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sister!!!! ,when I watch your videos depression disappears ,he laughs he feels loved :)!!!!!!,,I feel like there is a woman who loves my )!!!madness,,,writes singiel😂😂😂your brother Poland,,,
@@antonycepernic474 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
Here's the list: 1. Don't try to fix all her problems. 2. Don't do all the persuing. 3. Don't give her wife privileges before she is your wife. 4. Dont become the person to give her self esteem. 5. Don't let her use you as her scratching post.
Untrustworthy She cried needing cratching petting all the time ! And when in a LDL that's was ,,,, scary Plus putting 2 and 2 together she mentioned early on that I could be her Thursday guy !! Wow I wished I seen all that coming
Hi coach Melannie!!! I would add to the list: Be always and only the shoulder where she can cry. I mean, the kind of girl that is never available to talk but she want you to be avaliable when she is sad, and want you to give her a boost of self-steem or cheer her up; and after she is fine she will be distant and "very busy" to text you. ---------- There is something magical when you walk with a girl under a UMBRELLA in a rainy and chilly day.
You are exactly right! If she always expects you to be her shoulder to cry on and never supports you it's a clear sign of a toxic situation. Thanks for bringing that up and for your support! God bless!
I hear that! I was just recently back into dating after 2 years. I thought it was going to be plentiful, whereas I actually met a very peaceful woman. And definitely taking my time this time around, but it’s so good as opposed to the craziness I dealt with that I can relate with you on.
Coach Melannie, don’t worry about not being popular with a certain element of our society. There are thousands of good, decent men in the world who listen to you and would stand up and applaud you for your moral stand on important topics and for having the courage to speak the truth.
UMBRELLA. I like that you mentioned not to fix all of her problems for her, and not to tolerate any mean behavior from her. I hope you have fully recovered from being sick. I know this time of year can bring on common cold and such. The natural home remedies I use are local "real" honey with cinnamon and sassafras tea. Thank you for another fine video. Have a great weekend and a safe week ahead. May God richly bless you. 🙏
Thank you for your kind words! I am feeling better now. Now that you mention it, my mom used to give me raw honey all the time when I had a cold as a kid. I'll have to start using it again! Thank you for your support and I hope you had a good Christmas! And here's to a happy New Year! 🙌 God bless 🙏🙏
I thought you would say opera instead of umbrella. My wife was trained in opera. She could make just about anything sound like opera. I was blessed with 46 years to be with the most spiritual and loving woman that I've ever met. Seeing her breathe her last breath was the hardest thing I ever saw.
Oh my goodness! I had to pause to share this with you. When you went to #2 about not doing all the pursuing, I remembered The Song of Solomon. While the beloved did seek her, she got all feminist on him and he departed, making her get up and go about the city, enjoying some perishing for her lack of knowledge. Fascinating!
Melannie, I never want to change a woman. We can tell together about her or my problems, where we can solve them at the best, but to solve this have to do each person her/himself.
Umbrella!! 😉 Yes I watched until the end of the video and honestly I had no idea you were sick. You sounded great, “my amazing friend”, and I’m happy you’re on the mend. 😊 All that sounded like excellent advice, and as always, thank you for all you do to help Christian men. 🙏🏻❤️
When it comes to intimacy, I 100% agree with you. Intimacy, these days, seems to be taken too lightly. Attending to each other’s wants, needs and desires should take center stage with a good healthy dose of pillow talk thrown in to solidify a lasting relationship.
It doesn't matter what RUclips says, it is great to see somebody with morals these especially a lovely lady like yourself in today's society the world is crazy I wish more people had morals. Thank you I hope to see more of your videos.
That awesome Melanie, that you stand with your faith and not the media. I have been single for years as a result of a poor relationship. Trusting that the other person was on the same page. But, it turned out that they were being selfish and had ulterior motives. Wow!! Was I blindsided. My ex-wife has been married once before me to an alcoholic and twice after me. Why is it easier for women to get hitched than it is for a man. I have worked hard for what I have and am not willing to give it up again for someone who doesn't doesn't know how to have a loving committed relationship. I love to sing, too. Hope you get to feeling better.
I have been learning this for a long time but in my male mind it is hard to retain. I need constant reminders. Old habit die hard. I have a certain mental block that makes some truths very hard to accept.
Hi Melannie, nice to here from you! As a man with experience. Your advice is well documented. 😊 What better understanding than from the actual source. Thank you for what I would call lol, " Heads up " 👍 (SMILE)
I have been in 4 relationships in my life and I have never experienced a woman who can support me emotionally - it's always been a one way street & I cant do this anymore. I need a lady with some emotional strength & resilience.
Hello dear beautiful Lady, Thanks a lot for sharing your knowledge and thoughts with us, Hope you're on the mend and are getting better🙏🌹❤️. Have an amazing day. Cheers 🎉
Thank you for this video in particular; like a protective umbrella before I dust myself off, head out there, and choose my next Specific Person to pursue (hopefully correctly this time).
t@@yeahyeahwowman8099 Dont know if they can actually love anything that didnt pop out of their golden bottom, and dont count on them liking you much or forever, theyre just dying to find or invent some reason to leave you broken with all your valuables with you enslaved to them by the very state you may have sworn to serve some time back. 99 out of 100 are simply narcissists.(See, ladies, I didnt say all of you!)
Truth and Biblical principles are not popular. But, we need to stick to them, regardless of popularity. I'm proud of you, for having the courage to do that.
You're awesome Melanie for all that great advice. 👍 Wow! I didn't know you could sing and classically trained at that!🎙 Im just a self taught rock guitarist. I do it as a hobby now. 🎸 Great voice you have, In both fields! Take care! 😊
Ive been watching alot of your videos. I hope I can find a amazing Woman like you one day, that would be a blessing. Thanks for the Coaching. I know it will happen one day, once i become closer to god and show more love to my fellow humans. Im working on it
Melannie you are so correct about the confusion (lack of reading and comprehension of the Bible). I've met or come across many "church girls" who "played married" with the hopes they would win over the hunks who (in the end never did join them for more than one service at say Christmas) (they only wanted a few "dates" and were not believing) instead of waiting for the men sharing the pews with them.
I appreciate your message, and I pray to God for such a woman. In his time. I will remain patient for such a blessing, I long for a wife who will have my children. And may God bless me to have financial abundance to provide for my future family.
70 years old and single and just don't mess with it anymore. I shower my cousin and her daughter with my love and just don't need or want to wade the agendas of most women.
Hi Melannie, 1st time on your channel and pretty impressed, I like it! I'm from South Africa and met a gorgeous lady from Philippines on a Christian site who is kind, loving and everything opposite to your pointers. What I've longed for and prayed for, can it be true?
Relationship Red Flags: Things You Should Never Do for a Woman **Summary:** This video explores red flags in relationships, highlighting actions men should avoid when dealing with women. Key points include: 1. **Problem Fixing:** Men should not feel obligated to fix all of a woman's problems, especially if it involves taking on too much responsibility or if she plays the victim. 2. **Unilateral Pursuing:** In a healthy relationship, both parties should contribute to pursuing each other. Men should avoid doing all the pursuing, as it signals an imbalance. 3. **Pre-Marital Intimacy:** Giving a woman "wife privileges" before marriage is cautioned against, as intimacy should be earned through the highest form of commitment-marriage. 4. **Self-Esteem Dependency:** Men should not become the sole source of a woman's self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem should be cultivated individually. 5. **Avoiding Abuse:** Men should never tolerate being used as a "scratching post," enduring unkind treatment or criticism. Respectful, loving behavior is essential. **Conclusion:** The video underscores the importance of recognizing and avoiding toxic relationship dynamics. Men are encouraged to seek relationships with supportive, loving women and not compromise their self-respect. For further guidance, the audience is invited to explore the free master class for strategies and insights.
So you might want to check out the Happy Wife School, intimacy seems to reduce or disappear after marriage and it's usually the woman that cuts it off. Why?
Right on, Coach! After listening to you, the short answer is I decided that I did over pursue. Wasn't 50/50. 95% of anything between us went FROM ME to her. I was just SO head over heels with finding her after 40 some years & how promising it looked for us to restart. And she did try to make me her scratching post, but I slammed her right back. Once I found out what she'd been up to, and her health/mental health issues, our something became the NOTHING that it is today. She got what she paid for.
The problem with solving problems for women is that when women tell us their problems - we assume she wants help with them. Men don't ask each other for help with problems unless they want advice. Therefore the male default is that they believe women want advice when they tell us their problems. Women need to know this when they start getting advice when they only wanted to vent. If a woman starts getting advice she didn't want when she wants to vent - she probably doesn't know how hard-wired men are to rescue those in distress. So when she tells us our problems we'll be more inclined to jump to the default conclusion unless otherwise educated. If you want your male friend or partner to listen when you need to vent you need to let your male partner a number of times before they understand that you don't always need us to solve problems. In fact if your man doesn't make this mistake then you're probably communicating extremely well - either that or the guy's mother actually taught this to him. There's no way that it's instinctive in men to know that you need to vent. We do the opposite when we solve our problems. We go into a cave & don't come out until we've solved our problem. When we come out of our cave we don't need to talk about anything because we got the solution we are looking for. If women don't learn that about men they'll have trouble stopping their man from making blunders he has no idea he's making.
I don't think she was saying its a turn off I am pretty sure she meant if you are solving all her problems for her as she plays the victim card she is toxic because she is just using you
I definitely feel this problem solving thing. It stressed me out trying to fix things that wasn't my problem just because I cared for the woman I was with and I couldn't help think she's venting all this to me because she wants some help or guidance. She was always down and I'd try to bring her back up which drained my energy. Eventually I had to say I'm sorry I can't do this anymore. she was a lovely girl but yeah...
That's from the point of view of men,from the female point of view,women think that talking about their problems will solve everything so when men give them advices,they hate it because advice needs effort and they don't want to make the effort.
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Umbrella
Please help me,Melannie
I don't know what love is!😥😢😭
sister!!!! ,when I watch your videos depression disappears ,he laughs he feels loved :)!!!!!!,,I feel like there is a woman who loves my )!!!madness,,,writes singiel😂😂😂your brother Poland,,,
@@antonycepernic474 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
You should put graphics on the screen to show what number you are on
Here's the list:
1. Don't try to fix all her problems.
2. Don't do all the persuing.
3. Don't give her wife privileges before she is your wife.
4. Dont become the person to give her self esteem.
5. Don't let her use you as her scratching post.
_pursuing_
Thanks
Shorten the list save some time and your sanity
1) DON’T GET INVOLVED WITH ONE!
The same can be said about some men. Seems like there are plenty of scorn women-haters here :D
Untrustworthy
She cried needing cratching petting all the time !
And when in a LDL that's was ,,,, scary
Plus putting 2 and 2 together she mentioned early on that I could be her Thursday guy !! Wow I wished I seen all that coming
Hi coach Melannie!!!
I would add to the list:
Be always and only the shoulder where she can cry.
I mean, the kind of girl that is never available to talk but she want you to be avaliable when she is sad, and want you to give her a boost of self-steem or cheer her up; and after she is fine she will be distant and "very busy" to text you.
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There is something magical when you walk with a girl under a UMBRELLA in a rainy and chilly day.
You are exactly right! If she always expects you to be her shoulder to cry on and never supports you it's a clear sign of a toxic situation. Thanks for bringing that up and for your support! God bless!
I checked out on women. Best thing ever. Peace of mind and no drama. No courts involved. No child custody nonsense.
Peace
The best lifestyle choice is to stay single.
The second best lifestyle choice is to find a good traditional woman and never marry her.
Why are you then watching this video plus commenting here ?
Seems like you don't know that not all women are like that :D
I hear that! I was just recently back into dating after 2 years. I thought it was going to be plentiful, whereas I actually met a very peaceful woman. And definitely taking my time this time around, but it’s so good as opposed to the craziness I dealt with that I can relate with you on.
Never try to please a woman, impossible. They will concentrate on the one thing you didn't do
I'm not happy. Clearly it's your fault.
Haha, grow up :D
Yea whats up with that
Coach Melannie, don’t worry about not being popular with a certain element of our society. There are thousands of good, decent men in the world who listen to you and would stand up and applaud you for your moral stand on important topics and for having the courage to speak the truth.
Very true...........👍
I agree. I'm a Buddhist - but Melanie is relevant to me too because we highly value moral behavior - just like my Christian friends & family. 😊
UMBRELLA. I like that you mentioned not to fix all of her problems for her, and not to tolerate any mean behavior from her. I hope you have fully recovered from being sick. I know this time of year can bring on common cold and such. The natural home remedies I use are local "real" honey with cinnamon and sassafras tea. Thank you for another fine video. Have a great weekend and a safe week ahead. May God richly bless you. 🙏
Orange juice keeps my throat healthy in "cold" seasons. 5 swallows every morning. Love you Melanie. Thanks for every video ❤
Thank you for your kind words! I am feeling better now. Now that you mention it, my mom used to give me raw honey all the time when I had a cold as a kid. I'll have to start using it again! Thank you for your support and I hope you had a good Christmas! And here's to a happy New Year! 🙌 God bless 🙏🙏
@CoachMelannie I like women that look like Melanie.
I thought you would say opera instead of umbrella. My wife was trained in opera. She could make just about anything sound like opera. I was blessed with 46 years to be with the most spiritual and loving woman that I've ever met. Seeing her breathe her last breath was the hardest thing I ever saw.
My condolences to you Sir, she sounds like a true gem of a human being, and yes you are blessed to have known her. I pray all the very best for you.
😢….same
Oh my goodness! I had to pause to share this with you. When you went to #2 about not doing all the pursuing, I remembered The Song of Solomon. While the beloved did seek her, she got all feminist on him and he departed, making her get up and go about the city, enjoying some perishing for her lack of knowledge. Fascinating!
You are spot on. Thanks for sharing!
I❤ your openness! Please keep sharing from your heart! I am servant of the kingdom and I am a musician from the Juilliard school too.
Melannie, I never want to change a woman. We can tell together about her or my problems, where we can solve them at the best, but to solve this have to do each person her/himself.
Umbrella!! 😉 Yes I watched until the end of the video and honestly I had no idea you were sick. You sounded great, “my amazing friend”, and I’m happy you’re on the mend. 😊
All that sounded like excellent advice, and as always, thank you for all you do to help Christian men. 🙏🏻❤️
Umbrella....
You have a beautiful voice.
God bless you.
When it comes to intimacy, I 100% agree with you. Intimacy, these days, seems to be taken too lightly. Attending to each other’s wants, needs and desires should take center stage with a good healthy dose of pillow talk thrown in to solidify a lasting relationship.
It doesn't matter what RUclips says, it is great to see somebody with morals these especially a lovely lady like yourself in today's society the world is crazy I wish more people had morals. Thank you I hope to see more of your videos.
That awesome Melanie, that you stand with your faith and not the media. I have been single for years as a result of a poor relationship. Trusting that the other person was on the same page. But, it turned out that they were being selfish and had ulterior motives. Wow!! Was I blindsided. My ex-wife has been married once before me to an alcoholic and twice after me. Why is it easier for women to get hitched than it is for a man. I have worked hard for what I have and am not willing to give it up again for someone who doesn't doesn't know how to have a loving committed relationship. I love to sing, too. Hope you get to feeling better.
I have been learning this for a long time but in my male mind it is hard to retain. I need constant reminders. Old habit die hard. I have a certain mental block that makes some truths very hard to accept.
I like what you are saying and think you are right on about marriage and intimacy.
Melamine you are so fun to listen to. Learn some good things from you. Thank you for all your videos😊 Keep it coming.
Were you too needy.. and not a masculine leader??
I love your voice. It's so refreshing.
Thank you for all you do, I'm learning a lot that I really didn't know! 😊
Hey....I could feel your energy when I first time open your video.
Super informative
God bless you
Hi Melannie, nice to here from you! As a man with experience. Your advice is well documented. 😊 What better understanding than from the actual source. Thank you for what I would call lol, " Heads up " 👍 (SMILE)
First time watching.. .I love your advice ❤ ... I can see a different perspective of what I was getting from the society
It took me a minute to catch what you meant. Fixing her problems actually meant cleaning up her messes for her. Got it!
Happy Christmas and a happy new year, thanks for your advice,
You have one of the most beautiful smiles I've ever seen. Kind regards William ❤
I have been in 4 relationships in my life and I have never experienced a woman who can support me emotionally - it's always been a one way street & I cant do this anymore. I need a lady with some emotional strength & resilience.
Hello dear beautiful Lady, Thanks a lot for sharing your knowledge and thoughts with us, Hope you're on the mend and are getting better🙏🌹❤️. Have an amazing day. Cheers 🎉
Thanks!
You bet! Thank YOU!
Thanks for sharing your advice, I've been sick lately as well and hopefully I recover before Christmas
I love the outtakes they are so great thanks for all the advice.
Thank you Melannie and get well.
Speedy Recovery, Coach Melannie! Thank you for the great advice. Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, and all that jazz! You are beautiful! Take care ❤
Coach Melanie you got your hair cut and done you look beautiful and amazing umbrella
Thank you for this video in particular; like a protective umbrella before I dust myself off, head out there, and choose my next Specific Person to pursue (hopefully correctly this time).
Thanks for this! I’ve been doing this all wrong! Thanks again!
Thank You Melannie for Never do these list
New subscriber after one and 1/2 videos. Thank you. ❤
I agree with you 100% Keep up the great work!
Gave my Wife all the love she could handle. She literally walks on our marriage because I asked my Wife for intimacy
Then she’s revealed the truth : you’re worth more and she’s not good enough- simple .
@@serenityinside1 that’s a hard one to swallow.
Ask her "Who is he?" Then hand her the papers after she stutters (She will stutter).
Women can never love you, only like you. You are always going to be in a constant state of like with her.
t@@yeahyeahwowman8099 Dont know if they can actually love anything that didnt pop out of their golden bottom, and dont count on them liking you much or forever, theyre just dying to find or invent some reason to leave you broken with all your valuables with you enslaved to them by the very state you may have sworn to serve some time back. 99 out of 100 are simply narcissists.(See, ladies, I didnt say all of you!)
Fascinating on the marriage and religious points, not surprising to me though. I bet the younger crowd is struggling with that reality.
Thx Melanie , have a great day.
Wow, you have many talents, thanks
Truth and Biblical principles are not popular. But, we need to stick to them, regardless of popularity. I'm proud of you, for having the courage to do that.
Nice singing voice Melannie
Great advice coach Mel! Thank you so much!
Respect and loyalty = if not, punt !!!
Great one
You're awesome Melanie for all that great advice. 👍
Wow! I didn't know you could sing and classically trained at that!🎙
Im just a self taught rock guitarist. I do it as a hobby now. 🎸
Great voice you have, In both fields! Take care! 😊
Head on her shoulders!
Listen to her heart!
Great stuff to hear. Now, how does your advice mesh with Casey Zander's? He discusses the true nature of women aside from what they " say?"
You are so real I am sorry you were sick you seem very well
Happy New Years and new friends!
You are absolutely right my relationship broke last year December and all what you said for men not to do for a woman its what i was doing for her 😢😢😢
Awesome stuff
Umbrella😊
Ive been watching alot of your videos. I hope I can find a amazing Woman like you one day, that would be a blessing. Thanks for the Coaching. I know it will happen one day, once i become closer to god and show more love to my fellow humans. Im working on it
And you sing. Too,, truly remarkable !!!!
Thanks for hard work...much appreciated
Melannie you are so correct about the confusion (lack of reading and comprehension of the Bible).
I've met or come across many "church girls" who "played married" with the hopes they would win over the hunks who (in the end never did join them for more than one service at say Christmas) (they only wanted a few "dates" and were not believing) instead of waiting for the men sharing the pews with them.
Very sad, but unfortunately also true.....................
I appreciate your message, and I pray to God for such a woman. In his time. I will remain patient for such a blessing, I long for a wife who will have my children. And may God bless me to have financial abundance to provide for my future family.
Keep the faith brother.
Wonderful content as always ❤ thanks again
This was awesome! Great Godly counsel! ❤👍🏾👍🏾
An off topic question. If your wife cheats should you even attempt to reconcile or call it a day?
70 years old and single and just don't mess with it anymore. I shower my cousin and her daughter with my love and just don't need or want to wade the agendas of most women.
Hi Melannie im a 63 year old man i enjoy listening to ur advise do u sell a CD for listening to your teaching when. Im driving.
Hi Melannie, 1st time on your channel and pretty impressed, I like it! I'm from South Africa and met a gorgeous lady from Philippines on a Christian site who is kind, loving and everything opposite to your pointers. What I've longed for and prayed for, can it be true?
I love your guidance! Just found your pod and have subbed. Merry Christmas and pray Jesus Blesses you beyond your wildest dreams!
Thank you with all my heart!!
Great Advice!
Just found you Melanie. And i like what ive heard from you
Relationship Red Flags: Things You Should Never Do for a Woman
**Summary:**
This video explores red flags in relationships, highlighting actions men should avoid when dealing with women. Key points include:
1. **Problem Fixing:** Men should not feel obligated to fix all of a woman's problems, especially if it involves taking on too much responsibility or if she plays the victim.
2. **Unilateral Pursuing:** In a healthy relationship, both parties should contribute to pursuing each other. Men should avoid doing all the pursuing, as it signals an imbalance.
3. **Pre-Marital Intimacy:** Giving a woman "wife privileges" before marriage is cautioned against, as intimacy should be earned through the highest form of commitment-marriage.
4. **Self-Esteem Dependency:** Men should not become the sole source of a woman's self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem should be cultivated individually.
5. **Avoiding Abuse:** Men should never tolerate being used as a "scratching post," enduring unkind treatment or criticism. Respectful, loving behavior is essential.
**Conclusion:**
The video underscores the importance of recognizing and avoiding toxic relationship dynamics. Men are encouraged to seek relationships with supportive, loving women and not compromise their self-respect. For further guidance, the audience is invited to explore the free master class for strategies and insights.
Thanks!
Thanks professor- errr is there a charge for this ?
@@serenityinside1 You can thank me for saving your time.
I doubt 95% of women meet this criteria. I agree with all the points and my experience confirms this
Nq
So you might want to check out the Happy Wife School, intimacy seems to reduce or disappear after marriage and it's usually the woman that cuts it off.
Why?
How can I pursue somebody that gives me such great advice like Coach Melannie?
Another great video Coach!!! Keep them coming! Your advice is great!! Hope you feel better and enjoy the holidays!!!
Never tell her to calm down ! LOL
No, just tell her she acts just like her mother
You just said it all. Thanks...
Let a smile be your umbrella.
Umbrella I hope you get feeling even better soon
Orange juice keeps my throat healthy in cold seasons. Love your umbrella videos ❤🙏👍
Number 4 surprised me.
Why do you have your hoodie on the wrong way around?
My experience with marriage is the complete opposite of what is suggested. 😞
Thank you coach❤
Right on, Coach! After listening to you, the short answer is I decided that I did over pursue. Wasn't 50/50. 95% of anything between us went FROM ME to her. I was just SO head over heels with finding her after 40 some years & how promising it looked for us to restart. And she did try to make me her scratching post, but I slammed her right back. Once I found out what she'd been up to, and her health/mental health issues, our something became the NOTHING that it is today. She got what she paid for.
The best thing about Coach Melannie, is her advice is also applicable to anyone who is a both Christian and none Christian.
Hope that’s true … says a Humanist .
Nice video pretty lady
You nailed all that!
The problem with solving problems for women is that when women tell us their problems - we assume she wants help with them. Men don't ask each other for help with problems unless they want advice. Therefore the male default is that they believe women want advice when they tell us their problems. Women need to know this when they start getting advice when they only wanted to vent. If a woman starts getting advice she didn't want when she wants to vent - she probably doesn't know how hard-wired men are to rescue those in distress. So when she tells us our problems we'll be more inclined to jump to the default conclusion unless otherwise educated. If you want your male friend or partner to listen when you need to vent you need to let your male partner a number of times before they understand that you don't always need us to solve problems. In fact if your man doesn't make this mistake then you're probably communicating extremely well - either that or the guy's mother actually taught this to him. There's no way that it's instinctive in men to know that you need to vent. We do the opposite when we solve our problems. We go into a cave & don't come out until we've solved our problem. When we come out of our cave we don't need to talk about anything because we got the solution we are looking for. If women don't learn that about men they'll have trouble stopping their man from making blunders he has no idea he's making.
I don't think she was saying its a turn off I am pretty sure she meant if you are solving all her problems for her as she plays the victim card she is toxic because she is just using you
I definitely feel this problem solving thing. It stressed me out trying to fix things that wasn't my problem just because I cared for the woman I was with and I couldn't help think she's venting all this to me because she wants some help or guidance. She was always down and I'd try to bring her back up which drained my energy. Eventually I had to say I'm sorry I can't do this anymore. she was a lovely girl but yeah...
That's from the point of view of men,from the female point of view,women think that talking about their problems will solve everything so when men give them advices,they hate it because advice needs effort and they don't want to make the effort.
This would help someone at the start of their journey. Unfortunately, I am not.
Hi Melanie your a smart woman ❤
Could you do one for men?
Q: What goes up a chimney down but not down a chimney up?
A: An umbrella.
(My grandmother's joke.)
It looks like it’s going to rain. I better get my umbrella.☔️
I want to hear more of your singing!
You look lovely in that blue top Melanie 💙
Good video
just find this chanel. Nice