BRIDEZILLAS Going Too Far (as usual) - REACTION
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Regarding the groom who wanted to reserve a seat for his deceased son: By the time a former co-worker and her long-time boyfriend were ready to marry, her mother had passed. One of the most touching things I've ever seen at a wedding happened that day. When the families were being seated, one of the ushers walked down the aisle with a large, framed portrait of the bride's mother, which was placed on the chair where she would have been seated. Later, that portrait had a place of honor during the reception. And THAT's the tea.
This made me cry a little. These kinds of things Halen a lot and they are so touching and beautiful. I really hope that dad broke up with her.
@@HeidiWilde Me too :( At one of my in-laws weddings, they had an Ipad and a sign in one of the chairs for a recently very ill grandfather who couldn't physically attend the wedding. The grandfather and bride were very close, so they reserved a space for him and someone made sure that the ipad was set up so the grandfather could facetime in. As the ceremony wrapped up, the bride got on the facetime and told her grandfather that she loved him. And this was a very fancy wedding with lots of moving parts-she had a lot to do, but it was still SO important to her that she made the time for him. Not quiet the same thing as someone passing away, but it was still super touching that a space was reserved for him and that everyone was very supportive of making sure he could be a part of it. I've also seen several weddings where a seat was reserved for someone whose died. Anyone who has an issue with that is beyond heartless.
I've seen people do that at quite a few weddings and I think it's very beautiful to remember them in that way ❤
I have lost my brother a few years ago. Not that I am getting married anytime soon, I still like to think about how i want things to be done. I always wanted to include his memory in my future wedding somehow. I think this is the perfect idea. ❤
This one is so confusing to me... The person I'm supposed to love is grieving and asking for a symbolic gesture that would make them happy... But some people that are supposed to be my close friends/relatives might want to laugh at it...
are you serious ?? I would clap the living * out of them for even thinking about it !!!
To the bride who is denying a seat for the groom's dead child, he was sobbing outside because you rejected his son. He hasn't spoken to you because he is thinking of a way to get out of marrying you. You just showed him your true colors. If your cousins would laugh at that then uninvite them. The "they're family" argument goes out the window when it's about his SON.
I agree 100%. I would run from that family.
Absolutely!!! He needs to get the hell away from this woman!!!
AMEN! I hope he never married her. That poor man.
@@christelbryden2923 Happy for him.
@@christelbryden2923 Thank you for the update I was honestly in tears for him thinking he married such an inconsiderate woman.
My mother passed 11 months before my wedding, which was held on my parents’ 50th Anniversary. Our bridal table was my husband & I, his parents, my father & an empty chair with a photo of my mother. All my guests immediately understood & appreciated that we included my mother in our wedding. We also had an Anniversary cake for my father to cut.
Wow thats beautiful ❤️ so sorry for your loss!
The anniversary cake for your dad was such a sweet gesture!!
I’m so sorry for you loss. ❤
My condolences on your loss. It’s so difficult to lose loved ones.
Ohh my gosh, the anniversary cake for your dad is so heartfelt, I’m not crying😭😭😭
Saving a seat for your deceased son is really beautiful. The weird thing is the brides reaction and the fact that she assumed people would laugh.
She probably thought it's embarrassing too, she just phrased it differently to look like she's concerned of her fiance...welp, she failed miserably and now not only has she hurt her future husband's feelings, she'll probably consider looking for another one cause I doubt he's still planning to marry her...heck he's probably planning to escape the whole thing now that he saw her true colors. The bride is the one who needs to get over it.
Sounds like she grew up in a culture of bullying and emotional competition. That’s sad, and it’s sad people have no empathy for her.
I find the dead son getting a seat very creepy and depressing, and like some kind of ancient Druid ritual, and I would feel shock and ick, but I wouldn’t laugh or mock.
@@M_SCSo you empathize with her but not the husband? So either you are the selfish bride or you are so used to hurting those around you that you don’t see anything wrong with what she did. I hope the people you have hurt will walk away from you.
@@M_SCYou’ve never lost a child. Sam is her family. Cousins that would laugh are not needed on the day.
Right! Would you even want to invite people that would laugh at that. It says more about her than possible guests.
I've been to MANY weddings where a front seat was reserved for important people no longer with us. The brides mother, grandparents, etc. Not weird. SHE'S insane.
Same here! There's nothing weird about it. In fact, I think it's a lovely way to include a deceased loved one in your wedding day.
I have seen this many times for deceased family members. That groom be needs to run away from her !
Yeah, we reserved a seat for my husband's late aunt. He had a custom frame made with a remembrance poem and had her picture in it in her chair. After the ceremony the picture took a place of honor somewhere... I can't remember, maybe next to the guest book? She stayed present for the party, anyways.
I haven’t but still I think it’s a great and sweet idea and it should also not be in the back!!! Should be first row closest to the groom!
We had a whole table set up with the pictures of loved ones lost. It was beautiful and was praised. 💛
The woman ‘worried’ about her cousins “hurting her fiancé’s feelings or making rude comments” is exactly what SHE did to him!!!
It seemed like she was worried it was unusual and unhealthy and I bet she found out how common it is after posting. I've never seen it at a wedding but wouldn't laugh either and I don't think the bride laughed.
@@sarahberkner I've definitely seen a seat reserved for "those who cannot be here in person but are here in spirit". Super common.
Personally I wouldn’t invite a one who would make fun of my husband for something like this. That’s your husband. You expect him to protect you. This whole “I have to invite them they’re family” is garbage. He’s your family. I don’t think he should have married her. This is a red flag. She’s only gonna get worse.
Yeah, she literally did a “they’re not allowed to hurt him, that’s my job”, like what the fuck! Like, if they’re laughing at someone who is preserving the memory of their DEAD CHILD, then they need to be kicked out, cause I doubt anyone would tolerate that, but the fact she’s prioritizing her shitty cousins over her husband and his son, even if she doesn’t mean to, it’s not a good sign.
yeah that got me too! saying she did/said these things to protect him feels entirely like a cop out to me. she knows she hurt him with her words, and is trying to frame it as though her words are "tough love" and these cousins would be WORSE, so she's trying to spare him that hypothetically worse pain... as if ANYTHING could be worse than your fiancé telling you to get over it, that you're gonna get laughed at, and seem crazy, all because you want to do this one small gesture to honor your late son.
my jaw was hanging open for like half the story, and even after moving onto the next one my face was still contorted into an expression of horrified bafflement. i couldn't stop thinking about how wretched of a person OP was to not only say the things she said, but then try to defend herself by essentially claiming that "oh but these other people would be worse!" like, how do you even know that they'd laugh? like, let's say that they're as awful as she claims, that still doesn't mean they'd actually behave that way. maybe they've heard of this EXTREMELY COMMON GESTURE, and don't think anything of it. maybe they do find it odd, but decide to not make a scene just this once. maybe they decide OP is really the weird and laughable one for not knowing that the empty chair is a normal thing as a form of honoring a late loved one at events that they no longer can attend. point is, she said something DEFINITELY hurtful, allegedly to protect him from a hypothetical hurt that might not even have played out.
About the chair saving: I’ve been to tons of weddings where one or more of the parents were deceased and I’ve seen everything from lighting candles during the ceremony to empty chairs at reception. People with empathy think it’s sweet and don’t say anything.
It doesn't surprise me but I've never seen it, and I'm guessing she hadn't either but probably got a ton of examples after posting. She maybe should've used Google instead.
@@sarahberknermy thing is: even as someone who has never heard of it, it still IMMEDIATELY made perfect sense to me. And I can understand wanting that. She was just being judgmental and hateful at that point
I went to a wedding of a family friend whose mom passed away a few years prior. It was so beautiful that the go away gift for the guest was a bag of his mother’s favorite jelly beans. I think the bride-to-be isn’t okay with her groom’s grief for his stepson although she says she is. She sounds like those stepmoms who would ask a graphic designer to cut her stepson out of the family photo.
Right! At both my sisters' weddings we left seats and lit candles for our maternal grandparents and the grooms' grandparents that had died - as well as my eldest sister's godfather, a family friend. This is a completely normal and - I thought - well known wedding tradition. What a cruel and vain woman.
And at a friend's wedding whose mother died a few weeks before, they did shots of her favourite drink after the ceremony!
My husband died when my daughter was 11 yrs old. When she got married she carried a small picture of her Dad in her bouquet and my daughter myself and her brothers lit a large white candle to symbolize his place at the wedding . It was not extinguished until the reception was over.
awww that's beautiful ❤
❤
My daughter carry a small picture of her daddy on her bouquet to honor her daddy at her wedding. He couldn't be there in the flesh but in spirit. She was only 20 years old when he passed away.
🥺🥲 omg now I'm crying! I'm so sorry for your loss, this gesture was so beautiful! I love the bouquet photo idea!❤
So I Googled about the bride that didn't want an empty seat to her fiance's deceased son (I'm curious and wanted to know if he actually married her 😅) and found a bride that reserved a chair for her deceased 19yo and her groom filled the chair with one of the people that got her son's organs (more specifically, his heart). I'm crying now 😭
Now that’s love.
DAMN, tru love
I just saw a video where the bride's sister/MOH tracked down the recipient of the couple's deceased 11 year old and neither the bride or groom knew or even knew the person but they knew as soon as he walked in. But so they got to listen to their son's heart beating (he brought a stethoscope)
I saw that video and just SOBBED
Edit to add: the guy who got the son's heart brought a stethoscope and they both listened to the sons heart and all 3 of them hugged and cried
Aww. I bet the bride you tried to look up acquiesced and let him reserve a seat because she realized it's more common than she thought and her fiance isn't being weird. She didn't seem like a psycho despite what the comments say, and even admitted things got blown out of proportion.
“I didn’t know weddings were like fundraisers for your life” ...that got me 😂😂😂
Came here to say this but you beat me to it!
@@clairemack2750 lol it’s too good a line to only be called out by me ❤️😂
A lot of people think so apparently.
Crazy how Bridezillas tend to try to use their weddings as a free payday
Muslim weddings
Actually started crying about the man with his dead son, this is so so so sad and the facts she heard him crying and didn't immediately run out and hug him breaks my heart!
I mean it sounds like she did but that he understandably didn't want her comfort in that moment, since she said he "wouldn't let her sit with him" about it.
The one about the bride denying a seat for the groom's deceased child made me sick. It's the same thing as honoring family members with photos, or candles. It's entirely common, and a great way to honor those who can't be there on such a special day.
The man reserving a seat for his deceased son is heartwarming and beautiful. His fiancé sounds like she’s in high school, very concerned about what other people would think. I would reconsider if she’s really the one he wants in his life. She’s cold and her excuse is weak. It seems she wants his former life to no longer exist, thus not acknowledging his son.
If her cousins laugh at that of all things... really they're only going to embarrass themselves.
If her cousins laugh at this, she should stand up for her fiancé. I have a friend who's younger brother passed suddenly 5 years before her wedding. Her husband to be listed her brother as a groomsmen there in spirit. Made everyone who knew her brother cry because it was such a loving gesture
Yeah! I don't see a problem with having a seat for those who cannot be with us. Sounds like one of those traditions that SHOULD be a thing, eh?
I think this is beautiful. I would do this, and have the chair in the front row. Love that he wants his son being apart of the wedding, and of course he is family. What a wonderful father.
This!!!!
The one about the deceased son is ALL over the internet. Imagine thinking it's mentally unstable to want to memorialize one's CHILD at one's wedding 🤦♀️
I'm mother of a son who died in his teens. Many people are very uncomfortable with death as they may have never experienced it directly before. I consider my son to be with me at all times and he comes up in conversation often, like "_____ would like that" or "____ would be laughing so hard right now". I don't think the bridezilla is mean, she just doesn't know how to cope with her own fears. To me, in this case, it's what the dad/husband to be wants and shouldn't even be questioned.
@@Chahlie I never heard of doing so until today (not that I go to weddings every weekend) so I thought it was a bit odd
Was there an update? Did they cancel the wedding?
It isn't the healthiest thing to do. He needs to understand that his child is gone. It doesn't matter if he puts up a sit or anything like that, his son has moved on and he needs to come to terms with this. There's nothing wrong with remembering him or grieving him, but trying to keep him in the material world when he's been gone for 4 years isn't healthy.
@@cindyp4553 No.
At my nephew and niece in law's wedding they had an entire table covered in white with photos of deceased grandparents and other family members that the couple had been close to. There was a lovely poem in a frame about those who were passed but were there in spirit. Everyone thought it was quite sweet.
See, that's lovely ❤
Beautiful gesture.
We did that at our wedding!! I remember my grandmother looking at it and crying over my grandfather's picture. We live in Virginia and she lived in Texas, so she wasn't there to hear the plans and was surprised. She LOVED it.
What a wonderful idea and a beautiful tribute to honor the memory of the family and friends who had passed on before by lovingly acknowledging their importance in the lives of the bride and groom! ❤️🥲🌹
At my Son and DIL’s Wedding (AND RECEPTION), a simple, white tablecloth-clad, “Memorial Table” was set. (A “smaller, round table”, without chairs.) Pictures and Mementos of “Loved One’s Lost, but Not Forgotten”, were present on it. It was BEAUTIFUL, APPROPRIATE, “Heart-Breaking”🥺AND “Heart-WARMING”🥹!!
The “Memorial Table” was “WELL-RECEIVED”, BY EVERYONE IN ATTENDANCE!! Guests were ALSO “encouraged” to include (☝🏻Bride & Groom PRE-Approved!!) “special pictures/mementos”, on the “Memorial Table…”
Catherine, Florida
✌🏻❤️👊🏻 “Peace, Love and Respect”!!
My brother died 3 months before his elder daughter’s wedding. My niece invited me to make a candle that would represent her dad’s presence at their wedding. I used a flameless candle and decorated a glass candle holder. The candle sat on the altar and we also had a place for it at the reception. It should be a red flag that this woman is so worried about what others will think (more so than about supporting her fiancé)
The fiancés deceased son deserves a chair with his name on it. Most people (who have feelings) would find this a sweet, heartwarming gesture. It would probably make me tear up a bit. Quick edit- and the chair should be in the FLIPPIN FRONT ROW, NOT THE BACK!
YES!!!
Anyone who had a problem with it or said something rude would be kicked out of the wedding thousands of people hold special tables or even places for loved ones who never made it to their wedding
ABSOLUTELY!! My heart hurts for this man and his son. 😭 I hope he found a women to be a supportive and caring person .
Absolutely! The chair should be in the proper place for the general seating arrangement. If their parents/kids/parties have designated places, then that is where the son's chair should be. If there's no pre-arranged seating for others, then the reserved spot should be at the front, on the groom's side, with some sort of nice marker for the spot (were it my wedding, I'd be thinking flowers or balloons or maybe some personal item of the son's to make that spot special. I might even just agree to the empty chair, and then go extra as a surprise gesture on the wedding day).
Very well said! 👍
I have a friend who has been with her now-husband for years, but put off getting married because her parents died young and she couldn't face the idea of a ceremony without them. When she finally faced her fears and they tied the knot, all of us (family, friends, and even the venue) went out of our way to include them. If *anyone* had been rude, the rest of us would have ended the night in a cell...
I know this is a lot of extra info, but I'm sharing in case it helps others in the same predicament who are looking for ideas:
The venue put up a beautiful flower arch with butterflies (her mum's favourite) in the foyer, and we dedicated the area under it to her parents, with a little sign next to it all saying "celebrating important guests who can't be with us today". We all dug out photos of them that we added to the display, so that happy memories could be shared by as many of us as possible. We also had a bench under there for people to sit and reminisce on. The bench had a poem attached about leaving a seat for loved ones who couldn't be there.
I was MOH and bought all the bridesmaids butterfly shawl pins (it was a winter wedding, so we all had shawls) in the wedding colours. That way, when she looked at the females in the wedding party, her mum was with us all (I got one for the bride as a keepsake). Her aunt loaned her a piece of jewellery that had been in her dad's family for years as her "something borrowed", so that he was with her, too, & we included them in the speeches. We even found a video from years prior, where her dad had been best man at a friend's wedding, took it to a specialist place, and had them put a clip of him asking everyone to raise their glasses for the bride and groom on DVD, so he could lead a toast for them.
Hope that helps someone else 💕👍
As someone who has lost a child, the guests would not laugh. Especially if they love you and know the situation. If they laugh, they suck anyway and we don't care about them.
Whoever laughs should just be kicked out with no questions asked
@@GubbiGap kicked out or not invited
@@tealablu3759 Well yes but you wouldn't know if they'd laugh or not. I assume OP might be exaggerating the problem a bit - I highly doubt anyone would laugh even if they're sometimes dicks.
@@GubbiGap if she’s so sure, they don’t need to be there
Even as a guest, I don't think i could tolerate anyone mocking that kind of gesture... thats just so insensitive. I would be embarassed if one of my relatives did.
Reserving a seat for a deceased son: At my wedding there were three seats in the front row, ribboned off, covered with flowers and each with a place card with the names of my Grandmother, my Aunt and my little Brother. I hoped to turn and see them nodding approval. I was so sad none of them could have lived long enough to be there but I knew they were there in my heart. Only one person objected but they weren't important enough to listen to.
I’m surprised someone objected
I attended a childhood friends wedding and they left a place at the brides table for her best friend that passed away in a car accident.. it was absolutely beautiful as we all grew up as kids together and everyone definitely felt as though she was there spiritually. Doesn’t make someone mentally unstable, it’s a sign of respect because everyone wished she could’ve been there
My nephew wanted my father's cremation urn at his wedding, so his grandfather could be at his wedding. So, we brought my dad's urn and placed it on a table with a photo of him and nephew. No big deal. Not crazy, his wedding too.
That’s beautiful
@@amandylyn3881 hey ! ... you can't have a "Y" in your 1st name AND 2nd name ! - are you trying to confuse my brain 🤯
@@me2ontube lol Amandy is a nickname. Amanda a my actual name 🙃
When my younger brother got married, (our grandfather had passed away a few years prior) he did a special dance with our grandmother. I believe the song was called "Angels Among Us."
I'm sorry for your loss.
“She is finally marrying one of my husbands…”
The shock on Charlotte’s face before she continued and realized that wasn’t the end of the sentence killed me 😭 I thought it was a story about polygamy for a hot minute.
Not reply to this video but do U sell Petty base ball hats ? I want to buy one 🙃
@@vickieblaisdell7870 she has Petty bucket hats
Here, I have too many husbands. You take one!
@@timothyclark803 The plight of the modern woman
Punctuation is important. Even cats know that.
My cousin actually did the empty chair idea at her wedding.
Her father passed away at a young age, and they saved him "a seat" at the wedding. It was so precious. She placed a rose on it before she got up to the altar.
When I got married I was very aware of the cost to my wedding party - none of us were particularly well off. I had no pre wedding party, just a small dinner at a cafe where we each paid for our meals no gifts. Bridesmaids dresses were home made and were something that could be altered for smart daywear later. My wedding was about my marriage not about the spectacle.
To the one lady saying to the man with a dead child that he should “get over himself”: can I get your location? I just want to talk, I swear.
Can I come?
Count me in. Location, date and time needed.
@@Donna-qt1ot the more the merrier.
May I join ?
I’m in
The last wedding I attended included a family member of the groom carrying in a picture of the groom's deceased dad as his mom and step-dad were seated. The picture was placed on a chair with them. Nobody blinked an eye. We all knew it was meaningful to the family; even step-dad was fine with it.
I think it is rich that bridezilla didn't want her fiance "hurt" by having her AH cousin laughing at him. Babe, you managed to hurt him just fine on your own. 😒
Absolutely, when I got married my dad was already gone and my mom couldn't make it, I live in the US and my mom lived in Germany, so we put a small table by the alter with a vase and 2 red roses, and and a picture of my parents at their wedding, to symbolize they were included even if they couldn't be there. It was very special to me, and people thought it was a great idea to include them this way. I think she's selfish, and I hope he doesn't go though with the wedding, or it'll end in divorce, I'm sure.
Don't know if she's a Bridezilla, but she's definitely a BRATZILLA.
Wow, that's touching. I'm sure NO one thought, 'our friends and family will mock us". Who does that?
Honestly! The fact she mentioned he was crying outside and refused to speak to her...inconsolable grief, brought up by her coldhearted and self-centered "argument" to deny him one extremely meaningful gesture. I hope that poor man has people who support and honor him in his life, because his fiancee certainly doesn't.
That's so beautiful! I probably would tear up (and have a hard time not crying) if I saw something like that.
The one whose fiance's son passed away she's a horrible person at my nephew's wedding last year his sister passed away 3 years before she was murdered actually 3 years before and she was still one of the Bridesmaids. They Carried a picture of her down the aisle it was beautiful and it made everybody cry and it was one of the most touching parts of the whole wedding. I guess that's cuz we all knew my niece who was gone and so everybody missed her and it wasn't a question but still this girl is horrible person
Just to add on to my own statement yes you can uninvite them or not invite them to the wedding referring to her cousins and the fact that you're considering inviting them just shows that people's opinions about you matter more than your husband's opinion about you so why should you ever matter to him for the rest of your relationship?
I had a whole family tree of relatives who had passed at my wedding. (literally, we had an outdoor wedding under an oak tree and we hung as many photos as possible from its branches 😊)
Ancestors and family are very important to me and my beliefs and I loved having a representation of as many of them as possible be part of our ceremony. Lots of people really loved the idea and came up to see the photos. It felt like I could introduce them to everyone and was really beautiful.
LOVE this!!!!
That honestly sounds so thoughtful and beautiful 💗
Oh, that sounds lovely!
The bride worried about the seat is ridiculous.
Bride: Oh no, my family will hurt his feelings, what should I do?
Bride:/proceeds to do it for them
Bride: that's better...
👀
FACTS!!!
I know this was posted a year ago but your comment had me rolling
@@leslie4822 thank you
The fact there was even a "compromise" about moving the sons reserved seat TO THE BACK is outrageous, let alone how that heartless bitch esculated it. You don't even have to love someone intimately to just allow them to grieve in the way that they need. And if you DO love them intimately, then you bloody well support them wholeheartedly.
He deserves better, which is probably part of the reason why he was crying... because after that display he likely has second thoughts.
Yeah that honestly would be worse than not having the open chair. I would be pissed if my soon to be spouse suggested that.
I sure hope the wedding didn't go ahead and the groom dropped her and found someone much more kinder and understanding than that horrid witch.
I had never heard of reserving a chair for someone who has passed (which is very sweet and something I may do on my wedding), so for a second I emphatised with the bride. If people haven’t seen that before, there could be some comment, and I get wanting to spare your spouse from that. Bringing that up with your spouse is okay, but if he would rather risk that to honor his son, that’s his choice, as long as he’s aware of the potential consequences. The second he brought up that it could just be a random extra chair in the back, the benefit of the doubt is out the window. Absolutely nobody would even notice, there’s zero chance of ridicule over that. Refusing even that, a single fucking chair, and then accusing a grieving parent of ignoring *your* feelings??? That’s beyond bridezilla, that’s just cruel.
@@JasminMiettunen So we can acknowledge he’s grieving his son, awesome.
Who cares what someone has seen or hasn’t seen. There is no explanation needed. And if someone thinks seeing a reserved chair is odd or something to make a comment about, that’s more telling on the person than it is the chair.
No one has to explain anything to anyone when it comes to grief.
Consequences? Of what? A chair dedication? That’s weak and ignorant.
Example: I have never had a black eye before, if I see a person with a black eye my first thought isn’t “why this or why that” it’s “I hope they’re okay” and not make some joke at their expense.
You don’t have to experience something or “hear” of something to be sympathetic. All it requires is common sense and common decency. This comment wasn’t it man, there is no justification even if there was a compromise. The bride is a absolute garbage person no matter if the chair was in the front or the back. Period.
She honestly didn't seem heartless. People have disagreements that's part of a healthy relationship. I wonder if she learned her lesson after seeing all the replies (hopefully)
My nephew and his bride had a stand with three candles in front of the altar. On her side for her late grandfather and on his side for his late mother. The one in the middle they lit together as a symbol of the families merging. It was very touching.
My Dad ended up in the hospital on the day of my brother's wedding and implored them to go ahead with the day and enjoy themselves. My SIL was wonderful about it and although we were a bit concerned about Dad everyone had a good time. My mother didn't stay for the entire reception but sent news from the hospital that Dad was doing well and not to worry. My brother and SIL visited Dad before they left on their honeymoon and all are happy and well (and still married) today.
To the bridezilla who balked at the idea of her husband to be reserving a seat for his deceased son...he needs to run and she needs to be ashamed of herself. As for the cousins that would turn it to the laughing stock...sounds like the cousins aren't the only toxic ones.
Also why can't she just tell the cousins what's going to happen and ask them not to be idiots about it? Like is she incapable of communicating with them?
Honestly, I know people who joke about stuff constantly. If she told them prior why the empty seat was there I’m sure they would not joke about it. Unless her entire family are a bunch of assholes. Usually people don’t joke about someone’s dead child.
I had friend who’s oldest daughter had a bridal registry with gift prices that were ridiculous. Nothing was under $300.00. When I approached my friend to tell her I would not be able to attend and asked if it would be okay if I just gave her a card with $50.00. She asked what I was talking about and I told I just couldn’t possibly afford anything on the registry. She went nuts, she called her daughter right then and started lecturing her on her behavior. My friend told me I would be at the wedding and $50.00 was more than generous. Other friends told me she started calling people telling them not to buy anything off the registry and to buy what they could afford and if they couldn’t afford a gift that was fine. I think sometimes the Bridezilla is in their own little kingdom in their entitled minds. My friend didn’t have internet access and had no idea what daughter had created.
Good on her mother for righting the issue!!
You don’t have to afford a gift to be able to attend… You also don’t have to get anything off the registry. What has our society come to
Sometimes people are just out of touch with other people's budgets.
Respect to your friend, that's how you keep your kids in line.
What could you possibly need that costs more than $300? I didn’t even have a registry because I don’t have room in my house. And gifts are not entry tickets.
I’m 17 and I’ve grown up losing a lot of close family members, especially recently. I may have never lost a child like this father, but even I understand the emotional significance to reserving a chair for the spirit of your passed loved ones. Every holiday I had done this for my grandmother, especially while my grand father visited (paternal side). When visiting my Maternal Grandmother we would eat dinner with a spot reserved for my Grandfather
The open chair for his Son is very sweet! My children's grandmother passed before her grandson got married, a seat was open next to Granpa, and my granddaughter was the flower girl, as she walked up the isle she then placed a beautiful long stem Red Rose on grandma's chair, it was the most touching thing I've seen. Even in the pictures papa was sitting next to her seat with the Rose 🌹 I absolutely love that her grandson & his Soon to be Wife came up with the idea, it's a very Respectful way to show their love for her. Everyone else at the wedding absolutely loved it Too! And it wasn't in the back row either. This soon to be bride? Seriously needs to get over herself, & think about her soon to be husband's feelings! I couldn't even imagine her saying people would laugh and think he's nuts. What? Girl Ur the one that's nuts for not supporting him in his wishes! You are the A 🕳 And who cares what anyone thinks! There's nothing harder for a parent then losing a child! That pain doesn't go away! 😢 His Son will always be with him in spirit.
We left a seat at our for my deceased father in law. Tilted the chair and turned the plate upside down and placed an American Flag over it in honor of his veteran status. We also put a picture of him in a frame with yellow roses on top of the upside down plate. We got so many comments, most of them were good. The ones that were bad, we looked at them and said we didn't care about thier opinions and to leave if they had an issue. To be concentrated on people laughing over honoring a dead loved one is pathetic. :-( I am sorry, that is horrific. Hope he didn't go through with it.
I can't believe anyone would even make a bad comment about it, what's wrong with people?
I’m sorry what kind of “bad comment” like really? I don’t care if there’s a seat reserved for the bride/grooms best friend who passed when they were 8, it’s not my wedding or my relationship to someone who has passed. Damn people just need to learn to be respectful and keep their judgy comments themselves. Like imagine being that socially illiterate that you criticize someone honoring a loved one who has passed away at their wedding. So upsetting.
@@rivertam7827 People have lost all respect for others and are too entitled. The ones that said things said it was distasteful. Uhm, hello... we got married in a VFW, ceremony led by a veteran, and my veteran father walked me down the isle. Both thos men wore vests with thier chapter number and medals. It was a very honoring ceremony. Why WOULDN'T we honor his dad too?? It was absurd!
@@LiannePowell never heard of it being done but I'd instantly understand the sentiment n respect the decision
Very nice way to do it.
I thought about having reserved seats for our deceased relatives, but my husband had reservations about it - he didn't want to have their pictures in front of us during the ceremony, it would break his heart to be reminded they can't be here physically - very fair.
We found a great compromise and created a "loving memory tree", with pictures of very happy moments of the missing family members, fairy lights, flowers...
It looked so stunning, all group pictures were taken in front of it, but it wasn't front and center and it was a way better solution.
We soon after went to a wedding were the first 3 rows were for the deceased - all family members couldn't get through their speeches and broke down crying. I'm so glad we discussed all solutions respectfully - he was right, the other wedding ceremony felt like a grieving homage to lost loved ones.
If you feel the empty chair is right for you, do it. For a deceased child I think I would have chosen that solution. But please be considerate and respectfully discuss it with your partner
I love your idea of having a " loving memory tree". What a beautiful way to remember and honor those loved ones who may be gone, but still live on in your hearts. ❤
That makes sense and that's a beautiful compromise 💖 I don't think I would hold it together, either, if I was looking at all the empty seats of people who couldn't be there in life.
@@lilscenechick1995 thank you. Yes, I didn't consider the question from every angle, I just had seen it done and thought it touching.
But the things we worked out together were the best of the wedding
You can also have small pictures attached to the boutonnière for the groom and to the bouquet for the bride. When I small, I mean like 1/2”.
How'd you guys think of that? That's a genius idea!
I started to think I might be a bridezilla at the mention of asking bridesmaids to pay for their own hair and makeup if they want them done professionally (cause we're on a tight budget for the wedding and I can't pay for 5 people to get hair and makeup done) but felt a lot better about myself when she talked about requiring $1000+ bachelorette partIES and multiple gifts and the insane dresses like LOL I might be on a tight budget and asking for my girls to cover some of their own stuff, but y'all CRAZY.
Edit: I'm not requiring my bridesmaids to have hair and makeup done a certain way, but I'm having my hair and makeup professionally done and I let them know that if they wanted to also get them done by a pro, it was available to them but they'd have to pay for it.
At least you’re giving them the option and not demanding they have a particular style of hair/makeup and then insisting they pay for it.
It's ok tho
As a wedding photographer, it’s very common for people to set up an area for those they lost or a chair for them during the ceremony and everyone thinks it’s very sweet. Usually that’s for a grandparent or parent. If I lost my child I’d probably do something similar. That breaks my heart.
I think the woman who didn't want to have the empty seat for her groom's deceased son, probably know her guests are just as vapid and self entitled as she is. Why else would she think people would laugh or make fun of them! That story about her cousins was a last minute bogus excuse, i'm guessing.😊
I really hope this groom doesn’t get married to this immature brat of a bride.
They could put a picture of his son on the seat . I have seen it done
This was heartbreaking. Losing a child in is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. That is something no one ever gets over, nor should they feel guilty about the sadness felt. I hope the real reason he was upset was because he knew he wouldn't be able to marry this person.
Perfect word: vapid!
@@maryrinehart2346 someone said he indeed asked for the ring back
For the witch SIL who asked the OP for half the cost of the wedding for her husband's aneurism "ruining" her wedding, I would have said "Sorry but we're even. For bringing THIS up to me NOW, you owe me for ruining my husband's wake and funeral." THEN I would have kicked her out.
The guy who saved a seat for his son, that is sweet. Hope the guy didn't marry her. He deserves better.
She acted like the wife acted recklessly or somehow she and her deceased husband intended for him to die there. Completely twisted.
@@NC4E Unbelievable. For her to be like "Oh I know you lost your husband, who died, who was the love of your life but you will never see again, but that's less important than me losing some money because the wedding got cut short". Talk about having zero perspective. I normally find these Bridezilla videos funny but between this lady and fiancé not allowing her husband to be to grieve, this has me fuming.
@@Fragmented_Mask same
My husband and I are both in the military and having an empty chair is very common at weddings or any party for that matter. Actually, it’ll usually be a whole small table chair and place setting alone on its own. It’s impossible to miss, and I’ve even seen it pretty much in the middle of the room just beside the dance floor at a wedding. If someone asks, you explain and no one ever laughs. I think people usually like it, actually.
Wow. At our wedding, we had a whole table dedicated to people who couldn't be there because they'd passed. Granted, it was a small table with pictures and a poem, not empty chairs, but that's just how we did it. One empty chair wouldn't hurt, it would most likely make people tear up, especially if they knew the guy.
I think the story of the groom wanted to save a seat for his decreased son isn't that crazy. A senior at our school committed suicide and the school still gave him a seat at graduation. Not because the school was crazy but because he still should graduate and be along with his friend and family. It was a beautiful moment in the graduation and I will never forget it. It's sentimental and remembering them that's all. I know it's not exactly the same but still similar
My HS did the same for a few seniors who died in a car accident months before graduation 🥺 It's a common way to honor the deceased.
This bridezilla just told the whole world she's the type who'd turn on her own husband just to fit in with the hypothetical heartless bullies who *_might_* laugh!!🤔 She didn't even know for sure that would happen! And never even considered talking to her family about keeping their mouth shut?? What a rotted out c*nt!! 🤢🤮
I attended a graduation a few years ago where 3 seniors were in a car accident 2 weeks before graduation. 2 passed while 1 was still in the icu. At the ceremony the 2 that passed had their chairs with their photos and their cap and gown in the chairs. The parents walked up to get their diplomas. It was heartbreaking but they honored those kids. The senior still in icu also had a chair with his picture in it. They acknowledged him also but did a separate ceremony at the hospital. Principal and some staff along with family. They showed pictures of the ceremony at the graduation and he had his cap and gown on and diploma was in his lap. He did recover but is paralyzed from the waist down. Was a sad day for sure and I didn’t know any of these children but it broke my heart.
We even had a picture of one of our deceased cats at our wedding because he meant that much to us!
My senior year a girl in my class died over thanksgiving break from a blood disease and at graduation they called her name and her dad & step mom waked for her. No one told us they were doing that so all almost 300 seniors + anyone watching were all not mentally prepared for that but we all gave a standing ovation as the dad accepted her diploma. I wasn’t close to the girl but the memory of watching him walk for her still gives me goose bumps.
The bridezilla meter has to be a keeper! My mother passed away a few months before my wedding and I’d lost my three closest friends in an 18 month period before that. One was my best friend ever until I got with my wife, one was my AA Sponsor for 16 years and the other used to regularly thrash me at golf. I met them all in AA. My brother and sister took my parents place at the top table (my father had been dead nearly 20 years at that time), we bought my mother flowers as is the tradition in England and we toasted absent friends. Those people were incredibly important in my life and without the support of my AA friends in early sobriety I might not be here. They had to be part of the wedding, they got me to be that person there that day.
That story with the groom and his dead son, I hope that man found the strength to leave that toxic person. I know he may have loved her but she's shown a terrible lack of empathy, and that cannot be changed. The people who do change like that are in the 1%. At least he found out before it was a done deal.
He went outside to sob privately and her first instinct was to judge and invalidate his feelings publicy rather than to go to him to comfort him and to ease his pain instead, her fiance, her future husban? What a truly bizarre reaction.
Your laughter was fully appropriate. Sometimes folks act so over the top awful you have to laugh to keep from screeching.
So my friend lost her son in a tragic accident when he was 12. Her mother-in-law chose to bawl her out for letting it happen… and she chose to do this AT HIS FUNERAL. I am still gobsmacked, and I only heard about it years later since I didn’t know her at the time. If I had… holy crap. I’m not a confrontational person at all but that might have been enough for me to go Spanish Inquisition on someone…
that first story… i was a bridesmaid to a friend’s wedding and she and her husband are fairly wealthy, and her only request for us bridesmaids was the color and style of the dress we had to wear. she gave us three styles to chose from and since we were 9 bridesmaids we chose all three styles, 3 each. for the bachelorette, she said whatever it was that we planned she would love it, so we did like a pijama party at her house and we took care of everything. it was a surprise and she cried when she saw what we did. we also had a little serenade for her and it was so amazing. we all had a good time.
Until I started watching Charlotte and these crazy stories I'd never heard of the bridal party being responsible for anything more than their dress/tux and maybe a bridal shower or bachelor/bachelorette party. And, these didn't have to be expensive or extravagant.
It's not the bridesmaid's/groomsmen's weddings, why should they be out a huge amount of money? These brides and grooms in so many of these stories sound like very entitled people.
This sounds like a super fun time! :D love that for y'all! :D
I picked out my bridesmaids dresses, though I chose a style that is typically easy to wear and isn't too uncomfortable. I chose shoes too but my cousin has unusually small feet, so I told her it was fine for her to get whatever shoes worked for her. As for hairstyles, their choice. Nobody's hair is the same and they had varying hair lengths I figured "do what you want!" And they didn't pay for anything, save for my cousin and her shoes.
But did you have the mattress slide????
You were nine. Bit different. Unless you were super rich independent nine year olds? Story does not fit here. 👧🏼
As a veteran who attends American Legion meetings and events we always have a chair or have a place setting at a table for those who are missing in action. It is to remind us that they will never be forgotten. The groom who wants an empty seat for his deceased son is a beautiful thought.
I understood that concept as a kid. Even before we went to the Oklahoma City memorial. Spoiler alert: it's a chair for everyone.
One of my students wedding had a weekend celebration(on MLK weekend). On Saturday we had team volunteer at local food bank for 4 hrs. Trust there were many Lucy and Ethel conveyer belt moments. That night was a dinner with a lot of food on the rec floor of the building they live in. (no alcohol). The guest stayed at local hotel with a large discount. Sunday afternoon was a reception area before the wedding and then the beautiful wedding, and then dinner(free drinks…I was blitzed). But prior to all of this online they were asking for gifts of money towards their honeymoon or their home but the best part was 10% of all the money would go to the national organization where we met through. The gift wasn’t mandatory as they are both Drs. (She just graduated) and live in a beautiful apartment. They just wanted us to be there.
The dead son chair idea is beautiful. We had some chairs left open "for anyone who would wish to join us in spirit". We had some relatives who were in hospice and unable to attend. This way they had a place to "observe" from whether we got a chance to show them the pics or not. We also felt that this addressed loved ones who knew we were engaged, but passed before the wedding.
She said her husband dying ruined the wedding and so she needed to pay them for half the cost of the wedding. My response would've been your wedding killed my husband so you need to pay for half of the wake expenses
Yes. "Aren't you ashamed you got married on the day my husband died? Like a whole wedding party?? Exactly on that day?"
She could have said, “Well maybe your husband will remember your anniversary since something memorable happened.”
Their's also a story where a little boy drowned at the venue the wedding was being held. When the bride posted her wedding anniversary on Facebook, she started getting all sorts of flak. A lot of people were saying that she shouldn't celebrate that day, and some were even pushing for a 2nd wedding (to have a new wedding date). 😔
@@marke7441 😂😂😂😂😂 OMG
@@manxgirl was it at the wedding?
As for the guy who died at his sister in law's wedding, that happened to my aunt. She was the flower girl at a wedding at the age of three. During the reception, she was playing outside the church and ate a bean that was growing in a nearby field. It turned out to be a poisonous bean and she collapsed outside the wedding venue. My grandfather drove her to the hospital but she died in his arms. So sad! They buried her in the little flower girl dress. As for the reserved seat, it is usually decorated with a rose or some floral arrangement. No one would laugh at that.
Wow. At military dinners in the UK, there's always a place setting for the fallen. We even toast the empty chair as a mark of RESPECT! 💚
For the last one the passing of her husband at his brothers reception didn't even "ruin" the wedding...it may have caused the RECEPTION to be shorter but it was an unfortunate, unplanned, and unwanted event that they had no control over. I think a lot of people forget that weddings are the ceremony were to promise to be loving, supportive, and faithful to your spouse...after that it's no longer the "wedding"
Mine and my husband’s mom both died over 10 years ago and we placed two seats at the start of the aisle runner with both of their pictures for our wedding. Heartless is what that woman was and I hope he broke things off with her. He deserves way better. She has clearly never lost anyone important and to be so damn dismissive is heartbreaking… she deserves to lose him
The man reserving a seat for his deceased son reminds me of that video that I think Charlotte actually featured in one of her wholesome videos where a family member of the couple passed away but their heart had been transplanted into another person, so another family member invited the person that got their heart to the wedding so that deceased person could be ~present in some way. It genuinely made me tear up and if this woman doesn't stand up for her husband and smack the shit out of her cousin then I will.
👏👏👏
In regards to the first story, I was just a MOH for my friend’s wedding and I easily spent ~$1500 across everything, but I think the only “requirements” she had totaled each of us like… $300 I think (dress, shoes, nails, hair. We all did our own makeup, she got us matching accessories in our bridal party invite/gift, and we had a specific dress designer to choose from, any dress, and with alterations those were maybe $150.). I went over the top for her bachelorette party, handmade decor/favors for her, and bought her a few gifts. It was all my doing. But the bride in NO way demanded we pay for anything out of the norm or was expecting lavish gifts. Honestly idk if she even expected gifts from us. She thought I was nuts during the bachelorette party but she’s my bestie and that was all my doing. That bride is most definitely a no-go for me. I’d run.
Finding a way to honor someone special who is no longer with you is actually not that uncommon. At my cousin's wedding her husband had a seat set up with his groomsmen in order to honor a dear friend who had passed away when they were teenagers. It was the sweetest, most poignant memorial I've ever seen. It's inspired me to set up a small table with photos of some of our family members who have passed. I took for granted that they would be there to celebrate with us and even if they can't be there physically, I want to honor them and show that they're still in my heart. She needs to support her husband, not put down something important to him because she doesn't have the gumption to stand up to some immature cousins!
When will brides realise that no one will remember their big day once it is over. My daughter was so relaxed about the whole deal she allowed the bridesmaids to choose their outfits, these girls lived in different cities searched and found an outfit and shoes that they liked checked with my daughter. All my daughter cared about was that everybody was happy and have a good day including herself so she could have great memories instead of being stressed. She was so unconcerned about thing like decorations because she was having the reception at a very good restaurant that she was like nah they do great flowers we will just go with them. No one noticed. They did notice the quality food, the great service and the great atmosphere. It is not about creating a wedding that goes down in the annuals of wedding history it is as my daughter said “Having a great day with family and friends and just everyone enjoying themselves
I have been in 8 weddings as a bridesmaid or maid of honour and have never broken the bank over them. I’m 53 so maybe it’s something relatively new to be a bridezilla. Being in a wedding party was such an honour and the brides always took in to consideration that we weren’t overflowing with cash.
Agreed. I have been in 3 wedding as the maid-of-honor and combined I have spent $2000. Most of that was on a one that was in Las Vegas. Mind you it was the best wedding I was maid of honour in and well worth the funds.
Same here! I think the entitlement is something new. I blame social media for raising people’ expectations to unreasonable and unaffordable levels.
I recall my wedding, we had a small number of guests, no dress code required, we just wanted to enjoy our day with our most dear to us. We already had our own place and we didn't want any gifts. I've been to big weddings but i could tell that many people there were uncomfortable and crazy gifts were just the cherry on top. Happy that my wedding was simple yet people enjoyed themselves and had a great time.
About the story with the chair for the dead son: I would say that it is a touching gesture to hold a seat for a loved, deceased person. I actually think it's kind of a thing where I'm from, at least I've already heard about it before. I'm pretty sure everyone would be touched by this gesture and not laugh at you (who would ever do that?!). It's just a way to remember loved ones and signal that you would have wished for them to be there on this important day.
When my niece got married..her younger sister had died...she had her daughter listed as maid of honor and had a table set to put the flowers on
My cousin's friend, who was her bridesmaid, died 1week before the wedding. So they had her dress, shoes, picture, and bouquet near the entrance with a poem. No one laughed or thought my cousin was crazy. We all understood.
What a beautiful idea ❤️
At my cousin’s wedding a couple of years ago he had a chair aside for his grandmother, my aunt. She passed year and half prior. It was such a wonderful tribute.
I’m in the south and reserving either seating or even a table dedicated to passed on family or friends is completely normal. It’s actually odd when you don’t see some nod to those who’ve passed away. As a wedding photographer I’d seen all the different ways. Some people even play a special song where no one dances until halfway through. I’ve seen one where an entire second row was empty chairs, some had flowers and the others had cowboy hats. They were for their grandparents who had all already passed away. I cried when the bride stopped on her way down to touch the chair closest and smiled. that bride is insane and he deserves so much better
I think wedding gifts have always been to help the couple start their life together, but I think bridezillas consider wedding "gifts" admission fees XD Registries are supposed to help people choose things the couple needs, given that the individuals often have already started their adult lives and own home goods that are traditionally given as wedding gifts. The couple has often even lived together prior to the wedding.
My grandmother would start a laundry basket for each grandchild and fill it with kitchen utensils, tea towels and other sundries needed to start a new home or apartment. This was considered an appropriate shower gift to a new couple.
The wedding gift would be the more expensive home needs.
Having a wedding means you make sure everything is taken care of beforehand, and don't expect anyone to pay for anything. It's just a bonus to have anything taken cared of/paid for.
Or get a wedding-planner to take care of everything, if you're so damn rich...
At my Son and DIL’s Wedding (AND RECEPTION), a simple, white tablecloth-clad, “Memorial Table” was set. (A “smaller, round table”, without chairs.) Pictures and Mementos of “Loved One’s Lost, but Not Forgotten”, were present on it. It was BEAUTIFUL, APPROPRIATE, “Heart-Breaking”🥺AND “Heart-WARMING”🥹!!
The “Memorial Table” was “WELL-RECEIVED”, BY EVERYONE IN ATTENDANCE!! Guests were ALSO “encouraged” to include (☝🏻Bride & Groom PRE-Approved!!) “special pictures/mementos”, on the “Memorial Table…”
Catherine, Florida
✌🏻❤️👊🏻 “Peace, Love and Respect”!!
I love the "It's not a fundraiser for your life" statement. 😄👌🏻🙌🏻
Didn't Bea realise that her husband's own brother had died ? Maybe if the shoe was on the other foot , would her husband be justified in asking her family to recompense for the supposedly failed wedding . Frankly , isn't this enough grounds for divorce under unusual cruelty 🤔 ?
could just go with irreconcilable differences
What I don’t get is that….whether he died there or somewhere else that day, his brothers wedding would have been a back burner priority at that point! Is she dumb?
I don’t understand people what so ever. How do you do that to someone who’s lost loved ones?
@@ariannaeleanor314 I don't get it either - is everyone supposed to take a physical n have a magic wand to stop natural disasters n other unexpected events before attending a wedding
I'd certainly be having a very long conversaton with her about this if I were Andres. If divorce is allowed in his culture, that wouldn't be wrong to think about, but she definitely needs reality check.
I think the widow in that story showed incredible self restraint. I would have gone nuclear in that situation.
My brother was married in Maui in 2012. Our father passed away just 2 year prior and wife's dad had passed when she was 8yrs old. The wedding was obviously a destination wedding and was at a gorgeous ocean front venue (Olawalu Plantation House - if you need a venue recommendation, this place was Heaven on Earth!🌺🌴🌊🐠) ANYWAY 😉, the seats were set up toward the ocean and the very first seat on the bride's side as well as groom's were left open and a Ti leaf lei was draped over each empty chair! It was such a BEAUTIFUL touch! All of our friends & family in attendance knew full well that these were special honorary seats and was such a touching addition. There is Pacific Islander family on each side, so during the reception toasts, special mention was made as bride and groom tossed each lei in the ocean as is the tradition to commemorate or to acknowledge the important "deceased relative". It was absolutely touching and ANYBODY can do something similar to incorporate a passed loved one into any event! There was nothing "funny" or "strange" or as bridezilla put it, nothing "mental" 🙄 about an "empty chair". Further more, this was the grooms CHILD who had passed! Not some random distant relative! That story disgusted me! If I were the groom, I would have RUN far far away from that "potential mate". Big red flag! Nope nope nope!
It also gets me when they say "it's been X years". I lost my father when I was 11. I am 59. Even today the odd old song reminds me of him & I get teary. My own son? Just writing the possibility of that ever happening makes me shudder. I would NEVER get over it. Even if you've never lost someone you should be able to empathize with someone who has. If you can't there's something seriously wrong with you. I hope that man leaves her before they marry. If she can't understand, fine. Just accept that's what he wants & throw the cousins out if they dare open their gobs. She sounds just like them though.
For our wedding we had a card table at the front that had a nice lace tablecloth where we put pics of our passed loved ones so they could be included in our happiness.
The bride that thought the empty chair for her husband's deceased son was so wrong and should do it for the man she's supposed to love. Grief is a life long emotion when you love someone. You never get over loosing them bc you love them. It doesn't mean you go around constantly crying or being depressed, but they were a big part of your life and you never forget them. My husband of 36 years died 7 years ago and I think about him every day, but go on bc that's what you do.
My husband for 53 years passed away last year a few weeks before Thanksgiving. I insisted on making the meal to carry on the tradition . I lay a place setting along with his picture and a candle at his usual spot ,at the head of the table. Nobody thought it was weird, in fact we talked about funny and fond memories of him. To this day , no one will sit in Dad's chair.
@@adacircosta4550 I did that the first Thanksgiving after my husband died. Unfortunately I don't live in our house anymore and no longer have our table and chairs. We do honor him in other ways.
Its so upsetting for the man that lost his son. He loves this woman he chose, and he's finding out she doesn't love him
I love the bride's reaction in that last story, "Well, if I'd known your husband had an aneurism, I never would have invited him and risked him inconveniencing me and ruining my wedding by dying." OK, by that logic, did she also not invite anyone over 70, because they could go any time, or anyone overweight, because they're at higher risk for having a heart attack?
She can't invite anyone by that logic cause you never know. A friend of the family just dropped dead mod phone call last year. No warning nothing. A couple years ago Danish soccer player Christian Eriksen died mid game (he was revived and is still playing soccer I think). You never know. It was probably best that woman just never marry at all. 😅
My best friend has lost both of her parents, her ex boyfriend/best friend/our good friend and her grandparents before her wedding. (We are early 30s)
The entire first row on her side while she was getting married were pictures of her lost loved ones.
We, the wedding party, then moved them to under one of the tents where we had a display area set up for them so they could all be apart of the festivities.
Her husband was supportive of her through everything. So were all of us. We built her the beautiful wedding festival of her dreams because they absolutely deserve it. Theyre always taking people in and trying to do right by everyone. It was amazing seeing everyone come together to make their weekend amazing
Thank the gods I got married in the 1980s, when there was no expectation of "bachelorette trips", and couples didn't expect their guests to fund the wedding/honeymoon with cash gifts. It was considered super-tacky back then to ask for money gifts, and unless you were the parents/grandparents of the couple, giving money gifts just meant you hadn't bothered to shop for a real gift.
The man who wanted an empty seat for his dead son is normal, valid and completely sane. Grief never changes over time but it slowly gets better and everyone is allowed their time to be sad! I hope he calls off the wedding and gets the ring back so he can return it a buy a giant bouquet to put on his son’s grave. The amount of people I WISH were still around might be in small numbers but they’re still missed and grieved even after years of them being gone.
When my boyfriend and i get married, we're having a table reserved for family members no longer with us, both my grandparents and his mother. i am planning on playing a video montage at a point in the reception to honor those not with us, so they are still with us celebrating. that man asking to reserve a seat for his deceased son was beautiful and heartwarming.
That’s beautiful Cindy
My husband lost his mom, dad, and younger brother a few years before our wedding (I never knew them). I made it known that they would be honored during our ceremony. His mom and dad had front row seats with their pictures on them. We had a table with his brother's picture with the line of groomsmen at the front. My mom walked down the aisle and placed a rose on his mom's seat... it was honestly one of my favorite parts of the ceremony.
Having an empty chair to honor people who can't be there is a pretty common thing in many traditions. There was a wonderful, honoring and beautiful way to do this, and she faaaaailed so bad. I hope she magically grows some compassion or that he dodges this bullet.
My best friends mother passed away. As a tribute to her at my friends wedding we all lit sparkels , while i (as i have known her since birth) read a letter she wrote to her daughters shortly before she passed away from cancer.
I think its sweet that the dad wants to start a new life without forgetting the past ( his late son)
My friend had a destination wedding at a resort in Mexcio. We had a year to pay and that's all we were expected to pay. We got to pick our own dressy casual dresses. It was so simple and special. It was the best wedding ever! Yes, we paid to fly there, but it was an all inclusive resort! It was honestly probably the cheapest wedding I've ever been in and had the best time!!!!
We had an entire table with chairs dedicated to those my husband and I have lost at our wedding. The table was covered in framed photos of those family members and we had candles burning on it during the entire celebration.
Ooooo the empty seat....that is SUCH a common thing! My old high school had a student commit suicide her senior year and it really shook our little town. At graduation they left her seat empty but draped it in her cap and gown, and I think flowers. She was a W so she was at the end of the line, and when her name was called the whole auditorium stood to their feet and her mom received her diploma. There were so many differences of opinion after the initial action occurred, but that night everyone was one in support of her family. Period. I 100% think that wedding idea was fantastic, and I hate that grief for the groom.
I don't care if my wedding is simple or over the top-- I just wish my Dad could walk me down the aisle...
I’m right there with you, Sarah. I never had dreams about what my wedding would be like, but I knew I wanted my father to walk me down the aisle. I will have an empty seat at my wedding in remembrance of him, and no one can tell me otherwise. If people have a problem with it, they can F$&@ right off.
@@krisc.1344 that's beautiful-- what a great idea ❤️
You’re a lovely person with a lovely soul.
In the story about the dad wanting to reserve a seat for his son who passed, I think it's actually beautiful. He wants to include his son on his wedding day what's so wrong with that ? Yes it's been 4 years since his son passed but you can't tell someone how to grieve or for how long. If she is worried about someone laughing about him wanting to include his son then I think those people are not real friends. Honestly I'm thinking he needs to walk away from her because she is not respecting him or his feelings. I hope that made sense, love your videos Peace and love to you and your family 💙💚💙
A co-worker was criticized for grieving "too long" over her mother's death. She was tearing up when she told me about it. I almost never touch people but I gently squeezed her wrist and told her to grieve in her way.
Obviously she's projecting, saying people will laugh and make a joke out of their wedding... She's the one thinking is laughable and his fiance's grieving process is out of place...
If some of your relatives are immature you could talk to them or their parents or don't invite them, you know?
I don't think there's ever a limit for a parent's grief.
I agree with you, hopefully he will walk away.
I really hate that people think grief has a time limit. It doesn't matter how much time passes. You live on knowing that loved one is no longer there to experience life with you. It hurts, it always will hurt.
@@lilscenechick1995 exactly a person's grief is exactly that it's personal. There is no time limit and for someone to tell you it's been long enough is not someone I would want in my life.
I agree with you all that grief has no time limit, especially grief over a child, but I didn't really think of this as him grieving, per se. He had a son, that boy will always be his son. It's only natural for the man's son to be at the wedding, even if only in spirit. It's not out of grief really, it's just because that boy is his son.
I don't know if I'm being very clear. I'm not arguing with any of you, just adding on to your thoughts. I really hope he didn't marry that immature, emotionally stunted, half-human thing.
Losing a child is like the worst thing imaginable to me (and I don't even have children yet). I would feel RELIEVED if there was anything practical I could do to help someone dealing with that kind of pain. How dare she not respect such a simple request!?
I’ve seen restaurants that reserve a table for fallen soldiers. It’s completely set and everything. It makes perfect sense to me to do that at the wedding. But even that wasn’t a thing, his wishes should be respected. Brides do all kinds of batshit crazy things for their wedding, and this isn’t even a batshit crazy request.
The story at 7:00 really pissed me off!!! I made sure my brother had a seat at my wedding table with a bunch of pictures of him and I. It was extremely important I had him there with me and my husband was all about it. I loved watching all the people gather around the pictures and sharing stories about him. Not once did it ruin the mood of our wedding!!
absolutely
With all of these bride demands for “stuff” from the other members of the bridal party, everyone who gifts cash or goods should be credited as “producers” of the wedding event, PRINTED ON THE CEREMONY BOOKLETS, just as do financiers of movies in the credits at the start & end of every movie.
Lol. I can just imagine, the wedding toast starting with a list of donors. Or ending. Like some creators do with their main Patreon supporters.
That would actually be hilarious and if it was done in the correct context could actually be very sweet. A wedding is a production and honoring the cast and crew that made it happen on the invite is a cute idea.
Just WOW to the last story. She said that to the widow AT THE WAKE.
Losing anyone is unbearable to anyone, but losing a child is the hardest. You can’t force someone to grieve differently. I would treasure a man that was so sensitive and be grateful that our future children would have a loving father.
I was given the opportunity to help plan my dear friend's wedding. Her dad passed years ago and she wanted to do something to show he was there....we covered one of the chairs in a white covering and placed a little plaque on it with some flowers (on the front row where he would have sat)....it was very precious.
the one with the chair for the dead son: this is such a normal thing to do! a lot of people do similar at their wedding. for my brother’s wedding we had a chair and a little table set up (with plate and glass and everything). i think we may have put up some photos, but i also made little stars with the names of the family/friends who passed away. it was like they were attending the wedding too. it was a little bittersweet, but ultimately it was so lovely to have.
I’ve been to a lot of weddings (huge family) and almost all of them have had a memorial table in the back and guests giving speeches have the opportunity to say “God rest Eric, he would be so proud of you” or whatever at the end. So hearing about that one absolutely flabbergasted me
"I'm so sorry that the death of my husband put a damper on your wedding. I will make sure to chew him out when I see him again."
JFC!!! WTF?!?!
The apology better include a whole boatload of grovelling and Mea culpas!!!!!
If a bride insists on multiple gifts, there's no need to break the bank. Take the money you had originally budgeted for a gift, and divide it up as many times as needed. Instead of one big present, she can have several small ones. And if she doesn't like that, tough 💩.