S2: boyfriend concerned that OP didn't have a normal childhood with good examples as parents. Yo, boyfriend, you also didn't have a normal childhood with good examples of parents.
This is why this hedonistic party lifestyle should be shamed. Multiple lives wrecked for the sake of selfish, immature urges, and irresponsible behavior.
You mean living with my mother who I call Holly Golightly dressed in rage instead of Givenchy? Didn't go to school until the 3rd grade because traveling around in hippie buses? Learned not to drink from near empty wine bottles because some people used them as ashtrays when I was three? Yeah I want reimbursement for my therapy bills, they're hefty.
Ever notice how contributors who mention that English is not their native language always seem to use better ( if not far better) English than those of us native English speakers. Keep up the good work you guys, all of you.
This is why abortion should be a protected right in many cases and why I give anyone saying “we’ll help you raise the kid” the side eye cause nah, they rarely do
really wish people would stop using the A: B: C: formula, super annoying to follow along with when you could just use fake names. Idk if that's just me tho, no hate on the channel for reading what was posted. Just criticizing how people format this stuff on reddit.
Similar to story 2 was the condition of my mother and her family.. She was the eldest of three in her family and her parents favoured only the youngest daughter and her kids. Me and my mother was not very fond of my grand parents and they knew it. They would make us the bad ones all the time. And now, they are both no more and within a span of 4 months. Unfortunately for them, my mother and their less favourite son( my uncle) was the only one who supported them sincerely. My aunt put a very sad drama and now even the whole neighborhood knows who was sincere and who was not. Unfortunately for her, she married me into her in law family and now i know all her lies and drams. 😂
People aren’t fully understanding the second story. To simply call her toxic and horrible, is reductive and simple. She is struggling with her husbands infertility, she was completely ignored by her in laws, she was completely disregarded for her struggles and above all else is trying to cope with the strain this has had on her relationship. She is somewhat toxic but she hasn’t done anything wrong beside not having a conversation with everyone before the child was born. She is trying to get help, but cant find a therapist that struggles with this unimaginably complex issue and when she does the note of toxicity is greatly diminished. She isn’t a saint, but she is trying to put herself and her relationship first, which she has every right to. I will say that the family doesn’t need to do as she says and agree to her terms and her way of thinking, but this story is essentially respect each others boundaries, which OP is rightly pointing out her spouses family will not do, and in fact actively attacked her for which is totally indefensible. And to the people pointing out that she didn’t really want kids, that is a huge thing to lose irrespective of whether or not you really want them, and as she pointed out her and her partner had planned around having kids, they decided to go that route, and cant. She went through the strain of IVF unsuccessfully, and is struggling with the fact that its not her thats infertile and if she wants kids she needs to leave her partner or go through something that is personally very challenging and straining. She should get a bit of hate, she isn’t the best, but she ins’t THE asshole/assholes in this story, thats her in laws.
Weird thing to fixate on, but that line “I loved her even if I didn’t know how to be a good husband”… you know that saying, “if you love something let it go”? If you know you want to cheat, at the very least let your spouse go. Not doing that is pure selfishness because no matter what happens you’re hurting the person you claim to love, and if you let them go first at least they won’t be stuck with your shitty cheating self.
S2: boyfriend concerned that OP didn't have a normal childhood with good examples as parents. Yo, boyfriend, you also didn't have a normal childhood with good examples of parents.
S2: boyfriend concerned that OP didn't have a normal childhood with good examples as parents. Yo, boyfriend, you also didn't have a normal childhood with good examples of parents.
At least both parties acknowledge things and are on the same page of working shit out yeah?
So she used the child support to pay for clothes & shoes and have a party life while the poor grandparents paid everything for her
This is why this hedonistic party lifestyle should be shamed. Multiple lives wrecked for the sake of selfish, immature urges, and irresponsible behavior.
You mean living with my mother who I call Holly Golightly dressed in rage instead of Givenchy? Didn't go to school until the 3rd grade because traveling around in hippie buses? Learned not to drink from near empty wine bottles because some people used them as ashtrays when I was three? Yeah I want reimbursement for my therapy bills, they're hefty.
Ever notice how contributors who mention that English is not their native language always seem to use better ( if not far better) English than those of us native English speakers. Keep up the good work you guys, all of you.
This is why abortion should be a protected right in many cases and why I give anyone saying “we’ll help you raise the kid” the side eye cause nah, they rarely do
really wish people would stop using the A: B: C: formula, super annoying to follow along with when you could just use fake names. Idk if that's just me tho, no hate on the channel for reading what was posted. Just criticizing how people format this stuff on reddit.
I hate it when the OP uses initials. Especially when there 5 + characters in the story.
Im so confused with the initials.
It is a sad thing but it still happens in our lives.
Similar to story 2 was the condition of my mother and her family.. She was the eldest of three in her family and her parents favoured only the youngest daughter and her kids. Me and my mother was not very fond of my grand parents and they knew it. They would make us the bad ones all the time. And now, they are both no more and within a span of 4 months. Unfortunately for them, my mother and their less favourite son( my uncle) was the only one who supported them sincerely. My aunt put a very sad drama and now even the whole neighborhood knows who was sincere and who was not. Unfortunately for her, she married me into her in law family and now i know all her lies and drams. 😂
Society always has two words: adversity.
What is the other word?
@@Bijecarlithey think they ate haha
Day 61 of telling secretvoices to have a good day
Story 2: I’m confused why does she keep calling his son bonus son
People aren’t fully understanding the second story. To simply call her toxic and horrible, is reductive and simple. She is struggling with her husbands infertility, she was completely ignored by her in laws, she was completely disregarded for her struggles and above all else is trying to cope with the strain this has had on her relationship. She is somewhat toxic but she hasn’t done anything wrong beside not having a conversation with everyone before the child was born. She is trying to get help, but cant find a therapist that struggles with this unimaginably complex issue and when she does the note of toxicity is greatly diminished. She isn’t a saint, but she is trying to put herself and her relationship first, which she has every right to. I will say that the family doesn’t need to do as she says and agree to her terms and her way of thinking, but this story is essentially respect each others boundaries, which OP is rightly pointing out her spouses family will not do, and in fact actively attacked her for which is totally indefensible. And to the people pointing out that she didn’t really want kids, that is a huge thing to lose irrespective of whether or not you really want them, and as she pointed out her and her partner had planned around having kids, they decided to go that route, and cant. She went through the strain of IVF unsuccessfully, and is struggling with the fact that its not her thats infertile and if she wants kids she needs to leave her partner or go through something that is personally very challenging and straining. She should get a bit of hate, she isn’t the best, but she ins’t THE asshole/assholes in this story, thats her in laws.
Mmh. Im suspicious about second story 🤔
Weird thing to fixate on, but that line “I loved her even if I didn’t know how to be a good husband”… you know that saying, “if you love something let it go”? If you know you want to cheat, at the very least let your spouse go. Not doing that is pure selfishness because no matter what happens you’re hurting the person you claim to love, and if you let them go first at least they won’t be stuck with your shitty cheating self.
Story 1. Waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too long
Self harm is not the same as suicide. Stop conflating the two.
He's using the term "self-harm" to censor the word "suicide".
RUclips censors won’t let videos say “suicide.” So they have to go with “self harm.”
@@RepellentJeff I hate yt for this.. its really really annoying...
It's because of RUclips censorship. Not because they're trying to conflate the two
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S2: boyfriend concerned that OP didn't have a normal childhood with good examples as parents. Yo, boyfriend, you also didn't have a normal childhood with good examples of parents.
Did you copy tho comment?