Wow , i didnt see myself on video when i comment lol now im shocked and guys just a little update , since i priotize my feelings like feeling attractive , being in perfect love being grateful for perfect relationship it goes very well . She texted me morning and night every day , she was cold but now she is saying i missed you and what not. Im not in the end of my goal but process going very well since i dwell on the feelings who would i be if she loved me. I prioritize my Good feelings like how im grateful for my relationship and how attractive i am things like that . Thank for the analyzing me btw love you ❤️. Edit: i will update too when i get my desired end which i happy lovely pasionate relationship .
@@maleekaismyguardianangel that video really resonated me and to be honest i am really eased and happy Because all puzzle collected for me with that video because i also found my other issue with manifesting now i get . Thank you my favourite RUclipsr and my dear scorpio friend 🫠
Wouldn’t it be better just to ask for a date? To ask for communication? To shoot some shots that are visible and if nothing comes of it to move on? If anything to be manifested. Manifest the opportunity to rendezvous, manifest clear communication, manifest the ability to see if who they are aligns with a life you want, manifest your person seeing you for who you are and allowing them the choice to approve or disapprove. In the end if you decide on the route of manipulation maybe the manifestation should be to become that person that they would approve of. That means you have to be ok with the person you become and okay with transforming yourself and letting go of your own traits. That way all parties at least have choices. Less manipulation involved.
It’s like when you stop having a crush on someone who isn’t really that great, and suddenly the fog lifts and you see all their flaws that you can’t believe you missed before.
what do you do if you are on the receiving end of this? the person I have mutually loved for almost 5 years within the past month has had this realization in her head, where she lost feeling and suddenly her mind is into selective bias where she only sees the mistakes i have made and flaws I have over time, and made this decision in her head that invalidates all of our time of love and care, without giving me the chance to work on it. I think we all will make mistakes and I have been too needy and sometimes had an attitude etc, but she was always the only person I ever wanted, I always loved her, and I don’t know how to get her to see me in the crush light again. I see my mistakes, but I don’t have the chance to work on them and I feel so helpless and full of remorse.
@@blubarbii because she left me and moved on so rapidly, within a month if not weeks of telling me the problems, I tried to work on them but they didn’t matter to her anymore
i was reading the art of seduction last night and a particular line came up that cleared the fog in my head “you cannot seduce someone who is already satisfied” i understand now that you will not feel dependent or reliant on external sources of validation, love, acceptance, etc when you are already satisfied with it from yourself
how do you seduce someone who is satisfied? don’t you want your partner to be satisfied and happy with themselves and their life? my 5 year relationship fell off a cliff over the last month, and I think it’s over, the issue is, that as my partners life improved, she had less time to spend with me, and I became clingy to that time which made me look like i didn’t accept or support her changes, she said she was happy with her life and her social life and didn’t get fulfillment from me anymore, I can’t hate who she is over the past month when the 56 months before that she has been so unconditionally loving and my best friend. she is worth fighting for but I don’t know where to begin, i want her to be happy with her life
Hello, How would you suggest on how to learn to do that? I mean to stop chasing and become the chaser. I don’t call, nor text my ex, but I cannot stop thinking about her. Of course, I try to have for the most part positive thoughts. Please, is there anything else you think I can do? Thanks
@@ronaldclaude1892 It wont be easy to stop thinking about someone you once loved, though missing someone is a good thing because it shows you are healing❤️. to become the chased, put all the love & energy you want to give to your ex to yourself and you will soon attract that love, push yourself to go out and try new things and let yourself have so much fun you forget about everything else around you. take risks, buy yourself flowers, read a good book, spoil yourself with gifts, eat your favorite foods. this is essential, alot of times in relationships we forget about ourselves because we tend to spend all of our time money and energy on our partner. whereas you cant love someone if you dont love yourself. so when you’re thinking about your ex try doing things you love to do, put all of your energy into yourself and love will flow to you.❤️ try looking in the mirror every morning whilst taking deep breathes and say “ i love myself, i dont chase love , i let love flow to me “ atleast 3 times😊
The idea of someone stringing you along because they like being admired and adored by you is sooooo real. I dated someone for almost 5 years, but never really "had" him because I put him on a pedestal. He was never gonna give me the commitment I wanted, because I was so desperate for it, and I ACTED desperate. He kept me around solely because I built up his ego and constantly gave him compliments. He even told me as much. I wasted half of my 20s on that man because my self esteem was so low that I believed that if I could just make him love me then I could finally love myself. Don't be like me. My life has improved dramatically since we broke up almost 2 years ago and I stopped trying to mold myself into his perfect woman.
The same thing happened to me. 5 years of my life just gone. When the breakup happened he asked me to stay friends with him. And guess what I agreed. But eventually it got really hard for me to see him with other girls. So I told him to just forget about me and blocked him from everywhere. This was my first relationship. All this happened today. Feels like I can't breathe but i also know it will get better eventually. Out of sight out of mind. Now I don't have the courage to ever be in another relationship.
@@Amylynnklh900the ones you don’t want always comes back. Release him and go on about your life as if you don’t want him. I’m sure you’ve had a guy that you weren’t that into that just keeps texting and calling you and you’re just like “Ugh will he go tf away?!?!” But he never does. It’s because you don’t want him. That’s how you get chased. Act like you have so many other important things to do. Act like you’re the prize. Once you do that, you change the energetic vibrations and voila, u miraculously get a text back. Don’t worry about the timeframe. I guarantee it probably won’t happen when you want it to 😂
this literally works 💀, just wanna share my story for a moment. The moment u stop giving a fuck and focus on urself and realize u attract the people who u think deserve to be in ur life, u change ur mindset, have high confidence THESE PEOPLE COME RUNNIN BRO WHAT
"tHeY cAn FeEl It" I think that's bullshit. They can see it because of your behaviour/how you act towards them. I think it puts unnecessary pressure on yourself if you think that they can sense any emotion or thought that you have.
This is so true. Have had a crush on someone for nearly 2 years and nothing. The last few days, started viewing myself as being the catch and bingo……he’s changed up his energy toward me 180 degrees 😊
I disagree with this. If a man only puts you on a pedestal after you learned your worth it means you taught him how you want to be treated which is wrong. Your dream man will know these things without you telling them
@@feliciaboston6365this is very idealistic. There is no perfect lover. Relationships require strong communication and an openness to get to know each other’s boundaries and needs. Expecting your partner to read your mind is a disaster waiting to happen
When this happens, it means both's people's self image and self concept (a kind of self esteem) is healthy already. This is the best case scenario, but since as humans we're flawed, it is also very natural to develop self esteem while being in a relationship. Having a good self esteem in relationships also means showing people around us how we want to be treated and setting boundaries. Yes, that also means love interests, libera and spouses too. There no healthy relationship without healthy self esteem. I see nothing wrong in your love interests changing attitude once your self esteem gets better. What would worry me is if he didn't change is behaviour at all.
The moment I let go entirely, the moment I lost all my feelings toward him, started thinking he wasn’t all that, he’s liking my pics watching my stories and god knows what’s next! I hate it. I hate that when you want something it doesn’t happen and when you don’t want it it happens. Because now all I want is another guy’s attention and I’m not getting it
Master tip to depedestalizing them: Be okay with not having them in your life. Be okay when you think of never ending up with them. Secondly and more importantly, do not let them in on so easily. Make them earn it. It's like, I've got a secret about you and I'm going to toy with you for it. It's hilarious.
I was manifesting a specific person and I wasn’t sure if i should or not and this is the message I needed I’m learning how to love myself and pour more into myself
I think if we're here watching this, it may best to move on. Focus on yourself and chalk up your last relationship as experience. Do your best not to make the same mistake twice.
after spending a couple weeks being desperate and anxious, i realised it led to nothing but misery. the reason why me and my specific person aren’t where i want to be is because i was deeply insecure. i had super low self esteem and ruined the loving relationship we had. that was the problem! and that’s what i’m doing now, taking care of myself and taking them off this imaginary “pedestal”. your video came at the right time reinforcing what i should keep doing. great sign from the universe. thank you for this video, i absolutely adore your channel! sending hugs and light :)
This was a breakthrough moment for me. I put the people i like on a mountain of a pedestal. I think irrationally high of them. Thank you for the clarity and self awareness.
This was an absolute beautiful video. For months on end I was trying to get my ex back and I put them way high up on a pedestal. After time I slowly realized that for one there’s really nothing you can say or do to change someone’s thoughts and opinions about you especially if you have made mistakes in the past. I also came to a realization that I was pushing them away instead of pulling them in with my desperate energy. I’ll just say this. I never thought we would ever communicate again but we are currently in contact. The only difference is that I became tired of chasing and I told myself you know what I’m done. If they don’t see me for me or see that I’ve changed then that’s on them. I still care and love them and maybe we will or will not get back together but that’s not in the forefront of my mind anymore. Ever since I changed my energy and thoughts about this person they have been way more responsive and more wanting to chat. I don’t know where this will go but if I had to give any advice from my personal experience is to seriously focus on yourself and stop worrying about another person. If they are meant to be they will be. You said everything right in this video Maleeka! Much love xx (I wanted to add this also.. I still have my moments and get extremely sad… so don’t feel like you have to just “not care” you can care a lot but understand that you need to create space and value yourself.)
Good timing. I’ve really let go of my desire and attachment to them recently. I feel so much better without them on my mind. It’s like they were holding me back. So many more important things to focus on.
this made me realize i deserve someone that loves me as unconditionally as i love him. i love him but i deserve better, right now he isnt "better" and i deserve someone that would manifest me everyday for a year the same way i was doing. i think i just finally detached. thank you. i love you. i owe you my life.
I needed this... this woman that I have in my life means everything to me but due to so many issues I have due to my trauma I had so many toxic ways about myself that made her feel indifferent. to the fellas in this chat don't do that, if you got issues and your early in the relationship please go to therapy. Don't chase her away... be her safe space.
Been talking to this guy since January and been manifesting him for months too. I felt my SP is breadcrumbing me and put him on pedestal (based on what you said). I told him today we should stop talking. I still like him tho but I don't want to be in a "situationship." I deserve a committed relationship so I'm letting go. I don't want to chase. If we're meant to be together it will happen. I hope I did the right thing.
actually teared up when you talked abt practicing self care and how exhausting it is to be chasing someone. Thank you sm for popping up in my recommended
I have put somebody on a pedestal for one year and he couldn't care less. Somehow I have really improved my life during the year after (more money, more friends, trips on my own, a strong project). I was still seeing him at the same time but not giving as much and being focused on how to see him for who it was. Deep down I know the only way to save this relationship was to let him go in my mind and let him chase me. Trust me, he is now acting so well and doing the things I have always dream off. The fact that month after month he has seen me change, being more confident and putting me at the same position as him has really changed everything. Now I have to be careful to not go back to who I was !!
"If you're currently trying to manifest a specific person, you may have put them on a pedestal, because we only attempt to manifest things that we consider to be ideal." Real Rap 🤚😎
While it is important that we never prioritize anyone and have a God like concept of them in our minds we also do not want to mistake talking to an emotionally unavailable person with being extremely open and available. One thing I’ve learned is you are never going to be too needy to those that truly love you and I have had my fair share of emotionally unavailable individuals and I can tell you now if you have to pull away your energy for someone to acknowledge you it’s not even worth your time.
tru, but this is earth and people we are dealing with. it will be a little raggedy regardless. i have dated and married kind, loving millionaires.. and they had equally bad proclivities & internal issues. choose the man and decide whether you can deal with their flavor of foolishness. everyone has a flavor of foolishness.
I broke up with my girlfriend of two years just about two months ago due to my depression and not being able to give her the energy she deserved at the time. I have since regretted it deeply and have spent time chasing her and idealizing her specifically, which has only pushed her further away. Other videos have not helped as much as this one. Thank you for this wonderful advice and I am hoping that one day I can become the person on my pedestal; eventually attracting her back or the next great opportunity. Thanks again for your wonderful words.
I love this perspective as always. Although I feel I’ve manifested my person and happy, I’m trying to stabilize my business. And I feel I’m chasing instead of being what my business requires me to be…so thank you my sister. I feel calmer and more sure of myself and my capabilities
Oh I love this! There are so many parallels between business/work and relationships. This advice totally applies to attracting clients as well as a partner. Thanks for sharing 🥰
if somebody is running away from you for no reason try understand them and communicate but if they still want to go let them go. not in the hopes of them coming back but just because you can't force any type of relationship
thank you for reminding me that i should love myself first, i never usually like to hear that but the way you put it in this video, made me feel so much better and realize that you're right. I'm much much worth everything, and I'm the one who has to be on the pedestal.
Accidentally clicked this video and you’ve taught me something I never heard about manifest a specific person. Thank you for your kindness and genuine, you make me sync. ❤
@@maleekaismyguardianangelI hope you get a chance too respond so should I stop listening too affirmations and subliminals about manifesting my specific person and just listen too affirmations about self love, self and self concept ? So basically I’m asking is listening too affirmations about manifesting your Sp still the same as chasing?
My late mother once told me "never put someone on a pedestal, as it's a long way to fall". The last woman I loved, climbed the hypergamy ladder away from me after years together. I'm done with relationships as life's too short to waste on them. Plenty more important things to manifest out there.
This video is EVERYTHING!!!! Thank you soooo much for your realness and vulnerability. I’ve watched you off and on for a year and a half and your videos have matured sooo much parallel to my maturity around manifesting. I grew up in a religious household, similar to you. And, I, too lost my sister many years ago and the other day I remembered how she manifested MANY trips to Europe and all over with her bestie. And trust me when I say my sister did NOT have money like that. You brought manifesting full circle with this video. ❤
People often say we should take others off of pedestals, put ourselves first and stop chasing. What happens when most people are doing this and no one is willing to pursue the other anymore? Because of how popular this concept is becoming I've found many women I'm interested in that follow this and were initially chasing me later become unresponsive when I become the one to pursue. This starts to feel like a waste of time and energy and so I stop chasing and it either dies out completely or the cycle of running and chasing keeps repeating back and forth. There's gotta be a better way for healthy relationships than just detaching and making people feel insecure enough to chase us. You said yourself that that has us question that persons worth. So why do we want to be the one who is chased? I'm writing this because I want an answer from the Universe and I'm not satisfied with a life of non-attachment. There must be a form of healthy attachment where both people are putting in effort and also not so attached that they desperately need the other. Hoping that this becomes the new normal for relationships 🙏 Anyone else been asking these same questions to themselves?
Good question. I often believe that we are designed to share our souls and sexuality with others. I do not believe in being self contained. As if I could get all my needs with myself. I just don’t see that as physically possible.
@@markfennell1167 I completely agree! We are here as physical and social beings beings to enjoy relationships with others otherwise I can't see what the point of all this would be. It also seems that we have certain desires for connection with other people that may be necessary for our wellbeing. Learning to be detached and meeting my own needs helps in some ways to not be desperate or too needy but once it goes to the extreme of "not needing others" I think it can cause problems. We probably do need to meet some needs through others or at the least life becomes so much better when we do meet certain needs with others and there's nothing wrong with making life better 😉
Been wondering this for the longest.. is there a realm in the universe where we can just love on one another while we are both interested without the other getting scared.. wasnt love suppose to be that?
@@JiminsLeftElbow That's a great way to put it! Love should work that way, that's what I thought it was until I had negative experiences that changed my beliefs. I think if both people are healthy and secure enough then this could still be the truth. If we weren't all walking around with traumas, stuff from the past, and limiting beliefs then we could probably just love without all this fear and manipulation 🤷♂️
Thank you for sharing this. I pray many others find this as a healing for the collective. This is the salve that heals wounds and the undoing of much compounded toxic programming. I'm very grateful. ❤
How has it helped? I'm lost at how any of what was said can be taken as "manifesting someone"... I'm truly lost and hopefully your reply will show me something I missed
I can't even begin to tell you how truly wonderful and comforting your videos are...sometimes if I'm finding meditative frequency videos aren't quieting my mind, I just put on one of your videos, and that always helps soothe me. Thank you so much❤
You fall in love with a person's raw and authentic self. I feel this eliminates the concept of being oblivious to flaws that people fail to see. Putting yourself on a pedestal, I feel puts you at that state of acceptance within yourself, that you are perfect in your own special way, flaws and all. And one day someone will see all of those flaws but STILL pursue you for who you are.
Girl your video came right on time. Was just telling my friend last night I’m off my SP when it comes to trying and putting in effort. I’ve already put out the energy that I desire something with him so now I’m practicing on letting go and trusting I’m getting what I want. Wow 😮
I appreciate this! I have definitely given in to the desperation of needing a partner, and chased my person. I have let things flow as they’ve came as well, but I am grateful to know who I am. I am worthy, I am that Divine Goodness… who is also imperfect, but worth it all!
i really appreciate this video and the energy you exude in it. I think i really needed someone to talk to me like that, thank you. You're very beautiful
I could love this over and over again! Girl I recently been stepping into the energy of completely stop being the chaser!! It’s been getting way easier and seeing this has only reinforced it stronger with more knowledge about it!! Thank you girl!!
You explain things so well, I was doing homework and listening to you at the same time but I had to stop doing my homework to continuously listen to you
This video was freakin beautiful! All of Robert Greene’s books are amazing! We have to remember that people are just blobs of energy. I heard a comment from another channel that you should think of your specific person’s mortality(not in a morbid way), but that will humanize them and take them off the pedestal. Good luck to all!
thank god i found this video, i was thinnking about manifesting SP, but now i know i have to put a whole energy on me and other priorities, i am a magnet, i am the chased one that attracts, not otherwise
a lot of people say to take them down from the pedestal but never go into detail with that, leaving me unable to know how to do that. With you saying that they do all the things we do, forget to brush their teeth, fart, burp etc... that helps me to ground the person in my mind and take them down from a pedestal.
you are the most eloquent, thought-provoking, & uniquely-minded person who talks about manifesting that i have ever found. well done, always. your videos actually just keep getting better & better. you have this extremely intelligent & concise way of summing up concepts that people have been talking about for ages; i just really enjoy your mind & words! thank you thank you
OMG no one ever explained it this way, now I completely understand and I can see why I don’t succeed in my relationships. Thank you so much. I just found your channel and subscribed ❤️
I have been dm’ing you and I actually manifested that I get an answer from you. And you actually made a video on this. I actually cried mid video. You have no idea how much this means to me. God bless you ❤
This kinda like advice for high school kids. When you’ve been in a relationship , living with a partner for years- people get stagnant, disrespectful , unappreciative. It has nothing to do with idolizing or worshipping someone. It has everything to do with the character of the other person. I have grown tired of forcing my Partner to apologize when he’s done wrong. Constantly teaching and begging for respect, understanding or maturity. Now, I say a few words when I used to give speeches and leave the house. It’s not about chasing , it’s about the fact that some of us are invested in our relationships and don’t want to see them crash and burn. If I was to follow this advice , it’d be like living with a roommate. So to each their own. Falling back is never a bad thing if people don’t respect you
Thank you.. Your words came right after asking God for guidance regarding a pull I feel towards someone and internally waiting for them to come. I heard, focus on yourself then your video popped up on my feed. Confirmation! 💙
Here's where the concept 'Everyone is you pushed out' comes into play. Change the idea of them in my mind and dwell upon it but don't react in the middle. They have no choice but to conform to that idea.
Chasing and holding on is all I’ve ever known. Which I recognize that it’s rooted on control. If only I could let go, then maybe I could give myself a chance, then maybe I could give him a chance. I’m tired of chasing and running but that’s all I’ve ever known, so please show me the unknown.
Yea this reminds me of my ex girlfriend a couple years back. Spent 2 weeks tops trying to get her back, and cut her ass completely off - blind sided her ass - she freaked out and called me 12 times even 3 more times in the middle of the night. That was 2 years ago and and I still haven’t answered nor returned her calls. It’s not about being a hard ass, it’s about gaining yourself back - I still kind of love her, but I’ll love you from a distance way before o let you run over me ever again
I'm so glad I saw this video because that's what I did. I put my SP on a pedestal and he knows how much I love him that he started not treating me right
It’s so hard because you want the person you like to return the feelings. It’s not so simple to just let go. It’s more like don’t get invested from the start, that’s the only way to keep feelings from developing. For guys, they simply don’t have the capacity to come back and stay unless something is in it for them. They don’t love women the same way we love them and it keeps us women wishing, caught up in a fairytale.
this is unbelievably far from true, i’ve cared more for all the women i’ve ever almost been into relationships with more than they have me, the guys who get girls simply practice this law on accident and just don’t try as hard, so that’s what i’m implementing recently
First of all, please don’t generalize. I’m genuinely sorry you’ve had such terrible experiences with men, and I hope you are treated better in the future. I’ve had similar experiences with women, yet I understand that my experiences are only anecdotal. Secondly, I agree that it’s hard to let go. I would also add that it’s a mistake to let go. Instead, love your partner as much as you can (obviously without idolizing). If they don’t bring the same level of commitment, you can always leave later. You’ll also know that you were the awesome person who kept loving. If they do bring the same level of commitment, then you’ll have a much more special, closer relationship than you ever could have had otherwise.
I think men love more. That might even be a scientific fact. In fact men are usually the first to love the woman. We know almost immediately and I think if a man approaches a woman with kindness and love she should be open to him not wait for a year to think about it.
@@NoName-zb1gm I don’t know, man. It’s possible, but that’s a really depressing (and possibly generalizing) mindset to have. And it is true that there are a lot of women out there that genuinely want relationships. I think the reason for men often showing affection first is not innate. It’s more likely due to the fact that social norms dictate that men should be pursuers and women should be “hard to get.” This is obviously an outdated idea that only causes pain these days. If you’ve been hurt by a partner, I want you to know that you’re not alone in this struggle (as someone who was recently ghosted lol) and that things will get better
You literally literally a Diva I tell u.... You surely desrves a yt diamond button.. I feel so encouraged and addicted wen I started seeing you.. and learnin much more ahead.. U really deserve applause please don't stop.. tysm...🧿🧿❤️❤️
After a year of kundalini yoga practice, I started to see a cosmic girl in my "dream house" during the SATS (a black cat too). This girl didn't have a face though, but she had long black hair and she was as tall as me. She drinks and dances while she moves all around the place. The problem is, I found her... in a pub and I found her again and again and I make new friends and these friends are friends of hers... Since then... the face appears in the cosmic girl... Just letting flow! Let it flow you all... the journey is better than the finish line.
This video is just amazing. The funny thing here is, most of the time, after you realize your sp is full of problems too and stop seeing them as a goddess, someone even better than your sp will come into your life *_^
Wow the way you described being on an admirers pedestal makes so much sense. I’m also suspicious and weary of them. I always questioned why I felt that way.
So glad I found your channel. Hopefully this means that I’m beginning to become back aligned with who I truly am since my terrible relationships. Thank you! ❤️
It felt wrong manifesting them at one point and so I stopped, but I was so close to pedestalizing them again after I told myself I wouldn't anymore. I needed this reminder, thank you.
I am so grateful for this video on so many levels. This was way more powerful and successful than I expected it to be! I truly let go of my pedestaled person, and the universe suddenly provided in the most dramatically unexpected way possible. A beautiful new co-worker recently started at my work today and she came right up to me, and pretty much asked me out. Even though this is more of a synchronicity, I still feel overwhelmingly thankful for all of this wisdom you imparted before all this took place. I was most likely resonating on a higher frequency after meditation, and she certainly picked up on that on our first meeting... You are truly the real deal in the Manifestation guru field! I never fully understood this science before now! I most definitely promise to be my very best self to this amazing new person on this exciting new unexpected journey!
Wow ✨✨✨ perfect timing ! And great meaning . You couldn’t haved said it ANY BETTER ! Thank you . I now see a whole different perspective. I am unapologetically ME
I usually wake up at 3am for a morning swim at the gym… Today, I woke up randomly at 4am still feeling this restlessness I’ve felt for a few days now.. I prayed on the way to the gym, trying to make sense of what I was feeling… Granted, for the last month now, all I’ve been thinking about is that SP. Of course, I can’t to find that I was trying to do everything you should avoid when trying to manifest.. I ended up leaving the gym cause I just couldn’t despite how active I’ve been lately… I get home, throw myself in the bed, and this is the first video I find when I opened RUclips.. I said, “what do I have to lose..” And there you were with such kind and gentle words, and the exact thing I didn’t know I needed to hear… Not going to lie, you had me in tears haha I just wanted to express my sincerest gratitude for this video. Sometimes, all we need is a kind and gentle soul like yourself to bring us back into focus, and I cannot thank you enough for that!
I appreciate the warning at the beginning of the video. I know how tempting it can be to use it for bad ends when you realize your power and the things you can accomplish with it. It's human. But I also see that you've had to learn and evolve enormously to overcome this and become aware of it, which leads me to express not only my gratitude for your advice (that i'll use with the sole vocation of love and infinite intelligence) as well as my admiration for your spiritual growth.
If this guy u have in mind was the right one, you wouldnt have to chase nor to let go , this toxic talk of manifesting by letting go ruined our generation! Wheres real love at ? If u love somebody let them know , show love , u never know when will be the last time you see them , so just show them the love u have for them , if theyre meant to be the one for you, they will be , if not , it is what it is ! I reqlly miss REAL LOVE !
I agree, maybe I have a “lack mindset” but either of us could be hit by a bus and be gone in a single moment, I don’t want to play games. Life is too fragile and short, I don’t see my boyfriend as flawless or even the “best option” I have. I’ve been pursued by wealthier men, more mature men, more conventionally attractive men, WOMEN (who are usually always a better option than any man lol). HOWEVER, I love HIM, I care about HIM, I see that he is deeply flawed and I want to heal side by side with him. He is a unique person and we have many rich memories together, and that’s not easily replaced.
@@KaylaNoelle1yes i agree. life’s too short to chase anything other than what we really want. Not everyone has the chance to have someone like that by their side, where they feel comfort and stability and even safety in. love over materials any day 🫶
maybe this will help someone: a person i would love, would certainly love me. it couldn’t work otherwise. since i realized that, between all the things i wanted in a partner or was attracted to in people, one of the most important ones was that they showed interest in getting to know me, my whole perspective shifted. the kind of people i like wouldn’t dismiss my interest or not ask questions, the kind of people i like would want to know me, and would be interesting enough to be interested by me as well. when i realized this, everything changed. it may sound arrogant but you’ll have to trust me that it doesn’t come from an egotistical place. i just know i am attracted to kind, open, passionate, creative people, and a person like that would be interested in all the ways i am those things myself. i want someone to appreciate me the way i want to appreciate them. that’s the beauty of reciprocity. and it’s already coming our way.
i feel like you speak with confidence when you say you have succeeded every time with manifesting an SP it makes me believe that it is truly, truly possible for me to also do that! to also succeed! thank you lotsss!!
Even with me accepting his flaws and insecurities,it still felt like I put him on a huge pedestal because it felt like he wasn’t being as transparent and natural as I was with his feelings. Time went on and I thought the energy and actions I desired was going to be fulfilled by him because of the amount of voice reassurance,completely ignoring and confusion by his actions, I deserve more than the bare minimum, I give to much to be treated like I was ,he gave me a complete 180 but I truly didn’t want it anymore ,my patience is gone,im ready to provide myself first ❤
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Thank you i think i needed that
Wow , i didnt see myself on video when i comment lol now im shocked and guys just a little update , since i priotize my feelings like feeling attractive , being in perfect love being grateful for perfect relationship it goes very well . She texted me morning and night every day , she was cold but now she is saying i missed you and what not. Im not in the end of my goal but process going very well since i dwell on the feelings who would i be if she loved me. I prioritize my Good feelings like how im grateful for my relationship and how attractive i am things like that . Thank for the analyzing me btw love you ❤️. Edit: i will update too when i get my desired end which i happy lovely pasionate relationship .
told you I'd make a video for you hon😊
@@maleekaismyguardianangel that video really resonated me and to be honest i am really eased and happy Because all puzzle collected for me with that video because i also found my other issue with manifesting now i get . Thank you my favourite RUclipsr and my dear scorpio friend 🫠
Wouldn’t it be better just to ask for a date? To ask for communication? To shoot some shots that are visible and if nothing comes of it to move on?
If anything to be manifested. Manifest the opportunity to rendezvous, manifest clear communication, manifest the ability to see if who they are aligns with a life you want, manifest your person seeing you for who you are and allowing them the choice to approve or disapprove.
In the end if you decide on the route of manipulation maybe the manifestation should be to become that person that they would approve of. That means you have to be ok with the person you become and okay with transforming yourself and letting go of your own traits. That way all parties at least have choices. Less manipulation involved.
Preach 👏👏👏
“If you treat them like a celebrity, they will treat you like a fan” best thing I heard
YES! Yes! Exaactly!!!🩷
Oooh that one hits
On point. Love this❤
This is only the case with insecure people as a secure person will reciprocate the energy
Yeah - that's pretty good!
It’s like when you stop having a crush on someone who isn’t really that great, and suddenly the fog lifts and you see all their flaws that you can’t believe you missed before.
FACTS
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what do you do if you are on the receiving end of this? the person I have mutually loved for almost 5 years within the past month has had this realization in her head, where she lost feeling and suddenly her mind is into selective bias where she only sees the mistakes i have made and flaws I have over time, and made this decision in her head that invalidates all of our time of love and care, without giving me the chance to work on it. I think we all will make mistakes and I have been too needy and sometimes had an attitude etc, but she was always the only person I ever wanted, I always loved her, and I don’t know how to get her to see me in the crush light again. I see my mistakes, but I don’t have the chance to work on them and I feel so helpless and full of remorse.
@@h7pubgwhy do you feel that you can’t work on them?
@@blubarbii because she left me and moved on so rapidly, within a month if not weeks of telling me the problems, I tried to work on them but they didn’t matter to her anymore
i was reading the art of seduction last night and a particular line came up that cleared the fog in my head “you cannot seduce someone who is already satisfied” i understand now that you will not feel dependent or reliant on external sources of validation, love, acceptance, etc when you are already satisfied with it from yourself
how do you seduce someone who is satisfied? don’t you want your partner to be satisfied and happy with themselves and their life? my 5 year relationship fell off a cliff over the last month, and I think it’s over, the issue is, that as my partners life improved, she had less time to spend with me, and I became clingy to that time which made me look like i didn’t accept or support her changes, she said she was happy with her life and her social life and didn’t get fulfillment from me anymore, I can’t hate who she is over the past month when the 56 months before that she has been so unconditionally loving and my best friend. she is worth fighting for but I don’t know where to begin, i want her to be happy with her life
trueee, guy was chasing me, then he stopped, I started to chase him and guess what he had a gf already, so it is true :)))
Stop chasing and become the chased! Amen to this sister! xx
Hello,
How would you suggest on how to learn to do that? I mean to stop chasing and become the chaser. I don’t call, nor text my ex, but I cannot stop thinking about her. Of course, I try to have for the most part positive thoughts. Please, is there anything else you think I can do? Thanks
@@ronaldclaude1892 It wont be easy to stop thinking about someone you once loved, though missing someone is a good thing because it shows you are healing❤️. to become the chased, put all the love & energy you want to give to your ex to yourself and you will soon attract that love, push yourself to go out and try new things and let yourself have so much fun you forget about everything else around you. take risks, buy yourself flowers, read a good book, spoil yourself with gifts, eat your favorite foods. this is essential, alot of times in relationships we forget about ourselves because we tend to spend all of our time money and energy on our partner. whereas you cant love someone if you dont love yourself. so when you’re thinking about your ex try doing things you love to do, put all of your energy into yourself and love will flow to you.❤️ try looking in the mirror every morning whilst taking deep breathes and say “ i love myself, i dont chase love , i let love flow to me “ atleast 3 times😊
Amen to this is it is Right and Correct Brothers.
@@ronaldclaude1892 look up Kevin Samuel, or Alpha Male strategies, you have to work on your value first
But if everyone follows this rule, no one is getting chased so it makes no sense.
The idea of someone stringing you along because they like being admired and adored by you is sooooo real. I dated someone for almost 5 years, but never really "had" him because I put him on a pedestal. He was never gonna give me the commitment I wanted, because I was so desperate for it, and I ACTED desperate. He kept me around solely because I built up his ego and constantly gave him compliments. He even told me as much.
I wasted half of my 20s on that man because my self esteem was so low that I believed that if I could just make him love me then I could finally love myself. Don't be like me. My life has improved dramatically since we broke up almost 2 years ago and I stopped trying to mold myself into his perfect woman.
When you stopped did he start hovering back?
This was me 3 years ago. I have worked on myself and am in such a better place now
Oof are you me? 😮
The same thing happened to me. 5 years of my life just gone. When the breakup happened he asked me to stay friends with him. And guess what I agreed. But eventually it got really hard for me to see him with other girls. So I told him to just forget about me and blocked him from everywhere. This was my first relationship. All this happened today. Feels like I can't breathe but i also know it will get better eventually. Out of sight out of mind. Now I don't have the courage to ever be in another relationship.
@@Amylynnklh900the ones you don’t want always comes back. Release him and go on about your life as if you don’t want him. I’m sure you’ve had a guy that you weren’t that into that just keeps texting and calling you and you’re just like “Ugh will he go tf away?!?!” But he never does. It’s because you don’t want him. That’s how you get chased. Act like you have so many other important things to do. Act like you’re the prize. Once you do that, you change the energetic vibrations and voila, u miraculously get a text back. Don’t worry about the timeframe. I guarantee it probably won’t happen when you want it to 😂
this literally works 💀, just wanna share my story for a moment. The moment u stop giving a fuck and focus on urself and realize u attract the people who u think deserve to be in ur life, u change ur mindset, have high confidence THESE PEOPLE COME RUNNIN BRO WHAT
Please what did you do to become confident ?
@@yasoelg7731 delevop a personal ego, self love, self discipline, etc. a RUclipsr that helped me is tykwondoe
Only works for girls maybe😅
Can you tell your story then?
6:35 "they can feel you idealizing them" love this ✨️❤
"tHeY cAn FeEl It" I think that's bullshit. They can see it because of your behaviour/how you act towards them. I think it puts unnecessary pressure on yourself if you think that they can sense any emotion or thought that you have.
It's love, when you look at someone and you can see only the best of them. And love always win at the end.
@@Antonia072you honestly can’t sense what some people are feeling when you’re around them? Extremely odd.
This is so true. Have had a crush on someone for nearly 2 years and nothing. The last few days, started viewing myself as being the catch and bingo……he’s changed up his energy toward me 180 degrees 😊
I disagree with this. If a man only puts you on a pedestal after you learned your worth it means you taught him how you want to be treated which is wrong. Your dream man will know these things without you telling them
@@feliciaboston6365 so true
@@feliciaboston6365that’s… because she changed her self concept? And since everyone is you pushed out
@@feliciaboston6365this is very idealistic. There is no perfect lover. Relationships require strong communication and an openness to get to know each other’s boundaries and needs. Expecting your partner to read your mind is a disaster waiting to happen
When this happens, it means both's people's self image and self concept (a kind of self esteem) is healthy already. This is the best case scenario, but since as humans we're flawed, it is also very natural to develop self esteem while being in a relationship. Having a good self esteem in relationships also means showing people around us how we want to be treated and setting boundaries. Yes, that also means love interests, libera and spouses too. There no healthy relationship without healthy self esteem. I see nothing wrong in your love interests changing attitude once your self esteem gets better. What would worry me is if he didn't change is behaviour at all.
The moment I let go entirely, the moment I lost all my feelings toward him, started thinking he wasn’t all that, he’s liking my pics watching my stories and god knows what’s next! I hate it. I hate that when you want something it doesn’t happen and when you don’t want it it happens. Because now all I want is another guy’s attention and I’m not getting it
THE TIMING IS INSANE
TRUEEEE
It's Venus retrograde & will be retrograde till September 3rd. So, yes, the time of this video is perfect.
SAME REACTION HERE!!
Real.
Omg yess exactly. When I saw this on my feed, my mouth dropped
Master tip to depedestalizing them: Be okay with not having them in your life. Be okay when you think of never ending up with them. Secondly and more importantly, do not let them in on so easily. Make them earn it. It's like, I've got a secret about you and I'm going to toy with you for it. It's hilarious.
I was manifesting a specific person and I wasn’t sure if i should or not and this is the message I needed I’m learning how to love myself and pour more into myself
exactly🩷 just try this and watch what happens💜
@@maleekaismyguardianangel so is manifesting an ex counter productive ??
@@solomonwalker6883No, go for it!
I think if we're here watching this, it may best to move on. Focus on yourself and chalk up your last relationship as experience. Do your best not to make the same mistake twice.
Good thought
after spending a couple weeks being desperate and anxious, i realised it led to nothing but misery. the reason why me and my specific person aren’t where i want to be is because i was deeply insecure. i had super low self esteem and ruined the loving relationship we had. that was the problem! and that’s what i’m doing now, taking care of myself and taking them off this imaginary “pedestal”. your video came at the right time reinforcing what i should keep doing. great sign from the universe. thank you for this video, i absolutely adore your channel! sending hugs and light :)
This was a breakthrough moment for me. I put the people i like on a mountain of a pedestal. I think irrationally high of them. Thank you for the clarity and self awareness.
Me too,I need to start pouring into myself, I need to reprogram my brain
This was an absolute beautiful video. For months on end I was trying to get my ex back and I put them way high up on a pedestal. After time I slowly realized that for one there’s really nothing you can say or do to change someone’s thoughts and opinions about you especially if you have made mistakes in the past. I also came to a realization that I was pushing them away instead of pulling them in with my desperate energy. I’ll just say this. I never thought we would ever communicate again but we are currently in contact. The only difference is that I became tired of chasing and I told myself you know what I’m done. If they don’t see me for me or see that I’ve changed then that’s on them. I still care and love them and maybe we will or will not get back together but that’s not in the forefront of my mind anymore. Ever since I changed my energy and thoughts about this person they have been way more responsive and more wanting to chat. I don’t know where this will go but if I had to give any advice from my personal experience is to seriously focus on yourself and stop worrying about another person. If they are meant to be they will be. You said everything right in this video Maleeka! Much love xx
(I wanted to add this also.. I still have my moments and get extremely sad… so don’t feel like you have to just “not care” you can care a lot but understand that you need to create space and value yourself.)
Thank you 🫶🏽
Thank you ❤
Wow, I have to say that our situation is similar. I do have my sad moments.
wow thank you❤
😢Going through the same thanks for your words 🙏🏽
Good timing. I’ve really let go of my desire and attachment to them recently. I feel so much better without them on my mind. It’s like they were holding me back. So many more important things to focus on.
this made me realize i deserve someone that loves me as unconditionally as i love him. i love him but i deserve better, right now he isnt "better" and i deserve someone that would manifest me everyday for a year the same way i was doing. i think i just finally detached. thank you. i love you. i owe you my life.
every single day for a year ive been in pain, i thought i was detached from it but i am finally aligned.
I needed this... this woman that I have in my life means everything to me but due to so many issues I have due to my trauma I had so many toxic ways about myself that made her feel indifferent. to the fellas in this chat don't do that, if you got issues and your early in the relationship please go to therapy. Don't chase her away... be her safe space.
Been talking to this guy since January and been manifesting him for months too. I felt my SP is breadcrumbing me and put him on pedestal (based on what you said). I told him today we should stop talking.
I still like him tho but I don't want to be in a "situationship." I deserve a committed relationship so I'm letting go. I don't want to chase. If we're meant to be together it will happen. I hope I did the right thing.
you did the right thing
actually teared up when you talked abt practicing self care and how exhausting it is to be chasing someone. Thank you sm for popping up in my recommended
I have put somebody on a pedestal for one year and he couldn't care less. Somehow I have really improved my life during the year after (more money, more friends, trips on my own, a strong project). I was still seeing him at the same time but not giving as much and being focused on how to see him for who it was. Deep down I know the only way to save this relationship was to let him go in my mind and let him chase me. Trust me, he is now acting so well and doing the things I have always dream off. The fact that month after month he has seen me change, being more confident and putting me at the same position as him has really changed everything. Now I have to be careful to not go back to who I was !!
"If you're currently trying to manifest a specific person, you may have put them on a pedestal, because we only attempt to manifest things that we consider to be ideal."
Real Rap 🤚😎
While it is important that we never prioritize anyone and have a God like concept of them in our minds we also do not want to mistake talking to an emotionally unavailable person with being extremely open and available. One thing I’ve learned is you are never going to be too needy to those that truly love you and I have had my fair share of emotionally unavailable individuals and I can tell you now if you have to pull away your energy for someone to acknowledge you it’s not even worth your time.
This. If the low lives didn’t appreciate your love & are waiting for you to be indifferent that’s disgusting
tru, but this is earth and people we are dealing with. it will be a little raggedy regardless. i have dated and married kind, loving millionaires.. and they had equally bad proclivities & internal issues. choose the man and decide whether you can deal with their flavor of foolishness. everyone has a flavor of foolishness.
Let the ungrateful stay miserable if they can't appreciate your love and goodness 🙏
Great advice for woman and men. Be and love yourself first then manifestation will come naturally.
I broke up with my girlfriend of two years just about two months ago due to my depression and not being able to give her the energy she deserved at the time. I have since regretted it deeply and have spent time chasing her and idealizing her specifically, which has only pushed her further away. Other videos have not helped as much as this one. Thank you for this wonderful advice and I am hoping that one day I can become the person on my pedestal; eventually attracting her back or the next great opportunity. Thanks again for your wonderful words.
I love this perspective as always. Although I feel I’ve manifested my person and happy, I’m trying to stabilize my business. And I feel I’m chasing instead of being what my business requires me to be…so thank you my sister. I feel calmer and more sure of myself and my capabilities
Oh I love this! There are so many parallels between business/work and relationships. This advice totally applies to attracting clients as well as a partner. Thanks for sharing 🥰
if somebody is running away from you for no reason try understand them and communicate but if they still want to go let them go. not in the hopes of them coming back but just because you can't force any type of relationship
Really needed to hear this
thank you for reminding me that i should love myself first, i never usually like to hear that but the way you put it in this video, made me feel so much better and realize that you're right. I'm much much worth everything, and I'm the one who has to be on the pedestal.
this is some of the kindest energy i’ve ever felt. i usually don’t watch longer videos but i watched this one fully - thank you.
Thank you! I will not chase him anymore. I put myself on a pedestal. It feels good.💗
You’re welcome 😊
Accidentally clicked this video and you’ve taught me something I never heard about manifest a specific person. Thank you for your kindness and genuine, you make me sync. ❤
You are so welcome hon💜
@@maleekaismyguardianangelI hope you get a chance too respond so should I stop listening too affirmations and subliminals about manifesting my specific person and just listen too affirmations about self love, self and self concept ? So basically I’m asking is listening too affirmations about manifesting your Sp still the same as chasing?
My late mother once told me "never put someone on a pedestal, as it's a long way to fall". The last woman I loved, climbed the hypergamy ladder away from me after years together. I'm done with relationships as life's too short to waste on them. Plenty more important things to manifest out there.
That tiktok audio of "he's just some guy! Hit him with your car!" Kept popping me head while watching this 😂
This video is EVERYTHING!!!! Thank you soooo much for your realness and vulnerability. I’ve watched you off and on for a year and a half and your videos have matured sooo much parallel to my maturity around manifesting. I grew up in a religious household, similar to you. And, I, too lost my sister many years ago and the other day I remembered how she manifested MANY trips to Europe and all over with her bestie. And trust me when I say my sister did NOT have money like that. You brought manifesting full circle with this video. ❤
LLOL THAT ONE DRAKE PIC RANDOMLY HAS ME IN TEARS
I was the same when young. I was incredibly spoiled but ignorant. Thanks for your honesty
we all have a past😊
People often say we should take others off of pedestals, put ourselves first and stop chasing. What happens when most people are doing this and no one is willing to pursue the other anymore? Because of how popular this concept is becoming I've found many women I'm interested in that follow this and were initially chasing me later become unresponsive when I become the one to pursue. This starts to feel like a waste of time and energy and so I stop chasing and it either dies out completely or the cycle of running and chasing keeps repeating back and forth. There's gotta be a better way for healthy relationships than just detaching and making people feel insecure enough to chase us. You said yourself that that has us question that persons worth. So why do we want to be the one who is chased? I'm writing this because I want an answer from the Universe and I'm not satisfied with a life of non-attachment. There must be a form of healthy attachment where both people are putting in effort and also not so attached that they desperately need the other. Hoping that this becomes the new normal for relationships 🙏 Anyone else been asking these same questions to themselves?
Good question. I often believe that we are designed to share our souls and sexuality with others.
I do not believe in being self contained. As if I could get all my needs with myself. I just don’t see that as physically possible.
@@markfennell1167 I completely agree! We are here as physical and social beings beings to enjoy relationships with others otherwise I can't see what the point of all this would be. It also seems that we have certain desires for connection with other people that may be necessary for our wellbeing. Learning to be detached and meeting my own needs helps in some ways to not be desperate or too needy but once it goes to the extreme of "not needing others" I think it can cause problems. We probably do need to meet some needs through others or at the least life becomes so much better when we do meet certain needs with others and there's nothing wrong with making life better 😉
Been wondering this for the longest.. is there a realm in the universe where we can just love on one another while we are both interested without the other getting scared.. wasnt love suppose to be that?
@@JiminsLeftElbow That's a great way to put it! Love should work that way, that's what I thought it was until I had negative experiences that changed my beliefs. I think if both people are healthy and secure enough then this could still be the truth. If we weren't all walking around with traumas, stuff from the past, and limiting beliefs then we could probably just love without all this fear and manipulation 🤷♂️
I was looking for this comment because I feel the same way!
Girl your whole existence is so ✨HEALING✨
People don’t always want you, they just want you to want them
You explain manifestation like no other, seriously youre are extremely enlighted
Your video came at the right time in my life. I will stop chasing him. I’ll be focusing on myself from now on. Thank you so much for this ❤
Thank you for sharing this. I pray many others find this as a healing for the collective. This is the salve that heals wounds and the undoing of much compounded toxic programming. I'm very grateful. ❤
This eases the pressure in my chest about trying to manifest my SP for the longest time unsuccessfully. You made this so easy to follow Thank you
I can’t be bothered trying to manifest someone who is not appearing to be giving me the same energy . No thanks
How has it helped? I'm lost at how any of what was said can be taken as "manifesting someone"... I'm truly lost and hopefully your reply will show me something I missed
The way she says "my love" made my heart squeak 😩 i love herrrrrr
I can't even begin to tell you how truly wonderful and comforting your videos are...sometimes if I'm finding meditative frequency videos aren't quieting my mind, I just put on one of your videos, and that always helps soothe me.
Thank you so much❤
At 12:08 - 14:10 i don’t have a sister but this gave me big sister energy bc this is exactly what I needed to hear & it put me to tears. Thanks sis 🩶
You fall in love with a person's raw and authentic self. I feel this eliminates the concept of being oblivious to flaws that people fail to see. Putting yourself on a pedestal, I feel puts you at that state of acceptance within yourself, that you are perfect in your own special way, flaws and all. And one day someone will see all of those flaws but STILL pursue you for who you are.
This video came at the perfect time. I’ve been saying to myself “I’ll start manifesting them in a few days” so glad I never started 😂
Girl your video came right on time. Was just telling my friend last night I’m off my SP when it comes to trying and putting in effort. I’ve already put out the energy that I desire something with him so now I’m practicing on letting go and trusting I’m getting what I want. Wow 😮
How long did it take you to get you what you want?
Did you get him back
update??
I appreciate this!
I have definitely given in to the desperation of needing a partner, and chased my person.
I have let things flow as they’ve came as well, but I am grateful to know who I am.
I am worthy, I am that Divine Goodness… who is also imperfect, but worth it all!
i really appreciate this video and the energy you exude in it. I think i really needed someone to talk to me like that, thank you. You're very beautiful
I could love this over and over again! Girl I recently been stepping into the energy of completely stop being the chaser!! It’s been getting way easier and seeing this has only reinforced it stronger with more knowledge about it!! Thank you girl!!
You explain things so well, I was doing homework and listening to you at the same time but I had to stop doing my homework to continuously listen to you
no bs, two days after I applied this knowledge to my life my sp reached out after not speaking to me for a month
A genuinely relationship you wouldn’t have all these games to play. No one will have to chase and no one will have to run
This video was freakin beautiful! All of Robert Greene’s books are amazing! We have to remember that people are just blobs of energy. I heard a comment from another channel that you should think of your specific person’s mortality(not in a morbid way), but that will humanize them and take them off the pedestal. Good luck to all!
thank god i found this video,
i was thinnking about manifesting SP, but now i know i have to put a whole energy on me and other priorities, i am a magnet, i am the chased one that attracts, not otherwise
a lot of people say to take them down from the pedestal but never go into detail with that, leaving me unable to know how to do that. With you saying that they do all the things we do, forget to brush their teeth, fart, burp etc... that helps me to ground the person in my mind and take them down from a pedestal.
you are the most eloquent, thought-provoking, & uniquely-minded person who talks about manifesting that i have ever found. well done, always. your videos actually just keep getting better & better. you have this extremely intelligent & concise way of summing up concepts that people have been talking about for ages; i just really enjoy your mind & words! thank you thank you
OMG no one ever explained it this way, now I completely understand and I can see why I don’t succeed in my relationships. Thank you so much. I just found your channel and subscribed ❤️
I have been dm’ing you and I actually manifested that I get an answer from you. And you actually made a video on this. I actually cried mid video. You have no idea how much this means to me. God bless you ❤
you need to manifest a girl in your immediate surroundings. This internet stuff aint real bro.
Love how authentic you are!
This kinda like advice for high school kids. When you’ve been in a relationship , living with a partner for years- people get stagnant, disrespectful , unappreciative. It has nothing to do with idolizing or worshipping someone. It has everything to do with the character of the other person. I have grown tired of forcing my
Partner to apologize when he’s done wrong. Constantly teaching and begging for respect, understanding or maturity. Now, I say a few words when I used to give speeches and leave the house. It’s not about chasing , it’s about the fact that some of us are invested in our relationships and don’t want to see them crash and burn. If I was to follow this advice , it’d be like living with a roommate. So to each their own. Falling back is never a bad thing if people don’t respect you
Thank you.. Your words came right after asking God for guidance regarding a pull I feel towards someone and internally waiting for them to come. I heard, focus on yourself then your video popped up on my feed. Confirmation! 💙
This is so precious you sharing that you were not so good before. I was the same.
Here's where the concept 'Everyone is you pushed out' comes into play. Change the idea of them in my mind and dwell upon it but don't react in the middle. They have no choice but to conform to that idea.
What do you mean by don’t react in the middle
@@safiiyah maybe you'll see something opposite of what you want don't react to that and consider it as a bridge of incidents
Foh wt that jibberish tho
@@zackzues4830 go test it for yourself
Let them go to have them is literally the definition of not letting them go ;)
Love the candor in this! If you treat someone like a celebrity, they'll treat you like a fan
Chasing and holding on is all I’ve ever known. Which I recognize that it’s rooted on control. If only I could let go, then maybe I could give myself a chance, then maybe I could give him a chance. I’m tired of chasing and running but that’s all I’ve ever known, so please show me the unknown.
Watching your videos is my favorite form of self care
4:01 wow I got chills. I never thought of the pedestal ideation like that before.
Yea this reminds me of my ex girlfriend a couple years back. Spent 2 weeks tops trying to get her back, and cut her ass completely off - blind sided her ass - she freaked out and called me 12 times even 3 more times in the middle of the night. That was 2 years ago and and I still haven’t answered nor returned her calls. It’s not about being a hard ass, it’s about gaining yourself back - I still kind of love her, but I’ll love you from a distance way before o let you run over me ever again
I'm so glad I saw this video because that's what I did. I put my SP on a pedestal and he knows how much I love him that he started not treating me right
How are you handling it now?
I had unconsciously been following these steps. Thank you for bringing it to my attention. 💛💛
Hello! Merci pour tout ces vidéos! Je me sens sur le bon chemin!
It’s so hard because you want the person you like to return the feelings. It’s not so simple to just let go. It’s more like don’t get invested from the start, that’s the only way to keep feelings from developing.
For guys, they simply don’t have the capacity to come back and stay unless something is in it for them. They don’t love women the same way we love them and it keeps us women wishing, caught up in a fairytale.
It seems to take tragedy for men to love.
this is unbelievably far from true, i’ve cared more for all the women i’ve ever almost been into relationships with more than they have me, the guys who get girls simply practice this law on accident and just don’t try as hard, so that’s what i’m implementing recently
First of all, please don’t generalize. I’m genuinely sorry you’ve had such terrible experiences with men, and I hope you are treated better in the future. I’ve had similar experiences with women, yet I understand that my experiences are only anecdotal.
Secondly, I agree that it’s hard to let go. I would also add that it’s a mistake to let go. Instead, love your partner as much as you can (obviously without idolizing). If they don’t bring the same level of commitment, you can always leave later. You’ll also know that you were the awesome person who kept loving. If they do bring the same level of commitment, then you’ll have a much more special, closer relationship than you ever could have had otherwise.
I think men love more. That might even be a scientific fact. In fact men are usually the first to love the woman. We know almost immediately and I think if a man approaches a woman with kindness and love she should be open to him not wait for a year to think about it.
@@NoName-zb1gm I don’t know, man. It’s possible, but that’s a really depressing (and possibly generalizing) mindset to have. And it is true that there are a lot of women out there that genuinely want relationships. I think the reason for men often showing affection first is not innate. It’s more likely due to the fact that social norms dictate that men should be pursuers and women should be “hard to get.” This is obviously an outdated idea that only causes pain these days.
If you’ve been hurt by a partner, I want you to know that you’re not alone in this struggle (as someone who was recently ghosted lol) and that things will get better
You are the most realistic and convincing person I have ever heard
You literally literally a Diva I tell u.... You surely desrves a yt diamond button.. I feel so encouraged and addicted wen I started seeing you.. and learnin much more ahead.. U really deserve applause please don't stop.. tysm...🧿🧿❤️❤️
After a year of kundalini yoga practice, I started to see a cosmic girl in my "dream house" during the SATS (a black cat too). This girl didn't have a face though, but she had long black hair and she was as tall as me. She drinks and dances while she moves all around the place. The problem is, I found her... in a pub and I found her again and again and I make new friends and these friends are friends of hers... Since then... the face appears in the cosmic girl... Just letting flow! Let it flow you all... the journey is better than the finish line.
Your energy is infectious! I had no idea that “pedestalization” was even a term/word - until now! Thank you for the golden advice, Maleeka!
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You’re one of the realest RUclipsrs out there… thank you so much for this video sis 💕
This video is just amazing.
The funny thing here is, most of the time, after you realize your sp is full of problems too and stop seeing them as a goddess, someone even better than your sp will come into your life *_^
Wow the way you described being on an admirers pedestal makes so much sense. I’m also suspicious and weary of them. I always questioned why I felt that way.
So glad I found your channel. Hopefully this means that I’m beginning to become back aligned with who I truly am since my terrible relationships. Thank you! ❤️
I feel soothed by this video and your calm aura. thanks x
Insane timing. Seriously. Thanks for this girl x
It felt wrong manifesting them at one point and so I stopped, but I was so close to pedestalizing them again after I told myself I wouldn't anymore. I needed this reminder, thank you.
I am so grateful for this video on so many levels. This was way more powerful and successful than I expected it to be! I truly let go of my pedestaled person, and the universe suddenly provided in the most dramatically unexpected way possible. A beautiful new co-worker recently started at my work today and she came right up to me, and pretty much asked me out. Even though this is more of a synchronicity, I still feel overwhelmingly thankful for all of this wisdom you imparted before all this took place. I was most likely resonating on a higher frequency after meditation, and she certainly picked up on that on our first meeting... You are truly the real deal in the Manifestation guru field! I never fully understood this science before now! I most definitely promise to be my very best self to this amazing new person on this exciting new unexpected journey!
Wow ✨✨✨ perfect timing ! And great meaning . You couldn’t haved said it ANY BETTER ! Thank you . I now see a whole different perspective. I am unapologetically ME
I usually wake up at 3am for a morning swim at the gym… Today, I woke up randomly at 4am still feeling this restlessness I’ve felt for a few days now.. I prayed on the way to the gym, trying to make sense of what I was feeling… Granted, for the last month now, all I’ve been thinking about is that SP. Of course, I can’t to find that I was trying to do everything you should avoid when trying to manifest..
I ended up leaving the gym cause I just couldn’t despite how active I’ve been lately… I get home, throw myself in the bed, and this is the first video I find when I opened RUclips.. I said, “what do I have to lose..”
And there you were with such kind and gentle words, and the exact thing I didn’t know I needed to hear… Not going to lie, you had me in tears haha
I just wanted to express my sincerest gratitude for this video. Sometimes, all we need is a kind and gentle soul like yourself to bring us back into focus, and I cannot thank you enough for that!
If a person runs, they don’t want you or are indecisive, which is not very sexy. I say, let runners run. Run run run. Far away
I appreciate the warning at the beginning of the video. I know how tempting it can be to use it for bad ends when you realize your power and the things you can accomplish with it. It's human. But I also see that you've had to learn and evolve enormously to overcome this and become aware of it, which leads me to express not only my gratitude for your advice (that i'll use with the sole vocation of love and infinite intelligence) as well as my admiration for your spiritual growth.
If this guy u have in mind was the right one, you wouldnt have to chase nor to let go , this toxic talk of manifesting by letting go ruined our generation! Wheres real love at ? If u love somebody let them know , show love , u never know when will be the last time you see them , so just show them the love u have for them , if theyre meant to be the one for you, they will be , if not , it is what it is ! I reqlly miss REAL LOVE !
I agree, maybe I have a “lack mindset” but either of us could be hit by a bus and be gone in a single moment, I don’t want to play games. Life is too fragile and short, I don’t see my boyfriend as flawless or even the “best option” I have. I’ve been pursued by wealthier men, more mature men, more conventionally attractive men, WOMEN (who are usually always a better option than any man lol). HOWEVER, I love HIM, I care about HIM, I see that he is deeply flawed and I want to heal side by side with him. He is a unique person and we have many rich memories together, and that’s not easily replaced.
@@KaylaNoelle1yes i agree. life’s too short to chase anything other than what we really want. Not everyone has the chance to have someone like that by their side, where they feel comfort and stability and even safety in. love over materials any day 🫶
maybe this will help someone:
a person i would love, would certainly love me. it couldn’t work otherwise. since i realized that, between all the things i wanted in a partner or was attracted to in people, one of the most important ones was that they showed interest in getting to know me, my whole perspective shifted. the kind of people i like wouldn’t dismiss my interest or not ask questions, the kind of people i like would want to know me, and would be interesting enough to be interested by me as well. when i realized this, everything changed. it may sound arrogant but you’ll have to trust me that it doesn’t come from an egotistical place. i just know i am attracted to kind, open, passionate, creative people, and a person like that would be interested in all the ways i am those things myself. i want someone to appreciate me the way i want to appreciate them. that’s the beauty of reciprocity. and it’s already coming our way.
i feel like you speak with confidence when you say you have succeeded every time with manifesting an SP it makes me believe that it is truly, truly possible for me to also do that! to also succeed! thank you lotsss!!
Yes Soo true the moment I stop chasing him he comes back
Chelsea, this video brought me to tears. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much!
You're very welcome sweetie 🩵
Same
Even with me accepting his flaws and insecurities,it still felt like I put him on a huge pedestal because it felt like he wasn’t being as transparent and natural as I was with his feelings. Time went on and I thought the energy and actions I desired was going to be fulfilled by him because of the amount of voice reassurance,completely ignoring and confusion by his actions, I deserve more than the bare minimum, I give to much to be treated like I was ,he gave me a complete 180 but I truly didn’t want it anymore ,my patience is gone,im ready to provide myself first ❤