5. Let's Get Physical - What If We Were Real Talk Show - Episode 5
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- 5. Let's Get Physical - What If We Were Real Talk Show - Episode 5 #RelationshipGoals
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And Lord we just thank you for the physical manifestation of Mandisa's husband. We receive him with thanksgiving in Jesus name. Amen.
This series is just a blessing.
True.
Yes
John Kodhek I agree
honestly
“The enemy can’t hear ur thoughts but he can hear what you say out loud”👏🏾😭for someone with “dark sense of humor “ this is a red pill 💊 ! Thank you.
When Katie was talking about knowing the voice of God, it really touched my heart.
I love what Natalie spoke over Mandisa. Friends should do that often💜
I love how Mandisa asks the questions, break it down. what does that look like. what do you mean. very good Disa🙂
SO DO I
"Are you better for the kingdom of GOD together than you are separate?" Yes, sir! 🙌 That's it! This question is under-asked, under-considered, and under-adhered to.
God should always be first in everything in everyone’s life no matter what it is
I love what Anthony is saying. Christ encompasses everything but it's not all about the spiritual...heavenly minded but not practical while living on the earth. It's all encompassing, all rounded etc. Conversations need to be about everything not just churchified!
Annie B that’s true and yes I agree
I agree Colleen, God should be leading and guiding our life. A lot of our own ways is what keeps us in bondage.
4LADYSWEET thank you
This has literally been the biggest struggle I’ve had in life. All growing up my family made a really big deal about my weight. In my mid twenties my dad said a very hurtful statement about me being unattractive to guys. That was detrimental to me. Natalie was right, the enemy seeks destruction. I’ve had the Holy Spirit speak life to me as well as others. I’m thankful for that. “I am marryable,” hit my heart hard...
Read Joyce Meyer's "The Battlefield of the Mind". Yeah, some of the most hurtful things said can come from someone close 2 us. But you are fearfullyl and wonderfully made (Ps 139.14). If someone has a problem with the way you look tell them 2 take it up with the Lord! Lol. But if it is a matter of your getting or needing 2 be healthier then that's something we can all love on you and uplift and encourage you to do. But it should be for YOU well more so for our Lord our bodies belong to Him and we should honor Him by the way we treat it. You.are.worthy!!! Don't ever forget that.
The best thing about marriage is that you only need one, and the best thing about beauty is that it's in the eye of the beholder, the best thing about our Father is that He doesn't withhold good things from us,He will give you your heart's desire, you won't settle you'll get a man who sees you like your Father in heaven ,beautiful and precious and he will be attracted to you just like you will be attracted to him.
Hello Hannah, I'm so sorry you had to experience such hurt. But the words you received from the Holy Spirit really encouraged me. Be blessed.
"You .only need one " Very True. Nice to see 🤗my Kenyan sisters adding their two cents🇰🇪
@@kwamboka1470 heey siz +254 in the building
I feel like Curtis Zackery speaks from such a depth that a lot people may not be able relate with. I had to re-watch the previous episodes to understand his depth pattern. It takes a surrendered soul and a man who walks in the understanding that God is his all to speak like that.
...and Natalie is such a blessing. I'm glad she went all the way.
I love how she takes it back to the scripture at the end of every episode. Bless!
I've struggled with depression for about 38 years. I HATED MYSELF! The devil is a liar!!! Luke 7:36-50 You are the apple of God's eye Mandisa. Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies...Proverbs 31:10
I appreciate how some of the men talked about our value and attractiveness as a whole. Every woman is precious, valuable and multifaceted. We are precious jewels to the King of Kings.
cant remember her name but she spoke about how she knew it was the lord with spending time in his word , and she gave a example about like being in target a few isle and knowing its his voice , my church aunty spoke on this last sat and i know god is confirming the importance of spending time with him, thank you god
Katie the one with the legs 😊😊😊 yeah she has some good points though 🙏🙏😊😊 I actually relate to her a little bit from a young person's point of view even though she's way older than me lol
What Katie has shared is powerful,,, pass my love to her,,, and much love Mandisa
I love Mandisa & these talks BUT am I the only 1 that thinks that they didn’t get all the way real on this topic??!! I still felt like people were being careful with their words and maybe spiritualizing what can be plainly said. Some men and women are not attracted to people who are overweight or heavyset and that’s not a bad thing. It’s just how they feel or how they think and they’ll have reasons whether it’s health or self awareness or just not attractive. There are some men that will not date Mandisa because of her weight even though she’s an incredibly beautiful woman and has so much to offer and we can’t fault them for that because that’s just not what they’re attracted to. Men & women are physically driven. And there are some men that will be head over heels for Mandisa because of her weight because they are attracted to her looks. So I think that point needed to be addressed and stated clearly so that we’re not lying to ourselves but being true. Attraction does encompass different things. And in that moment Mandisa can talk with the Lord about whether he wants her to continue at the weight she is or if he encourages her to work towards getting weight off of her body. Also how we dress can affect whether or not we are perceived by certain people. Our clothes, hair style, hygiene, make up, voice and etc. and how everything fits on our bodies does make a difference. None of it is bad; it’s completely up to the person and what God guides them to do. I just wanted to say that because I feel like that’s getting lost in the video and comment section. If someone is not attracted to your body; all hope is not lost just have faith for the person who is attracted to you not just focus on spiritual aspects or make up or a good smile. Mandisa was asking straight up about her weight and the truth is that yes her weight could be affecting her being pursued by certain men but it doesn’t prevent her from getting married and being loved.
Thank you!
This was mandisa's most disappointing talk so far and the least real its gotten. Why not just bluntly ask everyone what they really want physically from their partners
The point was addressed and stated clearly!
Yes persons were being careful with their words as they should be!
All in attendance were adults!
What needed to be stated was addressed. To say more would be to go below the belt, simply not necessary!
There was no need to speak words to wound!
When persons are sharing with such vulnerability, it becomes a conversation of the heart!
Sentiments conveyed will suffice where hurtful words would fail!
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!
jessy jonas Hey Jessy - I understand where you’re coming from however I think that “the truth will set you free” in life. You can be sensitive with people while also being honest with them; “if you love someone; you tell them the truth; while if you hate someone; you’ll lie to them or sugarcoat things” (These are morals I’ve learned to live by. In the book of John (Bible) chapter 8 there’s a story about the woman who’s caught in adultery and I loved how Jesus dealt with her. He spoke to her honestly about who she was a
but also shows her grace and pardons her. If we’re speaking from a spiritual point here; our relationships should have a balance of truth and grace. If I were friends with Mandisa I would tell her exactly what I’ve said above; especially because she straight up ask them. You can tell that she’s direct so why not be direct with her - that’s why her whole premise for this series is “what if we were real”? I can align with your point that beauty is in the eye of the beholder - Which is something I stated; just with different words. Best!
@@privacypreferred5796 " Truth is never wrong but if is in the telling of the truth that a person can be right or wrong.
Truth can be told so that it helps or hurt another. Therefore speak the truth in love. Our words should be a blend of truth and love.
T. Sing
What was said in the forum, is an example of truth told in love!
And so what was said was adequate, nothing missing!
Words hurt! Bear that in mind!
You cannot unscramble an egg!
You are correct, Jesus did show compassion to the woman, even though he told her the truth.
He told her she was a sinner and she should stop, " go and sin no more"
Notice he did it after the Brutish men had left!
This is the compassion and love of Christ!
jessy jonas we can agree to disagree. Have a good one.
I love what Anthony is saying. Christ encompasses everything but it's not all about the spiritual...heavenly minded but not practical while living on the earth. It's all encompassing, all rounded etc. Conversations need to be about everything not just churchified!
I wish natalie grant was my friend :)
Great discussion, I especially liked the question Curtis asked, its challenged me alot
Hmmm...i feel like even Believers (as real as we are) tend to not trust that God knows His children. Trusting in Him means He will fulfill all things that we love and need in our significant others. That means just the right amount of Jesus and sexiness and fun all balled up in one. We always say..." i need Jesus but I want someone fun too". I feel like we still see things as if God desires to see us struggle. Nope! Trusting in Him means trusting that He knows what's best and that He always knows how to fulfill some of our desires too❤
So True. This reminds me of the verse that says If you who are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more shall your Father in Heaven give those who ask. The stereotype of Christians is that they have to be boring. Personally, I think I am quite fun and I enjoy my salvation and don't define fun as the world defines it like drinking and smoking. God has placed desires in us and so He obviously knows how to fulfill them. I believe He shall fulfill my desires of my spouse when that time comes.
@@the.victorgeorge I definitely agree! I also think that to understand what He has in store for you also means you have to understand Him to desire what He desires freely. I can honestly say, my husband is just the right combination of all things that I want and need and that request could have only been fulfilled by the Lordt lololol🤣🤣
@@MahaliaA That's on Periodtt😂😂. Yes Exactly. Because He can only fulfill the desires that are according to His will and we have to know Him to know His will.
@ Mahalia, you hit the nail on the head. I wonder, if the body of Yeshua really trusts ABBA in what He brings our way in terms of a future spouse. A attractiveness is having the character of Yeshua... And if the person loves the Most High they will value their mind, body and spirit. One of the fruits of the spirit... is JOY.. which means humour and laughter. Appealing.....is Modesty....self-controlled, loving, kind, pure, true and being inward and outwardly beautiful.
For both males and females this should be their fragrance. The Father would never place His son or daughter into a relationship with someone who they are not attracted to.
As one matures spiritually then the accolades for a future spouses also becomes more refined and clearer...
Yes @Victor & @Mahalia you are both so on point!
I am 25 years old and feel the same exact way he felt. I really enjoy hearing from the gentlemen with the grey hair and glasses as well as the lady with the white sweatshirt.
Yeah They have some pretty good points 😢🙏🙏🙏
What God said to me when Katie was speaking is "don't settle"!
That was cemented from the other videos I have watched on other channels about purity and being single and waiting. What stood out the most or became quite clear to me is the fact that "If you know God, you will know when He speaks, you'll hear when He speaks, you will obey when He speaks and then you will "not settle" for the counterfeit". Because you're confident of His word and you know that you know (lol) that that's not the promise.
We need to get closer to God, get more personal with Him to be able to know and hear from Him. James 4: 8
good clarifying questions Mandisa! I almost feel like i wish you asked more becuase these people were talking kind of nuanced. i also think the guys have only been exposed to one type of Christian girls
Mandisa you are literally one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever seen!!!
Anthony is very honest. He’s saying what other Christian men thinks, but are afraid to say it. Your physical appearance DOES matter. Men appearance matters to women as well. IT MATTERS TO YOU. What looks good to YOU not someone else. That’s one of the problems, people aren’t honest. The person has to be pleasing to YOUR eyes. Thank you Anthony for being honest.
Natalie blessed my soul when she spoke to you, I felt that. I too am a fluffy loveable woman whom just a few years ago, learned to love all of me. 💗Start waking up intentional, rested, read your word, stay prayed up, and always listen to encouraging messages or motivational speakers to eliminate doubt. Mandisa you have a sweet countenance, a humbling spirit, a beautiful smile, and you are more than enough for your God sent. All of us have strong holds in our lives🤔 and we need not focus on the things we can fix(weight)but, more so ask God to allow us to accept the things we can't change🙏. You are beautiful, not because you have a "pretty face", not because you can slide into a size 2 pair of jeans, nor is it your success that's most attractive. You are a child of God, a daughter of the most high👑 When you rise above the negativity and begin to walk into those sayings and scriptures that you posted on the mirror....life will have more meaning and you'll begin to see yourself as God see's you😘. After seeking him 1st and all his righteousness, the rest will be added(the not so big things- we can change).
What I see and the main reason I watch is because of you, Mandisa. You, my beautiful sister, have a gentle and quite spirit. You have been made in the image of the One who created you and you reflect Him beautifully.
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:14
This is a beautiful word and I encourage people to memorize it because there's so much power in hiding God's word in your heart. It comes in handy when you need it most
First of all, this series has been a great blessing for my life and I’m so glad I was able to find it! It’s been very eye-opening and enlightening to see everyone’s different responses and journeys.
But, I did want to comment on Anthony’s response to his perspective about not everything has to be about God. I understand what He’s trying to say, really I do. But I think it could have been said in a better way.
I honestly love God and desire to build my life and center it around Jesus. He is everything to me and this comment made it sound like a deep pursuit of Christ will make you less attractive. Of course it’s necessary and healthy that you should have your own interests, hobbies, and social life! But sisters and brothers, please don’t water down your relationship with Christ for anyone!! God is not meant to be a part of our lives, He’s meant to be our life. He’s not someone you leave at the church. He’s the LORD of your whole life.
As it says in Galatians 2:20: “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.”
Just wanted to stop by and drop these two cents. Essentially, don’t ever feel like you have to compromise for someone because you’re “too spiritual.” Keep in mind, your passionate love for Jesus will be attractive to the RIGHT person. Hope this helps someone. 😊
I really appreciate and concur with you. I think his perception of spirituality is synonymous with “boring”, but this isn’t true.
My exact thoughts and his comment came off carnal in my opinion. For me to live is Christ to die is gain. Living in the spirit and walking in humility is key
This is healing.
This is one of the best conversations there is in history.
Mandisa, you are so amazing. You are an answered prayer!
One thing I realized is you can easily create a narrative about yourself as to why you are single. I heard someone say years ago, " I like, who likes me". Don't get so focused on who isn't choosing you for whatever reason but focus in on who is attracted to you because that may be the person you are overlooking. Great series❤
Wow Natalie really ministered to me. Mandisa Darling I am slim and fit been single for years so don’t think it’s your weight. You can work on your weight so that it doesn’t make you insecure while waiting on God❤️🙏
Confidence is key! Being attracted to someone differs from attractiveness as beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Inner beauty can shine so brightly that it can make anyone look exquisite. Trust yourself and remember God loves you created and designed you out of love. Blessings to all!
I used to be like this. I've been reading the word everyday and feeding my mind with God's truths about me, so there is no room for the devil's lies. Now for me, I'm so happy and confident about me that sometimes I forget I'm single.
This is exactly how I feel now. I’m 44 and divorced for 4 years and it’s been quite the journey
Thank you for not editing out your vulnerability - for being real! Love and am so thankful for you!
As a 22 year old black young woman who was bullied the majority of her life and called every name in the book but the one my dad named I felt this episode dearly. The host of this show literally was a mirror to me and how I used to be but I can BOLDY say that I’m DELIVERED. Jesus showed me Him and God showed me what it means to be in Image of Him. I will forever be grateful for the Test part of my Testimony because without it I wouldn’t have needed a Deliverer. Thank you for content like this!
Mandisa, girl you are stunning! Beyond just spiritually, OUTSIDE *AND inside. Your face glows. The right man will build you up and I believe you will come to see the truth of how blessed in beauty God has made you...in His image!!!:)
“What If We Were Real” has really been a blessing to me!🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
You are BEAUTIFUL Mandisa - inside AND OUT✨ You just don’t see what we see 😍
So much wisdom here. As an Enneagram 8 woman, I must say that Natalie Grant is a GEM. She speaks things in a way I can hear and tells truth plainly. This is rich and real and good. Thanks for going there. And yes, Mandisa, you are beautiful on the inside. BUT you are also beautiful on the outside. It doesn't have to be either or. I am a black woman who has long struggled with my weight. I have felt less than. I have believed I was single because I was overweight (even though I am now a size M/ 10-12 having lost lots of weight). I have believed the truth of a lie. We are WORTHY. Our true beauty shines but so does our outward beauty.
This truth is setting me free today. I have struggled so much with my weight and feeling not worthy. I have had a love hate relationship with food and exercise because of it. I feel like I have been punished for this shell I have but I have so much beauty inside of me. Im not giving this lie any more power any more. I too was destroyed by hurtful words in my looks both thin and heavier - kind of makes you feel lost . I’m done! I declare my beauty and worth as a woman and daughter of God. I know the man God has for me will cherish me inside and out. I will not allow this fear to block Gods blessings for me and the inner confidence I’m meant to walk in. Thank you for this! Praying for you too!
Jamie ,
I wish I could look you in the face to tell you this, you are so much more valuable than you can ever imagine💜
We get so caught up in the "feel good" of life that we get lost.
A good hair day makes us feel good. A good meal makes us feel good.
Good weather makes us feel good.
Good music makes us feel good.
These are all nice, but on the days when we want to cry and we don't feel pretty, or our life takes a tumble;
We have to believe we are still so valuable.
I am sorry your father said such hurtful words. I am not excusing him, but he likely did not mean it to hurt you.
There is only one person who is consistently loving. He will always speak good words over you💞
I'm praying for you to believe that on all days, even when you don't feel it.
Lovingly💜Kerri
If you are not familiar , please check out "Life Without Limbs, A Life Without Limits."
Also, I want you to know
GOD THINKS YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
Not when you get in shape or get your house organized or have perfect skin or whatever, but always.
"Perfect love drives out fear."
1 John 4:18
God's love for you is perfect🌠
Have a good day : )
AO, fundamentaly, people get divorced because they choose to be self serving, putting their needs/wants above their spouse's.
When you're younger you have a list but after your grow older you realize the list itself keeps you locked into a bubble and restricts you from even being open to who God really has in store for you. Then as you get older you realize that those things that you were holding on to really didnt even make much sense after all.
some guys love big girls and on the other hand. i've seen ppl who i personally wouldn't be attracted to- get married, i've seen ppl with my SAME insecruties acquire very attractive mates it really is defined by the individual in many ways
Mandisa! I love this. We are learning so much as women of God. Love from South Africa
I felt like you were saying everything I always think about. I am 47 not married and no kids and I constantly blame it on being overweight, and that no one would love me. In reality I know that's not true but I keep thinking that it is. Thank you for this episode. What Natalie said spoke to me. Thank you Mandisa for being real.
When I watched this I heard "You will feel MY spirit through him and that is what that peace is that a lot of people say their spouse gave them"
Mandisa!! The moment you accept your physical body, the moment you "let it be well with your soul", I believe you will begin to see God's hand in the relationship area. Joyce Meyer said one day "get up, look in the mirror and tell yourself, whether you believe it or not, I'm beautiful!" the day will come/catch up when you actually know you're physically beautiful. Remember, it's not a diet it's a lifelong process. It's like our salvation, all the way to the end my beloved!! I love you!! Lupe
Dear Mandisa,
Iv been listening to your songs from a very long time now. Your songs strengthened my soul and I love all of them! I used to watch your music videos and be like, " wow! this woman is such a blessing, beautiful, spiritual,graceful and talented !" And I still feel the same way.
You are AMAZING ❤ dont let yourself tell you otherwise......I love you. God bless!
Mandisa, you are BEAUTIFUL! Confess the truth of God's word over yourself and not your own negative thoughts or lies from the enemy. Identify the root (who or what incident) cause to your negative self perception, renounce and uproot it. The kingdom man God has for you will find you! Jeremiah 29:11 🙏
True love is one that every day we fall in love more with the person we love. Its qualities go beyond physical beauty. you fall in love with the voice, the smile, the smell, you like being with that person. I really liked this episode👏😍🙏
I’m really enjoying this series! As a fellow fat woman, I really relate with Mandisa’s insecurities and I often wonder if I would be married if I was thin. I know that there are men who are attracted to large women, but I’ve found it extremely difficult to find a godly man who I’m attracted to, who is also attracted to me. Also did anyone notice that most of the men didn’t actually answer the question about what they find attractive? I wanted specifics!
I struggle with the same insecurity of thinking I’m not marryable because of my weight/size, which always fluctuates. This one hit home.
So good 😊❤️
I think physical appearance plays a huge part in attraction among strangers because that's all you can perceive at that point. There's really no shame in saying that you liked someone initially because to you, they looked good. That is the firestarter. Other than a shared miraculous divine intervention, there's really no other way to initiate contact between you and someone. What you do after matters more.
If you got to know someone more deeply and have seen red flags and yet still pursued the relationship just because the only redeeming thing about them for you is their physical appearance, then I think there's a problem.
Mandisa, thank you for being persistent with asking them to be more specific in their responses, because I get annoyed at "blanket" statements that get overlooked. I just turned 44, still single and feel like we're kindred spirits cause I can relate to everything you've been saying in this series. I've also had sticky notes on my mirror for months of quotes that a friend who recently married suggested to me. They say "I am somebody's wife", "I am worth the wait", and "I will be married one day." Another meaningful quote I heard a pastor on You Tube say is "Nobody is responsible for the management of my mind but me!" (a mouthful for a sticky note but I wrote small lol)
First of all what Katie said about her future husband made my heart rush!
Wow, “Do you honestly think you’re better for the kingdom of God together than on your own” now that is such a impactful and important question to ask. Really helps to just break it down to its core when questioning dating/marring someone
Mandisa, I felt the same as you previously did. I am speaking past tense. You are a virtuous woman. A woman of dignity and clothed with strength. You are beautiful inside and out. I will give God thanks and praise for you whenever you’re in my thoughts.
Thank-you sweet Mandisa! 💖Another fantastic episode!💖 I cried,emotions were flowing with you! Facing our fears and staying focused on what God says we are, that should be our focus! What we think others say,or what they do say,shouldn't be! Working on our insecurities,telling ourselves positive things,positive,uplifting words of encouragement!! I used to put Bible verses on my Mirror in my home with sticky notes to help me focus on God's word and His promises through the very difficult times with my exhusband.Thank-you for sharing what you do with your sticky notes! This reminded me about encouraging myself daily.You and your friends truly blessed me again!! I am looking forward to your next show! This is a keeper,a winner!!🤠💖🎉
Natalie is deep too,,,, all of you guys are a blessing,,, love you all,,, and Mandisa you are marryable and the most beautiful person on the inside out I have never met,,,, love you and remember, times and seasons belong to Him,,, your time will come and you will be glad you trusted in Him coz He won't disappoint.
Jesus loves you, please be very prayerful & picky. For when you rush into a marriage it ends up in an explosion. Mandisa you seem like such a genuine sweet person. God speed my sister. Though I'm still married for 24 years I've been abused 3 times. I struggle to forgive deep down and I have my pain days. Pray Pray Pray. Like I said you seem like such a sweet heart and you are very attractive to be honest (please take that in a respectful way I'm not trying to be fresh) I'm like surprised your not married. I guess you are praying a lot and taking your time.
This series has been a true blessing to me while I’m navigating singleness post divorce. Thank you.
Your transparency gave me chills. I can completely relate to you Mandisa. First, your are absolutely beautiful. Thank you for taking us to the word of God. What does God say? So love this. Thanks for being real!
as a 22 year old single girl, these episodes have been so helpful! appreciate you and your panelists being so honest to share your struggles
16:53 I believe women see into the bigger pic. I have a short list of what I find physically attractive. Short, bald, athletic man. I met a guy who looked "perfect" 😍😍😍 I was head over heels attracted to him. So I reeled myself in and watched him. He did not possess the character I desired. He wasn't kind or loving or gentle or meek. Complete opposite. That's when I realized, " I can't control who I'm attracted to, but I can control who I give my heart to.
I think more men than not allow "the look" to reel them in and they don't pay attention to the red flags when the woman comes packaged right. Not all men but most. Mandisa I personally know many women your size married. They're strong and independent such as yourself. Dr.'s, Lawyers, Principals, Teachers, Stay at home wives, etc. Their husband's have good work ethics also, no slackers.
20:15 I agree. Intially you see that person and they may not be your physical type, but their energy, their sense of humor, their gentle spirit, their conversation -- it's not the same always it's just something about that particularly person.
"I can't control who I'm attracted to but I can control who I give my heart to" that's a word right there
LaT How I love this! I can’t control who I’m attracted to, but I can control who I give my heart to!
"Heyyyy 😏"....."Thank you Lord"
Cracked me up 😂😂😂😂
I love Natalie Grant’s point about not taking it too literally, because I’ve done the same thing. Guy named Elijah. Thought it was the perfect biblical story Miriam and Elijah. caught up in the fantasy and not the reality was very naive to the person he was. Lived, learned, & humbled from the experience. Again, Thank you for sharing this Mandisa💜
Such a great conversation! I love how Mandisa asks quick follow-up questions to lead her guests to "unpack" their statements a bit more. Great job!
I heard a quote that has been true to my life... "you accept the love you think you deserve..." I have struggled with weight on and off my whole life and have always thought I needed to be good enough... I still struggle with that. You are beautiful and your series is so good! Thank you for all you do!
This is such a huge issue for me too, thank you for this series, maybe it’s just my
perception, but I feel like in the church world we don’t touch on these issues because it’s almost like the end goal is marriage, but it’s not. The end goal is fulfilling Gods purpose for our lives and marriage with a true soul mate, the one God has prepared for you, will only help to fulfill that purpose. I loved what Natalie said because it’s so true, attraction matters, but it’s not just physical, you need to be on the same level spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and lastly you have to be able to have a life with that person. 🙌🏻 love this series. Thanks again for being real
Well I'm just gonna tell ya......you are BEAUTIFUL! I KNOW on the outside and what else I see it's true on the INSIDE too. You cannot imagine how much you helped me by being real.
I am 32, single and have struggled with weight in my life too. I resinate with what you say. Your face was made for the screen!! You are- OH MY GOSH - SOOO beautiful! I love you and wish we could have coffee together! The Lord sees you and hears you. Thank you for being strong for all of us singles out there!
I can relate to Mandisa in regards to looking at yourself in the mirror and saying negative things.Initially I never used to have a problem with my appearance but as I got older I started to notice my body(might sound weird)and realized it is not pretty based in societal standards. I have tones of stretchmarks and other imperfections. It used to bother me a lot but now it doesn't as much, I just accepted myself and try to see my value no matter how I look,It is not easy but I try my best to.
I am an 80s girl and OMG that song is such a throw back for me..."Let's get physical, physical" - by Olivia NJ
If you see, or feel, someone judging your outward appearance then look through to their heart and don't take the criticism of someone who is broken inside. They are not seeing you through God's eyes! You are beautiful outside and in!!!!
My ex said something similar abt why he got married to his ex wife. It was due to pressure from church (PK), so he didn’t want to disappoint and have pre-marital sex. The love/attraction just wasn’t there with her, but she was the first person to show interest to a self identified ‘socially awkward’ teen. Opened my eyes to a lot and I learned a ton. I know for sure that there are young adults still doing this til this day in the church so she was spot on saying this during the discussion 🙏🏾🙏🏾
What I find most interesting about this and the series you were on with AO on his channel is how differently men and women think about finding a spouse. The men said she has to be beautiful/ attractive, she has to be successful, she has to be on my level and didn't really seem concerned about doing anything themselves for her whereas the women are like, I hope he has a job and maybe a car, I want to make sure I'm pretty enough and the best I can be for him. Just interesting.
WOW! This is so good , Natalie made me tearful and cheerful just listening to what she was saying. I love it. God is Beautiful and He made me , so that’s makes me what? Beautiful ! yay! 🥰Awesome.
Great analogy, sis! Comparing knowing GOD's voice because you know Him, to knowing your friend's voice in a store. Yes! 🙌
I want to say I truly appreciated how real mandisa is and how she try’s to get others to be real and authentic. It’s refreshing to come across someone who will be vulnerable enough to step out and open themselves to sharing their true thoughts and invite others to do the same. I absolutely LOVED THIS! Also I share some of the same struggles you have mentioned and I’m greatly appreciated hearing you talk about some of these things. I also think that women are more likely to look pass someone’s looks and date someone they don’t find completely attractive more so than men. All in all, I loved how you ended this. Thank you for this.
Your talk at the end gave me chills! MAN!!! We have the same thoughts!!! The thoughts that we think will attack us if we don’t capture them! The work says casting down all imaginations that will exalt themselves against the knowledge of God in our spirits! I love this! This is confirming the affirmations that God has had me speaking over myself lately!
I think sometimes past memories and experiences affect our sight of ourselves. Growing up with 2 sisters and a brother who are all thinner and people always compare you or call you the chubby one has an impact. As you said it is up to us to correct those inaccuracies in our thoughts with the TRUTH/WORD and we will begin to feel different and love ourselves as our FATHER does!!!
I like what one of the men said about being REAL and upfront in a relationship helping prevent breakups and divorce. But people need to be respectful about letting someone down. It takes courage to even open up to try to connect with someone relationship wise so if the feelings are not mutual for whatever reason, it if ok as long as you respect them and tell them using kind words.
I also have sticky notes on my mirror😃❤️, I’ve been doing that for months and it’s has helped me allow God expose and heal my insecurities. I love your sincerity in this video. I have enjoyed every bit of this series. Thanks you Mandisa 🤗
PS: Yes you are marryable! You have a big heart, you are priceless and beautiful ❤️
It's our confidence , it's those insecurities that choke out what God has for us because in the past I was so insecure I felt so unworthy.
You're blessed and beautiful Mandisa!❤
Ahh sis you were SUPER vulnerable and transparent. I appreciate your openness about your thoughts. I feel you.... be blessed!
Mandisa, You are awesome! Thank you for being real and vulnerable. I'm overweight and think the same thing that I am unmarryable. So girl! I am right there with you! Prayers for you!
I don't just read affirmation's, I write them daily. I am worthy..I am beautiful.. I am loved.. I am a child of God.. and so many more. I even write them on the days I don't believe them, and it changes my perspective.
Mandisa! My husband loves you! You are his girl! You helped him through a very dark time with your song Overcomer while you were helping me with Stronger! Your concert was one of our first dates! He loves you and I love you! You are awesome! We love you!
First things first. I'm SO glad RUclips put you in my feed as I don't know this works. I guess when you click on one vid if interest it will lead you 2 others. Well, I'm glad the Holy Spirit led me to you (as we all know it was Him)! Lol.
Buy key me say, I agree with Natalie Grant (haven't heard from her in a long time; me and work but not now) but you are AWESOME and PHENOMENAL as you are!!! It does not mean we can't improve in some areas of our lives; but no - we are Divinely Designed Daughters of Zion! Flaws and all! That man is going 2 be overjoyed to be YOUR husband! So get out of your own way; get out of God's way and go be great! You've prayed about a husband? Given it to the Lord? Ok; so now get out of His way and let Him do what only He can do! You focus on bettering you so you will be your BEST self for your husband. And what about dating websites? That might be a subject for your panel. Don't dismiss how God might have you meet your mate; and besides everything is being done digital these days so you never know!
I also wanted to share that only one time in the scriptures does it state God spoke in a still small voice and we know that was with Elijah in 1 Kings 19.12. The rest of the time His voice is described as powerful, majestic; it roars; thunders; sounds like an angel (John 12.28-30) and other places. But the point is God will speak in many ways but none more than from His heart 2 yours. You'll feel at peace about whatever you're dealing with. The peace He gives you; not as the world gives but the only peace that matters the one from the Lord Jesus Himself!
Oh, lastly. Oh yeah, you gotta be attracted to the other person now. I can't kiss his money! Lol. Sorry not sorry. I want 2 like him; love him and LUST for him! Hey, I've waited a loooooong time for some sugar! I'm going 2 ENJOY my husband! Lol. 🎉🎈😀
You are a queen! You are beautiful and stunning and amazing! You are truly a gift and a blessing to this earth. Love you lady. ❤️
Natalie just nailed it for me! 🤦🏼♀️ Trying to do the right thing, I added up a bunch of wrong things 😔
As far as physical attributes go, it is often the case that we say we want xyz and then end up with ghi. Why? Because people aren't a list of qualities. They have history and experiences and motivations and so on. Ask yourself if you're interested in a particular person and go from there. Don't worry about why. You just are. Because whatever you try to answer that question of interest with, there are a lot of people that have those things and yet you're not daydreaming about them. It's THIS person whose face you want to see, whose voice you want to hear, and who you want to get to know more. So, evidently, each person is unique. Experience and treat them as such. Again, are you interested? That's it.
Mandisa! Love the vulnerability and you are so beautiful 😍!!cant wait to see you walk down the aisle !!!!
I completely do not blame you at all for leaving political subjects alone at this time, however it would be SO refreshing to hear a healthy discussion about politics because I honestly feel that they are few and far between!
O sister, I went thru that my self.... I was 40 when I stopped thinking I was fat and stupid. I also thought I was also to ugly to marry but at 24.... first girl friend, kiss.... then marriage. But it lasted only 4 yrs because she was not having a good relationship with God and I was craving that with God. But now being single agian that's on the back burner. I asked God to strengthen our relationship first before he showed me anything about her or if I am too remarry. Be blessed cause you are Gods sunshine. Cant wait to see next weeks talk and catch up on what I have missed!!!!
Mandisa, thank you for the words of encouragement every week... this series has been a great blessing to me in my life as I continue my journey with Christ
Powerful!!! Thanks for being REAL. I struggle with that same issue of thinking how I look is the reason I'm not married yet. Or being in relationships that fail/end and focusing on my flaws I feel weren't good enough to keep him. Gotta love yourself first! It's been a rough road but glad to be on a new path of accepting and truly seeing myself the way God does. You Mandisa are a necessary force on this planet. A voice to remind us of God's love. Keep going!!!! And know there are so many rooting and praying for your husband!! Get ready he's coming!!
It breaks my heart too.....you are so beautiful! Not JUST in looks.....TRUE BEAUTY
Mandisa you are beautifully made always remember that..♡most love.!!