This video reminded me of a very old professor in college who would ALWAYS point out how I was the only girl in the class and liked to call on me with rhetorical questions (and make surprised remarks when I'd answer right to actual questions). Super uncomfortable but when looking at some of my classmates, they'd give me a 'wtf is he on about?' look and that made the class much more bearable knowing not all men in the tech industry had that same mentality. I also have some serious impostor syndrome and your explanation for it made so much sense. I put so much pressure on myself to make sure all my work is as perfect as possible and talk only when I know 100% what I am going to say because I don't want to set a bad precedence for other women in tech. Still struggling with this one up to this day lol
Oh I want that part II! And I love crushing the person who comes at me with loaded questions. (Normally it's not my thing to make others uncomfortable, but if the other person asks for it, I'm happy to oblige.)
My wife has worked 'in tech' for near twenty years now as a video game producer. She is very technical but the most common thing is when people ignore her/cut her out of conversations when it moves into technical aspects. You could say "oh it's because she's a producer not a developer" but it's not that as they *never* do the same with the *male* producers. It is frustrating [for her] obviously as it's draining *constantly* having to 'prove' you're more than qualified to be there when the same isn't done with male colleagues. And of course this doesn't even begin to touch on the sexism and abuse issues against females in the games industry but that is another thing entirely.
I have so many interesting stories from usually being the only girl on the team... or in the whole company. But yeah, I agree, it's like 95% good with some very uncomfortable moments.
i didn't know you were in film making! agreed with how male dominated field film making are too! both of these fields are a calling for me to break the sterotypes!
Honestly hearing all these stories like the assistant teachers ignoring you, the person questioning whether or not you should apply for the pixar internship, the networking event guy, all of it, makes me mad. But what you said about being polite yet putting forth your own tech knowledge is a really great way to handle it. I'm sorry you (and every other woman for that matter) goes through all of this. I feel like sometimes if my gender would just stop doing all of that, the pathway to tech would be that much enjoyable. I've heard so many stories where women have had to work harder than their male counter parts just to be recognised. It's wrong. Even little things like being ignored, or questioned, or doubted. I always try to put myself in the shoes of the person, and if that were me, I would feel hurt, offended and frustrated. I'm glad to hear you didn't listen to that person when they said "so when are you going to drop out of CS". *thinks about it for a moment* What the hell was that guy doing questioning whether you should or shouldn't apply for something. It's not for him to decide that. You're absolutely right, he should have just said yes or no. That's it. Thanks for sharing this. If you happen to do another video on this, I'd for sure watch.
The explanation of how the name Blondiebytes was born was very nice, 🤣🤣. However, listening to you, two things came to mind. The first is the name of a historical figure, Ada Lovelace, but using it in certain contexts and especially with certain people, leaves the time she finds. The second thing, a saying we use here: give him in the face. That is, never miss the opportunity to demonstrate something, as long as it is politely and constructively.
Oh my. I am a guy and this makes me feel some type of way. If a human can code, leave it at that. Never understood why we treat women in code differently 😡
idk b. (I know you said these were tiny things that didn't matter that much). It sounds like your "problems" just come from insecurities. Not for your ability to code but for your ability to come across as a good software engineer. If you want people to respect your abilities, learn how to present yourself so that people think "wow, this is a very competent software engineer (or whatever)". Literally every human is judged wrongly and respected wrongly, constantly. Respect is more commonly a thing men worry about... so maybe that's why men learn how to stop complaining about being disrespected and learn how to earn/force respect early on (the same way women usually learn how to flirt and have romantic relationships earlier, because they care about that more). People don't know you. This is just how the world is, and will be forever. Even if you changed people's perception of what a software engineer "should" be, then you might have the opposite problem-- women complaining that they are judged as unfeminine career-chicks. "I told him I was a housewife and he said 'wow, that's some very masculine, long-form thinking. You'd be a great software engineer!'. Ugh..." Much better to learn how to earn and force respect.
Your first story shows how women in tech can be disadvantaged in finding mentors and connections early on 😕 That can make a huge difference when you're new to the field Also that TA who called you "blondie" is a lawsuit waiting to happen 😆
hey friend, huge rec… edit less. let your subscribers feel the pauses between thoughts. i used to do the same… take the less work more organic approach
This video reminded me of a very old professor in college who would ALWAYS point out how I was the only girl in the class and liked to call on me with rhetorical questions (and make surprised remarks when I'd answer right to actual questions). Super uncomfortable but when looking at some of my classmates, they'd give me a 'wtf is he on about?' look and that made the class much more bearable knowing not all men in the tech industry had that same mentality.
I also have some serious impostor syndrome and your explanation for it made so much sense. I put so much pressure on myself to make sure all my work is as perfect as possible and talk only when I know 100% what I am going to say because I don't want to set a bad precedence for other women in tech. Still struggling with this one up to this day lol
Great insights into what being a minority is. Some people will always question your qualifications. I love how you deal with it
has nothing to do with bein a ♀though. a guy in a ♀field will face the same scrutiny like childcare
Oh I want that part II!
And I love crushing the person who comes at me with loaded questions.
(Normally it's not my thing to make others uncomfortable, but if the other person asks for it, I'm happy to oblige.)
My wife has worked 'in tech' for near twenty years now as a video game producer. She is very technical but the most common thing is when people ignore her/cut her out of conversations when it moves into technical aspects. You could say "oh it's because she's a producer not a developer" but it's not that as they *never* do the same with the *male* producers.
It is frustrating [for her] obviously as it's draining *constantly* having to 'prove' you're more than qualified to be there when the same isn't done with male colleagues.
And of course this doesn't even begin to touch on the sexism and abuse issues against females in the games industry but that is another thing entirely.
sounds like insecurity
being a young beautiful woman you are the 1% in this industry. Love seeing you crush it. Best way to shut people up is putting up results.
I have so many interesting stories from usually being the only girl on the team... or in the whole company. But yeah, I agree, it's like 95% good with some very uncomfortable moments.
i didn't know you were in film making! agreed with how male dominated field film making are too! both of these fields are a calling for me to break the sterotypes!
I love how you view the bad stuff as just 3%, hopefully I will catch some of that optimism too. ♥️
Honestly hearing all these stories like the assistant teachers ignoring you, the person questioning whether or not you should apply for the pixar internship, the networking event guy, all of it, makes me mad. But what you said about being polite yet putting forth your own tech knowledge is a really great way to handle it. I'm sorry you (and every other woman for that matter) goes through all of this. I feel like sometimes if my gender would just stop doing all of that, the pathway to tech would be that much enjoyable.
I've heard so many stories where women have had to work harder than their male counter parts just to be recognised. It's wrong. Even little things like being ignored, or questioned, or doubted. I always try to put myself in the shoes of the person, and if that were me, I would feel hurt, offended and frustrated. I'm glad to hear you didn't listen to that person when they said "so when are you going to drop out of CS".
*thinks about it for a moment* What the hell was that guy doing questioning whether you should or shouldn't apply for something. It's not for him to decide that. You're absolutely right, he should have just said yes or no. That's it.
Thanks for sharing this. If you happen to do another video on this, I'd for sure watch.
Subscribed. I think we need more women in CS. Keep doing what you're doing!
Interesting perspective. For what it's worth, your RUclips tutorials are awesome!
Inspiration journey for women's in tech as you have overcome the challenges and continued your journey to achieve what you wanted. 👏👏
60K a year……..holy cow! Great job overcoming all odds, taking on CS itself isn’t easy!
The explanation of how the name Blondiebytes was born was very nice, 🤣🤣. However, listening to you, two things came to mind. The first is the name of a historical figure, Ada Lovelace, but using it in certain contexts and especially with certain people, leaves the time she finds. The second thing, a saying we use here: give him in the face. That is, never miss the opportunity to demonstrate something, as long as it is politely and constructively.
very good topic to spread out awareness and advocating more women in tech! i feel relatable :) thanks for sharing
sad to know what you went through but good to know you are happy now!
Oh my. I am a guy and this makes me feel some type of way. If a human can code, leave it at that. Never understood why we treat women in code differently 😡
I really like this important video.
The story is just getting worse, but I'm here for it. My goodness. 🧐🍿6:05
idk b. (I know you said these were tiny things that didn't matter that much). It sounds like your "problems" just come from insecurities. Not for your ability to code but for your ability to come across as a good software engineer.
If you want people to respect your abilities, learn how to present yourself so that people think "wow, this is a very competent software engineer (or whatever)".
Literally every human is judged wrongly and respected wrongly, constantly. Respect is more commonly a thing men worry about... so maybe that's why men learn how to stop complaining about being disrespected and learn how to earn/force respect early on (the same way women usually learn how to flirt and have romantic relationships earlier, because they care about that more).
People don't know you. This is just how the world is, and will be forever. Even if you changed people's perception of what a software engineer "should" be, then you might have the opposite problem-- women complaining that they are judged as unfeminine career-chicks.
"I told him I was a housewife and he said 'wow, that's some very masculine, long-form thinking. You'd be a great software engineer!'. Ugh..."
Much better to learn how to earn and force respect.
Ah. The "earning/forcing respect" I talked about is what you described at the end of the video. 👍
YEAH, we want a part two.
You're so patient my ghetto side would have come out already! LOL 😂
Your first story shows how women in tech can be disadvantaged in finding mentors and connections early on 😕 That can make a huge difference when you're new to the field
Also that TA who called you "blondie" is a lawsuit waiting to happen 😆
hey friend, huge rec… edit less. let your subscribers feel
the pauses between thoughts. i used to do the same… take the less work more organic approach
My major is comp sci and math, minor is film
Yeah. Part two!!!
I love your videos from Bangladesh why u don't make daily blogs about your life
starting now i’ll talk about ny code as a he, actually not just he, but I’ll call him Mr. Archibald the Third.
voting for part 2!
OMG! I laughed so hard 4:39 😂
BIG BRAIN!!! ❤ + super cute
you go girl
Boy you met some weirdos. “He” for his code?! I would’ve laughed in his face. What?! Gifts?! Make a good wife?!!! Cringey 😬
I love your videos. regards
1:45 Ummm WTF?!! 🥲
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