WOMEN- WOMEN’S WORST ENEMIES!!
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- Опубликовано: 15 окт 2024
- Women- there are too many women out there who are feeling alone and unsupported! Let’s use our envy and jealousy to understand our needs and therefore, empathize with other women instead of bringing them down! #women #kindness #supportwomen #jealousy #envy
Dr.sujatha ,firstly my heartfelt empathy to you fir what you have undergone in the hands of the so called actresses husband.God !I cannot even imagine this.that lady oh my God !what to say about her.
Secondly i am a victim of jealousy from few of my family members which i did not even know that jealously could be this evil
Thanks doc.please keep posting the topics of human complex psychology.
I think it’s jealousy for sure. I have been and am jealous too but I try not to spew my negativity on others because I am a believer of karma and I don’t want worse karma. I pray to god to remove my feeling of lack.
@@SR-mv2mf maybe you can pray for abundance instead…
What a beautiful soul.
Can relate to this totally, grew up in Chennai and I was lucky to pursue anchoring and MCing on TV channels. Teachers, professors, some friends just spewed hatred and resentment. In the adult life while most women seem to be good friends around me, there are some that resent me for absolutely no reason, no fights or difference of opinion. Can resonate with this so well.
Sadly, so true! 💯
Personal experience - Focussing on yourself, your goals, hobbies and inner peace helps you overcome such situations and outgrow such women.
Dr. Sujatha, I am absolutely shocked at this silence from the film fraternity in response to your video sharing the trauma you underwent at the hands of a tamil film director!! Now I understand what deafening silence means.
Couldn't one soul from the Tamil film industry dare to voice support and call out this couple?
@@ElJay3114 Thank you! Cowardice is rampant, not just in the film industry. These are the people who put the onus on the victim to “prove” the abuse. Thankfully, my goal was to connect with other victims and I am happy with the outcome😊
@@DrSujataV Yes. More power to you. And love.
Dr . Sujata, more power to you for exposing the 70 something power couple, poor you , ppl believed you were so lucky to have such famous celebrities helping you, housing & teaching you . Always was a fan of your Chithi, Mrs. Lakshmi Ramakrishnan , now a well wisher & supporter of you , mam. God bless
You are truly a Courageous and wonderful person...❤
Common you are a strong women ❤ Don’t you ever give up ❤ We understand you and we love you Sister.. God bless you ❤
Very true...
brilliant
It stems from insecurity. There is really no cure to that.
Exactly 😊
Insecurity is created within us by our environment. It can be worked on, particularly with a trusted therapist.
Agreed. Unfortunately, anyone who has thrown jibes at me because of their insecurity (a recent example was someone that did not work for a few months resulting in that person feeling invalidated without ever realizing it) don't ever feel the need. From our end, we can empathize and let it slide without burning ourselves.
Yes, women can be each other’s worst enemies. There is some truth to the saying that “aurat hi aurat ki dushman hai.”
However, I’d like to put forth some other possible angles to consider. There is a saying that “Familiarity breeds contempt”. The more time that we spend with our female friends and relatives (cousins, etc)….the more familiar we become with their flaws and faults and their tendencies which can annoy us …and I feel that is just a part of human nature rather than it being a strictly female phenomenon. For example, I have a close friend (also a relative) who is not a malicious person but she tends to do things that irk me and that reflect a lack of consideration on her part for my time and other things. Whenever I have brought this up, she dismisses my concerns. She has confidently declared to me that she is not a mean or rude person. And I think to myself, “You can indeed by rude by being careless of my time even if you don’t believe yourself to be verbally rude.” This brings me to my next point……None of us is perfect and most of us can be very clueless about things we might be (repeatedly) saying or doing that turn others off to us. When they react negatively or pull away we assume that they are jealous/insecure or that THEY are the problem. Sure, sometimes jealousy is INDEED the reason. But jealousy is not always the reason. I do feel that we tend to conclude that jealousy is the root cause behind another female’s negative behavior toward us and either sunconsciously or consciously this reason makes us feel “good or better” about ourselves that we are so special and “hat ke” that the other female can only dislike is because of jealousy. Not necessarily.
Again, I’m not denying that jealousy can’t be a roor cause. It certainly can. But it’s too simplistic to always blame it on jealousy or insecurity. There is a female coworker on my team and us ko koi bhi pasand nahi karta. I am willing to bet that she has assumed it’s because the rest of us are “jealous” of her and close ties to the boss.But that couldn’y be further from the truth. The truth is that we dislike her and avoid her NOT because we are jealous of her but because she is sneaky and takes advantage of others. She inconveniences others in order to benefit herself.
Teaching is a hard profession. I speak from experience. The average parent has anywhere from 1-4 kids. When we come across a mother that has 5 or MORE children we secretly wonder, “OMG how does she manage?!!” We feel sympathy for the mother that has 5 + kids….but strangely…..society does not have sympathy for the teacher that has 24 or more kids and has to singlehandedly manage them all by herself. Teachers have a lot of pressure on them to produce excellent exam scores and there are many factors that are beyond their control. Many times they don’t receive support from the parents. In India it’s a different story as parents tend to be more supportive and children tend to come from more stable homes. But in the West many children come from broken homes and are being raised by single parents and so the students may not have the best behavior on top of being academically deficient. And it ALL rests upon the teacher’s shoulders to manage the behavior and impart knowledge. The average parents tends to feel fatigued after spending even just 1 hour with just 1-2 kids. So imagine the teacher who has to mind 20 + kids. Children don’t always listen and there are always a few personalities in the classroom that are more “challenging”. When a teacher does “sar khapaayi/phorna” with the 2-3 difficult kids, then she is left with a diminished reserve of patience….even for the kids who rarely bother her. Sometimes it’s just the limitations of human nature or stress and not necessarily a malicious reason at the root of an unpleasant interaction.
Now if it becomes apparent that (through consistent/repeated) negative comments and actions that another female is jealous….then yes….it’s not a pleasant situation to be in. But at the same time they are doing me a HUGE favor by revealing their colors to me because it allows me to be better protect myself. You protect yourself by keeping a distance or cutting them out of your life and by not sharing your goals, plans, worries, or successes with them. You don’t allow them easy access to your life …not even through social media. Unfortunately people display too much of their lives on social media and thereby opem themselves up to negative energies, buri nazar, etc.
I salute You Mam.
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Lol it will not happen among women, i am 50 single mom, living abroad seen diff races, i dont move with indian women
We wish you to have a peaceful , healthy and happy life ma.
வாழ்க வளமுடன்🙏
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Yes, women can be each other’s worst enemies. There is some truth to the saying that “aurat hi aurat ki dushman hai.”
However, I’d like to put forth some other possible angles to consider. There is a saying that “Familiarity breeds contempt”. The more time that we spend with our female friends and relatives (cousins, etc)….the more familiar we become with their flaws and faults and their tendencies which can annoy us …and I feel that is just a part of human nature rather than it being a strictly female phenomenon. For example, I have a close friend (also a relative) who is not a malicious person but she tends to do things that irk me and that reflect a lack of consideration on her part for my time and other things. Whenever I have brought this up, she dismisses my concerns. She has confidently declared to me that she is not a mean or rude person. And I think to myself, “You can indeed by rude by being careless of my time even if you don’t believe yourself to be verbally rude.” This brings me to my next point……None of us is perfect and most of us can be very clueless about things we might be (repeatedly) saying or doing that turn others off to us. When they react negatively or pull away we assume that they are jealous/insecure or that THEY are the problem. Sure, sometimes jealousy is INDEED the reason. But jealousy is not always the reason. I do feel that we tend to conclude that jealousy is the root cause behind another female’s negative behavior toward us and either sunconsciously or consciously this reason makes us feel “good or better” about ourselves that we are so special and “hat ke” that the other female can only dislike is because of jealousy. Not necessarily.
Again, I’m not denying that jealousy can’t be a roor cause. It certainly can. But it’s too simplistic to always blame it on jealousy or insecurity. There is a female coworker on my team and us ko koi bhi pasand nahi karta. I am willing to bet that she has assumed it’s because the rest of us are “jealous” of her and close ties to the boss.But that couldn’y be further from the truth. The truth is that we dislike her and avoid her NOT because we are jealous of her but because she is sneaky and takes advantage of others. She inconveniences others in order to benefit herself.
Teaching is a hard profession. I speak from experience. The average parent has anywhere from 1-4 kids. When we come across a mother that has 5 or MORE children we secretly wonder, “OMG how does she manage?!!” We feel sympathy for the mother that has 5 + kids….but strangely…..society does not have sympathy for the teacher that has 24 or more kids and has to singlehandedly manage them all by herself. Teachers have a lot of pressure on them to produce excellent exam scores and there are many factors that are beyond their control. Many times they don’t receive support from the parents. In India it’s a different story as parents tend to be more supportive and children tend to come from more stable homes. But in the West many children come from broken homes and are being raised by single parents and so the students may not have the best behavior on top of being academically deficient. And it ALL rests upon the teacher’s shoulders to manage the behavior and impart knowledge. The average parents tends to feel fatigued after spending even just 1 hour with just 1-2 kids. So imagine the teacher who has to mind 20 + kids. Children don’t always listen and there are always a few personalities in the classroom that are more “challenging”. When a teacher does “sar khapaayi/phorna” with the 2-3 difficult kids, then she is left with a diminished reserve of patience….even for the kids who rarely bother her. Sometimes it’s just the limitations of human nature or stress and not necessarily a malicious reason at the root of an unpleasant interaction.
Now if it becomes apparent that (through consistent/repeated) negative comments and actions that another female is jealous….then yes….it’s not a pleasant situation to be in. But at the same time they are doing me a HUGE favor by revealing their colors to me because it allows me to be better protect myself. You protect yourself by keeping a distance or cutting them out of your life and by not sharing your goals, plans, worries, or successes with them. You don’t allow them easy access to your life …not even through social media. Unfortunately people display too much of their lives on social media and thereby opem themselves up to negative energies, buri nazar, etc.