The Art of Conversation | Be Less Awkward | Master Small Talk | The Feminine Universe
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024
- Being able to communicate well verbally is one the most important skills a person can have. Every day people are turned down for jobs, for romance and for social interaction because of their inability to communicate and therefore connect.
I completely understand why many people dread conversations and hate small talk. It can feel forced, it can feel like a waste of time or it can just be plain awkward. But it can also foster connections, build rapport and help you be viewed favorably and advance your position.
I think by really understanding the importance of conversation, the concept becomes easier to grasp. And you’ll quickly realize The pros significantly outweigh the cons. Conversations make people feel comfortable and connected. I can’t think of a single area of life where that won’t be useful.
Hope you ladies enjoy this video! A heartfelt thank you to everyone who reached out to see if I was ok while I was under the weather❤
I think not having my voice/sounding like a frog was the worst part! My voice is mostly back, but if I still sound off at all, that’s probably why. Let me know your favorite conversation tip or technique! XO
I feel so connected to this channel at this point in my life. It's like you read my mind when you made this particular upload. Thank you so much. Glad you're feeling better💜
Glad you're feeling better! We MISSED YOU!!
Would love to see a video on how to flirt
I thought you sounded fine, but I'm glad you're okay! Thank you for taking the time to create this video. It seems like it must have been time
-consuming but I found it really helpful and I'll probably go back and watch it a few times to make sure I absorb all your wonderful advice. Love your channel! ❤
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The funny part about me is that I crush interviews and get the job or whatever else I'm applying for, that's easy but small talk is not my strong suit. I get a little nervous and I'm a naturally quiet person so I really need to work on this because I think it's important. I also don't like when ppl try to ask nosey questions and I don't like oversharing, so it's a delicate balance that I know needs to be achieved.
This is exactly me!!! It's so challenging. I'm very reserved especially at work but I do want to create connections and not be so awkward.
Well said! That confidence shift in different settings can be so drastic.
This is me aswell...I don't know how to start working on myself😭
Everything you said!! I'm the exact same way.
We got this✨✨
Another trick to never run out of things to talk about is the FORD method
Family
Occupation
Recreation
Dreams
This is the first time I have heard of this. It sounds great.
Please make a video on how to stand up for yourself, self respect and being sweet and tough at the same time.
Great topic/suggestion! I will make sure to emphasize this in some of our upcoming strategy content 😊
@@TheFeminineUniverse great, thanks 😊
yes pleaseeee this is me. I feel like people will get smart with me but and i take a personal i bet ready to fight back but then i remember that isn’t the type of person i am 😅but i do get sensitive 😢
I think the only thing we can do is leave the table
As a a highly sensitive person and an introvert...this is my worst nightmare lol. However these tips are really helpful! Love this channel so much 💖
I get it, sis! It definitely takes time and effort, especially as introverted people. Glad this was helpful to get started! A little at a time😘
Hello,
I can hear you on this. We have to try step by step to get better. To it does not come naturally to me at all. Good luck to us🙂
You might also have social anxiety 😄 . Makes it worse lol. But it eventually gets easier
I can't explain how much I love this channel ! It's a daily check for me to learn something wonderful and graceful .Feminine,strong and wonderful exactly how I want for myself.
I missed out a lot being an introvert. I started making videos of myself talking to me. I practiced how to appreciate people and i began being inquisitive. Now my colleagues ask me if i get angry at all. Learn pronunciations so that when you soeak somewhere everyone will want to know who is talking. But also learn to keep your boundaries. And if you're a slow talker, know that you are blessed.
That “my face always looks like this 😠” “well fix it! Fix your face!” made me laugh out loud because I’ve always hated that excuse. Smiling when I enter a room has really changed my life.
Love this video. I love how detailed you go into things and provide examples. I’ve been going to more events with new social groups and often let my husband speak bc I overthink every conversation or never know where to start. I’m going to try a few of these tips tonight! Thank you!!
how did it go??
@@soggycookie345 it worked!! I did more listening than speaking but contributed more to conversations. Asking people “how do you know the host?” was my intro to start and it being before the holidays left a lot of room for small talk. Now to carry it into 2023!!
@@tabilicious11 yay that’s so amazing!! happy for you!!
I'm such a shy person. I need to start not giving an F. I will have a conversation with someone and think about every little word I said. I'm going to practice because this is something I need to work on desperately.
I understand that small talk is necessary in certain situations so I try my best to engage. However, it is a skill that I need to improve because I like to get straight to the point. That has a lot to do with my patience lol.
Same here!
I've been putting my best foot forward when I dress. I feel like a celebrity. Lol
People are drawn to me. Even been relaxing my face and body more. I always have remind myself ESPECIALLY when I'm rushing I get tense and tend to unconsciously have the resting B face. But I bring my self back to the present and relax.
Thank you for this amazing video
Gurl!
You are beautiful! ❤ same, I got to stop being so tense.
@@largerthanlife8974 You can do it girl! Just always try and catch yourself and regroup. It takes time but after awhile its natural and want even have to think about it. Promise ❤️. Thanks for commenting
Customer service and sales will definitely teach you this skill ☺️
I definitely would love to see a video on flirting. I’m not even on the market, I just want to flirt with my husband 😂
Yesss! Get it, girl! That's coming soon 😉
Great suggestion! Would love to see this as well
I would appreciate some "exit responses" to people who are being inappropriate with their questions. Once I said to an interrogator type: "Oh! Should I have brought my attorney?!" and then to the too personal person I usually say: "That's rather personal" and if they keep going (which they usually do) I will say: "Why is this so important to you?" These work really well, but I could use some fresh ideas!!
And a hard YES to a video about flirting small talk!
Have you tried “I would rather not share that information”?
@@HarrisPilton789 The other commentor can correct me if I'm wrong, but I think they want to not use any negative verbiage. Saying you don't wanna answer a question can come across as negative. I understand the point, but there are positive ways of not answering a question than putting it as you did. Maybe a better phrase could be "how about we talk about something more light hearted?" or "why so serious? let's talk about something more casual" if you know the person, ask them a question about their life that isn't too personal.
And I went to school for COMMUNICATION....but this was this far supersedes the textbook version. This i PHD Level GREAT information & tips in everyday practical communication. Thank you for sharing!
One on one conversation is so hard for me 🤦🏾♀️ I’m better with groups of people because I don’t have to talk as much and feed off the energy of others in the group! One on one feels so vulnerable and I dislike that a lot, but I am here to group in this area so I can thrive in life .!!
As an extrovert, you'd think I'm a great conversationalist, but sometimes I can get carried away. This is so helpful, practical, and thorough. Much appreciated 🙏 ☺️
I’m so closed off and shy that the lady at my school thought i was in a class with the mentally challenged kids 😩. It made me feel so low about myself like wow is that how i come off because i get fidgety and can’t look ppl in the face for the life of me when I’m talking to them, I’ve always been pretty shy but I’m getting older and it’s getting old and annoying at this point
Thank you Feminine universe for changing my life to strive for a better life through my femininity…I appreciate you so so much❤️❤️❤️❤️😊🤗
It is so important to notice how the people you are talking to are reacting to your comments and questions. There‘s a man at work and he always comes to me and he just asks way too personal questions like where exactly I live. It makes me feel very uncomfortable and I try to keep away from him. It‘s so annoying. Don‘t be ignorant to others‘ reactions to you! I don‘t even feel bad to ignore such people and letting them know trough a more aggression based comment that I am not interested. Otherwise they keep annoying you.
I agree , however sometimes I’ve noticed that some people don’t know how to read social cues or other peoples reactions. So I literally have to say “hey, these questions are making me uncomfortable, please stop asking them” . Also if you don’t know the person well, it’s hard to gauge their reactions . So it’s something to keep in mind.
I'm very much an introvert, but find I can have a conversation one on one or in small groups pretty easily. I have a really hard time going into a large group setting especially where most people already know each other and I don't know anyone. Any tips on how to approach people when they're already engaged in conversation in small groups? It feels very awkward to me.
go up to someone in the group and compliment them on somthing and then try to hop in the convo by sharing somthing ya know it takes alot of confidence trust ya self and be bold take deep breaths
I’m the same and going to public speaking classes has helped me so much. It helped me improve my confidence speaking in front of larger groups, speaking without judgement of other people’s opinions and etc
I'm best with strangers, with ppl I know I'm way too nervous because I know they'll bring it up again... but I can talk to a stranger so easy
I’m an introvert with RBF (resting bitch face) and also shy. I don’t enjoy small talk unless I really vibe with a person which is rare. I just can’t think of things to talk about and I don’t like getting into peoples business so I don’t like asking questions to them.
you are not alone,,, it's something that I've been struggling with for sometime
My tribe 😭
Would love to see a video about the art of flirting or the romantic encounter. As a feminine, we're going to naturally create this situation, it'd be great to be prepared for it, either interested or not. Great content, thank you so much! 💜
If you live in a new city and mingle with a coworker/classmate, hearing that this person is from your hometown's "rival town" can be a quick icebreaker and quickly turn into an inside joke. If neither takes the rivalry too seriously, understands sarcasm and understands it is just all good fun - hilarious.
Had this with a fellow university student a few years back and it all started with a playful and theatrical "Oh no, you are from XX? Since I am from YY, I could never be friends with you!" said with a smile and a handshake. A friendship started then and there.
Pacing is something I find very hard. I'm a natural fast talker and when I was much younger people couldn't hear me when I spoke and now it's a bit better and I'm trying to control but sometimes when I get nervous or something I just speed talk my way through it. Thanks for the tips on small talk reallyyy needed those ❤️
My daughter is 5 but I plan steer/guide/highly recommend your page when she's older so this can form part of her bedrock of navigating the teen years and young adulthood
yesss start them now my sister is 15 and she is very awkward
I watch and rewatch one of these every day while I get ready for work. They literally just get me motivated to have a good day. Your voice is so lovely. These are all just so inspiring, especially when the effort to keep up routines or look good just seem extra exhausting. ❤
I love this comment! It really warms my heart to hear that I'm part of your routine in some way. I'm happy to provide some motivation💕
As a new audience of your youtube channel, I am amazed of how your thorough, empowering and inspiring content is. Wish you health and please make more contents like these. It can change many people’s lives for the better. Thank you ❤️
As an introvert I find it hard to start small talk so this has really put things into perspective on how to break the ice and have a good conversation thank you😊
As an introverted GUY, I find this enlightening. Don't mind me ladies 😎
Thank you so much for this video. Small talk isn’t my strong suit, so this was really a big help to me. I’m more of an introvert even though my job requires me to talk to people on a daily, but I still find small talk very awkward
We would love to listen to your thoughts on flirting and interacting with the opposite gender. Your advice is very valuable. Keep making these videos. Lots of love.💕
I really love this video it’s opened my eyes. I realized how over time dealing with flaw people I just got less interested in people and that’s why a lot of relationships are surface level I didn’t dig or let them dig enough to get to close. I have to change in order to have more deep relationships.
Now, I just have to leave my house... 👀🤣
I hope you're well. Great video as always. ❤️
Haha! Love your sense of humor😅 When you head out there, you'll be ready!
I love how you give us visual examples, because I'm a visual learner.
This is great l! Did 20 strong minutes of small talk. Then crashed and burned when it lasted for an hour😂 but I’m super proud of myself !! Thanks for the tips . Subscribing
I used to be so comfortable with making small talk. Then the pandemic happened and I'm starting to realise that I've been actively avoiding being in spaces where I have to make small talk. At work for example, during the pandemic, we all had to have our lunch breaks in separate rooms. Fast forward to today and I'm still having my lunch on my own in my separate room 😣 Has anyone noticed this happening with them?
Haha yes I’ve noticed that I’ve been avoiding social situations and I’ve been staying in the house all the time and I find it hard to talk to people and socialize. So you’re not alone in this 😂
@@carofantastic thank you for your reply and helping me feel a little better 😂 now we have identified this though, we've got to address it. I'm happy to say, I've just finished my meal break at work and today I was in the mess room with other people! It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Quite nice actually ☺️ Please @carofantastic, treat yourself to a little social gathering 😃 have a wonderful time doing it too xx Merry Christmas!!
This channel really came in handy when I started my feminine journey, I'm not yet where I want to be, I'm going to get there soon❤️
Thank you so much for this video!!! I always find myself trying to talk to people, but i feel like i come off as awkward or go into interview mode. I’m going to try and implement the techniques you talked about
I know the feeling! The "listen and build" technique is great for this. Keep practicing, love. You've got this💕
This was an awesome watch with so many specific gems! One thing I'm improving has been patience in conversing. If I'm speaking to someone with a slower pace of conversation, I am already on to the next subject and find myself overs-peaking them. I think I'm balancing speaking to be heard and conversing to understand, without losing my train of thought.
I struggle with this and need to work on this as well.
I commented on another of your videos yesterday about the quality being very good. This one hasn’t disappointed! I feel a Sunday slow Winter’s day, with a binge of this channel coming on 😁 and my favourite part is always “Hiiiii Ladieeess” this alone makes me feel feminine ❤ Enjoy your day 😘
Some of these tips are quite helpful for people who speak more than one language. One of my close friends speaks French natively and speaks English as well. Initially, I really didn't enjoy conversing with her because her words would trail off into other words and run into each other. I realize now though that part of that has to do with the way French is spoken. It's definitely something to improve on but it's interesting how speech styles shift across languages.
Wow this is so me, and it sucks because i find that within my relationship i struggle the most. My boyfriend loves to converse and i can listen to him all day but when it’s time for me and he’s like “ how do you feel about xyz or what’s your input? It’s like my mind goes stupid and I’m like idk and it makes me so sad that idk why I’m like this
This is great for the autistics. Thank you so much! 💞
Lol funny how this video showed up on my timeline. I hate small talk. It feels like a waste of time to me. It also feels fake. I do a lot of this "how is the weather" nonsense at my corporate job.
Lol I was raised to get straight to the point. If you want something from me, ask directly. Asking me how my day is going is fake because the moment I start actually mentioning what is going on, they cut me off and go blank. Things become awkward.
My biggest hiccup with conversations is telling myself that I don’t care about what these ppl have going on. 🤦🏾♀️ I love talking with ppl, but lately, I’ve had this attitude of “If it’s not about so & so, then I just don’t care to engage.” But I’m shifting to another phase in my life, so these tips are great reminders. Thanks
It’s funny the algorithm brought this video to my attention because I’m definitely not an expert at small talk. I enjoyed this video very much and plan to practice all the tips especially during parties. Thank you for taking the time to help all of us get out of our comfort zone. 😊
Look at the algorithm doing good work! Welcome, love! Practice makes perfect - cheers to getting out of our comfort zones 🥂
this video came in the right moment! also, i love the way your videos bring so much diversification of women. they´re all so mesmerizing and i don´t know why, but seeing those women smiling brings me the comfort i need. thank you, the feminine universe
I'm an introvert according to me but a loner and anti-social according to people. I've never had a problem making friends or small talk because once I'm comfortable I might overshare because talking in public is usual for me and talking or writing puts me in my element. My mother hates crowds and the stage but my grandmothers and father loved them. I might be too loud and talk too quickly for others to keep up so I have to remind myself to go at a moderate pace and keep checking my volume and content as I talk. Sometimes even think before I talk is a problem but sometimes it's a blessing. I seem to make people especially men feel comfortable to talk about their issues and get vulnerable with me.
This is so helpful. I have always struggled with this part of my glow up journey. Much love x
In my childhood, I was never allowed to express myself, so I spoke very little. Moreover I am introverted, my problem is that as soon as I am with people I like, I talk a lot. And often my boyfriend listens to me more than I listen to him.
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this video! I’m good with one on one conversations, but it’s daunting to walk into a networking event where I don’t know anyone! These tips will definitely help the next time I’m faced with that. Thank
You. ❤ Mary in Florida 🌺
I always get held hostage in convos lol thank you for showing me the correct way to end a conversation!! Lol
Haha! That's always the worst😅
LOVED this!! Let me tell you, as an Autistic woman, this video is a GODSEND. The only thing I wish you'd delved into more is the fidgeting. As someone with autism, it can be almost PAINFUL for me to not get to "stim" when I need to. Does anyone have any advice or ideas? :)
Possibly finding different secret ways to stim so ppl can't see. Like I would wiggle my toes or gently rub the fabric on my pants or coat in a discreet way.
If you can wear a ring, fidget with that, fidget with the back of your earring, fidget with the napkin on your lap
@@shimrsparklshine Thank you so much for offering me a solution, friend! One that is ladylike, too!
@@katherineg986 you're welcome! I hope these work for you! Oh, and I looked it up- there is jewelry for fidgeting- fidget rings, bracelets... These are things you can fidget with under the table and he will never notice 😊👌✨
Thank you, I took some notes and hope this helps ❤ I know I’m a great friend, it’s the making friends part lol
You have so much substance. I love your content , i love you. Thank you so much for your wisdom. ❤❤❤
I'd love to watch a video about the differences between small talk and flirting. Thanks!
This is so hard for someone who isn’t neurotypical 😢 but this will help hopefully
Really enjoyed this video, loving all the examples and tips you're giving 💝
I'm so happy this was helpful, love!
These are very great tips! Thank you so much! Now... let's all go practice! 😁 My problem was always skipping a small talks and going directly into more... intimate conversations. That's usualy not beneficial in professionall relationships. I'm always talking too much about me, because the other person keep asking questions, wanting to know me. That needs to stop. Now I'm taking control over the conversations 😁
This page has fed and norished my feminine journey. Thank you.
Wow thank u so much!!! U don’t understand how much this has touched and helped me!!!! Omg!! Inc thing thank u!!! 🥹after my first interview 3 years ago I was stuck! It went to bad! The interviewer laughed and said he won’t hire me due to no type of communication skills. This broke me because that was so hard but I understand now that I have to change for me. When he would Ask questions it took me 30seconds to think of answers and I grew up so shy with no friends with bad social anxiety. I even dropped classss because I can’t do presentations. Today at 25 it hurts that I still have the same issues but it’s time to change ! Thank u queen! Ur so amazing 🥹🥹🥹🥹I love u so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You got this! It takes one day at a time!
it is important to ask people questions and not make things about you and to keep the conversation happy and upbeat
This video was very helpful. Thank you for giving great examples as well. I’m interested on a video about dating/ flirting!
Seeing all the “Selling Tampa” GIFS and knowing that I took part in that is 🤯
can you do a video on connecting on a deeper level with someone we like, ideas on things to say...at times my mind goes blank. how do i master recognizing moments & knowing what to say to connect with what they said? sometimes iM clueless & missed moments where he shared smth about himself that he likes to talk about & that was important. what kinds of things can i share about myself to appropriately show vulnerability in response to what he said?
Can you do one with flirting and dating this video was really informative. I love how you gave examples of what to do and what not to do and the list was a good time. I also like the how reiterate it the practices makes perfect!
It makes me comfortable to know the person I’m talking to feels awkward in the beginning of the conversation. Makes me feel like I have control over the person I’m talking too. Might sound wrong or strange but it’s true. I feel like it’s up to me if the person will feel comfortable or not
Yes so glad I didn’t miss this segment ❤ I have been told I am easy to talk too 😊
Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, je conseille le livre "CONVERSATION & RÉPARTIE", de Nathan Stone. Y a tout ce qu'il faut savoir, c'est clair, très complet, pas de discours superflu, le top. Tous ceux à qui je l'ai conseillé en sont très contents ! C'est un indispensable.
The knowledge I didn’t realize I needed! Thank you for this information 🙏🏾. I’m here for the video on flirting :)
Thank you for sharing this. I love it 💕
You're welcome, love! Glad you enjoyed it 💕
Oh my gosh, thank God it alive. I missed ur videos so much😭😭
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This video was everything .. from start to finish. You are so intelligent love & you continue to teach me soo much 💕 thank you for all you do for us 🙏
I love love love your videos, and thank you for them all. I learn a lot
You are so welcome, love! It's great to know the content is valuable for you 😘
What do you do when you genuinely can't think of what to say in a conversation? Like in theory I know roughly how you're supposed to respond, but in actual practice my mind always goes blank. It's like when you're in school with exam anxiety so your brain goes blank and you can't come up with the answers. I also have a really hard time actually speaking even when I know what I want to say, it always comes out like a jumbled mess like my brain and my mouth aren't properly connected. I've been practicing since I was a kid and I've never gotten better. I'm a really good listener but I can't speak 😭
Wow this is so me, and it sucks because i find that within my relationship i struggle the most. My boyfriend loves to converse and i can listen to him all day but when it’s time for me and he’s like “ how do you feel about xyz or what’s your input? It’s like my mind goes stupid and I’m like idk and it makes me so sad that idk why I’m like this.
I find that when I spend more time on my phone, I am less creative. While I do spend some time watching videos and reading articles, I do not spend hours and hours. I will also bring up videos and articles that I've read. Heck, I'll bring up The Feminine Universe. It could spark an interesting conversation!
This video was a godsend! I would love to watch the video on flirting, you had mentioned. I’ll keep an eye out on your channel to spot one. :)
I think talking to people in a kind and nice manner
Your videos are amazing. Thank you for sharing your insight and helping us gals improve our presentation. This is the stuff right here.
I read in a book on human relationships by dale carnegie that it’s all about being genuinely interested in the other person. It’s pretty cool how that small shift makes such a big difference in conversations.
Learning how to flirt would be pretty interesting to cover.
Listen to the universe y’all ok 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Staying feminine and focused over here 👈🏿 .
Thanks sis 💗.
You are on it, love! I see you out here collecting and applying the gems. I always enjoy your feedback and hearing about your journey - keep it up! 💕💕
nice video, please make video on 'In this time of inflation and busy life how to make friends when u dont have extra money and time? i'm single and living alone,, i have to do all my in house works and work outside home,, i dont left money and time for making or have friendships, if u invite someone u have to spend money and u have to do work to entertain them, if u go out with friends u need extra money to spend on them and on yourself to be presentable,, can u explain this,, or can u guide me that making and having friendships and meet and greet is only for elites these days?????? everybody please reply with ur thoughts on it....
Thank you, yes, flirting video is great! :)
I've got you covered, love!!
Thank u so much I took a ton of notes and going to hang them up so I can study them daily !
Great advice!! I really needed this video!! I'm HORRIBLE at small talk. I'm going to try some of these suggestions out.
I for sure need to practice 😂. Thank you for all these great tips!
Great tips. In addition, I like to end on a joke either from them or myself before saying goodbye
Everyone loves a good sense of humor!
I needed that silent listening 😂‼️
Another great and practical video from you. The art of conversation opens or closes doors in an instant. I am one of those who is still at the point of Volume, Pace and Clarity. Great job. Thank you 💖
Thanks!
Can you please do a video on the workplace . How to
Keep everything there & on workplace related drama
Thank you for this gem! Looking forward to a video about flirting
thank you for this!!
Thank you so much for these videos! I wish we could have more!
I’m so glad you covered this topic. Your channel is so amazing…had to mention it on mine. 💫✨
Wow, that's such a major compliment, Julia! Your input is always valued here. Congratulations on starting your channel!!
Cheers to you 🥂💕
@@TheFeminineUniverse thank you! Love your work. It really has been a major inspiration to me.🤍
I really enjoyed this video.very detailed and thorough as always. I liked the tip of how to have short but smooth conversations.and yes I would enjoy a flirting guide
I needed this. Thank you.
another big thing is, don't interrupt people constantly ; i know someone that does this every time we talk on the phone and its very annoying.......
This is fantastic content especially with so many holiday parties going on!
Sometimes Jim is just tryna get out the building bc it’s been a long week 😂 lol but I definitely get it sis. Great video as usual :)
Haha🤣 Absolutely! We don't want hold anyone hostage. It's always important to read the room and the vibe 💕
this is a really good video
Loved it and it came at the right moment, cause I'm needing it so much! And please, do a video about flirting, it'll be really helpful too!
Yay! Glad this was on time for you, love! Flirting video on the list 😉