I'm glad I'm NOT so desperate to buy fashion items anymore. But I still buy new perfumes, just in smaller bottles, mostly from Mercari. I also continue to buy some stuff from online stores like Real Real and Vestiaire. I started bowling with a coach and yoga, learning Arabic on Duolingo, and spending a lot of time at home with my husband, dog and cat. I really like my very private and quiet life.
Hey don’t sleep on having older friends! I was 20 and befriended a 50 something lady coworker and she is one of my closest friends well I consider her family now
Same! I'm 42 and have a 26 year old work friends, a 66 year old work friend and an 81 year old neighbor friend. I love sharing and learning our different perspectives on things, it's beautiful
I feel this so much. I am 37 and I have many friends both in their 40's-50's as well as quite a few in their late 20's, with whom I am the old friend, lol.
In my 20s met a 50 year old who is now one of my dearest friends- she knows how to have fun. Now I am 50 my gym girls are all younger than me- we have a blast.
Do not feel bad about having hobbies that you enjoy that you do alone it’s important. I am a maker. I prefer being in my own head, reading, a book painting, drawing needle work of any kind carpentry you name it I do it. There’s nothing wrong with that and that is tens of thousands of dollars worth of therapy talking, I thought there was something wrong with me because I did not like to be in big groups of people and have dozens and dozens of friends and I spent a long time trying to figure out why and what I realize is it doesn’t matter why but I like being like this. Also, I am so proud of you for making Swiss meringue buttercream! As a former pastry chef, I can tell you it’s something that I always enjoyed making. It’s very satisfying. And now I want cake… Also,, pro tip --do not put baked goods in the refrigerator. It’s bad for them it ruins the crumb moisture gets inside of the cells that happen during leavening. It gets trapped in there and makes your baked goods gummy. If you must keep them for more than a day, freeze them as they are with the buttercream, and they will freeze perfectly, and they will thaw out perfectly, but leaving it in the refrigerator is bad. Very very bad.❤❤❤ Keep doing what makes you happy
Agreed. I love running and have been running for 20 years. Alone. No running group for me lol! I have lots of artsy hobbies and have enjoyed group activities for those in the past. But I also realised that just having the same interests doesn’t mean your fellow hobbyists will have similar values or lifestyle that will make them great friends.
@@nele9045 I cannot imagine something more torturous than running with another person. Maybe Christmas shopping with another person would be worse but I don’t know it’s a close call.
as somebody who is obsessed with knitting i absolutely understand your struggle finding friends. i went to a knitting group and i was the only young one. lol alsoo have you read ( or heard) the book outlive by peter attia? it's a book about health and living longer! i really enjoyed and learned alot about impoving my health.
I’m spending my money on tweakments in my early 40ies (Botox, radiofrequency microneedling, Morpheus, etc), vitamins, a decent hair stylist and expensive gym. I’m also investing in upgrading my home.
I agree with you on health and cupcakes 😎 My friends have harassed me for years about the amount of money and time I’ve spent on researching vitamins, supplements etc. Although, now that we are all looking at 70…they are showing more interest in my routine. 😂
For natural nails check out DIOR apricot nail creme, it is so good at keeping nail/cuticles moisturized, which then makes your nails look healthy. In the USA it costs $30 used, well worth it.
Hi Caitlin! Thank you for this video! It was really nice to see how you are keeping yourself busy other than luxury shopping and how you are enjoying it. I am also spending money on travels, beauty treatments, just massages and am looking to start a new hobby, but not sure yet on what. I am also loving Essie, I have so far just 3 colours, but I am happy that I stopped getting my manicure with gel or shellac, I hated to waste all that time and money. I also have one of those laundry baskets, but mine has just Dark and Light sections. I am sorry you have been told that about your wine bottles. I don't drink wine, but my husband loves it, I guess if someone sees my wine section would assume the same about me now! Hahahahahahaa! I can't believe how people can be so judgemental. Regarding bags, I am allowing myself just 2 bags per year, but putting a limit on the value, not going over £2k, I am done chasing brands with their stupid price increases. PS. Your cupcake looked amazing, that flower looked like it is done by a professional, Well done!
I'm spending my money on lash lifts, Botox and good skincare - I know Botox can be controversial, but I love how it makes me feel and look! I'm also spending money on better quality food and making an effort to cook a balanced meal as often as possible x
Loved this! As an English teacher it warms my cold heart how much you enjoy reading 📚 One nonfiction I loved and it was on Audible was Lessons in Chemistry. And of course classic and modern novels. The English Patient and East of Eden are on shelf for my summer reading when I’m off. I think skin care and physical & mental health are excellent priorities-and will work for every budget. For shopping, quality clothing and shoes. And the occasional handbag. 💖 June
When you said the Tiganello was very expensive I was thinking thousands. It’s “only” about $150 USD here. Enjoy it! I realized I didn’t have hobbies anymore either after a rigorous educational program. Now I’m back into finding who I am outside of work. And I am also enjoying spending my money on a bunch of fun things instead of just a couple purses a year! Cheers 🎉🎉🎉
interesting topic!!! save: use korean skincare, cheaper better and more variety, mindless shopping and buying coffee spend: professional services that I rather take back my time, renovation projects and landscaping maintenance.
I found you a few months back and I adore your videos and perspective on life. :) Your cupcakes look so pretty! And I have been similarly getting back into reading a lot more. On 22 books so far this year, which I never expected, since my goal was 30. I am way ahead and I wasn't trying, lol. Just so many good books lately!
I stopped getting gel nails done when the Pest hit. I haven't gone back. I do them myself now with Alessandro Striplac. They last like 2-3 weeks and then it peels off. They have so many great colors. I play around with nail art a little (as far as my shaky left hand lets me LOL) and it's very therapeutic. Pop on my headphones, music and just be in my nail bubble. I've also saved SO much money in the process!
im with you about classes. i took a french macaroon class and I've been loving making them. even though they arent that great, but hey I will get there. also girl you're not alone, I've never had hoobies. unless you count planning and budgeting lol. but I've been too focused on my career and achieving other things, that hoobies took a back seat.
I made a list of 24 things in 2024 that I wasn't going to buy and physical books was on that list. I'm trying to get more oriented towards e-books and so far, so good! Two I would recommend--"The Boss" by Abigail Barnette and "The Housemaid" by Freida McFadden. I've never tried Essie polish, will have to give it a try. And agree 100% with you as far as quality of clothing, I do sew and quite honestly, I'm appalled at some of the stuff I'm seeing and it's across the board. The home filtration system may seem like an extravagance, but if you live in an area with high mineral content, it may end up saving you money in the end on plumbing repairs, appliances, etc.
I’ve been spending on things that make life easier, I never did that much because I was very energetic so it was a difficult adjustment in terms of mindset! Aside from necessities I used to mostly spend on seeing friends or helping/treating them because my personality’s very social. But now I have chronic illness so I can rarely leave the house. I barely have the energy to keep my closest friends and a few others who’ve been very understanding! Filling in all my time with so little energy to do so is difficult and gaming prevents me scrolling since it provides similar audio/visual interest. I felt so bad about spending on games until I thought about how much I used to spend. Gaming isn’t active enough for me to do often when I’m well so I felt like I was wasting money - because what if I get better? But I spent on temporary things when I was well without judging myself. My spending has decreased. I just have more time to overthink it now!
I was going to suggest Dazzle Dry as you were talking about Essie! I started seeing a medical nail tech last year and she introduced me to Dazzle Dry. I bought the system for myself. It lasts about a week when I apply it, but it lasts up to 2 weeks when she does my nails (especially if I wear gloves while doing the dishes). They have a ridiculously long tutorial video on their website, but I highly recommend! Looking forward to hearing how it works for you.
I still get urges to buy stuff. But the biggest rule i follow is “ am I going to use it everyday?”. If it is a yes, then I will make the purchase. If it is a No, then I won’t. Plus I am getting rid of stuff I don’t use. It’s a journey….
First of all, those people judging the wine rack can go… ok I’ll be nice and say jump in a lake. Second, I recommend reading Dying To Be Me. A few years ago my little sister passed away in a car accident. I was destroyed to put it mildly. An SA recommended this book and eventually one day just got it for me by surprise when I visited her to shop. Obviously more than just an SA 🥲. Anyway, the book is the true story about a woman’s (winning) fight with death and how her case baffled doctors and scientists around the world. Makes you believe there are strong forces beyond what we know in this life and that’s all I’ll say. We’ll more than likely all lose a loved one and this puts a positive spin on what we don’t know about the human spirit’s ability to fight. Easy read and highly recommended. Love your insight and channel 🫶🏼
Oh, also, since you love health stuff too (I am very much the same on that front), and like reading as you do, if you haven't read Outlive by Dr. Peter Attia, I'd definitely suggest it. He goes into the science and studies behind longevity and living a healthful life and then the last section of the book, he goes into things you can do to help achieve some of these goals. :)
I can vouch for dazzle dry. It's quite expensive so I only have a couple of shade but it's worth it. I don't find it lasts any longer than regular nail polish but the drying time is a game changer
Thank you so so so much Caitlin for sharing this video because I really really needed this video you are my inspiration and I will support you so so much♥️🥹♥️🥹♥️
Health is Wealth It would be a waste of design space if you didn’t have any bottles in your wine rack 🍾 😆 As someone who can grow their natural nails very long, my top tip would be:- if you do your own washing up 🧼 wear gloves
I have recently started "cash stuffing." I watch a very good RUclips channel by a girl named Desiree where she shows exactly how to cash stuff as a way of budgeting and allocating funds for everything you want or need to buy.
Health is currently where all my money is going. Some by choice, some not so much. I’m having stomach issues, and so far it’s cost me about $5k. ☹️ ..But I’ll happily spend more on groceries so that I eat healthily and well, and my gym membership as well as a PT. health is worth more than its weight in gold, and I spent too long neglecting mine.
As someone who grew up with an actual alcoholic, if that's your actual problem, you're not gonna buy a pretty wine rack for fancy wine. You're gonna hide the fact that you drink multiple bottles of the cheapest stuff with the highest %. Of course there are people who do show off their actual addiction, but I think most people don't showcase a substance addiction like that in their living room😅 My busband collects special beer bottles and loves doing diy brewing kits. But he rarely drinks it. He just likes to collect it on trips or special occasions.
I buy a lot of books on eBay. I get them cheap. If I don't like them I donate them. I read mostly non-fiction about California histoey, Texas history or whatever places and things I'm interested in at the moment.
I am so confused by people who are “no shopping” yet buy books. The library is so underutilized. They have audiobooks and kindle books as well, I barely ever buy books anymore
The alcohol comments were hilarious, people reach…I hope the Princess of Wales drama makes people cop on a bit more about doing that (that was shameful)
What are some things you still choose to spend money on in 2024 and beyond? Have your money habits changed too?
I'm glad I'm NOT so desperate to buy fashion items anymore. But I still buy new perfumes, just in smaller bottles, mostly from Mercari. I also continue to buy some stuff from online stores like Real Real and Vestiaire. I started bowling with a coach and yoga, learning Arabic on Duolingo, and spending a lot of time at home with my husband, dog and cat. I really like my very private and quiet life.
Hey don’t sleep on having older friends! I was 20 and befriended a 50 something lady coworker and she is one of my closest friends well I consider her family now
Totally! I'm 36 and one of my best friends is 50 and and I have a walking buddy who is 64. I have a blast with both of them 💕
Same! I'm 42 and have a 26 year old work friends, a 66 year old work friend and an 81 year old neighbor friend. I love sharing and learning our different perspectives on things, it's beautiful
I feel this so much. I am 37 and I have many friends both in their 40's-50's as well as quite a few in their late 20's, with whom I am the old friend, lol.
In my 20s met a 50 year old who is now one of my dearest friends- she knows how to have fun. Now I am 50 my gym girls are all younger than me- we have a blast.
Inter-generational friendships are so important and enriching! ❤
Do not feel bad about having hobbies that you enjoy that you do alone it’s important. I am a maker. I prefer being in my own head, reading, a book painting, drawing needle work of any kind carpentry you name it I do it. There’s nothing wrong with that and that is tens of thousands of dollars worth of therapy talking, I thought there was something wrong with me because I did not like to be in big groups of people and have dozens and dozens of friends and I spent a long time trying to figure out why and what I realize is it doesn’t matter why but I like being like this.
Also, I am so proud of you for making Swiss meringue buttercream! As a former pastry chef, I can tell you it’s something that I always enjoyed making. It’s very satisfying.
And now I want cake…
Also,, pro tip --do not put baked goods in the refrigerator. It’s bad for them it ruins the crumb moisture gets inside of the cells that happen during leavening. It gets trapped in there and makes your baked goods gummy. If you must keep them for more than a day, freeze them as they are with the buttercream, and they will freeze perfectly, and they will thaw out perfectly, but leaving it in the refrigerator is bad. Very very bad.❤❤❤
Keep doing what makes you happy
Agreed. I love running and have been running for 20 years. Alone. No running group for me lol!
I have lots of artsy hobbies and have enjoyed group activities for those in the past. But I also realised that just having the same interests doesn’t mean your fellow hobbyists will have similar values or lifestyle that will make them great friends.
@@nele9045 I cannot imagine something more torturous than running with another person.
Maybe Christmas shopping with another person would be worse but I don’t know it’s a close call.
I laughed at the wine commentary. I also live in an Aussie wine region and that's just a standard Aussie setup 😂
I have found that close family members(mom, sister) are the only ones I can truly trust to leave my pets with.
I loved your little giddy laugh while making the cupcakes😂😊
For me it’s the control. I made these last weekend. Dude if I made cupcakes I’m eating them all 🤣🤣
Those cupcakes are gorgeous!
lol funny… I watched all your videos and I never noticed the wines…
as somebody who is obsessed with knitting i absolutely understand your struggle finding friends. i went to a knitting group and i was the only young one. lol alsoo have you read ( or heard) the book outlive by peter attia? it's a book about health and living longer! i really enjoyed and learned alot about impoving my health.
I’m spending my money on tweakments in my early 40ies (Botox, radiofrequency microneedling, Morpheus, etc), vitamins, a decent hair stylist and expensive gym. I’m also investing in upgrading my home.
I agree with you on health and cupcakes 😎 My friends have harassed me for years about the amount of money and time I’ve spent on researching vitamins, supplements etc. Although, now that we are all looking at 70…they are showing more interest in my routine. 😂
For natural nails check out DIOR apricot nail creme, it is so good at keeping nail/cuticles moisturized, which then makes your nails look healthy. In the USA it costs $30 used, well worth it.
Can't believe someone said that about your wine rack hahaha. That just makes me want to drink wine even more.
Hi Caitlin! Thank you for this video! It was really nice to see how you are keeping yourself busy other than luxury shopping and how you are enjoying it. I am also spending money on travels, beauty treatments, just massages and am looking to start a new hobby, but not sure yet on what. I am also loving Essie, I have so far just 3 colours, but I am happy that I stopped getting my manicure with gel or shellac, I hated to waste all that time and money. I also have one of those laundry baskets, but mine has just Dark and Light sections. I am sorry you have been told that about your wine bottles. I don't drink wine, but my husband loves it, I guess if someone sees my wine section would assume the same about me now! Hahahahahahaa! I can't believe how people can be so judgemental. Regarding bags, I am allowing myself just 2 bags per year, but putting a limit on the value, not going over £2k, I am done chasing brands with their stupid price increases. PS. Your cupcake looked amazing, that flower looked like it is done by a professional, Well done!
I'm spending my money on lash lifts, Botox and good skincare - I know Botox can be controversial, but I love how it makes me feel and look! I'm also spending money on better quality food and making an effort to cook a balanced meal as often as possible x
Loved this! As an English teacher it warms my cold heart how much you enjoy reading 📚 One nonfiction I loved and it was on Audible was Lessons in Chemistry. And of course classic and modern novels. The English Patient and East of Eden are on shelf for my summer reading when I’m off.
I think skin care and physical & mental health are excellent priorities-and will work for every budget. For shopping, quality clothing and shoes. And the occasional handbag. 💖 June
When you said the Tiganello was very expensive I was thinking thousands. It’s “only” about $150 USD here. Enjoy it! I realized I didn’t have hobbies anymore either after a rigorous educational program. Now I’m back into finding who I am outside of work. And I am also enjoying spending my money on a bunch of fun things instead of just a couple purses a year! Cheers 🎉🎉🎉
Enjoy your wines....it's a lovely journey and discovery of different tastes and how our tastes change❤
interesting topic!!!
save: use korean skincare, cheaper better and more variety, mindless shopping and buying coffee
spend: professional services that I rather take back my time, renovation projects and landscaping maintenance.
I found you a few months back and I adore your videos and perspective on life. :)
Your cupcakes look so pretty! And I have been similarly getting back into reading a lot more. On 22 books so far this year, which I never expected, since my goal was 30. I am way ahead and I wasn't trying, lol. Just so many good books lately!
I stopped getting gel nails done when the Pest hit. I haven't gone back. I do them myself now with Alessandro Striplac. They last like 2-3 weeks and then it peels off. They have so many great colors. I play around with nail art a little (as far as my shaky left hand lets me LOL) and it's very therapeutic. Pop on my headphones, music and just be in my nail bubble. I've also saved SO much money in the process!
im with you about classes. i took a french macaroon class and I've been loving making them. even though they arent that great, but hey I will get there. also girl you're not alone, I've never had hoobies. unless you count planning and budgeting lol. but I've been too focused on my career and achieving other things, that hoobies took a back seat.
I spent so much on travel, more than I ever did on clothes. I'm not taking another trip until I clear all my cc debt. Travel is so $$$$$.
I made a list of 24 things in 2024 that I wasn't going to buy and physical books was on that list. I'm trying to get more oriented towards e-books and so far, so good! Two I would recommend--"The Boss" by Abigail Barnette and "The Housemaid" by Freida McFadden. I've never tried Essie polish, will have to give it a try. And agree 100% with you as far as quality of clothing, I do sew and quite honestly, I'm appalled at some of the stuff I'm seeing and it's across the board. The home filtration system may seem like an extravagance, but if you live in an area with high mineral content, it may end up saving you money in the end on plumbing repairs, appliances, etc.
I just bought Dazzle Dry and my first mani lasted until I took it off (no chips). I was impressed!
I’ve been spending on things that make life easier, I never did that much because I was very energetic so it was a difficult adjustment in terms of mindset! Aside from necessities I used to mostly spend on seeing friends or helping/treating them because my personality’s very social. But now I have chronic illness so I can rarely leave the house. I barely have the energy to keep my closest friends and a few others who’ve been very understanding! Filling in all my time with so little energy to do so is difficult and gaming prevents me scrolling since it provides similar audio/visual interest. I felt so bad about spending on games until I thought about how much I used to spend. Gaming isn’t active enough for me to do often when I’m well so I felt like I was wasting money - because what if I get better? But I spent on temporary things when I was well without judging myself. My spending has decreased. I just have more time to overthink it now!
I was going to suggest Dazzle Dry as you were talking about Essie! I started seeing a medical nail tech last year and she introduced me to Dazzle Dry. I bought the system for myself. It lasts about a week when I apply it, but it lasts up to 2 weeks when she does my nails (especially if I wear gloves while doing the dishes). They have a ridiculously long tutorial video on their website, but I highly recommend! Looking forward to hearing how it works for you.
I'm a huge Dazzle Dry fan. Highly recommend this product ❤
I still get urges to buy stuff. But the biggest rule i follow is “ am I going to use it everyday?”. If it is a yes, then I will make the purchase. If it is a No, then I won’t. Plus I am getting rid of stuff I don’t use. It’s a journey….
So you wouldn't buy a coat or a bathing suit?
@@radhiadeedou8286 i wouldn’t buy ANYMORE….. I have plenty already. That is the issue.
@@radhiadeedou8286 Nope…. I have plenty of outerwear and swimming gear.
Cheers! 🍷 I love my wine too! Enjoy!
First of all, those people judging the wine rack can go… ok I’ll be nice and say jump in a lake. Second, I recommend reading Dying To Be Me. A few years ago my little sister passed away in a car accident. I was destroyed to put it mildly. An SA recommended this book and eventually one day just got it for me by surprise when I visited her to shop. Obviously more than just an SA 🥲. Anyway, the book is the true story about a woman’s (winning) fight with death and how her case baffled doctors and scientists around the world. Makes you believe there are strong forces beyond what we know in this life and that’s all I’ll say. We’ll more than likely all lose a loved one and this puts a positive spin on what we don’t know about the human spirit’s ability to fight. Easy read and highly recommended. Love your insight and channel 🫶🏼
I’m spending money on wine and champagne! I also have a wine rack! Also, not an alcoholic! 🥂😮😂 That is wild.
Not sure if you have them there but Nails inc are my absolute favourite brand the formula is insane and the brushes are so easy to apply polish x
Well, come to Switzerland 😄 we have the best meringues and very good wines 🍇
Ha ha ha… I couldn’t tell it was a wine rack as it was blurry. I thought this was a part of your pantry!
Oh, also, since you love health stuff too (I am very much the same on that front), and like reading as you do, if you haven't read Outlive by Dr. Peter Attia, I'd definitely suggest it. He goes into the science and studies behind longevity and living a healthful life and then the last section of the book, he goes into things you can do to help achieve some of these goals. :)
I can vouch for dazzle dry. It's quite expensive so I only have a couple of shade but it's worth it. I don't find it lasts any longer than regular nail polish but the drying time is a game changer
Oh that’s great to know thank you! ☺️
I can get 1.5 weeks out of a DD manicure.
Highly recommend Kester Black, they are Australian owned, 7 free and wonderful nail colours
Thank you so so so much Caitlin for sharing this video because I really really needed this video you are my inspiration and I will support you so so much♥️🥹♥️🥹♥️
Great video! ❤
Health is Wealth
It would be a waste of design space if you didn’t have any bottles in your wine rack 🍾 😆
As someone who can grow their natural nails very long, my top tip would be:- if you do your own washing up 🧼 wear gloves
ooooh interesting mop. Does the battery last long?
lol I’d never even noticed the wine rack. Wow I just googled Tiganello! Yikes!!!!
Great listening that cupcake is so pretty great baking
I have recently started "cash stuffing." I watch a very good RUclips channel by a girl named Desiree where she shows exactly how to cash stuff as a way of budgeting and allocating funds for everything you want or need to buy.
Health is currently where all my money is going. Some by choice, some not so much. I’m having stomach issues, and so far it’s cost me about $5k. ☹️
..But I’ll happily spend more on groceries so that I eat healthily and well, and my gym membership as well as a PT. health is worth more than its weight in gold, and I spent too long neglecting mine.
Cupcakes 🧁 are beautiful!!!😻
As someone who grew up with an actual alcoholic, if that's your actual problem, you're not gonna buy a pretty wine rack for fancy wine. You're gonna hide the fact that you drink multiple bottles of the cheapest stuff with the highest %.
Of course there are people who do show off their actual addiction, but I think most people don't showcase a substance addiction like that in their living room😅
My busband collects special beer bottles and loves doing diy brewing kits. But he rarely drinks it. He just likes to collect it on trips or special occasions.
I dip in and out of your videos and wonder if you are still buying bags and jewellery.
Just wanted to say your teeth are looking so good!
With Ade water being the way it is, a filtration system is not a bad idea.
I buy a lot of books on eBay. I get them cheap. If I don't like them I donate them. I read mostly non-fiction about California histoey, Texas history or whatever places and things I'm interested in at the moment.
Have you read The 7 husbands of Evelyn Hugo? Best book I've ever read.
I love your voice 💕
I am so confused by people who are “no shopping” yet buy books. The library is so underutilized. They have audiobooks and kindle books as well, I barely ever buy books anymore
7 husbands of Evelyn Hugo / Dark Vanessa (Trigger Warning) / A Gentle Reminder (Poems) / Atomic Habits / 101 Essays that will Change the way You Think
The alcohol comments were hilarious, people reach…I hope the Princess of Wales drama makes people cop on a bit more about doing that (that was shameful)
I love cupcakes 🧁 ❤😊
Menapause should clear up your skin. Only good thing about getting older.
LOL, she still has a good 20 years before she has to worry about that milestone.
@@michaeljack930 I know. 😊but just letting her know
Use Aussie Housesitters to find a pet sitter, it’s free 😊 We are sitters on there, great community.