What NOT To Say To An LGBTQ+ Person [CC]
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What else should people NOT say to LGBTQ+ people?
Story of my life lol - #menieres
Your so amazing. Can you please come to Nottingham for a meet and great please 😊. Also the video is hilarious you responses are so like how I would response lol 😂
I get “are you really!? Omg I never would have guessed! No offence I just never would have thought you were a lesbian” 🙄
Jessica Kellgren-Fozard here’s mine: “wait you can’t be gay, I remember you dating men in high school!”
Yes Karen, because it’s not like sexuality can evolve and change over time. You can’t be this dumb, you used to get straight A’s in high school!
You just haven't met the right person!
To like, aces
I hate the fact we have all met a Brian.
Sam Brown and a Karen.
And a Susan
Sam Brown I haven’t...
@@kittyffected then you're lucky
My Uncles name is Brian...
wish me luck..
"You're Lesbian because someone hurt you, right?"
"Nooooo...but I'll hurt YOU in a minute."
Best. Ever.
You know what else was best? "I'm a carrot Susan. Yes. You caught me." Lmao
Lmao
I've gotten similar stuff about being ace
same thing for ace people: you’re ace bc of abuse/r*pe right? no but i’m about to abuse your face
Yes!
I have a lesbian friend and when she came out, some idiot girl said: "I hope you didn't fall for one of us!"
My friends answer:"Don't worry, I've got taste."
I wanted to like thay because that was utter class bravo! But I thought I'd just leave it at 69 likes for comic effect! :P Xx
Absolute queen
I feel that burn way over here...
Omg best response EVER!!!!
somehow the straight girls just get so annoyed when you don't find them hot
A guy once told my asexual friend "I can change that."
She didn't talk to him ever again. Guess he really did change 'that'.
That's honestly kinda scary
@@masonk.wilson538 Yes, it is really scary...
I know how she feels... A guy told me that too... Nothing happened between us of couse or I would of kicked him but lets just say we are not friends anymore
I'm ace and aro and my friend said, "yeah, but that might change"....I'm also non binary, but she doesn't question that.
@@rivertheenbybitch117 yeah because obviously it's not possible to not want sex or a romantic relationship ever but you can totally be anything else! lol
some men are reacting to lesbian relationships like "you probably never had a good sex with a man"
so do you brian but i dont make assumptions about you, right?
As a gay guy here I can understand that it's a fantasy but to actually say that to a lesbian couple is sick, rude, and disgusting like they wouldn't like it if a gay guy told them the same thing so why the f*ck would they say that sh*t a lesbian couple?!
Ugh i SWEAR if i hear one more "oh how do u know ur gay if you've never had sex with a man" well how do u know you're straight bob
That's really dumb to say.
I'd just respond "nor have you."
@@patuljastislon I tried that but I got told that "straight is the normal option".. good to know some people still dont have common sense
"Who doesn't think Ruby is hot?"
Thanks, I feel super validated lmao
666th like
If that's you in the profile pic then I second, ruby is Hot
U go!
Same man!
I feel like you got a better deal from this vid than I did ;)
NO THE CIS HAVE FOUND OUT THAT WE'RE CARROTS IN DISGUISE
You’re not a carrot in disguise, you’re 34 weasels in a trenchcoat!
@@bo1932 I'm 34 weasels in a trenchcoat pretending to be a carrot pretending to be a human
@Grace D no who told
@Grace D is that how bad we pass
Everyone hide
If you can't see them, they can't see you
For the old lady one of “I’m too old to learn about this gender stuff”, I know that’s how a lot of elderly people are, but in my personal case, my 98 Year old great grandmother and my 101 year old great grandfather found out I’m a trans man, and have switched over to using he/him and calling me my new legal name. Not all old people are going to be a disappointment, and if the old people in your life are, please know that Florence and John in my family support you for who you are!
FailedArtKid I know this is late, but your great- grandparents sound amazing 😭
Aww this is so sweet
I would say that gives me hope for my, not-even-70 year old father... but.... 🤷🏽♀️
yup, my grandfather initially said "OK I'll use that name and pronouns but I apologise now if I get it wrong occasionally as my brain is a bit older" But you know what, he has never gotten it wrong. Not once. He genuinely was worried about getting it wrong because he didn't want to hurt me, but just like people of any age, he put in the effort and it paid off and I love him so much for it.
My (87 at the time) grandfather gave a standing ovation when I was trying to be very gentle with my nan about *why* I wouldn't be getting accidentally pregnant but she was *nagging* aaand nagging, until I exploded that me pegging someone is very unlikely to result in a pregnancy. He was delighted. xD
Skip forward six years and they're correcting eachother on pronouns as if it's second nature, and gramps was thriving in this new world of gender- and sexual openness.
"using they/them pronouns just makes me so uncomfortable"
"well being around YOU makes ME uncomfortable, yet here we are..."
i'm 100% taking that one bless.
Seconded
Alternative response! “Well you not using They/them pronouns for me is making me uncomfortable so...”
Me too!
As a person who's anglish is a second language, sometimes when i talk I mismach the pronounts( i could talk to the most feminine or masculine person and still call them different) I do it mostly when talking quickly and not giving it much thought and i fear the day when I will mismach the prounounts of someone to whom those are important, i hope that with practise i will get better tho. Plus the first time seing prounount them(in use for a nonbinary person) I thougt it was about a group of people not one😂 now i just have to check the person to know (i don't want to make anyone sad or uncomftable). Ahh the struggles and fears of talking in different language😂
there are SO many languages that are totally different about pronouns--so don't worry abt it! i've even made the same kind of mistake myself--like you said, especially when you're talking quickly. lol the general rule of thumb is that if you're trying and don't make a big deal out of it if you slip up by accident, all is good! speaking another language is rough enough, so you get plenty of leeway&empathy on that front, no worries. appreciate the concern and effort! but don't sweat it too much and just keep on trying. you're doing fine. :)
Dark Jessica saying “oh, bigotry and lack of research!” needs to become a reaction gif immediately
mawrth yes!!!
It needs to become MERCH
5:02
person: So... When did you choose to be gay?
Me: Idk, when did you choose to be straight?
Pretty sure all people asking "when did you choose to be gay" are just bisexual/pansexual ignoring their true sexual orientation.
As a bisexual girl, before knowing about sexuality I also thought it was a choice. Oops.
@@aikya5684 Interesting insight!
Although thinking that one can choose to be something else than a hetero is way too common for those all to be bisexuals. It also seems to go within certain social circles and not in others - an idea learned from others.
“So you hate everyone?”
No, no, just because I’m asexual does not mean I hate the human race. I am fully capable of experiencing love.
Oh, no. I do hate people though. Do not like socializing.
just because i'm asexual doesnt mean i dislike humans. even if i weren't ace i'd still dislike them
'Yes, I do hate everyone, because of idiot questions like those, thanks Brian'
and also aromantics who have sexual relationships with one/multiple people or friends with consent are completely valid too, there are people who think sexual aromantics are "evil" or "perverted" just because they have sexual relationships with others without having "true love" for them, it's so annoying.
FRIENDLY AND FAMILIAL LOVE COUNTS!!! 🤗🤗
(i hate when people forget that 😢)
Yes, it just has nothing to do with the fact that i'm ace
Bonus ones I’ve heard as an asexual:
“Are you sure you’re not just gay?” (If I was I would know)
“Is it a religious thing?” (my religion has nothing to do with it)
“Maybe you’ll change your mind” (ummm)
“So you’re a plant?” (😑)
Why do people ask this plant question? I already read this and it is weird xD like what a stupid question.
so you’re a lizard that reproduces asexually? (Joke)
The "so you're a plant" is the classic one
Oh yes I identify as a cabbage as you can clearly see
Can I add to the list?:
"What about sex? Do you not want to have kids?"
"Oh I'm sure you'll find the one. Besides, I'm sure you'll grow out of this."
"So you can't be in a relationship?"
"So you won't ever think you can have a crush?"
"Are you okay? Do you think it's a phase?"
Or this one: you just haven't met the right person yet
As the bisexual wife of an asexual, I fully approve of this video. :)
My Nevermore wait so is your wife ace but ____romantic?
Yes you can be ace and not aromantic at the same time
My husband is ace but extraordinarily romantic and sweet. We've been married for 15 years and he will randomly do the sweetest things like buy me the entire collection of my favourite games for Valentine's day or just get me something small because he loves me. He also taught me that sex and intimacy are not the same thing.
That's so sweet. I'm bi too, but sometimes I can't even tell if I'm attracted to someone because I want a romantic relationship or I'm just lonely and want to be loved lol
@@trangl.m.3379 I know the feeling but we knew each other for about four years online before we met in person so it gave the relationship a lot of time to develop :) You'll find that special someone, but remember that you're special too and don't settle for less than the one that's right for you
If someone asks you "Do you like me?" Answer with "No I have this thing called standards"
Shinso looks real cute wearing the cheerleader outfit and I reall like your comment cuz I've been asked just need a better response
@@avourrito1819 ikr
What's fun is when people think that because you're gay that you're going to hit on them...
I'm always like, wasn't planning on it because you're not my type.
So funny to watch them get appalled.
@@eveescastle5866 dude ikr
As a quote from tiktok
Person: so your ace right?
Ace: mhmm
Person: But how do you know you dont.. Like that stuff..
Ace: well ive never been stabbed but im not sure I'd enjoy that either.
Haha "stabbed".
Stealing this! Most of my friends are very understanding thankfully, but new people are occasionally confused.
Zapporah Mann I typically use the lasagna metaphor. Some people crave lasagna and could eat it every meal of the day. I've never craved lasagna ever in my life. 😂
@@kaitlyns8105 Lol, now I understand the shock people feel when I tell them I never crave sex 🤣
@@kaitlyns8105 Ironically, I so relate with your lasagna thing. I don’t even personally hunt every lasagna out there, I’m more of a baked ziti gal.
The no sex in a marriage thing. Like do people not understand that marriage isn't all about whoopee?! I'm married and my husband has a heart condition so we can't go at it...but guess what?! Surprisingly we love each other and have a fulfilling relationship!
Sorry for asking but is he doing okay?
The sex usually dies out anyway. Someone tried to tell me it’s okay to cheat on my husband if he doesn’t “put out enough”. SO MANY THINGS WRONG!!! He’s a human being & has a right to say no, I can take care of that myself, cheating’s never okay to me personally & OH YEAH! I love him for how well he completes me, he’s my best friend, how great our relationship is & how happy all that makes me. So if tomorrow he lost his ability to have sex with me & “put out” ENOUGH... NOPE! STILL ONLY WANT HIM!!! 🤬
plus if that person can't accept you for who you are, then they shouldn't be with you. that ain't just an asexual thing.
Drink Your Nail Polish, I love your username and I also agree with you.
Yes, there are so many other wonderful ways you can express intimacy and affection, I really don't get society's obsession that penetrative sex is the highest and most important goal in a relationship.
But if you're asexual, does that mean you're a plant? Or a cell or something?
Ah yes Sharon, watch me harness the power of mitosis. Tremble before me mere mortal as I have transcended basic bloody human biology.
hello internet it's phils first video blog you have no idea how much I love the sass!
Why are you revealing our secrets
Yes, the person you talked to yesterday was one of my clones. In fact, how do you know i'm the original one and not another clone? DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA OF HOW MANY THERE ARE OF ME RIGHT NOW? XD
hahahha thank you I will be using this
I cannot count how many times I've said "Hey I'm asexual actually" and they go " What are you a plant or something" -_-
My favourite response to "[Insert sexuality/gender] doesn't exist!" is "Mr Stark, I don't feel so good.." then dramatically falling to the floor.
Thats the best response tho
More things NOT to say to aces:
"U probably just haven't found the right one yet"
"Did something happen to you as a child?"
I can't hate the second one because things happened to me as a kid and teen and I thought I was ace for a long time even with my boyfriend until half a year in I realized I just never felt comfortable enough to open up that side of me and now definitely have attraction to others. Obviously Ace/Aro are valid and it's not like your adversity has anything to do with your sexuality but I'm hoping that what I've said makes it easier to get why people may ask that when they are ignorent of Asexuality?
YES IT JUST HAPPENED TO ME RECENTLY
for the last one it is possible for that to have happened (my mom had a friend who told her she was gay because she was sexually abused as a child by men) but like you dont ask people that??? wtf? have you no decency? common sense? anything??
I'm asexual
OMG what happened?
I was born
Or "You're just ace because you've got anxiety problems"
Or my personal favorite "You're too young to know. It could still change" I was 20 when my mom and therapist said that one to me. Nobody ever tells straight people that they're "too young to know"
Him: "Are you really gay?"
Me: "Is your IQ really that low?"
Two English teachers and the guidance counselor: *failing at keeping a straight face*
High school hallway attempt at bullying
they're keeping a gay face
I would have applauded.
"Which of your braincells has given up today?"
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 I'm so going to use this one!!! You're so awesome Jessica!!!!!!!!!
I am adding this to my vocabulary.
i hate it when someone says "you're to pretty to be _____" or "I can change your sexuality" something along those lines because-- just,, no dont says those things to,, ANYONE
I'm so happy you included Asexuals in this :^)
I usually don't find one that I can relate to so that's really cool
Ikr asexuals are super nice people, and they barely get recognized! Especially in animation
“I’m a carrot Susan you’ve got me!” Omg your hilarious 😂 I love your channel 😍
I'll be borrowing that one.
I screamed, that bit was FIRE
Also I was first :D and yay I got a heart
I usually go with "I'm a meat popsicle." Works really well in the winter.
That explains the red hair
When people ask who the husband is, i think they're trying to ask who the top is.
Which you *Don't* ask
I like the response, "That's like asking a pair of chopsticks which one is the fork."
its the worst. to them: stop trying to make people fit ur agenda omg
Right. I mean why would you ask that unless you are trying to get a sexual kick off someone. Which is not cool.
The husband doesn't always top though...
@@wonderlandisalanguage9646 as in, who goes in who the most?
Thank you for including asexuals in this, I’m stoked to be included 💜🖤
Also, we get the “are you ace because someone hurt you” a lot too, and I’ll take note of that response!
EDIT: recently I also found out that the last time I started dating someone, a person in my family was all “see? Now that Rando is dating, they’ll ditch all that ‘asexuality’ stuff.” Excuse me, WHAT? Since when have outward appearances of relationships EVER been a reliable predictor of one’s sexual orientation. To the specific person who said this to me: your marriage is dissolving, but you don’t see me saying you’re giving up on all that hetero stuff 😒
"Everyone thinks Ruby's hot, I just don't want to sleep with her" That right there. Asexual people can appreciate someone's attractiveness without being attracted to them. Thank you so much for including Asexuality in your videos!
I just stumbled on this video and I loved that part too! I thought growing up that you could be attracted to someone and only wanted to have sex with them AFTER you starting dating them and getting to know them. Then I learned that’s being demisexual and not everyone does that. My mind was kind of blown when I realized I just thought that was normal, even with being gay or lesbian or trans.
This speaks for me too!
One that I’ve had people say to me as an asexual
"You aren’t actually asexual. Once you have sex you’ll realize what you’re missing out on and regret telling people that." Or different variations there of.
what bs is this
all i can say is people are dumb bro
"Once you try eating rocks you'll realize what you're missing out"
Yes!
As an asexual I completely understand. I've had someone say this to me
"But what about sex? You don't want kids? I'm sure it's just a phase"
Omg all the characters are spot on 😂🤣 It must have taken you forever to dress up/film/edit but it 100% paid off, this is perfect! I'm definitely using some of these lines 😂
Katie A. 😀 💯 this might be her best video yet!
This is the best!
Here's a conversation I had with an idiot:
Me: "I'm just really bummed that two of my long-time guy friends stopped talking to me after I came out to them as asexual."
Idiot who had a crush on me: "Well, they're probably just upset because they had a crush on you."
Me: "I've been in a relationship one person for 12 years now. Why wasn't THAT a deterrent?"
omg what the hell
also Fawndolyn is such a pretty name!
...okay I know it's literally ten months later but I am confused by this entire conversation. Like... is this supposed to imply an assumption by said idiot that two entire friendships were based solely on "want to bang" from the get-go, and were there for no reason other than to wait for an actual relationship of over a decade to end? And more pertinently, is it even possible to overstate how fucked up that is? I just... I don't understand what the hell they were going for with that one...
Katrina Hockman - Right? I mean, one long-time friend suddenly wanted to start an affair, and another came out of the woodwork of the land of ‘we used to be good friends years ago’ because he got divorced and was texting me all friendly-like, but was really in a long-con of just looking for a hookup, so I guess good riddance. The idiot in the conversation is this mess of a person I’d shot down TWICE in the past (the second time because he apparently forgot I was in a relationship?) and some time later had insinuated I should give someone (presumably him) “a chance” - lol, I have no idea if he thought I never banged a dude before or if he forgot AGAIN I’m in a relationship and meant to give HIM a chance, but I bluntly laid it out for him that nobody’s got the magical dick that makes my sexuality change 😂
That actually implies that... as soon as they realized that sex with you would never be an option (which they really should have known before) you lost all value to them because apparently spending time with your "crush" just because isn't worth it? I was always under the impression that having a crush also involved actually liking the person... Honestly good riddance, what the hell!
Still sorry you had to go through that.
*”But lesbians just want to be men.”*
*”Do you want to repeat that?”* _holds up drill._
*butch not but
Yes, lesbians want to be men, yet trans men don't want to be lesbians...
"How did you even put that together?"
"Oh, bigotry and a lack of research." I've never laughed so hard in my life, thank you for that.
As a bi person, probably the most awful thing I've heard was actually said to a friend, who was told that she wasn't a "real" bisexual because she wouldn't have a threesome with a random guy on tinder. 🤢🤢🤢. Using identity to pressure people into sexual acts they're not comfortable with has to be a new low
Other than that, my biggest pet peeve is people making assumptions based on the relationship I'm currently in; considering just making a shirt that says "nope still bi" just to clear things up
I've been told multiple times that I just say that I'm bi because I want attention and not cuz I'm bi :(
Yup I get u
Gross
Because people say bisexuality isn't real, i'm just gonna identify with 2 things that "aren't real", so my gender is Yimrəyiþ, pronounced đimrəđiθ
I would buy this shirt, cause people hear that I have a bf and assume I'm straight, like no I'm still bi, I'm just with a guy at the moment
Im ace but not aro and ahhhhhh the cheating bit was so satisfying that someone addressed it its not that hard people love me just dont put anything inside of me
1. Lesbian: *comes out
Every single straight girl: Eeew she probably likes me
Me: *face palms into a distant universe
2. Pansexual: *comes out
That one person: Oh so your attracted to pans?
Me, a fellow pansexual: If some one makes one more-
3.Transgender: *Exists
Someone: *Uses out dated name
Transgender: *corrects them
Someone: No, your (outdated name) .
Me: I'm outta here
Also me: oof
omg the "attracted to pans" and "attracted to kitchen appliances" one. Ugh! They could at least ask if they don't know what it is, why assume something so stupid? Makes me want to slam my face on a table so I don't have to deal with such stupid people
Yep, some people can be so ignorant! People always ask me if I’m a lesbian because my husband is transgender. But nope I’m straight! And married to a man!
Came out to one of my friends as pan and she asked if I was attracted to kitchen wear. Like
BRUH
Asexual * comes out*
Oh, you gust haven't meet the right person yet
Me:🤦♀️
Me: Not straight
*That friend* :Haha it’s probably just a phase
THE ASEXUAL SITUATIONS.
THE REALITY.
I love you for this, Jessica. xD
The "are you afraid of everyone else pairing up and you dying alone" cut me so deep. Almost as much as it does in real life situations.
@@sarahbeebe My personal favourite I've experienced as an asexual person is literally what a 'LGBT+ sensitive counsellor' told me at uni: YOU JUST NEED TO HAVE SEX WITH BOTH GENDERS AND THEN YOU'LL FIGURE OUT WHO YOU'RE MORE ATTRACTED TO
Me: Susan, I-
For realllllll
Lauren A I‘ve also had people telling me that🙈 it just made me so angry🙈
@@mypoemcarmen And then literally she looked at me and said, "IS THAT IT?", like it should solve my problems. Also, her idea of asexual 'resources' was literally a Google search to some weird chat board thread about people who were supposedly asexual in my hometown that I could meet up with. Like, yes, Susan, A) I also have Google and have done this, and B) I really want to trust a creepy 2005-looking chat board as a place to meet other asexual people from. xD I was like I'VE VERY PROTECTIVE OF MY BODY AND ALSO DO NOT WANT TO BE ABDUCTED, I'LL PASS. XD
As an asexual, my favorite dumb remark is
"You're just not sexually awakened yet, give it time."
....It did awaken you see, but it preferred to go back to sleep. Have a nice day, Karen.
*“if you’re pan do you like me?? sorry im not interested”*
damn susan, i dont even think a “normal” person would like you.
Thank you for adding pansexual!
One I've gotten before:
"Oh you're pansexual, does that mean you're attracted to pans or kitchenware?"
Acid X I don’t really mind it when that happens but that is just me.
Honestly somebody says that seriously then I'm gonna slap a bitch but if its a joke I honestly still laugh at it
Lol, once a guy asked if i was pan (i had joked about it before), and when i said yes he replied with "oh thats so cool!" its not rude or offensive, i just felt like sharing one of the only times coming out went well for me 👍
Such a fun, quirky joke...for the first three times.
Same here
"Who doesn't think Ruby is hot ? I just don't want to sleep with her."
You totally nailed that point Jessica ! Thank you from an asexual :D
When you ask a gay/lesbian (or same-sex relationship couple) who is the man and woman, it's the same as asking chopsticks which one is the fork and which one is the knife
A girl once yelled in class “you’re all lesbians!” And stormed out of the room. And i yelled back “well you’re half right, I’m bi”.
savage
THAT ACE REPESENTATION HAD ME STOKED!! Thank you :')
I'm also very impressed by your dressing up skills, I couldn't recognise you as the granny, and black hair makes you look so different
Mercedes Lackey's newest book (Eye Spy) features a main character who is asexual and I nearly dropped the book shrieking when I found out and had to text all my friends. xD
Palitato oooh, that's going on my shopping list! One of my favourite authors representing the most important person in my life!
Aces are awesome! People can't get around the difference between romantic and sexual love. People need to be educated.
@@Palitato
No way ?? I'm getting it right away thank you TwT
@@clotildebesson1991 Haha, YW, but it's the second book in Part 2 of her Collegium Chronicles series! You could probably read Part 2 without part 1, but you won't know who the heck anyone is. :P
OK so there was this time when some stupid guy that I came out to spread through all the school that I am bi (obviously without my consent) and the next day this other guy came and asked me like "oh so you're bisexual? I totally support you" since I was really scared I denied it and then he goes "oof thanks god you're NORMAL, tbh people can be so hypocrite sometimes"
I was- shook.
WTF! That was a ridiculous thing to say to you! Well, I totally support you, period. Without that weird bigoted bit at the end. 💜
Sameeeeee, that’s what happened with me too. The only difference is I tried to stick with it, and some supported me some didn’t
Oh my gosh that's awful! 😭 People can be such douches 💜💜💜
Aces: *exist*
Brians: I can change that.
lesbians: *breathe*
brian: yOu HaVeNT sLEpT wItH ThE rIGht gUy
“A bisexual Asian? Never heard of an LGBTQ Asian.”
Wow, people actually say these things? What does your race have to do with your sexuality?
“I’m a gold star at ruining the lives of ignorant fools” is my absolute FAVORITE line in this video. I laughed all the way through 😂
it's such a mysterious, yet terrifying way of saying something.
Jessica usually stays pretty upbeat and positive in her videos but the sheer brutality of some of these comebacks is incredible.
Tristian Blake Yeah! I love her positivity so much but I her sass and ferocity, especially in the face of outright bigotry, is one of my favorite things about her. I love that she shows that just because you’re kind and you consider others perspectives you’re not ‘weak’ or unable to stand for what’s important.
I’m relatively sure this is the first time I’ve seen Jessica wear a different shade of lipstick
And a different hair color
I love how you use the name “Brian”
CAUSE I KNOW A HOMOPHOBE NAMED BRIAN WHO GOES TO MY SCHOOL
Wait no not like that
A moment of silence for the respectful Brian’s and Brian’s of our community .
Same but he doesn't go to my school, he is a grown adult man lol
*Points at camera* "With them... maybe"
Me:
Dies
Thank you for adding asexual! We don’t get noticed enough and I really appreciate how accurate your statements about it were! Thank you!
Here’s one you couldn’t add:
Bigot: “Men can’t be asexual, that’s just not masculine.”
Me: “Yes, we can. I’m standing right in front of you aren’t I?”
Ugh, that must be extremely frustrating... 😩
Gray-asexual here in total agreement! Also kudos for dealing with those bigots who believe men are SO sex-driven and can't control themselves, that they can't possibly NOT want sex. (That sentence was sorta confusing, but I think you'll get it.) I've also been told that to be in a relationship you HAVE to have sex. And I'm just here like, "nah lol that's stupid." And also nobody's business anywho! Anyway, keep on keeping on Jack G!
Yay! representation.
And yeah, I've heard the prejudice go the other way too. Since men as so hyper sexual that if a guy doesn't act that way then he must be asexual. But women? No. Women can't be asexual. Women are just these meek, shy creatures who haven't met the right person yet who will light the fire of desire!
I mean...Huh?
Homosexuality isn't manly!
Oh really, Stephen? The Ancient Greeks beg to differ
I'm so sorry! There is a lot of pressure on men to be really into sex, I'm sure that's really hard.
Thanks so much for including Asexuals !!bc some people don’t even think they are apart of the community.
Gatekeepers/exclusionists can fuck off tbh.
*a part.
"Apart" means the opposite 😉
Well every sexuality and gender except for straight and cisgender are part oc the lgbtq+ community! So if you sau something like this, then you are lying to yourself and anyone in the world!
Brian asked if I was one of "those lesbians that can be changed with a good man"
No Brian, that isn't a thing.
Especially not for you.
Ever.
"You're not really bisexual... It's just a phase!"
Yep. And this phase is going to be over only when I'll die ;)
-But you're so pretty as a woman!
-And you're so pretty until you open your mouth
I'm taking note of that response. Just... for research purposes... yeah... 😏 /s
Same. I am FTM (female to male) transgender. I get that whatever its called alot.
Might just say that to my mam the next time she tells me that
Jessica as a bigoted old lady is what I needed. LMAO
"you're a lesbian because someone hurt you?"
"No but i'll hurt you in a minute"
Mood
I once read that “the whole asexual thing is a turn off”... I- I have nothing to say...
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"How did you put that together?"
"Oh, bigotry and lack of research!"
This had me rolling. Great video as always, and thanks for taking the time to include everyone in the LGBTQ+ spectrum, Jessica!
Them to me (an asexual): so you're like a plant right?
Me, an asexual: yes Steve. I'm a heckin' oak tree! You've found me out.
Kinda jealous of your ability to photosynthesise, tbh :P
I mean, if I can pick my afterlife I totally want to be reincarnated as a tree, but that's beside the point. (Me, a fellow ace)
Stranger: aw what a cute looking boy!
My mom: she's a girl
**Screaming in transgender**
The worst one I’ve been told was:
“If you’re a lesbian no guy will ever love you and then you’ll never get a husband and build a family!”
I-
THAT'S THE POINT SUSAN
Me a gay: sneezes
Straight ppl: SO ARE YOU THE MAN OR THE WOMAN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
lmfao
Well as far as I'm concerned, we're both the woman.
(Not actually in a relationship)
'you've had loads of kids and it's not made you polyamorous, has it?' i legit spat out my tea laughing
I've also had friends tell me "oh you just haven't met the right person yet"
I was told that too.
Another Bisexual one: "Oh, so you're married to a man, does that mean you are straight now?" ugh
So happy to see asexual representation! I was worried that we’d be left out because we always seem to be rejected by the lgbtq community :(
Leia Mithrandir
Yeah, I feel you. Most of the ace spectrum is left out, and it kinda sucks.
Yeah, it is a big debate cause ace people havent ever been like burned or imprisoned but at the same time the lgbtq+ community is supposed to be for everyone whose gender or sexuality is not cis/straight and ace is not straight so that leaves people kinda confused. Personally, (im a pansexual cisgender female btw) i simply don't have the knowledge or understanding (i dont think anyone does, really) to draw untouchable lines of who belongs in the community and who doesnt. If u are ace/aro etc and u think u belong in the community, then thats good enough for me.
SoccerLlama
It’s nice to see supportive people. I know there’s lots of them, but I have been seeing a lot of nasty homophobes lately, so that’s why I changed my picture to my pride flag (biromantic demisexual)
SoccerLlama
Yeah, I’m still hella closeted. Only my little brother and my best friend (also bi) know. My parents just aren’t allowed to go through my stuff, so I felt kinda safe changing it 💜💖💙
@@goosedotjpg i wish i could tell my parents they arent allowed to go through my stuff :l
I know theyll be supportive (we live in a liberal place, my best friend has 2 moms and my parents are totally cool, ive heard them completely affirm gay/trans rights, they both voted yes on gay marriage in the us in 2015, etc) but its just one of those things that is so awkward and uncomfortable u know?
3:36“spilling Diet Coke has on his car seat caused a rift in our family” lmaooooo
Avalon sheeps BELIEVABLE! Some people LOOOOOOVE their cars!
That time I split Diet Coke on my sister’s coach purse 🤪
Kaitlyn Peterson you split what in my vwgqhwuwuywwhwhwh Valentino white BaG?!!!!
Or when people say “oh you just haven’t found the one yet” to aromantic people
When someone says bi and pan are the same thing:
*pansexual screaming intensifies*
Number 5 when people tell me I’m pan because I’m attracted to a woman with a “guys” hair cut wearing jeans
Bisexual screaming intensifies
Also pansexuality is valid
I'm bisexual and I know the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality
Deadpool Fan that’s good HAhaha
TBH I didn’t understand either at first but my friend explained to me a bit more what pan actually was
I don't really understand the difference between the 2 but I am not an ass...I just don't know anyone I can ask to explain the difference.
@@LuLu6214 Pansexual is usually defined as being attracted to all genders OR being attracted to people regardless of their gender. Bisexual is usually defined as being attracted to two or more genders (this may or may not include nonbinary genders depending on the person). Some bisexual people report attraction feels different depending on which gender it's directed at, while pansexual people are more likely to not find it different. Hope this helps!
"IM NOT gOnnA uSE yoUr PrEffErEd pRonoUns. "
Yet you don't mind calling cars and trucks a she, when they don't even identify as one nor even have the capability to identify as one.Thanks ,uncle
Forget the pronunciation and just call me a bitch.
((Also I love your profile pic Dave strider is 👌🏻 Best boy))
I call my truck a she lol. (I'm a trans guy btw). I hate it when people won't use my pronouns. It sucks.
Amazing. So true. People can call objects she or he so easilym isn't he/ she a beauty to a house or piece if art. Also animals. If someone says to your pet 'she is beautiful' and you correct them that it is a male they would instantly say oh yes he is so beautiful.
@@ziomatthewmusic4205 That is so true
I hate that pronouns are even an issue. It's only respectful to call someone what they wish to be called, whatever it is.
“you can’t be bisexual, you’re dating me!” my (thankfully) ex-boyfriend.
i’m currently dating a lovely person, and we went to pride together last weekend 💕🌈
Yuck! I’m glad you’re happy now!
@@bluecannibaleyes I guess it's reasonable to dump someone who don't accept what you are.
bluecannibaleyes i actually dumped him because he cheated on me, but you know, whatever.
bluecannibaleyes the fact that he didn’t accept me was meant to be the focus, not the fact the he was “questioning the lgbt orthodoxy.” however, i’m genuinely curious as to what orthodoxy he was questioning.
Person: Bisexual People Don’t Exist.
Me: What am I? A ROACH?!
Person: It’s just a phase.
Me: Yep, A phase I have been in most of my life..
My Dad accepted my sister for being gay (she's married now too) but still thinks I'm going through a phase because I'm trans.
7 years on hormones and 3 years post surgery but yep.. keep holding out Dad, I'm sure the phase will pass soon.
I'm not sure how he can be so accepting with one child and not the other, honestly that's what confuses me the most
@MotoCat
I’m sorry to hear that. My mom has plenty of friends who are LGBT and fully supports them, yet she thinks it’s just a phase for me. It hurts, and it’s not fair. Just know that there are other people out here who get what you are going through.
I'm living for all the characters. You're a good character actor. Also the butch pulling out the power drill had me cackling. I keep mine under my bed, because that's where the storage in my room is
"Im a lesbian"
"are you sure though you've dated boys"
"im pretty positive i was just VERY confused and now im not"
"....but you might not be"
"I THINK I KNOW IF IM GAY"
"are you sure? You've dated boys"
"Yeah that's how I'm sure"
@@cariad123 😂😂 exactly! I also have a 1 year old so alot of people dont believe me "but you have a baby" "yes me and her dad broke up before i found out i was pregnant because i realised i was gay" "....yeah but.. you sure"
"But you haven't kissed a person of (insert gender)!"
"Do you want a kiss? Is that it?"
Omg im sorry. What a pain that must be to constantly be expected to explain yourself.
I wouldnt blame you for screaming obscenities at everyone lol.
@@ashy.aquarian it confuses alot of people and then the looks i get when im stood with my daughter telling them no actually im gay and they roll their eyes and go yeah alright then 🙄🙄 close minded people
Your outfits are such an aesthetic, every day!
My addition:
"aren't you a bit too young to be bisexual?"
My(savage) response: "Aren't you a bit too OLD to be alive?"
(i know this comment was written a long time ago)
but then at the same time there are people telling others, "boyfriend and girlfriend, get engaged, get married (in specifically a black and white tuxedo for the man and a white gigantic dress for the girl, and the men at the wedding can also only wear black and white tuxedos or else they won't be manly enough), then have at least two kids with small age gaps."
so basically they're indirectly telling forcing kids to think that, YOU HAVE TO BE CIS AND STRAIGHT AND BE MANLY IF YOU'RE A MAN AND BE LADYLIKE IF YOU'RE A WOMAN AND GENDER AND SEX ARE THE SAME THING
and that all isn't true, thinking about this makes me lose my faith in humanity 🙄😭
Ageism is so lovely isn't it??!
I was told I was too young to 'really know'
@@primerointern2427 yeah no that's fair this is a really unfunny comment i'm not quite sure why i posted that
I love how polite your responses were, without getting confrontational.
Friend: Who’s your crush?
Me: I’m ace and aro, not attracted to anyone
Friend: not even Max?
Me: no NOT EVEN MAX
🏳️🌈♠️
But you could still be romanticly inclined. People never understand there's a difference between romantic and sexual love. But if you don't have romantic feelings that's fine too. You do you.
@@ladyredl3210 that's what 'aro' means... Aromantic
Yes I know that, sorry. I meant some ace people are not aro, not that she,they, sorry I don't know their pronouns and I don't want to assume, was.
@@genericname8727 you don't know Max? Damn
LadyRed L I’m a she 😘
I've had all of the ace ones told to me at some point 🤦 bonus: "you can't be ace you read porn!" Because that has to do with being sexually attracted to somebody how...??
Kris Marcotte “wait, how can you be asexual if you ship fictional characters together?”
“Because my lack of thinking people are sexy and fuckable does not prevent me from thinking that Amethyst and Peridot would make an adorable couple”
TheKawaiifan OMG I SHIP AMEDOT
OMG I RUN A WHOLE ASS ROMANCE NOVEL IG! My comparison is, I also like murder mysteries but it doesn’t mean I want to murder someone??? Like books are books???????
Im aegosexual too! Yay!
“oh, I’m too old to learn about this gender stuff.”
you’re too old to be alive.
I'm trans and this guy at my school was like "but like what are you?" And I told him not to talk to me ever again
“But like, what are you?”
“Yes Susan, I’m a carrot. I’m a carrot Susan... you got me.”
This got me pmsl especially since she said it all with a straight face lol 😂
This is amazing! Love all your costumes. 💖
Also “Oh bigotry and lack of research!” Is probably the best thing I’ve heard all day.
This is me creating offensive situations in my mind in the shower so I can practice fighting lmao
"Which of you is the husband?"
"Which of your braincells has given up today?" 😊
The old woman should've said "I'm 110 years old. I was heterosexual for 30 years, and then I killed my husband. That was just a phase." Plot twist!
Hmmm
Story idea!
“Which of your brain cells has given up today?”
Definitely stealing that!! 😂
I've definitely gotten the "but you looked so pretty as a girl!" and its so,,,,,,, uncomfy,,,,,,
I've had someone says I'll grow out of being asexual and also had a therapist at my COLLEGE ask me if I 1. Had a penis 2. Has testicles and 3. Asking where my "breasts" went after looking at my prom photos. She also said I wasnt trans because I didnt have those 2 things but when I said I wanted to buy masculine clothing changed her mind and said maybe I am because yes my joggers and t-shirts mean I'm a guy. Also said she knew what being Ace was like because she was uncomfortable with having sex and when I said I might have wanted to take T and told her it could raise my sex drive she said she wished she knew about that before because she would have used it to raise her sex drive not at all realizing it would do A LOT more than that.
Luckily I stopped seeing her and didnt take in a single word she said or else I'd probably be more confused than I already am
This is such a well executed video I'm crying
badidea same
Yees 😍😭
“What happened to being polite?”
The question I ask EVERY DAY. 👏🏻👏🏻
You forgot the most classic question asked of pansexual people:
"So what, you're attracted to pans?"
This question annoys me so much, and everyone who says it seems to think they're so original. As if we haven't already been asked that question a million times.
the only funny thing about this joke is that it only works in English.
So glad Aces were included! I get the "you just haven't met anyone yet" and "how do you find x attractive if you're ace??" questions a lot and it's so frustrating
Agree
So what I learned from this is.... Someone is going to make a GORGEOUS grandma. PS - we all know a 'Brian.'
My brother was like 5 years old and after an stage playing at the theatre, he was backstage and and thre was a man in a dress, my brother thought he's an actor and my grandpa (he worked in the theatre) said "no he's somebody born in the wrong body"
My brother was like "how did he is change into a woman?"
My Grandpa explain what a trans person is and my brother still come understand how they would downsize his hands because they were incredible tall. ( by the way it's like 30 years ago)
I think this story shows how children work because they don't think it's strange to be a person in the wrong body they think people must be help so the person can be in the right body.
I hope everything was understandable because English isn't my first language♥♥
My son was 6 years old when he saw this advert for a tv show where the girl is trying to do the surgery. And he was like "what is a surgery to change sex?" cause they said that on the ad. And I explained that she was born with the same body parts as a boy, but inside her mind she was always a girl... So she needed that surgery to make the body match. And he was like "ohhhh... That's good" and happy that she could be herself and be happy as the girl she was. He used to think girls used their bums to pee... Cause they don't have a pipi, so... Yeah... I had to explain we have parts that are different... That we are not like plastic dolls or anything. I am not sure if he fully understands, tho. And he is 9 now. But that is how kids are. They are most concerned about happiness than other stuff. Adults are the ones who put bad things into their minds.
I have a fiancée and they adore each other. He said that he likes having 2 moms. Is twice the love and the cuddles.
By the way: english is not my first language either. We are alright^^
@@BookishBetsy thanks for the info, it makes sense that not all trans folks would identify with feeling as though they're "trapped in the wrong body." However I do think it might be an easy way to describe a pretty complicated idea to a young child at first. If you don't mind me asking, what do you think would be a more accurate and/or inclusive way to describe being transgender to a curious young child?
I love how this was 30 years ago shows that it was a norm then and still is now. Just shows the ignorance people have
this sounds like one of those “and everyone clapped” stories
Bless your grandpa
I could literally kiss you for including us aces, but you know... a hug will do :D Thank you, darling!
the raw power in Jessica holding up a drill with a dead pan " fight me i dare you" look on her face has sent me to navarna