Fortunately, people at my church generally don't make a big deal out of my singleness. They rarely even mention it. That's good. That's how it should be. Just regard single adults at church like any other adult. If we want help, we'll ask for it. We'll get married when/if the right time/person comes along.
I'm single and literally nobody at church ever says anything to me about being single or why I'm single. I guess they just assume I'm a lost cause. Lol
😂 I always tell people when they ask me why I'm still single that "my future spouse died in the military at some point in time, and is waiting for me on the other side." 😂 My mom told me once it for all I know my eternal companion died in the war and is waiting for me there. And I thought that was brilliant, and entirely possible. So I like that. Plus I have dated so many guys that I am finally to a place where I just am not concerned about it anymore. It's all in God's hands. I'd rather spend my life here single, then wind up marrying the wrong person and going through that mess.
Excellent video! I have attended Catholic and Protestant Churches, Mormon and Jewish Congregations, very liberal and very conservative. People that I do not know asked these questions regularly about my marital status as soon as I entered the building and they saw that I did not have a wedding band on my left hand. Regardless of the religion, people are rude and such a turn off to me that I do not want to visit the congregation again. My response has been and is, "I am glad to be here today to worship. God bless you. It was nice to meet you." In most cases, I have not returned for a second visit. I am single and satisfied. Thanks for the great video!
I had a bishop once pull me in for an interview just to lecture/chastise me on why I was still single and not dating enough. He meant well, but it did not help at all.
Good video, can’t complain. I’ve been single my entire life. I haven’t even had my first boyfriend yet and I’m 26, female. I hate being single and seeing all those deeply - in - love 💕 couples everywhere I go. I can’t help feeling jealous....😔😒😓 If I’d look into the mirror of Erised I’d see myself with my first boyfriend, pretty sure.. 👫💏
I'm 29 and it still hasn't happened yet. I keep thinking that finding love in the 20s is a superpower that I don't have. It's absolutely insane how people are able to get married so young. I can't even get my first kiss yet.
Hey, single has some good and bad , being single you can take a cooking class or go do a humanity trip. The thing is be happy with who you are, dance to the music of your soul.
Lds church peeps technically are nuns before marriage, if temple worthy at least. Lds people are weird. Just check out the vibe of the bgm in this vid. Also people s stellar configurations determine whrn marriage if ever, happens. Saturn tends to delay marriage until after 30. If you try to jump the gun, bad things will happen.
I didn't think being single is a problem or something people should get stressed about. However it is something that you need to work on every day just like everything else that comes with following the teachings of Jesus Christ 🤗😊
People shouldn't stress themselves out in the search, though. Maybe God's plan doesn't involve marriage for some people in this life. People should be going out, having fun, meeting people, and allowing themselves to be available if opportunity arises...but they shouldn't be thinking about it every step of every day. It's unhealthy.
N That’s kinda like predestining people when you some people aren’t meant to be married. You nor I can say that. People have free will to choose whatever path they want. If a person wants to get married they can. It’s up to them. I think a lot of these problems within the church (the man made church institution (religiosity) as opposed to the actual church which is literally just the collective of believers worldwide btw) cones from bad teachings that are man made traditions and understandings. There’s people right now in the church literally waiting for “the one” to appear. The truth is that “the one” doesn’t exist. Sitting in the pew or your house all day will not get them the potential spouse. The should pray to God but also be active in their pursuit as well. Action produce results. That’s why many of the single people in the institutional churches are frustrated because they’re stuck in magical thinking and chase waterfalls. They need to take action and actually go and meet people. Sitting around waiting all day and tapping their foreheads isn’t producing what they want. Common sense. The proof is in the pudding so forget what I even say, just look at the evidence. This is what happens when people put too much trust in and worship their church leadership as well as “favorable” parishioners. It gets them nowhere.
Love this short video! Thank you so very much for making this, sister and brother! I think that is helpful… As someone who is married now, but has been married twice before and made a mess of my life! Of course I didn’t join the church until in between the second and third marriage…
Well done as someone who didn't get married till I was 54. BTW, the weird hand puppet bit was used to perfection in an old movie, complete with a face. I think it was called Moon Over Parador.
Didnt get married until 28 and got all these questions and judgements. Never offended me though. Evidently those people need to work on themselves just as much as I do haha
I hate when married people try to make me feel better by saying "you can go on trips" I'm like no I live with an overly protective mom who would have a heart attack if I went out of the country.
I'm a single person and here are some things I wish people would tell me: 1) "I'm sorry that your desire for marriage was crushed by the church by saying how it would hinder your relationship with God and by giving you anti-romantic books to read like "How I Kissed Dating Goodbye," and The Dating Manifesto." 2) "Don't listen to people who try to discourage you from marriage when they say how your future husband will abuse you because of your disability. Nobody deserves to be abused-even if the person has a good reason to be angry at his/her spouse." 3) "Don't listen to people who scoff at you for wanting someone to chaperone you while on your first date. It's part of being safe, and the goal is to see if the guy is someone who you'd like to marry, not someone who you'd like to arrange your death. " 4) "Only you can decide who you want to marry; not your sister, not your parents, not your brother, nobody else; only you."
I stopped going to church Im tired of it You don’t wanna talk to any men because their wives don’t like it and it’s just awkward all around Single people are perceived as people who don’t have it all together I just stopped going Not one phonecall
Yeah LDS women are just as delusional as non LDS ones. A 35+ single mom with 2-3 kids wanting the hot guy that makes $100k+ . Not realizing that every other woman wants the same thing, so he’ll never pick the one with kids. Instead they should looking for just a good character person. I gave up. It’s pointless
@@georgemolhiot8019 I’m the only single person in my church…… this weekend they have Valentine’s Day supper for all the couples Sick of feeling those things
Sorry, sounds borderline “woke” to me. It is the objective of 99.9% of LDS Single Adults to get married. If one is not married then they are still figuring out how to best succeed in the objective.
Fortunately, people at my church generally don't make a big deal out of my singleness. They rarely even mention it. That's good. That's how it should be. Just regard single adults at church like any other adult. If we want help, we'll ask for it. We'll get married when/if the right time/person comes along.
I'm single and literally nobody at church ever says anything to me about being single or why I'm single. I guess they just assume I'm a lost cause. Lol
Ha. Same.
Sadly you learn a lot about what people think of you by what they DON'T say and do around you. ..don't ask you to do etc.
Humanity is a lost cause.
It’s all about looks man but keep your head up and work on yourself then you will be a king then a queen will come along
Same. I literally just sit in sacrament by myself nobody even sits near me
😂 I always tell people when they ask me why I'm still single that "my future spouse died in the military at some point in time, and is waiting for me on the other side." 😂
My mom told me once it for all I know my eternal companion died in the war and is waiting for me there. And I thought that was brilliant, and entirely possible. So I like that. Plus I have dated so many guys that I am finally to a place where I just am not concerned about it anymore. It's all in God's hands. I'd rather spend my life here single, then wind up marrying the wrong person and going through that mess.
Ow and don't ever say "you two look good together you should get married ". There is more to a marriage than looks
Exactly!!
Wait, what? No one told me that before
Excellent video! I have attended Catholic and Protestant Churches, Mormon and Jewish Congregations, very liberal and very conservative. People that I do not know asked these questions regularly about my marital status as soon as I entered the building and they saw that I did not have a wedding band on my left hand. Regardless of the religion, people are rude and such a turn off to me that I do not want to visit the congregation again. My response has been and is, "I am glad to be here today to worship. God bless you. It was nice to meet you." In most cases, I have not returned for a second visit. I am single and satisfied. Thanks for the great video!
I had a bishop once pull me in for an interview just to lecture/chastise me on why I was still single and not dating enough. He meant well, but it did not help at all.
Good video, can’t complain.
I’ve been single my entire life.
I haven’t even had my first boyfriend yet and I’m 26, female.
I hate being single and seeing all those deeply - in - love 💕 couples everywhere I go.
I can’t help feeling jealous....😔😒😓
If I’d look into the mirror of Erised I’d see myself with my first boyfriend, pretty sure..
👫💏
Same
I'm 29 and it still hasn't happened yet. I keep thinking that finding love in the 20s is a superpower that I don't have. It's absolutely insane how people are able to get married so young. I can't even get my first kiss yet.
Hey, single has some good and bad , being single you can take a cooking class or go do a humanity trip.
The thing is be happy with who you are, dance to the music of your soul.
Maybe you should become a nun.
Lds church peeps technically are nuns before marriage, if temple worthy at least. Lds people are weird. Just check out the vibe of the bgm in this vid. Also people s stellar configurations determine whrn marriage if ever, happens. Saturn tends to delay marriage until after 30. If you try to jump the gun, bad things will happen.
I didn't think being single is a problem or something people should get stressed about. However it is something that you need to work on every day just like everything else that comes with following the teachings of Jesus Christ 🤗😊
People shouldn't stress themselves out in the search, though. Maybe God's plan doesn't involve marriage for some people in this life. People should be going out, having fun, meeting people, and allowing themselves to be available if opportunity arises...but they shouldn't be thinking about it every step of every day. It's unhealthy.
N
That’s kinda like predestining people when you some people aren’t meant to be married. You nor I can say that. People have free will to choose whatever path they want. If a person wants to get married they can. It’s up to them.
I think a lot of these problems within the church (the man made church institution (religiosity) as opposed to the actual church which is literally just the collective of believers worldwide btw) cones from bad teachings that are man made traditions and understandings. There’s people right now in the church literally waiting for “the one” to appear. The truth is that “the one” doesn’t exist. Sitting in the pew or your house all day will not get them the potential spouse. The should pray to God but also be active in their pursuit as well. Action produce results. That’s why many of the single people in the institutional churches are frustrated because they’re stuck in magical thinking and chase waterfalls. They need to take action and actually go and meet people. Sitting around waiting all day and tapping their foreheads isn’t producing what they want. Common sense.
The proof is in the pudding so forget what I even say, just look at the evidence. This is what happens when people put too much trust in and worship their church leadership as well as “favorable” parishioners. It gets them nowhere.
I like Steve’s hand’s confidence
Some are ready for marriage, some are not. Just live life and love will come, whether it's in this life or the next.
Love this short video! Thank you so very much for making this, sister and brother! I think that is helpful… As someone who is married now, but has been married twice before and made a mess of my life! Of course I didn’t join the church until in between the second and third marriage…
Well done as someone who didn't get married till I was 54. BTW, the weird hand puppet bit was used to perfection in an old movie, complete with a face. I think it was called Moon Over Parador.
THANK YOU MY SISTER & BROTHER!! AMEN AMEN AMEN
This is so true I am very single and happy with it
Also don’t ask them if they are over 31
..."let's talk about it in the hall!"
Hahaha!!
Didnt get married until 28 and got all these questions and judgements. Never offended me though. Evidently those people need to work on themselves just as much as I do haha
I hate when married people try to make me feel better by saying "you can go on trips" I'm like no I live with an overly protective mom who would have a heart attack if I went out of the country.
I'm a single person and here are some things I wish people would tell me:
1) "I'm sorry that your desire for marriage was crushed by the church by saying how it would hinder your relationship with God and by giving you anti-romantic books to read like "How I Kissed Dating Goodbye," and The Dating Manifesto."
2) "Don't listen to people who try to discourage you from marriage when they say how your future husband will abuse you because of your disability. Nobody deserves to be abused-even if the person has a good reason to be angry at his/her spouse."
3) "Don't listen to people who scoff at you for wanting someone to chaperone you while on your first date. It's part of being safe, and the goal is to see if the guy is someone who you'd like to marry, not someone who you'd like to arrange your death. "
4) "Only you can decide who you want to marry; not your sister, not your parents, not your brother, nobody else; only you."
These two are definitely gonna hook up. 😂😂
HAHA. Thought the same.
The hand puppet was super weird. Maybe don't do that on your dates anymore.
This was great
I love it!very useful
Great video 👍
Not only at church, but nowhere!
Well said!
I stopped going to church
Im tired of it
You don’t wanna talk to any men because their wives don’t like it and it’s just awkward all around
Single people are perceived as people who don’t have it all together
I just stopped going
Not one phonecall
Yeah LDS women are just as delusional as non LDS ones. A 35+ single mom with 2-3 kids wanting the hot guy that makes $100k+ . Not realizing that every other woman wants the same thing, so he’ll never pick the one with kids. Instead they should looking for just a good character person. I gave up. It’s pointless
Why do you stop going to church
I'm Single too but I can't stop going to church
@@georgemolhiot8019 I’m the only single person in my church…… this weekend they have Valentine’s Day supper for all the couples
Sick of feeling those things
But you don’t have to okay
Its a young Kiefer Sutherland!
Okay you two look great together.........You should get married🤣
Lol are you Married?
Get let to know on WhatsApp
I’m George Molhiot From CA
Is that Pirate Hymn guy?!?
Hello honey how are you doing
Uh..thats a horrible way to pressure people.. from the beginning..
Sorry, sounds borderline “woke” to me. It is the objective of 99.9% of LDS Single Adults to get married. If one is not married then they are still figuring out how to best succeed in the objective.
I my Opinion being is awesome If you don't want to Married in this life or the next Life. that ok too that's my goal in my.
This reminds me of Bishop foulger. I am ready to be his wife. I want a live in relationship now if it's not marriage yet.
I think this dude got a thing for her.
Also this man looks like he could be David Spade's brother lol I love David Spade lol
Soo True
they look cute together. maybe they should get married! lol!!
Horribly distracting music..
That dude just cockblocked himself with the hand-puppet.
“I’m happy with where I’m at” says every single guy in the church past their 30s. Then they wonder why they’re single. 🤣
Conversely every single woman wanting the hot chad that makes $100k+ and 6foot or taller and wonders why she’s still single when that’s 8% of all guys