People don’t want Friends. They want Servants. They want someone to get them High/Drunk everytime they see them but will only get you high/drunk 1/10 times they see you. They want to Borrow Money without Paying it Back. They want Free Rides all over the place.
Omg 😳 this is what I’m going through in trying to sober up and all my friends want beer, wine and alcohol and drugs I don’t want it anymore it’s so much more life to live than just getting drunk and high!
People have too many problems nowadays, its overwhelming because they will want you to support them when they don't practice mutual aid. Makes you feel better off alone.
The 80s and 90s were “the end”. I believe it to the depths of my soul. Wasn’t until my forties where I learned how to be joyful in each moment, alone in life. Nostalgia, memories, my dog, are what i have. I want absolutely nothing to do with what society has become to me. Being alone is a true blessing.
PEOPLE ARE CLICKISH. AND PEOPLE HAVE TOO MUCH OF A BIG EGO, PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE BETTER THAN YOU, AND THEY JUDGE YOU, ON BASIS OF YOUR LOOKS, WHAT YOU DO, HOW MUCH MONEY YOU MAKE ETC. HIGH SCHOOL NEVER ENDS.
They act as if they've grown so much and have matured to adults just because they work all day and pay bills. The delusion is out of this world. Little children who think they're grown ups that scream and complain in their cars on tiktok🤦♂️
@@Brandanmayhew Isn't that what this guy is doing? He's complaining about everyone else. He says everyone is mediocre. He seems like a basic bitch zoomer.
I was born in 1970. Times changed big time, social media has a big role in it, not for the better. Meeting with friends and meeting new people was exciting in those days, up until the 90s . Our "social media" was the real thing, being around others, going out every weekend was an adventure, inviting friends over, having home parties ..we didn't have all the answers at our fingertips with search engines,,,we were more innocent and grounded, and filled with hope. No texting, no zombies looking at their screens....I agree with a lot that you are saying. I don't have Facebook, tik Tok or any of that and I'm tech savvy. I'd rather go for walks or read books or talk on the phone, ya, a real phone, not a cell phone ....God bless, read your Bibles, that is the only book with Truth ❤
It’s because social media has shined a big bright light on how people really are. Now we know that 99.99% of people have problems that we don’t want to deal with.
Haha yup, I don’t like people after they are on my friend list. Like I don’t need to see the 10th picture this week of what you ate. It really brings out the dark side of human nature.
Social media did destroy society, and the youth replaced elders and tradition and culture with big tech and google and whatever gates and Zuckerberg want them to think that day, and music and comedy is replaced with this gross hyper judgmental racism/sexuality crap
Im 50. People have changed so much. I have a extremely tiny circle of ones I talk to. Most are not trustworthy anymore. Even coworkers are not trustworthy. They almost enjoy throwing people under the bus. I dont talk to them anymore. And the younger generation? Oh god. Waste of time and breath.
Many people’s friend is their phone now. The constant dopamine hits from internet and tech have made real life socializing boring since it doesn’t give immediate gratification all the time.
You're forgetting that most people's lives are empty enough that socializing is pointless. Who wants to hear about working, houses, bills and kids? BORING crap.
Important topic. My opinion: Due to the shift in society, the world and planet, friendship has taken on a new meaning (or lack of meaning). It's not like it was in the past. If we pursue or reach out for friendship it is viewed as "needy". Not good. Friendship has to happen organically. To pursue or insert oneself anymore is not encouraged.
I find this idea pretty interesting.. perhaps it's so ugly because we're in that transition period and don't know how to act as a society? And then there's the compounding effect of the divisions in the rest of our society pretty much across the board.
@@last7509 I refuse to accept that reasoning considering when I recollect my childhood, my parents were hanging out with their friends. Now those same friends want nothing to do with them and act like how my former friends do. I'm my parents age now and my friends all hiding. Never leaving the house. Can't even exist in a room and do things. Or need alcohol to tolerate each other.
Not even very organically plus it's also affecting in relationships as women become more picky of which guys to date so it results to people having less kids
The attitude reflects in their driving , they don’t use Turn signals , they cut you off , not a thought of another car on the road but them, sign of the times
@@SmedlyButler-cq5iqit's actually worse than disregard. It seems to me like people are not using them specifically to screw you over. To get back at the people that did it to them and it's a neverending cycle.
Whenever I hear someone say that they don't have any friends I always tell them that a lot of people don't have any friends.That way they hopefully feel better knowing that they're not the only one.I noticed years ago that very few people have friends.Great video, Thanks!
I noticed when you walk by people now, they get very scared and look down into their phones. Or when you are so kind to hold a door open for a woman, she will accept it, but she won't even say thank you. Social media has ruined our social skills.
I used to be kind, but since the pandemic, I gave up on any kindness. Humans don't deserve it. Only when I detect real kindness and humanity I might crack, but I always assume others are hopeless, and it turns out I'm always right.
2 timothy 3:1-3 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
Hurt people hurt people for sure. Often unintentionally. But even the most traumatized usually know who the nice ones are. It's fairly obvious pretty soon.
We have become a me me generation. I have less than a hand full of friends. I'm 62 years old, many people have passed away in my circle of friends. If you want a true companion in your life get a dog. They are loyal & loving for life. Life goes on & short , make the best of it. Enjoy every day, sooner or later we are all going to die one day. We are born with nothing & we die with nothing . Ones life is a journey , enjoy it while it lasts. Be blessed, stay blessed, bless others that you meet in your daily walk in life. We are all siners & need God in our life. Much blessings to all that read this . Amen !
Ppl are fake everyone is busy no one really cares. Making plans is difficult and the interactions aren’t even worth the time energy and money. I have a lot of family in Sicily and while visiting I realize they still keep close bonds with obviously family but even neighbors and friends. It can be a quick coffee meetup or they go out in town for quick walk/ grab a beer and it seems really genuine and natural.
I think after a certain age 30+, friendships gets challenging. People are caught up with their own lives, have demanding jobs and children as well as different projects while for some, caretakers of seniors in their households that the concept of friendships is the last thing on their minds. Pandemic has also affected many relationships also. I think many resonates with this comment.
@@haitiqueen0119 bahahahahahah cry more modern wahmen. You're that example of a 304 that everybody is now talking about in men's spaces. You're gross🤮 change your pathetic and narcissistic name, You narcissist
@@Brandanmayhew try communicating with substance you make no sense talking trash, you must be someone miserable on the other end poor thing! God bless your heart☺️☺️☺️
The internet and social media is when I saw the disconnect begin in society. Growing up in the 70's & 80's friends, neighbors, and relatives would call or visit out of blue; and if somebody needed help it was there.
I'm 59 and I remember that feeling of realization, when it dawned on me that, what my Father told me when I graduated from H.S. He said, "Now, you're going to find yourself." He told me that he was confused about it, too" and he said, "When you're getting along really well, you'll have a few friends. But when you need help....". You'll find out. Especially, for men, you really can't have any friends.
Same happens for women too, but man when I watched that ftm transman talk about his (her) going through this it was very sad. She lived as a woman growing up and being a man (a really passable one at that) s/he was crying because of how hard it is to make friends. What I’ve noticed though guys can become really close online. Internet friends do seem to come easier.
Same here man, got no friends anymore, no girlfriend. I find a lot of people are brain cleansed, cellphone addicted and lacking morals as well. I am pretty much self entertained, I don't mind being alone and I don't spend much time pining for friends. I have work friends which seems the majority of my social life other than grabbing a burger with my dad on Fridays.
Glad to hear you spend quality time with your Dad! My parents were my BEST friends! Sadly, both are gone now. I'm really grateful for the time I spent with them though! ☺
@@anndra1160 I get along great with my dad, just so long as we don't talk about politics. I would really like a nice girlfriend, but the mental anguish and mental gymnastics to deal with a modern woman destroy my peace of mind.
Be sure to spend as much time with your dad as you can, your dad is a rare example of someone who will always have your back and look out for you no matter what I lost my dad when I was 19, and he was the only person in my life who ever gave a damn about me, when I lost him: I lost my superhero, there's no one else who's ever cared about me as much as he did Cherish every day you get with your dad
I'm pretty much at the same place... Practically impossible to meet anyone these days, and I have one good buddy I keep in touch with over the phone...
It's true I was stuck in snow my 12 year old son was trying to push me out several of my neighbors drove right by incredible! Years ago 10 people would of stopped to help
As someone who reads scripture daily and prays daily. I think you’re spot on. This is the exact same thing I’ve been recognizing. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t even hold a decent logical, rational, or intellectual conversation with anyone without them getting irritated or offended. I now just kind of do my own thing, and let them approach me first if they want.
Agreed 100% it makes me want to join support groups of like minded people. I got no friends, lets make friends about that!! Humans need social interaction to regulate and all of us are struggling to!!
It's like you mentioned, I think the biggest problem is a lack of trust, because nobody is considered innocent anymore. People don't know what an innocent person, is. Everybody thinks, no matter who you are, you're out to get them, or you might be. It's assumed, taken for granted. I could tell you some stories about this. I'm an innocent, friendly kind of guy and enough times, I've been seriously accused of having ulterior motives when I was only being my innocent self. I've even had the police called on me, over misunderstandings. I avoid all people because if I try to interact with them, I'll get into trouble, maybe big trouble
I'm in northern CA and the culture here is beyond toxic. People are completely unavailable for anything. No one has time for even hanging out for a few hours. People are in their own worlds, doing their own thing and doing the ratrace, totally self absorbed and super selfish. It'e every man for himself here. It's become unbearable. I am 54 years old and have been single for 15 years. Can't find a loving partner and have not had a best girlfriend for 18 yeats. I feel like a ghost in my town. I am planning on moving out of the states to a more community and family centered place/culture.
I don't know how it was back in the 1970's and early 1980's, but during the late 1980's and 1990's, I could hang out with friends and family. Northern CA consistently ranks among the lowest in education in the States.
@@KratostheThird I was born in 1970. That time through about 2000, you could actually be with friends and family and life did not feel like a hamster wheel mixed with a Twilight Zone episode. I miss those days SO much. I watch a lot of movies from those times just to feel some semblance of sanity and "normalcy". Some days, I actually feel like I am living in some kind of nightmare. This American culture is EFFED UP.
@@StarlightPrincess70 One of the shows I watched as a kid when it debuted in the late 80's was Full House. It was set in San Francisco and back then, it was a much better city. It actually celebrated culture, not force you to accept a certain ideology. Our family was together more. Now every old relative and grandparent I knew is dead. My elder bracket Baby Boomer parents are fragmented for multiple reasons, and no longer recognize California. SF is today filled with trash. Crime is rampant. People in NoCal are angry, bitter, lost, confused and entitled.
@@KratostheThird I loved watching Full House. I totally agree and have the same situation with my parents/family.. completely fragmented and unavailable, I used to live in San Francisco in the late 90s. Back then, it was an awesome place. By 2003, I left and moved to the Sierra Foothills and never looked back. Unfortunately, my town has been completely taken over by Bay Area transplants and it's become a hell hole here,, including rents tripling, homeless everywhere, agressive drivers, way over populated and horrible drug issues. I am leaving CA in two years. My soul is dying here.
People have time but they chose to use it to spend it with their best friend, their phone . That's all most people want to do. Is a disturbing epidemic . Just grateful I grew up in the 80' s, 90's & early 2000's . Those were the best of times before the internet turned everyone into robots . Nostalgia is a hellava drug 😎🎭✌️
And what’s worse is how some people shame you for not wanting friends and wanting to be alone? Like our parents shame us in that but if they realize how people are these days and how much you can’t trust them, let alone all the silly dealbreakers they have. It’s just too much and too bearing. So it’s like what’s the point having friends these days
I have two friends that are so involved with their families, they rarely ever have time to hang out with me. I have lowered my expectations of others a lot. It spares me the frustration. I'd love to have a long term pal that I could hang out with and do things with. But that's not likely to happen.
It will happen sooner than you think. Try something different and see what happens. Experiment. Also, take an ‘inner journey’ into yourself for a vacation away from society for a change. You’ll be amazed.
I’ve had a lot of issues making friends my entire life. No matter how genuine you are it doesn’t matter. My parents also only care about themselves. But I’ve learned to lean on God who will never abandon me. Being in this world is extremely lonely.
@@lochnessmunster1189 Satan's seedline through Cain is the cause of all these wars, not God. "If my sons did not want wars, there would be none." Gutle Schnapner Rothschild.
Bro your not alone, modern life is total bullshit. The true freedom is when you stop caring, nothing is worth a thought anymore. Just do what you want, live the life that makes sense to you. Life is too short to step in line for a system that doesn't give a fuck about you.
Nothing changes after high school....and i have not been there in 20+ years... People are super cliquey. You can't put out too much of yourself personally, or you're setting yourself up to be compromised socially. Everyone is a judgy prick. Everyone drinks and does drugs, and if not, see above. I use the internet as the outlet to socialize as little as it counts about common interests. People expect you not to be boring... like they are ENTITLED for YOU to entertain them because they can not do so themselves. Actually, entitlement is a HUGE problem across the board. Im so tired of society and people!
This is exactly true. And unfortunately I don't feel like typing a long winded response... But this point is dead on... The world is just such a horrid place, and I'm tired, of rude, stuck up, judgemental, cliquey, solipsistic people...
There are certainly good people out there, many of them, more than it seems. But as soon as someone appears too nice, too friendly, the narcissists, bullies and predators swoop in almost immediately and try to exploit them. I've had to start hiding my "light", wearing a cold, hard exterior. It pains me so much having to hide any kindness but I've noticed the amount of harassment, bullying and predators I receive is exponentially more when i'm not masking. Something i've been learning recently, as someone with a naturally warm, happy and friendly exterior is that the good people are there but they have to mask themselves so as to not stand out, to protect themselves. It's always so wholesome though when I exchange glances with someone, and a warm smile peaks from behind their cold exterior but for a moment. A reminder of the good still in this world.
It’s just how people are now. In the past being an adult didn’t mean completely shutting down your social life. You were involved in multiple communities if you were a healthy adult with a family or not. People literally knew their neighbors and really knew them lol. They knew the people who bagged their groceries. They hung out at multiple places and hosted dinner parties and went dancing. Being boring and friendless is NOT normal as an adult. I completely agree with you. People are very fake and unfriendly and anti-social. It’s everywhere and it’s horrible. Then they wonder why they’re lonely lol
missed the point at the end there. The lonely are often lonely by choice, that's the idea here. You're passing judgement and it's not what the vibe is here
@@maverickbull1909 I recently turned 40, and I know for a fact that even with my autism (was diagnosed in the early 90's) and the trouble I had talking with people growing up, I still had a much easier time having a conversation. I see Gen Z regularly fail to make eye contact and fail to speak proper English and it is completely depressing. I recently uncovered some old family photos from 80's and the 90's and just by looking at them, I could tell right away we were more social as human beings. Today, we are fighting each other when that is really a distraction from the masters who are actually making things worse. The general intolerance and refusal to discuss anything of value about anything to other people is what helped us get here in the first place.
As genz, most people nowadays are affected with main character syndrome. Most people are glued to their image. Last week I broke my friendship with a cousin. Can't feel more peaceful now. Most of the people in my circle cared about who looked good, who had more privileges. I said I'm tired and bade farewell to them. Did anything changed in this world? No. I'm grateful that your video got recommended to me in time. Fake friendships aren't worth it.
I have had many bad experience from the past of friends backstabbing me or betraying me when you share your life information with them. It's exhausting to seethe same negative character traits in people.
I was in LA and asked a random dude walking by what this explosion/fire we just heard/saw. Dude yells that he doesn’t know me and why am I talking to him. LOL I’m like yaaaa I don’t get these people anymore 😂
it just impossible to synchronize these days. people got 80 deal breakers now. you don't work out? deal breaker! you don't have money and nice clothes? deal breaker! you're such color? deal breaker! you're married? deal breaker! you're single? deal breaker! you're this religion? deal breaker! you're this political opinion? deal breaker! you're too short, you're too good looking, you're to talkative, you don't talk enough.....
I couldn't of said it better. Everything he says and your comment are what I think too. The biggest disappointment for me was church.... He's absolutely right, unless you're in a group, intentionally, good luck just making friends with attendees like he says. But to be honest. Regarding everyone, yes they all just want validation, once you give them enough then they're ready for you to go. I thought i had friends, my ex gave me some good advice 'ask them'. I never would've thought to ask them about a possible hypothetical situation. I asked them and they told me in their own way basically 'nope' and I didn't tell them anything (because i was so shocked) but I've never looked at them the same, after a couple more visits/hanging out i thought why am i pretending? and haven't called them in years. I realized also they only called me when they needed something, either a favor or validation, but usually a favor. I want to end this comment with something semi positive. I say one reason people are not friendly like 15 20 years ago is because everyone is stressed the fug out, because of increased cost of life, without the increased pay. We're all so stressed out there's no time/money to be friendly like 15/20 years ago. Obviously, there are nice people like some of us in the comments, but we are the rare exception
@@rickdaniels1000 they have time for the friends they want. This goes 1000% for relationships too, if they never have time it means they never have time for YOU, drop em
@@Mic-ji4opCorrect. The president isn't even as busy as most of these people, so to speak. People make time for those they care about. When people never respond to your text messages or you can never seem to get them on the phone, that's a red flag. This also means you must evaluate your own investment in that relationship and see if it was more or less your serving a benefit to them at a certain time. My attitude is not to shun or 'cancel' anyone who somehow doesn't have time for me, but allow them to simply operate as they are; I will gradually pull away, but they're always able to return if they want. If not, then concentrate on the people who are still invested in me.
Had an old friend from primary school transfer to my high school in 11th grade. Welcomed him with open arms, introduced him to my friends, helped him get a job where I worked, would have done anything for him and in the end he started trying to turn people against me and hated on me. Fuck people.
Friendships are too much work. They do the absolute minimal and then kick in it takes away time with my dogs that are way more important to me than any human animal that will stab you in the back. Since 2006 I’ve worked in grocery retail and over the years have realized how boring people are too. Just empty vessels.
We just can’t afford friendships 😂 I’ve been invited out to events or dinners and I just straight up can’t afford it. Then on the other hand you meet other broke people and it’s them using you. I just prefer being kind to strangers and I vent to God cause he’s always there to listen.
I tried being close friends with someone that lives fairly local to me i wanted to experience a real life Friend and took them on free vacations with their family, educated them about finances and help them build good credit, supported their endeavors, I shared my weaknesses with them and they ended up talking S*** to someone saying they couldn't believe i had a good spouse in my life and they are a single parent.
I just got tired of talking with people who monopolize the conversation by babbling about themselves. I can't get a word in edgewise, and I find myself standing there listening *forever* while occasionally nodding and saying "uh-huh" a lot, like a child receiving a stern lecture from an authority figure. And when I *do* manage to contribute to the conversation, the person will stare over my shoulder, check their phone, and blatantly do everything possible to let me know that they're barely paying attention and have no interest in anything I have to say. Everybody wants to talk, nobody wants to listen. Humans no longer possess-or care to possess-the ability to have genuine, interactive, face-to-face communication with other people.
Yes I agree . The art of a good conversation is becoming rare & extinct . Just told a friend the other day that she needs to shut up once in a while and listen more . This is after we we're talking and she was just non stop carrying on and on and on . Didn't care to let me speak . I was annoyed and frustrated . So I just walked away from my phone went to the kitchen and made food . When I came back to my phone she was no longer there . 😂
I’ve given up trying to be friends with other females. Especially the older I get I notice how friendship means nothing to most women, they just care about their boyfriend and will abandon you whenever they get a new boyfriend.
When they're young, it's the other way around. After they hit the wall they stick with their man because that's where the money comes from and are less interested in their "friends" at the club and what they're wearing, who's the most popular, who's boyfriend is dominant, and all that chick shit.
I feel you. I had alot of friends and acquaintances in the 2010s. But then I rediscovered Jesus in 2019 and my circle got smaller and smaller until now where it's just me, GOD, my dog, a semi truck, and whoever I talk to on RUclips
I had to dump so many friends in the past few years. One puts me on the back burner every time he gets in a new relationship. Another tried to steal my partner. Another made up a major lie that I confronted him about. Another borrowed money and never paid it back. The list goes on. Some were my friends for more than a decade. Lost my Mother and had no real friends. To think of all the stuffs I’ve done for them. Oh ya one was a narcissist. I’m just doing ME. People show their true colors eventually
I also lost my Mother and have a similar experiences with so called friends. My mother was my very best friend unfortunately, I didn’t realize until after she passed smh.
5:31 I feel this. I'm 35 and work with a bunch of college kids (20s). They don't want me around because I'm too old and fair, I don't want to drink with a bunch of children. However, no one likes the feeling of being excluded. And having the feeling of constant exclusion doesn't make me want to try to go out and make new friends in a new, unfamiliar space. I'm much happier engaging with my hobbies at home by myself and just not talking about my life with anyone.
Ive experienced all of this its a comfort to know i am not alone . I feel like i'm on another planet 99% of the time people are alot colder and if your nice they really don't like you I just never fit
This society is under judgement and everything you are describing are the signs of an empire that is finished. There is no community. It is very predatory out here. I was just talking to my wife about this. Thank you for sharing this and know you are not alone in these understandings. You are 💯 correct. Shalom.
@@jaysouthmusic8230 all fine summaries. Friendship is too expensive after a certain age/point in young life. School/college/ see'ya ! Live your dream(s) ignore the rest.
Its a cold dog eat dog world out here in this rat race. Most people have grown heartless. They have little to no empathy or kindness left in them. Its virtually impossible nowadays to make friends. It is the trend. Everything spoken in this vid is right on the money. Seems like the world is going straight to hell in a handbasket. Sometimes it feels like we're already there. Listen to the song 'Soul in Isolation' by the Chameleons. I believe its by design, a program thats been in place for decades. It's easier to take down and subjucate a divided population.
most of us are kids of the 80s and 90s. people had fun back then and fell in love a lot. Disney cartoons were singing about falling in love. all that has turned to dust
That's what I remember and that is part of the reason I thought religion and spirituality was a silly waste of time. The good times from those eras was a giant delusion built on cheap and easy money.
@@decadeyt5891 Too many women have been Disney-fied, Too many women holding up for a prince, when a pauper could have made her happy. Most guys don't meet princely requirements of too many women. Can't have a vibrant society when families aren't happening and men aren't meeting women, and Ben is in the basement using up another box of tissue. And it goes on...
I have yet to meet a good person or someone who doesn’t use me and the closer I get to someone they use me. Everyone is in their head about an imaginary audience. I have tried to cling to friendships but I’ve even been told up front “You challenge me” and I’m not trying to. Others project their insecurities onto me… currently existential and baffled as to how intimacy occurs with how hostile people are. I fully believe this is hell. I never see my neighbors outside at all. I genuinely believe I attract narcissists. My friends have had parasocial relationships with *me*. Top to bottom, none of this makes sense anywhere you look. I don’t trust my own family. I am terrified of losing connections at this point it feels like it could happen over anything
It's also largely due to demographics, an often-overlooked factor. The average age in most Western countries is around 45, so if you're a younger person today, there are fewer people around your age with whom you could potentially form friendships. Additionally, society has become less homogeneous, meaning many people may be foreigners with whom you may not feel a strong connection or relate to. Social media is blamed for loneliness and lack of friends, but is not the main culprit. The boomer era, for example, benefited from great demographics, with a way lower average age, and you as a young person, you had way more young people around. I don’t think people are lonely because they spend so much time on the internet; rather, they turn to social media because they feel lonely. It’s really a surrogate. Today, when you go out or work in a company as a young person, chances are most people are considerably older, making it hard to relate to them. If you don’t build and strengthen a social circle from school through high school, there’s a good chance you’ll end up lonely. A social circle is very important. As you get older, you meet fewer people, and people become less open to new connections than they were in their youth.
@@Matowix women are simply better/more inclined to forming a social circle and maintaining it, and are welcome everywhere, society does not meet them with the same scepticiscm. Especially in the USA, depending on where you live, the male surplus might be significant. You will often see gender segragation, e.g. women only wanting to be among themselves, not being interested in having men in their circle. Real loneliness (not perceived) is way less likelier for women. Also, the male sezual deficit, with many young males being single, fosters an unhealthy amount of competitiveness and aggressiveness towards other males, thus making the loneliness epidemic even worse. Hispanics are the ones that are still doing very well social wise, better than blacks and white people. Better social cohesion and gender dynamics.
I really dig your insight compared to what everyone else in the comments are saying. It’s such a complex issue resulting from so many factors but it really keeps getting worse which then causes things to get even more worse
I am an immigrant and also mixed heritage so I feel foreign everywhere I also have an accent so it's very difficult to relate to people that's why I chose to just be alone.i can't feel connected to anybody
Friendship is a biological adaptation for mutual survival. More intelligent people don't require friends because they can survive on their own. Lower IQ individuals huddle together in the hope that their combined intelligence will result in a positive effect.
Yea I agree so many are toxic You waste your time and people are just psychos Or miserable bringing you down. The mess of people really ruined my mindset for years. It took me decades to clear my mind for it ..Once doing it Ill never get suckered in again
I only rock with real authentic people. No phonies or narcissist or greedy jealous, people. If they are any of those things i keep them at arms length at all times. A lot of adults are children who never grew up
If the friendships aren’t looking good imagine the relationships. People base their whole entire personality on superficial lifestyles and ideals. If you don’t meet the checklist, you’re out. And don’t dare have a huge life change that alters your life and mental health because based off experience they will drop you! This is why gaming has became my escape from the world and what I consider my social life. At least we are enjoying something in the moment that doesn’t involve status.
I hear ya. I used to love greeting others/small talk, but I've gotten to the point where I don't greet much since there are so many people that wanna be left alone, or won't respond when others talk to them. I just avoid eye contact altogether now and saying Hi , unless I'm in an elevator or have a reason to talk to that person. Me being a big guy ( 6'1" and muscular )probably intimidates them even more. This culture sucks
One thing I might add, this is in AMERICA. Go to Mexico, walk down the street and start saying hello to everyone. Literally 90 percent of the people will stop and say hi. Now find an american tourist and do the same thing, I guarantee they will get all weird and awkward. American culture is cooked.
I'm 50 and I understand this, in my opinion it's totally divide and conquer always has been but I have totally seen it get worse the second half of my life
I don't blame you. When I was rolling in money all the friends I had. Well when I fell on hard times they all disappeared. I still have some friends 6 to be exact that have been there for me during my ups and downs. We are there for each other. So thats my little group. It's really hard to find people now a days that are genuine. So I keep to myself and feel lucky to have these 6 friends that are more like family to me. It seems to me most people want to know you because of what you have. The type of car you have. The size of your house, and if you wear designer cloths. Those people I refer to them as plastic. I have no time for those types of folks anymore. Being an older man I'm just happy being around my dogs for the most part. You are right though that today most people today are very anti social. So I'm blessed with those 6 kind great wonderful friends.
I moved from Africa to Western country recently, but i can tell you for sure, back home i got 2 friends and we have been friends since childhood, i noticed i didn’t make friends in the last almost two decades, now i’m here i have one friend from elementary school back home that moved here years ago and a childhood friend too, i don’t want to make friends either, i understand everyone Ego is big and most of them think they are smart and try to make advantage of you. I agree it’s a lonely journey but i think it’s the right thing to do, we were supposed to be having children or at least a partner that understands our needs and a companion, women are toxic too and it also makes me avoid almost all of them all the time, it’s wise to be alone that hoop into unnecessary relationships, Get a hobby and love to be alone and always prepared to fight evil anywhere anytime.
Life is getting really really hard. Finances are getting very tight and prices are skyrocketing. I just watched somebody get laid off and it really upset me. On top of all of that, people are just colder people care less because they’re very consumed about themselves in their own lives. So it doesn’t surprise me at all that we don’t really have friends anymore. I just recently ended a three-year friendship because that person was lying to me and I don’t wanna be lied to. I don’t feel like that’s something I wanna tolerate in my life.
I've been burned out on people. They come they go. I've met thousands of people and there just isn't enough time in the day. It's more peaceful just minding your own business. I get off work, wanna chill have a smoke eat and go to sleep. I dont have time to visit everyone and that eventually becomes nobody. If they want to speak, you got my number G
There is so much components that goes into this subject, this is a very deep topic. But one thing i noticed at the workplace because i spend most of my life at work unfortunately, that you can have a day where you communicate and talk to someone for the whole day, you may think you have made a companion not necessarily a full on friend, but then the next day you try to communicate or say hello to that person you made a connection with the previous day acts like they dont even know you or forget that you guys were speaking the day prior, the switch up is diabolical and is the reason ehy i dont talk to anyone
Anytime I have good news they’re always trying to find the bad in it. Trying to dim my light. So annoying! It’s like a crime to be happy and successful and in love. Screw fake friends (and family!)
This is very very true, you can't find anybody with decent values morals and integrity to even be friends with! My best friend is my husband that's it. We don't even like going out anywhere, we can't stand people. Most people are absolutely ignorant. If people are nice to you they usually want to use you for some reason!
I do think for the most part people just need a minute to warm up, loosen up, and have a little fun. Vast majority aren't sociopaths. They're cold at first because they're anxious, or exhausted, or on the ambitious side at the moment. To make a friendship you really have to let a lot of that initial awkward shit slide and assure them you want a good time, and a mutually beneficial good time. No politics at first, nothing overly personal. Respect boundaries, and have your own. Most people are genuinely pretty decent if given the opportunity to be. Everyone needs that benefit of the doubt at some point.
Friends habe largely become "people who happen to hide from the same things" together. Any courage in any area is a deal breaker, as it is intimidating.
But there are some things that work,build a bond with with workers at a store or you favorite stores..Get a dog,go out to the dog park,find a walking partner etc...These things have helped me
I'm always looking for the nearest escape routes at public functions, looking over my shoulder strapped up in the parking lot & take alternate routes while driving home. Even driving around the block if a vehicle turns down my street behind me.😂
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The world has gotten so fucked up people see kindness as manipulation
That's your fault for manipulating their kindness!
P diddly was manipulated I want to convince people that p diddly is in nocent
Realistically, terrorists/gangsters are the only ones u must avoid. Why do we avoid those w good mentality?
That's so so True an they expect us True ones to accept manipulation as kindness,NO WAY WILL WE, AS GODS WORD SAYS MANIPULATION IS WITCHCRAFT.
@@nesspav the people who see kindness as manipulation ARE the manipulaters
Assholes get instantly offended when you approach them in a good mood and hate you for being happy and cheerful
So true
Coworkers too apparently. 😂🤷🏼♀️
How do you know they're offended do they tell you this? Maybe you're the root of the problem
Facts
@@brittanikaymaburton9364If you can’t tell when someone is offended you may need some more socialization or you may have Aspergers
People don’t want Friends.
They want Servants.
They want someone to get them High/Drunk everytime they see them but will only get you high/drunk 1/10 times they see you.
They want to Borrow Money without Paying it Back.
They want Free Rides all over the place.
Wow it’s so cool seeing this I said this a long time ago and got banned on Reddit
Yea most of my so called good buds were like this…
I was that guy for years. Lowkey they see you as a joke. The moment you stop doing for them is the moment you stop hearing from them
Omg 😳 this is what I’m going through in trying to sober up and all my friends want beer, wine and alcohol and drugs I don’t want it anymore it’s so much more life to live than just getting drunk and high!
I had no idea so many people were going though this I thought it was just me
People have too many problems nowadays, its overwhelming because they will want you to support them when they don't practice mutual aid. Makes you feel better off alone.
Mutual aid thank you
True. Personally experienced after an 8 year friendship...
Completely agree with this.
@@thepragmatist Have a good Thanksgiving man ♂️💯🦃 Salute 🫡
@@judah114 Happy Thanksgiving to you as well!
Even the few friends I have, don't have the time anymore. Smartphones, addiction, political stuff, jobs, money, kids, alcohol. Everything man.
The 80s and 90s were “the end”. I believe it to the depths of my soul.
Wasn’t until my forties where I learned how to be joyful in each moment, alone in life.
Nostalgia, memories, my dog, are what i have.
I want absolutely nothing to do with what society has become to me. Being alone is a true blessing.
good. dont need your depressed anxious ridden ass breeding and making more of yall
sad but oh so true...
Totally. 😊
Everything shifted gear after 9/11.
PEOPLE ARE CLICKISH.
AND PEOPLE HAVE TOO MUCH OF A BIG EGO, PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE BETTER THAN YOU, AND THEY JUDGE YOU, ON BASIS OF YOUR LOOKS, WHAT YOU DO, HOW MUCH MONEY YOU MAKE ETC.
HIGH SCHOOL NEVER ENDS.
high school never ends gotta remember that
They act as if they've grown so much and have matured to adults just because they work all day and pay bills. The delusion is out of this world. Little children who think they're grown ups that scream and complain in their cars on tiktok🤦♂️
@@Brandanmayhew Isn't that what this guy is doing? He's complaining about everyone else. He says everyone is mediocre. He seems like a basic bitch zoomer.
Those caps hit me like a hammer
Lol it gets worse
I was born in 1970. Times changed big time, social media has a big role in it, not for the better. Meeting with friends and meeting new people was exciting in those days, up until the 90s . Our "social media" was the real thing, being around others, going out every weekend was an adventure, inviting friends over, having home parties ..we didn't have all the answers at our fingertips with search engines,,,we were more innocent and grounded, and filled with hope. No texting, no zombies looking at their screens....I agree with a lot that you are saying. I don't have Facebook, tik Tok or any of that and I'm tech savvy. I'd rather go for walks or read books or talk on the phone, ya, a real phone, not a cell phone ....God bless, read your Bibles, that is the only book with Truth ❤
2004-2008 was the turning point IMO.
I just don't like people. They suck.
I don’t even like myself
@@TOCC50 lmaooooo
True ~ generally people hate each other😂😮!
There's just a lot of bad influence and the reality is there are no real friends
@ivan0oze886 that's sooo true!
It’s because social media has shined a big bright light on how people really are. Now we know that 99.99% of people have problems that we don’t want to deal with.
The majority of which social media amplified😂
No social media has ruined society
Haha yup, I don’t like people after they are on my friend list. Like I don’t need to see the 10th picture this week of what you ate. It really brings out the dark side of human nature.
Social media did destroy society, and the youth replaced elders and tradition and culture with big tech and google and whatever gates and Zuckerberg want them to think that day, and music and comedy is replaced with this gross hyper judgmental racism/sexuality crap
Too many people spend too much time hating and being hated.
Im 50. People have changed so much. I have a extremely tiny circle of ones I talk to. Most are not trustworthy anymore. Even coworkers are not trustworthy. They almost enjoy throwing people under the bus. I dont talk to them anymore. And the younger generation? Oh god. Waste of time and breath.
Things I’ve learned, coworkers are never your friends, acquaintances? Yes be friendly and cordial too? Yes but don’t ever be friends with them.
Many people’s friend is their phone now. The constant dopamine hits from internet and tech have made real life socializing boring since it doesn’t give immediate gratification all the time.
Man vs machine
You're forgetting that most people's lives are empty enough that socializing is pointless. Who wants to hear about working, houses, bills and kids? BORING crap.
I wouldn't mind it depends on who it is
I was gonna comment something like this, but you certainly hit the nail on the head with this one
@@devilsoffspring5519 Carlin had a routine about this problem.
Important topic. My opinion: Due to the shift in society, the world and planet, friendship has taken on a new meaning (or lack of meaning). It's not like it was in the past. If we pursue or reach out for friendship it is viewed as "needy". Not good. Friendship has to happen organically. To pursue or insert oneself anymore is not encouraged.
and something to add that we don't like to add is aging. we're not teens anymore and hanging out on Friday night watching movies and getting ice cream
True that's why I let one of my friends go I was the one to text and reach out now I am just done
I find this idea pretty interesting.. perhaps it's so ugly because we're in that transition period and don't know how to act as a society? And then there's the compounding effect of the divisions in the rest of our society pretty much across the board.
@@last7509 I refuse to accept that reasoning considering when I recollect my childhood, my parents were hanging out with their friends. Now those same friends want nothing to do with them and act like how my former friends do. I'm my parents age now and my friends all hiding. Never leaving the house. Can't even exist in a room and do things. Or need alcohol to tolerate each other.
Not even very organically plus it's also affecting in relationships as women become more picky of which guys to date so it results to people having less kids
It has been prophesied. "Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold." Matthew 24:12
The Bible always gets it right...
I donr believe in Christainity and i say this is very true now.
dont believe in religion, believe in a relationship with your Creator, Jesus Christ.@@GuacamoleyNacho
Amen 🙏🏽
Perfectly said!
The attitude reflects in their driving , they don’t use Turn signals , they cut you off , not a thought of another car on the road but them, sign of the times
That's because they're on the phone, checking social media or typing an email. A lot of people also do it while drunk.
There is a massive disregard for turn signals, I don't care how mundane it sounds...it's a telling symptom
@@devilsoffspring5519I watch people do it in the daytime off their phone too though
Haha it's super rare to find a normal fucking driver on the road fr
@@SmedlyButler-cq5iqit's actually worse than disregard. It seems to me like people are not using them specifically to screw you over. To get back at the people that did it to them and it's a neverending cycle.
People either agree with what you are saying or they are offended. There's no talking anymore
there is small talk, but that's different
@alexandrabellerose3550 Yes, microscopic talk.
the truth is so bad that I wouldn't want to tell anyone about it, what happened to me at least. So I mask and socialising is empty and anxious.
@@TM-pn3zk it's your own heart you can't trust after you go through abuse by the family you loved
That's what happens in echo-chambers; people become complacent and hubris expands.
Its facebook and the like. It all went dowhill around 2007. Smartphones and facebook killed socializing.
Truth
most people these days are not self-sufficient or generous so having friends is a liability
That's a really good point.
A temporary alliance between two mercernaries based solely on mutual use.
👍💯
Wow
This
Whenever I hear someone say that they don't have any friends I always tell them that a lot of people don't have any friends.That way they hopefully feel better knowing that they're not the only one.I noticed years ago that very few people have friends.Great video, Thanks!
nobody wants to hear anybody else's story. everybody body is starring in their own movie
Main Character Syndrome
Well said
@@gorgjesss nah I am one of these npc types the chosen ones all go on about haha
That’s honestly how you have to be to make it America. Being selfless gets you stepped on
@@gorgjesssYes! 💯
I noticed when you walk by people now, they get very scared and look down into their phones. Or when you are so kind to hold a door open for a woman, she will accept it, but she won't even say thank you. Social media has ruined our social skills.
I used to be kind, but since the pandemic, I gave up on any kindness. Humans don't deserve it.
Only when I detect real kindness and humanity I might crack, but I always assume others are hopeless, and it turns out I'm always right.
@@kubasniakI don’t blame you
It really has
Interesting, I normally get thanked for holding a door. Sorry this isn’t the case for you
@@TaySlayXOXO it is a thing in places, depends on how they perceive you as well according to personal bias.
People that are cautious have been burnt in the past they're protecting themselves this may come of as being unfriendly
2 timothy 3:1-3
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
@@TheVirginGary What an excellent and accurate quote, thank you!
Hurt people hurt people for sure. Often unintentionally. But even the most traumatized usually know who the nice ones are. It's fairly obvious pretty soon.
@@TheVirginGaryNothing but the truth !!! We are living in the last days !!!
@@ct6852this comment right here!!!
We have become a me me generation.
I have less than a hand full of friends.
I'm 62 years old, many people have passed away in my circle of friends.
If you want a true companion in your life get a dog.
They are loyal & loving for life.
Life goes on & short , make the best of it.
Enjoy every day, sooner or later we are all going to die one day.
We are born with nothing & we die with nothing .
Ones life is a journey , enjoy it while it lasts.
Be blessed, stay blessed, bless others that you meet in your daily walk in life.
We are all siners & need God in our life.
Much blessings to all that read this . Amen !
You are absolutely right, sir.Have wonderful Christmas and holidays.May God bless you.🍀🥂
Friends are like diamonds, they are rare, expensive and most are phony..
Ppl are fake everyone is busy no one really cares. Making plans is difficult and the interactions aren’t even worth the time energy and money. I have a lot of family in Sicily and while visiting I realize they still keep close bonds with obviously family but even neighbors and friends. It can be a quick coffee meetup or they go out in town for quick walk/ grab a beer and it seems really genuine and natural.
I think after a certain age 30+, friendships gets challenging. People are caught up with their own lives, have demanding jobs and children as well as different projects while for some, caretakers of seniors in their households that the concept of friendships is the last thing on their minds. Pandemic has also affected many relationships also.
I think many resonates with this comment.
Such a sheepish and compliant comment. It's not all about you darling
You're not a queen. I think many people will resonate with my comment🤣
@@Brandanmayhew get lost!
@@haitiqueen0119 bahahahahahah cry more modern wahmen. You're that example of a 304 that everybody is now talking about in men's spaces. You're gross🤮 change your pathetic and narcissistic name, You narcissist
@@Brandanmayhew try communicating with substance you make no sense talking trash, you must be someone miserable on the other end poor thing! God bless your heart☺️☺️☺️
I moved to a very small village in Europe. People here are still community oriented it's amazing. So refreshing coming from a big city.
Let immigrants in there
@@teaadvice4996
They destroy countries
@@teaadvice4996 They are trying.
Almost everyone in cities are innately hostile. Or mistrusting. Most people won’t make eye contact with you out fear or just indifference
@@teaadvice4996
Deport all of them
Sadly this is too true. Thank you for being honest and open about the decline in friendships and hence community.
The internet and social media is when I saw the disconnect begin in society. Growing up in the 70's & 80's friends, neighbors, and relatives would call or visit out of blue; and if somebody needed help it was there.
I'm 59 and I remember that feeling of realization, when it dawned on me that, what my Father told me when I graduated from H.S. He said, "Now, you're going to find yourself." He told me that he was confused about it, too" and he said, "When you're getting along really well, you'll have a few friends. But when you need help....". You'll find out. Especially, for men, you really can't have any friends.
He wasn’t lying either
Same happens for women too, but man when I watched that ftm transman talk about his (her) going through this it was very sad. She lived as a woman growing up and being a man (a really passable one at that) s/he was crying because of how hard it is to make friends.
What I’ve noticed though guys can become really close online. Internet friends do seem to come easier.
Things started to go downhill with invention of Facebook and the concept of online "friends" versus real friends or even just acquaintances.
No Shit Right. You might make 1 True friend on FB out of 1,000
Most people are doooooone with society
yeah I’m done with society.sorry 🤣🤣🤦🏾🤦🏾🤦🏾🤷🏾♂️
its beta
@ leontaecoleman3644 beta
@@novelaego2404 I was about to, but I don’t like to pick on handicapped individuals, have a nice day
Lme too! I'm sticking to playstation friends
Same here man, got no friends anymore, no girlfriend. I find a lot of people are brain cleansed, cellphone addicted and lacking morals as well.
I am pretty much self entertained, I don't mind being alone and I don't spend much time pining for friends. I have work friends which seems the majority of my social life other than grabbing a burger with my dad on Fridays.
Be grateful you can still go out and have a burger with your Pops. I lost mine to cancer…he was my best friend.
@@Gr1mReaper87sorry for you’re loss sir. Take care.
Glad to hear you spend quality time with your Dad! My parents were my BEST friends! Sadly, both are gone now. I'm really grateful for the time I spent with them though! ☺
@@anndra1160 I get along great with my dad, just so long as we don't talk about politics. I would really like a nice girlfriend, but the mental anguish and mental gymnastics to deal with a modern woman destroy my peace of mind.
Be sure to spend as much time with your dad as you can, your dad is a rare example of someone who will always have your back and look out for you no matter what
I lost my dad when I was 19, and he was the only person in my life who ever gave a damn about me, when I lost him: I lost my superhero, there's no one else who's ever cared about me as much as he did
Cherish every day you get with your dad
To go from the 80’s to this it’s pretty fcking sad…
Sure is sad..omg
I miss the 80's!! Different world.
Tragic and deeply disturbing 😎🎭✌️
You realize this was as much of a problem in the 80's as it is now right?
Fake people aren't new. They've existed since ancient times.
I have zero friends.
I'm pretty much at the same place... Practically impossible to meet anyone these days, and I have one good buddy I keep in touch with over the phone...
Be your best friend.
@@rubenv.p.6344that’s the best advice at this point because in reality all you have is yourself
That's not good for the rest of your life. Find a couple right friends and you'll make it. You'll find them
get a dog.
It's true I was stuck in snow my 12 year old son was trying to push me out several of my neighbors drove right by incredible! Years ago 10 people would of stopped to help
Omg!! That's nuts
They were too busy on their phone or wanting to get home to get on their phone
They might’ve thought you had it or been focused on something else
that is absolutely insane even for 2024 sorry that happened
Oh, definitely this.
As someone who reads scripture daily and prays daily. I think you’re spot on. This is the exact same thing I’ve been recognizing. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t even hold a decent logical, rational, or intellectual conversation with anyone without them getting irritated or offended. I now just kind of do my own thing, and let them approach me first if they want.
Were living in the end times. All verses are happening right now.
Agreed 100% it makes me want to join support groups of like minded people. I got no friends, lets make friends about that!! Humans need social interaction to regulate and all of us are struggling to!!
It's like you mentioned, I think the biggest problem is a lack of trust, because nobody is considered innocent anymore. People don't know what an innocent person, is. Everybody thinks, no matter who you are, you're out to get them, or you might be. It's assumed, taken for granted. I could tell you some stories about this. I'm an innocent, friendly kind of guy and enough times, I've been seriously accused of having ulterior motives when I was only being my innocent self. I've even had the police called on me, over misunderstandings. I avoid all people because if I try to interact with them, I'll get into trouble, maybe big trouble
The lack of trust was amplified during the pandemic as well
@@mikegee8345what happened then?
The man or bear debate for example. True crime content exploits the hell out of people's fears to the point of them being that irrational.
Same when I was in High school I almost got in big trouble just for approaching a girl and she thought I was harassing her
Yoooo wtf this is actually true as hell
I'm in northern CA and the culture here is beyond toxic. People are completely unavailable for anything. No one has time for even hanging out for a few hours. People are in their own worlds, doing their own thing and doing the ratrace, totally self absorbed and super selfish. It'e every man for himself here. It's become unbearable. I am 54 years old and have been single for 15 years. Can't find a loving partner and have not had a best girlfriend for 18 yeats. I feel like a ghost in my town. I am planning on moving out of the states to a more community and family centered place/culture.
I don't know how it was back in the 1970's and early 1980's, but during the late 1980's and 1990's, I could hang out with friends and family.
Northern CA consistently ranks among the lowest in education in the States.
@@KratostheThird I was born in 1970. That time through about 2000, you could actually be with friends and family and life did not feel like a hamster wheel mixed with a Twilight Zone episode. I miss those days SO much. I watch a lot of movies from those times just to feel some semblance of sanity and "normalcy". Some days, I actually feel like I am living in some kind of nightmare. This American culture is EFFED UP.
@@StarlightPrincess70 One of the shows I watched as a kid when it debuted in the late 80's was Full House. It was set in San Francisco and back then, it was a much better city. It actually celebrated culture, not force you to accept a certain ideology.
Our family was together more. Now every old relative and grandparent I knew is dead. My elder bracket Baby Boomer parents are fragmented for multiple reasons, and no longer recognize California.
SF is today filled with trash. Crime is rampant. People in NoCal are angry, bitter, lost, confused and entitled.
@@KratostheThird I loved watching Full House. I totally agree and have the same situation with my parents/family.. completely fragmented and unavailable, I used to live in San Francisco in the late 90s. Back then, it was an awesome place. By 2003, I left and moved to the Sierra Foothills and never looked back. Unfortunately, my town has been completely taken over by Bay Area transplants and it's become a hell hole here,, including rents tripling, homeless everywhere, agressive drivers, way over populated and horrible drug issues. I am leaving CA in two years. My soul is dying here.
People have time but they chose to use it to spend it with their best friend, their phone . That's all most people want to do. Is a disturbing epidemic . Just grateful I grew up in the 80' s, 90's & early 2000's . Those were the best of times before the internet turned everyone into robots . Nostalgia is a hellava drug 😎🎭✌️
Nobody wants to be a friend anymore.
And what’s worse is how some people shame you for not wanting friends and wanting to be alone? Like our parents shame us in that but if they realize how people are these days and how much you can’t trust them, let alone all the silly dealbreakers they have. It’s just too much and too bearing. So it’s like what’s the point having friends these days
@jaysouthmusic8230 yeah but that's the same as being shamed for being broke, when truth is we are ALL broke lol
I have two friends that are so involved with their families, they rarely ever have time to hang out with me. I have lowered my expectations of others a lot. It spares me the frustration. I'd love to have a long term pal that I could hang out with and do things with. But that's not likely to happen.
It will happen sooner than you think. Try something different and see what happens. Experiment. Also, take an ‘inner journey’ into yourself for a vacation away from society for a change. You’ll be amazed.
I’ve had a lot of issues making friends my entire life. No matter how genuine you are it doesn’t matter. My parents also only care about themselves. But I’ve learned to lean on God who will never abandon me. Being in this world is extremely lonely.
Did god do anything to actually help anyone in WW2?
@ Yes, he used people like Schindler to help save people’s life. In the midst of tragedy, a lot of great things happened as well.
@@Amoore1991 So when is God going to help the Palestinians in Gaza ?? Or does he only help Jewish people ? 😎🎭✌️
@@lochnessmunster1189 Satan's seedline through Cain is the cause of all these wars, not God. "If my sons did not want wars, there would be none." Gutle Schnapner Rothschild.
The cell phone indulgance and negativity are two things that people get too caught up in.
Bro your not alone, modern life is total bullshit. The true freedom is when you stop caring, nothing is worth a thought anymore. Just do what you want, live the life that makes sense to you. Life is too short to step in line for a system that doesn't give a fuck about you.
Yup
I'll be your friend.... you don't have to walk through life alone...
Yeah screw those people. I feel way calmer after i removed the narcisistic drama queens from my life. Its glorious 🎉🎉,✌️👌💯
Nothing changes after high school....and i have not been there in 20+ years...
People are super cliquey.
You can't put out too much of yourself personally, or you're setting yourself up to be compromised socially.
Everyone is a judgy prick.
Everyone drinks and does drugs, and if not, see above.
I use the internet as the outlet to socialize as little as it counts about common interests.
People expect you not to be boring... like they are ENTITLED for YOU to entertain them because they can not do so themselves.
Actually, entitlement is a HUGE problem across the board.
Im so tired of society and people!
This is exactly true. And unfortunately I don't feel like typing a long winded response... But this point is dead on...
The world is just such a horrid place, and I'm tired, of rude, stuck up, judgemental, cliquey, solipsistic people...
@JellP-x5b other people letting you know is one way
yassssss queeeeennn yasssssssss
I am a clown without anyone worthy to entertain
@@noglobo The tears of a clown 🤡
There are certainly good people out there, many of them, more than it seems. But as soon as someone appears too nice, too friendly, the narcissists, bullies and predators swoop in almost immediately and try to exploit them. I've had to start hiding my "light", wearing a cold, hard exterior. It pains me so much having to hide any kindness but I've noticed the amount of harassment, bullying and predators I receive is exponentially more when i'm not masking. Something i've been learning recently, as someone with a naturally warm, happy and friendly exterior is that the good people are there but they have to mask themselves so as to not stand out, to protect themselves. It's always so wholesome though when I exchange glances with someone, and a warm smile peaks from behind their cold exterior but for a moment. A reminder of the good still in this world.
Well said. It’s a shame that you have to put up a cold wall just to keep a few out
I can heavily relate to this. You're definitely not alone.
It’s just how people are now. In the past being an adult didn’t mean completely shutting down your social life. You were involved in multiple communities if you were a healthy adult with a family or not. People literally knew their neighbors and really knew them lol. They knew the people who bagged their groceries. They hung out at multiple places and hosted dinner parties and went dancing. Being boring and friendless is NOT normal as an adult.
I completely agree with you. People are very fake and unfriendly and anti-social. It’s everywhere and it’s horrible. Then they wonder why they’re lonely lol
missed the point at the end there. The lonely are often lonely by choice, that's the idea here. You're passing judgement and it's not what the vibe is here
@ only person who missed the point is you. Yeah I’m judging. And what about it? You’re not in charge of the vibe “here” lol worry about your yourself
@@maverickbull1909 I recently turned 40, and I know for a fact that even with my autism (was diagnosed in the early 90's) and the trouble I had talking with people growing up, I still had a much easier time having a conversation.
I see Gen Z regularly fail to make eye contact and fail to speak proper English and it is completely depressing.
I recently uncovered some old family photos from 80's and the 90's and just by looking at them, I could tell right away we were more social as human beings. Today, we are fighting each other when that is really a distraction from the masters who are actually making things worse.
The general intolerance and refusal to discuss anything of value about anything to other people is what helped us get here in the first place.
Awful!!
@@KratostheThird They've gradually "trained" us to go along with the chains they have put on us all.
As genz, most people nowadays are affected with main character syndrome. Most people are glued to their image. Last week I broke my friendship with a cousin. Can't feel more peaceful now. Most of the people in my circle cared about who looked good, who had more privileges. I said I'm tired and bade farewell to them. Did anything changed in this world? No.
I'm grateful that your video got recommended to me in time. Fake friendships aren't worth it.
I been there before and I cutted all those fake friends off and been rocking solo since then
I have had many bad experience from the past of friends backstabbing me or betraying me when you share your life information with them. It's exhausting to seethe same negative character traits in people.
Go do volunteer/charity work. I meet far more genuinely kind and open people there than I ever do in the majority of the “normal” world.
I feel the same way about volunteering w 12 step/recovery groups. Lots of real-deal people there trying to live better lives.
I was in LA and asked a random dude walking by what this explosion/fire we just heard/saw. Dude yells that he doesn’t know me and why am I talking to him. LOL I’m like yaaaa I don’t get these people anymore 😂
That’s crazy
Dude, that’s how your average person is
@@TruthTiger apparently 😂 I didn’t get the memo
@@TruthTiger sadly true
That’s why I’m in la I go on the Amtrak and go straight to Tijuana . Mexico everyone is so nice
it just impossible to synchronize these days. people got 80 deal breakers now. you don't work out? deal breaker! you don't have money and nice clothes? deal breaker! you're such color? deal breaker! you're married? deal breaker! you're single? deal breaker! you're this religion? deal breaker! you're this political opinion? deal breaker! you're too short, you're too good looking, you're to talkative, you don't talk enough.....
I couldn't of said it better. Everything he says and your comment are what I think too. The biggest disappointment for me was church.... He's absolutely right, unless you're in a group, intentionally, good luck just making friends with attendees like he says. But to be honest.
Regarding everyone, yes they all just want validation, once you give them enough then they're ready for you to go.
I thought i had friends, my ex gave me some good advice 'ask them'. I never would've thought to ask them about a possible hypothetical situation. I asked them and they told me in their own way basically 'nope' and I didn't tell them anything (because i was so shocked) but I've never looked at them the same, after a couple more visits/hanging out i thought why am i pretending? and haven't called them in years. I realized also they only called me when they needed something, either a favor or validation, but usually a favor.
I want to end this comment with something semi positive.
I say one reason people are not friendly like 15 20 years ago is because everyone is stressed the fug out, because of increased cost of life, without the increased pay. We're all so stressed out there's no time/money to be friendly like 15/20 years ago. Obviously, there are nice people like some of us in the comments, but we are the rare exception
^intolerance
Lol but when you ask people what they’re doing/did on the weekend the answer js always “catching up with friends”
@@rickdaniels1000 they have time for the friends they want. This goes 1000% for relationships too, if they never have time it means they never have time for YOU, drop em
@@Mic-ji4opCorrect. The president isn't even as busy as most of these people, so to speak. People make time for those they care about. When people never respond to your text messages or you can never seem to get them on the phone, that's a red flag. This also means you must evaluate your own investment in that relationship and see if it was more or less your serving a benefit to them at a certain time. My attitude is not to shun or 'cancel' anyone who somehow doesn't have time for me, but allow them to simply operate as they are; I will gradually pull away, but they're always able to return if they want. If not, then concentrate on the people who are still invested in me.
Had an old friend from primary school transfer to my high school in 11th grade. Welcomed him with open arms, introduced him to my friends, helped him get a job where I worked, would have done anything for him and in the end he started trying to turn people against me and hated on me. Fuck people.
That is sooo true 😮😅!
That's a brutal betrayal, stay away from that asshole
That is terrible 😢 & how ungrateful person. May you heal from this and I hope you meet non-toxic friends.🙋♀️Hi from Australia 🐨🦘
If anyone returns evil for good, evil will not depart from his house. Proverbs 17:13
Friendships are too much work. They do the absolute minimal and then kick in it takes away time with my dogs that are way more important to me than any human animal that will stab you in the back. Since 2006 I’ve worked in grocery retail and over the years have realized how boring people are too. Just empty vessels.
We just can’t afford friendships 😂 I’ve been invited out to events or dinners and I just straight up can’t afford it.
Then on the other hand you meet other broke people and it’s them using you. I just prefer being kind to strangers and I vent to God cause he’s always there to listen.
sounds like the only problem is money
I tried being close friends with someone that lives fairly local to me i wanted to experience a real life Friend and took them on free vacations with their family, educated them about finances and help them build good credit, supported their endeavors, I shared my weaknesses with them and they ended up talking S*** to someone saying they couldn't believe i had a good spouse in my life and they are a single parent.
Damn that’s messed up that person was so ungrateful
Having friends on the internet is way better. They last longer and they can’t affect your real life
I think a big part of it is life's gotten so hard just to have the basics nobody's really happy, and everybody's dealing with their own struggles
Exactly bro, everyday I’m just thinking about being able to keep a roof over my head and worry about my again mothers health
I just got tired of talking with people who monopolize the conversation by babbling about themselves. I can't get a word in edgewise, and I find myself standing there listening *forever* while occasionally nodding and saying "uh-huh" a lot, like a child receiving a stern lecture from an authority figure. And when I *do* manage to contribute to the conversation, the person will stare over my shoulder, check their phone, and blatantly do everything possible to let me know that they're barely paying attention and have no interest in anything I have to say. Everybody wants to talk, nobody wants to listen. Humans no longer possess-or care to possess-the ability to have genuine, interactive, face-to-face communication with other people.
Yes I agree . The art of a good conversation is becoming rare & extinct . Just told a friend the other day that she needs to shut up once in a while and listen more . This is after we we're talking and she was just non stop carrying on and on and on . Didn't care to let me speak . I was annoyed and frustrated . So I just walked away from my phone went to the kitchen and made food . When I came back to my phone she was no longer there . 😂
This..they will talk over you, or not respond to what you say, then change the subject to be about them
@@shantitakemoto1058 Exactly
The last two first dates I went on this year went just like this, I'm done dating in 2025
I’ve given up trying to be friends with other females. Especially the older I get I notice how friendship means nothing to most women, they just care about their boyfriend and will abandon you whenever they get a new boyfriend.
Probably because they can get money from their boyfriends but not their girl friends.
Or they will try to steal your boyfriend/husband.
When they're young, it's the other way around.
After they hit the wall they stick with their man because that's where the money comes from and are less interested in their "friends" at the club and what they're wearing, who's the most popular, who's boyfriend is dominant, and all that chick shit.
I feel you. I had alot of friends and acquaintances in the 2010s. But then I rediscovered Jesus in 2019 and my circle got smaller and smaller until now where it's just me, GOD, my dog, a semi truck, and whoever I talk to on RUclips
As long as you have peace brother.
bout the same. we have all become very wrapped up in our own movie. nobody else can co star. the 80s were like a party. now is like a de-party
Sounds amazing to be honest lol
Same, minus the dog and truck.
I'm the same way.
I had to dump so many friends in the past few years. One puts me on the back burner every time he gets in a new relationship. Another tried to steal my partner. Another made up a major lie that I confronted him about. Another borrowed money and never paid it back. The list goes on. Some were my friends for more than a decade. Lost my Mother and had no real friends. To think of all the stuffs I’ve done for them. Oh ya one was a narcissist. I’m just doing ME. People show their true colors eventually
My condolences for your loss...
But you're definitely right...
You will only need one or two good friends at the most in your life , you will realize most are just fake friends
@@Vette5577I agree.
I also lost my Mother and have a similar experiences with so called friends. My mother was my very best friend unfortunately, I didn’t realize until after she passed smh.
@@arnellehardy1091Sometimes we don’t realize what others mean to us until they are gone.
Only way to have friends now is by having money. No money = no friends
You have to buy love as well . No money , no girlfriend, wife or date's.
@ With having a girlfriend or a wife, even more so.
5:31 I feel this. I'm 35 and work with a bunch of college kids (20s). They don't want me around because I'm too old and fair, I don't want to drink with a bunch of children. However, no one likes the feeling of being excluded. And having the feeling of constant exclusion doesn't make me want to try to go out and make new friends in a new, unfamiliar space. I'm much happier engaging with my hobbies at home by myself and just not talking about my life with anyone.
I don’t blame you
Most definitely!
I’m 28 years old. 35 is not old. In fact, when I was 25, I befriended my 59 year old teacher and she’s a great friend! 😊
I don’t fit in with this world either
Hey I’m 31, too!! I agree most people are into their own little cliques!! Honest to god they almost never venture out of those cliques!
Ive experienced all of this its a comfort to know i am not alone . I feel like i'm on another planet 99% of the time people are alot colder and if your nice they really don't like you I just never fit
This society is under judgement and everything you are describing are the signs of an empire that is finished. There is no community. It is very predatory out here. I was just talking to my wife about this. Thank you for sharing this and know you are not alone in these understandings. You are 💯 correct. Shalom.
People are such a hassle. Mantaining friendships is a hassle. It's not worth it.
Facts it's like I have friends but the relationship is so superfical by default that it's almost pointless to have friends.
@@ernestparham8376it really is and it’s ten times harder to even maintain a friendship these days it’s like working another job with no benefits
@@jaysouthmusic8230 all fine summaries. Friendship is too expensive after a certain age/point in young life. School/college/ see'ya ! Live your dream(s) ignore the rest.
A lot of people are MESSY , talk about you tell your problems to others . Not worth the drama
Its a cold dog eat dog world out here in this rat race. Most people have grown heartless. They have little to no empathy or kindness left in them. Its virtually impossible nowadays to make friends. It is the trend. Everything spoken in this vid is right on the money. Seems like the world is going straight to hell in a handbasket. Sometimes it feels like we're already there. Listen to the song 'Soul in Isolation' by the Chameleons. I believe its by design, a program thats been in place for decades. It's easier to take down and subjucate a divided population.
Thank screens and media for that
Social engineering
@@Researchthejoos barely anyone watches tv anymore under the age of 30
@@PatrickOnPoint
Im talking about screens in general
Television is just one screen
@@Researchthejoos you edited your comment, you changed it where you said tv
@PatrickOnPoint correct as you pointed out i needed to change it to include screens
most of us are kids of the 80s and 90s. people had fun back then and fell in love a lot. Disney cartoons were singing about falling in love.
all that has turned to dust
That's what I remember and that is part of the reason I thought religion and spirituality was a silly waste of time. The good times from those eras was a giant delusion built on cheap and easy money.
You were lied to. CIA programming in the cartoons
@@decadeyt5891😂
@@decadeyt5891 Too many women have been Disney-fied, Too many women holding up for a prince, when a pauper could have made her happy. Most guys don't meet princely requirements of too many women. Can't have a vibrant society when families aren't happening and men aren't meeting women, and Ben is in the basement using up another box of tissue. And it goes on...
I think Disney contributed to this. Part of the reason men have been so feminized
I have yet to meet a good person or someone who doesn’t use me and the closer I get to someone they use me. Everyone is in their head about an imaginary audience. I have tried to cling to friendships but I’ve even been told up front “You challenge me” and I’m not trying to. Others project their insecurities onto me… currently existential and baffled as to how intimacy occurs with how hostile people are. I fully believe this is hell. I never see my neighbors outside at all. I genuinely believe I attract narcissists. My friends have had parasocial relationships with *me*. Top to bottom, none of this makes sense anywhere you look. I don’t trust my own family. I am terrified of losing connections at this point it feels like it could happen over anything
It's also largely due to demographics, an often-overlooked factor. The average age in most Western countries is around 45, so if you're a younger person today, there are fewer people around your age with whom you could potentially form friendships. Additionally, society has become less homogeneous, meaning many people may be foreigners with whom you may not feel a strong connection or relate to. Social media is blamed for loneliness and lack of friends, but is not the main culprit. The boomer era, for example, benefited from great demographics, with a way lower average age, and you as a young person, you had way more young people around. I don’t think people are lonely because they spend so much time on the internet; rather, they turn to social media because they feel lonely. It’s really a surrogate. Today, when you go out or work in a company as a young person, chances are most people are considerably older, making it hard to relate to them. If you don’t build and strengthen a social circle from school through high school, there’s a good chance you’ll end up lonely. A social circle is very important. As you get older, you meet fewer people, and people become less open to new connections than they were in their youth.
And it's worse for men.
@@Matowix women are simply better/more inclined to forming a social circle and maintaining it, and are welcome everywhere, society does not meet them with the same scepticiscm. Especially in the USA, depending on where you live, the male surplus might be significant. You will often see gender segragation, e.g. women only wanting to be among themselves, not being interested in having men in their circle. Real loneliness (not perceived) is way less likelier for women. Also, the male sezual deficit, with many young males being single, fosters an unhealthy amount of competitiveness and aggressiveness towards other males, thus making the loneliness epidemic even worse. Hispanics are the ones that are still doing very well social wise, better than blacks and white people. Better social cohesion and gender dynamics.
I really dig your insight compared to what everyone else in the comments are saying. It’s such a complex issue resulting from so many factors but it really keeps getting worse which then causes things to get even more worse
@@joshmaki5843
Definitely true.
I am an immigrant and also mixed heritage so I feel foreign everywhere I also have an accent so it's very difficult to relate to people that's why I chose to just be alone.i can't feel connected to anybody
Friendship is a biological adaptation for mutual survival. More intelligent people don't require friends because they can survive on their own. Lower IQ individuals huddle together in the hope that their combined intelligence will result in a positive effect.
Yea I agree so many are toxic You waste your time and people are just psychos Or miserable bringing you down. The mess of people really ruined my mindset for years. It took me decades to clear my mind for it ..Once doing it Ill never get suckered in again
I only rock with real authentic people. No phonies or narcissist or greedy jealous, people. If they are any of those things i keep them at arms length at all times. A lot of adults are children who never grew up
13 minutes in, and you did not tell a single lie. Everything you said was right on point. I hope in the future things can change around.
If the friendships aren’t looking good imagine the relationships. People base their whole entire personality on superficial lifestyles and ideals. If you don’t meet the checklist, you’re out. And don’t dare have a huge life change that alters your life and mental health because based off experience they will drop you!
This is why gaming has became my escape from the world and what I consider my social life. At least we are enjoying something in the moment that doesn’t involve status.
I hear ya. I used to love greeting others/small talk, but I've gotten to the point where I don't greet much since there are so many people that wanna be left alone, or won't respond when others talk to them. I just avoid eye contact altogether now and saying Hi , unless I'm in an elevator or have a reason to talk to that person. Me being a big guy ( 6'1" and muscular )probably intimidates them even more. This culture sucks
And then the same people complain about how lonely they are or that they dont have any friends. Everybody is so lost in the sauce right now.
One thing I might add, this is in AMERICA. Go to Mexico, walk down the street and start saying hello to everyone. Literally 90 percent of the people will stop and say hi. Now find an american tourist and do the same thing, I guarantee they will get all weird and awkward. American culture is cooked.
"Many will be called. Few will be chosen."
I'm 50 and I understand this, in my opinion it's totally divide and conquer always has been but I have totally seen it get worse the second half of my life
Its a spiritual war
I don't blame you. When I was rolling in money all the friends I had. Well when I fell on hard times they all disappeared. I still have some friends 6 to be exact that have been there for me during my ups and downs. We are there for each other. So thats my little group. It's really hard to find people now a days that are genuine. So I keep to myself and feel lucky to have these 6 friends that are more like family to me. It seems to me most people want to know you because of what you have. The type of car you have. The size of your house, and if you wear designer cloths. Those people I refer to them as plastic. I have no time for those types of folks anymore. Being an older man I'm just happy being around my dogs for the most part. You are right though that today most people today are very anti social. So I'm blessed with those 6 kind great wonderful friends.
Waow, I thought I was the only one who had this narrative but hopefully there's people like you, much appreciation !
I moved from Africa to Western country recently, but i can tell you for sure, back home i got 2 friends and we have been friends since childhood, i noticed i didn’t make friends in the last almost two decades, now i’m here i have one friend from elementary school back home that moved here years ago and a childhood friend too, i don’t want to make friends either, i understand everyone Ego is big and most of them think they are smart and try to make advantage of you. I agree it’s a lonely journey but i think it’s the right thing to do, we were supposed to be having children or at least a partner that understands our needs and a companion, women are toxic too and it also makes me avoid almost all of them all the time, it’s wise to be alone that hoop into unnecessary relationships, Get a hobby and love to be alone and always prepared to fight evil anywhere anytime.
I stopped making friends cause I feel too different from everyone else and do nt want to deal with judgemental people.
just take the judgement
nothing is real
Just wait. You ain’t seen nothing yet with the oncoming onslaught of AI
Life is getting really really hard.
Finances are getting very tight and prices are skyrocketing.
I just watched somebody get laid off and it really upset me.
On top of all of that, people are just colder people care less because they’re very consumed about themselves in their own lives.
So it doesn’t surprise me at all that we don’t really have friends anymore.
I just recently ended a three-year friendship because that person was lying to me and I don’t wanna be lied to. I don’t feel like that’s something I wanna tolerate in my life.
This is a topic that needed coverage and you covered it perfectly.
I don’t want to be around people
I've been burned out on people. They come they go. I've met thousands of people and there just isn't enough time in the day. It's more peaceful just minding your own business. I get off work, wanna chill have a smoke eat and go to sleep. I dont have time to visit everyone and that eventually becomes nobody. If they want to speak, you got my number G
There is so much components that goes into this subject, this is a very deep topic. But one thing i noticed at the workplace because i spend most of my life at work unfortunately, that you can have a day where you communicate and talk to someone for the whole day, you may think you have made a companion not necessarily a full on friend, but then the next day you try to communicate or say hello to that person you made a connection with the previous day acts like they dont even know you or forget that you guys were speaking the day prior, the switch up is diabolical and is the reason ehy i dont talk to anyone
That's happened to me before and it's very frustrating
Anytime I have good news they’re always trying to find the bad in it. Trying to dim my light. So annoying! It’s like a crime to be happy and successful and in love. Screw fake friends (and family!)
This is very very true, you can't find anybody with decent values morals and integrity to even be friends with! My best friend is my husband that's it. We don't even like going out anywhere, we can't stand people. Most people are absolutely ignorant. If people are nice to you they usually want to use you for some reason!
I do think for the most part people just need a minute to warm up, loosen up, and have a little fun. Vast majority aren't sociopaths. They're cold at first because they're anxious, or exhausted, or on the ambitious side at the moment. To make a friendship you really have to let a lot of that initial awkward shit slide and assure them you want a good time, and a mutually beneficial good time. No politics at first, nothing overly personal. Respect boundaries, and have your own. Most people are genuinely pretty decent if given the opportunity to be. Everyone needs that benefit of the doubt at some point.
You're so understanding and considerate.
best comment here
Friends habe largely become "people who happen to hide from the same things" together. Any courage in any area is a deal breaker, as it is intimidating.
Bro I'm nothing but PARANOID in
public. Idk how to be in public anymore. How did I do 18 yrs of school.and do sports competitively
lmao i hear it
I ask myself the same questions especially when the paranoia kicks in to high gear
But there are some things that work,build a bond with with workers at a store or you favorite stores..Get a dog,go out to the dog park,find a walking partner etc...These things have helped me
I'm always looking for the nearest escape routes at public functions, looking over my shoulder strapped up in the parking lot & take alternate routes while driving home. Even driving around the block if a vehicle turns down my street behind me.😂
difference is everyones worried about everyones opinion on everything now.
in the past nobody cared