    • @fiddleg8r
      @fiddleg8r Год назад

      Best of luck! Lean on God in the tough moments and He will protect you

  • @Mpompadour
    @Mpompadour Год назад +2

    This happened right here in my city of Baton Rouge. Sad and tragic.

  • @jamesoncross7494
    @jamesoncross7494 Год назад +4

    Amazing Nathan lived as long as he did. His wife and kids must be so proud.

  • @shelleysheffield7078
    @shelleysheffield7078 Год назад +3

    I applaud and appreciate the respectful handling of the victim and his alcohol and drug addiction.

  • @mysoutherngarden
    @mysoutherngarden Год назад +5

    For him to behave like this with 5 kids was a horrible decision and it’s affected so many lives over one stupid night. It’s just amazing to think that he could have just gone back to the room and how different things would be. It’s one thing if you’re single and don’t have kids. If you’re a married man with children acting like this it is so selfish.

  • @stevenbrucci
    @stevenbrucci Год назад +4

    Thank you, Dr. Grande. I'm going to have our architect redesign our windows. I hadn't realized that bars were the popular new look.

  • @earlofcumbrae-Ground_Zero
    @earlofcumbrae-Ground_Zero Год назад +8

    You are da 👑 Dr. Grande ! Top Content ! 💖

  • @kisnhug6694
    @kisnhug6694 Год назад +8

    How horrific, his death was. Sad for his wife and remaining family. Well, well, it goes to show you. You never really know what people are capable of, do you.😮 HE didn't care at all. Only his wants and needs. You get what you deserve. ❤

  • @edwardwright2989
    @edwardwright2989 10 месяцев назад +1

    What a legacy to leave behind.

  • @andreasrau2161
    @andreasrau2161 Год назад +12

    Good evening, Dr. Grande!
    I had no idea that Baton Rouge was such a wild and crazy place!
    Thanks for sharing!

    • @timprivett7015
      @timprivett7015 Год назад

      After Katrina, the dregs of New Orleans filtered into BR, Memphis, Houston, etc. Literal human filth. Would make a great sociology study!

    • @vicvega3614
      @vicvega3614 Год назад

      New Orleans is even worse, then you got Mobile Alabama to the east which is also wild

    • @valfletcher9285
      @valfletcher9285 Год назад

      Baton Rouge was once wild and crazy in a fun way. Now it is just wild and eh...crazy...in a really bad way.

  • @ghostfields
    @ghostfields Год назад +15

    Hey dr g. Always appreciate your thoughts and knowledge on things. Much love from NJ

  • @jonnnybfly
    @jonnnybfly Год назад +62

    It appears that Nathan had a closet, infrequent, out-of-town drug/party habit, and subsequently made a series of bad decisions in Baton Rouge, where he got himself into trouble by ingesting drugs of an unknown content, cut with adulterants, and sadly Nathan wound up overdosing and passing away at a local drug dealers' house. This was a terrible tragedy, but one that was totally preventable and unnecessary.

    • @russiaprivjet
      @russiaprivjet Год назад +3

      can’t stop dudes from rockin

    • @privard89
      @privard89 Год назад +11

      Can't be out rockin anymore now that fentanyl is in everything.

    • @scarlettphoenix7024
      @scarlettphoenix7024 Год назад

      @@privard89 It’s what’s cut into the fentanyl that’s killing people who get it on the street.

    • @sciencenotstigma9534
      @sciencenotstigma9534 Год назад +2

      @@privard89 Truer words have never been said. I know that has kept me out of trouble, but I had a strong foundation of recovery before fentanyl was in 95% of everything (according to a Canadian study I don’t remember the citation for 😬). I don’t imagine it’s any better in the U.S. We need people in the recovery field more than ever!

    • @markmike7933
      @markmike7933 Год назад

      He should have gotten a bottle of JD at a store, called an escort service to bring girls to his home and called it a night. A BAD night, but at least not a deadly one

  • @m.f.richardson1602
    @m.f.richardson1602 Год назад +6

    Always interesting.
    I'm glad I like enjoying my own company.
    Thank you
    Peace 💕🇺🇲

  • @kategallagher5610
    @kategallagher5610 Год назад +6

    It is always the first drink. 43 years in June of sobriety. I got sober at 20. Never have had a legal drink.

    • @sbrooke210
      @sbrooke210 Год назад

      63 years ago the drinking age was 18

    • @GenXfrom75
      @GenXfrom75 Год назад

      My dad celebrates 31 years of sobriety on June 12. Glad you're sober and still with us. ❤

  • @TrustMe55
    @TrustMe55 Год назад +11

    Also it’s dangerous to think just because you’re out of town on a business trip you have to have a wild time. God deliver us from evil and give us good common sense, So that we don’t succumb to our sinful nature. 🙏🏻hear our prayer dear Lord amen

  • @PB_324
    @PB_324 Год назад +3

    He's got that deviant " Imma family man who likes to party hearty when away from home" look.

  • @deborahwinter5018
    @deborahwinter5018 Год назад +8

    Nothing good comes from drinking too much!
    That is a fact!

  • @lildominicanbabygurl
    @lildominicanbabygurl Год назад +2

    “I don’t blank with that blank” but the guy smoke’s crack cocaine 😂 Dr.Grande’s delivery is hilarious

  • @TNT011gaming
    @TNT011gaming Год назад +1

    Damn! I live in Baton Rouge and am 3 minutes from the Circle K on Nicholson drive. I’ve been inside of it! Crazy to see a Dr Grande case hit so close to home!

  • @pamelastevens1609
    @pamelastevens1609 Год назад +25

    I have a suggestion - did you hear about that fool who live streamed a guy stabbing the father of a four year old to death at a Starbucks? The dad asked the guy to please not vape in front of his child, and the guy turned around and killed him for it.
    The worst part is the idiot who recorded the event was saying and doing the most cringy, stupid crap for views right in front of the child who just saw her dad murdered.
    I know if you saw it, Dr. Grande, you could do an excellent analysis of this event. I believe it just happened over the weekend. Thanks.

    • @lynnehuff9659
      @lynnehuff9659 Год назад +12

      Welcome to 2023, really unbelieveable behavior. Oh yeah, let's tape this. What is wrong with people?

    • @sleeplessinthecarolinas8118
      @sleeplessinthecarolinas8118 Год назад +3

      I saw that video and read the story. 😢

    • @samjohns3227
      @samjohns3227 Год назад +1

      The person that filmed such an event should be in prison as well as the murderer..

    • @rvrotter1
      @rvrotter1 Год назад

      We’re living ‘Black Mirror’!

  • @jennymayd716
    @jennymayd716 Год назад +2

    Dr Grande, please answer todays question: Why do you not display your RUclips Play button award. 1.28 million subscribers is an astounding achievement. Big fan here. ❤

  • @rejaneoliveira5019
    @rejaneoliveira5019 Год назад +2

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts thoughts on this disturbing case, Dr. Grande.❤

  • @thesongbird2383
    @thesongbird2383 Год назад +4

    Dr. Grande - Great follow up and moral on Nathan's demise. I lost track, and wondered what had happened to him. 👍💜🌵

  • @Speembanks
    @Speembanks Год назад +31

    His poor family. What a selfish man

    • @sciencenotstigma9534
      @sciencenotstigma9534 Год назад +2

      Addiction is a neurological disorder. He was sick, not selfish.

    • @barnagotte7297
      @barnagotte7297 Год назад +1

      Addicts are not more or less selfish than anyone else. How uselessly judgmental.

    • @Cinder_311
      @Cinder_311 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@sciencenotstigma9534he was selfish

  • @lynnzena4508
    @lynnzena4508 Год назад +3

    Thank you, Sir! You’re the best! ❤

  • @claudiabothma
    @claudiabothma Год назад +7

    drugs- yet again! Also, there's a reason why as children we are taught not to talk to strangers. That 'house' is horrifying alone, so grim. Honestly, why do people start taking drugs? It never ends well....

  • @Kyanzes
    @Kyanzes Год назад +8

    Today's question is: can I like this video by Dr. Grande? I certainly can! Thank you for your analysis! - If we use "blank" as a substitute for swearing, how do we ask for something blank? "Give me a blank canvas..."
    "Sir, please don't swear here!"
    "What? I want a blank canvas!"
    "Sir, restrain yourself! Drop the blank!"
    "No, I mean blank-blank canvas... give it to me!"
    "Alrgiht... Nancy call the cops..."

  • @syvadcram
    @syvadcram Год назад +5

    Dumping the body behind a funeral home was very considerate of them though, even if it was defunct

  • @carolroberts8930
    @carolroberts8930 Год назад +2

    Alcohol is a dangerous weapon. I just looked at some statistics, and there are about three times more deaths from alcohol per year than than from shootings. Deaths from drug overdose about same as alcohol. Alcohol and drugs are not considered weapons of mass destruction, but they cause as much if not more collateral damage. Thank you for covering this baffling case, Dr. Grande.

  • @gradyjones9678
    @gradyjones9678 Год назад +3

    "I don't Blank with that Blank ..." Oh Dr. Grande You are funny 🤩

  • @bradlassiter5076
    @bradlassiter5076 Год назад +2

    Great analysis as always Dr Grande. I have a couple of suggestions for future breakdowns.
    #1 The Rasheem Carter case.
    #2 The Letecia Stauch case.
    Thanks. Keep up the good work.

  • @aprilcaricchio4690
    @aprilcaricchio4690 Год назад +2

    Poor man. As a grateful recovering alcoholic I know how common it is for people to relapse while traveling. Poor family.

  • @stylesb959
    @stylesb959 Год назад +3

    I bet he was a good guy sober. Reminds of my old friend Dave

  • @SLIDESPOT
    @SLIDESPOT Год назад

    The pics of him are cracking me up…poor guy, he seemed so happy.

  • @TheScapegoat420
    @TheScapegoat420 Год назад +4

    Ahhh...I had a rough time in Camden and Philly when I was young. Never make that mistake again.

  • @louisquatorze9280
    @louisquatorze9280 Год назад +1

    That house looked very safe.

  • @bcpr9812
    @bcpr9812 Год назад +9

    Dr. Grande, could you please analyze Letecia Stauch, stepmother and alleged murderer of 11-year-old Gannon Stauch? Her trial just began. There's plenty of evidence that shows off Letecia's sparkling personality.

  • @mtae5
    @mtae5 Год назад +2

    The coroner report stated when he was found, he had the biggest smile on his face you've ever seen.

  • @bonnielee316
    @bonnielee316 Год назад +10

    I hear that some people who quit then start up again take their usual amount which is too much for a cleaned body and then overdose.

  • @olikane530
    @olikane530 Год назад +2

    Steel security bars in the dodgy area "not for aesthetic reasons' 😆

  • @lookintothelightcarolanne4699
    @lookintothelightcarolanne4699 Год назад +30

    Wow…this is tragic. It’s Nathan’s own fault he got himself killed. Had he gone back to his hotel room, this story wouldn’t be.

  • @Bambisgf77
    @Bambisgf77 Год назад +1

    I always wondered what came of this story. So sad.

  • @LaniLanilei
    @LaniLanilei Год назад +2

    Good Evening Dr Grande. Hope all is well.
    😊

  • @kelleybutler9203
    @kelleybutler9203 Год назад +7

    It’s so destructive and devastating for the family, and what can make it worse is if a heroin addict is never found but is presumed and obviously deceased. I have a cousin Scott who we all know was at the end of his life, we all tried so hard and many times to get him help but he’d go and even complete some of the programs but would fall right back into heroin use. The entire family, friends and volunteers along with the sheriff’s dept. (it’s a rural area) we would all search because we knew basically where he’d go to hang out. Our grandmother is 97 and in relatively good health and I’d love to be able to find Scott so we could bury him beside his father, that would give our grandmother such comfort knowing he’s buried with family and not just bones n of a laying in some wooded area. That’s one of my nightly prayers 🙏🏼 so both our grandmother and the entire family can rest know he’s resting in peace with other deceased family members. It’s so sad to hear about any of these types of deaths because there’s so many family members left just devastated and wondering if there’s anything else you could have done.

    • @irairod5160
      @irairod5160 Год назад +2

      I hope with all my heart you find him. Sending you love!

  • @jengable4888
    @jengable4888 Год назад +3

    I heard about this a while ago, and figured he got entangled with two or more individuals. I did not know the full situation of the crime. It is a shame that his wife and children had to suffer. If he had just kept his nose clean, so to speak, he would had still been alive. It is sad when some individuals cannot handle their alcohol, and have a SUD.

  • @soph5669
    @soph5669 Год назад +2

    If my husband did this , I wouldn’t need condolences, I would immediately stop loving him therefore making it real easy to forget something so disgusting. There would be nothing to mourn

  • @im__contributing
    @im__contributing Год назад +4

    just a reminder: he’s only speculating what could be happening in a situation like this

  • @joko09010
    @joko09010 Год назад +6

    This sounds like a Quentin Tarantino screenplay. I’ll definitely pay to see the movie when it comes out.

  • @a.evelyn5498
    @a.evelyn5498 Год назад +2

    If Nathan was an addict who was clean before this night in Baton Rouge, once he started drinking he probably thought “f- it, I’ve already messed up so might just go even further,” hence why he then sought out drugs. This is VERY common among relapsing addicts. Instead of realizing they made a bad choice & they ought to stop before making any others & start again from there, they will go all out as the shame is so overwhelming. This is very personal of course, as in a he feelings of shame arise as one knows one has made a huge mistake. However, I also believe that these feelings are worsened by the treatment of those who relapse, especially in programs like Alcoholics or Narcotics Anonymous. Yes, you can return to the program & get a brand new 24 hours chip to show you plan to start over & you’ll get a bunch of hugs, but there will also be a bunch of buzz about you; people talking bad about you behind your back, & it’s very likely a lot of people with more time will “step away” from you so not to cause risk to themselves, which is understandable I guess to a degree but if the person just relapsed once & immediately came back to make good & stay clean then it doesn’t make sense to stop talking to them entirely, yet this happens A LOT. However, when that person who stepped away relapses, they’ll want everyone on their side & no one to “step away” from them. AA & NA are full of drama & judgment. It saves a lot of lives, but I’ve also noticed that - since it is run by people with issues, as god knows you can take the drink / drug away but you can’t take away the personality issues & the ongoing behaviors stemming from trauma - it has a bunch of flaws, especially as once people get some sober / clean time under their belts, they act all high & mighty & these people who get really arrogant usually have a lot of not so fun character traits that they refuse to work on or it’s as if they are ignorant toward these traits. I don’t know. The program is about bettering yourself, not just removing the drugs & alcohol, but most just make it about the drugs & alcohol. Ok now I’ve just gone on a rant about some dislike I have for AA / NA. Ultimately though in society in general we tend to look very poorly upon those who relapse, increasing the shame they already feel internally. To try to decrease these relapse episodes in which a person goes all out instead of realizing their mistake (like a couple drinks) & stopping there, we need to work on decreasing this sense of shame surrounding relapse. We don’t want people afraid to tell someone when they’ve messed up. We want them to feel like they can confide in others & not be judged because then they stop being so hard on themselves while still taking accountability for their errors.

  • @keoniborge2498
    @keoniborge2498 Год назад

    Lol, always love the look of slight disgust on Dr. Grande's face when he starts with "Today's question is... can I analyze..."

  • @unowen9668
    @unowen9668 Год назад +11

    His poor wife.

  • @padussia
    @padussia Год назад +1

    I'm so sorry this happened to Nathan. He didn't deserve this.😢

  • @Flamsterette
    @Flamsterette Год назад +1

    Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande. I hadn't heard of this case, so I'm looking forward to this video.

  • @dissidentfairy4264
    @dissidentfairy4264 Год назад +35

    Imagine being Nathan's current wife and discovering her husband was not only dead but involved with sex workers before died. There must be a lot of conflicting emotions attached to that. For wife #1 it no doubt was confirmation that she had made the right decision and gotten out of her marriage to Nathan when she did. Regarding Derrick, he was either an opportunist or a killer. Regarding Nathan: He was a foolish risk-taker and a loser!

    • @dissidentfairy4264
      @dissidentfairy4264 Год назад +8

      When I say that Derrick was an opportunist or a killer, what I meant by that is we know he was caught using Nathan's credit cards after his death. What we don't know is if Derrick deliberately overdosed Nathan with the intent to rob him or whether it was Nathan who did it to himself.

    • @dissidentfairy4264
      @dissidentfairy4264 Год назад +3

      At this point, I'm thinking that Derrick deliberately overdosed Nathan with the intent to rob him. I say this because Nathan lived many years without managing to overdose himself. I'm not saying there isn't a first time, but, simple math works in this case. 1. This is the first time drug use killed Nathan. 2. Derrick was caught using Nathan's credit cards. 3. Nathan rolled him up in carpet and disposed of his body behind a funeral home no less. If Derrick was innocent why would he dispose of the body? Weren't they partying in an abandoned home? Why not leave the body there and flee? It would have been so much easier. Which makes me feel that Derrick did far more than he needed to do. Dishonest people feel the need to cover-up and often over-compensate for their crimes. The fact that he rolled Nathan up in a carpet and transported him to dispose of his body screams guilt to me. So in conclusion, I suggest that Derrick more than likely based on the facts that we know deliberately injected Nathan with more than enough drugs to kill him for the sole intent of robbing him.

    • @hunterchristian8372
      @hunterchristian8372 Год назад

      How was Nathan a loser? He was a risk taker for sure, but the man had a family, a home, a successful lucrative sounding business... He's doing better than most of us are. He just made a mistake and relapsed.

    • @dissidentfairy4264
      @dissidentfairy4264 Год назад +2

      @@hunterchristian8372 Choosing to go to a prostitute when he had a wife is hardly a mistake. It's a wilful act.

    • @fiddleg8r
      @fiddleg8r Год назад +1

      ​@@hunterchristian8372he was an adulterer. No winner does that.

  • @janiekilkelly
    @janiekilkelly Год назад +1

    Poor man. Compelling story.