Open letter bro I am one if your subscriber. U may pick this comment or not I am stating a strong perspective Please make a video of unnesecery and tottaly annoying foll9wer of pravu shreee ram. Before saying anything I have to state that I am a bramhin and I have faith in God and love them and worship them. Shree Ram came to bharat After the struggle of half a thousand years. Instead of celebrating it in home some nonsence brothers so called ram bhakts are dancing in vulgar songs made on ram and going in ralley. I have no problem with ralley, then can have bhajan they can do kirtans of ancient sanatan way to celebrate . They are drinking alcohol shading this celebration. Bursting crackers is not a bad thing but they are knowingly bursting them in front of other religion homes or colonies which will give rise to communal fight . So please make a video on this topic to educate those illiterates of sanatan. I am proud hindu. I am too much emmotional to see ramlala. He is looking absolutely maryadapurn and too oooo beautiful. His eye his aura is too much to being blank. It is hypnotic. Math culture and kirtan culture is being replaced by this vulgar activities. Please if you don't promote them you should be called as nonsanatani. I am not saying to you, I am saying this to all the comrnt readers. Have a opinion on this please.
I belong from eastern UP. When my nana was 16 yrs old he went to visit his maternal grandmother. But a few villagers kidnapped him because he was 6ft tall and a very handsome fair skinned young boy. My nana's father used to work in kolkata so there was adequate wealth. So he was also kidnapped for 'pakdawa vivah'. 😂 He was so scared but he gained his strength during the haldi ceremony and asked people for permission to go pee. He then went down to pee and literally ran away from there and straight landed at his home in langoti. 😂
Men are sold by their parents 1st things first Men are not objects to be sold(dowry) or stolen(pakadua vivah) 2nd things second women are also not objects to be thrown out of house
As a Bihari you should feel ashamed of yourself for making this comment" People rarely think about Bihar and its problems." Tum log khud responsible ho is condition ke liye. Jake chup chaap se IAS grand entry wale reels bana. Sale khud kabhi apne action ki responsibility lenge nahi. Aur conditions improve hogi bhi nahi chahe 2024 ho 2060 you people will still remain same. Kyon khud kuch karenge nahi bas royenge.
Bhai jubtak andhbhakt rahinge desh ka development kaunse bi state main ni hoga. Jubse yeh andhbhakt aye hai desh ki Mehengai, Rozgari pe koi baat ni karta. Sirf hindu-muslim, mandir-masjid.. no body focus on development or fute. 😢
Here in Nagaland no one is forced to marry. We love one another that is the most important thing to be a happy marriage life. What's the use of marriage if there's no love? Marriage is the only sunset of LOVE. To get married you have to first love her/him. Have love before marriage and have a wonderful time. Have a happy marriage life 😊😊bbye
You are right my father spend four years in kohima and always appreciate the people of Nagaland during his first posting he says it is the most safest place for women in India actually in North India dowry is the main reason for these kinds of bullshit and now these days people are more hypocrite they says that they are against of dowry and ask the package of girls so that they can jugaad permanent dowry sometimes they ask for both
Bro don't even tell about it coz we really know that North east is the best. I love you all people and I hope North East prospers so that people learn to have peace and respect for rights like you all.
Coming from Bihar , I can say" That's True" ... Mere ghar ke bagal me ek ka hua hai bhayi, Wo bechara Govt school ka teacher kuch hi din pahle bana tha, Gao ke ek ladke ke baarat me gya tha, wahi pe pakad se uski shadi kr di .. Humare yaha isko "DHAD PAKAD BIYAAH " Bolte hain. Ispe to maie bhi video banane wala tha, KUDOS TO OPEN LETTER
me as a Bihari can confirm that we are doing things EXTRA-ordinary .......... (idk where i am feeling sooo proud that people from my own country is criticizing me)
Local PPL go to Mumbai to live in slums. And then do crimes, eat paan, dance on dj. Whole Bihar state is nothing bt burden on whole country@@NajmiNusrat
I am from Jharkhand and during my engineering college days in a college in Jharkhand in 2017, I had an acquaintance from Begusarai, Bihar. He was telling me about the good culture and food that they have in his city. I jokingly said to him, "Bro, take me to Begusarai, once!", and he replied, "Bhai, agar tumko le gaye apne saath, to tumko kidnap krke tmhara kisi k bhi saath shaadi kara diya jayega" (Bro, if I take you with me, you will be kidnapped and forcefully married to anyone). I never went. That thought scared my soul. Only God can save Bihar and its mentality.
The reality is bro i am from begusarai, and i don't know where this is happening in begusarai, yes i accept on the news basis that may be somewhere it may happened 😅 But don't afraid that much😂
I am from tamilnadu... there was one serial called bhagyavidhaata which aired years before.. the serial is based on forced marriage.. the male lead was kidnapped and forced to marry at the gunpoint.. I thought it only happens in serial.. shocked to know it happens in real life too
3 years back I was attending a relative’s wedding in Rajgir region. I had only visited Rajgir prior once when I was a kid. I did not have any idea about this sort of wedding. So when I visited Rajgir 3 years ago, my dad introduced me to one of his relative who was kidnapped and married in a similar fashion back in 90’s. Fast forward to the day of barat, I was on another car with strangers. All the cars were on the highway when all of a sudden, the car in which I was travelling took a detour onto a kutcha road. Now, since this story of kidnapping was fresh in my mind, I was literally shitting myself. I sent emergency messages and location to my friends😂😂😂. But it turned out that our car had taken a wrong turn due to fog in December. But i was really scared.
My father told me about such marriages about a couple of years back and i was so much shocked to know this, though we were laughing due to shock and on the mindset of people there.
I'm surprised that the criminals didn't force them to consumate in front of them and record it, and then blackmail the kidnapped groom. The level of evil these people can stoop to is unimaginable.
@@akashsinha2880 low-earning and lesser educated Indian men are crazy for getting married........ upper-middle class and and richer men avoid doing marriage nowadyas till pressure of parents becomes too much. Bihar is way more underdeveloped compared to other states so it's natural that a lot of men are crazy about getting married there.
As a bihari ,when i see how government plays a dirty politics with us ,and our government school teachers taking their capabilities exams , government officers are just doing dictatorship .....
Heh same as Indian being used in foreign then you all get pissed as why they do that this is the very same version of what you are doing to Biharis.....f the slang you shouldn't have a ounce of respect.
@@Shilpithakur2817 Indians are the highest earners in western countries. Of course there are stereotypes. But this exists for all ethnicities. Tell me something special biharis are doing
@@Shilpithakur2817no more bhai.. Ab jyada intelligent logo ke liye Indian use hota hai.. Kyu ki RUclips par Indian teachers se puri duniya sikhti hai aur... Unke desho ke topper bhi Indian hote hai jaise Harvard University, Cambridge
@@devarajarao360 bro my context isn't targeting India I am trying to say is that kitna bura lagta hai jab koi foreigner India ke bare me kuch galat bole toh same Biharis ko treat kiya jata hai soch ke dekho khud unhi ki country ke log unhe kitna Ganda treat karte hai same as those racist people.
@@devarajarao360 aur tum ye joh intelligent log ki baat kar rhe ho na ye vhi hai jo apni hi country me buri tarah treated hote hai aur foreign me settle ho jate hai tab toh sab bara proud bante phirte hai tab kaha jata hai slang bihari??? huh I am from bihar and yup we have many problems that doesn't mean they can easily pick on us.
My father wirked in Tripura state and he told me one of his senior was forced married to a lady. He was very fun loving person but after that marriage he stopped talking to people and later he died in few years.
@@MedinipuriTuka036yeah but we should not compare suffering. What women suffer and men suffer both are equally bad? Yeah modern laws discriminate with men but it doesn't mean 'women' are privileged.
@@DailyEdits666Official what the hell? Did you even read my comments? When did I say that is good in any way. I am saying that don't compare two suffering. Both are equally bad. Ladki kidnap ho aur ladka. Both are horrendous. Read my comments. The thing I am against is calling anyone more suffered. I would consider this kidnapping a form of rape. And rape is destroying either you are male or female. Trying to call one worse is an attack toward everyone who suffers from it. Because it is disgusting in any form.
Yeah because the brother does not want to give property share to his sister and does not want her to come back. Men play, after taking dowry make women bear kids against forcing them to stay with their parents, leave their parents, use marriage not give anything to them. Then stop sending your sister to strangers' homes, homes do not do household work. Men have been asking for dowry for centuries even without a government job. Sati paths were done in the area so their sister does not get any share in ancestral property. Earning high income also benefits men more than their wives, they make their wives after taking hefty dowry. I do not see men giving dowry to women being lower rank than her. Leaving their parent taking care of her parent. Saw many stat unemployed after marriage and do not even do household work.
Not giving any share in the property to the sister, making women do household work after taking dowry which asked for compensation for your only responsibility of earning, separating her from her parent then expect that she should expect lower. Then why Bihari and Indian go for better job and better country . Women leaving her parent home will expect better home because it is easy adjust in better place than worst than. Then do expect them to.leave their parent and take care of your. Divide household work, childcare responsibility. No restriction of hours of working and specializing women in clothes it restrict the kind of work and location they can work. Invest in daughter, people invest in son only due to dowry left with nothing to invest in daughter due to dowery and being forced to leave their parent and not taking care of them in old age.
@@user-mq8el4mf3q come out of your dreams. If a man cheats a girl then the man has to go to jail. How many women's are working now a days and how many women have left the family, kinds and elope an other person taking all the properties and what is the punishment for her? If a man cannot live with his wife she gets alimony, but if a women doesn't like to leave with a man does he get alimony? If man hits a women or scolds her or even if he stairs for more than 3 mins it is an domestic abuse and harrasment. What if the women does it back is it back? Is there any cases like that? If the boy kidnaps a girl and marry her is it right and how can it be right with a women? She works a lot in house! What a funny saying are you isolated from the world or what come out of your dreams and see how a man suffers... morning 6am he wakes get's ready to work on the way he as to face the traffic, loan lended persons and need to work in heights, explosives and risky jobs listening to all the bad words from the persons and need to work for parents work for wife work for children work for relatives and after retirement again due to betrayal of children come to road and work or beg. Any how people like you will help the lady and say man is a drinker, greedy idiot..... My question was simple if dowry is bad then is it how come asking for a government job isn't bad? Women population is less why do you give a beautiful girl by giving dowry? It's not because there is no man they need money, heritage and prestige
wow what a gr8 mentality comes from ur side.. there are always both good and bad people in every state or country. I accept that yes my state is dealing with this huge problem but why? it is bcz the state is poor and people are poor.. if there is a good government then this dowry thing can be handled.. ppl need to be aware and someone has to take that step of making them aware and educated abt these things.. you can't judge the whole place bcz I hv never seen or heard this thing in my district nd if u do so it shows ur mentality
That's why Education is very important. I am from Tamilnadu. If u see the South India. We had these problems at least 75-100 years back but not now. The only thing is education and caste names are not associated with our names. That's the important thing. U can't always blame the people. 🤦🤦
I’m a bihari and me and my brother will not give dowry or take dowry for marriage we made it so clear in our family and thankfully our family also support our decision…. But this thing is happening in my fua (bua) family for my cousin marriage and i feel ashamed unfortunately they are not ready to change there mind set
Le lena bhai bcz agr shadi me in future kuch gar bar hua to fake case Or 498 me adha salary Or property dena padega... Isse better he phle thoda lelya jaai.. Phle me bhi tere jaise hi sochta tha bt lagi chis dekh ke mind badal diya
Not to demean biharis. But you voted lalu. The root cause of casteism in bihar and its eventual downfall. That too multiple times. @@humansgonnadiesooner
@@humansgonnadiesooner JH, near Ranchi. Originally from Western MP. I've seen the development in MP but this place can develop a lot more. Btw you don't need to be a Bihari to see it's sorry state. Unless you admit that the state is in trouble. There is no saving it. I hate Jingoism.
See a lot of my friends who are also from Bihar directly or indirectly blaming govt. It's ok to blame them at level of law and police but we can't ignore that this problem is grown due to our society, we have to accept it and work on it.
Yes, you need better cultural leader, ye sab iss wajah se bhi ho sakta hai ki British raj ke samay. Sabse jyada backward, overlooked region raha Bihar and usse Bengal se separate karte hi unhe acche leaders nahi mile jo social uplift net ki baat kare, yaa toh aise leader the par bhula diye gaye.
Govt to doshi hai hi.. bihar govt is worst .. I have heard waha pe exam bohot cancel ho jate h bcz of question paper lik.. govt agar thik se policy banati to society itni underdeveloped nahi rakhte.. itni uneducated nahi rahte.. girls education k liye govt ko age ani paregi.. beti paida hote hi bihar ki log Sochte h kaise shadi karwayenge.. agar ye sochte ki parhayenge ,naukri karwayenge fir to dahej itni zyada prevalent nhi hota na.. larkiya empowered nahi hai isliye to larke wale itni itni dahej le pate hai.. dahej lena illegal h.. to bihar govt ko nahi pata kya bihar me larke 15..20 lakh lete h shadi me.. govt knows everything still they don't do anything.. govt is directly involved.. and bihar govt is the main culprit.. govt is like guardian ... if guardians don't look after their child properly the child will be a mess..
I’m belongs to Bihar but we have migrated to South India. Right now these things happened in Bihar that makes shock. Bihar families always think Girl is a one kind of thing.😢😢😢😢
I never wanted to say this, but i think bihar should be put under union territory category for better governance. The land full of fertile soil, minerals, skilled and unskilled human resources is being wasted.
@@arnabbanerjee33There are a lot of talented people in Bihar, and those who aren't talented are hard working. I'll even go so far as to say it is the intelligence capital of North India
@@babygoldy1450 tu thoda sa bhenkalauda h kya? Railway k sare engineers Bihari hain. The amount of people wasting themselves in central govt jobs in bihar is enormously high
I'm from bihar and funny story my dadi once told me about how a compounder faced the same fate I thought the incident was one of a kind, now I know that sadly it was just one of many
My father was a doctor he went to patna for further studies from Rajgir and then he was kidnapped by a gangster who forced him to give exam for their son instead. He was starved for two days. Like papa ne mujhe kuch din pehle bataya idk how much has he suffered
I am a BIHARI but and I m from the capital patna.. In my district there is not even a single case like this but I did not know that there is something calles pakadua vivah in other districts.. It's so heart wrenching to hear all of this as a person who lives in Bihar.. we need a stable and good government so that these ppl could be punished. This is a very imp topic to be discussed..
I'm from district Bhojpur that is adjacent to Patna and even I have never heard of it. But our districts are much more developed compared to some distant districts in Bihar and there's a high chance that these things are fairly common in those districts although we don't hear it often because these type of sensitive topics are suppressed and not reported due to social pressure.
When you talk about 'Dahej' in particular please also mention the demands from Girl/Women side too. They always have a high expectations from the Men/Boy
I just want say thank you open letter for making this video. Men's issues are not talked by the government or anyone at all. So please keep talking and spreading awareness about these things. Also would appreciate if you do podcasts related to this with others. I'm not from Bihar but it seems really concerning
@@JR_Music_Hub 😅😅 Welcome dear Seriously I am telling the truth my father has given around 15 lakhs to my elder sister's mother in law and father in law , with bed , sofa set , dinner set ,gold chain and many more and now they are earning for me 🥲.
@Amber-mt3nv pehli baat hamare yaha usse dahej nahi tilak bolte hai , Or dusri baat ye ke yaha saalo se yahi chalta aa raha hai , mere kehne se koi rukne wala nahi hai naa tilak Dene se or na hi lene se , humare yaha tilak lena or Dena grav ki baat mana jata hai ( mai isse agree nahi karti ki tilak Dena garv ki baat hai par kisi ko mujhse ya phir mujh jaisi soch rakhne wale bihari se koi fark nahi padta ) or Jo log tilak nahi dete ya nahi lete hai log sochte hai ki ladka ya ladki mai fault hai
I am engineer girl originated from Bihar still mere liye bhi dowry demand kr rhe the vaha log mai vaha ke logo se frustrated ho gayi thi last me maine Madhya Pradesh ke ladhke se sadi ki without any dowry
Aapne sahi kiya. Mere ghar me bhi 2 bhaiyo ki shadi bina dowry ke huyi hai. But meri dono bhabhi job me hai. Aapki bhi shadi bhi bihar me ho jati bina jb ke. But aaj bihar me job wale ladki ki shadi ki musibat bina job wale ladki bani huyi hai. Ek ladke ki job lagti hai ki ladki wale usko celebrity bna dete hai. Mai abhi struggle kr raha hu aur mai bhi job wali ladki se shadi karna chahat hu yadi job ladki to job wali ladki se karunga shadi bina dahej ke.
So you are well settled, aap kisi berojgar se Saadi karo nahi lega koi dowry, Agar bhikmango ki tarah paisawala ladka paise wala ladka karte ladka dhundo gi lege hi dahej koi bhi Mere dost k papa marriage broker hai, maine khud pucha hai unse, bihar ki ladki chahiye kitna bhi paise wali ho, well settled ho... Uski paise ki bhuk nahi milti... Ladkiwale ladko ko unke naam se bulane k bajaye unko paise se pehchante hai Saadi k pehle, ye 1 lakh wala, ye sarkari Naukri wala hai, ye gaari wala hai.... Rahi baat engineer larki ki, tu ek ladki engineer thi IT mai, 2lakh salary hai uska, ab usko crores kamane wala chahiye ya koi foreign mai settled chahiye, Ladkiya enti ghatiya, bhikmangi hoti hai mujhe uss din pata chala 😨😨
@@darksun9394 It shouldnt matter if a woman works or not. In a marriage both the husband & wife need to contribute without taking alms from the parents. Beggars take alms. Ppl who take dowry looks like beggars. If 1 person is earning & other person is contributing more to housework but not earning, it's equivalent to supporting the family financially as the need for extra help from outside which can only be got once u pay is gone. Mutual respect & self-respect r important. Countries with regressive thoughts will never rise. Bihar is a poor state coz Bihar has a regressive mindset & doesnt follow normal logic & harbours similar kinds of thoughts that u commented. Also the spelling is "Marry".
@@Halahalamadrid73 It's coming bcoz of prevalence of dowry & caste-based marriages. If women r educated & marriages no longer demand dowry from the girl's parents & ppl can get rid of the caste concept, all the evils will be erased...else kuch nehi hoga.
@@hi-oj1jh wtf even your logic mean , if parents can't have dowry just don't marry her , kidnapping is a bigger crime and you normalising that Dowry is given by girls parents for couple life & the husband life long need to pay for her & earn for family Mostly dowry is not compulsory it's about their financial thing If they don't have just don't marry their daughter, kidnapping & forcing some random guy is biggest crime , Tf Even you mean child
I'm from Bihar Begusarai where Pakdauaa vihah was normal before 2010 I have seen such marriages in my childhood One of my friend is also victim of this.. And I want to correct something about this video 1. There is no such Gangs who operates these crimes but Local goons do this In some cases friends and family members are involved 2.This is common in lower casts(OBC EBC AND SC) not in upper cast but exception are always there lower cast don't fight legally that's why there is low rate in official data of them but upper cast data shows high due to case registered by them 3. Uneducated Boys were also kidnapped for marriage so govt job and well settled and well secured family is not the main reason for this.. There are also some reasons that provokes girl father or we can say girls family to do pakadauaa marriage - high demand of dowry by grooms side.. usi ko kidnap krte h jyadatar jisse pahle shadi lgwana chahte the aur ladki and Ladka dono pasand Kiya Jaa Chuka tha but dowry ne mamla bigaad diya - jab kisi ladki ki shadi nhi ho paa rhi hoti h tab there can be many reasons for this also(another social problem of Bihar) -
Who is anyone to call others lower caste , bap dada angrezo k jute chatne Wale he aj khudko upper caste bol rahe hae😅 , another bimaru mentality casteism
Thanks for adding English subtitles, as am from south India. I heard about these stories through movies. This seems really concerning indeed people mindset must change, otherwise justice for victims will be recurring phenomenal without a permanent solution. This issue requires a unique approach from government polices to not approve marriages through this sick methodology. With India stepping into a greater economic shift!. These system act as a rotting agent in international media about democracy and governing actions by regulatory bodies.
You are right bro these things spoil not only international image but worsen the image of Bihar as it is already sickening.......well I am from Bihar and these things do happen but in several districts like I am from northern part and here we don't see these things to call bihar as a whole like this is wrong 😢I know we have many shortcomings but most of them are coming from the broken system we have our own diverse culture morals to uphold but to think it's going nowhere hurts. 🤕 we are being isolated by other states no one wants solution they just like rampaging their own rotten thoughts.
@@openletterytbhai I feel like how you have bought women victims in this crime against men hope in future you also bring male victims of rape (huge cases of made to penetrate rape according to CDC and recent studies on male rape) and male victims of DV (new studies show male victims being similar in number to women victims) when you cover future video regarding rape or DV. You should into see various studies like "women are wonderful effect" and "fear of crime/victimisation paradox" where women fear crime more despite being minority victims of violent crime.
@@ObsidianSpearheadMaharashtra is developed and eduacted Gujarat too I haven't heard a single case like this unlike Bihar which just reflects it's backwardness and rural mindser
13 saal pehle 2009 m meri shadi Bihar m hui thi . Meri shadi k liye Mera Bhai market kuch saman lene gaya jaha se usko inhi pakadaua logo ne utha liya . Wo log bihaar k begusarai jile se the . Aise hi zabardasti Dara dhamka k torcher k sath mere Bhai ki shadi krwa di gayi . Aur jb usko humare Ghar aane k liye rawana kr diya gaya to ghar ake usne ladki ko rakhne se saaf mana kr diya aur akhir m 15/20 din baad ladki ko uske mayeke bhijwa diya gaya jisko lene humare Ghar se kabhi koi gaya hi nhi ..aur fir Mera Bhai Yun hi achanak ghar chhod k kahi chala gaya. Jo kuch salo baad lauta fir bhi ladki ko rakhne tayiyaar ni hua . Akhir m ladki walo ne apni beti ki shadi kahi aur karwai . Aur Aaj Mera Bhai bhi apni pasand ki ladki se shadi krke khus h
@openletteryt Hello bhaiya loved your videos. I am from a rural area in Rajasthan and currently facing a problem of child marriage😢. Currently preparing for IIT jee and hopefully I will get selected. But it's a humble request that please make a video on this also. People should know what kind of problems people face.
@@anshuraj5734 getting pressure from family and this so called "samaj" to get engaged... My all friends who are younger than me have already got married. I am the only survivor till 17...
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 Forced *marriages, known as "Pakadua Vivah," are prevalent in Bihar, where boys are kidnapped and married at gunpoint, often with the help of gangs operating as a business model.* 01:59 Forced *marriages violate the Hindu scriptures, categorized as evil marriages due to lack of consent from the bride and groom, and are now organized by gangs for profit.* 03:38 Dowry *remains a significant issue in Bihar, with families resorting to forced marriages due to societal pressure and financial constraints, leading to extortionate demands from groom's families.* 05:55 Forced *marriages are conducted at gunpoint, often targeting middle-class boys, with families coerced into silence by threats of fake dowry cases, leaving legal recourse as the only option to dissolve such marriages.* 07:45 Societal *pressure and caste dynamics drive families to resort to forced marriages, perpetuating a cycle of oppression, especially for girls who are often seen as burdens and married off without consent.* 08:38 Forced *marriages deeply impact both boys and girls, with long-term consequences and challenges in acceptance, legal battles, and societal stigma.* 10:31 Despite *legal interventions, the prevalence of forced marriages persists in Bihar, highlighting the need for societal mindset shifts to truly address the issue.* Made with HARPA AI
Magadh was literally the land of elite ideals and perfection. They dominated and perfected all of India for hundreds of years and influenced the way other Indians conducted for atleast a 1000 years. But what Bihar is now is not even a pale pale pale shadow of Magadh. Hope the State improves and the people rise to the mindset standards of their ancestors.
Im a Gujarati from Maharashtra,attended my closest friend's wedding in outskirts of patna,was there for 5 days i must say it was a terrible experience,i encountered some truly narrow minded people and saw terrible behaviors and also how badly people treat each other there. It was sad to witness all that,as i will always regard the role of Bihar/Magadh to one of the highest standards from historical perspective,and the contributions it made to the Indian Subcontinent.
Actually the Maharashtrians have terrible behaviour too and they don’t even get along with others. Biharis are hospitable to others atleast and they have better and cheaper resources too. Every state has its own problem that needs to be resolved.
@@heisenberg9595we have also a mouth we can also trash talk about someone about whom I don't even know but we are not trash minded people like you who will disrespect Whole state for the wrong doing of some criminal..... So have a good day with trash minded and self superiority complex....
@@sastakarlmarx 🤡 Okay bruh mai to bas reality bata rha tha Bhai tumlogo ko ek reason ke karan southern states se Maharashtra se Gujarat se bahar nikala tha isliye muh mat khulva
@@bobbyc465 you talk like typical Dravidian kid , tamilnadu , Orissa , Kerala ,Karnataka were the most poor during independence and even after 30-40 years of independence, but with later on various government policies and coastal advantage and stable politics it emerged back to its richness , for your kind information Bharat has always been the most richest place on entire planet contributing more tha 50% of world GDP and within "magadh" current day Bihar was always the centre of India , maurya emire and Gupta Empire during king samudragupta Bihar was the most richest region on entire planet, during samudragupta era Bharat came to known as the golden bird , what kept Bihar backward was the Buddhist invasion through their missionaries, Bihar became the centre for Buddhism they manipulated many Hindus , further Islamist destroyed Bihar then the bristishers sucked every industry and money from Bihar and Bengal region the most , then the most corrupt politicians like lalu , destroyed Bihar further , then various government policy erdica
South India...civilized?...which part of South.r u from ? ...same south ...where a boy and girl are beaten up because they were talking to each other....or adult women were thrashed because they were in a pub...or a burkha clad woman is surrounded and harrassed by her own classmates...the list is endless...
I am from uttar pradesh.. But currently i am living in patna (Bihar). I used to live with a room partner from bihar and one day he went to meet his girlfriend and he got caught suddenly people decided to marriage both of them believe me he was 19-20 year old They lock both of them in the room for 2 days for first night.
हां, ऐसे ही बिल्कूल इसी तरह के घटना में बगल वाले गांव में हुआ था आज से लगभग 2 साल पहले। मेरे बगल वाले गांव में बहुत सारे भूमिहार जाति के लोग रहते हैं वहां पर एक 25-30 के उम्र के लड़के का शादी हुआ था। जब उनका शादी हुआ तब वह नए - नए अपने नौकरी की शुरुआत की थी साथ ही उनके पास बहुत सारे और भी प्रकार के संपति थी - जैसे गांव में बहुत सारे जमीन, शहर में अपना एक अपार्टमेंट, एक Scorpio. और जब वह अपने नौकरी से घर ले लिए लौट रहें थे तब उनके कुछ लोगों ने किडनैप किया और दो दिनों तक वह आदमी किडनैपर के पास रहा और फिर उनके बाद वह घर आए तो साथ अपने अपनी पत्नी लाए। और बाद में पता चला कि ये सब उनके कुछ खास रिश्तेदार द्वारा ही किया गया था जो पकड़ौवा शादी में शामिल थे।
I had been to a marriage ceremony of an ex-colleague from NTPC in Begusarai. Many of his colleagues had also come, and I knew a lot of them. Some random people were approaching us and talking to us about what we do. I noticed that my ex-colleagues from NTPC were giving bullshit information about themselves. Later they told me that those random people were actually agents and if they found someone suitable, they would kidnap that guy for "pakadua shaadi".
While I generally don't mind when people make light-hearted jokes, this situation is more serious. It's disheartening to see laughter in the comment section solely because the subject is male. If we were to reverse the genders, the reactions would likely be quite different, and it's essential for everyone to recognize the seriousness of the matter.
I am originally from Bihar, but my immediate family and I have been settled in Delhi since my parents' marriage. After watching this video, my mother shared that a similar situation occurred in my father's elder brother's life. He attended a friend's marriage, and the people there liked him so much that they forced him to marry a girl from their community by giving him some drugs so that he cannot protect himself and run. Eventually, our family accepted it, considering there were no other options."
It seems to me that society has two problems in this. 1. The girl will have to stop considering herself a burden and 2. Dowry. Society will have to improve with time. In such a marriage, both parties are affected. If government and law should take proper steps, otherwise it will be very difficult to get out of this situation.
You are right bro...even I had a friend who belongs to Darbhanga Bihar and he was earning only 20k and covered by lots of loans and EMI but he got married he received 25 lakhs as a dowery with One Maruti Swift and all marriage expanse 😂😂😂...his in laws was happy to get him because he was working in MNC and living in Delhi NCR 😂😂😂...ye haal hai Bihar ka😂😂
My uncle is a victim of pakadua vivah. He get married to a then gangstar and now a politician's daughter. My grandfather had 10 bighas of land and was headmaster that's why they kidnapped my uncle even though he was unemployed at that time. But now my uncle- aunt is living happily together and they have a son and a daughter.
As a person who was born in a anti-bihari family, I just wanna say, now i get why most people hate Bihar because of this.. Bihar is an old minded town and the fact shit like dowry and men getting stolen is happening is pretty stupid. Im sorry if i offended you but like, im just saying my opinion.
As a common Bihar resident This pakadua marriage is very very rare in Bihar please increase your research in any topic I never seen or listen this type of marriage before.
I am gujrati staying in Maharashtra. Abhi hamare gav gujrat me bihar se ladki sadi karke laye hai bahut acchi hai sabhi se gulmil gayi hai . Padhilikhi bhi hai. Sasural k riti rivaj bhi acche se sikh liye hai abhi dekha hai bihar ki ladkiyo k parents apni beti ki shadi dusre state me karne lage hai . 1 ) dowry deni nahi padti2) drink karke marne wala ladka nahi milta3) ladke wale puri shadi ka kharcha uthate hai4) ladki aage study karna chahe to wo bhi karate hai . Aur kafi reason hai jo wo ladki ne bataye muje .
Aishi baat nahi hai bhai. Mere ghar me bhi 2 bhai ki shadi huyi hai bina dahej ke but meri dino bhabhi job me hai. Ye koi nahi dikhata ki yadi ladka private me 50k monthly kamata hai usko koi nahi puchhta but group d government job me 25k kama raha hai usko 50 ladki wale aa jate hai rishta leke, uske baad bihar me ek riwaj hai ki ladki ko reject nahi kiya jata yadi ladki ko koi reject kr deta hai to phir uske yaha shadi ka rishta nahi jata, isliye dahej ka bahana banaya kata hai. Bihar me yadi aapki ladki aur ladka same hai dino job me to no dowry. But ladka job me hai aur ladki unemployed tb dowry laheha
5:31 Imagine gang fees being lesser than dowry , so much so that , people can afford to hire a whole gang of people for the whole process of shaadi but can’t afford dowry 💀💀💀💀
@@Kathakathan11 Moreover millions of bihari families live in haryana works in factory and farms daily what I see Bihari send their daughters sisters to local home for work as maid including washing washroom but not vice versa Bihari fathers forces their girls to do labour work in factories of haryana Bihari brothers force their sisters to wash washroom of locals in haryana for earning few rupee Bihari women r labours in construction sites in haryana Bihari women r labours at grain market vegetables mkt in haryana Bihari women keep thela at footpath of roads nd street of haryana and also half a dozen states women
My ancestors are from Bihar but Alhamdulillah for Islam. Being a Muslim in our religion there is no concept of forceful marriage and if somebody force you to do so then nikah will not be valid . Both girls and boys will have to agree that they will accept each other as a life partner that's called Nikaah.
@@MyGmailGmailjharkhand mai nii h , rarely hota hoga , mai bhi jharkhand se hi hun and my father is in a government job. It's pretty chill here in jharkhand than bihar
Another example of how patriachy, a system where it's societally unacceptable for a woman to exist independent of a male guardian (father, husband, brother), harms men too.
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Too much Unique !!!😂
phele baar Jana ke
Asha kuch bhe hota hai 🥲
Open letter bro
I am one if your subscriber.
U may pick this comment or not I am stating a strong perspective
Please make a video of unnesecery and tottaly annoying foll9wer of pravu shreee ram.
Before saying anything I have to state that I am a bramhin and I have faith in God and love them and worship them.
Shree Ram came to bharat
After the struggle of half a thousand years.
Instead of celebrating it in home some nonsence brothers so called ram bhakts are dancing in vulgar songs made on ram and going in ralley.
I have no problem with ralley, then can have bhajan they can do kirtans of ancient sanatan way to celebrate .
They are drinking alcohol shading this celebration.
Bursting crackers is not a bad thing but they are knowingly bursting them in front of other religion homes or colonies which will give rise to communal fight .
So please make a video on this topic to educate those illiterates of sanatan.
I am proud hindu.
I am too much emmotional to see ramlala. He is looking absolutely maryadapurn and too oooo beautiful. His eye his aura is too much to being blank. It is hypnotic.
Math culture and kirtan culture is being replaced by this vulgar activities. Please if you don't promote them you should be called as nonsanatani. I am not saying to you, I am saying this to all the comrnt readers.
Have a opinion on this please.
You given perspective of just one side
8:29 8:29 @@Ram-ansh_as_Sociologist-3
Acha baat he apki shadi Hui he❤❤❤❤ warna aap nipat chuke gye hote😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I belong from eastern UP. When my nana was 16 yrs old he went to visit his maternal grandmother. But a few villagers kidnapped him because he was 6ft tall and a very handsome fair skinned young boy. My nana's father used to work in kolkata so there was adequate wealth. So he was also kidnapped for 'pakdawa vivah'. 😂 He was so scared but he gained his strength during the haldi ceremony and asked people for permission to go pee. He then went down to pee and literally ran away from there and straight landed at his home in langoti. 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😅
This is not funny...actually.
that's so scary but funny at the same the
Tum bhi kor lo na....! Please ❤
@@manavkeshri3492Well it’s happening to a man so……
Men are sold by their parents
1st things first Men are not objects to be sold(dowry) or stolen(pakadua vivah)
2nd things second women are also not objects to be thrown out of house
Gyan pele raat bhar ata nhi jhant bhar 😂
agree
I knoww😢😢😢
@@chineasewarrior123wo toh pta hi chal rha hai aapke baat karne ke tarike se...😂
sahi kahan @@chineasewarrior123
As a Bihari, I want to thank and appreciate you for making this video. People rarely think about Bihar and its problems.
Biharis are themselves responsible for this plight of Bihar
Why should anyone think about Bihar when the bihari themselves don't want to improve, stop getting 10 to 15 kids and elect a better person 😅😅😅
As a Bihari you should feel ashamed of yourself for making this comment" People rarely think about Bihar and its problems." Tum log khud responsible ho is condition ke liye. Jake chup chaap se IAS grand entry wale reels bana. Sale khud kabhi apne action ki responsibility lenge nahi. Aur conditions improve hogi bhi nahi chahe 2024 ho 2060 you people will still remain same. Kyon khud kuch karenge nahi bas royenge.
Bihar won't develop until you stop eating ghutka
Bhai jubtak andhbhakt rahinge desh ka development kaunse bi state main ni hoga. Jubse yeh andhbhakt aye hai desh ki Mehengai, Rozgari pe koi baat ni karta. Sirf hindu-muslim, mandir-masjid.. no body focus on development or fute. 😢
Here in Nagaland no one is forced to marry. We love one another that is the most important thing to be a happy marriage life. What's the use of marriage if there's no love? Marriage is the only sunset of LOVE. To get married you have to first love her/him. Have love before marriage and have a wonderful time. Have a happy marriage life 😊😊bbye
You are right my father spend four years in kohima and always appreciate the people of Nagaland during his first posting he says it is the most safest place for women in India actually in North India dowry is the main reason for these kinds of bullshit and now these days people are more hypocrite they says that they are against of dowry and ask the package of girls so that they can jugaad permanent dowry sometimes they ask for both
Actually Biharis only know fucking each other 😂😂
Almost every North East state
Bro don't even tell about it coz we really know that North east is the best. I love you all people and I hope North East prospers so that people learn to have peace and respect for rights like you all.
I am from Bihar mai jaha se hu idhar aisa kuch nhi hota hai
Coming from Bihar , I can say" That's True" ...
Mere ghar ke bagal me ek ka hua hai bhayi, Wo bechara Govt school ka teacher kuch hi din pahle bana tha,
Gao ke ek ladke ke baarat me gya tha, wahi pe pakad se uski shadi kr di ..
Humare yaha isko "DHAD PAKAD BIYAAH " Bolte hain.
Ispe to maie bhi video banane wala tha, KUDOS TO OPEN LETTER
bachke rehna bhai
@@shubhamtariyal439yaar mujhe Darr lag raha hai aab😂😂😂😂
Nice to see your comment man.
You are exposing so called pseudo liberal or librandu on social media .
waise Bihar me kaha se ho bhaiya?
pocket me swiss knife leke ghumna, bhaiya 😂 😂
@@sudhanshu6538 kyu? Pakarne jaoge? 😆 😆
me as a Bihari can confirm that we are doing things EXTRA-ordinary ..........
(idk where i am feeling sooo proud that people from my own country is criticizing me)
Hii,,kya naam hai aapka
@@Darsh_Yadav__2025 Asbestos
Not cool, it is not a moment of proud or pride
@@NO_ONE_GREATmurkh hai bhai chordo
Kisiko bol ke mera bhi kidnap karke saadi karwado bro😅😅
As a bihari I have enormous appreciation for you for raising this issue
Uttra Pradesh ✅
Now it's time for Bihar🤝
Yes ❤🕉
Dono bhai hai
paper leak 🤣🤣🤣🤣
🎉😊
Jab Tak Yadav Hai Tab Tak Bihar me gawaar 🤡 ka hi sarkar rahega 😂😂
Bihar me kuchh nahi ho sakta 😊
We need a strong and stable government in Bihar,,
Bihar then:🗿
Bihar now:🤧
Broo you are right local logon ko awaz uthani chahiye
@@NajmiNusrat lack of awareness and education in Bihar and our society..
Local PPL go to Mumbai to live in slums. And then do crimes, eat paan, dance on dj. Whole Bihar state is nothing bt burden on whole country@@NajmiNusrat
As a bihari I can say that nitish kumar is the ©hutiya of the century
Bihar is just weird bro
Most serious topic to be covered in this video! Thanks for giving this❤
Glad you liked it!
I am from Jharkhand and during my engineering college days in a college in Jharkhand in 2017, I had an acquaintance from Begusarai, Bihar. He was telling me about the good culture and food that they have in his city. I jokingly said to him, "Bro, take me to Begusarai, once!", and he replied, "Bhai, agar tumko le gaye apne saath, to tumko kidnap krke tmhara kisi k bhi saath shaadi kara diya jayega" (Bro, if I take you with me, you will be kidnapped and forcefully married to anyone).
I never went. That thought scared my soul. Only God can save Bihar and its mentality.
The reality is bro i am from begusarai, and i don't know where this is happening in begusarai, yes i accept on the news basis that may be somewhere it may happened 😅
But don't afraid that much😂
👍👍
Saved yourself
I was reading your comment's hindi line in bihari accent although I'm from Uttar Pradesh.
"Kyuki jharkhand bhi kabhi Bihar thaaa " 🎵 🎵 🎵 😂😂😂
@@anoi-vg2uu it's like we Pakistanis are far better than India and have suffered a lot from Indians🤣🤣 isko bolte hai dhokha
I am from tamilnadu... there was one serial called bhagyavidhaata which aired years before.. the serial is based on forced marriage.. the male lead was kidnapped and forced to marry at the gunpoint.. I thought it only happens in serial.. shocked to know it happens in real life too
I also remember that show.
I am from Assam . Me v dekhi thi woh serial
@@dhunumai1912mee too
Atrangi re starring Dhanush and Sara Ali Khan.
😂😂😂same , i thought it just happen in serial . I still remember that series
3 years back I was attending a relative’s wedding in Rajgir region. I had only visited Rajgir prior once when I was a kid. I did not have any idea about this sort of wedding. So when I visited Rajgir 3 years ago, my dad introduced me to one of his relative who was kidnapped and married in a similar fashion back in 90’s.
Fast forward to the day of barat, I was on another car with strangers. All the cars were on the highway when all of a sudden, the car in which I was travelling took a detour onto a kutcha road. Now, since this story of kidnapping was fresh in my mind, I was literally shitting myself. I sent emergency messages and location to my friends😂😂😂. But it turned out that our car had taken a wrong turn due to fog in December. But i was really scared.
Madattot( from a totlaa)
I belong to that place rajgir ( a hell cheap minded ppl )
My father told me about such marriages about a couple of years back and i was so much shocked to know this, though we were laughing due to shock and on the mindset of people there.
Gand fat gayi hogi wapas kabhi Gaye waha 😆
Damn dude I can imagine how you felt
I'm surprised that the criminals didn't force them to consumate in front of them and record it, and then blackmail the kidnapped groom. The level of evil these people can stoop to is unimaginable.
Bahi ek do case hote h. Mere dost Engineer bhi h or sarkari naukri bhi h. Becharo ki shadi nhi ho rhi h. Kha se comments khreedte ho.
Bhai, Blackmailing cases hue hain .. Jehanabad mein somewhere 2016
Now don't give them new idea
@@akashsinha2880 low-earning and lesser educated Indian men are crazy for getting married........ upper-middle class and and richer men avoid doing marriage nowadyas till pressure of parents becomes too much.
Bihar is way more underdeveloped compared to other states so it's natural that a lot of men are crazy about getting married there.
Bhai idea kyo de raha hai 😂
As a bihari ,when i see how government plays a dirty politics with us ,and our government school teachers taking their capabilities exams , government officers are just doing dictatorship .....
Labrats 😢
Actually bihar desperately want a strong leader like yogiji.
Bihari hote hi ese hai jo esi government ko laate hai
@@technicalgamers7324bhai ground reality tum nhi janta
@@technicalgamers7324 Bro option bhi pehle kaha thaa.Either rjd or jdu.There was no independent bjp
That's why the Word "Bihari" is used as slang in India
Heh same as Indian being used in foreign then you all get pissed as why they do that this is the very same version of what you are doing to Biharis.....f the slang you shouldn't have a ounce of respect.
@@Shilpithakur2817 Indians are the highest earners in western countries.
Of course there are stereotypes. But this exists for all ethnicities.
Tell me something special biharis are doing
@@Shilpithakur2817no more bhai.. Ab jyada intelligent logo ke liye Indian use hota hai.. Kyu ki RUclips par Indian teachers se puri duniya sikhti hai aur... Unke desho ke topper bhi Indian hote hai jaise Harvard University, Cambridge
@@devarajarao360 bro my context isn't targeting India I am trying to say is that kitna bura lagta hai jab koi foreigner India ke bare me kuch galat bole toh same Biharis ko treat kiya jata hai soch ke dekho khud unhi ki country ke log unhe kitna Ganda treat karte hai same as those racist people.
@@devarajarao360 aur tum ye joh intelligent log ki baat kar rhe ho na ye vhi hai jo apni hi country me buri tarah treated hote hai aur foreign me settle ho jate hai tab toh sab bara proud bante phirte hai tab kaha jata hai slang bihari??? huh I am from bihar and yup we have many problems that doesn't mean they can easily pick on us.
Forced marriage is not at all not accepted. I don't know how this is happening in this generation??? Very nice video.
Mans aren’t safe either in society Rajasthan me kidnap nhi par chori or ladai ka Bohot issue hai btw great video
Women aren't safe because of men, and men aren't safe because of other men.
Kaun karata hai ye chori and ladai? Auratein?
@@Kathakathan11 both men and women including kids as well
@@dumb_art156abe tu dumb hi h kha dekha tune rajasthan m
My father wirked in Tripura state and he told me one of his senior was forced married to a lady. He was very fun loving person but after that marriage he stopped talking to people and later he died in few years.
that's actually depressing
Omg 😳
He must had fun with the tribal lady and paid the price😂u joker
😮
Agar ladki kidnap hojye toh crime ,,or agar ladka hojye toh mazaak 😢
Dosh toh Indian law ka hain jaha kuch bhi ho, Male is always guilty
Both are bad. Let's not compare people's suffering.
@@MedinipuriTuka036yeah but we should not compare suffering. What women suffer and men suffer both are equally bad? Yeah modern laws discriminate with men but it doesn't mean 'women' are privileged.
@@HerMi.T bhai agar tujhe kidnap krengay toh Tera mazaak udangay ...tab pta chlega
@@DailyEdits666Official what the hell? Did you even read my comments? When did I say that is good in any way.
I am saying that don't compare two suffering. Both are equally bad. Ladki kidnap ho aur ladka. Both are horrendous. Read my comments.
The thing I am against is calling anyone more suffered. I would consider this kidnapping a form of rape.
And rape is destroying either you are male or female. Trying to call one worse is an attack toward everyone who suffers from it. Because it is disgusting in any form.
Dowry is illegal but demanding a government employee is not a illegal thing
Yeah because the brother does not want to give property share to his sister and does not want her to come back. Men play, after taking dowry make women bear kids against forcing them to stay with their parents, leave their parents, use marriage not give anything to them. Then stop sending your sister to strangers' homes, homes do not do household work. Men have been asking for dowry for centuries even without a government job. Sati paths were done in the area so their sister does not get any share in ancestral property. Earning high income also benefits men more than their wives, they make their wives after taking hefty dowry. I do not see men giving dowry to women being lower rank than her. Leaving their parent taking care of her parent. Saw many stat unemployed after marriage and do not even do household work.
Not giving any share in the property to the sister, making women do household work after taking dowry which asked for compensation for your only responsibility of earning, separating her from her parent then expect that she should expect lower. Then why Bihari and Indian go for better job and better country . Women leaving her parent home will expect better home because it is easy adjust in better place than worst than. Then do expect them to.leave their parent and take care of your. Divide household work, childcare responsibility. No restriction of hours of working and specializing women in clothes it restrict the kind of work and location they can work. Invest in daughter, people invest in son only due to dowry left with nothing to invest in daughter due to dowery and being forced to leave their parent and not taking care of them in old age.
@@user-mq8el4mf3q come out of your dreams. If a man cheats a girl then the man has to go to jail. How many women's are working now a days and how many women have left the family, kinds and elope an other person taking all the properties and what is the punishment for her? If a man cannot live with his wife she gets alimony, but if a women doesn't like to leave with a man does he get alimony? If man hits a women or scolds her or even if he stairs for more than 3 mins it is an domestic abuse and harrasment. What if the women does it back is it back? Is there any cases like that? If the boy kidnaps a girl and marry her is it right and how can it be right with a women? She works a lot in house! What a funny saying are you isolated from the world or what come out of your dreams and see how a man suffers... morning 6am he wakes get's ready to work on the way he as to face the traffic, loan lended persons and need to work in heights, explosives and risky jobs listening to all the bad words from the persons and need to work for parents work for wife work for children work for relatives and after retirement again due to betrayal of children come to road and work or beg. Any how people like you will help the lady and say man is a drinker, greedy idiot.....
My question was simple if dowry is bad then is it how come asking for a government job isn't bad? Women population is less why do you give a beautiful girl by giving dowry? It's not because there is no man they need money, heritage and prestige
@@user-mq8el4mf3q justifying the wrong thing is not good. girl and boy side both are materialistic and greedy. there is no love in such marriages.
Very serious topic to be covered . Thanks for showing light in this very great video and all details are well researched.
So nice of you to say this ❤️
Wo aapka chasma spectacles bhut lovely hai konsi company kii hh bata sakte ho kya😊
@@openletterytagar dowry nahi hoti toh shayad Aisa nahi hota.
Problem is not the government or the gangs. Problem is Bihari people and their mentality. Nothing better can be expected than this from Bihar.
Yes you are right. I am from Bihar and I accept this. It's a worst state to live. That's why I work hard to settle out of bihar
wow what a gr8 mentality comes from ur side.. there are always both good and bad people in every state or country. I accept that yes my state is dealing with this huge problem but why? it is bcz the state is poor and people are poor.. if there is a good government then this dowry thing can be handled.. ppl need to be aware and someone has to take that step of making them aware and educated abt these things.. you can't judge the whole place bcz I hv never seen or heard this thing in my district nd if u do so it shows ur mentality
That's why Education is very important. I am from Tamilnadu. If u see the South India. We had these problems at least 75-100 years back but not now. The only thing is education and caste names are not associated with our names. That's the important thing. U can't always blame the people. 🤦🤦
@@willaskll plzz don't settle in Bengal or any southern state and if you do for god's shake don't try to impose your thoughts.we are sick of it now 😤
@@dinesh6489 then these Biharis will threaten about Hindi imposition
I’m a bihari and me and my brother will not give dowry or take dowry for marriage we made it so clear in our family and thankfully our family also support our decision…. But this thing is happening in my fua (bua) family for my cousin marriage and i feel ashamed unfortunately they are not ready to change there mind set
Yeah you right...my bua also she not ready change there mind set
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Le lena bhai bcz agr shadi me in future kuch gar bar hua to fake case Or 498 me adha salary Or property dena padega... Isse better he phle thoda lelya jaai.. Phle me bhi tere jaise hi sochta tha bt lagi chis dekh ke mind badal diya
Man, Bihar need to put in Union territory under central goverment and require fast reform.
No..ppl can vote thank you.
@@humansgonnadiesooner I'm not in support of what this comment said but people of Bihar really need to wake up now. It's only gotten worse.
Not to demean biharis. But you voted lalu. The root cause of casteism in bihar and its eventual downfall. That too multiple times. @@humansgonnadiesooner
@@mihirojha4475 where do you live in bihar?
@@humansgonnadiesooner JH, near Ranchi. Originally from Western MP. I've seen the development in MP but this place can develop a lot more.
Btw you don't need to be a Bihari to see it's sorry state. Unless you admit that the state is in trouble. There is no saving it. I hate Jingoism.
"I am also from Bihar and preparing for government job exams."😮
"I am starting to feel scared now' 😢
Sambhal ke rahna bro pata chala tumhara bhi shaadhi nah karwade
Bhai yogi lao bihar me koi
Byah ho gya hai tumhara?
Exam hai jakadva pass karoge tho pakadva..
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See a lot of my friends who are also from Bihar directly or indirectly blaming govt. It's ok to blame them at level of law and police but we can't ignore that this problem is grown due to our society, we have to accept it and work on it.
Yes, you need better cultural leader, ye sab iss wajah se bhi ho sakta hai ki British raj ke samay. Sabse jyada backward, overlooked region raha Bihar and usse Bengal se separate karte hi unhe acche leaders nahi mile jo social uplift net ki baat kare, yaa toh aise leader the par bhula diye gaye.
Govt to doshi hai hi.. bihar govt is worst .. I have heard waha pe exam bohot cancel ho jate h bcz of question paper lik.. govt agar thik se policy banati to society itni underdeveloped nahi rakhte.. itni uneducated nahi rahte.. girls education k liye govt ko age ani paregi.. beti paida hote hi bihar ki log Sochte h kaise shadi karwayenge.. agar ye sochte ki parhayenge ,naukri karwayenge fir to dahej itni zyada prevalent nhi hota na.. larkiya empowered nahi hai isliye to larke wale itni itni dahej le pate hai.. dahej lena illegal h.. to bihar govt ko nahi pata kya bihar me larke 15..20 lakh lete h shadi me.. govt knows everything still they don't do anything.. govt is directly involved.. and bihar govt is the main culprit.. govt is like guardian ... if guardians don't look after their child properly the child will be a mess..
I’m belongs to Bihar but we have migrated to South India. Right now these things happened in Bihar that makes shock. Bihar families always think
Girl is a one kind of thing.😢😢😢😢
I never wanted to say this, but i think bihar should be put under union territory category for better governance. The land full of fertile soil, minerals, skilled and unskilled human resources is being wasted.
On urgent basis
Who is skilled in bihar😂?
@@arnabbanerjee33There are a lot of talented people in Bihar, and those who aren't talented are hard working. I'll even go so far as to say it is the intelligence capital of North India
@@babygoldy1450 tu thoda sa bhenkalauda h kya? Railway k sare engineers Bihari hain. The amount of people wasting themselves in central govt jobs in bihar is enormously high
Nice suggestion
I'm from bihar and funny story my dadi once told me about how a compounder faced the same fate
I thought the incident was one of a kind, now I know that sadly it was just one of many
Tere dada - dadi ki shadi bhi pakadva hogi , puchh jake
This is my first time hearing about this, and I'm finding it difficult to believe that it's happening in the 21st century.
My father was a doctor he went to patna for further studies from Rajgir and then he was kidnapped by a gangster who forced him to give exam for their son instead. He was starved for two days. Like papa ne mujhe kuch din pehle bataya idk how much has he suffered
Bro Hats off To Your Research and Hardwork 🍷🗿
Thank you so much 😀
@@openletterytBro, waise toh mai MP ka hu par Mera ek Bihar ka ek dost hai , wo bolta hai ki waha par saare log 😎DABANG😎 hote hai
@@Ind-VIDENCEPvtLtdHan pata hai, isilye toh Bihar ka asa halat hai ☕🗿
I am a BIHARI but and I m from the capital patna.. In my district there is not even a single case like this but I did not know that there is something calles pakadua vivah in other districts.. It's so heart wrenching to hear all of this as a person who lives in Bihar.. we need a stable and good government so that these ppl could be punished. This is a very imp topic to be discussed..
Iska matlab itna serious nhi h ye. Bihari ko bhi abhi pata chala
@@rubbish9231 Rarely happens bro! It doesn't happen in my district anymore. Used to happen some 30 years back.
I'm from district Bhojpur that is adjacent to Patna and even I have never heard of it. But our districts are much more developed compared to some distant districts in Bihar and there's a high chance that these things are fairly common in those districts although we don't hear it often because these type of sensitive topics are suppressed and not reported due to social pressure.
@@Croco_D This video is sorta misleading tbh. This hardly happens. Probably in 4-5 absolutely remote districts.
I came to know about all these through social media never heard or seen in my life
When you talk about 'Dahej' in particular please also mention the demands from Girl/Women side too. They always have a high expectations from the Men/Boy
I just want say thank you open letter for making this video. Men's issues are not talked by the government or anyone at all. So please keep talking and spreading awareness about these things. Also would appreciate if you do podcasts related to this with others. I'm not from Bihar but it seems really concerning
Men's right matters
We need MEN'S RIGHT COMMISSION asap.
Ok, Building “MEN’S RIGHT COMMISSION ASAP”
Building in Minecraft🗿
How bro perpetuators are men as well 😂
@@aurelcruz4115 Gender EqUaLiTy bra ☕🫵🗿
@@aurelcruz4115 victim matters, perpetuators doesn't
@@aurelcruz4115 u r proving urself as a sexist, lol !!
As a bihari I can confirm this is true
Or 15-20 lakh dowry is a normal thing here 😑
I'm coming 😂😂
@@JR_Music_Hub 😅😅
Welcome dear
Seriously I am telling the truth my father has given around 15 lakhs to my elder sister's mother in law and father in law , with bed , sofa set , dinner set ,gold chain and many more and now they are earning for me 🥲.
@Amber-mt3nv pehli baat hamare yaha usse dahej nahi tilak bolte hai ,
Or dusri baat ye ke yaha saalo se yahi chalta aa raha hai , mere kehne se koi rukne wala nahi hai naa tilak Dene se or na hi lene se , humare yaha tilak lena or Dena grav ki baat mana jata hai ( mai isse agree nahi karti ki tilak Dena garv ki baat hai par kisi ko mujhse ya phir mujh jaisi soch rakhne wale bihari se koi fark nahi padta ) or Jo log tilak nahi dete ya nahi lete hai log sochte hai ki ladka ya ladki mai fault hai
@@JR_Music_Hubberozgaar ho kya
Oh o I am come bihar no matter Tilak no
Money only look good looking girl 👧
I am engineer girl originated from Bihar still mere liye bhi dowry demand kr rhe the vaha log mai vaha ke logo se frustrated ho gayi thi last me maine Madhya Pradesh ke ladhke se sadi ki without any dowry
didi kya bihar meh intercaste marriage hota hi
Aapne sahi kiya. Mere ghar me bhi 2 bhaiyo ki shadi bina dowry ke huyi hai. But meri dono bhabhi job me hai. Aapki bhi shadi bhi bihar me ho jati bina jb ke. But aaj bihar me job wale ladki ki shadi ki musibat bina job wale ladki bani huyi hai. Ek ladke ki job lagti hai ki ladki wale usko celebrity bna dete hai. Mai abhi struggle kr raha hu aur mai bhi job wali ladki se shadi karna chahat hu yadi job ladki to job wali ladki se karunga shadi bina dahej ke.
So you are well settled, aap kisi berojgar se Saadi karo nahi lega koi dowry,
Agar bhikmango ki tarah paisawala ladka paise wala ladka karte ladka dhundo gi lege hi dahej koi bhi
Mere dost k papa marriage broker hai, maine khud pucha hai unse, bihar ki ladki chahiye kitna bhi paise wali ho, well settled ho... Uski paise ki bhuk nahi milti... Ladkiwale ladko ko unke naam se bulane k bajaye unko paise se pehchante hai Saadi k pehle, ye 1 lakh wala, ye sarkari Naukri wala hai, ye gaari wala hai....
Rahi baat engineer larki ki, tu ek ladki engineer thi IT mai, 2lakh salary hai uska, ab usko crores kamane wala chahiye ya koi foreign mai settled chahiye,
Ladkiya enti ghatiya, bhikmangi hoti hai mujhe uss din pata chala 😨😨
Biggest problem is Dowry. If that stops, all stops.
Merry an unemployed or work yourself then you don't have to give dowry. Don't expect everything for free
@@darksun9394 It shouldnt matter if a woman works or not. In a marriage both the husband & wife need to contribute without taking alms from the parents. Beggars take alms. Ppl who take dowry looks like beggars. If 1 person is earning & other person is contributing more to housework but not earning, it's equivalent to supporting the family financially as the need for extra help from outside which can only be got once u pay is gone. Mutual respect & self-respect r important. Countries with regressive thoughts will never rise. Bihar is a poor state coz Bihar has a regressive mindset & doesnt follow normal logic & harbours similar kinds of thoughts that u commented. Also the spelling is "Marry".
Forcing to a marriage is more bigger crime
@@Halahalamadrid73 It's coming bcoz of prevalence of dowry & caste-based marriages. If women r educated & marriages no longer demand dowry from the girl's parents & ppl can get rid of the caste concept, all the evils will be erased...else kuch nehi hoga.
@@hi-oj1jh wtf even your logic mean , if parents can't have dowry just don't marry her , kidnapping is a bigger crime and you normalising that
Dowry is given by girls parents for couple life & the husband life long need to pay for her & earn for family
Mostly dowry is not compulsory it's about their financial thing
If they don't have just don't marry their daughter, kidnapping & forcing some random guy is biggest crime ,
Tf Even you mean child
I repeat Bihar is not for Beginners 💀
They be beharing hard…nothing beats bihar in wtf factor….
bihar is for uneducated
Bro don't make youtube comments like instagram 😂
@@_hello_dear_ so true , for a sec i thought was i watching on insta 😅 after coming across this comment
@@MaryK02 haha 😂
I'm from Bihar Begusarai where Pakdauaa vihah was normal before 2010 I have seen such marriages in my childhood
One of my friend is also victim of this..
And I want to correct something about this video
1. There is no such Gangs who operates these crimes but Local goons do this
In some cases friends and family members are involved
2.This is common in lower casts(OBC EBC AND SC) not in upper cast but exception are always there lower cast don't fight legally that's why there is low rate in official data of them but upper cast data shows high due to case registered by them
3. Uneducated Boys were also kidnapped for marriage so govt job and well settled and well secured family is not the main reason for this..
There are also some reasons that provokes girl father or we can say girls family to do pakadauaa marriage
- high demand of dowry by grooms side.. usi ko kidnap krte h jyadatar jisse pahle shadi lgwana chahte the aur ladki and Ladka dono pasand Kiya Jaa Chuka tha but dowry ne mamla bigaad diya
- jab kisi ladki ki shadi nhi ho paa rhi hoti h tab there can be many reasons for this also(another social problem of Bihar)
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Heard like family members itself sells guys for mrg taking money from girls parents or force guys to marry
Who is anyone to call others lower caste , bap dada angrezo k jute chatne Wale he aj khudko upper caste bol rahe hae😅 , another bimaru mentality casteism
Thanks for awareness
Except caste based assumptions... All points seem valid 👍
Thanks for adding English subtitles, as am from south India. I heard about these stories through movies. This seems really concerning indeed people mindset must change, otherwise justice for victims will be recurring phenomenal without a permanent solution. This issue requires a unique approach from government polices to not approve marriages through this sick methodology. With India stepping into a greater economic shift!. These system act as a rotting agent in international media about democracy and governing actions by regulatory bodies.
You are right bro these things spoil not only international image but worsen the image of Bihar as it is already sickening.......well I am from Bihar and these things do happen but in several districts like I am from northern part and here we don't see these things to call bihar as a whole like this is wrong 😢I know we have many shortcomings but most of them are coming from the broken system we have our own diverse culture morals to uphold but to think it's going nowhere hurts. 🤕 we are being isolated by other states no one wants solution they just like rampaging their own rotten thoughts.
Don't visit Bihar after see this video 😂😂😂
😆😜🤣😂🥲😅😢👍
tere desh ka emblem three lions ka aaj bhi samrat ashok bihari ka hai aur tere parliament mein jo map hogi chandragupt maurya bihari ka
Bro hats offf. U are very hardworking ❤ and a great entertainer ❤❤😊
Thank you so much 😀
Is that citizen z ( shiva) in your profile picture? If not then you should thank me cuz I helped you find your doppelganger. 😂
@@openletterytbhai I feel like how you have bought women victims in this crime against men hope in future you also bring male victims of rape (huge cases of made to penetrate rape according to CDC and recent studies on male rape) and male victims of DV (new studies show male victims being similar in number to women victims) when you cover future video regarding rape or DV. You should into see various studies like "women are wonderful effect" and "fear of crime/victimisation paradox" where women fear crime more despite being minority victims of violent crime.
Very great and thankful i born in Maharashtra... Need strong mindset and strict rules to overcome this issues...
Me too , our Maharashtra is best .
@@ObsidianSpearheadyes mindset of people is really good in maharashtra
@@varadchougule6955 yeah and now even child marriage is past for us .
And our police is best in world .
We just need a really stable government .
@@ObsidianSpearheadMaharashtra is developed and eduacted Gujarat too I haven't heard a single case like this unlike Bihar which just reflects it's backwardness and rural mindser
@@heisenberg9595 West India is best part of India
Let it continue, don't stop , keep going guys 😅
My neighbours are Bihari and the groom asked for 10 lakh in dowry whereas they only earned 15k a month. So sad.
Finally somebody talking about these issues.
13 saal pehle 2009 m meri shadi Bihar m hui thi . Meri shadi k liye Mera Bhai market kuch saman lene gaya jaha se usko inhi pakadaua logo ne utha liya . Wo log bihaar k begusarai jile se the . Aise hi zabardasti Dara dhamka k torcher k sath mere Bhai ki shadi krwa di gayi . Aur jb usko humare Ghar aane k liye rawana kr diya gaya to ghar ake usne ladki ko rakhne se saaf mana kr diya aur akhir m 15/20 din baad ladki ko uske mayeke bhijwa diya gaya jisko lene humare Ghar se kabhi koi gaya hi nhi ..aur fir Mera Bhai Yun hi achanak ghar chhod k kahi chala gaya. Jo kuch salo baad lauta fir bhi ladki ko rakhne tayiyaar ni hua . Akhir m ladki walo ne apni beti ki shadi kahi aur karwai . Aur Aaj Mera Bhai bhi apni pasand ki ladki se shadi krke khus h
I am a teenage boy from Patna. All I wanna say is that
Is is real and happening at such a magnitude!!!
Hare Krishna 🙏🏻
Be safe bro
I will not tell you 😅
@@AdityaSingh-lu8pb bro because in my school I have Class Mate Aditya
@@AdityaSingh-lu8pb sorry
@@AdityaSingh-lu8pbbro, bach ke rehana
Men's issues are sidelined in today's society. Appreciated u took it.
Right but did u watch the whole video? It’s a dowry issue which is a woman’s rights issue.
It’s both issue. It’s not good for both genders.
Watch the whole video. It’s about a caste issue.
No consent taken from boy or girl.
Because the family wants to get rid of the women.
This is not even only a mens issue. Go watch the whole video
@openletteryt
Hello bhaiya loved your videos.
I am from a rural area in Rajasthan and currently facing a problem of child marriage😢. Currently preparing for IIT jee and hopefully I will get selected. But it's a humble request that please make a video on this also. People should know what kind of problems people face.
Are you a victim brother ?
Asking this in all seriousness.
@@anshuraj5734 getting pressure from family and this so called "samaj" to get engaged...
My all friends who are younger than me have already got married. I am the only survivor till 17...
Bro are you suffering from Child Marriage 💀
@@adventure2238
Facing pressure from family and this so called "samaj" to get engaged
@@anildhaker2743
I pray to Lord Mahadev to give you strength to not give up 🙌🙂
I am from Bihar and a proper Bihari
I like to say Bihar is not for Beginners ☠️
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 Forced *marriages, known as "Pakadua Vivah," are prevalent in Bihar, where boys are kidnapped and married at gunpoint, often with the help of gangs operating as a business model.*
01:59 Forced *marriages violate the Hindu scriptures, categorized as evil marriages due to lack of consent from the bride and groom, and are now organized by gangs for profit.*
03:38 Dowry *remains a significant issue in Bihar, with families resorting to forced marriages due to societal pressure and financial constraints, leading to extortionate demands from groom's families.*
05:55 Forced *marriages are conducted at gunpoint, often targeting middle-class boys, with families coerced into silence by threats of fake dowry cases, leaving legal recourse as the only option to dissolve such marriages.*
07:45 Societal *pressure and caste dynamics drive families to resort to forced marriages, perpetuating a cycle of oppression, especially for girls who are often seen as burdens and married off without consent.*
08:38 Forced *marriages deeply impact both boys and girls, with long-term consequences and challenges in acceptance, legal battles, and societal stigma.*
10:31 Despite *legal interventions, the prevalence of forced marriages persists in Bihar, highlighting the need for societal mindset shifts to truly address the issue.*
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Magadh was literally the land of elite ideals and perfection. They dominated and perfected all of India for hundreds of years and influenced the way other Indians conducted for atleast a 1000 years. But what Bihar is now is not even a pale pale pale shadow of Magadh. Hope the State improves and the people rise to the mindset standards of their ancestors.
Im a Gujarati from Maharashtra,attended my closest friend's wedding in outskirts of patna,was there for 5 days i must say it was a terrible experience,i encountered some truly narrow minded people and saw terrible behaviors and also how badly people treat each other there.
It was sad to witness all that,as i will always regard the role of Bihar/Magadh to one of the highest standards from historical perspective,and the contributions it made to the Indian Subcontinent.
બિહારીયો તો દેશ નો ભાર છે તેમના થી કોઈ આશા ના રખાય
@@heisenberg9595bolne ko Mai bhi bol skta hu tumhare state k baare me ulta seedha lekin nhi bolunga I'm better than your thrash mentality
Actually the Maharashtrians have terrible behaviour too and they don’t even get along with others. Biharis are hospitable to others atleast and they have better and cheaper resources too. Every state has its own problem that needs to be resolved.
@@heisenberg9595we have also a mouth we can also trash talk about someone about whom I don't even know but we are not trash minded people like you who will disrespect Whole state for the wrong doing of some criminal..... So have a good day with trash minded and self superiority complex....
@@sastakarlmarx 🤡 Okay bruh mai to bas reality bata rha tha
Bhai tumlogo ko ek reason ke karan southern states se Maharashtra se Gujarat se bahar nikala tha isliye muh mat khulva
Good lessons for men ... Such things should happen as they wait for beautiful women , hard working n dowry...
VERY VERY VERY GOOD
This is truthfully funny
Serious topic. I don’t compare but In MP thats also done in north mp region 😅 i am from south mp but my friend from there also confirmed about this
My parents are from Bihar but I was born in Kolkata. I've always wanted to go there, but now, I think I'll enjoy puchka a little longer.
Are bhai aesa kuch nhi hota bihar me pata nhi kon sa sasta nasa krke aese video banata h ye log...
@@VikasKumar-po9ss bhai tumhare ilake me nahi hota hoga lekin sacchai hai ki state me bahut hai hai ye
@@TheBluePhoenix008 aapke papa kehte h ky aesa hota h
Congrats Bihar is improving with Litish Chacha and 12th fail Teju Bhaiya 😂😂😂
9th fail hai woh
@@Rajivsince2002😂
L0du Yadav has destroyed Bihar.
@@rahulp4830 4chawani 🐴 pe, L0du Yadav aur uska pura khandaan mere L0d3 pe
Ha aake bihar p vlog banao.. hum sab dekhna chate bihar k loss
Dahej:- ❌
Gift:- ✅
I am lucky to be born in the literate, traditional, intelligent and civilized South India.
well except for Bihar up Jharkhand Rajasthan some states are too developed like Maharashtra Gujarat etc
@@heisenberg9595 : But the majority still don't have decent behavior and a way of communicating with others.
@@bobbyc465 majority? Who're you talking about?
@@bobbyc465 you talk like typical Dravidian kid , tamilnadu , Orissa , Kerala ,Karnataka were the most poor during independence and even after 30-40 years of independence, but with later on various government policies and coastal advantage and stable politics it emerged back to its richness , for your kind information Bharat has always been the most richest place on entire planet contributing more tha 50% of world GDP and within "magadh" current day Bihar was always the centre of India , maurya emire and Gupta Empire during king samudragupta Bihar was the most richest region on entire planet, during samudragupta era Bharat came to known as the golden bird , what kept Bihar backward was the Buddhist invasion through their missionaries, Bihar became the centre for Buddhism they manipulated many Hindus , further Islamist destroyed Bihar then the bristishers sucked every industry and money from Bihar and Bengal region the most , then the most corrupt politicians like lalu , destroyed Bihar further , then various government policy erdica
South India...civilized?...which part of South.r u from ? ...same south ...where a boy and girl are beaten up because they were talking to each other....or adult women were thrashed because they were in a pub...or a burkha clad woman is surrounded and harrassed by her own classmates...the list is endless...
And here I am searching for a bride for the last 1.5 years, but unable to find the right one.😂 Kya jeevan hai.
Kaisi ldki chahiye bta
@@eevee6155 ladkiya supply karne wala spotted 💀
@@eevee6155kyun, tu ladki supply karta hai kya? 😂
Why did I need girl I have better life without girl and I think to never marry😂
@@NativeVsColonial yes ... I'm certified dalla 😃
This is dystopian. How on earth is this still prevalent in this time and age? Society as a whole needs a major reset😬
I am from uttar pradesh.. But currently i am living in patna (Bihar).
I used to live with a room partner from bihar and one day he went to meet his girlfriend and he got caught suddenly people decided to marriage both of them believe me he was 19-20 year old
They lock both of them in the room for 2 days for first night.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
First night 2 din chali 😂
😂😂😂
Bihar never fails to amaze me !!
As someone rightly said
1 Bihari 100 ......
Bimari
I am from bihar 😂😂
Bimari
As a bihari man and an engineer i am happy to see this😂😂
Edit- i am not serious
No wonder you guys are in the poorest state.
It' serious matter
Ladki bhi to mast honi chaiye bhai
Dahes mangega to hoga hi🤐
Tumhe Priyanka Chopra nhi milegi Bhai tou shant rho
I'm 17 now and my family also don't let me move outside in evening 😂😂
Bhai bura maat manna but bihari log ese kyu hote hain?😢
Dusre rajyo main sirf girls unsafe hain bihar main boys bhi unsafe hain...ise equality kehte hain...bro...😂😂
@@Bhavesh---chaudharyazbybhai girls bhi ab safe hai acche states me jaise maharashtra gujarat par bihar me to koi bhi safe nahi hai
@@heisenberg9595 joke ko joke tarah hi koni socho...main khud gujrati se hu..muje pta hain bhai..🤗🤗
@@Bhavesh---chaudharyazby gujarati ladki ke liye bolo kya karna padega nris, top mbas, iit iim , bussiness guy , aur kya kiya demand hai batao
हां, ऐसे ही बिल्कूल इसी तरह के घटना में बगल वाले गांव में हुआ था आज से लगभग 2 साल पहले।
मेरे बगल वाले गांव में बहुत सारे भूमिहार जाति के लोग रहते हैं वहां पर एक 25-30 के उम्र के लड़के का शादी हुआ था।
जब उनका शादी हुआ तब वह नए - नए अपने नौकरी की शुरुआत की थी साथ ही उनके पास बहुत सारे और भी प्रकार के संपति थी - जैसे गांव में बहुत सारे जमीन, शहर में अपना एक अपार्टमेंट, एक Scorpio.
और जब वह अपने नौकरी से घर ले लिए लौट रहें थे तब उनके कुछ लोगों ने किडनैप किया और दो दिनों तक वह आदमी किडनैपर के पास रहा और फिर उनके बाद वह घर आए तो साथ अपने अपनी पत्नी लाए।
और बाद में पता चला कि ये सब उनके कुछ खास रिश्तेदार द्वारा ही किया गया था जो पकड़ौवा शादी में शामिल थे।
I had been to a marriage ceremony of an ex-colleague from NTPC in Begusarai. Many of his colleagues had also come, and I knew a lot of them. Some random people were approaching us and talking to us about what we do. I noticed that my ex-colleagues from NTPC were giving bullshit information about themselves. Later they told me that those random people were actually agents and if they found someone suitable, they would kidnap that guy for "pakadua shaadi".
Sad
While I generally don't mind when people make light-hearted jokes, this situation is more serious. It's disheartening to see laughter in the comment section solely because the subject is male. If we were to reverse the genders, the reactions would likely be quite different, and it's essential for everyone to recognize the seriousness of the matter.
Thanking God once again that I was not born in BIHAR 💀
Truely it's a live hell
Thanks God I also not born in Bihar And I am from Pakistan🇵🇰 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@SumairKhoso-sc1sg As a Non Bihari Indian
Definitely Pakistan is way better than Bihar
Thanks bro 🙏👍
@@Anyone-d3fChu**** sala
Bkl
MC**
Anti-national
I am originally from Bihar, but my immediate family and I have been settled in Delhi since my parents' marriage. After watching this video, my mother shared that a similar situation occurred in my father's elder brother's life. He attended a friend's marriage, and the people there liked him so much that they forced him to marry a girl from their community by giving him some drugs so that he cannot protect himself and run. Eventually, our family accepted it, considering there were no other options."
A simple solution is Education...& Wisdom.... between right and wrong...
But thats the thing, its not so “simple”! Its not just education, we need more. Peoples mind set with marriage should change
It seems to me that society has two problems in this. 1. The girl will have to stop considering herself a burden and 2. Dowry. Society will have to improve with time. In such a marriage, both parties are affected. If government and law should take proper steps, otherwise it will be very difficult to get out of this situation.
You are right bro...even I had a friend who belongs to Darbhanga Bihar and he was earning only 20k and covered by lots of loans and EMI but he got married he received 25 lakhs as a dowery with One Maruti Swift and all marriage expanse 😂😂😂...his in laws was happy to get him because he was working in MNC and living in Delhi NCR 😂😂😂...ye haal hai Bihar ka😂😂
Bihar ❌
Barbaad ✅
@@Bully7490 bihari ❌
barbadi ✅
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O bhaisaab agar ye haal he toh agar koii mahine main 80-90 thousand kamane wala government employee ho toh usse kitna milega 😂
Bro 1L+ monthly salary private job wale ko kitna milega? Asking for a friend 😅
bhai 1cr kamane wale ko bahu aur mummy dono se shaadi karayenge kya?
But brother I'm Bihari and I listen first time about this type of concept
BIHAR = Beyond Imagination of Human And Robots
Aayeho na Hamra bihar me😂😂😂😂😂
Was never aware of this.. can't believe this happens in India!! Hope the situation improves.. great video btw
Thanks for making such kind of knowledge full videos
My uncle is a victim of pakadua vivah. He get married to a then gangstar and now a politician's daughter.
My grandfather had 10 bighas of land and was headmaster that's why they kidnapped my uncle even though he was unemployed at that time. But now my uncle- aunt is living happily together and they have a son and a daughter.
Excellent topic and video.
As a person who was born in a anti-bihari family, I just wanna say, now i get why most people hate Bihar because of this.. Bihar is an old minded town and the fact shit like dowry and men getting stolen is happening is pretty stupid. Im sorry if i offended you but like, im just saying my opinion.
Why sorry, i agree with you
What does anti-Bihari family mean?
@@Bully7490 anti-bihari means a person who hates bihari or bihar in general
@@Liv_888 where are you from brother Punjab ?
What a unique topic!!!! 😍😍😍😍
You like Baal Daboch Saadi Magni (BDSM)? 😍😍😍
@@NativeVsColonial I'm sorry. Did you mean Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism?
As a common Bihar resident This pakadua marriage is very very rare in Bihar please increase your research in any topic I never seen or listen this type of marriage before.
change the genders and see the reactions ....
I am gujrati staying in Maharashtra. Abhi hamare gav gujrat me bihar se ladki sadi karke laye hai bahut acchi hai sabhi se gulmil gayi hai . Padhilikhi bhi hai. Sasural k riti rivaj bhi acche se sikh liye hai abhi dekha hai bihar ki ladkiyo k parents apni beti ki shadi dusre state me karne lage hai . 1 ) dowry deni nahi padti2) drink karke marne wala ladka nahi milta3) ladke wale puri shadi ka kharcha uthate hai4) ladki aage study karna chahe to wo bhi karate hai . Aur kafi reason hai jo wo ladki ne bataye muje .
Aishi baat nahi hai bhai. Mere ghar me bhi 2 bhai ki shadi huyi hai bina dahej ke but meri dino bhabhi job me hai. Ye koi nahi dikhata ki yadi ladka private me 50k monthly kamata hai usko koi nahi puchhta but group d government job me 25k kama raha hai usko 50 ladki wale aa jate hai rishta leke, uske baad bihar me ek riwaj hai ki ladki ko reject nahi kiya jata yadi ladki ko koi reject kr deta hai to phir uske yaha shadi ka rishta nahi jata, isliye dahej ka bahana banaya kata hai. Bihar me yadi aapki ladki aur ladka same hai dino job me to no dowry. But ladka job me hai aur ladki unemployed tb dowry laheha
The real question is how did the mentality of Biharis became so sick 😢?find the cause first
Too much freedom
100% unemployment is only reason. Get employment make them develop their mind, these things will not happen.
The answer is in Question itself.. "Mentality"
5:31 Imagine gang fees being lesser than dowry , so much so that , people can afford to hire a whole gang of people for the whole process of shaadi but can’t afford dowry 💀💀💀💀
Haryana, uttarakhand Boys: Ladki chahiye shadi krni
Bihari boys: shadi nhi krni, save us from kidnappers😭
Less girls in punjzb rajasthan up too
Khoob sari ladkiyan h bas ladka kamata ho to
Actually many Haryanvi guys marry Bihari woman , trafficking karke bechi jaati hai ladki.
Women are sold in Haryana
@@Kathakathan11
Moreover millions of bihari families live in haryana works in factory and farms daily what I see
Bihari send their daughters sisters to local home for work as maid including washing washroom but not vice versa
Bihari fathers forces their girls to do labour work in factories of haryana
Bihari brothers force their sisters to wash washroom of locals in haryana for earning few rupee
Bihari women r labours in construction sites in haryana
Bihari women r labours at grain market vegetables mkt in haryana
Bihari women keep thela at footpath of roads nd street of haryana and also half a dozen states women
@@anandrohilla3345 I am talking about women being trafficked for MARRAIGE, obviously. You go and read some reports first
Ye jyadatar vaishali district me hota h udhar kisi kaam se jaane me v dr lgta h 😂
@@Sauravkumar-kt1td
OBC waalo me bhi jo rich family se aate hai unko bhi danger hai 😂😂
Bhai vaishali se hu bhai 3out of10 shadhi aise hi hota hai yadav mein khash kar
I am from motihari ( Champaran) and this type of marriages are negligible but when a bf and her gf found by relative then marriage happened 😅😅
bhai yeh to almost sab jageh hota hai mere class me ek ladki ka bf hai gharwalo ko pata chl gaya aur unki shadi hone wali hai agle saal
My ancestors are from Bihar but Alhamdulillah for Islam. Being a Muslim in our religion there is no concept of forceful marriage and if somebody force you to do so then nikah will not be valid . Both girls and boys will have to agree that they will accept each other as a life partner that's called Nikaah.
In some places they do force marriage..especially child marriage. Islam isn't as perfect as you think
*cough* forcefully abducting hindu girls and converting them to islam and getting them forcefully married to muslim men....
When my father got into a govt job and whenever he went to his village...he rarely stepped out of his house because of this system of marriage😂😂
Pakdwa shadi peheli baar suna hai I'm from jharkhand
Its still prevalent in many villages of bihar @@MyGmailGmail
@@MyGmailGmailjharkhand mai nii h , rarely hota hoga , mai bhi jharkhand se hi hun and my father is in a government job. It's pretty chill here in jharkhand than bihar
I am from darbhanga bihar
Here forced marriage is not popular
Here pond, road, dam and etc. stealing is at the top
Dirty politics ruined the Bihar...
Another example of how patriachy, a system where it's societally unacceptable for a woman to exist independent of a male guardian (father, husband, brother), harms men too.
Bro, you cover such great, and informative topics I always love watching your videos. KUDOS😊