A coffee date is perfect low-pressure way for gauging basic compatibility and learning if you want to continue getting to know each other. This video is proof that the woman doesn't care about the man, but what he can provide for her. Women are only looking for a lifestyle upgrade.
You said you're very strict. So that means the man probably won't get a second date no matter how nice the restaurant is. You'll have a whole line of men willing to take you to dinner 5 nights a week and you'll probably still want to keep your options open. These men are throwing money away. You people all say the same social media talk. The table, the table, the table. Most of you aren't bringing anything to this invisible table that's worth a dam. Of course any man can buy a woman dinner but this mentality is undeserving of it. Everybody wants to be a dating coach and some people are dumb enough to listen.
Even objectively speaking I do not see how this helps women. If anything this is advice not to follow. And I know what I'm talking about 'cause I've been a man my whole life, which means I know what men find attractive in women, and you didn't mention one single thing that men view as attractive. And that is far more alarming than you might realize. After all, a middle-aged woman such as yourself should know better. Respectfully!❤
Rarely do I hear a female relationship coach say anything to help women that men would actually want. This is mainly a “single” female coach saying women should do more things to keep them from finding a companion.
a man showing up dressed improperly is not okay that is true but i want to share my thoughts on the rest of what you said. 2:51 so first date is about making YOU feel good, your focus is on whether or not the man is fulfilling the fantasy version of "the date" that you have created for yourself. when in reality your focus should be on getting to know the person enough so that you can decide if you want to go on a second date. The reason why men might pick coffee date as a first, it is short and to the point which allows any of the party involved to leave if they do not want to be there any longer, especially if you're a women and you dont want to make obvious that you want to leave because most women would be hesitant to tell a man they barely know that they want to leave. The reason being they might not feel safe. Most men focus on making sure the women feels safe and has the opportunity to leave if they want to. There is also the fact that going to a dinner with someone you're getting to know is not worth it for men, you clearly have not thought how men are feel. after a man shows his best self and takes you out on a dinner, spend his time and money, just for you to tell him that you do not want to go on a second date or even worse, ghosting him. This happens to men quite often, the reason being, women tend to go on a date with a man even if they dont want to be in relationship with him they think like "i dont really wanna date this guy but ill just on this one date and see what happens" and if you think women like this dont exist then you're just naive. So there is no other way for a man to filter out such women. A dinner date should be something that should be shared with someone that deserves it and not given away freely to every women out there for a "first date". A dinner date should be third or fourth at best. First few dates should be something simple and short, just so that you can get to know the person. stop living in a fantasy world, life isnt a movie. also, every man will dress up properly for a nice dinner and then you wont be able to filter out the ones that dress improperly for a coffee date which will happen on 5th or 6th in your case resulting in you stop seeing that person feeling like you wasted your time. so instead look for the one that dresses properly even for a coffee date being as a first date, you are welcome. giving advice on how to catch fish when you havent caught any is crazy though but you go girl
You know what? That's fine. Just know that you're not looking for love, you're looking for a lifestyle. The way you are sounding is the exact equivalent to the guys who say I'm not paying for her dinner if she's not going to sleep with me, and that's also fine, love is dead and to each their own 🙂
Hey Christina, I think it takes a lot of bravery to share your view on the subject of where should the first date be. It also seems that you have put a lot of thought behind your dating strategy, I hope you will find what you are looking for. I would like to share my point of view - If a man is serious about a woman they are about to date , he tend to invite a woman to the place where they (men) feel at ease. If a man wants to impress a woman, he will take them to the place where woman will feel impressed. In light of this thought, I want to ask you here - aren't you putting to much pressure on your dating life by having a very high standard regarding the "place" rather than just focusing on how you feel around the person you are on the date with ? Cause look, on one hand you are disappointed about being invited for a coffee - but that could be a place where men could feel a ease and therefore communicate better, its also easier to extend the date when its going good and cut it short when it doesn't, without both parties being too invested. On another hand, if guy invites you to flashy restaurant, because he knows you will be impressed - he needs to probably wear stuff he doesn't wear every day, watch his manners at all times and then you also expect him to communicate very well, when we can typically focus on doing one thing at the time - if we are to do that thing well. Just know, that men arent just like dying to impress the woman these days, and there is a lot of low hanging fruit out there tasting equally good as you , or even riper - lets be real. Anyway, I would be happy to take you out for a coffee date to change your mind ... cause you are single right ? ;)
this has to be bait, why not have a coffee date ? it's low investment from both parties, why commit to a 1 - 2 hour diner if you don´t even know if you can stand the other person
Please invest in a clip-on microphone. There is way too much reverb to clearly understand what you are saying. This makes it difficult to listen to you.
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The entitlement of these women is narcissisticly wild. Why invest in someone you don't know, ridiculous.
A coffee date is perfect low-pressure way for gauging basic compatibility and learning if you want to continue getting to know each other.
This video is proof that the woman doesn't care about the man, but what he can provide for her. Women are only looking for a lifestyle upgrade.
lol you don’t want coffee? That’s fine the next girl would love to go with me.
Enjoy your cats lady
Real men don’t care about your “strict rule” anymore ladies … enjoy your cats 🐱
What a joke. You'll get nothing with that attitude.
You said you're very strict. So that means the man probably won't get a second date no matter how nice the restaurant is. You'll have a whole line of men willing to take you to dinner 5 nights a week and you'll probably still want to keep your options open. These men are throwing money away. You people all say the same social media talk. The table, the table, the table. Most of you aren't bringing anything to this invisible table that's worth a dam. Of course any man can buy a woman dinner but this mentality is undeserving of it. Everybody wants to be a dating coach and some people are dumb enough to listen.
The blind leading the blind here. Helping to keep other women single.
Even objectively speaking I do not see how this helps women. If anything this is advice not to follow. And I know what I'm talking about 'cause I've been a man my whole life, which means I know what men find attractive in women, and you didn't mention one single thing that men view as attractive. And that is far more alarming than you might realize. After all, a middle-aged woman such as yourself should know better. Respectfully!❤
Rarely do I hear a female relationship coach say anything to help women that men would actually want. This is mainly a “single” female coach saying women should do more things to keep them from finding a companion.
Society has forgotten what hard work was ment for
a man showing up dressed improperly is not okay that is true but i want to share my thoughts on the rest of what you said.
2:51 so first date is about making YOU feel good, your focus is on whether or not the man is fulfilling the fantasy version of "the date" that you have created for yourself. when in reality your focus should be on getting to know the person enough so that you can decide if you want to go on a second date. The reason why men might pick coffee date as a first, it is short and to the point which allows any of the party involved to leave if they do not want to be there any longer, especially if you're a women and you dont want to make obvious that you want to leave because most women would be hesitant to tell a man they barely know that they want to leave. The reason being they might not feel safe. Most men focus on making sure the women feels safe and has the opportunity to leave if they want to. There is also the fact that going to a dinner with someone you're getting to know is not worth it for men, you clearly have not thought how men are feel. after a man shows his best self and takes you out on a dinner, spend his time and money, just for you to tell him that you do not want to go on a second date or even worse, ghosting him. This happens to men quite often, the reason being, women tend to go on a date with a man even if they dont want to be in relationship with him they think like "i dont really wanna date this guy but ill just on this one date and see what happens" and if you think women like this dont exist then you're just naive. So there is no other way for a man to filter out such women. A dinner date should be something that should be shared with someone that deserves it and not given away freely to every women out there for a "first date". A dinner date should be third or fourth at best. First few dates should be something simple and short, just so that you can get to know the person. stop living in a fantasy world, life isnt a movie. also, every man will dress up properly for a nice dinner and then you wont be able to filter out the ones that dress improperly for a coffee date which will happen on 5th or 6th in your case resulting in you stop seeing that person feeling like you wasted your time. so instead look for the one that dresses properly even for a coffee date being as a first date, you are welcome. giving advice on how to catch fish when you havent caught any is crazy though but you go girl
You know what? That's fine. Just know that you're not looking for love, you're looking for a lifestyle. The way you are sounding is the exact equivalent to the guys who say I'm not paying for her dinner if she's not going to sleep with me, and that's also fine, love is dead and to each their own 🙂
Be the one you want to meet, good luck.
Hey Christina, I think it takes a lot of bravery to share your view on the subject of where should the first date be. It also seems that you have put a lot of thought behind your dating strategy, I hope you will find what you are looking for.
I would like to share my point of view - If a man is serious about a woman they are about to date , he tend to invite a woman to the place where they (men) feel at ease. If a man wants to impress a woman, he will take them to the place where woman will feel impressed.
In light of this thought, I want to ask you here - aren't you putting to much pressure on your dating life by having a very high standard regarding the "place" rather than just focusing on how you feel around the person you are on the date with ?
Cause look, on one hand you are disappointed about being invited for a coffee - but that could be a place where men could feel a ease and therefore communicate better, its also easier to extend the date when its going good and cut it short when it doesn't, without both parties being too invested. On another hand, if guy invites you to flashy restaurant, because he knows you will be impressed - he needs to probably wear stuff he doesn't wear every day, watch his manners at all times and then you also expect him to communicate very well, when we can typically focus on doing one thing at the time - if we are to do that thing well.
Just know, that men arent just like dying to impress the woman these days, and there is a lot of low hanging fruit out there tasting equally good as you , or even riper - lets be real. Anyway, I would be happy to take you out for a coffee date to change your mind ... cause you are single right ? ;)
this has to be bait, why not have a coffee date ? it's low investment from both parties, why commit to a 1 - 2 hour diner if you don´t even know if you can stand the other person
First youtube video: no useless microphones please
Invest in chewy guys.
Please invest in a clip-on microphone. There is way too much reverb to clearly understand what you are saying. This makes it difficult to listen to you.
Wh*re is your lifestyle 😂
Not asking you out 😛
Please fix your audio, it is terrible.