ABA is torture and the reason she is struggling with the interview is most likely the bright lights which would be painful. You need to change the environment for the autistic person, not try to change the autistic person for the environment.
Except you can’t always change the environment and the kids must be able to cope! Accommodations are great for any disabilities but they aren’t always available. My child was coddled and dad insisted that a diagnosis would mean medication and so on. I argued but couldn’t win. Now is isolated because they can’t cope with the light and noise etc. I’m teaching them now, as a senior, to my best ability. They are proud of themselves and grateful for the independence they never had. Once I am gone there won’t be much support, and little accommodation at all. I’m physically disabled, and I’m here to tell you that the world is not built for people with disabilities.
@@exquisitecandy2684 I am autistic, I know. But just because there aren’t ramps everywhere, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t push for more ramps. Especially since autism is such a spectrum and most people don’t even know half the symptoms. I have learnt way more about my friends and social media about autism than any textbook, and as someone who appreciates science, that really scares me.
@@gorillarawfare1963 sure we can push, meanwhile I still have to map my trips and use a chair or walker. As a mother, I want my child happy, and to have the ability to be independent after I’m gone. There are a lot of misconceptions about autism. Misinformation is rampant. Yes scary.
Well done SpotLight. This young woman’s book is week worth the read and I encourage everyone to read it To all parents of kids with autism please don’t give up. This method really does work and the earlier you start the better the results.
So you dig up an old story of Carly Fleishmann from the vault and share it as an inspirational story. Seems very tone deaf considering the horrific story of what happened to her. Carly Fleishmann was a prominent autistic self advocate who was very active on social media through mostly text posts, however in 2019 she made a post on Facebook alleging that her father's boyfriend had SA'd her. A mere 4 days later, the account claiming to be a moderator, stated "her account had been hacked and told everyone to disregard the previous allegations. That was the last time Carly was ever heard from in public again. She hasn't made a post or be able to speak up since then. Almost as if she was silenced for daring to speak out about a horrific crime that had been committed against her.
My son is on the spectrum too - and he also uses quotes from movies and shows he watches. He got upset at an older child not long ago and said to him “what are you looking at tick boy” 😂 -a quote from Garfield 😂 It was a killer of a moment.
I read quite a few commands about how ABA is like training a dog and that a child isn't a dog. I would like to comment on that. Why do we reward dogs with treats? Because to them it is a valuable reward. Neurotypical children are usually very rewarded by giving them verbal praise, a stroke, a cuddle...to children on the spectrum, that is not a reward but a punishment. Touching them when they aren't initiating it, can be sensory overload, same with verbal praise, it is not a very high value reward. ABA starts with tiny food rewards until the therapists find out what are high value rewards to that child and then they will use those as well. Aren't children rewarded with putting a sticker on a chart when they havent wet their pants an entire day when they are being potty trained? Aren't children receiving little presents when they did good in school? Don't they get report cards? Diplomas? And you? Do you not receive a pay-check after you did your job? Life is based on receiving rewards for doing good. In ABA it is simply cut up in many more micro jobs and rewards than with neurotypical children because they perseve the world around them as microsegments and microtasks instead of 1 big task.
My youngest niece had to have physical therapy as a young child. One day we were at the park and she made a big step up all by herself I was so proud and told her that. The other parents at the park were not happy about my enthusiasm it didn't help that she was really tall for her age. You don't know what each kid is going through. I wish people would mind there own business if the child isn't being hurt what does it matter to you how they are praised. Your praising them for good behavior. Not paying them to stop bad behavior like a lot of people do these days.
@@gorillarawfare1963early ABA used to be oriented on punishing bad behaviour. These days it is about rewarding every tiny little good behavior. If you think this is torture, you do not have a child with a more severe case of autism. They are hurt, they are in pain. Leaving them in that position and not trying to help them to learn how to navigate this overwhelmingly confusing world, now that would be torture.
@@filipeflower because I have an autistic child, why do you ask? Or were you going to argue that my opinion is irrelevant or I don’t have a right to question/comment? If nobody wants to answer, that is also their right.
It is now trendy to claim one is on the Autism spectrum, amongst teens & young adults, as well as having tics. It is frustrating that this is not being challenged, that they feel the need to have some identity dx, and that it removes resources from those who truly do have autism as it muddies the water on what people understand Autism to be.
Im autistic and found it extremely offensive that they say we can be taught to be the level of trained dogs. Only thing good about this video is the love the kids get from their parents. They're lucky, mine dont care about me and didnt even tell me the word autism until in my 20s in the middle of an argument to insult me.
These kids will definitely be happy, but maybe not following society's traditional recipe of getting married and having kids. Happiness can fortunately be felt in a myriad of different ways and lifestyles. As long as the parents can understand that and celebrate the tiniest things with their kids the more peace and contentment they will feel.
@@gorillarawfare1963 As somebody who has worked extensively with individuals from toddlers to the elderly with a wide range of developmental disabilities, there is absolutely a potential for them to get married and have families. Just because somebody is diagnosed with a disability doesn't mean that they can't have an life that falls into societal norms and traditions. I have personally worked with many adults with developmental disabilities who were/are married and have kids and absolutely thrive in their lives. Also as a mother of a child who is Autistic, it is a very normal thing to dream of what your child will do or be when they grow up and potentially have a family they create. Saying that you hope your child will be able to have a family and get married shouldn't be seen as a bad thing just because of a disability. Watching your child thrive in life and watch every milestone and goal they reach is an amazing thing and should be celebrated.
@@cheyennes7681I somehow have a hard time believing that an autistic person can make a great parent as they more often than not struggle with their emotional intelligence.
We dislike ABA simply because of the reward system. Our Learners are not rewarded in a concrete way, but with praise and most importantly with self satisfaction. We also don't believe in "normal" being the goal. Labels are destructive and serve no purpose. So each of our children are helped to be the best that they can be, very different, very special and yes, extremely gifted. We agree that repetition is needed,but we are teacher intensive, so lots of varied activities are offered in between to break up boring repetition and individual interests and skills are promoted. We've brought joy and a sense of peace to the children and their families, that is our goal. Acceptance is paramount, and the children are very gracious in accepting our help!
thats an unfair assumption. legit the jobs ration was easier back than to put people to work. in factories, you wouldn't even notice someone with Autism unless someone pointed it out or read a medical book. SImple tasks simple people.. also explain MINI me from Austin powers than. he was bought up in an Amish community from birth, they dont believe in medical science. why was he small?
This isn’t really a break through but I understand why we need to keep this issue at the top. We need to develop the science to help people like my son live with autism and succeed. 🧩 Keep up the good work!
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As a mum of an autistic son who is 9 now this program touched every emotional cord in me. Thank you so much.
ABA is torture and the reason she is struggling with the interview is most likely the bright lights which would be painful. You need to change the environment for the autistic person, not try to change the autistic person for the environment.
Except you can’t always change the environment and the kids must be able to cope! Accommodations are great for any disabilities but they aren’t always available.
My child was coddled and dad insisted that a diagnosis would mean medication and so on. I argued but couldn’t win. Now is isolated because they can’t cope with the light and noise etc.
I’m teaching them now, as a senior, to my best ability. They are proud of themselves and grateful for the independence they never had. Once I am gone there won’t be much support, and little accommodation at all. I’m physically disabled, and I’m here to tell you that the world is not built for people with disabilities.
@@exquisitecandy2684 I am autistic, I know. But just because there aren’t ramps everywhere, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t push for more ramps. Especially since autism is such a spectrum and most people don’t even know half the symptoms. I have learnt way more about my friends and social media about autism than any textbook, and as someone who appreciates science, that really scares me.
@@gorillarawfare1963 sure we can push, meanwhile I still have to map my trips and use a chair or walker. As a mother, I want my child happy, and to have the ability to be independent after I’m gone.
There are a lot of misconceptions about autism. Misinformation is rampant. Yes scary.
@@exquisitecandy2684 I get what you are saying, but ABA is like telling you to just use your chair to go up stairs.
Well done SpotLight. This young woman’s book is week worth the read and I encourage everyone to read it To all parents of kids with autism please don’t give up. This method really does work and the earlier you start the better the results.
So you dig up an old story of Carly Fleishmann from the vault and share it as an inspirational story. Seems very tone deaf considering the horrific story of what happened to her.
Carly Fleishmann was a prominent autistic self advocate who was very active on social media through mostly text posts, however in 2019 she made a post on Facebook alleging that her father's boyfriend had SA'd her. A mere 4 days later, the account claiming to be a moderator, stated "her account had been hacked and told everyone to disregard the previous allegations. That was the last time Carly was ever heard from in public again. She hasn't made a post or be able to speak up since then. Almost as if she was silenced for daring to speak out about a horrific crime that had been committed against her.
Wow that's crazy. I really hope that gets investigated
My son is on the spectrum too - and he also uses quotes from movies and shows he watches.
He got upset at an older child not long ago and said to him “what are you looking at tick boy” 😂 -a quote from Garfield 😂
It was a killer of a moment.
Using movie dialogue is called “scripting”, and my ASD son did it, too.
I am autistic and maybe I missed something. But where is this groundbreaking treatment?
We're trained dogs remember. The treatment is the treats ....
It’s breaking tasks down into micro tasks and repetitively doing them until the entire task is mastered independently.
Agreed, I am autistic too and so confused what is groundbreaking about this!
Eye am artistic and the treatment is 2 tie shoe and not be spastik
I mean, I like being able to tie my shoes. Just saying...
My son’s 14 and he’s autistic..he is a very intelligent young man who wants to become an archaeologist, a marine biologist or an architect someday
I'm the same age as your son and I also have Autism! It's quite funny because I also would like to be either of those things! xd
they have their own languages. you just have to learn them at their level. they have so much to teach you if you are only willign to learn
This really warmed my heart ❤❤❤❤
I read quite a few commands about how ABA is like training a dog and that a child isn't a dog.
I would like to comment on that.
Why do we reward dogs with treats? Because to them it is a valuable reward.
Neurotypical children are usually very rewarded by giving them verbal praise, a stroke, a cuddle...to children on the spectrum, that is not a reward but a punishment. Touching them when they aren't initiating it, can be sensory overload, same with verbal praise, it is not a very high value reward.
ABA starts with tiny food rewards until the therapists find out what are high value rewards to that child and then they will use those as well.
Aren't children rewarded with putting a sticker on a chart when they havent wet their pants an entire day when they are being potty trained? Aren't children receiving little presents when they did good in school?
Don't they get report cards?
Diplomas?
And you? Do you not receive a pay-check after you did your job?
Life is based on receiving rewards for doing good.
In ABA it is simply cut up in many more micro jobs and rewards than with neurotypical children because they perseve the world around them as microsegments and microtasks instead of 1 big task.
My youngest niece had to have physical therapy as a young child. One day we were at the park and she made a big step up all by herself I was so proud and told her that. The other parents at the park were not happy about my enthusiasm it didn't help that she was really tall for her age. You don't know what each kid is going through. I wish people would mind there own business if the child isn't being hurt what does it matter to you how they are praised. Your praising them for good behavior. Not paying them to stop bad behavior like a lot of people do these days.
@ChallieWallie - very well said!
And at least it seems to work - and that‘s the point.
@@IZaubermausI 'if children don't learn the way we teach, we need to teach the way they learn'.
This is wonderful. I can't see how anyone could find issue with this. ❤
Besides ABA is torture.
@@gorillarawfare1963have you experienced it yourself?
@@gorillarawfare1963early ABA used to be oriented on punishing bad behaviour.
These days it is about rewarding every tiny little good behavior.
If you think this is torture, you do not have a child with a more severe case of autism.
They are hurt, they are in pain. Leaving them in that position and not trying to help them to learn how to navigate this overwhelmingly confusing world, now that would be torture.
@@exquisitecandy2684 Why does that matter to you?
@@filipeflower because I have an autistic child, why do you ask?
Or were you going to argue that my opinion is irrelevant or I don’t have a right to question/comment? If nobody wants to answer, that is also their right.
What’s the new treatment?
I had the same question.
Tasks broken down into tiny elements and repeated until the task can be mastered independently.
It is now trendy to claim one is on the Autism spectrum, amongst teens & young adults, as well as having tics. It is frustrating that this is not being challenged, that they feel the need to have some identity dx, and that it removes resources from those who truly do have autism as it muddies the water on what people understand Autism to be.
Im autistic and found it extremely offensive that they say we can be taught to be the level of trained dogs. Only thing good about this video is the love the kids get from their parents. They're lucky, mine dont care about me and didnt even tell me the word autism until in my 20s in the middle of an argument to insult me.
These kids will definitely be happy, but maybe not following society's traditional recipe of getting married and having kids. Happiness can fortunately be felt in a myriad of different ways and lifestyles. As long as the parents can understand that and celebrate the tiniest things with their kids the more peace and contentment they will feel.
We’re not meant to be alone, and a parent saying they want their child to have a family is normal.
@@Onelightoftheworldthat is neurotypical thinking
@@gorillarawfare1963 As somebody who has worked extensively with individuals from toddlers to the elderly with a wide range of developmental disabilities, there is absolutely a potential for them to get married and have families. Just because somebody is diagnosed with a disability doesn't mean that they can't have an life that falls into societal norms and traditions. I have personally worked with many adults with developmental disabilities who were/are married and have kids and absolutely thrive in their lives. Also as a mother of a child who is Autistic, it is a very normal thing to dream of what your child will do or be when they grow up and potentially have a family they create. Saying that you hope your child will be able to have a family and get married shouldn't be seen as a bad thing just because of a disability. Watching your child thrive in life and watch every milestone and goal they reach is an amazing thing and should be celebrated.
A lot of autistic people do get married. They also tend to make great parents!
@@cheyennes7681I somehow have a hard time believing that an autistic person can make a great parent as they more often than not struggle with their emotional intelligence.
Reminds me of David and Marsha from the Travellers show
Excellent...thank you 💜
Noise cancelling headphones will help.
What do you mean by that comment 🤔
Huh?
We dislike ABA simply because of the reward system. Our Learners are not rewarded in a concrete way, but with praise and most importantly with self satisfaction.
We also don't believe in "normal" being the goal. Labels are destructive and serve no purpose. So each of our children are helped to be the best that they can be, very different, very special and yes, extremely gifted.
We agree that repetition is needed,but we are teacher intensive, so lots of varied activities are offered in between to break up boring repetition and individual interests and skills are promoted. We've brought joy and a sense of peace to the children and their families, that is our goal. Acceptance is paramount, and the children are very gracious in accepting our help!
Raymond in Rain Man ironically didn’t have Autism. It’s another condition.
Would advise getting Vibes. Helped my son.
I love Autism.
It is super special 🥰
Are you ok? As someone on the spectrum that is a strange comment, it isn’t super special it is something that people have to live with every day.
@@luvghd yeah 100% I’m ok.
Why wouldn’t I love it.
My son is Autistic & I love what makes him special 🥰
@@luvghd what type of a mum would I be if I didn’t…
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Stop trying to change people! This is horrible.
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1970’s one in 50 thousand got this now one in 35 stop poking your children
thats an unfair assumption. legit the jobs ration was easier back than to put people to work. in factories, you wouldn't even notice someone with Autism unless someone pointed it out or read a medical book. SImple tasks simple people.. also explain MINI me from Austin powers than. he was bought up in an Amish community from birth, they dont believe in medical science. why was he small?
Yep!
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This isn’t really a break through but I understand why we need to keep this issue at the top. We need to develop the science to help people like my son live with autism and succeed. 🧩 Keep up the good work!