IN THIS WEEK'S VIDEO: We are talking about how to stop feeling so bad all the time! Does too much of what others say to you affect you negatively? Learn ways to thicken your skin and build your emotional resiliency so you get out of the pain and take responsibility for your feelings. Shift your perceptions to what you want to feel! Check Out Our Other Videos on Emotional Resiliency: ►Top 4 Boundary Rules: ruclips.net/video/vXYO92SNv_k/видео.html ► How To Deal With Drama: ruclips.net/video/p_gcmi9P6vo/видео.html ► 3 Secrets to Lasting Self Confidence: ruclips.net/video/_XZRansMJD0/видео.html ★★★ BEST IDEAS ★★★ (1:11) 1. Change Your Relationship With Pain "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." - Buddha One of the strongest ideas in my coaching, this mindset helps you take responsibility for your feelings while acknowledging them at the same time, which lessons the pain it causes. What do you want to feel moving forward? (3:00) 2. Stop Giving Other People Power “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” - Mahatma Gandhi When others touch on our vulnerabilities, it can be easy to allow yourself to feel pain and hurt from their actions. Choose to not accept mental or emotional hurt from the actions of others to avoid hurt feelings. (5:22) 3. Use Your Positive Affirmations "Nothing you say or do to me means anything about me, even if it’s directed towards me.” Bonnie Kelly Learn to distance yourself from people's judgements and opinions and perceptions. Strengthen your emotional resiliency and thicken your skin when you realize that other people speak from their own hurt and it has nothing to do with you. (6:07) 4. Stop Taking Things So Personally! "Remember that, hurt people - hurt people." Other people's dysfunction is their own and cause damage to others because they are hurt themselves. It is your choice to not allow their judgement to affect us. (7:37) 5. Listen to What People Are Really Saying “When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” - Thich Nhat Hanh People call out for attention in many ways, and sometimes it can be perceived as attacks. Bullying is a cry for attention, help, guidance, and love. (8:29) 6. Assert Conscious Boundaries One of the best ways to thicken your skin is just being ok with others not being ok, and to set boundaries with the mindset of teaching others how to interact and engage with us. Know that people don't want to hurt you, they simply don't know how to treat you. (10:16) 7. Use Your Self Confidence! "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." - Brene Brown Be willing to love yourself enough to teach others. SOCIAL: Twitter ► goo.gl/ZKhK5r Facebook ► goo.gl/TNHpPE Instagram ► goo.gl/p51ZDH iTunes Podcast ► COMING SOON! MY PRODUCTS & COURSES: 21 Day Emotional Detox Program (Snag 7-Days Free) ► goo.gl/X1uezj 3-Secrets To Lasting Self-Confidence (FREE 3-Part Video Series) ►goo.gl/e8MtzY True To Your Core: Uncovering the Subconscious Beliefs that Wreak Havoc on Your Life (Book & Kindle) ► goo.gl/6TgzYf WANT TO BE COACHED BY ME? Are you ready to commit to the change you have been searching for? Let’s Talk! To apply for The Over It Academy send us an email: GetInspired@BonnieKelly.me (serious applicants only) SCHEDULE YOUR FREE SESSION HERE: calendly.com/bonniekelly/20-min QUESTIONS? Have a Personal Dev Topics You Want To See Answered? Email Us at GetInspired@BonnieKelly.me - We are here for you every step of the way! XOXO, Bonnie Kelly
I feel hurt and it's hard to let go but after this video I watch today I'm learning not to let people get me down and make me feel like nothing I'm very intelligent and beautiful young lady I can accomplish a lot in my life and make it I can do it I believe In myself and God 😍💯💜😇☝🏾✊🏾🤗
Wow. "Nothing u say or do to me means nothing about me, even if it's directed towards me. " I like it. No...correction. I LOVE it!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I set a boundary with my father he talks about my weight when he is drunk. Even sober he says “ I can say whatever I want I’m your father”. I told him he doesn’t care how it makes me feel and he stood firm and said he can say whatever he wants. So I’ll be putting him in time out from engaging with me. I’m not a toy. If you’re hurting use your big boy words. I went to my room to parent myself into feeling better because I know it’s not fair to be poked where I already worry just because he has his own shame.
This was so helpful, I literally looked for a video on how to not be narcissistic and I couldn't find one... I do hurt. But I don't want to use it as an excuse to be the way that I am. Definitely going to watch more of these videos thank you.
Nobody can hurt me without my permission…..I know I made no mistake . When some one is mean to me because of their ego, proudness and attitude , I will not get hurt. I will ignore it, because deep down my heart I know I have done nothing wrong .. it’s is not easy to not get hurt at all, when some is insulting you on face, I was too sensitive before snd it only hurt me more. Now I just don’t give importance at all to any one who just keeps on insulting me … I don’t value your opinion attitude. It has helped me not to get bogged down by people who constantly try to let me down
You are such an amazing person! ❤❤ I was extremely desperate and looking for something to hold me ,motivate me ❤ and I found you ! You won't believe I started watching it with boiling blood and a fragile heart but soon I could feel the peace in my heart and happiness in my soul !! I love you so much! ❤ your channel must grow to a millions of subscribers ! 💓💓
@@RebelsForJoy can you please make a video on how to deal with fake people who constantly lie without any reason and keep you in the dark even when you are so understanding about them ....they are very disturbing and simply makes me want to pull my hairs ! Please help! And also on why are people such hypocrites!
I feel guilt. When I fought with my friend because I was mad. He said negative things about me. It hurt me. I hear his voice in my head. I have no way to reach him. 🤦♂️
This popped up on my feed. I don't know why it did. But I am going through a tough journey at the moment and I really needed to see this. Thank you so much.
I hate the saying hurt people, hurt people. I took this advice and contacted a family member and let him open up to me even after he had hurt me emotionally. I came to know that he was hurt by others. I sympathize with him. But he never acknowledged my phone call, never acknowledged that I stepped forward and heard him out. Leave it, he didn't even apologise for his misbehavior. He still thinks he is right. He is always right. I'm the one in the wrong. How does it give hurt people right to hurt people who didn't cause the hurt? Why do I have to be the garbage can for them? I've been hurt so many times and I'm not hurting others. When I can do this, why can't I expect the same from others? I guess I'm just tired of understanding people and being misunderstood all the time.
This is one reason why we must do good to those who hate us. We must love our enemies as Jesus taught us. Luke 6:27-38 Love for Enemies(A) 27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,(B) 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.(C) 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. 30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.(D) 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.(E) 32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you?(F) Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you?(G) Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them,(H) and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children(I) of the Most High,(J) because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful,(K) just as your Father(L) is merciful.
Oh my... Thank you so much for reminding me of things I used know! You quickly made me feels so much better. I've been grieving & it's interesting to suddenly realize how grief can make us forget how to be good to & believe in ourselves & leave us vulnerable to unkind people. Thanks again! Wheh!!
Very good material you have produced. My deal is, mainly with frienmies (fake friends) who like to lead me on, tease me, lie to me and use me. They figure I will always be there for them to use and abuse. I would like to do something to show them that I am on to them, but that I do not hate them. I would just like to tell them in the kindest and most healthy way (for all parties involved) Im not going to give you that power over me anymore. When you say that people don't know how to treat you, I am inclined to believe that. At one time there was a mainstream etiquette (an acceptable standard of basic behavior and manners) that people would adhere to. Granted, I know there were always those who wanted to be mean and even evil, but the majority of people had a conscience. Of course, I think that over the last 15 to 20 years new ideology, alternative forms of education and discipline and pure selfishness have become a trend that undermines good values and the old concept of 'Treat others they way that YOU want to be treated.' I can understand little kids behaving this way, but I am talking adults, well over the age of 30 with people skills that are just downright disgraceful. As a kid, I never would have gotten away with the things that 97 percent of what the ADULT society says and does today, with NO regard to the feelings of others. And yet, some of these people profess to be my FRIENDS?!?
I am physically hurted by my own family and it caused a great mentally hurt. I want to leave my family but ..... I do not have ways to earn money rather than begging. Can you help me😓😓😔
@@luckyme100178 WELL.... IM SUFFERING FROM THIS KIND OF STATES TOO BUT MY DEPRESSION WAS CURED BECAUSE I BELIEVED IN MYSELF AND FROM GOD BECAUSE WHEN LIFE GETS HARD YOU WILL BE THE ONE TO PUSH YOURSELF I RAN AWAY FROM HOME AND FOUND A PLACE TO LIVE YES I'M ONLY 10 YEARS OLD BUT I HAVE MONEY OF MY OWN THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF MY JOURNEY TO ACHIEVE MY DREAMS EVERYTHING IN LIFE ALWAYS STARTS AT THE BOTTOM A GOOD PERSON IS A GIFT FROM GOD DONT CHANGE YOURSELF FOR THEM CHANGE FOR YOURSELF *BE WHO YOU ARE AND SAY WHAT YOU FEEL BECAUSE* *THOSE WHO MIND DOESN'T MATTER AND THOSE WHO MATTER* *DONT MIND*
Great & Thanks a lot. This video has given me some brilliant direction on how to not get hurt. Now onus is with me to implement & practice. Surely, hoping for a positive result. A BIG THANK YOU.
Some times my mother and my sister say things that really hurt but i can't cry about it idk why i just can't but those things hurt and they stick around 😔
I get how you're feeling, I have people who have been horrible to me also including my sister. My only advice to you that I strongly believe with all my heart is better than any other advice no offense to anyone reading this, is comming to Jesus because through Jesus and by accepting him as Lord and Saviour repenting of your sins and asking him to fill you with his Holy Spirit/getting baptized in the mame of God the Father God the Son and God the Holy Spirit, and giving Jesus your heart you will be freed of heartbreak and any hurt. It even states in 2 Corinthians 3:17 that "Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom." If you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour and experience this freedom that nothing and noone else can ever provide you. I urge you to say this prayer: Lord Jesus forgive me for all my sins, as I forgive those who have sinned against me, I accept you my Saviour, fill me with your Holy Spirit, in Jesus Christ name Amen. (And by saying this prayer your name is written in the book of life in heaven and you have stepped into freedom and came into Salvation by our Lord Jesus Christ!!!!!💙💙 Jesus loves you very much, please keep your faith and carry on walking in the Light while you have the Light which is Jesus. God bless.
Hi Bonnie, ty so much for this excellent video very informative and helpful, I now know how to accept myself and not let people offend me, ty so much, regards, Bob,
Thank you so much, I just found this your wonderful talk by accident and I really enjoyed it as you really spoke to my innermost heart. I am saving it so I can always go back to it any time I want.
I love it when healing advice videos have such a positive and light vibe. I appreciate all other kinds of youtubers who present a lot of help and value, but sometimes I feel like the video's "vibe" is so sad and like "how to kinda live although you'll still feel like crap most of the time" , instead your videos are like "Yass! Imma get out of this cave and let the sun shine bright on my faaacee" 😂😂 This kind of energy makes me feel stronger! 💕💕💕
I told my mother i need boundaries and she kicked me out She asked me why do i think no one comes and visits her or invites her so i was honest with my opinion I just said well when boundaries are set you trample over them and don't respect them and it hurts me and others i am the only child who reunited with her So she did a smear campaign to make me look like the bad guy and now she takes back all she gave me and starts bullying me with negative energy and power and control tactics and insults me Why is truth and honesty not acceptable why do i feel i need to lie to make my way in life There has to be a way to figure out why people do this i want to never have this happen again to anyone even me What can we learn about them to save them i feel bad for her honestly 😕just hurts me so much 💔
Good morning! I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. Our intros are definitely high-energy and I can totally understand if you were in the midst of pain how that can be very off-setting. Is there anything I can do to support you through this? My calender is open for the next few weeks and you can grab 20-minutes free with me. Maybe we can find some personal solutions to helping you feel better? Wishing you well. Here's the link: calendly.com/bonniekelly/20-min
I am an attractive woman in her 60's. For the better part of my life I have always been self concious about my looks, which derived from the fact that I was incessantly teased at school. Today I know that these awful years are behind me and I ought to move on. Unfortunately whenever I come accross someone I meet randomly they slways say something unflattering about my looks. The question is - can this be true or is this something I expect to hear and therefore unknowingly manifest it. Personally I know I don't deserve this!
Great question!! It could be the way your brain is interpreting the feed back for sure, and it could also be someone giving you their unwelcome opinion. In the end what is most Important is what you think, feel and believe. When someone says something ugly about me I get to decide if I agree with them or not and if their negative opinion doesn’t serve me I choose my opinion over theirs. Could their be truth in their statement, sure and if it serves me to change I will but I will still anchor my thoughts in it being a positive learning opportunity. I hope that helps. What I’m try to say is... you are beautiful, loved and appreciated just as you are. I know this and it sounds like you do as well. Allow this to be your story and like Taylor Swift says... haters going to hate hate hate and there’s nothing you can do to change that so I’m just going to dance. Xoxo
Can you do a video on fixing the scars from bullying? I was bullied by a group of girls in middle school. I grew up on an island and moved away. I want to go home, but the isolation of having no friends will kill me. Bullying left permanent scars on me and lots of self hate. They're all still friends, married and have careers. I've lost most of my friends from college, am single (guys break up with me because I can't love myself) and am extremely indecisive about a career. Do you think you can do a video on this and how to fix it? Therapists haven't been very effective.
You bet!! I am happy to create one just for you. Im so sorry for the delay in getting back to you. Your message was overlooked and is important! In the meantime, if you've got some time, let's chat! I am happy to see where we can heal and transform. Here's a link to book: calendly.com/bonniekelly/20-min
Dear dayna, I hope you will read this, just wanted to let you know that I really appreciate your sharing of your personal story!! It helps me as I know that I am not alone with feeling that way and with my experiences. Wish all the best for you dear ❤️
hi, i have heard, the aspect of toughening, one's skin. But i feel, in a 24 hours day. Or 7 day a week. Everyone, needs that 'recharge' moment, or 30-60 min time....when the put that thick skin down....and feel themselves.....what do you think ? ( im not good at all this, so...im more of asking...that making a point ). Thank you.
I don't know how to let it out but I just wanna do it anywhere. The person that caused me distress, well her relationship to me is like- a step-mother? (That's not what our relationship is but the situation is kind of similar to typical step-mom stories) I know that she doesn't mean anything bad to me, she just genuinely doesn't care, I don't matter. Ofc I could confront her or tell anyone about it but I don't want to cause chaos and have an unpleasant atmosphere all around the house. I'm not worth that much trouble (since I constantly get reminded I'm useless, it doesn't affect me anymore but on the inside I have just accepted that as the truth) so all I can do is cry and search up videos like this to cope.
My exs cheated on me and the man I’m with now isn’t like that. He did something though that really brought back traumas and I don’t know how to let it go. He never meant to hurt me and has done nothing but reassure me but it just hurts too much and I’m sick of being hurt. Hoping this video helps me
If you want peace come to Jesus and he will mend your broken heart, the name of Jesus is higher than any other names, king of all kings no other name like his, his name is greater than heartbreak, greater than any desiase. 💜
I just think my friend doesn’t like me because she calls her friends over her house and not tell me and then my mom tells me I have keeping it and I thought I should be better and just ignore it but I can’t
Mahatma Gandhi saying is right ... it is hard to implement but if you do you will not feel hurt or feel frustrated . There is a person hurts me emotionally and is rude and harsh to me . I was crying and sad and then came here and feel better...
Great video. You make excellent points and are a joy to listen to! (Just a minor correction: Gandhi's called Ma-haat-ma Gandhi. Not Mohammad Gandhi. Mohammad is a name from the Qur'an while Mahatma is more of a title in Sanskrit and means 'Great Soul'.)
My mom regularly comes home being drunk..and fights with me..which hurts me alot and also effect's my study too..I live alone with my mom.. I'm really scared of her..I literally dont know what to do to avoid all of these.
Please talk to your mom. Help her get over her drinking habit. Take consultation of ur grandparents or any relative or friend who can mediate between u and ur mom. Take care. Stay strong. Stay hopeful
what should i do when a person talks about mt personal stuff like involving my parents when my parents hasnt done anything to do with the fight,keeps hurting by abusing /saying hurtful things even then i should LET GO of things?
First I would love to say that you’re absolutely amazing human being I loved watching several of your videos you’re so on point I believe the world needs more people like you just one simple correction to Mahatma Gandhi in your video you mention his name Mohammad Gandhi , out of respect to Gandhi maybe we should fix this little issue
No-one me watching this video after getting hurt by parents and everyone it hurts good. I can hold my tears but not the pain. I have anger issues i am hurting myself bcoz of hurts I got from everywhere. I am doing good but there is a mistake to disown me by my family . And i am from India 12 th grade. And i wanna become a scientist but it's in question mark being me is harder than being a girl in this world
IN THIS WEEK'S VIDEO:
We are talking about how to stop feeling so bad all the time! Does too much of what others say to you affect you negatively? Learn ways to thicken your skin and build your emotional resiliency so you get out of the pain and take responsibility for your feelings. Shift your perceptions to what you want to feel!
Check Out Our Other Videos on Emotional Resiliency:
►Top 4 Boundary Rules: ruclips.net/video/vXYO92SNv_k/видео.html
► How To Deal With Drama: ruclips.net/video/p_gcmi9P6vo/видео.html
► 3 Secrets to Lasting Self Confidence: ruclips.net/video/_XZRansMJD0/видео.html
★★★ BEST IDEAS ★★★
(1:11) 1. Change Your Relationship With Pain
"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." - Buddha
One of the strongest ideas in my coaching, this mindset helps you take responsibility for your feelings while acknowledging them at the same time, which lessons the pain it causes. What do you want to feel moving forward?
(3:00) 2. Stop Giving Other People Power
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” - Mahatma Gandhi
When others touch on our vulnerabilities, it can be easy to allow yourself to feel pain and hurt from their actions. Choose to not accept mental or emotional hurt from the actions of others to avoid hurt feelings.
(5:22) 3. Use Your Positive Affirmations
"Nothing you say or do to me means anything about me, even if it’s directed towards me.” Bonnie Kelly
Learn to distance yourself from people's judgements and opinions and perceptions. Strengthen your emotional resiliency and thicken your skin when you realize that other people speak from their own hurt and it has nothing to do with you.
(6:07) 4. Stop Taking Things So Personally!
"Remember that, hurt people - hurt people."
Other people's dysfunction is their own and cause damage to others because they are hurt themselves. It is your choice to not allow their judgement to affect us.
(7:37) 5. Listen to What People Are Really Saying
“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” - Thich Nhat Hanh
People call out for attention in many ways, and sometimes it can be perceived as attacks. Bullying is a cry for attention, help, guidance, and love.
(8:29) 6. Assert Conscious Boundaries
One of the best ways to thicken your skin is just being ok with others not being ok, and to set boundaries with the mindset of teaching others how to interact and engage with us. Know that people don't want to hurt you, they simply don't know how to treat you.
(10:16) 7. Use Your Self Confidence!
"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." - Brene Brown
Be willing to love yourself enough to teach others.
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Bonnie Kelly omg this video helped so much omg
Rebels For Joy Xoxo
Does your book also cover this??
those people don't know that I'm watching this video while I'm crying.
sending you all the love my friend. Heeling can be hard, be patient with yourself during the process.
Same.
U ain't alone
Count me in on the guest list
Some guy was bullying me in front of my dad and he didn't do anything.
I feel hurt and it's hard to let go but after this video I watch today I'm learning not to let people get me down and make me feel like nothing I'm very intelligent and beautiful young lady I can accomplish a lot in my life and make it I can do it I believe In myself and God 😍💯💜😇☝🏾✊🏾🤗
Amen sister! Thank you so much for sharing your story! You can accomplish great things! Wishing you well
Same
I don't know why this came up on my feed? But I'm so happy it did!! I received so much from this. Thank you!!!
You are so welcome!!!
Wow. "Nothing u say or do to me means nothing about me, even if it's directed towards me. " I like it. No...correction. I LOVE it!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
So grateful this resonates with you!! Thanks for watching!
I set a boundary with my father he talks about my weight when he is drunk. Even sober he says “ I can say whatever I want I’m your father”. I told him he doesn’t care how it makes me feel and he stood firm and said he can say whatever he wants. So I’ll be putting him in time out from engaging with me. I’m not a toy. If you’re hurting use your big boy words. I went to my room to parent myself into feeling better because I know it’s not fair to be poked where I already worry just because he has his own shame.
This was so helpful, I literally looked for a video on how to not be narcissistic and I couldn't find one... I do hurt. But I don't want to use it as an excuse to be the way that I am. Definitely going to watch more of these videos thank you.
Nobody can hurt me without my permission…..I know I made no mistake . When some one is mean to me because of their ego, proudness and attitude , I will not get hurt. I will ignore it, because deep down my heart I know I have done nothing wrong .. it’s is not easy to not get hurt at all, when some is insulting you on face, I was too sensitive before snd it only hurt me more. Now I just don’t give importance at all to any one who just keeps on insulting me … I don’t value your opinion attitude. It has helped me not to get bogged down by people who constantly try to let me down
I needed this video. I'm still hurt, but I need to change my attitude
crying while watching this
You are such an amazing person! ❤❤ I was extremely desperate and looking for something to hold me ,motivate me ❤ and I found you ! You won't believe I started watching it with boiling blood and a fragile heart but soon I could feel the peace in my heart and happiness in my soul !! I love you so much! ❤ your channel must grow to a millions of subscribers ! 💓💓
Thank you so much!! If there is anything I can do to continue to support your growth please let me know! We have tons of free content! XOXO
@@RebelsForJoy can you please make a video on how to deal with fake people who constantly lie without any reason and keep you in the dark even when you are so understanding about them ....they are very disturbing and simply makes me want to pull my hairs ! Please help! And also on why are people such hypocrites!
I feel guilt. When I fought with my friend because I was mad. He said negative things about me. It hurt me. I hear his voice in my head. I have no way to reach him. 🤦♂️
This popped up on my feed. I don't know why it did. But I am going through a tough journey at the moment and I really needed to see this. Thank you so much.
Hope it gets better 🌻
I hate the saying hurt people, hurt people. I took this advice and contacted a family member and let him open up to me even after he had hurt me emotionally. I came to know that he was hurt by others. I sympathize with him. But he never acknowledged my phone call, never acknowledged that I stepped forward and heard him out. Leave it, he didn't even apologise for his misbehavior. He still thinks he is right. He is always right. I'm the one in the wrong. How does it give hurt people right to hurt people who didn't cause the hurt? Why do I have to be the garbage can for them? I've been hurt so many times and I'm not hurting others. When I can do this, why can't I expect the same from others? I guess I'm just tired of understanding people and being misunderstood all the time.
I feel this. I drop people like this. No respect not even gonna try?
" Remember that , hurt people , hurt people"
This line reminded me of the song - the boy in the bubble
I will have to look that up!! Thanks for watching
This is one reason why we must do good to those who hate us. We must love our enemies as Jesus taught us. Luke 6:27-38
Love for Enemies(A)
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,(B) 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.(C) 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. 30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.(D) 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.(E)
32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you?(F) Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you?(G) Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them,(H) and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children(I) of the Most High,(J) because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful,(K) just as your Father(L) is merciful.
Oh my... Thank you so much for reminding me of things I used know! You quickly made me feels so much better. I've been grieving & it's interesting to suddenly realize how grief can make us forget how to be good to & believe in ourselves & leave us vulnerable to unkind people. Thanks again! Wheh!!
I always find myself coming back to this valuable video, it’s always comforting when I remember it exists!
Just crying while watching this
me watching this at 2 am crying
Thank you. My feelings were hurt and you helped me to climb out of that frustration.🌸
This is exactly what I needed this morning! Thank you 🌻
People say don't let other peoples opinions get to u bt me I dnt even even know Hw I can even protect myself from there insults
Very good material you have produced. My deal is, mainly with frienmies (fake friends) who like to lead me on, tease me, lie to me and use me. They figure I will always be there for them to use and abuse. I would like to do something to show them that I am on to them, but that I do not hate them. I would just like to tell them in the kindest and most healthy way (for all parties involved) Im not going to give you that power over me anymore. When you say that people don't know how to treat you, I am inclined to believe that. At one time there was a mainstream etiquette (an acceptable standard of basic behavior and manners) that people would adhere to. Granted, I know there were always those who wanted to be mean and even evil, but the majority of people had a conscience. Of course, I think that over the last 15 to 20 years new ideology, alternative forms of education and discipline and pure selfishness have become a trend that undermines good values and the old concept of 'Treat others they way that YOU want to be treated.' I can understand little kids behaving this way, but I am talking adults, well over the age of 30 with people skills that are just downright disgraceful. As a kid, I never would have gotten away with the things that 97 percent of what the ADULT society says and does today, with NO regard to the feelings of others. And yet, some of these people profess to be my FRIENDS?!?
Thank you so much for making this video. I just got into a big fight with some of my toxic friends and this is really helping
I needed this
2:50 tips start
Thank you so much!!
They were good tips this video helped me. Im in a verbally abusive marriage right now
Kathryn B hope you’re okay ❤️
I am physically hurted by my own family and it caused a great mentally hurt.
I want to leave my family but ..... I do not have ways to earn money rather than begging.
Can you help me😓😓😔
YES I CAN HELP YOU
《FEEL FREE TO SUGGEST》 how can you help him?
@@luckyme100178 WELL....
IM SUFFERING FROM THIS KIND OF STATES TOO BUT
MY DEPRESSION WAS CURED BECAUSE I BELIEVED IN MYSELF
AND FROM GOD BECAUSE WHEN LIFE GETS HARD YOU WILL BE THE ONE TO PUSH YOURSELF I RAN AWAY FROM HOME AND FOUND A PLACE TO LIVE YES I'M ONLY 10 YEARS OLD BUT I HAVE MONEY OF MY OWN THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF MY JOURNEY
TO ACHIEVE MY DREAMS
EVERYTHING IN LIFE ALWAYS STARTS AT THE BOTTOM
A GOOD PERSON IS A GIFT FROM GOD DONT
CHANGE YOURSELF FOR THEM CHANGE FOR YOURSELF
*BE WHO YOU ARE AND SAY WHAT YOU FEEL BECAUSE*
*THOSE WHO MIND DOESN'T MATTER AND THOSE WHO MATTER*
*DONT MIND*
Thanks this is really positive and helpful. Emotional resilience. X
So helpful, thank you.
Thank you for this video
Thank you it helps it’s not easy dealing with hurt and others that hurt us i have a story I have had someone that’s hurt me it hurts
Great & Thanks a lot. This video has given me some brilliant direction on how to not get hurt. Now onus is with me to implement & practice. Surely, hoping for a positive result. A BIG THANK YOU.
Dang you’re good!! Thank you so much. This is VALUABLE
You are most welcome!
Some times my mother and my sister say things that really hurt but i can't cry about it idk why i just can't but those things hurt and they stick around 😔
I get how you're feeling, I have people who have been horrible to me also including my sister. My only advice to you that I strongly believe with all my heart is better than any other advice no offense to anyone reading this, is comming to Jesus because through Jesus and by accepting him as Lord and Saviour repenting of your sins and asking him to fill you with his Holy Spirit/getting baptized in the mame of God the Father God the Son and God the Holy Spirit, and giving Jesus your heart you will be freed of heartbreak and any hurt. It even states in
2 Corinthians 3:17 that
"Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom." If you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour and experience this freedom that nothing and noone else can ever provide you. I urge you to say this prayer: Lord Jesus forgive me for all my sins, as I forgive those who have sinned against me, I accept you my Saviour, fill me with your Holy Spirit, in Jesus Christ name Amen.
(And by saying this prayer your name is written in the book of life in heaven and you have stepped into freedom and came into Salvation by our Lord Jesus Christ!!!!!💙💙 Jesus loves you very much, please keep your faith and carry on walking in the Light while you have the Light which is Jesus. God bless.
Hi Bonnie, ty so much for this excellent video very informative and helpful, I now know how to accept myself and not let people offend me, ty so much, regards, Bob,
Wonderful fun energy and really useful perspective 😊
The fact that I get hurt from someone he doesn’t know he’s hurting me and I don’t know what to do💔💔
2nd time watching it and I’ll watch it until I’m where I need too be , it’s like therapy
Very powerful video with a precise message. I look forward to see many many more :-)
Thank you!! Im happy you enjoyed it
Thank you so much, I just found this your wonderful talk by accident and I really enjoyed it as you really spoke to my innermost heart. I am saving it so I can always go back to it any time I want.
I dunno why this vid showed up in my feed but it hits the core of what im going thru now.
I am so happy it has helped you Herb! Wishing you the best.
Thank you this is really helping me!
I love it when healing advice videos have such a positive and light vibe.
I appreciate all other kinds of youtubers who present a lot of help and value, but sometimes I feel like the video's "vibe" is so sad and like "how to kinda live although you'll still feel like crap most of the time" , instead your videos are like "Yass! Imma get out of this cave and let the sun shine bright on my faaacee" 😂😂
This kind of energy makes me feel stronger! 💕💕💕
This is everything!!❤️ Thank you!!
I'm so happy I saw this video tbh. Thank you sm.
Thank youuuuu 🥰♥️🙌🏼 needed this !!!♥️♥️♥️
I appreciate your words❤
You're smart!
Awesome thank you
Our pleasure!
Thank you for this!!!!❤️❤️
Watching this while crying
sending you all the love my friend. Heeling can be hard, be patient with yourself during the process.
I told my mother i need boundaries and she kicked me out
She asked me why do i think no one comes and visits her or invites her so i was honest with my opinion
I just said well when boundaries are set you trample over them and don't respect them and it hurts me and others i am the only child who reunited with her
So she did a smear campaign to make me look like the bad guy and now she takes back all she gave me and starts bullying me with negative energy and power and control tactics and insults me
Why is truth and honesty not acceptable why do i feel i need to lie to make my way in life
There has to be a way to figure out why people do this i want to never have this happen again to anyone even me
What can we learn about them to save them i feel bad for her honestly 😕just hurts me so much 💔
It hurts the most when a mother says something negative it doesn’t matter if they were wrong …
ohhhh, a light bulb came on when you explained how narcissist perceives me, makes sense
Happy it helped sue!!
Wow.. that is really helpful. Thank you. :)
I'm literally sitting here, having a mental breakdown and being greet like that makes it worse lol
Good morning! I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. Our intros are definitely high-energy and I can totally understand if you were in the midst of pain how that can be very off-setting. Is there anything I can do to support you through this? My calender is open for the next few weeks and you can grab 20-minutes free with me. Maybe we can find some personal solutions to helping you feel better?
Wishing you well.
Here's the link: calendly.com/bonniekelly/20-min
fucking lol thank u for that i literally had to pause it within the first few seconds, this was too accurate
Girl yes!
I am an attractive woman in her 60's. For the better part of my life I have always been self concious about my looks, which derived from the fact that I was incessantly teased at school. Today I know that these awful years are behind me and I ought to move on. Unfortunately whenever I come accross someone I meet randomly they slways say something unflattering about my looks. The question is - can this be true or is this something I expect to hear and therefore unknowingly manifest it. Personally I know I don't deserve this!
Great question!! It could be the way your brain is interpreting the feed back for sure, and it could also be someone giving you their unwelcome opinion. In the end what is most Important is what you think, feel and believe. When someone says something ugly about me I get to decide if I agree with them or not and if their negative opinion doesn’t serve me I choose my opinion over theirs. Could their be truth in their statement, sure and if it serves me to change I will but I will still anchor my thoughts in it being a positive learning opportunity. I hope that helps. What I’m try to say is... you are beautiful, loved and appreciated just as you are. I know this and it sounds like you do as well. Allow this to be your story and like Taylor Swift says... haters going to hate hate hate and there’s nothing you can do to change that so I’m just going to dance. Xoxo
Can you do a video on fixing the scars from bullying? I was bullied by a group of girls in middle school. I grew up on an island and moved away. I want to go home, but the isolation of having no friends will kill me. Bullying left permanent scars on me and lots of self hate. They're all still friends, married and have careers. I've lost most of my friends from college, am single (guys break up with me because I can't love myself) and am extremely indecisive about a career. Do you think you can do a video on this and how to fix it? Therapists haven't been very effective.
You bet!! I am happy to create one just for you. Im so sorry for the delay in getting back to you. Your message was overlooked and is important! In the meantime, if you've got some time, let's chat! I am happy to see where we can heal and transform. Here's a link to book: calendly.com/bonniekelly/20-min
Dear dayna, I hope you will read this, just wanted to let you know that I really appreciate your sharing of your personal story!! It helps me as I know that I am not alone with feeling that way and with my experiences. Wish all the best for you dear ❤️
hi, i have heard, the aspect of toughening, one's skin. But i feel, in a 24 hours day. Or 7 day a week. Everyone, needs that 'recharge' moment, or 30-60 min time....when the put that thick skin down....and feel themselves.....what do you think ? ( im not good at all this, so...im more of asking...that making a point ). Thank you.
I don't know how to let it out but I just wanna do it anywhere. The person that caused me distress, well her relationship to me is like- a step-mother? (That's not what our relationship is but the situation is kind of similar to typical step-mom stories) I know that she doesn't mean anything bad to me, she just genuinely doesn't care, I don't matter. Ofc I could confront her or tell anyone about it but I don't want to cause chaos and have an unpleasant atmosphere all around the house. I'm not worth that much trouble (since I constantly get reminded I'm useless, it doesn't affect me anymore but on the inside I have just accepted that as the truth) so all I can do is cry and search up videos like this to cope.
I need this
I'm hurt from my fake friends how to deal with it
Get a baseball bat on those "friends"
@@theheaterguyryan5052 that's horrible isn't it.
thanks
Love From INDIA..This Video..Helped Me Alot..that I can't Express..😇❤️💯
Glad it helped!
My exs cheated on me and the man I’m with now isn’t like that. He did something though that really brought back traumas and I don’t know how to let it go. He never meant to hurt me and has done nothing but reassure me but it just hurts too much and I’m sick of being hurt. Hoping this video helps me
Very helpful video.
Omg why I have I only just come across your channel now!
People be hurting you and ask what did I say to hurt you 🙃
I m so hurt... Don't even know what to do. I m just watchin this videos to get courage. But i keep on getting annoyed when listening to this😢
If you want peace come to Jesus and he will mend your broken heart, the name of Jesus is higher than any other names, king of all kings no other name like his, his name is greater than heartbreak, greater than any desiase. 💜
Things for this 3 tips 🙏💛💛
It's help a lot for me I feel empty right now
I subbed coz you are so positive about life👍
Thank you!! Welcome to the family
I showed this to my flowers and it became weed
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Ehh???
3:01 I think you said mouhammed instead of mahatma by mistake.
you really helped me, thank you
I just think my friend doesn’t like me because she calls her friends over her house and not tell me and then my mom tells me I have keeping it and I thought I should be better and just ignore it but I can’t
Three steps:
1. Get hair sample of bad person
2. Construct voodoo doll
3. Extract revenge
So nice
Thanks for that ❤ i got call by racists british he rude to me and racist words it hurt me alot i didnt feeling love and i didnt feel special :(
Its alright your not Alone and i hope your doing alright
Really helpful
Glad you think so!
I am in a depressed and l find everything hurtful and people to be painful to be around l feel people indulge on hurting me and being disrespectful.
If I die nobody will care I wish that I didn't feel anything or have a big heart I love someone so much but she doesn't feel the same no more
I hope you heal from the pain you're feeling right now.. ❤️🌻
@@jessielastname754 one day thank you so much for your comment doll
I bet your such a strong person, I wish the best for you ❤️
@@skylarfly314 thank you so much
But thErE is AwEy to trEat and bE with. Respect
HELPFUL❤️👍
Glad you think so!
Mahatma Gandhi saying is right ... it is hard to implement but if you do you will not feel hurt or feel frustrated . There is a person hurts me emotionally and is rude and harsh to me . I was crying and sad and then came here and feel better...
Boy, This channel needs way too many more subscribers than it has.
I so agree! We are working on changing this now :) Im happy youh have been enjoying our videos!
@@RebelsForJoy hire some SEO guys. This channel is super underrated
We just did!! And I agree! Xoxo
I feel like if I don't help others they might die and I'll miss them
Great video. You make excellent points and are a joy to listen to!
(Just a minor correction:
Gandhi's called Ma-haat-ma Gandhi. Not Mohammad Gandhi. Mohammad is a name from the Qur'an while Mahatma is more of a title in Sanskrit and means 'Great Soul'.)
Thank you so much for this helpful tip!
My mom regularly comes home being drunk..and fights with me..which hurts me alot and also effect's my study too..I live alone with my mom.. I'm really scared of her..I literally dont know what to do to avoid all of these.
Please talk to your mom. Help her get over her drinking habit. Take consultation of ur grandparents or any relative or friend who can mediate between u and ur mom. Take care. Stay strong. Stay hopeful
What about If we are the hurt person who hurt people and we feel really bad about that
what should i do when a person talks about mt personal stuff like involving my parents when my parents hasnt done anything to do with the fight,keeps hurting by abusing /saying hurtful things even then i should LET GO of things?
How can get over a bad relationships
Yes always I get hurt daily
i hate my sister she always always emotionally abusing me and my mom and then she calls me rude for speaking out
Me watching the people walking on the back🤣
How to get over hunt in the heart
I am hurt but I don't know how to control my emotion.
First I would love to say that you’re absolutely amazing human being I loved watching several of your videos you’re so on point I believe the world needs more people like you just one simple correction to Mahatma Gandhi in your video you mention his name Mohammad Gandhi , out of respect to Gandhi maybe we should fix this little issue
No-one me watching this video after getting hurt by parents and everyone it hurts good. I can hold my tears but not the pain. I have anger issues i am hurting myself bcoz of hurts I got from everywhere. I am doing good but there is a mistake to disown me by my family . And i am from India 12 th grade. And i wanna become a scientist but it's in question mark being me is harder than being a girl in this world
That Thick Hanh saying is originally Plato’s
I feel like I’m hurting when they try to pick on their heart instead of me. To move me together with girlfriend please
y r the best