EP 1 Khanyi Ngobese on being raised by her father after their mother abandoned them at the tuck shop

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  • Опубликовано: 27 дек 2024

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  • @mphohappiness1736
    @mphohappiness1736 Год назад +24

    Shuuu...Your father was a great man. We can't relate but it's so healing to hear how great dad's can be.

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  Год назад +4

      Great fathers do exist, they are just unpopular 🥺❤️

  • @sisiphokazimbewu9575
    @sisiphokazimbewu9575 11 месяцев назад +19

    A father's love is everything I know ❤ bona ndithi it's the best thing ever 🥰.My brother is 38, I'm 33, my Lil Sis is 25 . Our dad still tells us about how much he loves us and kisses us before he goes to sleep and come to our rooms to great us every morning . The first people he asks for when he enters his house is his wife (our mother) and us and thats the kind of love I would want my kids to experience one day. Its such a beautiful feeling not to mention a mothers love ke yhooo ❤ andfun nothetha. There's no favorite child we know of, if they have they have them at heart but they never showed or made us feel that ones is loved more than the other and I will forever be grateful for that.
    I wish you all the best sthandwa sam and I hope that you will. You had the best dad ever ❤.

    • @NCarterMed
      @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад +1

      YOU WILL EXPERIENCE THAT KIND OF LOVE BECAUSE YOUR FATHER HAS GIVEN YOU THE TOOLS TO PICK A PARTNER WHO WILL CONTINUE IN YOUR LIFE WHAT HE DID! I SPEAK IT AND DECLARE IT OVER YOUR LIFE. I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO YOUR TESTIMONY❤❤❤❤.
      MY FATHER IS EXACTLY WHAT YOUR DAD IS TO YOU. MY HUSBAND IS THAT MAN TO OUR CHILDREN. All our children, adults and teens, still stay with us, AND ARE NOT LEAVING UNTIL THEY ARE MARRIED!!

    • @sisiphokazimbewu9575
      @sisiphokazimbewu9575 9 месяцев назад

      🥰🥰I think I can already see see that with the 2 guys I've dated before. Thank you so so much. This really means alot to me. Will come back one day when I get married hopefully. ❤️🌹🙏♥️🥰😭👰

  • @nenesibanda4171
    @nenesibanda4171 Год назад +13

    I love how this podcast brings ordinary people but with extraordinary stories which many can relate too.

  • @NCarterMed
    @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад +4

    Khanyi's dad was consistent!! One of the most important factors in child development. It develops safe attachment in children. That man is a hero!! MHSCTRIEP!! ❤❤❤❤

  • @Chidzy.M
    @Chidzy.M Год назад +18

    I remember in one of your LIVES we touched on men who are best as fathers and horrible as husband's... I think Khanyi's dad was one of those because she mentioned that she then understood why she left(the abuse and stuff)
    Her Mom never got a break her whole life(terrible childhood) and also, she tried to rectify the choices she made to eliminate the pain by escaping the marriage but that sacrificed her kids well-being so bad. Instead of working on herself and the well-being of her kids, she kept on adding more and more budden to her mental health which resulted in her being too toxic to everyone around her. I think for the most part of her life she was very confused.
    Khanyi's dad was a hero. She's very fortunate to have experienced that kind of love from a parent in this lifetime🥺.
    We definitely want Khanyi back😩. I can see this was helping her healing journey❤️
    May her parents souls rest in peace🙌🏽

    • @kefilwem8284
      @kefilwem8284 10 месяцев назад

      True!

    • @NCarterMed
      @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks for such an articulate, well thought of, response. You sound mature and so connected with your being! You thought really deep about this situation, and if this is how you approach most situations you come across, I want to believe that you exist in love and not fear, you are content, and navigate life with maturity. BE BLESSED. SENDING YOU LOVE AND LIGHT. NAMASTE!!!!🙏🙏🙏

  • @NezieRangile
    @NezieRangile 7 месяцев назад +1

    Your story is exactly mine Khanyi. The age your u were and how he left and age your mom came back is exactly the same . And your father is exactly my father, our father loved me and my brother till his last breath and I’d still choose him to be our dad every day. Sometimes I wish he was alive to see us and so we can appreciate him to raise us ❤

  • @langutamacheke2412
    @langutamacheke2412 Год назад +4

    Step parenting is not easy. It reminds me of my dad, he once said: how are you going to reprimand a child that is not yours? Stories like these reminds me of his words...

  • @nthabee
    @nthabee Год назад +9

    Madam Speaker are you okay? Eeei! Listening to all this stories, I can't imagine how is it for you... Healing and strength to Khanyi...

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  Год назад +10

      Thank you sis ❤️❤️. At this point I attend therapy just to offload all this that I absorb

    • @NCarterMed
      @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@madams___speakerGood! You do need to debrief with someone! It can burn you out sis! Your work is helping a lot of us to
      1. Recognise that we are wounded
      2. That we can heal and have fulfilled lives
      3. That unhealed wounds have a ripple effect on future generations
      4. That there are still some parts of us that STILL need healing
      5. That TRAUMA IS REAL.
      THANK YOU MY SIS...LOVE FROM 🦘🦘🐨🐨

  • @MelodyMoyo-b7r
    @MelodyMoyo-b7r 11 месяцев назад +3

    I was abandoned by my mom when I was 11yrs old raised by my grandmother ,I got married when I was 27yrs old... 2months after I gt married my husband gt arrested left me with my 1yr kid .nami 1 day I will tell the world my story.
    Thank u cc fr sharing yo story❤

    • @NCarterMed
      @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your story. I bet you are already making an impact in other people's lives through your story, even though you are not on our screens. Those around you, already see your resilience, your strength, your courage and the wisdom in which you navigate your pain. Keep walking your journey sis. God loves you. You are an overcomer!!!Victory is yours!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ from across the oceans.

  • @boitumeloratsatsi9599
    @boitumeloratsatsi9599 Год назад +1

    Worked at the same company with Khanyi, hearing her really broke my heart. She was always so sweet❤

  • @teetsambo7933
    @teetsambo7933 Год назад +3

    So much challenges we grow up with and our parents had a tough time looking back. Healing is so painful but necessary so we can be better for our kids. Your relationship with your dad was special. God give us grace and strength to heal and live positively for our kids❤

    • @NCarterMed
      @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад

      Many of us are hurt and broken because we were born to emotionally immature parents. Some did the best that they could because they didn't know much, but some chose to NOT do anything to be better parents. I agree with you that we must heal so that we can do better for the next generations. ❤❤❤

  • @nkhiphithenicathrine4981
    @nkhiphithenicathrine4981 5 месяцев назад +1

    I can relate, I am struggling to deal with the anger in me, and I feel like I am walking around with the spirit of rejection, for which it is very difficult

  • @langabi408
    @langabi408 Год назад +4

    Oh Khanyi sisi, may you find healing. This is heartbreaking.

  • @lulama_kay2705
    @lulama_kay2705 Год назад +7

    You are soo good at this. Khanyi narrate
    s her story so well.

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  Год назад +1

      Thank you so much. She really painted a clear picture 🙌🙏🏿

  • @pfanolusunzi4331
    @pfanolusunzi4331 Год назад +1

    This is beautiful. I felt every word she said … I constantly ask myself why our parents even though we adults they keep on trying to protect us from the truths… sometimes the truth is the only thing we need to heal and move on.
    This episode made me realise I have a lot of healing to do , I need to initiate this kind of uncomfortable topics.
    ❤️❤️this kind of content is needed. I wish u well mama

  • @mantelekhitsane8935
    @mantelekhitsane8935 11 месяцев назад +2

    I relate very well with Khanyi's story 😢mine is even worse cz she still alive but we have no relationship with her at all 💔🙏

    • @Marthashiningstar
      @Marthashiningstar 11 месяцев назад

      Why is that happening,what went wrong

    • @NCarterMed
      @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад +1

      That is the worst!! When they are alive, it's difficult to move on because you always have hope that some day things will change for the better. The more you hope, the more you feel the pain, because it feels like nothing is happening.
      Please find a book called "Children of Emmotionally Immature Parents". ❤❤❤

    • @dorahmokete218
      @dorahmokete218 8 месяцев назад

      I can relate 😢

  • @nomsatorcida9612
    @nomsatorcida9612 Год назад +3

    Wow sis you're very lucky to have had your father. He was one in a million❤❤❤❤

  • @smallgirlBigGod-b8u
    @smallgirlBigGod-b8u Год назад +3

    What a sad story...please do come for part 2 Sis Khanyi

  • @MattersOfGod
    @MattersOfGod Год назад +3

    You were born for this Madam❤😍

  • @Metsiabotshelo
    @Metsiabotshelo Год назад +5

    I just wonder if my dad ever thinks of me hey... This made me think about him a lot.

    • @lu_DaughterOfAKing
      @lu_DaughterOfAKing 5 месяцев назад

      Askies nana. I'm sure he does but he probably has no tools to be a decent dad to you. Lean on God or father in heaven who never abandons us.

  • @conversationswithzandymfek2720
    @conversationswithzandymfek2720 10 месяцев назад +1

    This music was "OK" back in the day when the channel was jst a seat down channel with no interviewers. Now that you interact with the guest pls remove it. Lebo you r amazing sisi talk of a true definition of a gamechaanger ❤❤❤

  • @CynthiaTshuma-c4l
    @CynthiaTshuma-c4l 10 месяцев назад +1

    Khanyi may lord heal Yu my sister eshh sad story

  • @hermanmorerwa7141
    @hermanmorerwa7141 Месяц назад

    Madam speaker I have scrolled and even used the search button but cannot find the part 2 is it there or khanyi doesn't wanna come back..her story touched me 😭

  • @bridgetmothomoholo4514
    @bridgetmothomoholo4514 11 месяцев назад +1

    Madam speaker I love you sisi❤

  • @sibusisoxego9346
    @sibusisoxego9346 Год назад

    This broke my heart😭😭😭😭😭

  • @RumbidzaiMhishi
    @RumbidzaiMhishi 10 месяцев назад +1

    Her story is just like mine. My Mom left me when I was 1 year 2 months. I suffered a lot. I was forced to became an adult at an early age.I didn't know her relatives I didn't know my dad. Somehow my dad's family located me and life was better after that. She later came back 2016 when I was 19 years and disappeared again. She later started communicating with me but she has never been there for me. It's like she's not there.I just wish one day she'll call me to stay let's talk I just want to know what happened and I want her to tell me I love you my daughter

    • @NCarterMed
      @NCarterMed 10 месяцев назад

      I really empathise with you. It is okay to desire a conversation and for her to take accountability for her decisions. However, please open yourself to the possibility that, you may never get any of that! You are dealing with an emotionally immature person, who is most likely doing what she learnt from her own mother. My desire and hope for you is that, a part of you will never be held back, waiting for that woman to fulfill your desires! Keep living life. Go into therapy if you can, so that your young self can heal and make peace with what happened. I wish you well on your journey of healing. If I could connect with you I would. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @TshogofatsoGraceMasina
    @TshogofatsoGraceMasina 8 месяцев назад +1

    I have like that 😢😢I know the pain. We are not on speaking terms

  • @_hangwi
    @_hangwi Год назад +4

    Eish , this right here is sad 😢

  • @mokopotsamariam267
    @mokopotsamariam267 Год назад +7

    One day when I am ready I will share my story to the world 😢😢😢😢

  • @wpp1586
    @wpp1586 10 месяцев назад +1

    Our father never tell us the truth, I was raised by my dad, of they were not mentally capable they should say. I love my father but the truth still bothers me, again yoi have bad moms.....ours rested so I hope God made her my angel.

  • @vuyokazisiyokoradebe9237
    @vuyokazisiyokoradebe9237 6 месяцев назад

    Awu Khanyi 😭😭💔

  • @IvySibanyoni-jr2sg
    @IvySibanyoni-jr2sg Год назад

    What a sad story 😢

  • @mphozi-grace9507
    @mphozi-grace9507 11 месяцев назад

    Ohh this is my story 😢😢😢

  • @vivymapota9322
    @vivymapota9322 Год назад

    Oh my God Khanyi, im so sorry ❤

  • @veronicamakhafula6389
    @veronicamakhafula6389 11 месяцев назад

    So sad😢

  • @GiftSikhweni-lz6np
    @GiftSikhweni-lz6np Год назад +1

    This is so sad😢

  • @Fi_loe
    @Fi_loe Год назад +1

    Love 2 u Kanyi❤

  • @bridgetmothomoholo4514
    @bridgetmothomoholo4514 11 месяцев назад +2

    What happened to her dad?😢 I wish she could come back

    • @madams___speaker
      @madams___speaker  11 месяцев назад +1

      He passed away. We will definitely do a part 2 ❤️

  • @swazimulabelesi1679
    @swazimulabelesi1679 7 месяцев назад

    😭😭😭

  • @winnietirhane
    @winnietirhane Год назад

    😢

  • @JohannesRadebe-yh4pq
    @JohannesRadebe-yh4pq 7 месяцев назад

    Lighting guy's Lighting no no

  • @neegee3755
    @neegee3755 Год назад +1

    💔💔💔